@@peterlong2580 oh blless your heart. That line of thinking is toxic. Using power tools isn't just for men. It doesn't make you a man. And a man not knowing how to use them doesn't make him any less of a man. He has always shown the positive sides of masculinity. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
My boyfriend’s work wife is a 35 year old man named Eric. His lock screen is even a couples photo of them because the rest of the boys insisted on a photoshoot while they were drunk. I’ve already got Eric to agree to walk down the aisle at my wedding before I do just to get my boyfriend‘s reaction
*I* cried when my husband's workwife of 15yrs retired. We still talk. She's amazing. His new duckling morphed to workwife is a young guy and they're going on five years. Lovely man. They're very happy. It's a lovely thing to have in a work environment and it's fun to hear about the goings on. It really is just another term for friend.
@@АлександраГришина-с5р I’m a bisexual man. It means I am attracted to both men and women. My fiancée is well aware of this, and so we look at cute guys together. I also happen to work with a really cute guy, we have a great rapport, talk, chat, gossip, almost like a married couple. So, he is my “work husband.”
I didn't have a work wife at my old job, I had a work mom. Partly because I was the only 20 year old amongst the other 30-50 year old coworkers. She was insanely nice and caring and even when the day was shit, I felt so safe with her, honestly somehow safer than with my own mom.
In EMS we frequently have a regular partner, and since you spend 12+ hr long shifts together, and sometimes go through some really hard stuff together, if you develop a friendship it seems completely natural to refer to them as "the work wife/husband". In 21 years I've had 2, both in partnerships lasting 9yrs. In one, my work husband's actual wife struggled with our completely platonic and above board best friendship. We never got together to hang out outside of work without our families out of deference to her feelings. My second work husband's was dating the woman he married a few years later when he and I became partners. She had a completely different take on the whole thing, probably in part because she was also in EMS and understood how deep the bonds can form without having even a shred of sexuality to it. I was the "Best Person" at their wedding. We'd gang up on him. She didn't feel threatened by someone else also loving her husband.
Yeah, like if someone feels threatened by someone else caring about their partner, I feel like that's a them problem. I know someone who broke up with a partner due to them being way too annoying and distrustful about their relationship with their best friend/roommate. Apparently the "it's either them or me" ultimatum didn't go the way they expected.
I don't understand why anyone would want someone they love to not also receive appreciation and love from other people. Especially in such a stressful/emotionally taxing job, why would you want your partner to have no support whenever you're not with them? I know it comes from a place of insecurity but if your insecurity is negatively impacting your partner's life and friendships, that's a problem.
@@allyh7075 It's not 100% the same as EMSKelly's example, but I'm freakin' DELIGHTED my husband has his Work Wife (also a guy), because Work Wife is also an immigrant. He can provide a level/depth of understanding and sympathy about moving to America I'll never be able to match, and I'm incredibly thankful Work Wife is there and can. I truly don't understand being upset other people find my husband as awesome as I do. He's an awesome guy! It'd be really weird if everyone else was all "meh" about him.
@@khills obviously I don't know you or your relationship but from your comment, that sounds like a very healthy and loving approach to the situation. I wish you, your husband and his Work Wife well!
@@allyh7075 I mean, I sure hope so (and thanks! Work Wife is on paternity; we've been baking them lots of casseroles and pies). It's a different kind of stress than being an EMS, but it is still a stress I can't understand, so why wouldn't I want my husband to have that support? Hel, even if it's "just" a 9-5 job at a desk, I don't understand why people wouldn't want their partner to work with people who value and appreciate them to the point of being friends outside work.
