52 years of life on this earth have driven me to a point of really appreciating, and to be honest enjoying, being alone. I have my wife, my business partner, and a few key friends. The rest are best summed up as "people who will approach me if they want something from me" and that's really about it.
@I like my own comments to get the ball rolling With very few contacts close to me, I find myself with time alone much more often, to be clear. Long ago I realized that most of my contacts just wanted things from me, which says a lot about myself and about them. My personality lends itself to this for whatever reason, a sum of flaws. I'm much happier with about six close contacts and otherwise, I've ghosted everyone. So the result is I get a lot of peaceful time by myself. Most of my "not alone" time is with my wife.
Craig Maybe your father wasn't a very interesting or likable person to be around. Besides, if you are not a big shot racer, full of money or very famous, regular people will hardly try to use you for more than friendship.
Anyone watch this and think, "Daniel Brühl was literally the absolute best person to be cast in Rush and he NAILED it" ? The mannerisms, the accent, the demeanor....That's one hell of an actor.
When the movie came out, I remember one F1 transmission where Niki said to a journalist "I don't talk like that". Then the narrator responded, "oh Niki, you do...".
@@TheJwwinter That's what friends are for bud. Not only that but you feel relieved when you know you can lay out your pain and they will try to calm you down just as they can talk to you about their problems.Few and solid friends are far better than a lot of fake friends
@@treatb09 ---> 'Compensation' for 'work' is getting paid a 'sum of money'... Not a 'piece of the company'. Niki's CFO is an Arrogant, Greedy Bastard...
If we really want to be honest to ourselves, we have to admit that we all use people in life. More or less. But it's always that other person who's the "user" and never ourselves, isn't it? Also, people who strive for success and fame can't really expect people to be genuine around them. That's the price you pay for being famous!
I am similar. I'm a web developer, I spend my time working on web applications so some people find it strange that I ditched all forms of web social media 3 years ago apart from LinkedIn, which I require professionally. I see social media as incredibly poorly named - it's not sociable to replace visiting someone, or at least like you say giving them a call, with proxy socialising in text-based messaging, one-upmanship in newsfeeds and all-out fabricating happiness with selfies and other nonsense bullshit. I don't miss it. I doubt I will ever go back to Facebook. I never had Instagram. I use Twitter to follow people whose inputs I value (teachers, journalists, authors). Most people think I'm extremely depressed or something just because I don't spend my time scrolling through other people's mundane posts or producing that content myself, whereas in truth I just enjoy my own company at this point. I have good interpersonal skills from school and university, but I feel almost no need to exercise them outside of work. People talk about having an 'online persona' but to me this is a type of digital two-facedness and i cannot be fucked with it.
I 100% agree. When I used Facebook, I had hundreds of "friends" but only two did anything with me in person. I'd ask who wanted to go to a movie or happy hour. Crickets. I axed my account and started making friends at my gym. Now I have four dudes that I go kayaking with, practice martial arts and talk UFC with. We mainly text, call and don't use social media.
@@chris94kennedy exactly mate. I bought myself a sick motorbike and just go for a blast when I feel the need . I have recently met a few like minded people to ride with on occasion. I can't stand fake bullshit . I work for severely disabled people and see what they deal with day in day out . Most people's problems are pathetic .
ROSEMARY KESAULY Hi Rosemary, I do appreciate that not everybody has had the benefit of a good parent in their life. I hope it hasn’t affected you adversely and you have made a good life for yourself. Best wishes.
Curry Chris That’s same for me, the friends I had as a kid once they became adults were no longer interested in playing football ⚽️/guitar or video games instead all they wanted was a free ride everyday not good
Equality Chris I think about that sometimes. Kids in the neighborhood I grew up with and played sports with. We all seemed to get along . By the time we got to high school most of us went our separate ways. One of them would chide me for the way I dressed. He moved away and a few years later I met a couple girls from where this guy’s family had moved to . I asked them if they knew him and surprisingly they did. So I asked how is he doing? They replied he’s in rehab for the second time for heroin . This was in the early 70’s . It was sad to learn that but not surprising either.
That's just formality. He didn't mean it. Would a girl or a female sportswoman a staunch feminist ever stay with a man who doesn't respect her career or wants her not to work
Augie Romero EXACTLY....One time in 1.5 million miles I was late from bad weather. Whole factories of employees rely on me, if I'm late it means some guy just getting by trying to make it on poor wages doesn't get a few hours of pay on his check. Not on my watch.
When you're at the lowest point of your life, you'll realize there aren't any friends, if you have friends it means you haven't hit the lowest point in your life yet.
