North Korean mom reacts to Gentle American fathers for the first time! 

Nothing is embarrassing to me if it brings a smile to my daughter's face.

Its so lovely that even though she was taught to hate us, she found such beauty and compassion in our culture. She just spent approximately 10 minutes celebrating us. I love this chick!

What a sweet woman!! And how glad I am that she had a father who was so glad to see her, he cried.

“A man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man” Godfather

As a man, and a father, nothing is embarrassing enough to not do for my daughter. Nothing. She is what I live for, and I would die in pain and agony a thousand times, if it meant safeguarding her. What is embarrassment, compared to a child's love? Nothing. What is looking foolish, compared to hearing your child's laughter, hearing the joy that they feel at seeing you fulfill their whims and dreams? No offense, but it is entirely by design that this goes on in North Korea. The government does not want you to have ties to your family, so the government can take over the role of your family. Become your provider, your teacher, your role model. That is why they do those things, why they tell men to not love their own children, so they won't love their own in return. They destroy the family unit, so they can fill the void. In what world is it healthy for a man, or a woman, to not think that their kids are the most important thing in the world? That is, after all, the reason why we are here. To reproduce, to continue the species, and the way you do it is through successful rearing of children. And guess what? Even a dog, or a cat, or a pig, or a rat would defend it's kids, protect them, and teach them how to be successful in life. All it takes to know this, is to observe the world around you, and be inspired. If you can watch a male rat defend his babies from harm, or a dog defend its mate from being beaten, then why wouldn't you see that that is the normal way of things? That if an animal can do this, why can't I?

This makes me miss my dad because when I was 7 and wanted to be a mermaid, he cut-out and colored a mermaid tail out of plaster board and we made a little movie about a girl waking up as a mermaid on the camcorder; he let me listen to the Spice Girls whilst doing chores; he dressed me up as Cruella DeVille for Halloween... the list goes on. I was so spoiled!

I’m a happy stay at home American daddy and I do this kind of stuff all the time with my 2 little girls ages 3 and 8. I love them very much and playing with them makes me feel like a kid again 😊👍

Omg her story about her father is so sweet!! And I bet he felt 100 feet tall when you were showing him off!

I have 2 girls and 2 boys, I'm blessed to be their daddy! Yesterday we painted Halloween pictures on canvases. My girls always call me "silly daddy" because I like to do voices lol I couldn't imagine raising them in a place where I don't actually raise them nor have a real relationship with them. My dad wasn't really this way with me and my brothers, and he even said as much now that he's an old man. I'd hate to have that kind of regret! This video highlights one of the many freedoms that Americans take for granted, but I promised myself a long time ago that I would never take my children for granted!

Absolutely NOTHING will stop me from loving, protecting and appreciating my children. They are the most important aspect of life. Teaching your child how to have the best life, showing endless love at all moments and having compassion with a childlike sense of exploration, creativity and wonder. My position as a dad fills me with neverending happiness.

I always get so flustered when I hear how strict Eastern parents are... My Indonesian girlfriend also mentioned that it's culture for a man to work outside the house and women to do all the work. Here, my Dutch parents balance work equally. Both work outside and both work at home, so they switch it up sometimes, balancing the work load together. I adore this mindset. And it's one I intend to work out with my beloved when she moves to Europe next year and comes to me

It hit right in the feels when she said she held her father's hand and took him to school to show off how she actually has a dad and he's tall and cool, putting the bullies in their place...

She looks so sweet and full of energy! ❤️

I never thought about how fathers act in different country's gives me a new perspective on my dad. I hope over time, everyone in the world can have loving familys like this.

I am glad that she has a happy memory of her father to hold onto.

What a beautiful soul! I wish her the best.

I remember running to the grocery store one Saturday morning after playing with my young daughter and thinking everyone was in a great mood because of all the smiling folks. When I got home, I realized it probably had more to do with the shocking number of hair clips stuck on my head that she'd put in there during our play.

I appreciate her perspective tremendously.

