FJ: “INFJs can be too sensitive and can’t handle criticism” Me, an INFJ: “omg! How could he say that?! I am totally NOT that way. That hurt my feelings so much.”
FJ: “For the INTJ, the stereotype is that they’re like robots, just going around trying to do the most efficient thing possible.” Me, an INTJ: “Yes, but when are we going to get to the NEGATIVE stereotype?”
INFP depression is when we feel we’re stuck in society’s expectations. If we’re following our heart, we’re nowhere near depression 🦋 just don’t bother us 😁
I think the INFJ stereotype comes from perfectionism too. We often feel like we are putting our whole souls into well, everything, and thinking hard about everything and everyone, so criticism is taken hard. It feeds into the “I can never do enough” story.
I relate for the perfectionism (maybe that's why I done art study) Personally, for the criticism, If I don't know the person, I will avoid/ignore this person. If I know a little more the person, it depend if I feel a connection with of not, If I see/feel if the person is good or not, I will try to talk. But if the person is very close to me (family or boyfriend), I can take it hard like "No, you don't know me!". With the time, I learnt to avoid criticism, i know what i'm worth, and people can't know me. I am INFJ and I have question for others INFJ : Are you very selective too when you want buy clothes, shoes, food, skincare, hoover or whatever else ? Want to be sure to do the best decision. Not every times, but most of the time.Take time to analyse, compare prices, if it's really worth it, pay as little as possible. I think yes, cause we make time to take decisions XD. But it's not our fault if this society give us too much choices XD. If we could come back to the essential maybe.
Yeah. We have high standards for people but for ourselves too (often, I find that they are often harder for myself) and we always/most of the time try to do our best. So when we have spent so much time and energy on something it can be hard to be told it (or us) isn't good enough. I will add that it also depends on the context and how criticism is given. A healthy INFJ is able to handle constructive criticism because it is objective, respectful, and useful (it helps get better). But if it isn't constructive, respectful, or full of hypocrisy (like someone criticizing me for something they themselves do and refuse to acknowledge or work on) ... Hell to the no!!!
@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes Yes, I am selective too and I think it is a good thing. Consumerism doesn't bring happiness, but choosing the right stuff for oneself can help bring more comfort/practicality/confidence into your life and therefore more peace of mind (which I associate with true hapinness). I have very little money so I want any purchase to be worth it and I see them as an investment: I want the best I can afford. Another bonus is it helps to it avoid impulse shopping and retail therapy ;)
How to make an INTP happy: 1. Let them have a lot of time on their own to live in their thoughts. 2. Don't try to talk about feelings. 3. No. Seriously. Don't try to talk about feelings.
@@ceilinh6004 Please stop trying your hardest to act like the most basic stereotype. It's cringe and slighty irritating to read especially because I know you don't act entirely like that irl.
As my boyfriend is an INTJ I can totaly agree that people often see him as a robot, and this dude is aware of that, he doesn't tell me but sometimes he feels insecure about it, because he is not someone who likes to show emotions but he got em, and people often hurt him thinking that he just doesn't care about whatever nonsense they say about him. But he is really passionate, he is into arts, and he is a caring person that just won't set up a show just for you to notice he is feeling something I'm a fangirl for my boyfriend, sorry xd
I relate to this so much! Especially the fangirl part 😂😂 but yeah my boyfriend is an Istp (I'm not sure though) but he once talked about how everyone assumes he's this super chill guy who's not phased by anything which is why anyone can say anything to him and he'd still have to pretend just to keep that image intact. And I feel for him so much, and here's to hoping that it gets easier for him someday. ✨
Hi, I’m INTJ. It’s not that we don’t show our feelings, is just that sometimes we see emotions as something that’s not that important. But they’re important. At least is how I see it
I'm an INFP and well, I understand that stereotype. I'm not depressed but I feel emotions on a deep level and sometimes all the sad and unfair things about the world seem to overwhelm me a bit
INFP here too and SAME!!! Whenever I hear bad news from someone I know it ruins my day but I can't help but try to be a "therapist" to people I know and then I absorb all the stuff that they are dealing with like a freaking sponge.🤦♀️
Same with me and that gives me anxiety and I physically become sick, I mean you tell me how long can someone listen to stupid people with patience and not become depressed 😫😫😫 not long, at a point it becomes frustrating 😑😑😑😑 and thats when I go to hibernation
Umm one more thing......your comment is a fact okay..no one is ignoring you, maybe it was not above other comments thats why very few people found it...(please don't get offended at me)
My INTP friend's laziness inspires him to work. For example, "It's so annoying that I have to spend five minutes typing in this information. Instead I'll just write a program that will do it for me!"
