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NO CONTACT Only Works When You Do THIS! 

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Going no contact is perhaps one of the most powerful things you can do. If someone else is losing interest or retracting energy, or if you've just moved through a relationship, one of the most powerful things you can do to really move on and to also at the same time stop tuning to somebody else is to go no contact, meaning you have no contact.
You do not reach out. You do not find out how they're doing. You do not creep on their Instagram. These are things that you do in order to go no contact, which has so many benefits, I'm gonna explain in a minute, but it only really works when you do what I share
with you in this video.
A lot of people do this the wrong way and because they do it the wrong way they don't actually reap the benefits of it.
So, when talking about no contact, I've made videos about this before. Some of my most popular videos talks about what happens when you energetically go no contact.
But basically in a nutshell, what happens is when you're with somebody else, your energy fields are very intertwined, energy fields are very connected. And what happens is when you are even thinking of somebody else and you are around them a lot, you end up sharing fields in a way, energy fields.
And what ends up happening as well is when you're thinking of somebody, even if you're not physically around them, you'll find that you thinking about them, wanting them to come around, wanting their approval, wanting their validation, when you think of them you are literally energetically sending them energy.
I know this sounds esoteric and kind of weird, but just I've seen this happen so many times in my own life and other people's lives when I share this concepts and these ideas.
And what happens is when you go no contact, what you begin to do is you begin to clear the communication, clear the energy fields between you and somebody else.
Now, when you clear the energy and you stop sending that person energy you allow the other person to regroup. If it is meant to come back together you actually give space for it to do so. Now, one of the main reasons people pull away and retract their energy energetically is because they want space.
They want space. Maybe there's a little bit too much intimacy there. Maybe they have intimacy blocks. Maybe they want space because there's some type of needy energy there.
Sometimes that happens, where the way somebody tries to control the dynamic is they're like, "Okay, I'm gonna get this person to come around. "I'm gonna talk to them a lot. "I'm gonna send them a whole bunch of messages."
And the more you do that the more it actually blocks it from working, the more you actually push that person away.
And when you retract your energy and you bring your energy back and you stop trying to control everything, everything ends up working out and you allow and you give space and you give space for somebody to realize how much they appreciate you.
Or you give them space and then you in your own energy realize that maybe it wasn't actually conducive for you, maybe it actually wasn't the healthiest thing for you.
But in general, the reason letting go and the reason going no contact is so powerful is because you stop projecting energy at somebody else.
Now, imagine this, imagine you're saying, "This person is not doing what I want them to do. "They're not texting me back. "I feel like they're in resistance. "They don't understand the dynamic that we have. "I don't get it. "What's going on here."
You're feeling resistance. And when you feel resistance and then you think of that person, you're literally sending resistant energy to them. And when they think of you they're feeling the energy you're projecting at them.
So it's like the resistance is being projected at them. They feel that. And then it repels them even more. And they say, "I want more space. "I want more space."
And going no contact is what you do is you stop sending them energy. You stop sending them resistance. You stop even energetically thinking about them. You start focusing more on yourself.
You start focusing more on your own, being in your own body, doing your own things in life, being around your own friends, living according to your own integrity, following your own purpose.
You are being called to right now, I believe to bring the energy back to yourself. Pull your energy back, bring it back to yourself. When you do that, you then start to feel more safe in your own body.
I've seen this happen so many times with people that are having trouble letting go of their ex and they're thinking about them and they're trying to make it work and they're texting them a lot.
And then I say, "Yo, pull your energy back. "Put the energy within yourself. "Put the energy within your own life. "Live by according to your own values. "Follow your own purpose."

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@AaronDoughty44
@AaronDoughty44 2 года назад
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@acecurrytv2288 2 года назад
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@tessdean2523
@tessdean2523 2 года назад
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@bitchpuhleese
@bitchpuhleese 2 года назад
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@Leon-oq3dy
@Leon-oq3dy Год назад
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@Leon-oq3dy
@Leon-oq3dy Год назад
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@Jennifer-di4nl
@Jennifer-di4nl 2 года назад
This is why when you go no contact and 40 days in you all of a sudden realize you aren't thinking of them much anymore and POOF they call u.
@PlayaflyJoe27
@PlayaflyJoe27 5 месяцев назад
Happens every time 🤣🤣🤣
@jesenikm
@jesenikm 3 месяца назад
When they reach out again after 40 days, it means, there was noone better than you to be found! You should say them "have a nice life" and delete the number. Because if they went nk contact with you for 40 dats it means, you are NOT IMPORTANT. THEY WILL DO IT AGAIN SOON.
@kuramainc5171
@kuramainc5171 2 месяца назад
1 week in. Mine just texted me drunk and then deleted it before I could see it
@meganstott266
@meganstott266 Год назад
“You’re not doing no contact to get them back” love that.
@studyspot600
@studyspot600 Год назад
Might be weird cause i ve never thought i would comeback here to comment but here i AM: Well, after 10 months of no contact with my bf (cause i ve never seen him as an ex even we broke up and we went thourh no contact situation) but i was aulways feeling and believe that this aint over even if EVERYONE in my life were saying yeah u r fuking dreaming you r getting old you should settle down, time is going fast .. I choosed to stay faithful to him never dated any guy and boom out of no where in a random friday day he traveled from his contry to mine to ask me for reconciliation with a heart crying and really loving, after 6 month then we got engaged , life is beautiful and most of all god is real , i pray for all of you to get wht you want and feel the fulfulliment you're looking for, keep in mind, ANAYTHING IS POSSIBLE and dont believe anyone saying to you it's not , lovee❤
@preetyrahman7512
@preetyrahman7512 8 месяцев назад
I would like to know the full story. ❤
@khloalves.9029
@khloalves.9029 4 месяца назад
that’s amazing, I wish you both the best life together ❤️❤️❤️🥰
@jamalhankerson3064
@jamalhankerson3064 4 месяца назад
congratulations
@Revolution-tl5wo
@Revolution-tl5wo 2 года назад
No contact isn't to "get the other person back," no contact is for YOU. If you do no contact correctly, you get the time and perspective to see that relationship for what it was and realize someone better is on their way. It's easy to think, when you're wrapped up in someone, that just because they're the best you've had so far it means they're the best you'll ever get. Most of the time, if you really committed to no contact and invested all that energy back into yourself, by the time your ex shows back up you've taken reconciliation off the table.