I gotta say when it comes to someone that is dear to you like your children or someone you have been with for over than 5 years then yes when you do something embarrassing its no longer embarrassing cause when it comes to that persons smile its everything

Awe. Childhood cancer is the absolute worst. I hope that beautiful little girl is ok.

Having both parents working has actually improved "Dads" involvement in their children's lives i think. Being involved with your kids especially girls, does not make a man weak, it makes him stronger.

It’s pretty cool to have ANYONE talk about the US positively. We have so many positive things, yet never hear that.👌👍

I would do anything for my daughter And never be embarrassed I Love here more than anything on this planet

Your father is incredible

Someone got to tell her that gentle father's are rather rare in our society as well.

Amazing! Because of her not knowing how to play with her son from her own upbringing, she's studying so she can know how to play with him ❤ there's so many different ways to show love

Not all Anerican dads are like what's depicted in the clips😅 dads being more involved with their kids and the household is still a relatively new thing. Since there's so many different ethnicities in the US, it sometimes influence the amount of involvement dads have with their kids and the family dynamic.

It's very humbling. Of course, those of us in the US know that not everyone is lucky enough to have a happy family like the ones in the videos but at least I have the absolute freedom to provide that kind of silly, kind, complete love to kids in my life. We're a deeply flawed country, but we're still lucky.

Tbh this video made me so sad. My dad bailed as soon as he could and now just calls me if he's trying to get money. I'm always a little jealous seeing these little kids running up and getting hugs from daddy but I'm always glad to see it happen. Dads, don't ever abandon your kid. They'll always notice the hole in their life.

I'm an American. Hearing a surprised reaction to the way the men in this video acted towards their children, that has seriously impacted me. The way these men responded to their children seems normal and healthy to me. It also makes me think about the countless women in the US who leave men like this because the men are "betas". I never plan on getting married or having more children, because if I did and it failed, for a second time, I dont think I could survive. I think I cold love again with a woman who values men being good fathers, like the saint in this video. The whole situation makes me sad.

I am so happy you had that wonderful memory of seeing your father again after being apart. I did not see my father at times for 18 months at a time as he was in the military and got wounded in battle. He was hurt badly and had to recuperate before he came back home. He went away every 3 years sometimes 2. It was always so hard to have him gone. This was before internet and cell phones. We wrote letters and it would be weeks before we would hear from him. Bless you, for appreciating our US fathers. My father has passed on but I have good memories of his being silly and laughing and making sure we were fed and clothed. We did not have a lot as there were 5 of us but we had enough.

From birth to now at 15 I am my sons best friend. He prefers spending time with me over his friends. I love it even if he's gotten to old to give me hugs lol.

She's so fascinating!! I hope she finds herself that affectionate American man :) Also, I love that she didn't fault North Korean dads for being distant and made it clear that they're doing their best for their families.

I always wondered what it would be like to have a father like this. My father was more of a in the background kind like North Korea. He did not show affection and spent very little time with his children. It’s nice to see there are a lot of loving dads out there.

She is such a sweet and endearing lady! I feel really bad that a lot of people don't have that type of nurturing home life even here in the US! It's just really sad because kids deserve and need all the love they can get and it just kind of breaks my heart to see how much the North Korean people have suffered! All of it needless and all of it avoidable! Just heartbreaking!

When a father combs, braids, or place hair clips into his daughters hair (even as a widower & not looking for a substitute wife), he puts alot of love & care into his daughters presentation.......its his quality time.

I just love how she has a strong Korean accent.

It seems like her father was told about the bullying and he came to protect his daughter, that was just as cool and loving as the people in the videos she watched.

Working a soul crushing job from dawn till dusk to feed your family is love. A man who does this is giving up his life so you can live. We show our love in different ways.