An INTP myself and I believe that the stereotype of being lazy is true. But happens when we don't like to do something. If we are really into certain topic or activity we can be very motivated
This is so true. I used to have this bad rep in high school because I was seen as this very lazy guy who didn't care about grades, but if I was interested in the subject at hand I'd be top of the class, much to my classmate's incomprehension.
What struck me is that the INFJ's introverted feeling function is one of their shadow functions (critical parent), so truly knowing their own feelings and trusting other's authenticity of their expressed feelings can emerge as problems in times of stress or anger. They can become very indecisive for themselves and can attack others by accusing them of insincerity.
I've heard that INFJs tend to be either counselors OR mystics, and that both varieties looks sidelong at the other one. This 100% lines up with my experience (lots of INFJs in my family).
As an INTJ, I can say I do feel A LOT. It's just that I don't show my feelings to everyone. But I think I feel very profoundly but I don't go around showing those feelings
Yes, that's Fi. For INTJs it is a simple, trusting, and profound function. It's Fe, the maintenance of interpersonal emotions, group harmony, and the like, that is the INTJ weakness. I personally find a lot of value in remembering times when other people have set me at ease and made me feel understood. Then I see what patterns of speech and action on their part helped me to feel this way.
Yes, ya'll feel A LOT. My INTJ husband, can have really intense emotions. Just not in front of most other people. And he won't talk about his emotions, he just feels them and can't/won't explain them. He'll just cry on me in silence and then never talk about it again. INTJs are special in that way.
@@alextorres990 yes, exactly. The only people that have seen me cry my eyes out are my parents, and they know not to ask questions and just hold me and then I would move on and continue as if nothing happened
INTJ's are not emotionless robots. My INTJ boyfriend doesn't show emotions very often, but when he does he does it in his own unique way and I think it's much better than standardized romantics.✨ And as an INFP (WHO RARELY CRIES!) I am more than ok with that, cause I'm the same in that way.
My husband is INTJ and my daughter is ISTP. From my years of observation, I've concluded that their emotions are actually more powerful than the average - more powerful, even, than mine (an INFJ.) That's why they (the emotions, not the people 😆) need to be suppressed and controlled at all times.
Damn im INTJ and my wife is INFJ too. How are the chances if that, being the 2 rarest types in theory 😂 Also….will my daughter be ISTP too?? I will remember that post one day 😄
Oh! For a second I was confused! Now I know who you are! You're the house, from that Disney movie... No, not monster house... That was Pixar, I believe... The Disney movie were they win a house(or something, the early 2000s is a hazy time), and the house falls in love with that dad... It kinda doesn't sound right now, but I know boondocks did an episode, where, get this! The house falls in love with Richard, and destroys his life.... That's you, you're that house.. so cold and calculating? Observed them? People watch people, and learn, and grow with people... Houses observe people...
as an INTP, i can definitely identify with the lazy stereotype heheh but even more than that, a stereotype i often hear about us is that we're indecisive, and at least for me that stereotype is 100% true. often it's less about being lazy, and more about just simply not knowing where to start, if that makes sense? i can start hundreds of projects, but not finish a single one of them, and that's because my indecisiveness and laziness mesh together in the worst way possible. i am too unmotivated to finish tasks / projects i was enthusiastic about previously, but i'm also too unsure of which project to focus on, so i end up starting hundreds (and being equally excited about all of them in the beginnings) and never ever completing something.
IM AN INFP and went to a party last night, and was in a GREAT MOOD. Yet, 3 people still told me I seem so sad! I'm like what no I'm not I'm literally in the best mood ever. And THAT, makes me sad. 🤣
Ugh yeah, I got so much of this in my life. I think over time I've learned some Fe skills and can now make my moods/feelings a little clearer to others.
@@mayconreyes3446 thats another stereotype, im an INFP but I like to go to parties too. as long as i go with my bestie (shes an ENFP and is way more outgoing than LOL)
Bruh its so true as an ISTP. People think i hate everyone and dont wanna feel anything, I would just be sitting there and someone would ask me why i look so sad or angry like dude im just trying to do my work, this is just my face.
@@aavaron right i legit had someone random come up to me and say “hey just hang in there its going to be ok” then just leave and i was hella confused cause i was sitting there
I'm not an istp but intp. I hate when this happens I keep getting "why does your face look so dead?" "Are you okay?" "Did something happen?" No. Just how I look. Thanks for pointing it out now let me be :>
@@klee5318 it is really more individual, I think it has to do with becoming aware of yourself and being well rounded. It has to do with the end goal. My INTJ brother tells me he believes that logic is the worthiest goal, and feelings get in the way. I say (infp) that your end goal is what is right or whatever goal you believe is good based on circumstance, and logic is just the tool to get you to where you want to be. Infps probably are more likely to use logic as a tool, not as their goal. So I think personal responsibility will make the most difference to whether or not they are logical. Because feeling has different levels (it can be fleeting/whims, and it can go up to your fundamental purpose), so lower levels of feeling can deter your thinking (ie I don't feel good admitting this, despite my commitment to the truth, so now the logic is faulty), but if it is a higher level of feeling, like your fundamental purpose, your logical processes should be in line with that.
