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A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 3 years ended 5 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t , I don’t know why I’m saying this here , I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about him .
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 7 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back .
I absolutely appreciate when guys are honest on here! Hell, that shows more spine than everyone claiming to be alpha but secretly doing what most of us do…😂😂😂
+1 for "No More Mr. Nice Guy", great book. That and 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" really hit the nail on the head about people pleasing behavior and why its never going to get you what you are after.
@@szn1580dr Robert Glover recommends salsa dancing or ballroom dancing classes for this. In his no mr nice guy book interviews. Gets you around women and you interact as a given because dancing together
Good point, but also he's in both in the sense that his _rush_ is likely at least based in part of FOMO, Fear of Missing Out of that "one true love", also known as the soul mate myth. (There can be only one,...etc.) Can't let her get away or miss out on her if she walks by and I miss, her like a dog getting distracted and chasing shiny bouncy things that pass by his field of view. It's all tied in. Good luck.
@@alphaguy1028 he has to go Content with the fact that , He had his chances . He just failed in a few . Now it's not like He never tried ... I am saying this at the age of 32. But may be I will do the same at that age .
A 49 year old guy who already has kids and probably doesn't want more should not be looking for marriage. At most, he should be looking for a long term relationship living separately (LTRLS). He can obviously get women. He's getting too invested in these woman too quickly. He should just be dating and see if someone special shows up over a long period. When that special person show up then he can do the LTRLS.
Man has a big heart, I’m the same way, kinda hard to break hard wiring. When you love everyone it takes a lot to start mistrusting and keep from attaching to people.
Focus on getting the kids raised first. Once they are, then if he wants a woman in his life he can focus on that. Women should unfortunately are a temporary thing and if he gets too attached to quickly it won’t end well.
Dunno why so many guys over 30-40s still need months to vet a women, and some will never figure out her nature until it's too late. You can vet her, at least to understand if she's viable to start, in very few dates or even exclude her in just few minutes sometimes. Just be direct, honest with what u want, ask questions, be even bold if necessary, test her limits, understand her values (if she has any), check her behaviour, don't let emotions overcome you. Uncontrolled Emotions make you dumb and blind. You Need to develop your testing skills and patterns, just like women do, and set boundaries, or you'll end up behaving like a simp. Zero tolerance to disrespect, any toxic behaviour and mental issues. Always aim for high interest womens or it's not worth it. Listen to your gut and instict, deeply you always feel if something is wrong for you, develop a connection to your higher self. When choosing a path ask yourself if it has an heart. Never go against your inner nature for pleasing others or you'll deplete yourself.
I'm 41. Guys my age and older came of age before social media. I got engaged before Facebook was even launched to the public (non-student members) in 2006. And even then it was an entirely different beast. An 18 year old now was born that year. Guys older than me would have all their dating experience in a pre-social media world. Women were mostly the same, but also way different. These guys still have the same approach and have internalized all the lies. It's the guys in the generation before who coined the "happy wife, happy life" foolishness that still prevails. Anyone paying attention realizes it's a cold world out there.
Man, you’re finally FREE. Enjoy it!! Don’t get back into an LTR, travel, workout, do what you want to do….all of the time. Hire some escorts, get a motorcycle, have some fun with the time you have left.
I would say that most of these women are hitting it with other dudes. We keep recycling our trash and have high expectations for the potential of the relationship. We live in a decadent society, be real.
Love the channel Rich and your endeavours to wake us all the fcuk up. Inspiring to see this chap literally let the penny drop on the reality we live in. ❤
You’re 1000% right. I’m a woman and it feels wrong to even hint at asking for gifts. I respect him too much. I receive and cherish everything he wants me to have and so far it’s been a more than enough. Down payment on a car (I paid him back), a few pieces of fine jewelry, date nights, and so much more. I thank him. Also, women listen up. Surprise your man with fancy stuff you save up and buy for dates and events. I put my hard earned money into keeping myself up physically and he appreciates that. If he wants to buy me anything extra, it’s the icing on the cake. I got so lucky to find a top shelf man, and I work everyday to keep him. It’s not about money in the end. It’s about having a solid supportive equitable relationship. Thanks, Rich for all your advice. It’s your advice that got me into this relationship, and keeping it going. You put fear in my heart, but the good kind.
I'm 52, I don't even think about love anymore. lol... Single, happy and have peace of mind. I feel bad for guys that still believe in love and "there's someone out there for you/ Soulmate." This poor Beta will be "stuck" in that reality for the rest of his life. "Partner?" Unfortunately he will never find "peace of mind." Seems like a good dude, but "switching tracks" from Beta to Confident & Secure rarely happens at that age.
