the problem with this society tradition is putting the baby away from you. of course he gonna wake up every hour he miss his mom. animals keep theyr puppyes always close the first weeks
@@LarryBonson how does that prove anything? yes men did some society building stuff (because women were treated like slaves and property in history and weren't allowed to do it themselves) but all of those men are dead now. what have you done to build society? your argument is nonsensical
Ничего нет геройского в том, что по факту заложено анатомией. Каждый сам решает рожать или нет. Каждый сам решает вставать ночами или нет. Есть няни, сурогаты и еще куча возможностей облегчить жизнь. Но лучше же записать видео, какая ты жертва.
@@teshatesha3489 прямое, милый человек. Мы с вами говорим и материнстве.. Лучше всех знают о воспитании детей и родительсве в целом, люди у которых нет детей, как бы это не было абсурдно!🤣
@@kari_nasи таким обязательно нужно вставить свои пять копеек про то, что "никто вас не заставлял рожать" 🤷ну не хотите детей, раздражает эта тема, проидите мимо молча. Нет блин надо обесценить все
I know how she feels as a man . My wife got extremely sick after an infected caesarean wound and remained in hospital for another 3 weeks . I did all that looking after my son alone for those 3 weeks . While mine was a rare case , my consideration and respect to all mothers ! God bless you all
Precious bonding time for you both also. I had the same issue after birth, but it took a month and loads of trips to the hospital to tell them something wasn't right. In that month, as I suffered agonising headaches/muscle aches and fever, I was up with my son for feeds, expressing when he went down, which left me exhausted. That experience let me know how strong both myself & my pain threshold were 😅
When I become a dad I am definitely helping out more than your husband did in this video. I’m not expecting one soon, but I want to be in the future. I want to be there every step of the way, and split the work with my spouse depending on our needs and abilities for the day.
The first month, my husband woke up every night and brought me our baby for feeding and took it right away to put him down to sleep. And I never asked him to do that. And I am very grateful.
That's how it's supposed to be!!! We should be able to recover. I got stiched up 5 times on my VV and I could barely walk or even sit or even think about it 'cause it would hurt so much. My doc recommended to stay in bed for the next 8 weeks and focus on recovery. But how?? There is noone looking after me, my baby or the household. My fiancé says "I'm bringing the money home. It's your duty to do the rest!"
@@anastasijachantalkunstner1893that’s a pretty rough situation to be in do you have other family that’s willing to help you out and physically be in the house with you to try and help out a bit so you don’t have to do everything alone.
@@wafaaibrahim9020well that's a good dad, I know it may not seem fair for a lot or ppl, but she barely recovered from the labor pain and she still can't have a decent night of sleep, plus changing a baby's diapers is the last thing I'm planning to do in my life, not even the last, that's impossible for me, I'll probably vomit after that (I know i was baby once too but I just can't-) anyways even if she gets day time sleep it's not as near benifictal as night sleep one, but still I appreciate the husband's effort if he truly does all that, he's not just a good husband or man but a good father too
Why does she need to wake up, if the baby start crying at night time. Why cant she just sleep through the noght and handle the baby problems at 7 o’cock at the morning, when she wakes up.
I work 50 hours a week so my wife and I decided to have me sleep in our spare room during my work week and I take care of our 7 year old. On my days off we switch so she can catch a break and actually sleep. But yeah pretty much wake up every 3 hours hehe, help each other whenever possible helps a ton. 😊
@@likeaburningstar I've never had a best friend so I've been looking for a kind hearted girl to be best friends with for months but I've never found a kind hearted girl to be best friends with. Please can you and I be best friends?
The hard part for me was my baby wouldn't even cry when he was hungry. He is non verbal and was not gaining weight. The Dr. Said we'd have to set an alarm every 2-3 hrs to feed him. He's now 8 and a very healthy and a perfect lil boy in 3rd grade. He now can communicate with dad and I or whoever is there when he's hungry thru sign language. I have respect for all mothers who do everything to keep our babies healthy and happy.
That's crazy, I didn't even know that could happen. It must have been so stressful, not knowing if he was OK or not because he gave no indication. Glad he's OK now, thanks for sharing.