@christiansnaturestudio6599
@christiansnaturestudio6599 2 года назад
Sounds boring bruh
@carmenkamberos1156
@carmenkamberos1156 Год назад
Revolution 2020, how true! No contact, means forever! Leave with dignity and self respect. No reconciliation! If they come back sooner or later they’ll leave just the same. 8 billion people iin the planet, the “one” is out there for you!!! Blessings
@tonyconnor5691
@tonyconnor5691 Год назад
Exactly especially when you are dealing with a female narcassist
@Caolan-b6r
@Caolan-b6r Год назад
Yeah 8 billion people in the world but not where you live, so you have to travel the world to find the one lol so stupid when people use that logic
@Photo-ms1mo
@Photo-ms1mo Год назад
Dumb isn't it!? Out of that maybe a handful of possible options for a variety of reasons. So narrow-minded advice. I've traveled the World for many years, lived many different Countries, had been on over thirty different dating apps and sites and still didn't encountered a fraction of a percentage they are talking about lol Not to mention quality of those options!
@thevaleriasofiaa
@thevaleriasofiaa 2 года назад
Changed my whole day ☺️ was sending energetic resistance to *him* since i woke up. So far 9 days no contact. I wanted a committed relationship, he didn’t want the same thing. I couldn’t force him to want the same thing so I said goodbye and so did he. He was 1000% a soulmate, but I know Im worthy of a committed relationship with someone im extremely attracted too on a spiritual and physical level at the same time 🥰 I know what I want and I wont settle for less. Wish everyone the best xo
@intenselyrich3517uk
@intenselyrich3517uk 2 года назад
For me, they have to be ascended. This month is so fast with so many twists. Many will ascend n their ideas of what they n u want may change n then reverse. Some are much slower than others, too. 😉🤗💕 xxx
@intenselyrich3517uk
@intenselyrich3517uk 2 года назад
@Dylan G exactly what im doing. His cut off is today to explain himself n actions towards me ..n why hes coming to me whilst still with the 3rd party. Im gunna tell him just after MN tonight that im doing me.. whatever comes along i will take a look at. Taking it slow as iv lots on atm. Thank u for ur advice deal1 🤗💕 xxx
@alexandrerodrigues1373
@alexandrerodrigues1373 2 года назад
You deserve absolutely the best, Valeria Sofia. You're a a sparkle of God. If he can't respond to your feelings the way you deserve and want, you can only love him for whom he is and move on. There's thousands of soul mates-to-be in this vast world. I know the right person is coming.
@hopeann8757
@hopeann8757 2 года назад
Same to you. I'm glad you know your worth & you let him go by pushing him away. We all deserve better! Glad your in a better plsce! Wishing you all the best!!
@candisasare151
@candisasare151 2 года назад
Sofia,can I get ur comtact
@angelinasamson6996
@angelinasamson6996 2 года назад
Some people need to realise that everyone we meet actually teaches us something about ourselves to , I’ve gone no contact because I’m doing me
@sketch_wid_praveen425
@sketch_wid_praveen425 5 месяцев назад
yeah god send those people to ur life to check ur abundance for urself n he keep letting send until u come out of it
@Kerry-b1980
@Kerry-b1980 6 месяцев назад
Exactly 👌💯 Detach move on. We meet people in life for a reason. Never regret relationships it was what we wanted at that time. Good Memories and sometimes lessons . Self love always ❤✌️🌎
@unabridgeddick6645
@unabridgeddick6645 Год назад
My ex really hurt me. I thought everything was good and I felt secure. She out of nowhere broke up with me right after I moved 200 miles to be close to her after driving there every weeekend for about 5 months, through snow storms, covid lockdown restrictions, I was crushed. She always kept in contact though, I finally got her to admit she liked this other guy more but he was married and he left his wife to be with her. Well, her always contacting me and checking on me always kept me in a broken hearted state. I finally blocked her on everything and I started feeling 100 times better. When I'd talk to her I would get so happy and feel on top of the world, then I'd feel so depressed and sad. Forget about your ex, she's stealing your energy.
@bernardoaguilargt3763
@bernardoaguilargt3763 6 месяцев назад
I was fool enough to contact an ex. She was in an already crappy relationship, and we slept a couple times. The guy broke up with her, she went depressed BUT kept contact with him in some sports teams almost daily. Nevertheless she was texting me all day long, called me a couple times a day (at least), but I was clear in my non-platonic intentions. She went from reluctantly accepting to outright rejecting me, so I quit. She went MAD about it. I now can feel the energy she was sucking out of me. Don’t make my same mistake, guys.
@dwittlief
@dwittlief 5 месяцев назад
I feel this. Just had the same happen; we were talking about me moving there and she expressed she was all in. Then did an about face about 10 days later and completely curb stomped me. This message is what I needed today, I've been expending too much of my energy trying to stay in contact and I just need to go no contact and focus on myself. It's been draining me.