My infp friend really rarely cries! And she is logical quite often Though she also does have the stereotype that she'll go in her shell for some time and all of that...
The other stereotype about intps (and entps) is that they’re really intelligent and arrogant about it. I’m an intp (not sure, probably gonna change my mind tmr) and I wouldn’t say I’m dumb but I don’t think I’m superior intellectually to other people. I think I’m average + I think some people who like to read more would probably outsmart me in maaaany cases. The fact that I’m in my mind all the time doesn’t make me more intelligent.
Exactly. For all NT there is that stereotype about being super smart and intelligent and likes to know all... But actually it's same as every other type. We just rely more on thinking trait and then add to that N trait where we seek deeper meaning and there you have it, stereotype of being intellectual. I, for example, really like to concentrate just on my field and to clear my mind of every other thoughts or knowledge, so I can even forget something that I used to know.
Just to maybe clarify, because I am not a native speaker: I don't like to hold on to knowledge that I know I wouldn't need and that isn't in my spectrum of interests. I prefer to have "more space in my mind" for other things and stuff that are important to me. I am little bit embarrassed to mention but I think sometimes I even come across as IGNORANT to others because of that. But I rather be that then like them pretend to know everything about anything when really they don't have clues what they're talking about. Ok I am gonna finish talking I already start getting annoyed at paradoxes here.
@@lucyk2634 this is exactly what i do as well. My field requires a lot of studying and I spent all my intellectual batteries there. I even figured out that when i tried to broaden my knowledge to more and unrelated subjects, even though I enjoyed it, I became less good at my own field and less motivated.
If it's the old "INTJs are emotionless robots" stereotype, yeah, I call BS. I'm snarky, crass, blunt, and I have a dry sense of humor. I am NOT robotic.
As an ISTP I’m not cold at all. I’m literally the mom friend in a group of feelers and initiatives, but yeah talking about feelings makes me uncomfortable lol.
I think when INFJs have a hard time with criticism it's because they've already Ni-Ti cycled through a million possible criticisms of self, and they have just reached the point of being too tired to hide their exhaustion.
Also I think it sticks with them and they live with even the smallest criticisms. Like I am an INFJ and I feel like I can handle criticism fine (I've learned it the hard way), but that doesn't change the fact that every single criticism I receive, it keeps going around my head all the time no matter if I agree ot not. I usually don't get hurt emotionally or resent it, but I just try to balance my Ti and Fe because if my Ti doesn't make sense of the criticism yet I feel like I've disappointed someone or hadn't met the needs of others or was being selfish, then that really gets me.
@@defnesime1807 yeah. Some of the more hurtful things do seem to linger longer even when I feel the criticism was logically misplaced, it still ends up eating at me. And I think these criticisms can stack upon themselves over time in our self analysis.
Me as an INFJ gets very upset when someone tells me I’m sensitive. Which just proves I’m sensitive, but you don’t have to tell me. Keep it to yourself. I already know don’t say it out loud
I am an INTP and I love talking about emotions! Of course when I talk about emotions its mainly me logically analyzing them and trying to figure out how they work. Its really comforting to take the craziness that is emotions and attempt to fit them into easily understandable systems. I do relate to the lazy stereotype, its so hard to get myself to do something when I'm not interested in that thing.
@@snoopydogg7305 Yes, any type can be emotional. And any type can be logical. It's not an all-or-nothing dichotomy. It's about what drives you and your life choices *more*, even if it's only slightly more.
Same for me ;) And yes, I am definetely intp! Emotions have their own logic, they are not illogial. I developed that way with the help of close people who are feeling types. And thanks to psychology and the Non-Violent Communication concept. Probably also because I have high sensitivity (that concept where your perceptive filter is more porous).
As intp i can't never really say what I feel even when I'm angry I never scream or cry I'm always calm and firm with my words and my emotions last very little I forget them after a day lol that's weird bc people think I'm sweet but I'm just polite 🤷♀️so when they see me react to certain things they end up think that I'm fake or cold in reality.. I hate people 😐
ENFP here; You’re correct about organization. Most of my life has been disorganized but in my later years I realized how useful organization is which in turn allows for freedoms elsewhere 👍
@@rohitagrawal5052 you can try these instead: sakirnova.net/functions or personalityjunkie.com but tbh the most effective way of knowing your type would be understanding the cognitive functions and see which arrangement describes you the most. you can read about it in personalityjunkie.com/functions-ni-ti-fi-si-ne-te-fe-se/ edit: you can find the descriptions similar with what frank has been teaching us until now
Yeah, that one kind of annoys me. My N is actually quite high. I really do rely heavily on it to make my way through life. Besides, when I read the INTJ vs ISTJ, there is no question. I care not a whit for your traditions and institutions or your "that's the way we've always done it". ISTJ, yeah.. That's my father.