@@hayley8907el bebé no tiene que dar ninguna indicación. A los bebés hay que alimentarlos cada 2 o 3 horas, sin importar si lloran o no, porque cuando lo hacen significa que están HAMBRIENTOS. No hay que permitir que lleguen a ese estado, porque sino les cuesta ser alimentados o regurgitan la leche
@@jhkk1269that's no excuse to not help out with your child that took 2 people with responsibility to make. I'm sure feeling a bit sleep deprived won't hurt if it's something worth helping out for or doing. That's what marriage is about, committing and helping through thick and thin, you are clearly not in the state of a mature person.
@@aishaaa-17 have you considered his job may pose a threat to life to himself and others if he is on an hours sleep a night for a year? And if he then loses his job because he is sleep deprived how long before the house is taken away
@@aishaaa-17first of all he has a job to do to pay off, secondly who said that he doesn't help in child rearing? Have you even seen other reels to vent out like that?? I am a woman too ...but we should understand his part too...his life and health also matter too..he is also a human being... This baby is not their only child...who takes care of the other kids?? She even mentioned her husband helps out in household chores...even her in-laws are helpful..Yes, marriage means commitment and understanding so it takes two...so assuming like this is only gonna hurt both of them...peace out
I also have twins and it is still soo tough 4 months in. You learn to feed them both at the same time even if ones still sleeping. You have 2 nursing pillows and one baby sitting in each. And then after a 1-1.5 hour feed you hope that they both sleep for atleast 2 hours so you can also get some rest. Can't wait for them to sleep in 5-7 hour stretches!!🤣🤣 With one baby it's still super tough and you're doing great mama!!❤️❤️
I'm a twin. My mom was fortunate enough for her mom to help her, she lived with us the first 6 weeks. Pregnancy was so rough on her. She also had to have an emergency C-section, so she was also recovering from surgery. My dad was working overtime to cover the costs due to my mom having to take off work at 7 months due to being high risk, and then having to be home with us 24/7. She didn't go back to work until we went to preschool because 1. Expensive and 2. she didn't trust anyone enough to watch us every day as babies, aside from her own mom but she lived in another state so that wasn't possible. Now we're both 27 and we love our mom. I still live with her because of money and she's not in the best health.
Yeah and before someone start raging because of this, we know fathers work hard too, but they're mostly not even with their kids, so it's kinda not fair for the first word to be otherwise than who spent nights waiting for the next cry to calm them out
And they’ll have the nerve to say, “you don’t even do anything. You got it so good to stay home with baby all the time, stop being lazy!” Lmaoooo mothers are super human. She did it with ease. 💅🏼
@@notskelton2670 meu pai só trabalhava (4-6h) e vegetava em casa, minha mãe trabalha (8-10h por dia), cuidava de mim (e ainda cuida) e ainda tinha que cuidar e fazer os serviços em casa, minha mãe é uma super humana, meu pai só era humano
I had preemie twins with low birth weight. They had to be fed every 2 hrs & being a FTM with PPD/suicidal tendencies it was extremely difficult to manage everything. I had a lot of help from my husband & my parents but still everything seemed difficult. I know I was doing nothing different from other women. Hence the newborn phase was extremely tough.
Wish i could had experienced this. But naaah my baby boy was too good for me the whole newborn stage. But now hes a toddler, my gad alwayssss 4am awake till 8am
@@kerstieamiya4880i mean you did say she tried… it could always be worse she could have succeeded. 😢. A lot of bad things happened to me and my siblings (not ready to finishing dealing with it all so I’m not going in to detail but it was BAD ) the thing that really helped me was to realize- Your mother is not some all powerful being … not a super hero and has problems of her own with no help and we’re too young to help back then AND the only thing she has to go off of is what her mother taught her. So i thought about grandma (her mom) who was 6 days old and given to a family member for years because her mother was very sick grandma was taken care of by an aunt for many years but sent home at 13 to take care of her (still stick) mother who basically taught her nothing of being a mother. My great great grandma was beaten all the time. Even while she was pregnant with everyone of her children (even lost a few bc of it). My great grandma was being beat by her father and taught very little of being a mother by her mom. My grandma was very abusive to my mother who beat us until she gave us up for adoption. I haven’t had babies yet but the cycle will be BROKEN with me. When and if i ever have babies they will never know what it is to be beaten by your mother for no reason. You can teach lessons with out laying a finger on your children. Edit: the old saying “ you only know what you’ve been taught”. IS NOT AN EXCUSE TO STOP LEARNING NEW THINGS especially if it’s going to improve your life and the lives of those around you.
