My wife's view of me not drinking and quitting alcohol. I've been binge drinking for 36 years until I quit recently. Lifestyle. Daily Vlog. Here is a playlist to other videos on quitting alcohol • Quitting Alcohol
I think your reaction about 2 minutes in to what your wife was saying speaks volumes to how much you realise and appreciate the hardship alcohol has caused to your wifes worry for you over the years. Keep strong Gaz. You're doing well mate!
@@JAYG6390 That's very true but I will say we all hold deep worrys over each other alcahol or not like anti depressants n such do you no good in long run extremely hard too come off and just driving in a car for example is a dangerous thing and worrying about people's mindset n happiness we all got high concerns over other folks well being its not just one aspect but booze is a biggie but just general happiness is a main concern ...cheers
Fully respect and understand your wife's decision. It was brave of her to appear in the background discussing this. She sounds a lovely person and you're a lucky man. Keep it going.
I was married to a drinker, not an alcoholic but a heavy drinker. It killed my marriage and my Daughters upbringing How I didn't end up in a mental hospital is beyond me. I admire your Wife so much and I'm so relieved you've stopped. Very proud of you Gaz.
So good that you have such a lovely, understanding wife Gaz. I'm really glad that Mrs BFG no longer has the stress of living with a binge drinker. Also good to hear your children have not seen you drunk. My father was a violent, bullying, drunk and I was terrified of him. Even now at the age of 60 seeing drunk people really scares me. You are doing a great job Gaz and I am proud of you. x
What an insightful and intelligent lady. She really cares about you, it’s so obvious. So many women would be moaning and railing against you, but not she. All her comments were well thought out and fair but compassionate. After 25 years you must be proud of her common sense. She is definitely “a keeper!” We are all proud of you too, and the not always easy path you have chosen. My daughter watches your channel too, and calls you, “the handsome Prince”.
My younger brother is an Alcoholic, drugs too, he has been clean for 5 years, I'm so proud of him, he was given divorce papers from his wife which woke him up, he wet to AA meetings and is now a sponsor for other Alcoholics, i don't drink Infront of him out of respect, my older bother who was a banquet manager on the QE2 died from Alcohol.He even travelled to the Falklands on the QE2 to make sure the brave British Army got their food. I drink in moderation. Me and my Brothers are all chefs,,, this is why I love your RU-vid videos, take care ❤❤
"Mrs Foodie Guy" sounds absolutely lovely! You're a very lucky man to have such strong, compassionate support. I also think you're incredibly brave to do this so publically. Not thinking negatively, but if you do happen to lapse along the way, PLEASE don't consider it a "failure". I think you've said you've tried before. Everyone who gives up drinking will have been there. I worry you'll feel public pressure to be super human and you know what us blokes can be like. Always "Ego Lifting" in the gym, etc. THANK YOU both for your honesty and inspiration. 🤝💕
When I was in hospital for a month and ill for a month I saw what beer did to me I have never drank since my family are so proud of me I am more happy now
Well done Gaz...you are a lucky man...not only to have given up and realised what you were doing to yourself and your family, but to have had a wife who stuck with you despite your drinking habits...well done Gaz's wife!!