It's so easy to distinguish both when you meet them irl though. One acts like it's semi autistic when you first meet it then it becomes fun after a while the other acts normally and it stays normal after a while.
I (INFJ female) have been dating an ISFP male for 1.5 years, and he definitely embodies "I'm doing what I want to do right now" mentality, he's extremely spontaneous, and he also becomes so focused on the task at hand that he completely loses track of time. At first his "flakiness" bugged me, but now that we're so close, he knows my time is precious, and he's pretty good about sticking to plans. And I'm not gonna lie, it feels pretty great when he'd rather keep hanging out with me than tend to his other priorities that day lol. Frank is totally right though: my ISFP hates planning, and when someone invites him to do something and he agrees to it, it's because he genuinely wants to do it in the moment. But when the day comes, he might go skiing three mountain ranges away because he figures he can fit them both in on one day (spoiler; he can't) XD. We were running about an hour and a half late to a friend's bbq once, and when I asked him if it would be rude to show up so late, he said "it's better to make an appearance than not at all," so like...meeting up with people does mean a lot to him...he's just not very good about time management / planning.
I had this issue with my friend/neighbor and because of past trauma I took it personally and as though he was playing games even though I do know this just how he is with everyone. Hmm. Something to think about.
Can you tell me more about him? I really want to understand the ISFP type because there's nearly zero information about them on the internet for some reason
I'm an INFP and admit I tend to expect people to be mind readers. I might seem depressed, and do have depressive episodes, but mostly I'm fine on the inside; I'm just thinking.
i literally cried when someone said to me "im not a god damn mind reader, just tell me" and of course in my shaky lil voice i asked " why the fuck not?"
Uh. Very true. I'm an INTJ and my sister is an INFP and sometimes she finds me rude because I didn't say certain things when she wanted to hear it, didn't spend time with her when she wanted, etc... BUT she never told me about what she wanted so most of the time I'm very confused 😃👍
ENFJ here: Although not the stereotype mentioned, I've found a fair amount of stuff online, branding us as liars and manipulators so figured I'd share my thoughts just in case anyone has been hurt by it or has felt that way about us. When we try to help people we aren't as likely to bluntly say this is your solution, we're more likely to hint hint nudge nudge after presenting some options, at least from my experience. Mostly this is because we want you to be able to come to that decision for yourself. Its your life, not gonna tell you how to live it. If you don't follow the advice and we seem upset (again see this a lot online) its more than likely something went wrong and we're thinking was there anything I could have done better to help you or just sad that you're sad. Another thing is the diplomatic way of speaking can come across as fake or you're hiding something because there's no way you're just doing this to help, what's in it for you? You're trying to control me etc. Genuinely just want to help. No ulterior motive. Just want you to be your best happy self. Hope that helps someone out there. As for what was mentioned in the video about intelligence, I used to get that a lot as a teenager from people who didn't know me from school. I used to travel quite far for school so I joined air cadets -closer to where I lived- which can at times be militant and I was there with my people based thinking amplifing it making me seem naive. When I eventually changed school so I wouldn't have to travel as far. Couple people I knew from cadets went to my new school and saw me in top sets doing "smart" subjects, their shock and confusion was honestly hilarious to me 🤣
INFJ here: Yeah those articles don’t make any sense, the last type I’d expect to be a liar or a manipulator is ENFJ’S because they have extraverted feeling and are really empathetic. In fact some ENFJ’S sacrifice their own needs for others to keep peace within the group because they value other people’s feelings.
@@Lulu-xr8nh yh I used to do that a lot. Do that a bit less now to be a bit more transparent after one person in my friendship group somehow got it in their head I was a saboteur targeting them. Rest of the group knew I was actually going out of my way to keep them comfortable and tried to let them know. The person assumed I'd turned their friends against them. I think if I'd shown a bit more how I was thinking and feeling the misunderstanding might not have happened.
Yess this is quite accurate, and about the "manipulation", I've seen something that basically sums up why ppl can often misinterpret our kindness: they think 'it's too good to be true' loll (when in reality we often do want the best for everyone)
I am, indeed, one of the few non-depressed INFPs. I get existential, sure, but I'm pretty good at grooving through life and keeping my chin up. My Christian faith has a lot to do with it, certainly, but I've maintained the mindset that, when it comes to pain and heartbreak, it can always be worse, so be thankful for what you have.
As a Christian ENFP, it’s so wonderful to hear how your faith has given you this sense of hope and encouragement-I feel the same way :) You sound a bit like a Christian friend of mine who I believe to be an INFP! I hope you have a lovely day :)
Entp stereotype that annoys me: “Entps are sociopaths. They cant understand other ppls feelings but just put on masks for everyone they interact with.” Ive seen this wayyyyyyy too much.