The hard part is what makes the women mothers and it will strength the bonds between the moms and the babies and don't forget that babies need to survive by crying asking for milk or for changing nappies cuz their are weak poor creatures😁❤. if it was an easy task some women will care less about their babies and act reckless that's what called bonds and starting a family with attached emotions.we all were babies in the past and did the same to our moms and dads.😁
@@Kayd2111 yes, being up all night feeding and caring for my new born babies was a very precious and exhausting time. I enjoyed my babies more once I slept a little more and I wasn’t a zombie in auto pilot.
So true the hard part is what makes the women mothers and it will strength the bonds between the moms and the babies and don't forget that babies need to survive by crying asking for milk or for changing nappies cuz their are weak poor creatures😁❤. if it was an easy task some women will care less about their babies and act reckless that's what called bonds and starting a family with attached emotions.we all were babies in the past and did the same to our moms and dads.😁
Her body needs a warm hug and good sleep even though she is not getting it but she is giving it to child So love the mother of your child more than you love her as your wife.😌💖
@@user-mb4ls9bd1uно вы думаете, если кормить грудью не нужно вставать, переодевать и укладывать, единственное не нужно быть молокоотсос потом и вме6🤷♀️
This reminds me of how when I was up with my babies I'd think to myself that there were millions of other moms out there in the world up doing the same thing. Then I'd think how some moms were doing it in very very hard situations and environments, and that was humbling. It was a comforting thought then and somehow comforting to know that the cycle continues. What you're doing is a GOOD THING. All the moms doing this right now are doing a very good thing.
I used to sit there feeding my baby wondering how many other mums were up right now. Sounds strange but I kinda miss it now that she’s 13 months and only wakes up once some nights and goes back to sleep quite quick, I miss it but I also love getting a full nights sleep again 😂
I was dirt poor in an attic apartment filled with black mold with no money in July heat and no family or vehicle, no washer or dryer. I'd never held a baby and had no internet to teach me. It is hard to watch these RU-vidrs who have so much. Not to take away from the beautiful mother that she is, but there is more than one kind of tired. I wish I had been this wonderful mother kind of tired. Please understand, no offense meant but it does bring back memories.
Wym? The father provides money and everything for the family. He works his ass off to provide for them. No one sees the the things the father does. A woman gives birth and suddenly gains alot of respect and this is what the father has to face. People like you are ruining the world and making a imbalance.
My daughter will be 3 months this week, and the first couple of weeks was extremely the hardest. No sleep, crying of frustration, still recovering from birth, barely ate, and low self esteem about my body made me wonder how I even survived. But looking at her smile now and cooing at me reminds me everyday that she was and IS worth it ❤️
I understand the body insecurity but you literally just did something amazing you brought life into the world so please don't be hard on yourself. I wish you good rest ❤
Never forget to tell your momma how much you love her. And thank her for everything she's done. A woman is such an amazing person. The sacrifice they not only put their body throug. The time, effort and love they give their children
Como é difícil! Justo nesse momento pós parto, produção de leite, que necessitamos tanto de recuperação.. nos sentimos zumbis, mas passa tão rápido essa fase... Que delícia ter um bebê tão pequeno nos braços, um privilégio, um presente, cada pegada é um bj mesmo ❤ Parabéns a todas mamães de verdade e papais parceiros.
This man makes me appreciate my husband soooooooo much more. Bcuz he does get up in the night and do all of these things. Or he will take the baby in another room with him for about 6 hours so that I can sleep. I love you more and more everyday C!
Even when my husband has work, he gets up with me. He goes to the kitchen to make her bottle and hand her to me so I can feed her, then he goes back to sleep. And that little extra step he does to help me is so much. He also does her first feeding and changing in the morning so I can catch up on the sleep I lost from her middle of the nights. Ladies, these men are really out here. Just gotta hold out for the right one.
There is no need to speak without knowing, the man takes care of the other children and also the baby in the afternoon so that the girl sleeps during the day and can do her things.
