Agree with the remedy totally (for those who can). But biological /evolutionary emotions are both real & powerful to combat. It really is complicated, as the prevalence of victims indicates
@Pamanudavy-qz1vx I wouldn't get seriously involved with any woman who is a massage therapist. She can work in a legitimate massage business that doesn't do happy endings, but I still will avoid that woman, because her job requires her to touch men's body sensually. However, you are right, the gentleman missed a lot of red flags.
@Pamanudavy-qz1vx There's an exception for every rule, I'm sure you can find good Thai girls who are message therapist. However, generally speaking, it's not a risk worth taking. I haven't heard of many successful stories of men setting off into the sunset with massage therapists and living happily ever after. It's usually crash and burn. But I agree with you on middle-class Thai women. Thai women who are middle and upper class don't usually go for foreigners. They prefer Thai men on and above their economic level. Unfortunately, this leaves the low-quality Thai women, which a lot of foreigners end up with. Now don't get me wrong, as a farang, you can still get a decent Thai lady with a good job and good morals, but such Thai lady is hard to find and you will have to take your time through vetting and getting to know her properly.
Well read .. I think the other comments on here were harsh for no reason. The repetition is not repetition it’s actually summarising of the content, maybe the actual repetition is actually how often this happens to men today ! I look forward to hearing more off your channel .. take care !
Your comment nails it! Repetition can really drag a story down, especially in a travel documentary. It’s all about keeping the audience engaged with fresh and compelling details, not just stretching out the content. Quality over quantity every time!
A friend of mine has a nightmare marriage with a woman from Sri Lanka. Since years everybody keeps telling him to leave her but he seemed to be like in a cult. No abuse, even physical, seems to be enough to drop her. We all finally gave up on him.
It's not just Thai women but African woman and I guess maybe other places too. It's so easy to be manipulated when you're in love. I'd urge men to take things slowly. If someone loves you they won't be constantly wanting money. Always follow gut instinct. Be patient and wait for a good partner. A bad rel destroys you emotionally and your trust in people.
Can’t even be mad at her. She is who she is. Just have know when to say when. When you marry base on looks the slightest affection shown will make people go dumb.
In the end of the day people can address it like they want. The whole Pattaya thing is the same like going to a giant brothel. You pay for a service and not for love.
i was in a similar situation , lucky my was five years, the worst part was, after everything you have done for them , they don't see and feel , their heart is very cold , money always come first before you . there is no love , money is the only love they have. not you , not anyone else .
"they don't see and feel" ... dude what do you expect? They spend their whole lives, from the moment they open their eyes for the very first time, living in literally shit. They're like animals in the wild constantly searching for food, not knowing where their next meal is coming from. There ain't no love with an empty stomach man. It's a proven fact, lack of food has driven people to insanity in the past. Their concept of loving a man for who he is, it's like me trying to wrap my head around metaphysics. Think about it. You think they were brought up like you and me?
It's not complicated at all. She had learned from a very early age that making someone "feel" loved was her side of the transaction and being paid well was the other party's side of the transaction. It's ingrained in their culture. Imagine how frustrated she was when it became so much harder to make the same person "feel" loved. She was expected to do a lot more than that as a wife. Just go out shopping for a car and see how many salesmen will make you "feel" special. This is the nature of transactional relationships and it really isn't sustainable indefinitely and in fact inevitable that attention will gradually shift to the "new" customer.
It’s such a common story here in Thailand it’s become cliche. In the twenty years I’ve lived here, I’ve heard a hundred of these stories. And 99% of the time it’s working-class blokes. Yet to see it happen to educated professionals - unless they’re slumming. 🤷♂️
As an English teacher making 30-35k baht a month. Sounds like no Thai woman would marry me. lol. Imagine blowing most of your monthly salary just for some clothes.
That video title is truly intriguing and captivating, pulling viewers into a story they won’t want to miss. But here's a tough question to ponder: How could a simple Thai massage lead to a decade-long nightmare, and what does this unexpected twist reveal about the darker side of cross-cultural relationships?
Most of us going to the Philippines and Thailand to live and find relationships, are far too old to invest extensive time in a woman that’s playing games. We no longer have 2-3 year blocks of time to be wasting with a broken relationship. The very moment we detect betrayal, or even just a lack of sincere interest in us, we have to break up with them. Yes it’s going to hurt, but luckily, if we’ve already relocated to Thailand or the Philippines, we can go right back out and find her replacement. That is the ultimate benefit for living overseas when it comes to women and dating. The ease of being able to replace a girl that is not following my program is the chief reason why I want to move overseas.
I must have found a good Thai woman then as we have been talking for 4 months and she has spent more and sent me more gifts in post from thailand than I have for her. In fact if i send her a gift more than what she paid for mine she gets annoyed with me for the day. I really thought she was upset that i didnt send enough but to my confusion she was upset that i sent too much, But the difference between our gifts was like 20 dollars.
Your a fool and getting played. She is setting you up for a “big payday” she is a scammer Real Thailand women are conservative and are very difficult to meet
Always assume if there is a red flag early in a relationship assume there is a possibility of more to come. If anyone is serious about a long distance relationship. Hire an investigator just to make sure before marriage or serious commitment. A couple thousand will save you years of anguish and tens of hundreds of thousands.