Niki is a true person. And like most true person, he can be unpleasant because he's not trying to please you. He's a person with integrity and from that perspective, I respect him. Where I admire him however, is for the fact that he believed in his dream, went and did it.
He's definitely a miserable guy though. I kind of pity him to a certain degree. He accomplished great things, but it seems like he didn't enjoy the ride. You only live once.
@@bucky90269 lol and you would know that wouldnt u idiot? haha what would you know of the glory of being a formula one driver he accomplished more with his pinky than your entire family dumbass
Not having friends is the best opportunity you could have to love yourself, to work on yourself with no distractions. Most people will fail you in life
Or u can be different find friends who are real and stick by u and date people so u can learn urself what u need there’s a difference between being wise and needlessly shutting urself off because u are afraid to be used fear has never stopped me before
I'm completely gutted as I just read that one of my biggest idols, one of the greatest, most inspiring personalities in all of sports, was lost today. RIP Niki Lauda, your life will be remembered as a beacon of what is possible with the strength of will.
When Niki Lauda was at the top of his form as a racing driver, he was a competitor with James Hunt. I was a fan of JH, so I naturally disliked NL. It took me a long while to realise who was the greater driver, the greater man. Lauda was one of the very best. RIP
This man was dedicated, to his job, to the team, to the race. Total commitment, totally crazy (he admitted it himself), total genius personified. Modern racing drivers hold him high above all others. There never was and never will be another Niki. God Rest You dear man.
+To Pe After the way he handled his accident...almost burning to death...burning half his face off...inhaling toxic fumes and destroying 60% of his lungs...being given the last rights in his hospital bed...then getting back in the car a few weeks later...yeah...stand up guy is an understatement. That dickhead finance guy should have known that in the car that day he tried to intimidate Niki.
@Cwshty-Griff I mean that sounds cool and everything but just isn't true. I wish it was, but we are hardwired to be social, as shitty as it is. Try not connecting with anyone, anyone, for a month and see how shitty your mind becomes.
I “lost” three friends last year. Two of them lied to me and backstabbed me and the third one didn’t want anything to do with me because I didn’t help him do a credit card fraud.
I don’t have any friends anymore either. I’ve found that in general when you give people an inch they always try to take a mile. Unless you’re completely direct and businesslike with people they’ll never respect you. Being respected matters much more than being liked.
Lol friends is a subjective term, but when you've got mega rich & successful pals like Lewis & Toto Wolff its kinda different cause they aren't looking to screw you over for money/fame etc, they were all deffo close even if business
@Beaulieu C This is true if you are above the age of 18. You will see that the reason you and your friends hanged out were 1# Mutual interest and #2 to not be lonely #3 To preserve a social position, once all of you head to different universities and get jobs the meetups and hangouts get less and less frequent til one day you'll notice its been a year since you talked to your old childhood buddies.
@@geraltvonriva9873 no but he is right. His story is amazing and he was by far the most honest man in F1. Also a better person than all those fake fucks in Hollywood or in the Music industry. Only sheeps follow those self centered over rated twats
Real friends don't just show up for the party, they stay behind after to help you clean up without you having to ask. They're the ones that show up to help on moving day. I can count my real friends on one hand, with fingers to spare.
Exactly Albesa81 because most people in this world want plastic Facebook friends to tell them what they want to hear, and don't dare tell me something I don't want to hear regardless how true it is. I respect the guy for his honesty, it's all too rare these days.
he's correct though there is no such thing as being friends just to be friends anymore, because everyone wants something in exchange to being your friend etc
But friendship has never been one sided. It's give and take in hopefully fairly even measures, otherwise there really isn't a friendship there, it is just someone taking, and that is no friend.
I’m 17 and I haven’t had any friends for about a year and a half now. It’s lonely man. And I’m always sad. My so called friends moved on without me and left me like I was some piece of trash to dispose of. I don’t want to live like this but I guess it’s life so maybe I was always meant to be alone and never have fun. I guess I’ll have to expect this.
@@slamyourheadin9449 the hell is your profile name? You'll be alright dude. I've been lonely for about two years now. Don't know the difference between before lockdown and after lockdown haha. You can enjoy life by yourself sometimes though. Makes you stronger. You'll be alright dude. Just head out maybe when you're 18.
The comments make me depressed. I'm a guy with 3 really good friends who I talk to all the time and I feel I can really trust. My father doesn't have any friends and it saddens me that so many (especially older) men are in the same boat. It is nice to have friends, don't close yourself off to it.
I couldn't picture talking to my friends ALL the time. When I was a child and a teenager, I talked a lot with my close friends. As an adult, I don't feel like talking that much to some of them. We see each other when we can a few times a year and go about our business.