@@belujk.97 I’m not saying her man doesn’t help her. I didn’t speak on her man at all. I’m speaking to the ladies who will inevitably see this video, and either be reminded and resentful of their men who don’t assist, or be discouraged because that mentality is so normalize. I’m speaking to those women and saying there ARE hands-on fathers out there. There are great men who will be happy to help you and be an equal parent to the child they helped create, but women need to be more intentional when dating to look for those qualities.
@@mf7269cada quien vive su vida como quiere y nadie es perfecto, porque siempre se tiene que juzgar a los demás sin saber 😢 si ella lo hace sola, si el le ayuda o no y al final ellos viven bien y felices y otros criticando lo que ni saben por ver 1 video que dura unos segundos y creen que así es toda sus vida....
@@mf7269 Of course yes, but you bring your husband in when he has nothing to do with it and it looks horrible because it's as if you were comparing him, and no, at no time did you say what you're telling me now. Because it can be taken in many ways.
With my second daughter, I was the ONLY one that could hold her. By the time we had her, we had 2 other kids. So my husband was well versed in newborns by then. But no one, not my mom or mother in law or anyone- could hold my daughter without her screaming for the first 6 months of her life. My husband would hold her while I showered and she would scream the entire time. She nursed every hour and a half for the first few weeks. It was brutal, but no one else could do it but me. You don’t know the dynamic of their relationship. Maybe he husband had to get up early and work at a demanding job. Maybe they previously agreed that she’d get up with the baby. Maybe the baby won’t take a bottle from the husband.
@@Nobody91795it doesn’t matter if u have 12 kids this newborn phase is tough when they aren’t sleeping through the night yet. Being a parent is tough period but it’s worth it forced or not. It all pays off in the end.
Lo bueno de hoy en dia es que las mamás actuales tienen todas las comodidades para atender a sus bebés, todas las mamás hemos madrugado, algunas noches enteras sin dormir, lo peor, si ninguna comodidad o sin ayuda de un compañero 🥺. Saludos a todas madres en especial a las madres que tienen la doble reponsabilidad, de ser padres y madres a la vez ❤
Да мамой быть тяжело... А особенно тяжело когда мужчина не помогает ей. У самого есть ребёнок (5 месяцев) И на протяжении всех этих 5 месяцев Я (папа ребёнка) встаю ночью кормить своего ребёнка, а жене даю спать ночью , Ведь я уйду на работу (12часов смена ) а она останется на это время одна с ним, Да я прихожу домой, и вижу как мой сын лежит на животе и смотрит на меня и улыбается мне, я беру его на руки, похожу с ним пол часа по дому, потом меняю памперс не ночной, навожу смесь и кормлю сына, и укладываю спать. Любите свою жену и своего ребёнка ❤
Ненавижу слова «настоящий мужчина» «настоящая женщина» … но вы правда настоящий благородный мужчина, который проявляет уважение и заботу о своей семье🙏🙏🙏 Счастья вашему дому, спасибо за комментарий 🤍
Los hombres son así, quieren tener hijos pero no se les cruza por la mente cuidarlos. Juro que si está situación fuera al revés, todos estarían insultando a la mujer si estuviera en el lugar de ese tipo. El sacrificio que hace una madre es de corazón y totalmente abnegado, todos lo ven como algo súper normal, pero si un padre da respeto básico o tiene una presencia mínima en la vida de su hijo, ya es un héroe. Mi papá era así, el solo estaba para la foto y nada más, pero quién me crío verdaderamente fue mi madre
Muchos comentarios están insultando al hombre por flojo y que no es excusa el hecho de que va a trabajar para no ayudar a su esposa e hijo, deja tu hipocresía, además el vídeo está cortado no sabemos si el se ofreció a ayudarla y ella dijo que no que descansará, el vídeo y el canal lo maneja ella obviamente va a querer mostrar el proceso de mamá y bebé
@@mergymeloni3901i knew comments like “he goes to work, cut him some slack” will be here. i don’t know if the woman in this video has a job or not, but many mommies out there also work. taking care of a child is not your wife’s full responsibility, husbands should also help. it takes two to make a baby so why does it takes one to take care of it?