I haven't heard of a passport bro story that ended well. But here in the state over 50% of marriage fail. Those we stay together are not necessary happily married. When the cost would weight the benefit you have to reevaluate your position. Life is to short.
What day was the raid? They do them at night? I’m here and been out every night to WS and I never saw any police or anything. Actually Thursday I don’t think I went out
The poor guy was in a classic relationship with a woman who has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). I was in one as well for 7 years and my exe's behavior was exactly the same as Fang's.
Ooof. I mean, she wasn't cheating - she likely had multiple other flat out relationships. At least he didn't have kids yet. I'm sure if she suggested having them he STILL would've gone for it. No judgments though. Love makes you see what you want to see.
If he had a friend or a family member that he confided to, they would have advised him to run, but apparently he didn't. I can understand how being completely smitten by somebody could blind you and cloud your judgement for a while, but when she cheated on him the first time, it should have been game over, a should have been a wakeup call, whether she was remorseful or not. It's hard to have empathy for him. This is life, and when you're mentally weak, you get exploited. She's definitely evil, but he voluntarily committed to self ruin. I don't believe she forced him to do anything. I also kind of wonder if this is a made-up story (you practicing writing) or if you're talking about your own experience. If it was really a true story about a friend; then it must be a close friendship; how come he didn't tell you what was going on then, and why didn't you advise him to leave her?
To play with a man’s heart and money can be a deadly game in the end. This is what these women do not think about that yes he may return unannounced and this time not for love but for payback time
This is an amazing example of what will happen if you fall victim to the “Sunk Cost Fallacy.” Please, look it up if you want to understand shanties is.
Bro these sound mad up, but im sure every story has really happened to someone😅. Those women are the absolute worst in the world. Even if they aren't prostitutes. Trust me, i got a couple stories too😂
This can happen to all men anywhere in the world. All women are looking for a man to support them and pay their bills and other things. This is normal. If a man can't do this, he should enjoy his onenight stand and move on. Unfortunately, most men fall in love, which is normal and that is the problem. Most men are looking for true love, but that is not always the case with women. They will always look for men with lot's of money and wealth. The Thai women are just taking it to another level. The more men they can hook, the more money they can make. It's business as usual. A normal marriage to a woman is pretty much the same thing. You dedicate your life to one woman only, which is normal.
Idk if he was actually earning "the good bucks" spending like 10k wouldnt rly have mattered to him. At the end it says it drained his bank account so he couldnt have been that wealthy. Also why would that protect someone from this happening to them? Isnt it more about character?
Nonsense. I've met many Americans over here and they seem to follow the same general pattern. I can't speak for non-Western cultures, but it seems to afflict Farangs particularly. I have my suspicions why
that’s explain alot why you have to choose an educated person to have serious relationship with, other while you will end up like the man in this story!
I am from Malaysia. The only SEA country that i visit is Singapore. SEA is a crime region, drugs , gang cartel, sex, serious corruption, even police could be part of the crime. !! A sick region.!
Wow thats crazy! That is why they are poor because of their high expectations! Philippines is the same way though. Never been to Thailand but been to Philippines twice and I have seen it all! I think after paying that $750 first month I would be done with it. But even for many the first $900 that Fang "needed" would be a deal breaker. "Learning so much" - I would request to see the grades....
The problem wasn't she was working in a massage parlor. Problem is the dude. Duh. These stories are kind of endless. SE Asia seems a magnet for serious simps.
When in the Navy, my son married a pretty bar room floozie who did the same type things to him. He was a meal ticket to her. He loved her but she never loved him. This floozie was an American girl from Texas. It happens everywhere I guess, not only in those Asian countries.
Depending on the level of society that you go to,not just Thailand.,also in your country. PLEASE do not come to Thailand for that purpose. Your country has also.
Some stupid comments. This has nothing to do with whether you are working class or have a so-called professional education. Don't throw a stone by giving the impression that the working class is stupid. I know stories of so-called scholars such as a banker who was completely financially stripped by a Thai, and with whom he still had children. . These situations can happen anywhere and to anyone, even to someone from your own culture. I also ask myself the question, if everything is so bad in Thailand, why do so many people travel there or try to live there. Just to fuck for sure and visit all the massage bars. A few years ago they arrested a foreign judge there. He was dealing with boys of 8-10 years old. So don't talk here about it only happening to the working class.
Total sucker...glad he learnt something from it...atleast lets hope he did..plenty stories like that unfortunately...imagine all the fun he could have had on heaps of holidays if he stuck to the 3 day rule or the hit it n quit it rule 😂
I just don’t get it why guys know it’s wrong getting involve with a Thai massage girl they are trained to take your money until They have enough to Retire
No, i don't know how it goes. He doesn't even think it's normal to help her grow. He voluntarily gave her money. It wasn't her fault. He did it to himself. He should have paid the ones she owed money to and not send her money. He wasn't even there for her He abandoned her. She wa ted to be with friends. He should have oaid for that. Their wad no relationship. She was distant from him because he ne er stayed with her. That is normal. He betrayed her.
But you must have heard stories before you went there have you no control just a pretty face their desperate its a business for them their laughing at you could you not see what was goi g on from the beginning you men need to wake up get your head together use your brain they just wa t your money end of story
@@judybichara3127 fun fact: *EVERY WOMAN* is I it for recourses (one way or another). In Asia them western simps are giving it by free choice, in western countries by divorce laws ...