I have a different story. I Left Kenya in 2014 for 2 years . I had left my kids with my parents. I am grateful I did it juu kwa hiyo harakati I got my husband . Saa hii Niko USA with the kids. Kama singeenda Dubai siningekuwa Kenya nikiteseka ? I would say God have a destiny for us all.
That was a good move halafu unaweka mungu mbele. Even Abraham in the bible took his family and left, but wakati huo he only needed to ride on a donkey and visa was needed. Today if you want to travel you need a visa and most of the time unapata peke yako halafu God willing familia inakufuata. Aren't you happy now with your family? I did the same and im happy. Prophetess Wamuratha mkienda nyinyi nyote muomoke atakosa kazi.
Earlier this year when I was home, I told my 5yr old that am going back to work abroad to look for money, he collected all the money in the house including coins, gave me and said, "Baba kama ni pesa chukua hii na usiniache" Your reaction was as good as mine.
you are talking the truth, mimi nko Qatar and this is my last time to be here nkiongea na watoto wangu the way they insist that they want me and yet they know I am here for them I won't dare go far from them again blessings that God has kept for me atanibarikia huko huko
@@mercylameck259 kwanza agojeke tu you cry like a baby thinking maybe if you are there with him/her hangegojeka but I thank God I have a careling family they love my kids alot and that makes me Stronger coz ata nkiwa home they like to stay with my mum and my siblings but being near wakiniona time to time it's my prayer
I see mixed feelings hapa... Many people hating on her... What she means is that parenting sio pesa tu.... Sijui hii chuki yote ni ya nini... Why can't you understand kwanza before ucomment vibaya... Aaah.. People are so quick to judge... Hajui shida aje na ameishi miaka mingi kutuliko... 😏😏
Exactly watoto wetu siyo pesa wanakuwanga haja nazo ni upendo wetu and bythe way hiyo upendo haiko ilipotea zamani sana ju hatuwapei hiyo upendo ifeel so sad for our kids this is naked truth
She is thinking shallow... how many children hv been raised by both parents and they are thieves n drunkards... a mom who leaves her child is biting a bullet its mostly a life n death situation.
As many may disagree on what WaMuratha is saying, I wish we can all take this and start a discussion within ourselves. We are gonna provide for our kids while not present,what will be their tomorrow like? Huyo mama anauza soko and raising kiddos without much is always there, encouraging and motivating her kiddos. Wait and see what their tomorrow will be like. May God give us wisdom 🙏.
I agree with you, but in the Kenya we are in, will all of us get do the kiosk, mama fua, and mijengo jobs? Can they accommodate all the jobless people in Kenya? Let us not pretend we do not know how things are. Some of us are privileged to be here with our kids but not everyone is lucky to get that opportunity. I wish this is being taken to the government to try and create more jobs. Sio kila mtu huku ako an uwezo ya kupata capital. Business ni uncertain huku, get a loan may be job ikose kushika. You have to repay the loan. Very high interests too. You'd rather get that loan then go to the middle east where you are certain of the returns...
If you see how some girls are shaming wamurtha on TikTok utajua watu hawataki kuambiwa ukweli ...I know a lady she here in Saudi her dota amerapiwa Mara mbili ukiona akipeana iyo story hana ata iyo uoga aki and when you ask her utaenda home lini anasema hana haraka sasa swali langu ni uyo mtoi wake atawai samehea mamake kweli ??kaba mwana gukira mbeca
@@gracenjogu8958 njogu you are right about people avoiding the truth,sawa basi thats y things will keep on happening en we should not question God coz the decisions we make leads us to where we are,mundu niagithondeke maisha yake. Basi
I am a child whose mother left for abroad studies, ndio aongezwe cheo job. We had been evicted from a rental, slept hungry, and even stayed sick all through dad drunk and slept around, doing road trips. Eventually mama made it, got a promotion, and bought land and built a big lovely home. Today it's our home since dad eventually left after mama suffered a stroke. I will always be grateful to my mother for the sacrifice my mother made, today my sisters and I have a place to call home. Mama is an orphan, so huyo shosh na guks we don't know. Dad nayeye alisema tusiwai gawa shamba kwao home. Wamuratha leo hii vile maisha ni ngumu tungekuwa wapi kama sio mum kutupea pahali pa kukaa??? To every woman who makes that sacrifice, to go and hussle in middle east may our almighty God bless you, your children and your generation as He has blessed mine! And go get a good future for them- they will appreciate your sacrifice, I promise!
