2 years worked for us, could not handle pregnancy with a small toddler to take care of. I feel like it takes at least one year for the body to recover and another year for the mind. 😅 I would like to hear you speaking about iron and iron levels during pregnancy and after. Thanks!
Love what you said about it taking a year for the body and another for the mind. Made me laugh because I’m not sure we’ll ever be mentally prepared haha!
"it takes at least one year for the body to recover and another year for the mind". Beautifully put! I got pregnant 2.5 years after having my daughter and I feel like it was perfect! I had a c section and breastfed for 2 years, so I felt like it was really good to give my body (and mind) time to recover. I have now a 3 year old and a newborn and so far, the transition has been beautiful! I also had a tubal done, so NO MORE BABIES for me! Which makes me so excited lol. Pregnancy takes such a toll on my body and mind
Yes. My son turned 3 when my twins were born. It was hard but I was glad he wasn't younger. Girls turn two in a month and the left side of my C-section scar aches pretty bad sometimes still
Currently 34 weeks pregnant now and I couldn’t imagine having another child right away. Especially with the world we are living in. Reading the comments got me like…😳😳😂 lol
In Malaysia, it is recommended to conceive again about 2-3 years after having a baby. It depends on the method of previous delivery, 2 years for vaginal birth and 3 years for C-sec to ensure full recovery physically, psycologically and emotionally. Still, it varies for every couple.
This is really helpful info! I just had my first in February and it’s been such a great experience that I am already excited to have another. 😅 That being said, pregnancy, postpartum, and life with a baby are so exhausting! I feel like I’ve been tired nonstop for a year straight. I want to give my body a break before doing all that again, and enjoy the one on one time with my baby girl. Good luck to you with baby #2!
SO EXHAUSTING. It’s hard chasing a toddler around making sure they don’t hurt themselves lol. Glad this was helpful and thanks for being here with us!!
Aww loved that y’all shared about your attempts at baby #2! Sending baby dust your way and positive thoughts that it’ll happen at the perfect time for your family. I’m nearly 7 months pp and we are trying to decide if it’s time to start trying as well!!
I’m currently almost 37 weeks pregnant… due mid May and plan to wait until Sept 2023 to have my second. I have PCOS and dealt with infertility so it’s not as easy for me. I’ll still be only 33 by the time we try again.
I deeply appreciate you guys talking openly about having and wanting kids closer together than the 18 month timeframe. I know SO many 30-somethings who have a sibling within 2 years of them, whose parents never received that 18 month "doctor/government approval" and didn't have complications. For some reason many doctors in the US are afraid to even give conditions where a 6-to-12 month delivery->conception gap is okay and prefer to stick to scare/shame tactics. It's a one-size-fits-all 18-month stamp of approval. Sadly, with so many women starting families later, but still wanting multiple children, women are feeling ostracized by their own doctor by wanting to start try again before that 18 month mark, and are not being given as complete of information as you're giving here. Thank you!
"Reproduction is not small talk". This is such an empowering phrase! There have been a few times I've felt a bit "put upon" by the various comments and questions I've been getting from family, friends and even acquaintances and as a first time mom, I wasn't sure if this was founded or if I was just being overly-sensitive. Thank you for validating me in this way.
I wish it was as easy as just deciding when you want another baby. My daughter is 5 and took 14 months of trying to conceive. I’ve been trying for a sibling for her for 15 months now. It breaks my heart how spaced apart any future sibling will be. Infertility is just terrible. Seems like such an intangible problem for me to even consider that people get pregnant too close together. Some people have a very hard time getting pregnant.