Haha when my first son was maybe 6 months old he started throwing a fit because he wanted breast fed. I waited then I threw a fit and cut in and my son looked like me like "excuse me, sir, wtf are you doing". Edit: he still looks at me like that

Most fathers here are really nice sadly I was not blessed with that kind of father but he tries his best I’m just glad that most people here don’t have the same struggles as me :,)

Thank you for this video. Most American men are very good people. Props to you for being open minded.

Compassionate USA + Lovely Korean woman = perfect

Just as much, as you are amazed by the way American Fathers are, we are amazed by the appreciation you have for what we do. Thank you!

love this lady.

My heart goes out to all of your people in North Korea, I did grow up without a dad in the USA, but I have been so lucky and blessed that when I met my husband, we have 3 daughters together and he has always been a very amazing dad, involved in everything that the girls needed or wanted, they are now 14, 16, and 18, and he still tries to make them laugh every single day. I love him more and more not just because he's an amazing husband, but because he's a truly amazing and wonderful dad to our girls ❤❤

How sweet it is.

My grandmother and grandfather, used to take us all out together to a remote place in nature, and explore. Granfather would take us out, explore, make whistles from willow bark for us, he wasn't with us after I was in grade three. Grandmother would 'make' us garden and plant with her, and work with her on beauty, she taught me how to drive, we explored the countryside, father and mother would make sure to take time when possible to take us somewhere where we could learn about something good, learn history, museums, or just wander in the hills, see ancient native carvings on rocks by buffalo jumps, look for fossils, it is so strange for me, as a dad as well, a single dad, to see how difficult it is over there to just be a parent and have any time at all with your children. That breaks my heart. Children are treasures. It is evil to keep parents away from their families. Families and neighbours are what builds countries, future, and life.

I love your videos , they are also helping me in the art of speed reading.

My dad worked 2 jobs for much of me and y sister growing up. But he still found time to make it to whatever things we were doing in sports, academics, etc.... When we were very young, he owned a couple bars. He still made time for us. My mom got worried because the area we were in and we moved. He used his masters in special education to get a principal job at an alternative school. This where was all the “bad” kids were sent. My mom, at the time was a secretary, and contributing what she could. My dad got a 2nd job at a hospital on the weekends dealing with hard to reach patients. Drug addicts, violent ones, and those with mental health disorders. So, he would work around 7am to about 4pm during the week, and then leave Saturday morning at around 6am, and come back home around midnight Sunday night. He has sacrificed so much for my sis and I, and never failed to show how much he loves us. I’ll remember that to my last day.

I wasn't ready for that opening.

North Korean dads will start to do that, too. They love you guys the same amount.

Showing love and empathy and kindness toward each other and especially our children doesn’t need to just be a cultural thing. We all, all over the world can do it! ❤

I have two young daughters of my own and three older step kids (girls 22 & 14 and a boy 18) there's not much I wouldn't do for them. I take my 6 year old in my work truck whenever I can, camp out with her in our living room, coached her tee ball team etc

That's a lot of uhh....caucasian fathers.

Americans can be so soft sometimes. In a good way.

Love your reaction! Thank you for the honesty.

So many feeling in this. My empathy for the NK people is at an all time high, not because of some documentary or some Pulitzer prize publication, but because of these candid videos of those that escaped just talking about how different it was. I've grown up reading and watching war books and documentaries, the brutality of war and human death has little effect on my feelings, but hearing about how the average NK lives and grew up is just humbling and upsetting in ways I can't even describe.

Western women don't know how lucky they are, every woman should speak with this lady

My family has always been very demonstrative with affection. I remember, when I was in high school, my dad dropping me off at the school, and I leaned across and gave him a kiss, like I always did when arriving/leaving someplace (even home!). I was walking up the steps and a friend of mine said "you just got me in trouble", and I asked how? She said her dad say what me and my dad did, and he told her '"see? that girl isn't embarrassed to be with her dad". I consider myself VERY lucky to have had such a loving dad.