@brucewayne-ej3cx
@brucewayne-ej3cx 4 месяца назад
W-H-A-T T-H-E F-U-C-K. Get a sex doll. Never go out of your way for her.
@BetsyT4782
@BetsyT4782 2 года назад
I love this and what Aaron says about “stop abandoning yourself.” I think he is describing the ideal state for no contact, but I also think it’s okay to just practice the behavior of no contact even if you can’t get a person out of your head. Fake it til you make it. If you have an anxious attachment style, it will be very hard to stop focusing thoughts on a person, but Aaron’s advice of stopping the social media stalking and all forms of contact will be a great place to start. Eventually you will get there energetically too.
@carmenkamberos1156
@carmenkamberos1156 Год назад
Betsy Truberg, no contact means to let go for ever. Leave graciously and with dignity. Where there’s mutual love there’s grace and peace. Love is not stressful at all. No begging, no bread crumbs… you deserve better. Blessings
@adaptercrash
@adaptercrash Год назад
I think he ìs out to lunch no psychology degree... psychotic amnesia some answers of their life some serious counseling whether they are even capable of being in one...again ? did you actually surgically break up or just walk out of each other's lives? Energy man .. energy... space and your own energy.. feeling energy mandatory you don't want them in your life, they know that, but they ended up being your best friend anyway they can't even tell about your energy man... this person choosed me and is trying to be non criminal about it.
@RealTalkwithVaishnavi
@RealTalkwithVaishnavi 4 месяца назад
Yessss❤
@86Kera
@86Kera Год назад
I love how you supported having a conversation before you go no contact and displaying vulnerability. Often times going no contact may seem like ghosting someone,but what sets them apart is having just that one conversation before you decide to step away.
@GGGG1040
@GGGG1040 Год назад
I wanted to have a last conversation, but he didn’t give me the chance so I sent a goodbye message saying that I understand and I will honor his decision and wish him the best. I started my no contact after that. No drama.
@crystallight328
@crystallight328 Год назад
Yeah I didn’t I just did no contact so it looks like o ghosted. I feel bad but I know no had to do it.
@asteriamoon1817
@asteriamoon1817 11 месяцев назад
My partner lied to be for months, looked into my eyes and lied..over and over again. Made me question my sanity. Made up stories. Swore on his kids life. I went no contact. He didn't deserve any kind of message from me.
@tabishkuma
@tabishkuma Год назад
I can relate to all of this. I know for a fact that I have an anxious attachment style and the person that interests me often takes over my mind completely. I am going no-contact, but I still occasionally have dreams with this person where I'm attempting to seek their validation. It's hard to fall asleep in the first place because of the conversations I keep imagining. It sucks.
@Caolan-b6r
@Caolan-b6r Год назад
Yeah this advice doesn't work for us, it's OK to try to look after yourself and try new hobbies but your in your own head for 24nhours a day no way to escape
@widM_
@widM_ Год назад
any update on your no contact?
@arkedabar
@arkedabar 2 года назад
The mission in your message is so relevant. Please never stop providing your knowledge and healing
@calliefisher8558
@calliefisher8558 Год назад
I’ve been no contact for 2 years . Best thing I ever did!
@showspotter
@showspotter 2 года назад
Its great to focus on yourself but ive found that it has to come naturally and doesnt until you reach that point from within. You can try to force yourself to forget them all day long but it wont happen until the moment when it naturally happens inside.
@firasharb1454
@firasharb1454 Год назад
I agree . It’s very hard but it definitely has to come naturally
@robertojuanfernandez1558
@robertojuanfernandez1558 Год назад
Thanks for this reminder, I won't be abandoning myself again. ❤
@AmandaExpanded2514
@AmandaExpanded2514 9 месяцев назад
This popped up in my feed and I really needed to hear it. I didn’t realize I was abandoning myself in reaching for connection and proving my worth. I got closure yesterday by saying “I am not continuing this connection. Your actions do not match your words and I’m sick of being ghosted constantly. Good luck.” It’s hard not to check socials and you grieve memories with the person as well but it does get better. 💕 I’m going to block socials to keep from checking and I’m combining EFT on limiting beliefs of worthiness and not being enough as well as abandonment issues. Thank you for your content!
@diilain
@diilain 2 года назад
To anyone reading this, there will be ups and downs. I’m going through this right now, lack of sleep is the worst!! 8 year relationship, ended in 45 seconds via FaceTime. No conversation, or courtesy or feelings towards the length of our time together. Not one word! I’m now 24 days NC from the very end of that phone call. I’m trying to tell myself that I’m in a good place, although I’m struggling a lot. I’m finding it difficult to pull my energy back. Watching a lot of these videos, meditation, self concept meditation and learning about attachment styles. Just as a side I’m a middle aged guy, I go gym 5 days/week, good job and life. But I do still miss my relationship, as we did have many good memories. You, yes, you! Stay strong, the universe has got your back. ✌️
@marienoelbeyond1271
@marienoelbeyond1271 2 года назад
I'm going through a break after 10yrs with 1 kid...it socks but it's well
@natybee8263
@natybee8263 2 года назад
You’ve got this. literally have to focus your thoughts on you.
@markc2622
@markc2622 2 года назад
Same thing happened to me, cut off like I never existed, Its been 6 weeks and still spend everyday thinking about her. I contacted her once 2 weeks ago and it didn't go well it just resurfaced all the pain. I hope your life has got easier and don't fold like i did. We deserve better 🙏
@bryans_main
@bryans_main 2 года назад
Excellent job! You're on the right path. Keep it up. A little bit of time and you'll be better than you've ever been! You'll be grateful for the pain you went through!
