Nedra Glover Tawwab On Managing Unhealthy Relationships, Cycle Breakers, Fostering Your Kids + More 

adopt this motto Ladies: I would rather adjust my life to your absence than to adjust my boundaries to your disrespect.

I saw the true colors of so many family members while my mom was sick and after her passing in 2021. I had to block and distance myself from the negativity and drama....family or not# My life is so peaceful now...

I listened to her audio book last year about boundaries. She is a great therapist and really changes the cognitive process.

Nedra nuggets! Such an amazing therapist/woman...I feel she's given so much language to the human/black experience within relationships/individually and family.

I have five kids. 19, 13, 11, 8, and nearly 2. I foster relationships too with my children. I understand they all need time for themselves, so I make room for that too. But I request that the 19-year-old do school pick up sometimes and cheer and football drop off. The relationships have been cultivated well. I want to honor the sibling relationship more than the rivalry. THIS IS SO GOOD TO ME!!! The eldest son: 19 Second son: 13 First Daughter: 11 Second Daughter: 8 Third Daughter: almost 2 I love the significant family aspect. It was just My sister and me. We are just getting our relationship on track and are only 16 months apart. Me 39. Her 40. I am so glad we are developing that closeness. Family units, healthy boundaries, and relationships are super important to Me. I also see that in a lot of SINGLE PARENT MOMMY HOMES the mothers always have that mentality of their son being the man of the house and oversharing with that kid. They create these bonnie and Clyde dynamics and I don't like it. That's your kid. That's a child.

Man that comment about cycle breakers is everything. Finding your support outside of the traditional family. Smh. So real

Please have her back up every few months!

My family became infuriated when I began pursuing my degree while single parenting and working 2 jobs. Now that I'm towards the finish line, they use my schooling as a way to say I must think my degree is more important..Well, it affects my well being, earning power, and provision for my children, whom I am primarily responsible. I tell them this and they don't get it. So there's a boundary I have with them now surrounding relationship.

I went and immediately bought the new book from audible 🙂 I am trying to break generational curses and forgive my parents. I have children and want to make sure their bond is tight🤞🏽✊🏾❤️♾️👑💪🏾💯

I'm currently reading Set Boundaries Find Peace, a guide to reclaiming yourself. I'm early in but I can relate and see myself in a few of these examples she give in the book.

This interview needs a part 2 please. Very insightful interview. #Drama FREE

This was so timely. One of my sister's & I have been working through our issues from childhood. That sibling relationship can be so difficult sometimes.

Forcing A Bond Because Someone is Blood… Definitely Something That Needs to Change…

Denying there is a favorite child when it’s so obvious is the earliest form of gaslighting. At least admit to loving them differently but that ‘the same’ & ‘equal’ is so disingenuous.

Loved this! I just bought this on audible ...can't wait to listen to it. So many gems in this interview.

Texas based therapist here! I’m so happy to see a fellow clinician on TBC! Gives me some inspiration professionally and within my own family. @

She completely went around Envy’s question on “Are we getting away from being a village as a family?” Also we live in a culture of instant dismissal. Relationships are more fragile than ever because they are ruled purely on emotion in the moment. Being held to unrealistic expectations and not given a chance to be human is where we’re headed.

This was an excellent conversation! Good questions and great responses!

Nedra is my fav!!! Always a pleasure to see her on the show! I will be purchasing the book as well! The last one was so good!!

This is a very good conversation and a very good guest. I’m definitely getting this book to read on my extended vacation.

ABSOLUTELY LOVE ❤️ 💯 her, and her work, she be sooo on point🎯. Went through the last book about 7 times, can't wait to dig into this one

Isn't the third daughter of Charlamagne's the one who reminds him of his grandmother? He may have a special connection he doesn't even realize.

Thanks for Having Ms Nedra Glover on this Show today I really needed some type of understanding of what I’m Feeling right now… I have a Younger brother that’s on his Death bed right now that I never really had a Relationship with for soo many reasons and my emotions are all over the place with tons of regrets…. Although we Never had any issues and Always show each other Love when we do see each other there was Never a Big Brother little brother relationship and the hurt is Why Didn’t I try to see and be with him more…. I’m a bit Numb with how I should feel but this Was Definitely needed for me to start to understand even if it’s just a Little something…. Thank You ! 🙏🏽

I just discovered this doctor and she resonated with me right away. No accident that I discovered her at this time.

Wow!!! I wasn't familiar with Mrs. Glover Tawwab but I am now!! Well needed interview!! Looking forward to hearing more from her.

Thanks for sharing, kudos to Nedra Glover Tawwab. Forgiveness is necessary to have a healthy relationship.

Ugh, Nedra once again will get my coin . If I can’t have her as a therapist , I will be purchasing her books .

Oh my goodness, i love ❤️ her! Thank you for bringing her back on here! I would love a session with her.

I needed this today.

She speaks the the truth 💖💖

Great show, and I just purchased my copy. 👏 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I was just thinking about the parent child/friendship. I'm definitely a parent first. I see situations where the line is blurred and they run all over their parents.

❤ I like how she refined relationships on like and love.

Envy is very wise and knows a lot about raising him children. Love his point of view and conversation . That’s what a parent does. You help and encourage your child to be close and it pays off in the long run.

Thank you for this. Somethimes I have a difficult time articulating my boundaries and preferences without appearing offensive/defensive. This conversation was a huge help in regards to me identifying, and acknowledging specific disfunctional relationships and family relatability. Can’t wait to receive my book!