Thankyou child.. am a long distance mother.. n my children will call me blessed jus like ur calling your mom blessed. Because it's a sacrifice n its worth it
God bless you wamuratha. Most people will always hate FACTS💯 Continue reminding us on the things we actually know but we keep on forgetting. God bless you again♥🙏
Very true anasema ukweli some people wako huku Raha tu am in Qatar and majority huacha bwana zao Kenya na madharau wanakuja huku Raha na kujiuza, I salute to the few who work ,watoto wanawachwa Kenya wajitawale
I left my daughter when she was 1&half years, now she is almost 4 and I feel so bad because she doesn't even recognize me as her mother 😭 I want to go back and collect my mistakes before it's too late.
I can see many disagree and for a reason, but to me, am with you 100%,a mother's presence and love is more than everything. Even for people working in Kenya and are always busy with no time for the kids... Let's try to be intentional.
I disagree with you momaaa..... tutithiaga nikweda ni kwaga otherwise....😭😭😭😭😭 again si watoto wenye wamewachwa tu hupotea ata wenye wako na wazazi karibu....I swear ugeagalia the other side of the story... please don’t judge us 😭😭
Wat do we do if no otherwise,then nduri Hindi ungiikara hau n they need their basics Ngai ateithagia witeithitie, u can't stay n suffer where is u hv alternative
If you choose to go there don't spend more than 3 years, uku ata kunfanyaga mtu anakua nikama kichwa imefungika.. Coz ni kazi tu naizi kazi ni ovious.. Our children neeed our presence it really counts alot in there lives
This is very true my siblings and I are a victim of this... Tomorrow I'll be giving my story about this topic on my RU-vid channel you've spoken for more than a million children. Thank you so much.# No shame in speaking the truth.
I grew up with an absent mother. We r 5 of us. Kazi ilikua wanaume tu. I have no good relationship with her. I got married to a wonderful husband. I chose to stay home for my 2 kids. They turned out so well, both are high performers in school. Almost finishing campus. Now my husband has put up a business for me. I have no regrets. And my family is happy. I adore my children. Glory to God
Mtu anazaa peke yake aachwe alee vile anaona vyema. Ata watoto walie njaa, wakose masomo sionangi watu wakikuja ku support. I have seen good children in kenya and brought by grand parents while their parent are working abroad. I have seen children brought by both parent or single parent and are good too. I have witnessed children brought same but are bad charactered. So i put every soul of our children in JESUS hand. It is not by our own power. What we declare by our tongue come to pass. Declare good things and pray for your children then leave everything at his hand.
I thank God my Dad has always come home every Friday since I was in class 6 and now am 30,he never ran to nairobi life.God bless my father.i agree presence is better than presents
Money ain't everything...I see some ladies who think providing for their children is the only goal in life while they are far away😭😭😭they don't know the damage...it hurts but Mungu atusaidie
I agree with you 💯,I used to leave the house at 5:30am and come back at 7pm. My children were under the care of a house help,the moment it hit me I resigned to doing something flexible. I've learned so much about them in just 2 months and I can't replace that with anything. Thanks for such a wonderful topic
@@esthernjau4166 proud of you too, imagine l notice the difference in self esteem of my boys now 11 and 8 years, so you can imagine how young they were then
My mother left the 6 of us and went to Australia for 10 years. It was hard. But 10 years later my siblings and I all joined our mom. Life is good....we were not well off in kenya. Now I have three kids of my own and I'm very optimistic about their future!!! I thank my mom for sacrificing the 10 years without us. Because of her....our generation will be okay.
