Never be Saddened by a Separation - Miyamoto Musashi I Lone Wolf Mentality 

Trank you so much for sharing. In this video we explicitly talk about toxic environment. Regarding your other point on comfort, I recommend you watching my video on the “warrior of the light” and “fear”.

Lesson 5 is probably the most difficult, in my humble opinion. Even though people can do whatever they want, we are often disappointed when they don't show reciprocity.

This, right here. 💯!

@@smallvillepodbr3 For real. I always find myself getting disappointed especially when people start acting snarky out of nowhere even though you've been friendly to them.

good synopsis

That's right, and it works both ways.

That's a courageous step, which many people would never take :) Thank you for sharing! wish you all the best and have a good one!

whats that got to do w.anything???

A lot of people claim to do that and go back in a week or two LOL. How serious you are about this depends solely on you, but wishing you the best!

@@mikelh.7958 attachment/addiction to social media is real. See? It wasn't so difficult, was it?

​@Dan7974 Deleted all my social medias three years ago. Never went back. You wrong, bud.

I have one and i am pink glasses guy we are polar oposite and i love him, his pessimism brings me so much joy idk why but like his sarcastic about it idk its just really cool character to ne friend with

I don't think negative friends are okay. To be in a constant state of negativity with someone hinders you greatly because it keeps you attached to that state of mind. For example, I have a friend who's like that. And for the last three days all they can hit me up with is, "you have to watch this or hear this. You're going to cry so hard. It reminds me of...and they'll insert a negative memory." It's difficult to deal with because it can overwhelm a lot even when that's not the intention. We just have to learn to overcome when we're in a constant state of being in a certain type of mindset that hinders and master peace.

@@ISEEKSPACE Yea. It's true that negative people can really bring you down. You just have to be strong. And if they get too crazy then put them at arm's length at least. It's a fantasy to think you're going to go through life without really negative things happening to you or your family and friends. No human can be positive all the time. Toxic positivity is a bad thing too and can be just as life destroying as negativity because of its extremism. Example; I'm going to just be positive and put all my money into cryptocurrency...

My goodness.... Y even call all 3 "friends"!???

@@nidhia6925 I'm old and have had all kinds of "friends" in life :)

Thank you for sharing. I also think that one can truly love only when one is not detached/free/independent. In this way love can be unconditional. I wish you all the best. Have a good one 🙏🔥

@@philosophyboss yes, I experience non-attachment as the physical embodiment of love (unconditional or otherwise). Created through singularity into the physical embodiment of all of creation, of love. Love is all there is.

@@nicoledyer9231 You're very wise.

Same..

I have attachment and trust issues because I was raised by a psycho mam who has zero empathy or remorse. I know, I need to get over it.

What does it mean by dissolving the will ?

@@TusharSingh-ve3wg Getting rid of one's willfulness.

@@TusharSingh-ve3wg Whatever U wish to happen.... Toughest..

Love is next level of empathy, and a desire to grow either with just yourself, or also with others.

Rumis words are fine wine. He often speaks in paradoxes or hinting one thing to say another. What Rumi probably is hinting at, is that will comes from ego, and ego might be attached, but ego is not in love. Love is another force alltogheter. Love could operates in attachment and ego also, but it is not it. But if there is no will, there is no attachment, to no dream, to no man, to no future, to nothing. And love just radiates. Not from being, but from it, from love itself. So i would say, there is no desire in love, it has no need for it. It doesn't pick and choose. And yes, you must rinse fear first. And fear is sly and ever important to us, it dies with tears and a world where the very air, taste of ash.

That’s a beautiful quote. Thank you for sharing. True, you can lose possessions and relationships. have a good one🙏🔥

You do lose yourself. Momento Mori.

Thank you for thoughtfully disagreeing. I talk about the vulnerability that comes from attachment. When one is attached one’s well being depends on something external (e.g. another person in a relationship), thus becoming vulnerable. If one is attached one cannot truly love, because if our happiness depends on another person the relationship is transactional. Only when one is detached/free/independent one can love unconditionally. Have a good one 🙏🔥

@@philosophyboss Really beautifully said.

