U have so much courage to go through 6 husbands. Be strong. Love yourself. And keep striving. You can’t find 💯 percent a perfect Hmong man. It’s always a few negative u have to endure. May all goes well with you and your journey.
Very true. Let us say positive words to our bride/daughters. There’s no reasons to say these nasty bad comments. Glad this lady found her happiness. At the end of the day, we want someone to love us. Every guy is different, if the guy loves you unconditionally, they will never bring up your past. My hubby never ask me of my past or put that against me. He tells me when we arguing, “I don’t know what hurt you’ve been through but I am not that person and I love you for who you are today!”
He forced her to marry her kidnapper, then forced her to marry the 2nd guy just bc she is a “divorcee” so she should take whatever she can. That’s a horrible father lol
Hmoob lub qhov ncuj mas ntxim ntxub tshaj plaws! Lawv xav kom yus tau lub neej zoo thiab sis mas lawv tos tsis tau es yuav muab yu hais phem li ub li no txawm yog yus tsev neeg kiag.
Yog kawg mas viv ncaus peb cov hmoob ces yeej coj li ntawv tos luag tsis hlub u los twb yog vim u cov neeg tsis hlub u thiab es luag tsis hlub u os yog li Koj hais kawg li ua tsaug uas Koj tau tu txiv yog lawm.
Wow! I think I would have stopped after the 3rd one. More power to you sister. Very true...men are different. Glad you found love. Sometimes men your age are not the best husband material.
2nd one ces tag lawm os, koj mas tseem 3rd one. Date lawm xwb os after the 2nd one. Date es lawv thiaj li muaj qhov respect rau yus. You’re brave to think about the 3rd one.
Yeah. I would stop after 2nd husband too. I don't need all that suffering. I will just date. All 6 marriages seem so stressful. Best of luck to you sister !
Very true sister. But those whose never wore ur shoes think they are perfect. As this is nothing we ever wished in life; and I truly believe no matter how many times u marry; the right one will come and everything will work.
Tus neeg muaj lub siab hlub yus thiab xav ua lub neej tiag, luag yeej tsis tib yus. Luag yeej tsis muab yav tag los ua teeb meem kom muaj kev kub ntxhov. Tus neeg tsis xav nrog yus ua lub neej ces muab pov khib nyiab. Txawm pov pes tsawg tus, pov pes tsawg lub los pov.
Yog lawm os niam ntsuab teev kv leej twg los ntxub kv li os kv poj ntsuam los kv twb g thov leej twg noj li thb los cas lawv g nyiam kv kiag li kwv tij neej ntsa zej zog yeej g nyiam yus li os ua neej nyuaj2 kawg li
Tus viv ncaus aw txhob tu siab os koj 5tug txiv es koj nrauj lawm twb tsis tim koj ne, yog koj hlub npaum li cas koj tus txiv twb tsis hlub koj ces kav tsij muab nrauj li koj yog lawm os.
My heart goes out to this beautiful and brave girl. Sorry to hear she had to go through all this BS to get to where she is now. I really hate Hmong culture. The elders think they know everything and everything they say is right? No! I’m happy that she finally found God and that’s when her life turned around for the better. Congratulations!!! ❤
Your first marriage, that was beyond your control, but for the rest of the marriages/mistakes, it's on you. Mloog koj cov lus ces tej zaum koj yeej yog ib tug neeg coj tsis tshua tus los sis koj lub qhov muag tsom tib hom txiv neej xwb. You also justify your actions and the demise of your marriages by blaming others and never finding fault in you. There is a saying, tus 1 mas xam tias tsis paub, tus 2 thiab tus 3 ces yog tim yus lawm. Perhaps all those men eventually turned on you but could it be because of your personality and character? Koj tus cwj pwm ua pheej qhuas2 tias koj zoo nkauj, cev tsis puas es hmoob tej txiv nyiam2 koj nas, cov lus no ces peb twb nyeem tau koj tas lawm ne. Txawm tsis paub ntau los yeej paub koj me2 lawm. Yog koj zoo ces ntseeg lawm tias 6 tus txiv yeej tsis tshwm sim. Side note, I am so heart broken to hear about your baby though
This is why I chose not to teach my children about the toxic Hmong culture. I don’t like how they treat the girls/women. I don’t like force marriage, bride price, how they shame women but not men. This women deserves love and happiness just like the Hmong men.
cov neeg ruam ces yog li ko mas lawv qhuas tias lawv yog cov neej tsa os cov ruam ces yog li ko mas yus tab meeg rhuav yus tus neeg lub neej kom tau ua poj nrauj ntau tom ces yog li ko mas tus sister aw txhob tu siab os
You’re a strong women. Hmong people are so judgmental. Your dad is a good man who stands by you regardless. Glad you find someone who loves you for you and not be biased by your past. However many takes you to find happiness more power to you sister.
Tud me niam tsev aw qee tus ntxhais hmong ces thaum yus rhais thawj kauj ruam yuam kev lawm ces yeej yuav yuam kev li os .neej tsa ces twb g tas yog 6 tus thawj tug xwb los luag twb hais tias 3 niag ntxhais ces yog poj laib tub nkeeg etc lawm tab sis yog yus ua lub neej zoo mas mam xam yus xwb .tu2 siab kawg qhov yug txhaum los ua hmong ntxhais kawg
Ntuj aw yog nws txoj kev tub nkeeg es hauj lwm los tsis ua es pw cuj ca es tseem cia minyuam rau lub fai luam taub hau tawg tag ces kuv txoj sia Tu nrho nrog kuv Tus minyuam lawm ces nws ces kawg muab pov tseg thiab os. That is so horrible and sad.
