My mother in law is a covert narcissist. I ended up in therapy because of her. I am in no contact with her and her flying monkeys.she is acting like a victim now.people need more awareness about this disorder.
True V r blessed with the ample of knowledge available at hand In past, many weren't aware & had to suffer 😞😕 in silence. Knowledge & independence is the greatest possession
Your videos are so genuine, these are things that people around me didn't understood when but when I showed your videos aboutthis topic they were able to relate it.....You are really amazing mam....
I want to meet in my life 2 persons ..manju warrier and Dr.susan ..such an inspirational personality u are mam ..God bless you doctor ...please please do more topics to save so many people ...
All these are my true and 100%. Children became in a defence moad... Now they are 31,and one son 21. I lost my kidney due to high pressure life.. if you have a such a partner PLZ RUN AWAY. DON'T TURN BACK.....
It is not easy to seperate from naracissit because of our culture and different problems. Listening to your videos helps many victims to manage their help.
True Preetha..the awareness in you itself will be helpful! In tamil there is a saying that one must stay away from evil people...as a person who was under the total control of an aunt who is a poster child of NPD I stay away from her and her goonies!
Dr. Susan, thank you so much for making this video and shedding light on this horrible experience. I am so happy that I listened to your video as this is exactly what I have been going through for the past 30 years, when I got married. My husband's twin brother's wife is a toxic woman and has been hounding me and my family for all these years. She abused my children and spreads false allegations against me so that my dignity and identity will be erased. Due to her actions, I was forced to believe that I am a terrible person who doesn't get along with anyone, but that was always the complete opposite before I met this wretched woman. Your video highlighted that she was the one manipulating our relatives and the public to believe those lies. Wherever my children and I go, she is there or she sends someone she knows to terrorize us. We are not even told if an immediate family member passes away. She gives the family orders not to inform us, and the others are scared about what will happen to them if we are invited or told about a death in the family. It is heartbreaking, but your video makes me feel seen. I always wanted to tell someone about it, but I was afraid to say anything due to the consequences. Once again, thank you so much.
Ma'am.... The video is highly useful... One suggestion is that is it possible to do the same video by using more malayalam words... Because when i try to share this with my relatives and friends, many of them are sad because of you use more english terms... Thank you ☺️
Ma'am, very true... My father got many jobs but he never went for any job and always sat at home, he cannot handle criticism, not even joke... Very rude, serious and he is problem creator but he has Charming personality whenever anyone from outside talks to him
Very true Susan. Make them realise their self is like fighting with a devil. They a never realise their evil behaviour , accept it and turns their immortal and selfish behaviours. Better not to convert them but find out our own ways to sustain.
Ma'am Hus Narcissist aanu.ath മനസ്സിലാക്കി കേസ് മായി പോകുമ്പോ mediation vannu. ആൾക്ക് ഞാനും മോളും കൂടെ വേണമെന്ന്. മാപ്പ് പറഞ്ഞു...samsaarikkumbo maam പറഞ്ഞ പോലെ money oriented aanu njaan എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞ പ്പോ എനിക്ക് ഫാമിലി aanu വലുതെന്ന് പറഞ്ഞു പോയി.
dr did you have this npd earlier in your life. Such a frank and clear explanation. Its like sharing one's experience. much appreciated work. dr its like you talking about me and my life and iam being vulnerable. yes dr iam a perfect narcissist. help me please
Yes, I have come across many in my life. one of my masters is in antisocial personality disorder. I first experienced them so close when I worked in a corporate world. I am working in the last 28 years in this specific area. Lots of clients and other acquaintance given me the deepest insight.
@@DrSusanKoruthu susan doctor i love you so much. iam glad that a psychologist who is much intelligent and knowledgeable. the psychologists i used to see where also people having some kind of psychological problems. most psychologists dont know really about themselves they cannot handle themselves from my experience doctor.
It really helps victims to manage their life, with naracissit, it is difficult to seperate from them, because of different problems and because of our Indian culture
@@manjushivaram1067 എൻറെ ഭാര്യയും അങ്ങിനെയാ .... . ഒരിക്കൽ മുടിയൊക്കെ ഉലച്ചിട്ട് കുട്ടിയെ മുലയൂട്ടിക്കിടന്നപ്പോൾ ഞാൻ ചോദിച്ചു "ഇതെന്താ പൂതനാമോക്ഷം കഥകളിയാണോ " എന്ന് . ആ ഒരു നിസാര തമാശക്ക് കുട്ടിയെ ഇട്ടിട്ട് അവൾ ഇറങ്ങി അവളടെ വീട്ടിലേക്ക് പോയി. ....