@diilain
@diilain 2 года назад
34 days NC I’m staying strong, the book ‘Attached’ was a real eye opener for me as was Corey Wayne’s, 3% man. Both have helped completely change how I view and interact in relationships. I’ll use those as fuel as I cont on this journey. It’s not all good though. Sleep or lack thereof is really bad. Just can’t seem to stay asleep. I know it’ll get better I just hope it’s soon. Stay strong 💪🏻
@kolorkonexion
@kolorkonexion 2 года назад
There is a time that what you think the other person makes you feel it is in you and in reality you are the creator of that energy not the other person...💯💯💯💯
@intenselyrich3517uk
@intenselyrich3517uk 2 года назад
Mirrors ..thats so true of twinflames. But also all soulmates, iv found 💕 xxx
@TheSinlessAssassin
@TheSinlessAssassin 2 года назад
So true. I used to miss her so much and the fun and excitement I thought she brought into my life. But then I looked back and thought deeply remembering clearly that I was the one who put that fun and excitement into our interactions.
@QUELIQ7
@QUELIQ7 2 года назад
This! 💞💞💞
@isaacjacobs3785
@isaacjacobs3785 Год назад
Smashed this Aaron. 100% agree, totally works, focusing on you and your energies, forgetting them, and out the blue, they are trying to get back into your life with a random text.
@Mimi-mo9ss
@Mimi-mo9ss 2 года назад
Yes I highly believe in no contact too. One of my ex bfs send me a letter recently. I didn’t read the letter I didn’t want to know how he was doing I threw it right into the trash. Of course a part of me found it really tempting but I didn’t want to exchange any of my energy with his and give the universe wrong signs. I don’t want any contact. I think that is the best thing to do in a lot of situations.
@bobbyrebholz2183
@bobbyrebholz2183 Год назад
I would like to add one small bit for those who have divorced but still co-parent, you can have no contact on everything he just said BUT, when you do need to communicate for the children's sake, keep it 100% like a business conversation. Texts are short and direct and usually involve scheduling of schooling, doctor appointments, and anything related to the well-being of the kiddos.
@jomariecrowder5769
@jomariecrowder5769 Год назад
This advice is really helpful for me. I’m in a situation like this and I’ve accepted that I need to let go and start showing up for myself.
@StevenJacob028
@StevenJacob028 3 месяца назад
Very worldly but informational…things take time, don’t destroy your morals & values & be true to Christ & the good that is inside of you when the devil tries to tear you apart! This is why it’s important to know Gods word as well as the woman you choose to intertwine your soul with as we are connected in our mind, body, & souls. Choose the hard right & do good because simply it is good to be good! Forgive one another & stop holding onto the past to live present in the future or the devil will keep dragging you back down reminding you to keep you at a current state. Stop blaming your trauma & take accountability for your actions…do unto others as you would have done unto yourself!
@EdytaSantos
@EdytaSantos Год назад
That is what I did consciously ….. took my time off without that person To come back to my own energy … with no expectation of coming back …. ❤🎉
@winnied87
@winnied87 Год назад
What a good message. Self-abandon is the core issue, indeed. It takes courage and work to accept oneself and grow. So worth it in the end. Thank you, Aaron.
@lacieb716
@lacieb716 2 года назад
Oh I needed this today…. I’m going through it right now in a complicated situation. Thanks!
@jamessionesini7377
@jamessionesini7377 Год назад
I feel ya girl....i once had a narrcist ex
@thestraycat69
@thestraycat69 2 года назад
You encouraged me to talk to her, truly talk to her, tell her everything, it's going to be one of the hardest conversations I'll have.
@lena-Ramone
@lena-Ramone 6 месяцев назад
Good for you being brave. I hope it went well.
@jonathanheighes8919
@jonathanheighes8919 2 года назад
I would love to see a video of you talking about the energy of “stringing people along” or “bread crumbing” and the energy and childhood dynamic going between both parties in that situation.
@TheDivineShiver
@TheDivineShiver 2 года назад
That also still comes down to one having an anxious attachment style (the one who lets themselves get breadcrumbed) and the avoidant attachment style (the one who does the breadcrumbing)
@lizcuero9065
@lizcuero9065 2 года назад
No contact is like fasting and tithing. It works.
@thrutheeeyesofrah
@thrutheeeyesofrah Год назад
Thank you Aaron for sharing your priceless wisdom! It has been a real rough time going no contact with someone I hung out with everyday the past year and made so many new memories/experiences I’ve wanted all my life with to nothing at all and this person texting me “be gone” as a ways of breaking up with me and telling me they don’t want me in their life anymore as an anxiously attached person..one of the most heartbroken I felt in my 22 years of life so far. I’ve been learning a lot about myself and my fault in the approach I have to intimate relationships I share and how much I lose myself & my dreams for others. Not anymore, I will be there for myself before I am others from now on till I am back on solid ground in my own presence. I will increase my self worth and respect one day at a time 💪🏼 stay strong everyone, life isn’t for weak souls that’s why you exist!
@kapostrophelay
@kapostrophelay Год назад
I needed this... I've been needing this for months, maybe even years. Thank you so much ❤ I'm beginning to heal
@JakeStewart1343
@JakeStewart1343 2 года назад
I do "No contact" because I'm elevating to a 5d reality. Their energy holds me back and I'm ok with old relationships wanting to stay in a 3d reality. 😎
@chrisv.6758
@chrisv.6758 Год назад
6 years in a relationship and we both just left each other mutual separation. It’s been about 60 days and I can say I’m completely have moved forward and don’t even think of my ex at all. Yesterday I got a call from her during the day and at night but I didn’t answer. Just feel if I answer than I’m going backwards again when I’m so motivated to move forward and start my life fresh and new. Thankful I don’t know how but everyday that goes by I feel stronger and better with myself and I’m even getting to the point of meeting somebody soon. So if anybody is feeling down no contact is the best way to go and not to get your ex back but for you to move forward with your life. Remember they are your ex for a reason always keep that in mind. Good luck everybody!