@@philosophyboss the nature of humans is to gather in groups, leaning on and depending on different people to fill specific rules in their social group. Our brains have evolved to depend on others to stay alive. It isn’t until maybe 100 years ago that a person can get a job, and survive alone without attachments. Trying to live one’s life independently, although stoic, and some may say heroic and strong, will be fighting many thousands of years of selective breeding where only those who lived and thrived depending on groups survived. And where those who lived independent were less likely to take a spouse, and have children, and more likely to live very short lives. This means their dna and mind set are less likely to be passed down to new generations. I believe our brains are wired to seek out people that you can trust to have your back. Co dependency is written in our dna. So a majority of people will not survive mentally or physically if faced with life in solitude, or without attachments. As proof, the majority of individuals who have mental health issues are those unable to create and maintain social bonds.

Perhaps for girls

Brilliance

Appreciate you. yeah, one of my favourite movies!! have a good one :)

-Tyler durden

Ways/practices that help you detach from others?

@@RomieTheFireOx Focus on your attention in the present moment.Recognize it until it becomes second nature

​@@timchavis9420 real facts

But I also understand why this philosophy and others, like stoicism appeal to men lately. Making emotional connection isn’t easy when you aren’t used to being vulnerable or feel like there isn’t space for it. It’s a lifelong journey, but finding the balance between community and solitude is the goal.

Thank you for sharing. :) I think if one is attached one cannot truly love, because if our happiness depends on another person the relationship is transactional. Only when one is detached/free/independent one can love unconditionally. Have a good one 🙏🔥

So true for me on my journey - loss is inevitable 😊

Very true. But you forget that humans are programmed through Thousands of years of evolution to live in co dependent societies. This is encoded so deeply into our brains that a majority of mental illness is cause by an inability to make and maintain social attachments. I feel balance is understanding this human need for dependable, trustworthy people that you need in your life and learning which people are toxic and destructive to a social group,and eliminate them without hesitation. There is strength in numbers. Alone, most will not survive.

I agree with you totally. I've seen some develop mental emotional issues or personality disorders due to trying to avoid vulnerability and getting hurt. So they detach themselves, even while some pursue relationships with many people, they think they're connecting. They become like an empty vessel. They seem aloof, they're disconnected from their own true emotions and only seem capable of superficial relationships. I think it's also a problem of the modern era also where people are more isolated from one another, and outlets like media and social media are so convenient and readily available for people to "connect".

most of the negativity is self created so why learn to normalize it when you can train yourself to not created it in the first place.

@HabbanBro that's why i said most negativity. Some of it is external I agree.

Thanks for sharing.. I think both internal and external negativity are important aspects to consider.. I maybe cover internal negativity in another video :)

@@revanth87 I would argue that training yourself not to create it is the practice I describe. It will inevitably happen. Pain is certain, suffering is optional

Negativity is not reality. It exists only as illusion coming from comparing. But if you live in the moment, there is no negativity. Every moment is unique. Now, now, now. Or you can live in your thoughts, emotions, person, in short in illusion of past or future and then voila, you have negativity and positivity. But that is not reality.

Thank you for thoughtfully disagreeing! I believe that true love comes from detachment/independence/freedom. Because if our happiness depends one another person the relationship is based on attachment/dependence. Have a good one 🙏🔥

@@philosophyboss in theory that makes sense, since being attached to someone means the possibility of losing them which means suffering. But attachment and dependence is a natural part of being human. We depend on each other for many things, and you cannot have friends or children or any meaningful relationship without attachment. Unhealthy attachment is a different story. The ability to let go due to a death or the end of a relationship is an important process, which is the inevitable finality of all attachment. But I think to kid ourselves that all attachment is unhealthy or something to avoid is a mistake. If your child dies, you grieve because you are attached. A process of suffering you must have the strength to endure. When you bond with someone, you are becoming attached. I agree your happiness shouldn’t depend on a specific individual, but nonetheless the data shows that meaningful bonding relationships are one of the primary catalysts of happiness in peoples lives.