Rev Niko gulf leaving my babies with my parents it was not easy coz I remember when I boarded at jkia I cried when I think of my kids.not easy at all but am hoping to reunite soon
Mimi niliwacha wangu wakazoea na wakakuwa wakubwa juu nikikaa Kenya kulingana na venye maisha iko ngumu na hakuna makazi hao watoto hawatasoma.tunawaachianga Mungu.ireragira rukuini ikaya kuigana
Thank you for this topic Wamuratha. You are raising awareness on what true parenting and bonding is all about. Kids psychological needs are rarely considered or talked about since we live in a society where financial growth overshadow mental health. Kids left alone by parents (who are going for financial growth) often suffer from bonding issues especially in romantic relationships later on. Keep raising this awareness 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾.
It's OK to raise awareness but not target gulf members.... How about the absentee parents who leave the house early morning and come back late when kids are already asleep. I know it's uncomparable to being away for 2 yrs but it's hard
First, each and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Second, we cannot generalise and say it's wrong. For some of us it's the best decision we ever made coz we were able to educate and support our siblings/families. Being 21st century you can communicate with those kids each and every day on real time meaning the relationship is strong. Leaving them with parents is what i would advocate for (did that) and not other relatives. Something to ponder about; for the orphans are they not brought up by other relatives? Don't we have some who turned out alright? Are there no kids who live with their parents here same house yet they don't have any relationship at all, parents leave before kids wake up and return home late night; is that scenario any different? Each and everyone pls consider your situation and make your decision individually, weigh your options. Some of us has to be the difference that we seek. Make plans to travel as often as you can otherwise get your kids join over the holiday. - it's a sacrifice either way.
You can go to the middle east but don't stay there forever, 2 years imetosha ukienda sana 3 years coz mtoi nivile unamlea.. Tena no one said huezi make it in kenya ukisharudi kutoka uko, it all depends on your perseption
@@mercy254kenya-b7 You also do not understand the pain of leaving your children and finding them in coffin after they have been abused and murdered. It happens.
Good topic, I think it should be the man to go kazi ya nje if it's a must. Mums we need to be close to our kids especially when they are young. Mum's love is irreplaceable.
I wish also people would practise delayed gratification and save first. I didnt marry not get a kid and no serious boyfred till i was over thate. People( those women i studied with in the 90s and who got married as teens after class eight in the village made fun of me wakachoka. now they are leaving their marriages in masses and heading to gulf or returning to their fathers homestead some as grandmothers since their teen dotas gave birth hehe. ). I shall be able to bring up my kids comfortably, God first.
Mum nakupenda sana bat leo nimesema no juu atuwendi nikupenda siku hizi maisha hiko juu kuna ..kwaza mtu ako na mtoi high school ...si wazee yote wana futa bangi ...mungu ndio mlezi mwema
Ùyù ndoì thìna nì kuga atia mah ya Ngai My husband died 2012 and may his soul RIP nakuniachia watoi watatu the last kid was only 2months shinda yenye nilipitia walai is a story for another day na gulf imenisaidia sana ndingiuga Ngai ndundathimite na twana twakwa😭😭😭
😳😳... Hajui aje? I respect your opinion but saa zingine si lazima ucomment. She is a woman of respect and I think she deserves the respect from us. Kila mtu ako na shida zake...
My son and I were being evicted No food no hope I got a chance to leave the country and things are different sometimes we have to make tough choices my son today calls me his hero don’t we have parents with children who are drug addicts yet they are staying with them in the same house: utakakanyuireri ndamenyaga Kari Rita thank God if all your kids are ok
I would only say you wont understand until you are there. There are very many processes in different countries to live there with your kids and families. Some really want to be with their kids and families, but the visa processes are tedious and may take years to be processed. So its so wrong for you to point fingers without clarity. Its a topic that can not be generalised coz people's circumstances differ much!!