That's because most people hate older people, but they don't want you to know it. They pretend otherwise. Old people have less time to lose, are more sincere and remember when we were relatively free so have a yardstick to show you. They, in a sense, are the most valuable members of the family, and of society. But we, as the fake narcissists/sociopaths/psychopaths we are, want to get rid of them. That's the cold, harsh truth.
That's because most people hate older people, but they don't want you to know it. They pretend otherwise. Old people have less time to lose, are more sincere and remember when we were relatively free so have a yardstick to show you. They, in a sense, are the most valuable members of the family, and of society. But we, as the fake narcissists/sociopaths/psychopaths we are, want to get rid of them. That's the cold, harsh truth.
Niki is so cool because he doesn't give a crap of what others think. He will tell his truth. He is not nice, he will be genuinely kind and genuinely cruel. I'm sure other people are also getting sick of nice. He's a cool guy
As a contractor selling jobs. I was never late, ever. I had customers tell me numerous times that you got the job partly for returning their call and being on time. It was a great lesson. To this day it's a rule that works. Never be late.
Ppl want to spend free.time with ppl...with whom they have mutual respect, hence the capability gap between friends is not much.....selfish ppl look for ppl whom they can exploit...or benefit.from....it is a 1.way transaction
He may not have had a lot of friends, but millions respected/ respect him. He was my first hero and I’m glad I never met him, but as an f1 fan, this man was a racer trough and through
I had about 1200 friends on fb but when I walked past some people, we didn’t even acknowledge one another let alone converse. I just cut it down to about 50 people and eventually stopped using fb. I think it’s a sort of awakening when you realise that most people don’t truly give a shit and in all honestly, nor do I. I have 2 friends and they have family to focus on so I see them once in a blue moon.
It was probably because F1 racing, let alone 70s era just wasn't as popular to them. Those in charge of handling out Oscars probably didn't even know who Niki Lauda was. Too "niche" I suppose
He is absolutely right about friends. Don't call people friends if they want something or using you for things. I hope people wake up. Real Friends are Family. They are with you day in and day out, better or worse.
His wife who is 30 years younger than him , is marrying him for the money. Wife donating Kidney was part of a plan so she could gain Niki's trust into marriage, & having two kids with him guaranteed no will change. Niki is also benefiting by being able to feel young again.
BadAssEngineering what a pussy move to go back to work for this guy again. I had farted in his shit car and told him to go fuck himself. But I also had only asked for a reasonable stake in the company after doing my due diligence. With the right arguments there shouldn't be any doubt of why he deserved that.
+heladar I think that's call.... holding your boss hostage.. and Lauda knows if he give him once, there will be a 2nd time when he asked for 20% or 40% not to mention others employee will then follow too.. in no time your good running business suddenly been held hostage by all employee. Then company starts to losing money, forced to take loan, cannot make repayment.. follow by bankruptcy, thousand of people jobless and others blame you for poor management. and then you be thinking... Oh ya.. that all started with a CEO asked for 10% saying ''You can't run your business without me!!!'' Is the storyline sound familiar to you?
I am very empathetic. It took years to realize that when you're vulnerable people don't want to help you (which is my instinctive response) instead I can actually see them trying to figure out how to take advantage of me and the situation. Now, I trust only my children. Thank God, they're good people that I like and love.
Focused, hardworking, honest. Additionally, maybe 0.001% of humans on the planet have the reaction speed to control a car at those speeds. That doesn't even touch on having the courage to do it. Lauda is an exceptional man, even among Formula 1 drivers. He says he has no friends, I am sure that their are many people that he has helped, even though he understood that they would not give back to him.
If his idea of "Friendship" is something close to a marriage or a close family tie (Seems to be), then he's right. Still, is obvious that many people love and respect him... They just don't want to 'Live' with him.
His idea of "Friendship" is indeed something very close to marriage or very close family (he once said, that his wife is pretty much his only true friend). This is also very cultural, Austrians and Germans (and italians for that matter), aren't so different in this, wheres in the U.S. for example you call many people "friends", which is also one of the key differences why the central european and U.S. "cultur" can sometimes clash pretty harshly. Niki Lauda is still one very special man, that stands on his own pedestal...which he built all by himself, fell off of a few times and climbed back up :D
A lot of people can go at a similar speed but it's getting the quick lap time every single lap. That's the hard thing. You can learn apexes, technique and be within 5%-10% quite easily. Go on a trackday and see for yourself how far you are from the racers in similar machinery. Really. Try it. It's a lot of fun. I've been lucky enough to do it with cars and motorcycles. It gives me even greater appreciation for them. When I see them lapping: 1:34:24 1:34:57 1:34:42 1:34:50 1:34:55 And mine are: 1:48:32 1:49:56 1:49:08 1:50:42 1:48:68 It's that tenth of a second consistency that's amazing. I can get my knee down but not my elbow, yet :-)
When I was 18 years old, I'm 53 now, my Grandfathers brother-in-law told me "A friend is the guy who's screwing your wife when you're at work". Now I totally get it.