My friends (very straight) dad has a “work husband”. They’re just very good friends and hang out at work all the time. My friends mom thinks it’s hilarious and is the one who decided they were “work husbands”
My (late) grandfather’s work wife is a woman I call my grandma, who’s basically best friends with my real grandmother. She’s been a presence (along with her late husband) in my life ever since I was a baby. Sometimes on grandparents day at school, if my grandfather couldn’t make it, she would come in his stead with my grandmother. I’m glad to have her in my life :)
I think the idea of a "work wife/work husband" really just means someone you're exceptionally compatible with in your working environment, not necessarily someone you feel romantically about or would cheat on your actual spouse for. to be honest I thought we as a society had moved past the middle school mentality of "men and women can't be friends" but I guess some people are still lagging
I feel like the label is more falling into that trap than pushing back against the label is. The whole reason for the misconception it that you're literally calling them a work *spouse*
@@bellchime3078 If your homelife is stable, then all is good. The problem with coupes is if jealousy peeks into your windows. I worked for a small company where I was 1 of 3 men working with 24 women. I really had no problems working with the women ( I had to make child support payments, and this job was a 9 to 5 Monday to Friday, with the weekends open for me to spend time with my child, so it was a great setup), but the woman I was with was so jealous that she started to make waves and got me fired. Btw, the work wife/ husband deal is just a silly way of saying that everyone works together very well. Emphasizing WORK.
@@lavanderwilliams111 there’s no reason to call them a work spouse. None. If someone expresses that as a boundary, that could be respected, regardless of home life is ‘stable’ or not
@@bellchime3078 Meh. Someone can express it as their personal boundary, but boundaries don't just get automatically respected. There has to be agreement, and if there is, then great for you. But missing out on the entire point of a phrase because it's "disrespectful" really rings more as a mark of insecurity than anything else-it's a phrase that's been around over 35 years to EXPLICITLY define the platonic relationship between people who work together. If an adult can't grasp that today, they're the one with the problem-not the folks using the phrase to describe a platonic close friendship.
A friend of mine from one of my old jobs jokingly referred to us as work married, because we are a really solid unit whenever we were on staff together.
My boss has a work daughter. Its me. Im the same age as his kids. We call each other 'W.D.' for 'work dad/work daughter'. Its all cause i told him i was going out on a Saturday night and he was like 'be careful, make sure you cover your drink from anyone trying to spike it, dont walk anywhere alone, make sure you drink plenty of water before you go to sleep, etc...' lol
My Dad had a work wife and my Mom was very fond of her. My mom also had a work husband. They are all retired now, all still good friends, and my folks are still happily married after 53 years.
My English teacher calls his best friend at work his work wife. His wife knows about it and she's fine with it I didn't know other people did it, but I don't think it's bad at all. It's their business and people declare arbitrary relationships with their friends all the time, it's a show of affection
It's only the jealous and insecure who has issues with it. Here's the motto for the situation: "never sh!t where you eat". Follow that, and all's well.
@@captainkidd22 You don't need to have those if you're sure about things, because if you have to set boundaries, insecurities and jealousy are already there. Edit: The main boundary wives put on their husbands: They can hang out with their single friends. ( I'm single, and the wives hate it when ask my friends to go out and have some fun)
@@lavanderwilliams111 No, having boundaries is perfectly fine and even healthy. But there's a difference between setting boundaries and being controlling. Trying to isolate your partner and make them dependant on you is manipulation
@@captainkidd22 However, my comment had nothing to do with boundaries within the relationship, and I'm not completely sure why you brought it up My comment was about people not involved in the marriage or friendship trying to set boundaries for the people that are involved, which is weird and invasive
I think I might be my boss's work wife. I'm the one who usually helps him keep up with everything that's going on at work. For the record, his wife has absolutely met me. She hooks me up with laundry detergent when she does her extreme couponing. Love that lady.
Work wife isn't usually synonymous with secretary, lol. It *is* a term of affection- a work friend you trust and can lean into when things are hard and your legal spouse isn't around or doesn't have the familiarity to understand. You may be your boss's friend, and you may be their #1 assistant, but that isn't necessarily a work wife.
@Bell Chime if you make that boundary known that's totally fine. If you don't trust that your partner will respect and enforce those boundaries, then leave.