Hats off to you and your wife for talking so candidly about what affects so many couples...the way we used to drink is old fashioned and very ANDY CAPP AND FLO !! that lifestyle doesn't exist .....Bravo to you both ❤
Well done Aaron it gets easier if I can stop anyone can I'm coming up to 8 years now Tek one day at a time and don't look for excuses to start if you re start you ain't ready and try later it took me a few times good luck Tek care 👍🏴🦊
This was so touching🥺 … my dear ol grandad was in the Royal Navy, and this is where he learned the love of drink. I think it happens to a lot of men but well done you for being stronger than the drink🤗Your wife is brilliant and I am so proud you have someone so lovely there to hold you close and remind you that you’ve got this~ thank you for opening up and sharing such a personal part of your life. Sending you all the best Gaz ~Ali xx
It’s amazing how much you have achieved Gareth well done I’m almost two years since having to give up for health reasons don’t miss it at all I do hate the smell on someone’s breath after having alcohol my husband like your wife has been so supportive all the best to you both 😊
Hi Gaz well done mate great to see you have a supportive wife behind you I've mentioned before my wife passed away 6yrs ago I packed in the day of her funeral .watching this I wished I had done it a lot earlier . Keep up the good work
I think both you and your wife are doing so much to help others by producing these videos. So many people want to quit but will never seek help in their local town. They dont want to bump into someone they know from the past, old schoolfriend or workmate, someone that might look down on them when they are feeling vulnerable. What your doing is giving people a lifeline. They can watch in private or at home with loved ones. They can relate to your experiences because you were brave enough to stick your head above the parapet. Good luck to you both👍
You’re wife is amazing You have a true and strong relationship and you deal with life’s challenges together I see a positive future for you quitting the drink 🙏
Hiya Mr&Mrs Morgan, nice to put a voice to the mystic hands. Gareth, it takes strength to put yourself under the microscope, and listen to someone else's opinions of your addiction to booze. Especially when that person is the wife who has been there for years. Watching and worrying. My feelings, she also should be proud of herself as well as proud of you and your efforts to change Many couples have split up, and went their separate ways. You have stood together. Brilliant. Remember Ready Steady Go🤔? The weekend starts here 😊and it did. Friday night kick off. Then 48hrs of beer, mates, silly behaviour, greasy food hangovers. Back to work Mondays, saying " great weekend lads 😂😂 but you couldn't remember most of it. However, now look backwards and see the old days, then forward to a much better future. Gareth you're doing so well, and with the sound, caring, sensitive strong wife with you. Your gonna be fine. Keep the faith in yourself. My very best wishes Allan&Family
Gareth, I’m from a family of boozers.. my grandad lived to drink although he did hold down a job, my brother died 5 years ago of alcohol related illness he got the stage where whenever we went out with his kids it was pre planned to be near a pub… he drank from age 13 until he died at 72… my half brother still alive but again his whole existence revolves around opening time then nipping into Aldi for cans to take home, he’s also now on strong painkillers which he says help him sleep. I stopped going to pubs over 20 years ago after seeing what it was doing to my brother, I can take it or leave it, I’ll never be a drunk because I get too sick… It isn’t easy mate and drinking is a lifestyle choice which can be a hard habit to break. I’m on my own so nobody to look out for me but “you have” and your wife sounds sensible and dedicated so my advice would be treat it as a new phase in your life’s journey and embrace it, use that energy to help your kids progress, spend time with them doing silly stuff as believe me you’ll turn around one day and they’ll be gone, adults with dreams of their own so make every moment count while you have them!👍🏻🏴
Hello there , first of all let me say WELL DONE! On giving up alcohol …. I have been an alcoholic for over 25 years. I wish that I could do what you have accomplished…..MASSIVE RESPECT
Gaz, It was the day after your accident video when I first came across you. No idea why your video was on my suggested videos but I've been following you ever since. I'm not a drinker myself but my Mum was an alcoholic. She would drink anything from 8am till last thing at night. I saw the devastating effect growing up. Of course there was times she was better than others but the bad times stay with you. The falls she had, the stitches, the broken bones, the trips to the hospital not to mention the confidence and life purpose it takes from you. I know you have suffered but your wife and kids have probably suffered more. I could be here all night telling you what it's like from the other side of it. The side of what it was like to deal with an alcoholic first hand for 20 plus years. Your wife is obviously a credit to your family. I wish you all the best, you are smashing it and I'm really proud of you. You are facing your problem and showing real character. Keep going.
As a person who's just gone through a week long alcohol withdrawal. I can definitely say to you Gareth you're doing the right thing. Going into withdrawal is no fun, the sweating, the insomnia, the tactile, visual and auditory hallucinations interspersed with short lucid hellscape dreams are no fun. Every withdrawal gets worse and you're basically causing brain damage. I wish I'd never started drinking. You've got a lovely wife and kids that absolutely love you. You're absolutely doing the right thing to give up the drink. All the best.
its not easy , it has been 11 months for me now , I quit after my heart attack last october. lost my lovely mam in january this year and really wanted a drink, but thought no in case I had another. keep going , you can do it ,. good wishes to you x
@@rosiew1952 Thanks for the kind words. I'm sorry to hear about your heart attack and your mum. 11 months is a great milestone in your sober journey especially after what you've been through. I just hope I have the will and determination you've shown in your sobriety. You're definitely an inspiration for me to keep up my sobriety long term. Good luck in your journey.
