This is my second year of total abstinence after a few years of slowly fading it out by drinking occaisionally only. "No hangover" was the rule. But then that hangover happened. So during that hangover I decided to never drink again. Best decision of my life. I also went no contact with 'friends'. They never respected it when I stopped drinking. In fact, they never respected me at all. I hope they're all gossiping BS about me and make fun of me because it's the last they will ever see or hear from me. People that offer me drinks after telling them I don't drink alcohol at all, are not going to be friends. Period. Yes it's annoying to see alcohol still being advertised while society is making huge money on smoking. But hey, when I used to drink I was more of an angry "fck society" guy. That "fck society" still stands as a synonym for "fck peer pressure". I can take a whole country of 17 million people worth of peer pressure. I tested it during the pandemic: no mask, no jab and screw the rules. I haven't been sick ever since the pandemic and it was right when I started to fade out alcohol. No rehab. No church, no religion and no volunteering. All I had to do was to promise myself to never drink alcohol again. I didn't even needed to change my whole life. I just kept my own promise. From there, life changes right before my eyes. And still, each day I feel a little better and a little bit stronger and smarter.
Hey man. Good stuff. I've been watching your channel for a bit and always enjoy your message. I agree wholeheartedly with what you said about being reactive. You need to be proactive in your recovery. And just not drinking isn't enough. For me, I needed to completely change so many aspects of my life and I am definitely better off for it. I just posted a video about what I'm doing to stay sober. Hope you check it out. Thanks again for the content. It really does help this alcoholic. But for the grace of god go I.
It is easier to change your association with alcohol . Think of it this way : Even after you quit , those strong urges will surface from time to time just to test your willpower .. However, human willpower has it's limitations .. If you don't change your association with alcohol those urges will keep surfacing and you will eventually give in and go back to the old same patterns all over again. However, if you work on changing your association with alcohol then the urges will eventually dissipate and you won't have to keep using your willpower to resist having that first drink again ..In fact, you will never want to have any drink without using any willpower.. Think of something in your life that you absolutely despise . It could be anything, some food, drugs, anything. You need to put alcohol under the same category in your mind. You need to change the association , for example, next time when you have a strong urge to drink, instead of imagining how great it would feel right now to open a cold can of beer and just chug it , think of an empty beer glass that has been left on the table for two days, think of all the foams kind of stuck to the glass and the nasty smell coming out of the glass .. Or next time you have a strong urge to have that martini think of the old day when you woke up in the middle of the night after sleeping on the living room carpet sleeping in your own vomit ...When the urge comes, not just think about those nasty associations but try to bring feelings to it , in a matter of minutes, the urges will vanish ..
I have bpd, and prefer to be alone, used to have a small tight circle but everyone is passed away now. Drinking is the only thing that makes me feel like engaging with others in a "normal fashion", but I hate how it controls me. Whenever I try to quit life just seems SUPER DULL, and life has always been a little " dull" to me, not in a negative way, just takes something cool other than Kenny Chesney to impress me. I do want to give what you recommend a try though as I feel like a forty two yr old child currently. Peace and blessings bro!
Is the music industry and going to shows something you love and miss? I do photography at live shows for a friend's band and alcohol is everywhere. But because I did soo much internal work and no longer need alcohol to escape and feel good about myself, I can attend and not have any desire to drink.
Its not that hard to quit drinking if you get on Kratom. Many alcoholics find out hat kratom gives them a much more enjoyable highcwithout all the consequences of being a sad pathetic drunk who cant keep his shoes tied let alone function in the world. Believe me i know. I was the saddest and most pathetic drunk i knew
It's definitely the easy way out, but for me, it's not the best. If you have a hard time quitting alcohol, you'll have a hard time quitting anything else. You're trading one thing for another in order to numb yourself. I ask people why they need to get high or drunk in the first place, and then I encourage them to get help and build a life where they have no desire to use anything. I tried a kratom "regimen" years ago. 100 percent abstinence is the best thing for me.
@@David.Masson of course it's easy way out. But sometimes the easy way out is better than the dead way out. I've tried both. Complete abstinence I wasn't able to do for more than a couple weeks even with AA meetings, a sponsor, while living in sober living, with a firm resolution never to touch substances again. Complete abstinence is always the best but it never worked out for me
Stop spreading the Kratom solves everything vibe. I am all for someone bettering themselves in life but it is really annoying that Kratom is being a solution for everything from alcohol to herion. It is giving kratom users a bad name.
@ponaliramos9773 I've been there. I've used every excuse in the book. Alcoholics and addicts are great at manipulating themselves into justifications for continuing to drink and use drugs. If I had to guess, id say you're still in the "trying to control your usage" phase....the language you used: "enjoyable high without the consequences" is a huge tell. You didn't admit complete defeat and aren't ready to give up your enjoyable high yet. But I also don't know you or your situation so it is egotistical of me to assume. If kratom works for you and it leads you to a life of fulfillment and joy, then I'm happy for you. But there is nothing so unique or special about you that prevents you from living a life of abstinence and fulfillment.