Here’s a question I would ask this guy that wasn’t asked: Do you want more kids? I’ll bet the answer is no. And if it is no, then why do you think you need a wife? Your kid has a mother, whether she’s alive or not, whether she’s a good mother or not. It’s probably time for him to focus on himself & let the women come & go. As Rich said: you gotta dig thru a lot of dirt to find gold. Don’t rush it. When a decent one won’t leave, then consider a formal arrangement like marriage,… maybe.
Women like men whom they cannot manipulate or "read". They like men who give appreciation and positive attention, without appearing desperate or needy. Remember, when she pulls away, they you pull far, far away. When she shows interest in you, then you very slowly and cautiously let her into you life. Always appear nonchalant, calm and self controlled outwards, even if you don't feel like it. If a woman is breaking up with you, then pretend that you have some very important errands that you have to do at once. Then just tell her that it was fun while it lasted, wish her well and all the best, and leave the crime scene as soon as possible, without any further discussion. Do not under any circumstances contact her again, until she possibly again contacts you.
When I was 45, dating a woke 25 year old girl, she asked me, "Would you mind if I started sleeping with other women?" So I responded with "Would you mind if I slept with other women?" She was in shock, and then tried pulling the whole "THAT'S DIFFERENT!" routine. Then she tried enticing me with, "maybe there's something in it for you!" routine. So to respond to that I just said, "Well, there's something in it for me if I just go and sleep with other women." She expected me to kiss her ass or simp on her, but when I didn't she dropped the topic and we had a great time for a few more months before she ran off to chase the next thing. She kept coming back trying to get me back afterward but I ghosted her.
@@BelindaJon41 Coming from a troll with no followers, I'll take that as a compliment. This was years ago, when I lived in a gorgeous house in the woods next to a 39 foot waterfall and was making money hand over fist. Go ahead and watch the channel, and subscribe to find out what happened.
@@brentrosencrans3968 It didn't need to come to that. It worked. She was a bit floored by the response, and we had a good time for several months. We went on lots of road trips and had a good time - but she was young and not ready to settle down with an old man LOL.
@@brentrosencrans3968 You see 90-year-old men like Hugh Hefner with a mansion full of 20-year-old naked women running around, but you never see a 90-year-old woman with a mansion full of naked men.
Positive bro vibes here, good on him, in a year he will he switched onto reality and the nature of woman. Goodbye Mr nice guy, but he will need to do a lot of re-wiring.
"I make them my focus. I give them gifts. That's the problem." How heartbreaking for men to realize that being a good guy ends up making you alone. I wish I knew this stuff when I was a bit younger. I struggled for some time figuring this out, yet at the same time, always knew it existed. That, in essence, is the Red Pill. It's pulling back the veil of mythologies that's underpinned many relationships, and revealing a more callous world than previously understood. Once we know this, and realize that the world actually owes us nothing, then we can see the great gift that this advice really is. Thanks, Rich.
Dating sites can be of good use, when it comes to putting the message you want out there. And honesty goes a long way. Mine went like this: “looking for female companion with equally busy life, to spend quality time with. I am not seeking a long term relationship, or commitment of any kind. Seeking like minded female approx my age of free spirit and a thirst for adventure. Of course this doesn’t always work, but I had good results with being up front and honest right outta the gate.
You really don't even need to do that much. If you're an older guy, there's oodles of older women out there who are realizing how cold the world actually is. Some are decent, others are not to be touched with a 10-foot pole. If you have your sh** together, it's jaw-droppingly easy. But I'm sure you know this. But many guys need to know, that any relationship needs to be on YOUR terms, never hers. No exceptions. No, we don't give a damn about equal rights. Be kind, be courteous, never abusive, but it should always serve you first and foremost. Anything else is just setting yourself up for pain.
@@funloverdavis1796. Precisely! The days of tolerating disagreeable, contentious, malcontent women have long been over for this cat. I own my life 100%, and I don’t need any co-signers. I’ve had periods in the past 30yrs where I won’t have a woman at all. If it means bringing instability and chaos to simply have one around, I’m out. I’d rather be lonely than miserable.
My advice to this guy would be to look anywhere outside Western countries. I'm 48 and got divorced 5 yrs ago.. Just like him, I dated a lot of American women... all of them didn't have anything interesting to me. I wasn't exactly looking... Last year I went to Honduras, and I met a woman who's probably the most amazing woman I've ever met. No kids, feminine, no ex drama, baggage... A woman who has excelente values , 18 yrs younger than me.