A retired 101st Airborne Paratrooper once told me some of the most sage advice I had ever heard: "Even if we should fall, we will not be defeated. Not because of our military might, but because of the fire in our hearts. We live, we love, we cry, we shout, we breathe, we protect, and we die. We are strong because we believe in our humanity. This finite existence is only meaningful if you live for others and are willing to lay down your life for them. An enemy is only an enemy in name only. We are all human in the end."

Man if she wasnt married I would marry her in a heart beat I love her energy and sense of humor plus shes beautiful on tio of all that I think I got a lil crush on her lol

I'll marry her in this life. She's awesome. Hope you have her back more.

I wish I had family like those videos I mainly have my mom here rest of family on other side of the country and very distant relationship.

I'm Italian, we have many good fathers here too

I am a (rare) male pediatric speech pathologist in the United States. Sometimes I have moms from other countries bring in their kids and they'll be a bit shocked to see me being effusive and playful and sweet with their 2/3/4 year old kids

This channel is amazing. Just goes to show you can never believe what you hear about other cultures. The US has all those negative views about North Korea and North Korea about America. They are both filled with regular people who are just doing their best

Loved it, so cute and positive!

Imagine a group hacked NK television broadcasts and all they play is this video.

My father loves my family very much, but i think he over works himself, i only get to see him late at night when he gets home from work(if i'm even awake) or early in the morning before school. I barely see him and i don't really know that much about him other than he loves us, i'm not close to him but i still love him, my family calls me a "daddy's girl" even though i'm closer to my mother, i don't mind it though. I'm very grateful for my father and his hardwork to make us happy and comfortable, i just wish he could stay home more often.

If I’m making a baby laugh I just forget about how silly I look to anyone else!

I'm so sorry, I admit my father did not spend time with me, but with my brothers and was so strict. But my husband had two daughters and they love him so so much. they are grown up but still call almost everyday and need to talk to dad!

It's honestly kind of interesting that Choi Geum Young is so open to these US societal norms. I know other first world country people who think it's wrong that men take such a caretaking role with children.

5:27 Just saying, this is in the UK. That car is a Vauxhall Zafira and Vauxhall is the UK-only version of Opel cars which are European. Also the whole scene just is British

Vietnamese regard a western man as a trophy. A kind husband.

Wow. How enlightening.

Sweet lady.

Great video! Has a great message. Thank you!

Make your own memories with your children. I made my own memories because my parents weren’t loving towards us children, so I decided at 12 years old that when I had children I would make sure they knew I loved them and made our memories

Having a Dad must be nice

❤️💯 thank you

We have a saying over here (US), "if it's crazy but it works.. then it's not crazy"

I've heard of cultures where it's common for fathers not to love their daughters (rural China, Afghanistan, Sudan...), but I've never heard of any country besides North Korea, where it's common for fathers to not even love their sons.

In the U.S. the real dads will be in their childrens lives. They'll protect and take care of them to the best of their ability when they're not working.

In the East, it seems like fathers are told to be cold to their kids, that their only purpose is to carry on and elevate the family name. It seems soulless IMHO.

My heart hurts when I remember how people in North Korea struggle i hope everything gets better 🤞🏼

I pray for the North Korean people often! I hope that soon things can get better for people there and they can have happy, healthy, well-fed families.

How come a hen make noise, I like it, I like it.

Wait until they tell her about the patriarchy and toxic masculinity ...

Live your best life

We take for granted what we have here in the U.S. I hate to say this but We act like a bunch of spoiled children . I’m so grateful to have been born a U.S citizen. 🇺🇸

Love is the answer. 💜

Sadly, not every father is like this here either. There are many who act like men in NK as well. The children in this video are truly blessed to have good fathers

Daddy Like.

She speaks so fast, i can't watch the video and read the subtitles at the same time.

I mean we can be terrifying when we need to be lol, but we just mainly like to sit back, chill, and enjoy the peace and quiet

I love your videos..thank you very much!! :)

Awe she has such a romanticized view of American men, so sweet 🙆

i think many guys would be happy to be married to her

If she defected does that mean her family in North Korea were put in prison camps as punishment? That must be very hard to think about.