U can say again It not sameone wish to stay away from his or her kids how i wish in her generation they wont have one who will leave kids cz by that she cn understand
I second you on that, we cannot generalise at all. For some it's the only way to put food on the table and for some to get fees paid meaning it's a worth move. Many would never understand since they haven't been in that situation.
Exactly my point. I had a career, I came here USA as a visitor ndio nikuje nitafute job then nilete mtoto wangu, kufika nikapata its not easy coz ata visa ni ya visitor. So I started asylum processes and NCLEX processes bado nikiwa na hope all will be fine nilete mtoto wangu. Process is still ongoing and I can't travel home coz of the asylum thing, so ni mtoto nachukia ama?🥺
I think every situation is different. I left my son with my parents for 3 yrs to the USA. My son was so angry with me when we rejoined. He finally understood
Wamuratha I highly disagree with you!!! We have families in Kenya who are so busy that they don’t even see their kids, there kids get involved with drugs. You should not generalize that all people who go abroad and leave their kids, their kids become useless. I left my kids and my husband in Kenya, my husband never got married!! I latter brought all of them to the USA. My life is 💯 better than when I was in Kenya. Wakupotea ni wakupotea it doesn’t mean that if you stay with your kids they will be so disciplined.
Actually she didn't generalize, she said there's a small number that go well about it but majority don't, she also said that it doesn't mean that you are around it can't happen but your kids are in a better position, not always when the mum is around.
Exactly ,she didn't think through kwanza at a time like this when people are suffering mental health related issues plus the covid factor alafu anakuja hapa kujudge watu senselessly.
She's very right, amesema umek decision mzuri. You know your family members well, you know whether they'll take good care of your kids or not. So it depends, bt don't say you disagree coz not all people who went abroad have managed to maintain their marriages. You're just lucky!!
Wamuratha ona tondu ngwendete umuthi wagua tuothe! Mimi siko gulf na sina watoto kenya. But one thing is for sure andu aria othe mathiaga gulf magatiga ciana kenya makoraguo makinyite muico. First waikara hau ciana ciage irio na githomo what will happen? Si watakuwa wezi jabazi sugu! Na mambo ya drugs. Girl chaod nake atuike desperate ahike kana atuike malaya. Ciana ni Ngai uciroraga tondu ona winacio hau wagwitua kihuhunguiyo no egutuika. I respect all of them aria matigite ciana magathii gwetha umatho. We wamuratha nikuhuna uhunite tutigithie!! Na sitaki makasiriko kwa comment yangu!!
You may all disagree or agree bt mum has a point.some of us tunaishi gulf miaka mingi tunasahao watoto.if unaeza elewa what she is meaning yes tafuta bt miaka kidogo then go home Nd take care of your kids.i know she may not understand much how painful this desicion is.i left my son months old him being 6 years now.nd I have said enough is enough wacha nikalee sasa.thanks mum.
Thanks Wamuratha for your counsel. There are many factors to consider when making the decision to work abroad /away from the family . The choice is made out of necessity I have worked abroad for theblast 10 years but go home for 2 weeks every 6 -10;weeks. I started working abroad when my children were between ages 23&16 years and in boarding schools/ colleges. We talked and chatted and still do daily. We are very close and they have done well in life. I agree with you but times has changed and its sometimes necessary for mothers to work abroad. Counsel parents how to handle such situations.
Mum but there are also parents living in the same country but never see their children. Afadhali the one who has a legit reason of leaving the country coz of work than children who know their parents are in the next town but they have no relationship with their parents. Ongeleshea hao pia
@@annewamurathaofficial666 Hapa ulisema ukweli mtupu. It is bitter truth. Suppose our parents left or deserted us. We will not be who we are. I have embraced my own and i can even die for them . Children have feeling too.
Wamuratha already talked about that( lack of touch or bond with children even locally). I believe this detouchment is what brings about the bitterness we see in our youth today, such as burning of schools, murders in homes and in marriage. These are lessons that should be taken very seriously if we are going to repair our broken society. Thankyou very much Anne Wamuratha for that thought trigger.