@@ElisPalace I'm 27 but that's a very negative mindset man, some people are good and most of them bad, but you have to be ok with sometimes getting taken advantage of and then cutting those people out of your life, I'd take that, so far it's only happened once
@@JonJonJonJonJonJonJonJon Yeah, people taking advantage of me is happening more in the next ten years but I'm set enough to not go through the shit that that guy described, it's just not happening to me, it won't and never will unless I'm extremely unlucky, which I don't believe in
@@kritav1111 it's not so much getting taken advantage of. Yes they will try. All of them but it's just you will see that EVERYONE is out for themselves. Trust yourself and no one else you'll do fine.
John Booker's Full spectrum : He’s a very depressed man and I won’t be surprised he is the friend screwing his friends wife. Because his mindset is not right. He might as well tell you not to sleep because people die in their sleep. That’s a caution to bear in mind also buddy..
@@RawDogTV, "This explains two circumstances. First of all, it shows why it is that common, ordinary people are so sociable and find good company wherever they go. Ah! those good, dear, brave people. It is just the contrary with those who are not of the common run; and the less they are so, the more unsociable they become; so that if, in their isolation, they chance to come across someone in whose nature they can find even a single sympathetic chord, be it never so minute, they show extraordinary pleasure in his society. For one man can be to another only so much as the other is to him. Great minds are like eagles, and build their nest in some lofty solitude." - Schopenhauer
@@RawDogTV, 'Nobody Knows You When You're Down and Out' "Once I lived the life of a millionaire Spent all my money, didn't have any care Took all my friends out for a mighty good time Bought bootleg whiskey, champagne, and wine Then I began to fall so low Lost all my good friends, I did not have nowhere to go I get my hands on a dollar again I'm gonna hang on to it till that eagle grins 'Cause no, no, nobody knows you When you're down and out In your pocket, not one penny And as for friends, you don't have any When you finally get back up on your feet again Everybody wants to be your old long-lost friend Said it's mighty strange, without a doubt Nobody knows you when you're down and out Oh, nobody knows you When you're down and out In your pocket, not one penny And as for friends, you don't have any When you finally get back up on your feet again Everybody wants to be your good 'ole long-lost friend Said it's mighty strange Nobody knows you Nobody wants you Nobody knows you when you're down and out" - Jimmy Cox, Toni Parenti, Philip Parenti
I saw that from an early age. I got ill and lost all my friends practically over night. I am now in solitude plus have no girlfriend since 11 years. I always told myself that true friends are very rare all other "friendship" serve some purpose and be it just not being singled out in school.
@@MiamiVice. Thank you! Yes, in fact I am doing better these days, and I am on the road to recovery. I even found a job in the mean time and I hope my social anxiety will get better... And that eventually I will be able to find friends again... 😊
@@alexeichenauer That's great to hear. I would suggest looking into Jordan Peterson if you haven't already. He is an invaluable resource for young men.
Ultimately this is a hard pill to swallow. When your single you believe in loyalty to friends. Then you move on and wonder why those friends don't contact you. You call but they don't. Then you stop calling and then years later you realize they never were your real friends. Life goes on!
Real friendship is born outta honest, humbling exchange between two human beings looking for something and reciprocating the trust being placed upon each other.
He's absolutely right. Punctuality makes all the difference I try to be atleast 10 minutes early for work most of the time 15 minutes early. It really does put you in a better place mentally and just leads to a better day. If your stressing about being late and rolling in late or with a minute to spare it and have to immediately get out and rush in the building it really does set you up badly for the day. RIP niki
I came to a similar conclusion in regards to my own family. A blood relation doesn't make you family. I had to cut contact with them because they felt entitled to use, abuse and manipulate me. I am not bitter about it. I am living a good life now and helping those I believe need the help
Blood relation is family.. you are hurt by them BECAUSE you know them in the first place. You are not hurt, used by people who don't know you. I feel useless if people I love doesn't use me. Why am I there if you are getting help from a total stranger? People are Begging banks for loans but have some fake pride stop them from begging the father.
Same here, not all of my family, but a substantial proportion of them. Realizing those things, and doing something about it, is one of the best things one can do for their mental health.