For what it's worth, I tend to like ENTPs. Some of my favorite peeps, amusing with a certain charm. Bf is an ENTP and he is quite sweet to me, does random nice things. Had a friend some time ago that helped me through a really tough time that was an ENTP. Heck, the only seasonal employee at my work that I remembered her name was ENTP (Gabby, cuz she likes to gab, lol). ...but what do I know? I'm INTJ and therefore automatically have the autism, lol.
INTP. Need a mentor/tutor to force me into doing work. I schedule all my tasks to perfectly to every minute and end up not doing the tasks. I need a real and strong motivation to do things which I can't find. Strong motivation is where my problem is.
Istj We are boring with the people who not interested with them... but it turns perfectly with those close ... we will suddenly become a funny people (English isn't my native language, so i'm sorry for the mess)
Yeah you are right... Close people probably can rely on you and I appreciate that A LOT. Also if someone aren't unpredictable or adventurous doesn't mean they are boring.
Yeah I’m an INFJ and I’m sure my best friend is an ISTJ and she’s really responsible and organised on the outside but she’s also really funny and we have great banter so I wouldn’t necessarily call istjs boring
Before this starts I can tell how much we INFPs have to suffer , The stupid dumb stereotypes say that we are emotional, sweet, pure little snowflakes. Like HELL we are. Honestly if we get bad we become sorta pessimistic, I personally have extreme anger outbursts and that s cuz I got my turbulence percentage as 100% (true) . It's so terrible how they all sum us up as snowflakes, crying or being kind does not make us weak. I just had to vent out honestly, I'm an infp and I kept plotting revenge for this classmate who tried to cyber bully me for months, and finally I roasted him directly in a speaking skills assessment. INFPS are NOt snowflakes.
As an INFJ, I am sensitive to everything, but I am also an HSP. I am sensitive to criticism...lol. I also nerd out about stuff such as supernatural stuff, Elder Scrolls, and fantasy stuff. My fiance is an INTJ. Frank, I completely agree with you on this. He is very efficient, he is a star trek nerd, and he tells me he is sensitive and has a lot of feelings, he just keeps them to himself and that there are more important things for him to worry about...lol. But, he is the closest anyone has ever come to understanding me, which is nice. Everybody except for, well basically myself, perceive him as cold, aloof, and unfriendly.
You chose a good stereotype for INFJ. I think when we seek understanding, the extra interest or effort can sometimes be misinterpreted as us being sensitive about it. Most of the time I'm just wanting to paint a clearer image in my mind, in the hope of avoiding miscommunications and to better predict how something might develop lol.
14 hours? Why must you hurt me this way? **Beep boop** Efficiency can be applied to a lot of things. If the most efficient way to achieve the result is robot mode, then so be it.
Actually I don't see what is so bad about that. Yes, when your with friends and family, you don't want to come off as robotic. However in a work environment that disposition could be very useful.
No plz dont ever change. I like my INTJs as robots, they feel good to be around, I don't have to think about my extroverted feeling of other people in converstations with them
As an ENFP some negative stereotypes I've seen for my type are: a) We can't ever be serious b) We never stick with one thing till the end Could you make a misconceptions about the 16 personalities video?
Finally my time to shine: Stereotypes are based on the unhealthy types. Yes lots of people with a type are unhealthy, but it makes the healthy types feel excluded. Sometimes healthy ones even get reactions like “that doesn’t sound very xxxx to me. Are you sure of your type” I think there should be both healthy and unhealthy stereotypes
As an INTP, I can vouch for the fact that I spend my days wondering how to build my life in this reality in such a way that I will have all that I care about, without having to labor for it. I can be hardworking, but it has to come from an intrinsic desire, rather than serve somebody else's interests selflessly.
As an ENFP, I enjoy cleaning and organising when I'm with a group of people or when I am doing volunteer work! 😆 For example, cleaning up the school, street, or a river is exciting! I feel like I'm doing good stuff to the environment and people, which makes me feel good. 🌏♥️ But, cleaning my room is still challenging cuz there isn't much external motivation, I guess. 🤔 Being passionate only about myself is difficult, and I think many ENFPs feel the same way.
That's interesting. I've been in relationships with ENFPs where I have to say motivational things to get them to clean. I'm INTJ and it doesn't come naturally, so I would really over-act the Fe for a joke. It worked though!
there is something about it. There is no way I will start cleaning my apartment unless I put music reaaaly loud, maybe have a drink so I can have a little party, dance and sing during cleaning xD
@@Hypatia350 That's amazing! Gotta thank INTJs for helping us. 🥰 ENFPs tend to start overthinking when they're alone or doing simple tasks, so having someone to talk to while doing them is very helpful. Cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, etc. could be fun when I'm with other people or when I do them to make others happy. 😌
I am an ENFJ and it's kinda true, people don't think I am smart till I get really comfortable with them and don't filter the internal thought process in my mind. I am known as the philosopher in my friend group along with my BFF who is an INFJ. I can be really smart when you need me to. Just because I shun my thoughts down to not make others uncomfortable doesn't mean that I am dumb.