Great video Gaz your wife’s lovely 😍 my kids dad died of alcohol 2 years ago my one son is alcoholic my daughter has been sober nearly 4 years I think seeing your parent drinking just makes it ok for the kids 🥵😍but AA saved my daughter I will always be thankful to them so well done Gaz I’m proud of you ❤❤❤❤
You're doing great Gaz. I lived with a drinker and before my lad came along, it was the norm for us to be out most nights socially, pool matches, over the dogs, darts...you get the picture. I was the "designated driver" and he was the "designated drunk". It wasn't so easy once there was a baby in the picture and I shouldered a lot more responsibility as i didn't feel he could. He never had any money and would "borrow" off me all the time as I would do extra work if I could pick it up. He went off with someone else before the lad was 6 years old and eventually left that person with a young one. I ended up with someone else who liked the sauce but it got too much for me and I was able to send him on his way. On my own now and much happier. Drink ruins more than just the drinker's life. Look after yourself and Mrs Gaz too ❤❤
Hi Gav, here’s a tip for you if you ever want a a nice drink that hits the spot if you get the thirst. I’m a recovering alcoholic and it dies the trick. Bottled carbonated water ice cold with a squirt of lemon juice in ice cold. It’s really good. Take care to you and family. Mark👍
You are lucky that you have an intelligent caring wife who understands you and excepts you for what you are, I hope you realise this in the fact that giving up the booze not only for yourself but also for your wife and children, well done Gaz keep it up and realise how good you have it.
My sister became a “functional alcoholic” in her 30’s. She died in the bath from an alcoholic seizure before she even hit 50. I had the responsibility of reading her autopsy report. Liver damage can be irreversible and deadly. Had she not have died in the bath they estimated she would have 5 years at best left IF she stopped drinking. Liver damage doesn’t always hurt until it’s too late. Proud of you mate 💪🏻
In some ways you are already at AA. You face your situation and admit to it. You share your story. The others (us subscribers) support you on your journey. We also learn from it and some share back in comments how it’s helping us. Some just sit at the back and say nothing, but thats ok too. This is your AA meeting. All you are missing is the coffee and tokens to mark the years sober. I think your vlog channel is great. Thanks keep it up.
Fair play Gaz. We've had similar pasts with the forces etc. It's a culture that you can't see at times. I'm really proud of you. Straight talk is what everyone needs mate x
Bless you both . As an ex Royal Navy i know how a drink comes into your way of life . I never used to over indulge but did get pie eyed a few times . Since my surgeries i am now off it altogether . Stay strong . An amazing couple .
I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I use alcohol as a coping mechanism ( and more so since I lost my mam 18 months ago) however- I understand that you can always find a reason to drink- its just finding that one one reason to give up. I rarely get drunk, but it's obviously a problem as i continue to do it. I'm soooo proud of you, Gaz, and you and your wife are obviously a match made in heaven. Sending love and strength to you all. Xxxxxxxxx
Lots of respect to you both - certainly living up to your vows ("through sickness and in health..."). Very glad that you have each other. Both of you are such warm, intelligent and humane people. Looking forward to your next video. God bless you both.
I can see how lucky you are Gaz, having such a wonderful Wife , you know you're a lucky Man having her and your Girls. Top marks to you for stopping the booze and realising the most important thing to you is your family wealth. We all love your videos and want you to carry on this way. Keep up the great work - very entertaining, thanks too to your Wife for letting us hear her and understand the strength she is behind - Gaz the bald foodie guy! 😂
That accident has probably been a godsend, not just to you but ur family and possibly thousands who are subbed to this new channel and can relate. On a lighter note, 50 quid a week saved.
Lovely to see / hear you both being open about your situation. Your wife sounds like a lovely person and very supportive. Keep doing what you are doing.