I would say that the number one thing, above all else, regardless of age/looks/money, is NOT being thirsty - and having a mindset based on abundance. You get that right, the rest will fall into place on its own.
You won't "will not" find quality if you are chasing. You will have it come to you. It will happen when it happens. You put yourself in situations where you can meet quality women.
Never feel like YOU are 'causing an issue' just because SHE said something that does not make sense. I have come to realize that many problems arise when we allow people to say/do things that are clearly out of line and no one confronts the issue.
This poor guy is a decent guy, but sadly lacks confidence and good judgement. He's too desperate and is grasping at straws, which makes him easy prey. I've met a lot of guys like this and sadly, they often refuse to deal with the main issues contributing to their current situation. That being all of the emotional and internal stuff. Until he deals with that...he's going to continue having a rough time. This is why it's important to have your "band of brothers" who are more than just "the buds you drink with". They have to be able to deal with your emotional garbage and even force you to deal with it. A good community doesn't leave a man vulnerable to manipulation, but strengthens him to realize his own potential.
The problem with most of us guys is we’re used to the traditional way of life . Our parents , grandparents had successful marriages but we tend to overlook things have change and women Aren’t what they used to be …
We have to be comfortable being alone. Expect that we will be alone. Live your life as you want it to be. Then women will find you interesting and attractive and will chase after you.
They want to be your focus, but they don’t want you to treat them like they are your focus. Just go work out make money hang out with your friends and enjoy life and watch how women suddenly come into your circle.
I'm 50 and found me a GF after my wife (de facto) cheated on me. GF said she had a major crush on me while I was married. The rebound turned into the real deal. We're a month into it and she's green flags all around.
At 5'10" ex-model, EDUCATED, VETERAN, now at 74 looking 50 and financially ok, I could not find anyone in DECADES. Its a myth that there is someone for everyone.
RC gives great advice here, especially in the 1st half.... and this Dude wanting advice already knows that he's NOT Congruent w/his actions around the ladies
I’m 43, the main piece of advice I would give to a young guy with potential, assets, or something to lose, protect everything you have before you enter that relationship or you will lose it. Protect it at all cost!!! I’m warning you. Unless she has just as much to lose.
The only time it makes sense to me is 25 fresh out of college with a shitload of loan debt and no assets. Then when you get divorced at 28 you got nothing to lose
Only point I don’t like is the 8mill people, 1/2 are women, that’s true but you have to continue reducing the number 1/2 are in US, 1/2 are in state, 1/2 are in city, 1/2 have red flags, 1/2 are attracted to me, 1/2 are available, etc
This 8 billion in the planet line is just bullshit. How many women will you meet in a year that you could approach (age single attractive etc…)? 50? In ten years that’s 500 not 4 billion.
This is scarcity mindset. You know you can meet women online, right? You also know they don't need to be living in the same zipcode, right? Even if you whittled it down to your hemisphere, with a bunch of unnecessarily narrow filters, any man of the caliber we're all aspiring to be has access to tens of thousands.
@@funloverdavis1796 online dating is such a crapshoot. Even then, how many dates can you go on? One per week if you are busy with kids etc. Just being realistic, these red pill dudes can be just as delusional as the boss babes they criticize. I think being outcome agnostic is important, women don’t want you to need them.
Just make decent money and pay for escorts, why tf you wanna settle for somebody who would take half of your wealth post divorce. And men who are 40+ are not even desired naturally by 20 year old girls. So just focus on money and status, be Donald Trump or Hugh Hefner of your town
Dude needs to show interest, but only see the girl 1-2 times per week for the first month max. Seems like he meets the girl, they hit it off, and then he jumps 2 feet in.
His mindset need to change to be more like "women are only passengers in a mans life" kind of attitude. If i was him i should focus on my own interests and outdoors activities with some male friends instead. Be in places where there just "happens" to be a lot of younger women and trust me those women will notice you.
Stop using the word "partner". Partner implies that you are in business together and have an equal say in everything. You want a woman to share your life with but she has to enter your life, not the other way around. You are the leader and have to act accordingly. The other problem here is that this guy is a total simp. Probably raised by a single mother. Hopefully changes with Rich's help but probably will revert back to his old ways.
@@Bob31415 and that's okay. Men learn the rules of the game, and master it. Women are the ones who whine and try to change the rules because they don't know how to win.
Honestly.. who cares either way. The message is the same. Seemed pretty genuine to me. We all had to go through it one way or another. That moment that you realise everything you thought you knew was a lie. That it's all just bullsh** Once you accept that reality, you start thinking back on all your relationships and it all makes sense. It's that "aha moment" hopefully for most that's learnt young and not like me in your 40s