I’m an INFJ and I honestly don’t understand this stereotype I feel like ENFJ’S are very smart especially when it something they’re passionate or serious about and they’re really perceptive
@Millie I'm a people pleaser as well and that's the reason I don't show my intelligence cause I got and still get a lot of crap for being a "nerd" but all I say is basic common sense (minus the occasional philosophy)- -2w3 Virgo Gryffindor ENFJ (I'm quite the leader lmao)
@Millie I have body somatization too (on a mild extent tho, mine is more on the panic attack, anxiety attack, and general body not being the physically fittest tho)-
As an INFJ, my initial reaction to criticism can be a little sensitive or defensive at first but then almost immediately I say to myself, “I can see where they’re coming from.” Lol
Yeah if my initial reaction is defensive or anger, the logical side of me will eventually come in and realise I only feel that way because I think they're right haha
As an INTJ I completely agree with what Frank said about us. I hate leading off with emotions, or making decisions on emotions. But I have them! Also, yes; I most definitely love to nerd out over things.
I am an ENFJ, and I think a lot I personally stopped bringing out all that thinking because the people I know tend to shut me down when I do so, whenever I "hurt their feelings" or "make them look bad" (sometimes I prioritize practicality over feelings)
hit the nail on the head with ENFP! I've struggled with organisation for most of my life, but I'm starting to see it as more of a gateway to better things now! thanks for the great content, Frank!✨
What about biggest misconceptions about each of the types or incorrect stereotypes? For example, I'm an INFJ and I often get perceived as judgmental because I'm always thinking about my morals and values. And I'm like, no, I'm judging myself all day, IDGAF what you do.
I understand why we, ISTPs, can appear cold and unfeeling. I don't like to talk about my feelings (if I do, it means that I really, really trust you), but I don't have problems in listening to other peoples feelings. BUT that's only if I care about that person. If not, then I don't give a damn about their feelings. I can try to pretend, but usually not for long.
As a INTP I can confirm. I literally went into this thinking about me being lazy. I have always said: "Everything worth doing is doing right. Most things just aren't worth doing."
It's wierd, that stereotypical INFJ "I'm sensitive thing" some ppll definitely have seen that. But most of my friends would call me a psycho, because sometimes I see things in absolutes and make darker jokes then a senser ever could. Edit: yo. The absolute thing? I keep hearing that INFJs don't see it that way. I know I dont either. I JUST MEANT SOMETIMES. BECAUSE FOR COMEDY. CHILL I've been told we're insensitive but sensitive
@@jazmine9570 I hear you. I don't see absolutes either, but my humor can sometimes cross a line, at least by others' standards. I tend to keep thoughts/opinions to myself within my family, for same/similar reasons you describe.😊
Insensitive but sensitive is exactly how I've described my INFJ best friend. And she definitely sees things in absolutes. Pretty sure she's not a sith though...
I am an INFJ married for nearly 50 years to an ESTP you have given me insights that are very helpful now that we are both retired and spending a lot more time together.
My best friend is an ESTJ and the guy is the most extroverted and happy kid ive ever seen. Hes the typical dude whos always super energetic shouting and keeping everyone entertained. At the same time, hes very organized and sometimes aggressive but never in a "cold" and calculating way.
Oh Frank dear, wouldst thou beest so kind as to createth for us, thine viewers, a video of thou discussing the Four Humours/Temperaments?? I thankest thee.
I would like someone discussing how four elements are each a different state of matter (doesn't have to do anything with mbti but I was just thinking about it): EARTH - solid WATER - liquid AIR - gas FIRE - plasma
@@fairyfellermasterstroke cool! That definitely makes sense. I'm pretty sure the four Humours are each related to an element Sanguine: Air Choleric: Fire Melancholy: Earth Phlegmatic: Water. I personally want to see how the four elements are related to the four seasons!!
My ISFJ (middle leaning, so no extremes) s/o is actually open for new expeciences, but he'll not come up with anything by himself. If you let him be, he'll eat the same foods all the time and follow his routines of work, fitness, paintball until the end of times. But he'll go along with my ideas, maybe in a more grounded way then I had imagined it. Same with another close ISFJ friend. The three of us actually often do stuff together, since it's so easy for me to come up with something they'll both enjoy. I'm ENTP btw. It's like they are very fun loving people, they just forget they are if no one reminds them.