@@peripheralparadox4218 I couldn't agree more. There is a big difference between attachment and codependency. Without some level of attachment within dynamics, a dynamic wouldn't even exist. Unhealthy attached to a point of harming someone's ability to cope, soothe themselves, grow or make their own free will choices...thats not attachment. That's codependency.

@@Um_Yes yeah some Buddhist philosophy, as much as I love it, is flawed. Only unhealthy attachment is bad, and healthy attachment is necessary, even if that too can lead to pain. The desire for enlightenment in order to free oneself from suffering is understandable. But I believe the right path is to reduce unnecessary suffering, and face inevitable suffering with courage and grace and the wisdom of impermanence.

@@philosophyboss if you are attached to the belief that true love comes from detachment/independence/freedom do you believe in detaching of this attachment that will lead you to true love?

Thank you for showing love :) I agree, that's why I want to make vids about his philosophy! Have a good one :D

Praying and fasting helps. And turn to Jesus. Christianity ♥️ God bless you ♥️

Workout. Eat healthy. Stop beating off. Do that for 3 weeks JUST THREE WEEKS and you’ll feel 100% different

Blessed and cursed; the human condition.

Thank you so much for sharing. I wish you all the best. Have a good one 🙏🔥🔥

Thank you. Appreciate you :)

Thank you so much for sharing. Hope it can be helpful! 🙏🔥

Thank you for sharing. :) I think if one is attached one cannot truly love, because if our happiness depends on another person the relationship is transactional. Only when one is detached/free/independent one can love unconditionally. Have a good one 🙏🔥 like your unboxing vid btw :D

@@philosophyboss thank you! i’ve found it’s extremely difficult to detach completely in a romantic partnership. when you’re alone, or in the pursuit of another, sure. i’ve had to learn to detach from my partner in order for our relationship to work; this includes releasing jealously and other fears, surrendering and relinquishing control over outside circumstances, etc. but i think some level of attachment is a healthy and a normal part of the human experience. when close friends have died in my life, it revealed to me how attached i truly actually was to my mental concept of them and the version of me that had always known their friendship-no matter how i got on from day to day or how “detached” i believed myself to be. imo, full detachment feels very similar to indifference. you’re not swayed one way or another, therefore it doesn’t impact your choices or your spiritual journey. but what is this journey without passion? there is no inherent meaning to anything unless we decide to give it. obviously words can ultimately never encompass the full scope of such complex human experiences, but personally i’ve found that it’s better to love deeply while you can-even if that means getting attached on some level-than to lose your opportunity to ever do so. when death comes, you’re going to lose your physical form, your emotions and therefore a large capacity for loving: you’re not going to have the opportunity anymore. attachment is merely a human construct tied up with desire and dopamine. and we won’t always have our humanity. obviously attachment can create a lot of suffering while we are here, but in your (or their) final moments, the ultimate suffering might just be regret that you didn’t love all that you could. i think with anything, finding a balance is best. don’t let your attachments hinder you from creating the life you want. know that relationships are transitory and nothing endures but change. we have to become detached from even ourselves in order to find true peace.

@@OGCUSH Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and for sharing your personal experience. That means a lot to me and I appreciate it very much! In the case of a romantic relationship, I once heard a nice metaphor. When one loves the beauty of a flower, one should not have the desire to possess it. Because possessing means cutting the flower, and cutting the flower means destroying the very thing that you once love. I wish you all the best, especially health, happiness and success for the new year. Have a good one 🙏🔥

@@philosophyboss yeah, thats very true and why I have to detach from my ex. its how I will become truly happy. she has been so hot and cold that its stopped me from moving on and made me think something is still there, I've had to make the choice for her and thats to walk.

It gets to the point when you become so detached that you just don't care anymore. They are not only free to go, but they can stay gone. It's very liberating, actually.