@@katiecakesl4691 But also, partners don't HAVE to bend to every boundary someone has. Some people can have irrational boundaries they need to work out in therapy, rather than make demands on partners. The idea that your partner should just fit to every boundary you state is pretty toxic.
That was so funny!😂 And what a beautiful work wife, fluffy and adorable.❤ Any self respecting woman would worry her husband would fall in love with Mirabel! xx🐕
I used to be someone's work mum. We adressed each other as mummy and son all the time. So much so that we forgott that we were doing it... which resulted in quite a lot of stunned faces when we did it in front of customers. We are the same age.
My boyfriend has started calling my cat his work wife lol He was on the phone with his work and the cat was just yelling loudly and crawled on his shoulders. His boss was so confused and asked what was up. Explained it was my cat. Freaking adore this man.
My husband has female best friend at work, who I call his work wife. She and I are also good friends. Now that my son works in the same place, she watches out for him, too. She's an amazing woman and mama of her own kids.
What aggravates me about that girl is she says it like it's some NEW mysterious thing! She looks young enough to not know much about working relationships outside the home. I hope her marriage survives her childish suspicious ideas. I'm 64 years old and had work husbands AND work wives most of employed years.
A work spouse is someone you are close to at work, but it's not romantic. More like a good friend, usually of an opposite gender. You talk about kids, actual spouses, real life. Maybe have lunch, and probably spend time with both families outside work. It's a funny way of saying someone is more close friend than coworker. Because, let's face it, sometimes you spend more time with coworkers than you are awake at home. 😁 It's good to have someone you (and your real spouse) can trust.
@@tymondabrowski12 It is a person that you work with on almost a daily basis as part of your duties. It's called a "work wife/husband" because you spend all day with them at work and are usually friends at work. It's an endearing term for a co-worker.
My work wife is my boss’ actual wife, and he claims me as his work wife while I claim him as my long lost twin. It’s a big jumbled mess but somehow works for us, no pun intended.
@@PiXie232 that is not the meaning I understood at all! I thought it was someone you worked super well as a team with and had a close platonic relationship.
My sister's dog is 'head of HR'. I feel like Bailey doesn't take my complaints seriously but somehow I always end up feeling better after our one on one meetings.
I have a friendship with my coworker strong enough we consider each other as work spouses and soulmates. Cuddles included. Her boyfriend thinks it's hilarious.
My husband has work boyfriends and they all know about each other. I don't know if the boyfriends' wives and girlfriends know about my husband, but I know about them and I love it.
My husband's Work Wife is great! They get massive amounts of money via grants together, go on work trips several times a year, and hang out at least one or two nights a month for dinner and drinks. It was incredibly convenient when Work Wife lived down the hall from us, too. Work Wife is out on paternity leave right now, and we've been bringing over dinners to help out so Work Wife's wife can enjoy her maternity leave, and enjoying generally spoiling the new baby.
You really had me going there for a second, prof! I was like: "I KNEW the perfect man doesn't exis... oh." Phew! Glad to see you ain't slipping! You stinker! 😆
Nah they're still chipped. One hand is black, the other is pink. The pink chipping just doesn't show as obviously. Knowing the ADHD brain, now that people have been triggered by the chipped nails, he's going to leave them chipped for all eternity. Like, "you don't like my painted nails? I will now always have painted nails for all of eternity! Oh, what's that? You don't like my chipped nail polish? You want me to fix it? Now I can never redo them ever again! Muhahahaha!" 😂
haha my husband does not have a work wife but a work mom! lol 😂 She's this older lady in her 60's whose a sweetheart & she's always looking out for him, making sure he's eaten & not working himself to death! I brought her a cute coffee mug for christmas & a starbucks gift card because she loves her coffee. Yeah she's the grandma of the work place but i call her his work mom lolz
My husband has 2 work wives, well with one of them he probably is the wife 😆 he works in a field that is mainly women and has alot of great coworkers he really clicks with especially these 2 women who I also get along with great and whenever they are planning work parties they always joke that I can go instead of him. He's usually the only man there and I'm usually the only SO.