I hope you are able soon! I'm pregnant with my first baby after 5 1/2 years trying so I hope I don't have this issue again when we want another. It sure is terrible good luck 💙
I’m on the other end of the spectrum. I had mine very close together without trying. It’s overwhelming. It’s hard on the kids to share attention when they’re so small, and extremely hard on the parents in terms of stress. For many years I felt awful for putting us in that situation. Things do get better. I wish you luck growing your family.❤️When it finally happens your little one will be a true blessing you are ready for💕
@@itsLizJaramillo 5.5 years wow!! Congratulations and I hope next time around will be much less of a wait! I love to see parents finally getting their little ones. 💕
@@CrystalMendoza05 Thank you for the luck. I could see that being an overwhelming situation for sure. Even with many stories of women getting pregnant without trying it is still a miracle to me that it can happen. I feel like my entire life revolves around knowing my cycle. From my vantage point it would be such a luxury to not have to think about tracking. That’s from someone who is ready and wants a pregnancy though so I can see how it could be traumatic if you just weren’t expecting it at all. I’m glad things got better for your family. Lots of love to you all ❤️
@@aliaturner8101 thank you 🥰 it has been a hard journey and I'm sure it's no less painful after successfully having one. My life revolved around it as well so I totally understand! It's crazy how little the struggle to get pregnant is talked about yet its so common to hear about those that did get pregnant without even trying
I was EBF, had not gotten my period yet and had an unplanned pregnancy when I was 2 months postpartum. I didn’t realize until I was already 8 weeks into the pregnancy. I was at risk for preterm labor because of the short interval btwn pregnancies and started having contractions and dilating as early as 33wks but After being put on bed rest I was able to make it to 37wks before going into labor. I now am a mom of 2 boys that are 11 months apart. My second pregnancy was so hard on me physically. From personal experience I would recommend waiting at least 9-12 months in between pregnancies. Our bodies can do amazing things but there’s no harm in giving yourself the time to recuperate and heal
Good video! I got pregnant again (using protection) when my baby was 11 months old!! It was a HUGE surprise hahaha. I didn't feel emotionally ready or planning having a second baby but sometimes things happen for a reason. Good luck for you getting pregnant again. I'm excited for you!
Thank you for sharing! Congrats on trying and I’m sorry about it taking longer than expected! 😣 It took us two years to conceive our first miracle 🥹 Had her 3 weeks ago and already thinking about when we would like to start trying for the second one 🫣 Wouldn’t want to wait for too long and it taking another couple of years.. But it’s all up to God anyway!
Thanks for this video! We had our daughter in December, 2019 with a super easy pregnancy and non medicated birth. We weren't ready for another baby yet, but I loved being pregnant! We decided for me to become a surrogate for a couple that couldn't carry their own baby. Surro babe was born in December, 2021 with another easy pregnancy and non medicated birth. We were then ready to get pregnant with a baby of our own and are now due with our own baby in November, 2022! It is too early to see if there will be any birth complications from getting pregnant so quickly, but I do have maternal anemia this time which is common in close succession births. (I didn't have anemia with either of my other pregnancies.) Good luck on getting to baby number two!
I love to follow your channel! My partner and I are both family doctors (G.P.) and are expecting our first child at the end of August. So fun to see how you explain medical topics to a general audience et notice if there's any difference between US and Canadian guidelines. 😉 Great video as always! 😊
I got pregnant again after 3 months of having my first baby! Lol 😂 it was crazy I was breast feeding 🤱🏻 and all but thankfully my second baby was a pretty good weight got to have him even at home. My first son was preterm birth and my second was at due date. 5 years later now I’m pregnant again with my 3 boy. Starting all over again!
Awww, good luck! ❤️ Thank you for sharing something so personal. I want to have another baby but my dr. recommends to wait at least a year so that’s what we’re doing.
Great video about a topic that I feel isn’t discussed much! I had my first last NYE and planning baby no 2 has come up but healing the body first is a must for me! I would love to hear you talk about the risks of prolapse associated with pregnancy/birth, what it means and what can be done as I feel like this isn’t discussed much at all sadly…
Good luck, that’s very exciting and I am along for the journey! I am 6mo pp with baby number 1, and am also considering adding another soon, I found your pregnancy videos very helpful 🤗
Yikes!! I've wondered about this!! Luckily for my husband and I everything worked out! I had 2 C-sections back to back. Both girls were over 8 lbs and I only weighed 105, I'm 5'5" pre pregnancy and only gained 20-25 lbs. 17 months apart. I was in my early 20's and nutrition wasn't great so I was extremely blessed!! Definitely wasn't ready to get pregnant again (was still breastfeeding) but God had other plans 🙏💗 I'm glad it was the 80's and not now. I was terrified of uterine rupture enough without RU-vid videos! But it's good to be informed 😜
My grandma got pregnant 3 months after giving birth to her first daughter (she was partially breastfeeding, supplementing with formula). It was a surprise for her. I think it wasn't good for them (her and grandpa) finance-wise and also they could not give all the needed attention to the first child... That was in the 50s. Tough times.