It was lovely hearing your wife talking about your sobriety, and how proud of you she is 😊 I hope that you're proud of yourself Gareth, you should be My husband drank through the 23 years that we were together, and only stopped because of the birth of our youngeat grandson. I'm afraid it was too late for our marriage, but we did stay friends thankfully.
Well done, fellah..... I'm currently going through stopping drinking. 3 weeks now. Had a 'one-to-one' with a Social care nurse today and it was very helpful. Think my background was similar to yours. 25 years military service and drinking was part of the lifestyle. Witnessed some terrible things and think I have PTSD although never been diagnosed. I have stopped before for 8 months during cancer treatment but started again after being given the all-clear. My concern is certain trigger points that come along in everyday life but I'm determined to stop for good now. Good luck mate.
I’m very touched by both of you. You Gareth, for your openness and honesty, the fact that you have shared this deeply personal journey ( which I’m sure is helping many) and the love of your super wife and family. Your wife for her understanding, patience, caring and being part of this with you. Hold you head up high Gareth and enjoy the renewed you. We are all rooting for you.😊
God bless your lovely lady wife, she’s been very understanding Hope you keeping it up for your self and your lovely family. It is a good thing you feel you were able to talk it out with her and most of all with us as well. I’m sure you have help and shown others.
Correct in one, the accident was the turning point, everything happens fir a reason! Your wife deserves a lot if credit for staying with it & been a,massive plus in your changing direction, onwards and upwards 🙌 👍 😊🎉
The long term benefits are those that most people don't understand because they have not got there. I am old enough that I have seen what it does to so many I grew up with. The mental decline in older age is savage as dementia sets in. This inevitably leads to an early death and a huge stress on those who care for them as they decline. Trust me - you have given yourself and your loved ones the best present you can . Well done.
That is wonderful to read Debra. I hope to see you posting on here that you made it to a year in a few weeks time. I do it just for today, it makes it easier for my head to comprehend. I always believed it was the 5th or 6th drink that caused me trouble, until I came to see it was always the first one that was the problem. Once started there was no stopping point,even though I promised to just have one. My life is truly a miracle & I have gratefully been granted over 4,000 of those todays .. Keep on walking your walk. Many blessings ..🙏
Gareth I think you were both brave and amazing to come on here and talk about your life. I’m sure you have both inspired a lot of people struggling with alcohol. Keep it up Gareth. Janice
Hiya Gareth and Mrs Gareth this is probably the best conversation ive heard for a very long time especially having your good lady interact and im sure gave you positive vibes to stay off the beer etc. I dont think your an alcoholic as you dont wake up and have a few glasses of what ever but being a heavy social drinker at weekend like i was once many years ago. Those Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings were the worse times for me gallons of lager followed by riding my motorcycle half pissed to the Chinese takeaway in Stony Stratford then riding back to me village hoping the Cops would not stop me as i was some nights well over the limit almost falling over and riding a bike was not the best thing to do. My wake up call was was back in 1980 aged 22 riding back home to Yardley Gobion Northants one night about midnight not quite as pissed as i usually was and as i came down the A508 i came across police blue lights and road closure about four hundred yards from my house it was the scene of a fatal collision where a lad that i knew from the village a few miles away at the time rolled his car on the bend and ended up on its roof. The police said i could not ride past and had to ride an extra 6 or 7 miles to come round the other way. I was sweating when the officer approached me to turn me round i had to keep calm and said i was on my way back from work. That Saturday/Sunday day aged 22 i gave up binge drinking and riding while under the influence. And 44 years later im still well behaved but with the odd half a Guinness now and again. I learnt more when i joined the Fire Brigade years later and attended RTC's which involved excess alcohol so that also bought back memories of that fateful night. Marc in Bletchley
You are so lucky having such a supportive and understanding wife to help you through quitting alcohol Gareth. Well done to you for quitting and being a better man for her and your girls xx
You're doing amazing and I think it's admirable the way you're documenting it and inspiring others. I'm now 80 days AF and it feels amazing. I've had one or 2 occasions where I've sort of thought 'is that it now, is this life?'. But it's like you say, it's accepting it's a lifestyle and a mentality. No way can I go back to old ways. Sooo self destructive, why on earth would I want that for myself again when I'm genuinely starting to feel happier. The amount of money I'm saving too is just 🙌 But yeah well done and your wife sounds lovely and supportive which is what you need on this journey 😊
I stopped drinking just after Christmas, nothing since, until last week. I had 3 nights in Tenerife and drank in moderation. I was home last Friday and nothing since, with no desire to. I felt guilty after drinking again, almost like I had let myself down. But happy I had proved I could drink again, then stop. The other thing was, not drinking payed for the short break away, so win, win.
