Shades of gray are just excuses made by people who don't want to take responsibility. Eg - you're a general in the army, you send you're soldiers in to a town to deal with a group of terrorists and some civilians get caught in the crossfire. To ease your consciounse at quell the wrath of the masses in general you label them collateral damage and say sometimes these things happen, it's a part of war. Which is true, but rather than exempt it for what it is, it is labelled a shade of gray. What is it? It is a destructive aspect of Yin. Nature is a balance if light and darkness both cooperating to maintain life for all life on the planet. Nothing taking more than what it needs for it's own survival. The fear of being judged for expressing our negative aspects makes people label them as shades of gray because people are brainwashed into believing that the world can exist without Balance.