Thank you man, I appreciate you! That means a lot to me! 🙏 I hope it can helpful to you guys :)

Some people just get it naturally, i am happy for your mother.

I'm like your mother and probably around the same age or older than your mother.

You care only because there are no other options. She isn't special.

Me also...

Been feeling like that for years

What do they represent or do, that make you feel like such? Who do you become around people, that makes being around them intolerable?

@@jonber9411 I would just prefer being alone. I find that most if not everyone is seeking their own interests anyway, and being a musician, I need a lot of personal time.

@drivventodrumm1 Creativity sure does require it's own space. 🙏

Thank you for thoughtfully disagreeing. I talk about the vulnerability that comes from attachment. When one is attached one’s well being depends on something external (e.g. another person in a relationship), thus becoming vulnerable. If one is attached one cannot truly love, because if our happiness depends on another person the relationship is transactional. Only when one is detached/free/independent one can love unconditionally. Have a good one 🙏🔥

Heartless, self-contradictory. You advocate experiencing all emotions. But do not fear. So which is it?

@@perprerp I never said don't feel fear. I'm advocating bravery towards pain. And bravery requires fear first to manifest.

@@philosophyboss Vulnerable is what humans are. To try to run away from that fact is to be afraid of being human. Being vulnerable to harm is why people even care about you. In reality, it is the external that keeps relationships and relationships, even with friends are transactional. It is an exchange of value or else you're good for nothing and you can't help anyone. If you're good for nothing, nobody wants you. Would you really be ok being useless to someone while they suffer? That's selfishness.

​@@spikeboy101 Thank you for the clarification. The approach you advocate ultimately leads to the same result as that of detachment, but less efficiently. I'm a systems engineer; so efficiency matters to me, not flowery prose or self-congratulatory qualities, or rather concepts, such as bravery. We can go through endless permutations of fear or cut the whole thing off at the root. All fear originates in the same place; they are not precious individuals jewels which we have to tend to or preserve in some way.

Thank you for sharing. Yes, there are many similarities to the stoics, which I want to cover in another series. Which stoic philosophers do you like? :)

@@philosophyboss Marcus Aurelius & Seneca have a huge influence in my life so add them in your video🙏🏾😁

Thank you for sharing. :) If one is attached one cannot truly love, because if our happiness depends on another person the relationship is transactional. Only when one is detached/free/independent one can love unconditionally. Have a good one 🙏🔥

@@philosophyboss Thank you for commenting! So true!

I have learned that concept from musashi years ago yet decided to be attached because of love .. now i feel stupid for not following his idea after we're no longer together.. how do you manage to stay positive? I can barely stay focused after what happened

@@LeoNardo-ku2wy My honesty doesn't look so poetic brother. But you must be a little bit more individualist, focusing on subjects that you like, and improving yourself, must shine back again, build another version of yourself where you have no time for pain. Also, this is a hell of experience, I got you, sometimes memories of her come in the wind, but I entered in this fire of agony, seeing things more clearly. Why she left you? Got tired of your appearance? Found someone else? Does she deserve you? Fuck the world you have to be your best friend,nobody will be around. Search a poem of Khalil Gibran called "Defeat" . The world will test us with many losses,if you are strong you can stand and overcame,. I repeat FOCUS ON YOU, in build a new version of you. Generally when we are happy everybody is around,when we cry always is alone. She will probably get disappointed too, nobody leave this world unchanged

@@aurum8766 i really appreciate those words brother .. hope we can make it out ! Stay strong

Thank you for sharing. There are many commonalities also with stoicism. Have a good one :)

Thank you for thoughtfully disagreeing. I think true love is unconditional and can only occur when one is free and independent. If one needs someone else to feel happy, love becomes transactional and conditional. Have a good one :)

