I can totally understand this story because I too, like any nyabs who doesn't have loving inlaws, felt the pain and burden of being the one who feels unworthy of being love. BUT I'm a human being and I too, deserved to love and to be loved.
I can definitely relate to this story. I gave my husband the ultimatum either stay with his mom or me. Told him I was replaceable but not his mom. In the end, he knew how vicious his mom was and he chose me instead.
When you are young and don’t have the mind capacity to think for yourself. This is what happens. If your MIL is this mean, you have to be able to stand up for yourself. This isn’t Laos or Thailand. You want to respect your in laws but they also have to respect you! Stand up for yourself!!
My ex in-laws were just like your in-laws & my ex-husband couldn't man up so i divorced him. Also, two of his brothers wives also divorced them too. Til this day they blame their parents for their dumb choices. 😒 My ex-MIL is no longer alive so their next wife should have it easy now. My bf's mom & his family truly adores me & this was the first time I felt love within a family. 🤗😇
So happy that you’re bold enough to leave. No one should have to stay with toxic people like that. It’s not good for you and especially when you have a child too. You made the right choice.
Moral of the story: don't rely on anyone but yourself. You let yourself go through all those misfortune. Your MIL, FIL, Nyab, brothers, and your husband let you down. Build yourself up sister. All the love to your birth mom who was there from the beginning and through all your struggle.
It’s sad that some mil is so evil. Lived through it and survived. It had shown me that it’s her that is unhappy of her life. It’s also ppl who had never been a daughter in law to a mil to know how a real mil should be. Ppl who hold grudges will never be happy! I choose to be happy by forgiving the uneducated ones, yet doesn’t mean I forget.
No matter how much I love my husband, I would not stay with my in laws so they can torture me. I would move out or live with my parents until he return. There's no way I will let my child live in that kind of environment.
This is why you wait until you can afford to move out. This way you will never be dependent on the in-laws! If you don’t ever rely on them for anything, they can’t control you! Yup, don’t take care of those type of people! My MIL was the same way. I stopped taking care of her a long time ago because I know she’s evil and used everything I do against me - so don’t waste your time on people who care zero for you! Yours husband is good and knows his mother. My hubby was the same way. Always on my side and loves me, knowing his life is with me, not his parents.
Girlllll. I've lived on my own when I married my husband. My inlaws still be controlling. Especially my father-in-law. He be acting as bad as this motherinlaw in the story 🤣
@@pn5350 my meska best friend told me that a controlling in-law control their kids whether they live with them or not. Mind you, she’s married to a mama’s boy 😂
Tu siab tshaj li yog leejtwg tau tsevneeg zoo lino. Raug leejtwg es tus ntawd thiaj paub xwb. Uv tsis tuag thaum kawg lawv yog cov tsis muaj chaw tuag yog lawv tsis txawj ua niam ua txiv. Ntuj muaj qhovmuag pom peb ua neej, Cia ntuj mam txiavtxim xwb.
When people hate you that much, get a job and leave, you weren't a minor. Survival before education. They hate you because your priorities were wrong, you go after their son and live with them for free. Your mil owed you nothing, you married her son when she told you she didn't want you for a dil. Don't compare yourself to other nyabs, we all choose our own paths.
I swear ur parents in law are like my inlaws. My father-in-law is the evil one though. Always wanting to divorce me and makes the call...But look at him now. None of his favorites wants him. I'm the only one with doors wide open but they too embarrassed to want to come live with me.
This story gives me horrible PTSD. And yes this is how stupid I was, too because where can you go? My own mom will not take me back. Poor girl. I feel you.
