I have listened to this video 7 times, and each time I learn more and realize its value in my life. I suggest listening several times. Roxy gives excellent examples and models for the non-violent response and figuring out my own needs.
@SharpLeft Thank you for capturing Roxy teaching NVC basics!! Her teaching style is super inspiring to me! I am so grateful to have this to share with others :)
Rebekah solarwillpower Google! :) I just searched for Nonviolent Communication practitioners in the Bay Area, and her website came up. I got in touch and asked if she wanted to do a trade, I filmed some clips for her and she did this interview for me. I was stoked that she said yes! And I definitely learned things from making this video.
Rebekah solarwillpower please don’t use words like articulate when referring to a Black woman. I’m sure you mean no harm but....just google it, you’ll see.
@@PilatesWithCicely so true! I learned this by mistake. "Articulate" and "eloquent" are generally not received as compliments by black women or men... I am not sure if there are sensitivities with other BIPoC or not, but I appreciate that it is a sensitivity among many African Americans and black people in the USA. Having said that, I am inspired by Roxy as I find her ability to express these teachings with a remarkable level of clarity and organization of thought that is notable in the world of NVC certified trainers. I consistently enjoy learning from her.
I think mentioning the founder of NVC, Marshall Rosenberg, should be the starting point... thanks for explaining how you understand Marshall Rosenberg's way of being in the world
Why is that important to you? Marshall had a vision of expanding peace and love in the world. He founded NVC so that people could take his framework, add their own wisdom and experiential knowledge, and share compassionate communication with the world. NVC has become what it is today in part because of hundreds, if not thousands, of other practitioners sharing and evolving and adding to the form. Knowing what I know of Rosenberg, I don't think he'd care one bit about whether he was mentioned in every single video on NVC. This is not a standalone resource. I encourage everyone to find more resources on NVC and expand your learnings on the topic.
Her using examples about being loud or yelling are not observational from a. NVC consciousness point of view. Apart from that, it's a very helpful video
How would you observe when someone is using a louder volume than they normally do? I understand what you're saying but I think the point is that observations must be nonjudgmental, and I interpret "yelling" to be value-neutral. What are your thoughts?
I think it can still be true that one can try and reach them by attempting to empathize with what might be going on for them. I think most people can learn empathy, if they’re open to it. “Don’t let what looks like a bloated ego and narcissism fool you into thinking there’s a lack of shame. Shame and fear are almost always driving that unethical behavior. We’re now seeing that shame often fuels narcissistic behavior. In fact, I define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary. Grandiosity and bluster are easy to assign to an overinflated ego. It’s tough to get a glimpse of the fear and lack of self-worth that are actually behind the posturing and selfishness because posturing leads to weaponizing hurt and turning it on other people. The last thing people like that need is more shame. More accountability for their behavior and lack of empathy? Yes. More shame just makes them more dangerous, gives them the opportunity to redirect attention to the shaming behavior, and, weirdly, can drum up support from others who are also looking for a way to discharge their pain and an enemy to blame.” Brené Brown
Thanks for letting me know about the closed captions. I unlisted a lot of videos a few months ago, after the Posie Parker protest in New Zealand a lot of local trans folks myself included were hit with immense amounts of online transphobia, so I took a social media break and closed comments on many of my videos, while unlisting others. I have made the video with the alien public again, and I'll look into the CC on this one when I have time. Thank you
@@BodeRiis Thank _you_ for making my name in the credits public again, I feel like Rockfeller with his name on a plaque on a library wall when I see it lol