@@philosophyboss In basis of philosophy and social psychology, this is a reasonable way to look at it. I agree, but could we consider looking into the side based out of parental relationship? Our infants, children are born to be attached and their parents, their mothers must reciprocate this attachment to show the basis of affection, and connection that vocalization has no basis of explanation yet due to the lack of development, instinctively this is the natural form of connection and bonding formed, and it is up to the parents to slowly introduce the children towards independence over time... however, if attachment is the basis of connecting between infant and mother, then it must be a space we have to look at as a core basis of our communities and society... Independent choices must be encouraged, but we rely on one another based out of trust and capacity for reliability, responsibility and accountability- therefore these practices naturally and inevitably will create and produce attachment. Would love to hear your feed back, thank you for sharing your work

Thank your for sharing your thoughts! I agree that with excess consumption of media one can lose connection to oneself. This is why I am a fan of digital detox :) have a good one 🙏🔥

I assume you mean yourself. Truly a legend in your own mind.

@@StimParavane Speak for yourself keyboard warrior lol..

I would offer that masculinity has nothing to do with controlling emotions; rather understanding one's emotions and that of others. Through understanding, there is control. Through understanding, there is compassion.

@@eckhardt76 Unfortunately for you I'm not a keyboard warrior. But then I'm not claiming to be a big man etc. To have control over your emotions requires being an advanced meditator. And if you were, then you would have already learned to transcend any dualistic concepts such as male and female and have realised that the ego-self is in fact illusory?

@@StimParavane and your wisdom is nothing but text book wrote memorization. True wisdom comes from authentic experience, intuition and living through the heart and knowing yourself...Not controlling your emotions out of FEAR of being hurt or a power disadvantage. Vulnerability (with discernment) is where True power lies. Your ego is deceiving you into controlling your own mind and spirit.

Appreciate your feedback and kind words! I wish you all the best for the new year. Have a good one 🙏🔥

I appreciate your words so much. That means a lot to me! I wish you all the best. Have a good one :)

Who are you? Speak, and be known

Appreciate you. That means a lot to me 🙏🔥

Thank you so much. Appreciate it. Have a good one :)

Appreciate your feedback :) have a good one!

Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience. That means a lot to me. Yes, life is precious and we deserve to be around people who build each other up. This is what I want to do with this channel. Connect like-minded people who encourage each other and spread positive energy. There is a saying that one is the average of the 5 people one spends the most time with. If they are negative and complaining all day, chances are one adapts to their behaviour. However, if they are strong-willed, encouraging and positive, chances are that one adapts to their that behaviour. The same principle can work for or against us. Energy can be contagious whether it is negative or positive. I wish you all the best for the new year! Let’s crush it! 🙏🔥

@@philosophyboss yes, let's be our true selves again. 💪

Thank you for sharing. I hope it can be useful to you. I wish you all the best :) Have a good one!!

Thank you very much for spreading positive energy :D I wish you all the best. Have a good one!

Hello friend please read the “Maha Mangala Sutta” by Buddha. You just summarized it.

@@krishnapartha thanks for the recommendation. I'll check it out

Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience!! There are a lot of commonalities between Buddhism, Taoism and Musashi's philosophy. Yeah fight is definitely one of my favourites!! I wish you all the best! Have a good one :))

Thanks for sharing. I think one can be loyal to one's way and have a significant other, friends etc. who support each other. I specifically talk about toxic environment in the vid. And also, if one is attached one cannot truly love, because if our happiness depends on another person the relationship becomes transactional. Only when one is detached/free/independent one can love unconditionally. I wish you all the best. Have a good one 🙏🔥

Appreciate it. Have a good one 🙏🔥

What does “broadcasting pasture seed” mean

Thank you for sharing

Thanks so much for your help

Thanks.

Thanks for sharing mate... God bless🙏🏽

Thank you. That means a lot to me. I wish you all the best. Have a good one 🙏🔥

Thank you for sharing :) have a good one!!

Appreciate you have a good one 🙏🔥

Thank you for sharing. yes, when attached one cannot truly love, because if happiness depends on another person the relationship becomes transactional. Only when one is detached/free/independent one can love unconditionally. Have a good one 🙏🔥