@@annewamurathaofficial666 wamuratha thank you so much for not shying away from such issues, parental guidance is very important iyo yote umeongea ni kweli.
I appreciate this Ann,,,I usually appreciate my mum who never looked for good life and much money but she was there,,,she made us love our dad with what he had,and today I know what means parents prescence
I honestly agree with you . Thanks to my beautiful mama who stood with us during our tough up bringing and now we go home to enjoy our happy time together.
What do u expect we stay there ukiona mtoi akiumia huna hata bob ,as for me I better stay away from kids n provide everything.ciana ireragwo ni Ngai,gutiri uthuire guikara na ciana ciake
Amesema umek decision mzuri, kama your kids can get good parenting from their guardians well and good. Bt watu wengi kama wewe mmechukulia in a negative way, bt the fact is wengine families zao ziko sawa others are not.
@@maishjunior4651 sasa wenye family zao haziko sawa wafanyaje, n they hav to provide for their kids nkt ni vizuri to respect hussle ya kila msee .its a lot of sacrifice we do🙏
This is the truth an I admit when I take flight leaving my gals I feel so hurt but sometimes no option. I need to think an rethink on this.our kinds are mishandled by our own sisters n brothers n even parents.but tufanye nini for now 😭😭😭😭😭
Speaking like a full pit latrine.... She is a counsellor dummy!! She has tackled more than thousands stories concerning people leaving their kids.. Guilt is killing you but may God protect you and your kids..
@@rozzycate5239 absolutely,, There is nothing peaceful like living with your parents whether kunayo ama hakuna just the smile , encouragingment, wisdom n Grace gives you strength to live on this world coz of the joy which cost nothing 😊
Thank you wamuratha usichoke kutuambia ukweli I support that. Our parents hawakutupea money or any plot walituonyesha njia wakatufundisha displine na kujitegemea. But siku hizi tuna tafutia watoto pesa tunasahau the best thing we can give them is education and good discipline it doesn't matter kama ni shule ya public.
This one i disagree with you. The level of poverty in Kenya is driving most People to go abroad to look for greener pastures. Is it better to result into prostitution to provide for the children when a woman can't get any opportunity? or go abroad to do legitimate Jobs?sometimes life is a sacrifice, something has to give. Life is not always black and White there are shades of Grey. Mtoto wa kupotea ni wa kupotea whether the parents are there or not. Money is equally important as parental touch. But sometimes People have to make a sacrifice depending on the circumstance and kids got to understand.
@@josphinekinyanjui5040 you took responsibility because you went abroad to put food on their table and to ensure they get education. Afterall the best thing that parents can give their children is quality education to ensure that they can fend for themselves in the future. The alternative ni kukaa tu Kenya na shida, tukilala njaa na bila masomo.
Wamuratha has mentioned that going for 2-3yrs and then return to set up a life or have the family join you abroad is ok. When you are absent 5yrs, 10+ you lose connection. I totally agree with her
You didn't get her right, she is talking about those parents especially mothers who left their children 15 -20 yrs. And she gave example of the girl who got married! Surely if going for more than 5yrs then go with your children.
Mrs Muratha this is your best topic this year! I second you 100% ,I'm a senior citizen with all grown children and honestly speaking, I always wonder what happened to our 20th century parenting coz it's lacking. Ngai witù nìahe aciari ùgì wa kùrera ciana cio mataikùihithia kùrì andù angì...God bless you wa Muratha 🙏
They should work and provide for their families, that’s why they’re men in the first place! Also I take this opportunity to thank them for taking the innate role of protecting bestowed on men by God seriously! Thank you for protecting us and for your service men. It’s simply the role of a man to protect and to provide, every woman should check on that before giving their womb to weak, silly, abusive and lazy men, reject from hell type of men! According to psychology children with only one available parent who’s present and mentally healthy grow very well. Children of military men are so much well taken care of.