So many women told me as long as I breastfeed I would not have to worry too much about periods or pregnancy. My period returned at 6 weeks and was regular every 4 weeks since then, and I was exlusively breastfeeding - on demand, around the clock and at least every 3 hours. I remember being so disappointed that I didn’t get this benefit from breastfeeding. My toddler is 2 now and I still don’t really feel ready for another pregnancy. She’s still up at night a lot when she’s teething or not feeling well and the terrible two’s are really testing our patience 😅 I have terrible HG during pregnancy and I was vomiting all the way from 9 weeks into the delivery room and was told odds are very good I will have it again (based on how I react to hormonal Birth Control as well). I was basically bedridden for large portions of my pregnancy and spent time in hospital at 9 weeks, at 15 weeks and again at 23 weeks. So I don’t want to subject a very small toddler to seeing me like that. So we will be waiting until she’s at least 3 before even trying.
Really interesting video! My ob just told me to wait until at least 18 months pp to try for baby number 2, and I was hoping to wait 12 months. I shouldn’t have any risk factors, I had a vaginal birth, only a second degree tear, etc, so it’s interesting to see the risk is probably actually low to get pregnant at 12 months pp for most women.
Your OB of course knows your history best, but the data definitely doesn’t show huge increased risks once you hit that 12 month PP range. So good luck to you whatever you decide!!
I had my first baby via emergency c section, got pregnant a month after that & had a successful v-bac, just had my third baby a couple months after having my second (another successful v-bac)
My children were born within a year (11 months). And even though ppl say that I “got them out the way” I suffered a lot of pelvic pain from the time I was about 5 months pregnant with my youngest until he was about 6 months old. Ladies please wait and let your body heal. They say wait six weeks for a reason.
Congratulations 🎉 on your baby girl I have been watching your videos....very cute and gorgeous. I am just doing my 2 week wait on my second pregnancy and came across your channel. Hopefully I will be doing it all again ...🤞 I had some light spotting today with no period and some usual waves of non painful feelings in the uterus so I am really looking forward to period week not arriving soon.
My husband and I are currently 23 weeks pregnant I am 35 years old me and my husband are planning for baby number two once baby is 9 months old getting older and also want both the babies to be close in age.
I breastfed exclusive (and had no more than 3/4 hours between feeding the first 8 weeks), but I already got my period after 6 weeks. I find it really dangerous that you would recommend breatsfeeding as a form of contraception. In my country the doctors specifically said that it was no anticonception!
Im 39 y old I gave birth to a healthy little girl 7 weeks ago Can't wait to get pregnant again I'm exclusively breastfeeding I am mentally and physically ready I had such a pleasant pregnancy (except for the first 3 months with nausea and severe depression) My belly is flat now, which makes me think everything is back to where it was before pregnancy
I have had 4 natural births. All big babies (7lb 10oz being the smallest and 8lb 14oz being the biggest) I have a Oct 2016,February 2019, April 2020 & June 2021 :)
Love your channel and you guys are super cute! So young, too! Are you already out of residency?! Btw, who watches your sweet baby while you’re working? It’s so hard to balance the demands of parenting and career, especially for female physicians! Any advice on that?
Mentally I don’t think I could do it again for a while. My son is about to turn one and I had postpartum depression pretty bad and I just can’t imagine going through all that again. Plus reliving the birth trauma I had
I am a first time mom and my baby is 2 months old now. I experienced a post-partum hemorrhage immediately after delivery. My doctor and nurses were able to get the bleeding under control and I did not need a transfusion. Would that be a special consideration when thinking about how long to wait before trying for baby #2?
All this talk of "deciding" when to get pregnant, lol. We've had a few surprise pregnancy, and three sets of our kids are less than 1 year apart. :) Nursing exclusively, and pumping extra, I still get my cycle back within 6 weeks. Nine kiddos, ages 5mnths, 2, 3, 4, 5, 7, 8, 9 and 12. Wouldn't trade them for the world!