❤️💛 Hi Gaz , we love you and we have Loved watching your videos for 3 years ✨ please, give AA a go ... even if it's just for 3 months, what have you got to lose ❓ it's NOW that you need help & support from others , who have similar experiences to yourself 💓 it breaks my heart to see you sitting alone in a car , doing a vlog, saying you're lost .... There are So Many people who depend on alcohol in some way , don't do it alone. Lots of Love, Lou
What do young people do these days? They have nowhere to go. They don’t drink because of the cost I guess but they take drugs in the way of cheap pills for £5 a time. It’s a tough world out there these days. Me and hub drink but we don’t go out now. We stay home and cook a nice meal. When we have to go out it’s a bit stressful because we know we’re going to get through £150. I don’t get drunk, I just have a few drinks, eat a nice home cooked meal, have a boogie and then go to bed, but this is a daily routine. Well done to you Gareth for making that change in your life. You are an inspiration. Take care. Tracey x
Such a great video......from seeing your poor battered face, to you showing the world you're now a united front with your lovely wife.....so well done ❤
Nice to hear from Mrs Gareth,good support from the missus is a must when facing a personal challenge. Plus I think you've got guts to air your problems publicly Gareth. Good luck in the future mate all the very best. 👍
I think this must have really been hard to do!, but it shows how close you are. The support you have from your lovely wife is amazing. You are a team and it works. Treasure every Day as a family . Life’s too short.❤️🙏🏼❤️
Nice one mate 👍👍 You chose to tell the world your issues, just like signing up with the army, your being Watched! Don't let RU-vid or your family be the reason for not drinking. Do it for yourself, that way you have the power and drinking won't seem like such a big thing. Look after you and then boom, wife and kids and yt will grow happily bro 👍
How ever you stop drinking it is better for you. For me following the 12 step program in AA and fellowshiping with others that struggle with alcohol has brought peace and strength to my life. I’m much better for it! Congrats mate and sounds like you have a lovely wife. She’s a keeper!
This shows just how strong your marriage is to your wonderful wife. She showed so much empathy & compassion. The love & support you have for each other will carry you on this journey to a much healthier lifestyle. Thank you both for sharing this very personal Q&A. Stand proud Gareth, you're amazing. I'm looking forward to seeing your video of the Lakeland museum. Take good care 👍
Your wife sounds lovely, and so amazingly supportive to you. I thought that was a really positive video, and great to hear from your wife's perspective about your relationship with alcohol over the years. I'm so glad for both of you that you have made the decision to stop drinking, it can only mean bigger and better things for you all as a family xx
Hi Gareth, and thank you for making this channel. I am just over 18 months sober, so I know what you are going through. To do this on Social Media with your wife is very brave and I doff my hat to you! I just wanted to address the AA question as it relates to me: I know that many have sworn by AA and credit them with their success in quitting, the organisation wouldn't have survived and thrived over the years if not, and I am not demeaning anyone who finds them a useful lifeline in their journey, indeed anything that helps people give up alcohol is to be applauded. The problem for me is the apportioning of blame. For me, the mere act of saying "I am Steven and I am an alcoholic" shifts the blame from the drug, the alcohol, onto the person. It becomes you that is at fault. You are the problem, you are sick, ill and weak, and you have succumbed to the demon drink. You need to be cleansed, fixed, repaired. Whereas I see the drug as the problem. This stupid little substance that is no use to anyone other than an industrial cleaner or a second grade fuel to petrol is the problem, not you or me. No, it is the alcohol that is to blame. The drug makes you depressed and makes you crave the next fix, that is why you get the blues and long for the next boozy session. The way I see it, the most important thing to learn are the reasons we get addicted to the drug, how it effects aspects of our life, our psychology and our physiology and how it turns normal, reasonable, rational people literally into idiots. That is done by education, so for me it is books, so called 'quit-lit' that are the answer. Read, read and read again, as much as possible and over and over again if necessary. And if you're not a reader, get them as audio books and listen to them. I am not a bad person or a sick person that needs curing, and neither are you or anyone else, we just need to understand in detail what the drug does and why, understand it, and stop putting it into our bodies.