Niki Lauda deserves a medal for courage. Most people would have given up or fallen into a deep depression. I can understand his distrust of others, it’s the price of fame. Imagine he went on to own his own Airline. Even through his darkest hour he had the strength to go on.
And who are you to say that? It all depends on the context. When I made my first Mexican friends for example I immediately adapted to their understanding of time
As soon as he described what friends mean for him, I could visualise all my true friends in a blink of an eye! Although I can count them on one hand, I'm truly grateful for them now and I hope I am for them as well.😭🔥❤️
I have great respect for a person who walks straight his / her way, no matter how the wind blows. That's a character trait you have to respect. RIP Niki.
Nikki when you are so professional and dedicated you will always have haters but your best adversary is always your driving force. You are truly a master at your sport exciting to watch and your comeback still inspires today I thank you for the talent you showed and making F1 exciting. Never will anyone show so much courage. You still have dedicated fans today.
Friends are temporary acquaintance, their might be 1 or 2 friends that are real out of 100. Family are usually the ones that people have longer lasting relationships as friends. And still theres only a small handful of relatives that are good to us genuinely. What Niki is going through is pretty normal, happens to a lot of people. One of the Greatest F1 drivers, and great business men. LEGEND.
Niki Lauda may not have any friends in the world, but he does have this: MILLIONS of Admireres who would never approach him or bother him and Respect him immensely. I wish Mr. Lauda could start a racing school and show the young kids how it is done. The man is a Legend and Deeply Admired all OVER THE WORLD. RH DSD
I feel u man. It’s hard to watch others have fun while u sit alone thinking what did I do to deserve this. Hard thing is I’m 17 and I’ve been friendless for well over a year now. Mosts days I lay in my room playing video games all day just to drown out the fact that really lonely and will probably stays this way the rest of my life. I know I probably sound like a weak person and that’s ok. I’ve accepted the fact that I’m not a very likeable person and that obviously there is something wrong with me. That’s why my whole life I’ve always ended up being a loner. I don’t want to be alone. I want to be a dad one day but I’m to much of a pussy to ever really have a good relationship. I’m a very shy person. And I hate myself. Only thing that stops me from taking my life is my Mum. I don’t want to put my pain onto her. Sorry for this. I know no one will read this anyway lol.
But I doubt the ones laughing together are actually happy....it’s false, it’s an illusion, it’s Bollox. Happiness comes from within it does not need to be validated by others. I have been a loner all of my life (54 now) , I have no expectations from anybody but myself, I’ve never relied on anyone and I am fully independent... which in my mind is the key to your own success. I actually laugh at the groups of people laughing because I know I’m not faking it. Take a look at Stoicism....it suits the majority of men.
@@slamyourheadin9449 Your wrong when you said no one will read this.I just read it!Look,being a loner isn't necessarily a bad thing.People are unreliable these days.The only one that you need to count on is yourself.I have had so called "best friends" in and out of my life through the years.They all let me down and none of them are in my life anymore.When you are a loner it is only then that you draw true inner strength from inside yourself to make it through the everyday grind in life.You will be alright in this world.Just believe in yourself.You alone can accomplish anything if you put your head and heart into it.You don't need anyone else,you can make it on your own.I have and so can you!
I think its because he has his own definition of friendship. Surely he hanged out with people that he liked to be around with but as he said, a friend is something much more than a good companion. It's someone you can call anytime to talk about anything and that is there for your in your worst times.
Yes but they are glad you are there also to talk. Everybody benefits. Nothing to do with real friendship. I came from Australia back now, i talked every night with other strangers...open talking (after fee drinks:) Strangers! Everybody needs to talk. Nothing to do with friendship
All alliances are temporary. Friendship is a natural survival mechanism ingrained in to us. Some of us are more like lone wolfs and tired of pretending and invest in friendship. Some of my little cousins turned out to be better friends.
I am extremely impressed with the way that he still speaks well of his ex-wife ater she called hims a ******** and as well with how he let the CFO continue working despite the blackmail attempt..
This video changed my life. I never had real friends, but once believe some were. After I saw this from my one of my favorite drivers ever, that inspired me forever, I realized my life is all about myself and the few that are there forever (in my case, two family members that I will forever be grateful). Study, work, do your own thing, run after your dreams. Fuck "friends".
italiano cataclisma ?? Well I believe its not true , just because there are person like yourself cataclisma . You are rare bread . Someone share your ethic and maybe someone could be a good friend for you but yes its rare to find out this person/s . I don't have too much friends too , honestly maybe only 2 friend that I not see from 3 years but ... yeah someone exist that can be your friend
I can completely understand where he is coming from! Good friends are so hard to come by. Especially as a F1 driver in the 70,s. You can only really trust yourself in life.