I have 8 full siblings (so nine of us in total) and my mom had us all within 12 years. Loved growing up in a big family! Best of luck to you and your little clan!
Closest in age sibling's I know is my aunty (by marriage) and her brother she's born in Early Jan he's born in late Oct of the same year , biggest is 11 yrs between my best friend n her brother .
I’ve had no issues with short intervals between pregnancies. I have had 7 vaginal births and I’m due again with #8 in 13 weeks. My intervals from birth to new pregnancy are 12 months, 2 years 11 months, 9 months, 4 months, 5 months, 3 months, and 5 months. So far zero complications and no preterm births. I don’t think the 12-18 month recommendation makes sense for everyone.
@@annarocha3254 I have a daily schedule posted to coordinate who is doing what & when. It is definitely challenging managing ages 11, 9, 6, 4, 3, 2, 11 months, & 27 weeks pregnant while homeschooling the oldest four kids! It takes hard work but our home is full of laughter and love!
what about the pelvic floor? shouldn't it be trained enough before starting a new pregnancy? is 6 month enough? i mean you have to wait so long after the birth before starting the training...
My period hasn't returned since having my baby in September 2019. So I don't know what to do. My doctor also is baffled and has reffered me to endocrinology.
We got pregnant when our daughter was 3 months old. And it was awful on my body. My 2nd was so big and heavy that my joints just started to break down. My first labor broke my tailbone and I still hadn't fully healed even well into the 2nd pregnancy so when I went into Labor, he couldn't progress past the coccyx, because it has healed in the wrong place now. They wouldn't do a csec until his due date because I wasn't dilating. In the end, he was almost 12 lbs and had swallowed his first poo and had to go to nicu and I almost died and needed a transfusion. I'm so lucky that both of my kids are perfectly healthy now, but im still struggling with chronic pain from the whole thing.
@@jolinecharmant384 I think they mis judged how far along he was and he was over due. I kept going I to labor starting at 34 weeks but couldn't progress because the tailbone wouldn't let him pass through, but he was the size of an average newborn then. Unfortunately, where I am, I didn't have the best medical care and they wouldn't even consider doing my csec early, which I'm certain would have led to a better outcome for us all
I had preeclampsia with my son. He'll be three in September and we're seriously discussing having another baby now. Who had a similar age gap and ended up with preeclampsia again? I'm also a C-section mama, anyone dilate all the way and need a C-section? Did you get to have a vbac?
I'm not a c section mama, but in America a vbac is a huge topic. Here in Germany its very normal for c section mamas to have their next baby via vaginal birth. Its not even a big topic
Thank you so much for this video. I have a question I know it’s not related to the topic in the video but it’s about the Tdap vaccine during pregnancy. I’m currently 27 weeks they offered me the vaccine on my last appointment but my question is if I have to get the vaccine even if I got it a year ago? I heard it’s good for 10 years and wouldn’t my baby be protected by it? I’m just afraid to get any vaccines during pregnancy. Thank you💕
What does the risk of subsequent Cholestasis relative to the interval between pregnancies? Does the risk ever drop off after a certain amount of time, or will it always be there regardless?
My doctor surprised the heck out of me. Before we even had our second we knew we wanted to try for a third so I asked at my 6 week check up when we could start trying and she said basically whenever we're ready. I had planned c sections for them (family and personal factors dictated this) and so she knew I'd need another, but I guess I just heal remarkably well. It did take us a bit, because my daughter is a boob monster, but I'm 21 weeks with our third now. I'm just grateful that I didn't have a loss, because I had two before my first and one between the two. In the end there's 26 months between 1 and 2 and the same between 2 and 3!
They are board certified but this video had so many contradictions and misinformation. In general the information is just confusing to anyone that is not medically trained.