Thanks for your ISFJ comments! They are true for me also as an ISFJ, and you made my day. It’s wonderful that you recognize what the people in your life need and go out of your way to be a help. If every type would use their strengths for good, this world would be a better place!😊
You mom said “not good with empathy” ? My mom just straight up said: “If your going to keep being a cold hearted jerk your gonna lose all your friends Bc they won’t put up with your crap-“ And I didn’t even know I said something wrong lol
As an INFP, I usually always show up but two hours later than everyone else, lol. It's because most of the time I actually wanna do the thing (or I don't say yes to begin with) but when the time comes it just takes forever to drag me out of my introvert daydream state, get into the shower, get dressed... and then suddenly I remember all the other little things I was supposed to be doing this day and decide to do them RIGHT THEN when I'm actually supposed to leave the house because I'm already late for the event. I always feel kind of sorry for being late but the urge to do whatever I'm driven to do in that very moment is indeed stronger :D
I'm an Esfj always talking about my friends... When my istp friend says "I don't wanna talk about my feelings and I don't care other people's feelings either" I don't know what to talk about anymore
Haha. As an INFP with an ESFJ mother, we don't have many common topics, but at least we can talk about feeler stuff to some extent. She and my INTP brother have a harder time.
Really?!?! wow- As an ENTJ, my ISTP friend is the person I relate to the most out of anyone in my entire life. When she says stuff like that or says something about how she doesn’t know how to get crying people to shut up, I just say “Oh yeah I get it. Basically your supposed just give them a hug, even if it’s not genuine it snaps them out of it faster. And then just tell them their ok until they believe you. It’s slightly inconvenient but their less likely to cry to the next time. Cause if you ignore them they’ll get mad.” Cause me and her are very much alike and there are very few people that We can really relate to. But she is my FAVORITE person in the whole world. I have a lot of “friends” but she’s the only person that when I add her to my schedule, (Which meant I like her a lot) she adds me to hers to! My other friends I try SO HARD to be nice to them, but everything I say offends them and I don’t know why.
@@sweeterlemons3062 I mean, the OP is an ESFJ, so of course she's going to have a different experience than you. ESFJs are extremely people-and-feelings-oriented.
@@sweeterlemons3062 @meowmix I wish I could relate to ISTP like that! Omg I annoy him all the time and he hates it. I do want people to hug me if I cry and I do get upset if you don't lol like last time I was like "what else do you want me to talk abt!?" He said "let's just talk abt dirt" idk why he still talks to me honestly lol
Regarding INTJ and INFJ: I think it wholly depends on whether they're around People or not. And I would argue that it's the INFJ that's actually _more_ robot-like. Let me explain: Because INTJ has Ni coupled with Te, most people are going to see the Efficiency Based thinking and predicting that they do, they'll come across robot like in most social situations. However, they have this Fi Core, it's something they value, they Do have feelings, but it's not their preferred way of interacting with humans, and they might not show it to just anyone. INFJ's have Ni coupled with Fe, which means that people are going to notice the "social" and emotionally sensitive side, but the thing is Fe only cares about other people. The INFJ is only upset "for" other people, (because of Fe Empathy). Get an INFJ alone, where they don't have to actively use their Fe, and their primary functions they use are Ni and Ti; very personal, logical and detatched. A lot more like a robot. I'm an INFJ and I've noticed that I don't really know what I _Personally_ feel when I'm by myself. So I've come to think of INTJ's as Humans wearing "Robot Suits": They seem 100% logical, but they do have a strong sense of self, and a "moral compass". I've come to think of INFJ's as very Life-Like androids: we can come across as very warm and understanding, but inside we don't really know what we Personally feel. Our introverted functions are more like a computer than actual "organs".
@@jazmine9570 Oh yes, I definitely agree! I think it's important to be able to "sive out", and tell the difference between what You feel and what emotions you pick up from others. Are you doing this because *you* want to, or because you think it will make _others_ happy? So I totally agree that it's important to develop awareness of your own feellings. But I'm 30, and I'm still not all the way there yet, haha. It's a journey I guess. x)
I'd have to agree with this. That's why we INFJs can be so indecisive. We want to know how other people feel-and whether or not they approve-of our decisions. For us, the ultimate goal is to include ourselves as part of that collective when making decisions, factoring in our personal logical framework.
My INTP partner of 28 years work his butt off doing programming and business analysis for his company, and he makes good money doing it. His sister is an ISTP who has a doctor of audiology. I love being with both of them. As an ENFP, I find them both highly relatable.
I think the infj being sensitive to criticism comes from the obsession with perfection... Its like an infj knows what he has done what to expect of it ..and after thoroughly analyzing they create a ranges of criticism and compliment.. That they will get ... I think the problem happens when it doesn't goes how they planned it to be.
As an ISFP the flakey thing is super accurate for me. I really intend to follow through on plans but I like to do what I feel in the moment and planning is difficult.