@Caolan-b6r
@Caolan-b6r Год назад
Or you never truly loved each other, especially if it took you 8 weeks to move on, get used to it you'll not likely be in a life long relationship with this mindset
@mattcanflyhigh
@mattcanflyhigh 2 года назад
I just got out of a 4 1/2 year relationship and we were engaged to get married. 1 month before our wedding, she walked out of my life. I’m 36 years old, I felt like she was the one. I spent the last 4 years investing into her school and career , our relationship and it’s abrupt end has been really tough. I’m starting to see though that we probably both had some sort of abandonment issues…. She kept wanting to come back , just to have sex with me, and I emotionally couldn’t handle it bc I’m in love with her and that’s not what I want. I’ve went full no contact to work on myself, but it’s still a brutal reality to face.
@carmenkamberos1156
@carmenkamberos1156 Год назад
@mattcanflyhigh, yes, that was very inconsiderate of your g/f to leave you just like that. For whatever reasons, she left, the pain, hurt and disappointment are really brutal, so cold!!! Only God can help you overcome this mortal blow! Turn to Jesus, and ask for His guidance and love. Go to a full gospel church where you can find support and counseling, healthy friends too. Nowadays people have no problem hurting other people’s feelings, no shame, no heart! No wonder society is so rotten, drugs, crime etc. No feelings, so much materialism!!! Incredible !!! Stay strong and don’t go back to her for nothing. You deserve better. Plenty of fish in the ocean… Blessings
@motherbear327
@motherbear327 9 месяцев назад
This is exactly what I teach my clients in a domestic violence program. So glad to hear someone speak the same language on the same topic. Great video!
@khaa7171
@khaa7171 2 года назад
This is so true I try explain this to my friends but they just don't get it they think if they do this the person us going to leave instead it makes the relationship stronger or repairs the relationships! Distance makes the heart grow stronger!
@barnabashupp7325
@barnabashupp7325 Год назад
Every word Aaron pronounced in this video is simply golden. What a hero this guy is!
@lisadipasquale6121
@lisadipasquale6121 Год назад
Nah. Not pulling back with no contact because I want outcome with being with him. I just don't NEED to be in this relationship. I don't chase, never did, never will. I'm comfortable and confidant within. If he comes back, I'll see what I'll decide to do. It's all good.
@JAH0114
@JAH0114 2 года назад
So true about the energy fields happens to me with many ppl I’m connected to - so on point! Thank you ✌🏻
@droflivelife
@droflivelife Год назад
I'm 7 days into no contact, I'm truly struggling, but I will stay strong. But my fear is this time away helps her move on.
@ProdBySinister
@ProdBySinister Год назад
any update man? currently in the same boat
@droflivelife
@droflivelife Год назад
@@ProdBySinister Hey mate, I couldn't do it, I wasn't strong enough. I lasted 2 weeks and had to reach out. She was happy to hear from me. Then we got stuck in the friends zone. I know she was chatting to others and wanted her options open. We went back and forth for many weeks. But the videos are correct in they need to see you in a different light and feel they can lose you. It was only till I said I can't do this any more I need to cut you out of my life all together she seemed to notice and make an effort. We are now back together and I'm learning not to be so needy and give her space. So far it's working.
@michaelg4044
@michaelg4044 Год назад
That’s great to hear! I’m glad you were able to recover your relationship. I’m facing the same issue right now and it’s tough…. I feel like my ex is confused.. we been together for 3 years.. and she completely just started ignoring me out of the blue… I became really needy at that point. Trying everything to show her that I am promoting and accepting change in our lives. But she would continue to not talk to me.. I feel our relationship has been one sided.. but it’s just really hard to come to terms.. and accept.. I view my self with more value now that I have been these last few days.. but at the same time I miss her terribly..
@droflivelife
@droflivelife Год назад
@@michaelg4044 mate that's really hard. Especially when the communication is only one sided and only one person is making all the effort. The advantage I had that even when we were broken up and she couldn't see a future there was communication so I decided to play and take a chance on the friend thing. It finally worked out. But it was also hit and miss.
@michaelg4044
@michaelg4044 Год назад
@@droflivelife I’ll stay strong for now and see what happens!
@brettwilson3427
@brettwilson3427 Год назад
Thank you so much this. It resonated with me 100%. I now know what I am going to do. I could never understand why I kept making the same wrong decision again and again. I did meditation and the voice spoke to me telling me how I was abandoned at the age of 11. I had buried this 44 year's ago. It was a EurekAlert moment. This person is still very much in my life but I now have to let him go. I thank him for being my teacher. Lesson learnt. I now must start to unpack the abandonment from my childhood. Figured out why I kept going in the same circles over and over and over. Thank you ❤❤❤
@elizabethmariaunlimited9870
@elizabethmariaunlimited9870 2 года назад
Perfect timing! Thank you SO much for your service ❤️🌍✨💯🌈🦁🧘🏽‍♀️🙏🏽💃🏽📚
@Rebel377
@Rebel377 2 года назад
I personally don't like the no contact scenario for me, because it = the silent treatment= crazy making rollercoaster ride of resentment. I truly understand the energy dynamics. Sometimes you have to walk away and it's soul crushing especially when it involves family. I just lower my expectations and send that person healing energy. Great video!