Video popped up and it was as if the universe was sending me signs as I was discussing this with my husband...hubby and I just had our first child and I’m 42, I’m happy with our baby boy but I feel like if we don’t try for another I’ll regret it as it took us a year and a half with a mc in the middle of that time...I dont feel that crazy insatiable need for another baby because we were blessed already....time just isn’t on my side and if I wait 18 mos, will that just make it harder for me? Do I want to try at 45 yrs old??? I’ll be 43 in June and even through I look 30 and I’m fit and all, my biology is what it is, I’m no spring chicken and waiting may take away my chances at another natural conception :(
Wow, I'm only 10m pp but thinking I want to try for another baby. listening at first I was like, "Well, maybe I should wait a little longer". But hearing that chances of pre e again go up by 10% each year after makes me think it might be best anyways.
This video was helpful! I am 4 months pp. I had an unplanned c section after i stopped progressing at 4cm. Hubby and i have been talking about when to have our next baby as we want them close in age. I guess we will start trying around 17-18 months pp since i really want to try for a vbac.
We are SO SO glad this was helpful. Congrats on your new babe!! Hope your new fam is adjusting well. Those first few months are such a rollercoaster!! VBACs are awesome if you have a supportive team and I will be hoping it goes well for you!!
Envie--that is totally reasonable and you should talk with your OB about your goals!! Age is one of those things to factor in to planning the next pregnancy, and sometimes being older than 35 pushes us to move more quickly!! Good luck to you!!
We're just aiming to have all of our kids during even numbered years. The hardest thing is making a moody toddler stay in bed for a nap while super pregnant.
I’m so glad there’s finally a video mentioning when to TTC after stillbirth. My daughter was stillborn at 39+1 weeks on June 22 of last year due to concealed placental abruption, and exactly 3 months later we conceived again and I’m now 33+3 with her little rainbow sis. Some stillbirth parents want to TTC right after while others want extended time between, but my husband and I only felt ready after intense therapy, suppressing milk/continuing prenatals and iron, and an appointment with our current MFM who okayed us for TT (coincidently the same day we conceived). The MFM and our midwife have done a great job with all the extra monitoring throughout this pregnancy after loss, especially now that I’m receiving twice-a-week NSTs and BPPs. I’m sending well wishes and baby dust to everyone TTC, especially those trying after a loss. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. Currently 10 1/2 weeks pregnant after our son was stillborn at 30 weeks in October. We conceived about 4 months after our loss. It’s comforting to hear other stories on successful pregnancies after stillbirth to know we’re not alone.
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. I experienced the loss of my daughter almost a month ago at 35+6 due to placental abruption and pre-eclampsia. Your story makes me extremely hopeful for our future rainbow baby. I am meeting with my MFM doctor in a week to do some testing and talk about what future pregnancies will look like. But my partner and I have already talked about trying again within the year. I want to give us time to grieve and my body time to heal between pregnancies. I’m in therapy now and we’ll hopefully be starting couples therapy soon. But our family is so excited to bring in another little human. My 1st daughter is so ready to be a big sister. Good luck and baby dust to you all 💛
I used to be that mom who was terrified about bringing babies into this world and not being sure if I am good enough for them. My daughter was 3.2 when my son was born and after I thought I was done, 5 years later, I find out I am pregnant with the 3rd. This was unplanned but all things work for our good because we love the Lord. Amen
I think secondary infertility is a topic rarely discussed. After our first baby, we started trying when he was about 1,5years old, it took 2 years to concieve. Fortunately I am pregnant with the 3rd one and it took only 3 months of trying. Definitely would be nice if you would make more videos about this topic. P.s. at the end we love the age gap 3.5 years between, and coincidentally the 3rd one will also be 3.5 years apart. I had a c-section with 1st one, sucessful vbac with the 2nd and hoping for another vback with the 3rd one.
Oh thank you so much for sharing. Congrats on your three precious babes and two VBACs!! Yeah, secondary infertility has been a real surprise but here we are. Hope to be on the other side of it like you one day not too far from now. *hugs*
So happy you guys were able to conceive!! Took us 1 year with our first. 2 years with our second (who is now 1 month old) ours have a 3.5 year age gap too!
Me too we got pregnant straight away with first then second took two years . It was such a tough time I’d happily get pregnant again . They are blessings .
I became pregnant at 4 months postpartum -- exclusively breastfeeding around the clock, co-sleeping and no period -- an absolute shock, because I literally thought breastfeeding kept fertility away if you did it right. I was really scared when I first found out, but my husband and I are so excited to grow our family, babies are ALWAYS a blessing..... so if you're in the same situation as me, you're not alone and you will make it!