Am glad to hear but!!! Am here to say we don't go because we don't care.. We went through a lot so we abind to make ends meet 😭😭let it not be that we don't care remember that we the separated, singled are the talk of the town when we are there🇰🇪 doing nothing. I see and have known a lot of people there leaving with they spouses but have neglected their kids in ushago.. Si wenye tu wame travel Ndio watoto wako na problem ya kuwa drug addict, my mother in law has been home and my brother's in law are horrible drunkard.. Wacheni kutuponda sana juu we don't travel for leisure 😢😢
I agree with you...i grew in such circumstance n me n my siblings went through nice schools. Actually people thought we were cool kids....we looked okey but we were empty shells.my grandma made us slaves , we were so vulnerable to men as well. Shosh pretended to be nice wen mum visited.... Mum went home after retiring.my bro is a drunkard n me n others don't go home...we don't feel like it n she is there wondering why we don't feel her.......my sis don't talk to her....n she goes like Kai Ari Kii Ndamwikire? This affected us so much. Today my kids hawawezi hata lala away from me for one day. Wooi... Ndamuthaitha .atumia aitu please rerai twana twanyu. Wamuratha kinyira hau.
Life Life Life!!! For sure,life has got many challenges. I'm not in his life for 7yrs. I equally pass mental pressures as he does. I know prayers works but again Dr.Ann here got the best analysis which is nothing but the truth.Life is not balanced🤨 Some come for 2years and go settle their things comfortably. It takes some 5yrs and some 10yrs to do the same. Not because they don't care about their children's moral growth but thats what life serves them. It's called life! Everything to God in prayers.
Money is never enough and mom you have spoken the Truth..I left my kids to work in gulf but my teenage son is straight not because of anything but he fears God..I pray and plan to settle with my kids after several yrs and I know our connection with them will be good.. talking our kids even if we are not close to them is the idea..there so many kids with present parents and are spoiling..I kenya no jobs we need money to raise our kids but not to be forever away from our kids..
I Always agree with you but today I disagree alot of people especially single mothers leaf for green pastures and managed to educate their children.now they have good jobs and have bought their own properties for their own and their children.please don't blame those who go abroad
Girls tend to be stronger than boys in a way.. I'm a victim of this as well and it affected my brother so much. I'll be sharing my story about this on my channel join me kwa comment and let's help a child outside here and also inform our parents what we feel about this topic.
I love your content but on this one i don't agree with you. Av never left my kids but I will never judge any mother who decides to leave their kids behind to go to another country and look for greener pastures. i know it's always the hardest and most painful thing to do.but they are forced by circumstances to do what they do.
Am one of them and I don't feel good leaving my young kids away for 2yrs to work in middle East all I know is that I will balance things..I work for few yrs and most of the yrs I stay with my kids..
Thanks for Airing this my social media bae.This has been making me very sad n worried.... Aki wamama wanaacha ata less 5yrs...KIDS GROWING HAVE NO REVERSE
Mum keep on saying what many doesn't want to hear.Those words was told by my mum and due to this I relocated from UAE to come and stay with my kids.Is not easy here in Kenya but seeing those kids everyday time is worthy.More blessings Wamuratha
I live in the diaspora and have witnessed many long distance marriages failing; some partners come here solo and forget about their spouses back home. Lots of brokenness in the children too. My advise would be to either travel with your spouse/family or don't be separated at all especially for long periods of time.
Ann you have talked the pure Truth many women are irresponsible leaving kids to their mother,one should be responsible so that you will be able to collect the kids as they grow keep it up mum
I had an opportunity to go to USA 2015....am a mother of 2 kids but I didn't go because I didn't have anyone I can trust my kids with...my mum died when I was a small girl....so I choose to remain here for my kids. But if my mum was alive maybe I could have gone...
Ni sawa unasema ukweli but kama huna kazi na huna cha kupea mtoto uikare hau mwana akurie irio ciku ukumwira atia. Like me ningependa sana kulea mtoto wangu coz i had no parental love but shida haingenikubalisha but i thank God am blessed