Tus viv ncaus aw koj lub neej yeej txom nyem kawg thiab raug niam pog tsim kawg nkaus koj yeej tub siab kawg nkaus rau koj tus niam pog. Tab sis koj tseem muaj txoj kev cia siab rau koj tus txiv vim koj tus txiv tseem tos tau koj thiab tseem tuaj koj tog koj twb tsis tau txom nyem npau li kuv os. Kuv mas kuv tus txiv tseem yog tus mus txw niam pog txiv yawg tej nkauj tej muam tej kwv yau cem kuv thiab ntxub kuv tib si mas kuv tseem txom nyem tshaj koj 2.3 npaug os nawb.
if you already knew you'll going to have a monster in law.. y even get married so early? should have become an independent woman 1st and if ur husband loves you, he wouldn't married you to be tortured. He would have waited until you guys are ready to lived on your own.
So many of us have this very same story. My in-laws were the same way for over a decade. But I am the lucky ones. I have seen my in-laws transition from hating me to accepting me and we have a great relationship now. It is true, I couldn’t have stayed if my hubby did not defend and protected me all this time. We must learn to not be like this to our future daughter in laws. It is up to us, this new generation to stop this ugliness from happening. We must be the change!!!
This story gets me all heated up. Why can’t you speak up for yourself. Why do you keep all communication between you and your MIL away from your husband to begin with. It seems like you cannot defend yourself that is why they treated you that way. Sorry, but all of this could have been avoided if you just move to where your husband is. Plus if he wanted to continued with school than WTH is he doing marrying you. Goodnesses!
This story is quite hard to believe. Maybe its more exaggerate because no girl in this country or her mother or her brothers would tolerate this kind of abuse. I feel like this is only her side.
Txhob tu siab mog, cas koj thiab kuv CES zoo li tau tib tug niam pog kiag xwb os, ua siab ntev2 zoo li kuv no es uv2 txog hnub niam pog ncaim lub ntiaj teb no thiaj mam tag, koj li koj niam pog ua xwb ,kuv li es kuv tus txiv tseem yog nws ua thiab os
Wowo nrog koj tu siab ua luaj peb li peb niam peb txiv lawv cia peb xaiv tus peb nyiam xwb os tsis hais nus lis muam yeej tib yam yeej muaj tej tus kuv niam lawv Tsis tshua pom zoo kuv tej muam yuav lis ku. Tij laug Los kwv yuav tab m'as lawv tsuas haus me me rau peb xwb lawv laj txwv li thaum ho yuav rau lawm lawv yeej hlub tib yam li tus lawv nyiam thiab mas thov kom koj tsuas muaj kev noj qab nyob zoo nrog rau koj tsev neeg xwb mog
Luag tej laus yeej ib txwm hais tias yog tus txiv hlub thiab xaiv yus lawm niag pog txiv yawg tsis nyiam lis lub neej nyob tau. Hos yog niam pog txiv yawg nyiam nyiam hlub hlun yus los yog tus txiv tsis nyiam thiab tsis hlub yus ces ua neej tsis tau, yus nrog yus tus txiv thiab yus cov me nyuam ua neej xwb tej niag laus ntawd nrog yus nyob los nyob tsis nyob los tsis ua cas li os
Kuv nim tu2 siab tia ca kuv niam pog yuav tsim kuv ua luaj ca kuv tsi muaj hmoo li luag e tau niam pog tsim kuv tag ib sim li os koj zoo li kuv thiab os yom
This is an evil woman. She doesn't even deserve to be call MIL. This are the kinda MIL the nyab hate to the core. Once the nyab move out she will never move back and never want the MIL to move with the nyab. I have 2 nyab too and I don't go behind their back. I want my nyab to like me. Sister be strong and stay away from this MIL. She is very toxic.
this mother in law did ONE thing right in life: she raised some smart ass sons!! good job, sons!! thats what a real man is! you know your mom is full of Sh** so you don't believe her. thats a real man.