@19:50, yes, I understand what Envy is saying. My daughter is 19 months, her brother (who I consider my son, but he isn't biologically) is 16 about to be 17. I don't force a relationship because they are so far in age. But I try to arrange things as much as possible that they can do together. They both love the beach we live on an island, so we try to do as many beach days as possible together and he loves it because he thinks he is teaching her to swim lol! He will sometimes want to take her to a playground around the corner from my home. I kinda figured it was to impress a girl. But he is very careful with her. They aren't close but, he has the mindset to realize it's important to me for them to have a bond. And my baby girl loves him too. I like the term foster and I consciously try and foster a bond.

So proud of envy putting those therapy and counseling sessions to work and speaking with confidence and boldness to stepped in truth and setting an example and respecting self family and friends in his circle as well as others encountered. You are WOKE UP, lol lol lol

I agree 💯 a lot of my family members I don’t mess with.

This was amazing I come from a family of ten by same mother and father. This interview was such an eye-opener

Love her perspective

I love her interviews. She brings so much insight. Loved her book on boundaries. I will definitely order Drama free.

There are people who become the scapegoat for people and conversations are taking place about that person when they are not present.

I definitely saw the true colors of my mom’s family and her passing in 2021 and I definitely distance myself from them now it is what it is may God bless them all and I wish them nothing but peace and blessings, but I prefer to stay away love

Just ordered my book! 🎉🎉

I'm not mature enough to watch this yet

This is why people need to remain child free. I didn't ask to be here and I come out the womb having to immediately show grace and gratitude to the irresponsible people who had me. What a drag

Wow great interview Nedra is a God sent! Thanks for having her on can’t wait to dive into this book her other book “Set Boundaries Find Peace” changed my life forever.

I love her. And these braids have zero flaws , yes.

What about family members that want you to come around certain family members but they are super negative and may drain your energy? The person makes you feel guilty for not wanting to be around certain energies, etc. Its tricky. Its like you want to take that persons feelings into consideration but at the same time you don't want to be surrounded by drama...

This is so right on time.Thank you.

Excellent conversation I'll be sure to get the book. Thanks

Great subject today I really appreciate this ❣️

I don't think you can force closeness between siblings. It will happen naturally or it might happen in waves depending on their age and interest. As long as the love is there, that's more important.

This interview dropped at the perfect time for me. Very timely.

Already downloaded and reading and it truly did come at the right time!

I want this book!

She needs TWO checks for this 🤍🤍

Her book Drama Free is absolutely fantastic and it’s not just a book it’s a study guide so when you purchase the book purchase a big notebook, pencils, ink pens, highlighters and posted notes because baby you will be doing some serious studying and self reflection

This was a great interview. I read her first book. I look forward to reading this new book. Thanks for having her on the show.

ctg, your oldest is seeing something's you are not seeing. Listen ti her and or have that one-on-one talk with her (take her on a date; just talk and enjoy the father daughter moment); then sit back reflect, revist, review and reiterate the talk with wifey and seek her advice therein and then have family meeting to addressed any emotional feelings that each child may be embracing that needs to not be there so this dont stronghold her in her childhood and into her adult life and relationships, especially with them as siblings. Just saying. I can relate to your daughter; I see this within my own family growing up and 30 yrs later; not close with none of my siblings. Sad but i made peace with it all and told them the ball is in their corner if they choose to reach out. 30 yrs later nada

I just happened upon this incredible woman! She's amazing and I would love having her as a therapist!

Great interview and I know everyone can relate

This entire interview…🎯🎯 we need more conversations around these topics. Thank you for this conversation. 🎧🎤🫶🏾

Love this talk!

I bought this book yesterday and the set boundaries book and workbook today

I can’t wait to get this book and maybe get the others autographed too next Tuesday! 🤗🤗🤗

Fostering vs Forcing vs Establishing Answer: Fostering the closeness with siblings

I have a training coming up with Queen Nedra… can’t wait!!!

Reading this book this month! Can’t wait to get into it!

This is so needed 🙌😌

Please bring her back from time to time. She is great 👍🏽😊

I have 6 brothers on my fathers side and I don’t have a close relationship with any of them. It’s completely normal for me. 🤷🏾‍♀️

This is a great conversation. I’m going to purchase the book.

As lawlessness became the Norm, vigilantism will Also become the norm...

I wish to get to meet this woman one day

I've been seeing Nedra for years and she is amazing

Being the only child has its pros and cons - more so pros LOL

Axé. Asante sana

Enjoyed this conversation

Incredible interview 🙌🏽

The best I heard in a long time.

I * Wanted G . E . O So Bad 💙 😭 ----- Queen 👑 💎 Great Lesson Learned * The State 🐠 🇯🇲

Wow this was great!!!!

Wonderful!!!

I totally agree with Envy we are losing that lineage and stories

Envy, I agree… the art of storytelling is being lost… we need to tell/talk about our family members, so we can be proud of who we are and the resiliency that has sustained us

you get thee kids Today 🔷️ * Extinction 🔥

True for beginning

Awesome interview

Ms. Nedra you're a very pretty lady. And your dimples are on fleek...

We don't have to have a reason to set a boundary. We don't have to not answer the phone if we have a job. We can just choose not to answer the phone. We don't have to have a reason.

My fav IG therapist 💜💜

The reality is that the older generation tried with the little they knew despite trauma to have everyone be together but in a Western world as time went on and humanity became more selfish many people don't care to have or built authentic relationships and most times this is revealed through time or tragedy

Loveeeeeee her!!!!

FACTS 🎨

i love her yes!

So you “like some kids more than others”😁 but love them the same.

Really nice 👍

❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥

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