@milhouse8166
@milhouse8166 2 года назад
Very true. It just becomes a back and forth game. Very draining. Better to just walk away sometimes.
@waterlilynymph
@waterlilynymph Год назад
That’s because you actually have to block their access to you and not just keep ignoring texts-I don’t know why he didn’t say this, but you actually block the person so you can’t get those crazy texts or calls from them breeding resentment. Just block them for awhile after explaining why. You can always unblock them later.
@carmenkamberos1156
@carmenkamberos1156 Год назад
Mulhouse, no contact to me means walking away forever, no matter the pain!!! If you get them back they’ll still break away from you later on. Leave the relationship with dignity and self respect. Plenty of fish in the ocean. Blessings
@Caolan-b6r
@Caolan-b6r Год назад
​@@carmenkamberos1156you'll be a lone forever with that attitude I get why someone would dump you if you think they can be replaced
@liztowers2058
@liztowers2058 2 года назад
I'm definitely going to do this. Starting .... 3 2 1..---NOW!!!
@user-oo7qt5vn2p
@user-oo7qt5vn2p 9 месяцев назад
Rather than just saying “focus on yourself rather than waiting for his text” this is way more effective and understandable advice. I tried protest manipulation but like you said couldn’t hide needy energy when I meet him again because of all the emotional rollercoaster I was on while on the protest period. This video and few other of yours totally changed my perspective and I already feel better about myself and about letting go. Thank you.
@cmara5765
@cmara5765 2 года назад
This is so beautiful- you are worthy because you are you! Thanks Aaron - timeless advice for all ages
@jaydub7386
@jaydub7386 6 месяцев назад
I was using no-contact as a cope thinking I'd get them back. Now I know I'm doing it for myself.
@angelinasamson6996
@angelinasamson6996 2 года назад
I’ve recently collected part of my inner child from the 3 month old version of me . I feel so much more complete now ❤️ I was definitely an anxious attachment
@christielee1840
@christielee1840 2 года назад
May I ask how did you accomplish doing That???
@nativechique7589
@nativechique7589 2 года назад
Following
@angelinasamson6996
@angelinasamson6996 2 года назад
@@christielee1840 asking myself why I get extremely attached and why I makes me feel very anxious when I loose that attachment, accepting that there was an issue with me that kept repeating the same cycle of attracting avoidant attachments , I know there’s nothing wrong with me yet I continue to connect with men that I feel I have to prove my worth them and I actually don’t at all , yet my body still filled with anxiety regardless has to how I saw myself. When we are young and we loose a connection with one of our parents or both , we start to tune into the environment to find some kind of connection… I became aware that I’ve always gone to my mum for acceptance and validation. So I asked my mum who’s very emotionally unstable when she had her first breakdown , it was when I was 3 months old Since I became aware of this I’m not the little broken girl anymore my inner child feels complete I’ve been on a journey of self discovery for around 5 years now and there was always a part of me that I felt I was lacking . Since then I’ve actually been able to stand up to my mum and not just please her for acceptance or validation. Awareness is the key , go right back through your adult years and teenage until you was first born Ask your family and friends how it was when you was a baby or child growing up For many years I had the idea that my upbringing was perfect, a false imagine that my mind designed which left me believing that’s there’s something wrong with me ❤️❤️❤️
@intenselyrich3517uk
@intenselyrich3517uk 2 года назад
@@christielee1840 u have to do the shadow work..theres many vids to describe this n give u help. Its usually around ur parents n early lifes' lessons that brought on beliefs tjat dont serve us. They are usually attatched to what society expects n what we conformed to. These days we dont need to live this way any more. It served the masses for 100s of yrs but only coz the family made us conform. We have to re learn the truth n not the illusions we've conformed to. Hope this helps too 🤗💕 xxx
@angelinasamson6996
@angelinasamson6996 2 года назад
@@intenselyrich3517uk yes I’ve also been doing the shadow work too ❤️ I’m a former substance addict too, you know for 7 years I never owned a mirror , I couldn’t even look at my own reflection ok a window so I had curtains up . I absolutely used to hate myself Christie. Then I turned it all around and I also look at myself in the mirror and talk to myself and tell myself that I am worthy , I am loved , ❤️
@Carla2186__
@Carla2186__ Год назад
Wow you just opened my eyes to something i was doing.... anxious attachment and pulling away so they can look for me in manipulation..... damn hit hard. Thank you..... ❤️
@n_krzem
@n_krzem 2 года назад
Thank you. I must have maniested this video 😁 this is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you for explaining it all so well
@donovanmifsud8664
@donovanmifsud8664 Год назад
It's time to be me , because I love myself more ❤ but the mind goes for the anxious attachment road ....it's also mainly , maybe due to past experiences ...but happy that yesterday gave the day to myself I spent , the dusk reading a book by the sea 🙏, no phone before bed , just me and God , being present in the moment
@Addictedtolive
@Addictedtolive Год назад
Hey man. Your my hero. I did that a few times in my life. And this last time works faster, even with a really special person to me. I tried to be friend but was so bad for me that I decided to do my way. I have a lot of respect for your knowledge.
@KimberlyKelly2000
@KimberlyKelly2000 7 месяцев назад
this is a whole other level when its your own child. It so much easier to do when its not your own flesh.
@TheInfamousMrZero
@TheInfamousMrZero 2 года назад
Aaron, thank you for this video. I finally understood what you meant and you explained so well that I think I can finally turn my no contact into something meaningful.
@sll110
@sll110 2 года назад
I Never know, all my chasing, all my choices, all my relationships all based on childhood trauma, and scapegoat of narcissists family members... most sadness things, Nobody worthy of my chase, It's childhood wounds, deepest wounds...