Niam ntsuab teev aw cov niam pog ntxub 2 nyab ce yus tej me nyuam yug tau lo lawv twb tsi saib yus tej me nyuam tia yog ab tub lo ab ntxhai os peb cov poj niam ce tus twg yog ntsib tus niam pog phem 2 thiab nkawg2 xaiv ma laj ua neej txog hnub tuag os😪😪😪
Being a Hmong woman, I would never ever marry a man whose mom told me she didn't like me. We ALREADY know what's in store for Us Hmong women. This girl needs to have some respect for herself. A REAL MAN, WOULD NOT HAVE MADE HER STAY WITH ABUSIVE ASS PARENTS. AND HONEY, HE COULDN'T TAKE CARE OF YOU.
This is what happens when you marry a person who's mom told you multiple times she don't like you. Life is what you make of it. You don't have kids to ask others to watch them while you sleep and go to school. You have your own kids, you raise your own kids. If you didn't want to struggle so much, should of kept yourself busy and finish school before getting marry and having kids.
Yog kawg nej tsis tau pom cov niam pog siab phem mas nej yeej tsis paub nawb kuv ces zoo li tus sister no kiag lawm os tu siab tshaj plaws nyob taus los yog u tus txiv tseem hlub u xwb thiaj nyob txog hnub no xwb
I don't know what's worse, a bad mother-in-law or a husband who can't be a man and support his wife. I've been in that position for years with pressure from both sides that it was almost unbearable. I was more angry at the husband bc he was supposed to support me and defend me but he just blamed me for false accusations by my mil. I had suicidal thoughts from time to time but knew I shouldn't do that.
Tus niam tsev, txhob cem cen koj tus niam pog. Cem koj tus kheej. Zaj no qhia tias nej cov ntxhais txhob ntshaw ntshaw yuav tus txiv neej uas nws niam ntxub yus.
I'm glad I have such a loving mother in law. Listening to this story upsets me so much. I would've left a long time ago. You're so brave and strong to stay this long with such toxic in-laws.
I wander why now day daughter in-law don't want mother in-law live with them. They don't have the freedom to live the way they want. This mother in-law still live in the life back 1975. She the one have problems that why her first daughter in- law moved out.
Lady!!! You know what you getting yourself into but still walk into it! So just shut up and stop complaining it! Let that evil witch suffer and don't take of her
I had lived with my MIL for 3 months and I seem her bad side. I've cried to my husband and we left their house. If I have live there long I don't know what could be worst. When I heard these stories makes me think of those memories I had with my inlaw.
Sister you are not alone we all go through this .. As long you have your husband love you and trust you plus communication with you. I've been married for 30 years and I dont deal with my mother n law any more cause I know by living with her cause to much problems so I live on my own with my kids and husband. Always keep your head up high and never let any one put you down cause you are more then what other say about you always believe in yourself.. take care sister and best of luck to you..
Hmong people don’t understand mental health is real. I know how you feel because I am too in similar situation. I got married when I was younger then you. I’m an American born, but it called RIGHTS(yuav cai). The reason some people don’t understand is why you didn’t just leave, first off your husband didn’t make you leave nor throw out your things. You know you did nothing wrong, if you were as bad as your in law says it. They would of send you back to your parents $1200, but they know they are wrong. As for myself, I endear my mil is because my husband is the eldest son. His father is very old and his mother still young. Moving out was not an option, because we help pay half of the bills. Everyone has their our reason. Honestly, what I endear all these years have cause me to have mental melt downs and stress. When enough is enough, as you age, and learn stand up for yourself. They’ll tell you, you’re the bad person😢. In the end you just be you, we are only human, and only able to do so much. I now teach my daughters, don’t get married until they are financially stable. My sons aren’t obligated to live with me. I want a good relationship with my future nyab.
Cov me nyuam tiam 21 no 1 txhia tsis mob tsuag2 os. 1 cov mob 3 4 hnub mam tau tab sis mon 1 zam tsis cuag 1 zag ced thaum yuav tau ces mam li mob tsuag2 3 4 zag mob2 ces tau kiag xwb os.
You got married.... why can't you live with your husband while he's at school!? I don't understand... There are no apartments in his town huh? Can't be a man don't get married. If you get married take your wife to live with you.