Koj nrauj ntau dhau lawm es leej twg yuav ua cas xav hais koj lawm nawj koj cov neej tsa poob ntsej muag tag lawm mas koj ces twb tsim nyog tuag lawm os
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You persevered and continued to do good even during the most discouraging moments. I'm sorry it took you 6 tries, but good comes to those who deserve it.
wow koj lub neej nrauj txiv mas zoo li ua si tiag2 yom, zyov yog hmoob zoo Los neeg phem hauv lub siab li lau. koj yog 1 tug poj niam hmoob phem pem ntuj Los koj thiaj nrauj txiv ntau npaum no vuag ntiaj teb no cas txiv neej hmoob yuav ntshaw koj ua luaj, peb ua neeg nyob luag tsuas ntshai poj nrauj xwb o
1) A kidnapper, no good, 2) force to, no good, 3) a lazy person, no good 4) a lier & a cheater, no good, 5) another cheater oversea lol 6) are you sure this one is going to last? 🤨
Thaum los saum ntuj los. Tus tub teev ntawv yeej nug tias koj mus ntiaj teb koj yuav yuav pes tsawg tus txiv. Nws yeej tau teev ntawv tias nws yuav los yuav 6 tus txiv. Nws los nyob ntiaj teb no nws thiaj li yuav 6 tus txiv.
Niam tshuab teev yus yuav tus thib ib twb tsis zoo es yuav tus thib ob puas yuav zoo os xav tias tus thib ib twb phem npaum no kuv tshai dhau lawm os thov tsis yuav ib zaug ntxhiv lawm os
It's not completely your fault, if those ex husbands of yours are so good, then they wouldn't have cheated . They still carry the 1975 hmong men mind set. They shouldn't use your past marriage as an excuse to cheat. They cheat because they're cheaters not because of your past. It's not like they didn't know about it. They knew ! Yet still married you. That's their own fault.
You were not at fault in getting married with your first husband because you were forced only. Beyond that, it was all your fault since the decision was made by you only.
Kuv kuj tsi paub zoo thiab e kuv thiaj li tawm tuaj nug xwb o kuv hno lawv pheej hai ub hai no hai tias niam ntsuab teev e ib niag thaub laus to nws tuaj rau mekas teb no e nws muab niag thaub laus pov tseg lawm no e yog lawv lam hai xwb los tiag lis yog dag xwb
Whoa! I get that you married 5 “bad” men and the divorces may not be all your fault but that’s still a lot of husbands. I don’t get why you keep getting married when you only have had bad experiences with marriage. If I have 2 bad marriages, I am done for good. I am 5 husbands behind you. 😜
wow. Divorced 5 times. Oh I'm so glad you finally found the one that loves you and you can love him back. That's all we want in our lives. love. Good luck.
Yog ov. Nyob ntawm txoj hmoo xwb. tab sis koj ho muab nrauj txiv cuag dag lawm xwb ne. Ces koj cov neej tsa thiaj hais kom phem22 rauj koj es kom koj tu siab thiaj mus ua lub neej zoo xwb. Yog leej twg los yeej chim thiab hos. Yog muaj ib tug ntxhais zoo li no na.
Men Who Use Your Ex or Past; Don’t Love You & If They Met Someone Liam2 Like Them; The Love Her But She Too Siab2 Coob He Still Appreciates Her! Life Is Sad!! I Quit Looking At #2 Already! These Relationships Got Me Tired!!
Wow...why some people trying to create unnecessary financial hardships and fragile relationships for their own, or themselves... and wiling to live under the clouds and darkness!!!
It’s not your fault divorce 5 times..you can’t handle what life is giving you..only problem is you made BAD choices of men. Men wear same shoes and you still continue to choose them..nobody isn’t perfect but you must open your eyes/ears before you married that person. Good luck
6 husband's and you're complaining about your family not respecting you? You did that to yourself. Respect is earned. 6 husband's you must not be a good person either.
I don't know if u even realized what u said towards the end. Stop blaming others for the drama that u were part of. You said it took after the 5th husband to finally be picky! U finally waited to pick the right one.
Hunnay, you keep saying after each husband you gonna stay single and yet you keep looking for a husband. Learn to love yourself. I don't believe the 6th husband is the last husband for you just because you have an unhealthy pattern of picking the wrong one.
I believe most of the time it’s our family members that are the ones that pressured us to have a husband because they rather not have us daughters to have the name poj rauj forever. I don’t think it was her fault. She was just trying to find love for herself but her family wasn’t supportive enough to let her just love herself too. And obviously it’s her choice but you get how Hmong ogs are
@@V.I.P2418 that would be relatives who don't want the responsibility of doing spiritual ceremonies or burying her when she dies. Which is just as selfish and toxic. Now that she goes to church hopefully she able to cut ties from that. But she didn't mention getting re-married 6x was pressure from family.
You’re so strong. Follow your heart and choose what’s right for you. Who cares about the community and what they have to say to you. Glad you found your soulmate and hopefully this one will last you forever.
If you have been married five times and that's all the guys you been sleeping with then there is nothing wrong with that because you were married to them....if you been sleeping with other men except ex-husband then you belong to the streets lol