Didn't your midwife tell you you needed to use some type of birth control regardless? Mine was VERY clear on that point at my first postpartum check up a week after giving birth and we had our kids through IVF and I was exclusively breastfeeding. I'm surprised you thought you couldn't get pregnant
Same but I was also on birth control. My babies are 2 and 1 know and I am going to have another baby in August making the next to 20 months apart and we absolutely love our gaps. :) ❤
Finally found someone in my situation. I love it. One child in diapers at a time. I couldn’t do the close in age thing. My daughter is extremely helpful too. 😄♥️
Please know that even exclusive breastfeeding is NOT contraception. My period returned at 6 weeks post partum despite exclusively feeding on demand (all the time). While it's true that many women who exclusively breastfeed do not have their period return for longer than those who do not, it is not always the case. Also, please remember that just because your period hasn't appeared yet doesn't mean you haven't ovulated, you can always "catch the first one out" and be pregnant before you know it
Yes! I was exclusively nursing my son, and got pregnant when he was 8 weeks old! I continued nursing him during my pregnancy with my daughter. My son and daughter are 10 months and 10 days apart
I got pregnant for the second time when my son was 2 months old and theirs 11 months between them .. being 9 months pregnant with a 11 month old was not easy but I did it alone everyday . My daughter was born at 37 weeks spontaneously and she was measuring Kind of small but she was perfectly healthy and so was i just very very tired 🥱 I wouldn’t change it for the world best thing to ever happen to me and I’m so proud of myself my body and my baby’s my family. I’m blessed
@@GingerSpiritSmurf Awh congratulations I also have a sister that is one year and one day older then me it really is best thing she showed me so much and I couldn’t Imagen life without her .now our baby’s are all months apart In age also .. it’s really worth the hard work my oldest 1 keeps my youngest busy all day 7 months she runs around in the Walker chaseing him and wakes up in the morning looking for him they would be lost without each other xxx
Omg this is me. I’m freaking out, because I just had my baby 2 months ago and just found out I’m pregnant! 🤦🏻♀️ I had two C-sections already. Im freaking out.
@@mpc7111 awh it’s a busy day but a good routine is very important for your own sanity lol will this be your 3rd baby congratulations 👏 theirs 11 months between my boy and girl you probably be the same as back to back pregnancy’s does lead to early delivery I was 37 weeks and I never got to rest with my 11 month old lol
@@ay3696 thank you. 😭 I’m so nervous but I’m so excited at the same time. I have three girls already but each of them were at least 3-5 yrs apart. So this is my first son I just had two months ago and didn’t think I’ll get pregnant this fast since all my others I had a hard time getting pregnant each time. But we were hoping for another boy to even it out to be out last one but we’ll see. I just didn’t expect it to be so fast. All my pregnancy were hard so that’s what makes me nervous. But excited. Idk
@@mpc7111 same thing happen to me I tryed for 2 years on my son then bang 2 months after birth he came along lol awh my hardest part was transitioning from 1 child to 2 children as a new mother .. you have so much experience with kids already so I think really gonna be amazing for you my daughter now is just turned 10 months and she’s walking because she watch’s her big bro so good for them to have someone close in age 😍😍
This video came at perfect timing. I am eight weeks postpartum and my husband and I have been discussing when and if we want a second. My midwife suggested I wait 9 months to completely heal because even though I didn't officially have pre-eclampsia, at 37 weeks my blood pressure suddenly spiked and I had to be induced and she said if I got pregnant sooner than that, I would be at a much higher risk for developing pre-eclampsia in my next pregnancy. However, being that I am an older mom (36 yrs old), I don't have a lot of time to wait between pregnancies! Its all about balancing the risks!
I'm in a similar situation. Just had my first last week and want a second. Induced at 39 weeks and 1 day due to pre-eclampsia... We are, however, trying to move and get me a new job in another state. Usually you can't get protected maternity leave until you have been working for 1 year, so timing will be a juggling act for #2.