@carmenkamberos1156
@carmenkamberos1156 Год назад
Mark Twain are you seeing a therapist? This might help you in your relationships in the future. Blessings
@rahmaputriaprilia
@rahmaputriaprilia 6 месяцев назад
I did no contact for more than 3 months and he is back and now we are in good communication
@phenglor561
@phenglor561 Год назад
They don’t care anymore. Even if you go no contact, and they are doing the deed with someone else or multiple people, all they will feel is pity towards you because “their hearts have changed it’s mind on how they feel about you”. If you have ever had a change of heart on someone else, and they come back to you, and you felt nothing no more for them at that time, all you would do is feel pity and sorry for them that they still have feelings for you and you don’t. It’s like, you feel sorry that one time you had feelings for them and led them to that point but now, it’s gone, and you feel bad and ashamed to have liked them at one point. It also feels like a nuisance if they come back asking you to be with them again, but you don’t want to be with them anymore because there are no more feelings left in you for them. It’s a sucky feeling all the way around. No one wins in the end.
@TheSinlessAssassin
@TheSinlessAssassin 2 года назад
Sounds like a healthy spin on ghosting
@cosmicmedicine8266
@cosmicmedicine8266 2 года назад
🤣🤣🤣🤣😎
@danielgrohl6971
@danielgrohl6971 5 месяцев назад
When they abandon you and ghost they are showing you disrespect, and when/if you try and contact them you are showing yourself that same lack of respect. In a way we are Ghosting ourselves.
@shannondavis3338
@shannondavis3338 7 месяцев назад
Man I have been struggling with a break up and this video has given me some really good clarity to move forward with my life. Thank you
@miathyra
@miathyra Год назад
Agree completely but lord this life has been hard. My standards are on the floor because I was badly abused by my family so that's all I've felt like I deserved in life. I have CPTSD and it's hard enough to regulate myself on a daily basis, let alone try to make a living. I'll stay single for the rest of my life if that protects me because my precious heart and soul deserves to be treated well, loved and cherished.
@calabrese1531
@calabrese1531 2 года назад
Just what I needed and just in time (only 2 days have past of being dumped). Something clicked in me and I feel my power back. Thanks man. I’m in debt.
@calabrese1531
@calabrese1531 2 года назад
NO CONTACT = - ENERGY WASTED. + ENERGY = YOU HAPPY 😊 YOU HAPPY = OTHER MISSES YOU 😢 IMPORTANT = YOU HAPPY WITH YOURSELF YOU = WORTHY
@titmouse31
@titmouse31 2 года назад
I'm adapting this to my "mother" not a romantic relationship. What you said about no longer abandoning myself hit home so hard. I have very old wounds and super fresh ones. My hurtle right now is keeping everything off my mind. I heard everything you said to try in the video and I will. I never write comments like this, guess I'm being vulnerable. That's good yeah? Thanks Aaron.
@TwentyEightStreetMedia
@TwentyEightStreetMedia 11 месяцев назад
After all these years I still come back to listen to you. Thanks bro
@gennylane
@gennylane Год назад
I know you took a pause from making these relationship advice videos. But I'm really thankful for this, I have been watching youtube videos/ for advice ALL day long. And your words/ and delivery really helped and made the difference. Thank you and God Bless you, Aaron.
@murdiesel
@murdiesel 5 месяцев назад
Right on! This is badass! I have a huge amount of energy and you are correct. I need to harness it again instead of wasting it!
@naomijones8796
@naomijones8796 Год назад
How do you stop thinking of them? I'm trying to get him out of my head, but struggling. He's in my head like Every second of the day.
@Chrisa-w1r
@Chrisa-w1r 5 месяцев назад
Im starting no contact!!i m taking my power back to my body!!!
@taylorpack7705
@taylorpack7705 Год назад
Best thing to do is just tell them your door is open and pass the ball in her court then go on with you life no texting, no phone calls, and live your life to the fullest as possible. It might take a bit but you’ll figure out 1 of 2 things. 1. She’ll comeback and realize that you mean more to her than she thought or 2. You’ll figure out that she never cared and you’re better off.
@reihannahherring8605
@reihannahherring8605 Год назад
I go no contact because I get obsessive and they feel that and pull back so I pull back to not look desperate 😅
@liztowers2058
@liztowers2058 2 года назад
It's so hard, I become entangled and fall in love with the company , the sex, the vibe I get.....I turn codependent and I hate it so much!! I don't get bored, but I get lonely.:( so it's hard to let go. But I'm in a FWB with a guy since April. And it's killing me. Feels like it's going nowhere. Talking all day every day. Seeing once a week or so..... letting go will be so tough as I've fallen hard for him. But, he's emotionally broken and not available that way, due to his past traumas. Damn. Wish me luck.:(
@diilain
@diilain 2 года назад
I don’t know your situation, if the FWB is your choice then fine. If it’s not and you just feel wrap up in the moment, please stop. Get back your worth, live true to yourself and not be someone’s (maybe girl) Namaste 🙏
@crazyanimeloveable
@crazyanimeloveable 2 года назад
You're stronger than you think trust that!! It's better to let go now than to keep on hoping for something that won't happen. Cause if your honest you do want a relationship with him but you're settling for less. And most of the time it's not him it's just the company. Trust me! You Will Get Through Thisss
@k.e.s.h_
@k.e.s.h_ Год назад
@Liz Towers You literally are my twin from the other side of the world. I hope you are doing much better now 6months down the line. I hope you have realized you are stronger than you think. I am living your previous experience right now. It hurts as much as it’s messy. Falling so hard in love with someone you shouldn’t have fallen for to start with. Trying the no contact to get MYSELF back! 21days in and today I failed terribly. I broke the contact. Back to square one 😂 I either make it or make it 😂
@liztowers2058
@liztowers2058 Год назад
@@k.e.s.h_ lol yesss!!!! here i am still in it..fukin shoot me, lol
@k.e.s.h_
@k.e.s.h_ Год назад
@@liztowers2058 😂choose your weapon ma’am… spear gun or bazooka?😂 You and I are in the same group of people who need help😭 started my no contact again and failed right before it even started🚮 I’m in love now more than I was 2weeks ago😭 On my 3rd trial of no contact🥹 I hope I finally manage.