She sounds like a very empathetic woman and she wouldn't still be there if she didn't love and cherish not only you but the whole family! You are a very lucky man to have this support system behind you... and to be able to talk openly and honestly with her. It's true what they say... 'behind every great man there is a great woman' and you certainly have! I have no doubt in my mind that you will succeed! 🤩
Thank you for the vlog. I especially appreciate your wife’s input. They take a lot emotionally. I lost 2 good marriages through my alcoholism/ addictions. Ironically for 20 years I worked in mental health. The last 3 years though cost me my job as the problem escalated too much. I’ve been sober a while now. Keep going Gav and my best wishes to your wife and family.🤗🙏
Well done to you too Mrs Gareth. I grew up in a family that were too drink oriented and know the anxiety and fear my mother went through, so I know how you feel. I'm one of the many that is proud of your husband. Love from Scotland.
Further to my previous comment, you’re dead right about it being a habit. I must admit that I look forward to 6pm when I can have a drink, but I also like the thought of cooking a nice meal for hub and me. When I go out with friends, like I am this lunchtime, I know I will be drinking more and because of that the stress element comes in. It’s a bit of a vicious circle. You are lucky to have a supporting wife. Partnership back up is very important in times of need. Tracey x
Great video! Your wife doesn't need a reason not to appear on camera, even if she didn't work for the NHS. It's not for everyone 😊 May I just say, your face lit up when she said she was proud of you about 5 and a half mins in. I'm happy for you all that this decision has had such a positive impact on you and your family's life. Long may it continue 👍🏽
Keep at it mate. I don't think you need AA either, at least not at the moment. The way you drew a line under it and have not waivered in over 100 days tells me you are determined to live without alcohol. Well done lad, well done. 😊
Top man. I'm sure you'll have your moments but you've now seen the benefits of not touching it. If it had just been invented I think they'd ban the stuff. It's ruined so many lives. Keep up the good work Gaz. You're family are so proud of you as are near five thousand followers.👍
Really good vlog, your mrs talks a lot of sense, your a lucky man, well done on still staying sober, there’s loads of temptations out there but like me you’ve got your head in the game and your determined to stay strong, and you’ll be saving a few quid, win win.
I'm finding "Getting Sober...Again" (with Jae) and Simon Chappelle, both on RU-vid, *VERY* helpful. Both are non judgemental and religion free, which works better for me. Realising I'm not "giving up" anything with alcohol has been a major revelation. It's manipulative and tricks our brains. I've spent more time sober than drunk this (and last year) and the sober times have been the better. It's taking time but worth the investment. Keep strong! 💪💪
Everything your wife said resonates with me as my wife says all the same things about me. Alcohol Greedy was the phrase and the pattern described of having the blues In the week and planning to drink again at the weekend is the rut I find myself in. I went to Bruges in March and going to Oktoberfest on Friday. I feel this is the right time to pack in as I will finish at a point when I have experienced all that beer brings.
Nice man. Yeah, I ruined the best thing in my life due to alcohol. Things seem to be slowly turning around, hopefully. But damn. I used to laugh at the jokes my friends would say about my drinking. But it’s not funny. Trying to climb up the cliff I fell off and hit rock bottom. I’m not gonna lie, it crushed me and I tear up a bit. I’m not gonna get into it, but… I would drink 8% beers from about 10 am to 8 pm or 9 - 6 to 8 24 oz cans. - everyday for the last 8 years. 2 days now without a beer. Thanks buddy, you’ve inspired me. You don’t know how much. Love ya.