I am almost exactly the same situation! 8 wk old first baby, in my early 30’s, had some high BP’s right at the end and was induced just before 38 weeks and had a 5lb 6oz baby. I would like my next one sooner rather than later, as I am a bit older and would like them close together in age…
@@danishscribe I have also been considering looking for another job, so like you its making sure I don't get another job and get pregnant right away, then be stuck with no maternity leave or protections!
It’s crazy how an “older mom” is getting categorized as younger and younger. In my Mum’s generation having babies at 40-45 years was considered older. lol
Eeek! Baby on chest is wonderful! Congrats new mama! My son (first child) is already 2 months old! Enjoy all the chest sleeps it goes by so fast! 🥰 This channel has been my go-to since the beginning the Drs Bjorkman are fantastic. ❤
watching this while pumping for my second (also 3 weeks old) while he sleeps next to me with my first (2.5 years) plays with his trains 😂 I totally get it! ❤️
Congrats on trying again! Good for you for being ready again when baby #1 is so little. I was definitely not ready yet at that stage. My kids are 3 years apart and it was perfect for us. ❤️
I’m so grateful for your content. My daughter just turned 2 and a half, and I just turned 36. So I know my age isn’t helping my chances, and she was a pre term baby who came at 36 weeks and 3 days. I’m so worried I missed my ideal window for a second. But I’m going to start trying this summer, and we’ll see what happens!
Don't let age get you down. I'm 36 and got pregnant at 35 within a month of ceasing contraceptives (condom use). Just relax and have fun. In the meantime you have a wonderful daughter and that is an awesome accomplishment already. :-D
In Germany we recommend to wait at least 12months after a C-section to try for new baby, if no other risk factors are associated. Wish you all the best and all the luck in your journey towards baby number 2!❤️ lots of love! 😊
My two first pregnancies were 16 months apart and it was such a blessing in disguise ❤️. We were not trying at all and in fact I was breastfeeding, on birth control and we were using condoms as a backup and I still got pregnant lol.
Emily Oster's book "Expecting Better" has a good summary of the data on the risks of getting pregnant after age 35. There are increased risks, but my main takeaway was that it's not that you're fine when you're 34 and then immediately when you hit 35 things go downhill - biology is more gradual than that. So if there's a tradeoff between letting your body heal for a few extra months from a previous pregnancy and hitting that "before 35" milestone, it seems to me that the data would support waiting a bit. But I'm not a doctor and you should always talk to your Ob about your specific health/risk factors.
I'm 7 months postpartum and just began trying again. Got my positive pregnancy test a week ago yesterday after trying just one month. This video was very helpful for my anxiety. Lol
Is there any research on how stress affects a pregnant woman? Pretty much my entire pregnancy I was under extreme stress due to nursing school, starting a new job, and other personal stuff. I was a completely healthy woman with no prior high risk factors but ended up going into preterm labor at 34 weeks. I always wonder if the amount of stress I was under caused me to go into preterm labor?
I 1000% believe it does because same. Perfectly healthy pregnancy but I'm a teacher and was stressed with work and getting covid 2x while pregnant. I went into labor at 34wks as well
Hi Mandy, according to my midwife, stress can cause preterm labor or for some people, postpone and going past the due date. I’ve been studying stress for a few years now and the recent concept in mental health is that having stress is ok but it needs to be processed. Having and not processing would be not taking the time to check in on your body and what it’s telling you and observing your emotions without judgment and trying to control them. I wished I had known this in my first pregnancy because the stress of being stressed caused a vicious cycle.
I had a lot of stress (nearly lost sibling plus they were in hospital a long time, i would be at hospital a lot) i thought there was no way the baby could possibly survive let alone be fine. Luckily she is a mighty intelligent little diva with no problems. Second time, all i had was food poisoning plus moving house financial stress and i lost the baby. I guess you just never know.
I delivered both baby vaginaly , and I was exclusively breastfeeding both of them. First time I got my period 4 months after, but second time after 6 weeks after having a baby . And ovulation comes first, then period. And I also pumped my milk between breast feeding, cuz I had a lot of milk. So be prepare to find out that you are pregnant at any time after you had a baby even if you constantly breastfeeding like I was back then. Do not trust breastfeeding contraception lol
