As an attorney i represented fathers in high conflict custody cases. I can affirm that this toxic behavior is damaging to the father, but it is ultimately destructive to the children. After 25 years, I am now thankfully retired. Best wishes to the fathers and their children.
Thank you Liliya. Really appreciate your efforts for male victims of narcissism, and talking about this specific issue. My kids are instrumentalized and weaponized against me, since the separation with their narcissistic mother. It is a long game that requires a lot of patience and strategy. May God give strength and patience to all fathers who share the same painful situation. ❤
Schedule with me if needed, link in bio. Unfortunately the solutions to this are not simple. Damage control only goes so far coparenting with these people.
You are very welcome. I’m so happy to be back on my channel. A book on all this is coming soon. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me with content suggestions 🙏🏻
@@CoachLiliyaHi Liliya, Hope you are feeling better 🐬✨ A book! Well done congratulations! I will look forward to it.. As for content, anything on female coverts, especially the more covert things we generally wouldn't think about, I'd love more Aha's! Be well, be well..and thanks.🐬✨
Its like these women follow a playbook, I couldn't even have conceived of these tactics, until my ex did it to me and my kids. I didn't understand what was happening until it was too late, now they don't want me and ive had to walk away. How do they even come up with this?
Wow! Nailed it again! I wish I had discovered you whilst I was still in my relationship with my Narcissistic ex-wife so that I could have been prepared for what followed with regards to my Parental Alienation. I was not prepared for the depths with which she would go and eventually went. I have had no contact with my children for coming up 9 years now. It's taken me this long to recover and I'm still not 100%. thanks once again for helping me make sense of it all. xxS.
I'm going through this now with my ex-wife. She's bringing up lie after lie. Solicitor now involved to defuse the situation.... but its horrid. Not sleeping and lost a severe amount of weight.
Wife and I are separated in the same house. My two daughters haven't spoken a single word to me in over 2 months. Once we divorce and move out, I can pretty much guarantee I won't speak with them anymore. They are 17 and 13. I miss them, I miss talking to them. My STBX fits all these criteria to a T.
They will realize in time. Have faith, their brains will mature as adults and then they can handle seeing the truth because her abuse will be directed towards them if you're not there. Keep reminding them you're there.
An ex can also not challenge the child, even in adulthood, on behaviours which can be quite destructive i.e. anorexia. bulimia etc. so you become the tyrant!
How the narc cant accept culpability after several marriages, limited to no visiting allowed with all the previous grandparents uncles cousins, whoever. Everyone is stupid or bad in someway. Why can’t the narc see the pattern?
I’m just coming to realise my ex is displaying every one of these characteristics you mention and more. Some of the abuse she is now inflicting on our 2 young sons aged 4 and 6 is becoming a massive concern. I look back on our 12 year relationship and now see so much narcissistic behaviour that I was blind to at the time. She has successfully moved a 10 hour drive away from me and has managed to almost totally erase me from their day to day life which is killing me. She is unaware that I am seeing her behaviour for what it really is so What is my best approach to take control back of my fatherly duties and regain a relationship with my kids ?
100%. Narc will use any excuse to alienate. Narc loves to surprise attack u and put u on trial for ur life. Kids be damned, crying cuz mom started another fight? I had to start screaming cuz daddy won’t listen. lol on and on.
Hi, you brought me to tears. I am currently fighting a custody battle. I am poor. The mother of my.child has used my child against me and now suddenly, me and my family are completely cut off from my child. She is using a bogus ex parte as a tool to do this. All counts have been dropped via DCS. However I was advised to wait until speaking with judge. I need help. It's been months since I and my family have heard my daughters voice. I need help because my emotional state is becoming beyond my control. I should get court date next week. But even after, my daughter had to go through hell per DCS. They didnt find anything but everything she had to endure. I dont even know if my daughter will be the same. Mother stated to DCS she was scared of me.😥. Me and my daughter are and have always been best friends and spiritual continuity of each other. My ribs are breaking and my flesh is of nothing. My perception is like a dream. Even her dog is depressed.
Keep your head up and control your emotions. Poor is a state of mind. You are who the creator says you are, and he made you in his image and gave you his title "Father". Stand firm, and don't quit. I understand your pain.
My ex told my daughter that she really doesn't know me. I didn't know my daughter had a boyfriend for a year and she was going to prom, even though I talked to her every Sunday. Even though we had joint custody, my ex moved clear across the country, from Montana to Pennsylvania. My daughter sent me a very nasty text, I was pretty sure it was her mother.