Good video explaining fear of exposure of a Narcissist. Madam can u present a video on Narcisisstic RAGE. Its a bad behaviour of a NPD often polluting the serenity of a workplace / home .
Doctor, your videos are so insightful, I am thankful to God for giving you wisdom and knowledge to invest more time on these specific kind of disorder. Madam, I would like to understand are NPD issues very common from very longtime because I wonder how many comments I have read below your each vlog for NPD. When I read these comments I am getting confused towards myself whether I can adjust and live forward or should I take a step ahead? As boiled frog syndrome , I adjusted for more than a decade and get confused fully.
Dr. I don't have rights to go on silence when a mistake happens on my hus side. Because he then goes for a silent treatment for months and I under go in pain. Because of this attitude I never remain silent. For every wrong he does to me, I should not raise my voice. If he sense that I am upset with him, he goes for a silent treatment. And I shouldn't. What a fate. Is this a trait of covert narc. Dr. Pls reply
Dr. Njan ith kelkan late ayipoii...butith ketapo ene enik manasilayii najn oru victim ayii 2.5 years aaai anubhaviiuvaa...ente husband ene inagne akii ..najn highly educated ayitpolum 10thnpolum pokatha alkare pole aki eduthu... Ene vedanipikavunnente apuram akiii...kudathe other relationship um und adehathinu....last a lady idehathinte salyam sahikathe case koduthuu....but Ellam affect cheithath eneannu.enik depression aaanu.njan entha cheyendath ennupolum ariyillaaa
മാം... എനിക്ക് ഇപ്പോൾ 24 വയസ്സുണ്ട്. എന്റെ husbnd ഈ nature ആയോണ്ട് ഞാൻ ഡിവോഴ്സ് വേണ്ടി നിക്കേണ്. എന്റെ gold അവരുടെ കയ്യിലാണ്. അതൊന്നു മേടിക്കാൻ വല്ല വഴിയും ഇണ്ടോ.... 😢 കോടതിയിൽ എല്ലാം അവർ നമുക്ക് നേരെ തിരിയില്ലേ.... എന്തേലും വഴിയുണ്ടോ അവർക്ക് humiliation ഫീൽ ചെയ്തു തിരിച്ചു തരാൻ.... 🥺
Mam....I married a narcissist. I never knew like these people too exist.Today I regret being an empath.I feel there is no justice in this world.I feel like taking revenge, but I know it will back fire on me..... I am broken within....I am suffering for no fault of mine.He has no conscience and no remorse for his sins
this to change my life ,so sadly,poorly i am,physical pain,mentaly recover my challenge,but others irritated in cheap way,so misusing my behaviour,physicaly blame to wound me,i mean others to me in their kite in bad uncontrolable stupid,cheap sentimental fall to me ,controling in wrong way,i am very disturbed my mind ,fear totally,others aim is my destroy,i knowing late so far,i am very tensed,angry_the cheap peoples were irritating me,i down in very high risky mental tourchering,i reject in bad people i can't understand their dramatic situations like a dog to me for seeing me
Hi Basheer, You can try self help yourself first and if not possible I suggest you seek victim survivor therapy. If you need my online session you may please visit my website www.drsusankoruthu.com or send a mail to drsusankoruthu@gmail.com
i hidden some details,yes i am very serious my life in real life ,it happen my life a tragedy ,very years till end i will fear it happen in this year something dangeour happen my life
Are narcissists stingy with money?? Ende father narcissist aanu Pulli swantham kaaryangalkku mathre paisa chilavakkarullu Veetukarkku vendi kooduthal paisa chilavakkumbol depressed ayath pole irikkum pulli 😕
My kids had undergone cruel sexual abuse from narcissistic grand mother.. She does beat her husband horribly and made him also to abuse kids... Then my husband is also narcissistic it seems.. He also abused kids aged 6 and 10..so I wish to take kids for counselling... Severe severe trauma beyond you can imagine...
@@Aamy444 yes, this world is so evil beyond we think. It was difficult for me to understand what I heard from kids... But psychologist told me there are women like this and no need to distrust children... Yea whatever a man does, that blood woman made my child to do.. My son really broke into tears
@@DrSusanKoruthu ok mam.. Thank you for replaying... I have sister diagnosed with bpd and my in laws have many narcissistic traits... Your videos are so helpful 💓
Mam, i have a doubt. He has a mistress now. But very sweet to her. She is a female version of him. Will he treat her the way he treated me? I just want to watch that suffering and die
I understand from your message, his mistress also has the NPD traits, so not necessary that she tolerate his abuses. It is better for you to come out of the hate and revengeful mindset to be progressive and happy in life.
Yes, but they don't undergo therapy. Basically they don't want to change as they are too afraid of anything affecting their fragile ego. They don't want to destroy the facades they created with great effort.