@christysprabary6379
@christysprabary6379 2 года назад
I needed This..Thank You for Being You 🗝️💜💫
@blossombellatigress8746
@blossombellatigress8746 2 года назад
Finding it so hard to be vulnerable. Just want to clear my head but can't bring myself up to this difficult task so staying in no contact with patience and in silence.
@tincup850
@tincup850 3 месяца назад
Not sure who needs to hear this. Once you get over the first couple of days it becomes easier. It allows you to refocus and once you get your items in line for what you want to do for you it’s almost like the fog clears!
@joeblow1942
@joeblow1942 Год назад
Wow, this is by far the best explanation of No Contact that I have ever heard.
@thecunningslug
@thecunningslug 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for this video. I've spent 4 weeks watching no contact videos, but this is the one that resonates with me the most
@alexandracostache3528
@alexandracostache3528 Год назад
This helped me so much this morning! Positive energy 🎉❤
@timstort8223
@timstort8223 Год назад
Man this is exactly what I needed!!
@marks9948
@marks9948 Год назад
you’ve said a couple of things here that i related to, that have not come about in nearly 3 years of therapy. the fact i go inward sometimes expecting people to know and react to how i’m feeling. powerful stuff. great video
@winnied87
@winnied87 Год назад
I've learned this the hard way. Used to live in the illusion that people surrounding me were true friends and wanted me around as much as I would want them around me. It took some personal mistakes and changes to realise that the energy was off. In the end I felt exhausted because I couldn't be open and vulnerable with said friend and distanced myself from them all. Only a few have reached out and I couldn't let any of them back. I put myself first. I do meet some of those people somedays in town and they see a different me. Some avoid eye contanct and some smile back to me. I don't feel any itnerest in running after them again and pretending to be friends. They were not around when I struggled the most and they would certainly not celebrate small victories with me. I am still working on myself and the change is slow. However, it feels like the energies are more alligned with me and my goals. It's definitely a good step to let go completely sometimes and discover oneself (sincerely).
@jesenikm
@jesenikm 3 месяца назад
No contact is bullshit. It means it is game over. If someone wants to have a relationship of any kind, contact is needed!. Without contact, effort and willingness, there is no relationship.
@sijanacanovic1811
@sijanacanovic1811 2 года назад
Great video! Thank you 😊
@thunderkat5282
@thunderkat5282 Год назад
I don’t think she would’ve came back anyway, but I definitely messed up no contact until I got it right.
@alirh1145
@alirh1145 2 года назад
thank you for all these I hope everybody finds their healing path
@manuelitofernando4968
@manuelitofernando4968 7 месяцев назад
I love the positive vibes here my friend ❤ i hope in true love. True love can be lost but will always come back
@brianverplanke6629
@brianverplanke6629 2 года назад
Love this thank you. I am worthy
@freckles_on.my_skin
@freckles_on.my_skin 2 года назад
Thanks so much for the confirmation💚 Much needed✨
@freckles_on.my_skin
@freckles_on.my_skin 2 года назад
@Dylan G Yes, thank you
@la_baby_khalil7703
@la_baby_khalil7703 2 года назад
🙏😟🙏 SO TRUE 🙏😢🙏 I'M GONNA LISTEN TO THIS OVER AND OVER AGAIN...AMEN!!! 🙏😔🙏
@dariolm6965
@dariolm6965 Год назад
I love the way you communicate and the energy you have. It’s amazing how I can identify myself in your words. Thanks for arising this topics, love you man
@jasnajulija
@jasnajulija 2 года назад
Yes, I can relate. Thank you for your video ❤️
@MiahDoughty44
@MiahDoughty44 6 месяцев назад
Seems toxic to me. Like a form of self savatoge. No relationship is ever 100% healthy or good for you 100% if the time. That would take perfect people in a perfect world.
@hectorandujo4475
@hectorandujo4475 5 месяцев назад
Love is having authenticity and value your partner
@mzcrystal87
@mzcrystal87 2 года назад
Perfect timing
@chameleon2432
@chameleon2432 Год назад
This advice is GOLD…
@vhayashi7369
@vhayashi7369 2 года назад
This is Genius
@palapalak.8907
@palapalak.8907 6 месяцев назад
Very healing to go no contact. Best decision ever.
@kenhnatiw4811
@kenhnatiw4811 2 года назад
It's a little harder with kids involved, but it can come really close, she gets none from me, only the kids get my energy
@hilaklein4087
@hilaklein4087 2 года назад
Yes i am going no contact right now 😃
@cary1126
@cary1126 Год назад
Why could I not have learned these things 30 years ago? My life could have turned out so much differently. Well, better late than never, I guess.
@tonyconnor5691
@tonyconnor5691 Год назад
Most of the time you go no contact is because the other person is toxic or more likely a narcissist
@sylwiarausendorff2067
@sylwiarausendorff2067 7 месяцев назад
Thank you much! This will help me! Thank you for loving me, Adonis ❤
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