@PestoMayo they can be a bit vocal about it, yes. Fi is a beast. High Fi users have STRONG personal opinions and beliefs formed purely on their own feelings and emotion. They follow their heart all the way. When some Ti or Te comes in and logically dismantles their opinions they FLIP!!! Fi users are VERY offended when their values are logically proven wrong.
My personal experience with ISTJs is that they are definitely not boring people. In fact, they seem to love constantly making jokes, and although they make me want to punch them in the face now and then, I also do have fun around them.
@@timefortee Are you kidding? There is zero Fe when it comes to Frank James. The dude only talks about himself. His RU-vid channel is literally Frank James and only Frank James with his face in every single thumbnail. Every video he does is Si routine and Te copied from other personalities. He is quiet and slow and doesn't care whatsoever about the Ti accuracy of anything he talks about.
The negative ISTP stereotype is spot on for my younger self. I've been labelled as cold, arrogant, icequeen, scary etc and I was all of those. Today I'm way more open and in tune with my feelings .... Still cringe when things get all mushy mushy, but it's all good
As an ENFP, the stereotype of being disorganized... is 100% true. Everyone who knows me halfway well will comment on how all over the place and chaotic and disorganized i am. But in a honesty... I am fine with a mess, ahahhhhahahahhihfkfjhkfsjdhf hehe. Also whomever is reading this... I LOVE YOU AND YOURE DOING AMAZING
I'm looking forward to comparing myself to these stereotypes. It sounds like I'll get to play a fun game of "Real or Not Real?". Thrilled to see that it's a premiere, wasn't sure if the holiday would impact the schedule. These premieres have become a part of my Sunday morning routine. Have I been "trained"? 🤣
INTP'S being lazy isn't too much of a stretch. I will say there are a lot of us that are so energetic and motivated, but most of us procrastinate and laze about the house until we only have 1 hour to do a project when we had like 2 weeks to finish it... and we didn’t even start
As an INFP i totally get the depressed bit, but I won't show too many people, if any. I like to feel my feelings feelings about their feelings. Then analyse those feelings to see how I feel about what I'm feeling. Tears usually come in about here. Then after I've read 18million research papers I'll feel better again. Meanwhile, no-one has seen me for 2months😂❤️🙏
As an INTP and a definite introvert, I think I can relate to this stereotype. Although I have no problem sitting around talking to other people, I don’t really like to talk about emotions as I found it frustrating and overwhelming. It’s not I hate emotions, but it’s because I lack of emotional support advices, so I’m still struggling to comfort those who have hard times. And if I’m arguing with someone, I just suppress someone without caring how one feels and I only stop when they pissed off or cry out loud. Ironically, I used to get torn up easily when someone speaks harsh to me😂
I am clearly an enfp, but sometimes wonder if I really am because I have become super organised- but then I remember younger me just coasting alongthrough life and causing myself all sorts of grief because life admin never happened. At some point I had to muster all my willpower and retrain myself to be organised, and now the rest of the time "I can do whatever the crap I want"... it's like FJ knows me!
Man, I'm also an INFP and when he said that it hit home 🥺 I'm always trying to understand why I've been like this my whole life. Damn you 16 personalities 😂
Oof ngl that stereotype is pretty true for me as an ISFJ, I definitely have a hard time diverting from traditions. Change is hard for me but I try to adapt when I need to
I'm an INTP and I'm not lazy at all. Actually, I'm more like a workaholic. I think what's misinterpreted as "lazy" is just a tendency to postpone decision-making because before we can decide, we need to collect a lot of information.
Yeah as an INFJ I can relate to the decision-making before we can decide because before I jump into a project, I need to have all the information and come to a conclusion in my mind about it. Also although INTP’s have a hard time executing their ideas into the real world, they are geniuses so I give you props for that
My brother-in-law is an INTP and he's a project lead at an engineering firm. From what I've heard through the grapevine, though, he has a hard time relating to/better understanding his team.
ESFPs also have Fi, which means that we're not ready to share all our thoughts annd feelings and life views with any person we meet and most peole will not develop a deep enough relationship with us to realise that there's way more there than what they first saw (it often surprises people how much it takes to get us to trust them with our deeper feelings, especially if they use Fe) which leads people to believe that the only side there is to us is the spontaneous, disorganised, never slowing down enough to appriciate what really matters side that we present to the people we don't know.
I am an Enfp and you are so right about the stereotype for me lol, you talked about how we are disorganized except when we discover we have to be organized so then we can have fun. I only recently learned that myself, and boy did I wish I learned that sooner, it could’ve saved me a lot of heartache!!! Also, my best friend is an Istg, ( I know complete opposites) and it’s true I think at the end of the day she feels a certain commitment to do what is orderly, but she also isn’t afraid to have fun (after some convincing by me lol)