@naddy3632 that's not what the person fully said. But seriously. Sometimes the dad has to go to work for the baby. Alot of men use it as an excuse but some men really do have work over night and barely sleep. When they get a break they help the mama with the baby. Yes it does take two. But it also takes two to understand the struggles to take care of that baby. To take care of a baby is to have money to put toward taking care of the baby. I have parents who work hours and hours a day to take care of me. I'm 15 and homeless with both my parents helping. I cannot get a good job even though I try. I'm half Blind,struggle with man things and still no one understands. Everyone says my mother should rest her feet and should let my father figure do all the things.nut they both work hard for their little girl to have a good life in this messed up world.
Dad’s are parents as well and there’s no way they can call themselves a day her without helping the mother by taking turns not by the mommy’s request but by the kindest of his Fatherhood
@@user-ku5vy4kx2m No I mean you still pay bills when you live alone, if you have a house or apartment or whatever. But paying bills doesn’t make you a parent.
Mom never care about her healthy or how she gonna sleep...her thinks only how can make baby happy.. Mom is the real angel in the world❤❤ Without mom's cares n prays.. We are nothing😢
Salut kepada ibu. Seorang ibu rela bangun jam 2 pagi dan tidak tidur sampai jam 6 pagi agar anaknya tdk kelaparan. Begitulah tulusnya kasih seorang ibu buat anaknya.
No te lo creerás pero mi hijo con cinco días ,le daba la toma a las nueve de la noche y le tenía que despertar yo a las 8 y media por tenía que llevar a su hermano al colegio y no se a muerto de hambre. No sabes lo que dijo el pediatra? Madre mía qué suerte tienes ni te se ocurra despertarlo que el sueño teniendo su peso le alimenta más.
When I get a little bit annoyed with my mom, I find videos like this helpful. I remind myself of the sacrifices of my mother so I will remember that I don't have any rights to be annoyed with her. Mothers are real superheroes. Thank you Mama for everything
When she ticks you off, puts you on the line, knocks you around bc she's in menopause, Remember it was she who chose to lay down and get knocked up; you didn't ask to be born.
I know this feeling im a sister to to brothers one is 2 years younger than me and the other one is 12 years younger than me and i practically raised him for 3 years and at one point he started calling me mom and my dad said my mom was gonna have to stop this and step up as a mother and I love my brother to death and when he does start school i already know that im going to be protective of him even more so then what i am now.
@@gallantmaxxing no I'm saying loving being woken up all hours of the night by an annoying screaming baby and they said they miss that yeah it is strange 😄 tell me where did I say that loving your child is strange?
@@DashieNCheekie I'm ok with being strange. The lack of sleep sucks in the moment for sure. But looking back the baby snuggles, the time with my kids, those moments where all they want is to lay with mom/dad. My kids are between 3-10 now. Every stage is special, the late nights of quiet time with the babies has it's own charm. Also babies don't always wake up screaming. Often you'd hear them start to stir and you can get them before the fussing starts.
Муж так недовольно ворочается в постели😢 Мой муж тоже много работал, но он вставал по ночам к малышу, сам кормил его и менял подгуздники, чтобы у меня было время поспать. Так же, вечером после работы, он сам брал малыша, чтобы у меня было время заняться домашними делами. Папы должны участвовать в воспитании детей не меньше мам и работа- это не оправдание.
Врубить свет на всю, дёргаться в кровати, это пипец, когда спать мужу, если на работу? Камеру таскает на показуху. Я давала мужу спать, а теперь и он мне даёт спать, занимаясь с детьми, которые уже от сиси не зависят!
Недовольный может ему на работу через 2 часа, а это показуха что она возится с ребенком, но эта женская работа, а муж добытчик в семье.На самом деле она не даёт ему спать, лучше бы он спал в другой комнате.
I admire her. Pump the milk and then pour it into the bottle and continue feeding. It was hard for me to get up at night. I was breastfeeding. I just took the baby out of the crib and fed her. If I needed to change a diaper, I did it right there in my bed. I didn't get up and walk around unnecessarily, so that I could fall asleep more easily.
Why is she pumping milk? It doesn’t make sense to me. Why doesn’t she just breastfeed the baby. Is it because she doesn’t want to expose herself on social media. 🤷♀️
