Off The Record: Differences in Dating Your Own Ethnicity (ft. Jessie Ma) 

Nick elaborates and still doesn't elaborate

Jessie's the ultimate deflector. She deflected that question better than Nick I love it 🤣

It's so funny to see how innocent guests (like Jessie) react when Steve talks about his Alabama "I love my sister" type jokes. 🤣

Bart's explanations of things his mom has expressed is always so wild 😂😂😂

Poor jessie man such a testosterone heavy environment and she handled the official question on jk great😂😂😂

That’s so interesting that some ppl see it as “too close” to home and feel like it’s dating a family mbr. As I get older, I prefer men that are similar to my culture because it’ll feel more familiar especially when it comes to food and dynamics.

Jessie is great! Hope to see more of her!

9:28 😂😂😂 I almost pissed myself. Y’all have to get barts mom on

steve got me crying bahaha

Im Indonesian and I grew up with alot of hispanics so I prefer hispanic women. I agree with Joe, dating someone thats hispanic, white or black compared to dating someone from a different asian country than you are, the feeling is still the same. It still feels "foreign" compared to someone thats from the same country as you are. Doesn't matter if you are both asian. I would compare it to a White or Black American dating someone thats from England

Love the conversations you guys are having!! Bart brought up such good points about parents expecting spouse/GF/BF of the same ethnicity to do what they want and if they don't they criticize them. I agree with Bart, I am dating outside of my ethnicity just to avoid the toxicity from my parents.

Steve being Steve 😂🤣

Lol it's Hella weird because most whites marry white in America. This thing about dating my race is similar to dating my family is only geared towards certain Asians. I've never heard another race say this.

The intro I already know it's gonna be a good one 😂

”Painting the skulls for Mexican Halloween” 💀😂 14:25

Lol that intro ~ her : omg 🤭😮😧☹️ 😂 the innocent left her eyes lol

Bart gets home;! Geo: so it would be easier for you to marry someone your own culture? Bye.😂

@20:00 i imagined Hanna's dad and bro playing instruments with Joe and all 3 of them are wearing a vest 😂😂

Asian Americans thinking dating the same culture is like dating family is so weird. I know why it happens but it's still so weird. What Bart says sounds really right though, the parents would treat someone from the same culture with less respect because they assume they should know cultural customs.

That is a great question, because I’ve always through about it. And same reasonings, speak the same language so they can talk with my parents.

LOVING IT BOIS

Hearing everyone's stories, I can definitely attest one or two of my many experiences to each person in the group. I ain't gonna lie that it's just the plain truth. That still doesn't give me a reason to remain single to this day, but eventually I will end up with a woman with the same upbringing of class, rather than culture. I'm always an open-minded person willing to learn different cultures, language, traditions, and other things that make the people who they are in this world. I can't blame my parents or anyone for raising me the best they did from their own upbringing, but I don't allow anything to set me back to find the best definition of how a married life should be.

LOL way to flip is Jessie haha quick with it!

Same ethnic individuals dating or marrying each other has pros and cons just like different ethnic individuals dating or marrying each other. In the end - it's all about love and being IN love and STAYING in love with each other regardless how bad each other's shit smells.

Bart- mudder pucker.....🤣🤣🤣🤣

Lmao! How the hell did Joe hear the word ADOPTED? LOL

Bart: "you want food" "i play music" LOLLL

The fact that they asked her “THE question” 😂😂😂😂😂

They seem to have some (just some) prejudice in their own ethnicity since there was a lot of generalization in the discussion.

9:29 Bart hits gold, almost sounds like its scripted so good :D

9:34 I died laughing 💀💀💀

Nick has a bright future in politics.😂

0:00 welcome to the club. Glad and honored you could join us

My Brazilian cousin half Japanese, my Aunt Brazilian is very tiger mom made sure they learn the Japanese language.

"Oh these guys are pretty cool, wait what did Steve just ask?"

Bart once again spitting truth.....

@9:34 Is the best part. I was repeating it. LOL

My canto father also came here on a boat 😂

Joe at 14:25 said Mexican Halloween 😭 when they’re talking about Salvadorians

we really need to see Steve’s sister one day lol

I love how Bart's gives his mom a viet accent and not a taiwanese accent LMFAO

I can feel Jessie in the Hot Seat..!! haha

My husband is Thai and it’s a good thing I don’t learn Thai because of his dad always talking crap. We can’t fight directly and I can’t get my feelings hurt as much. Husband said Thai girls are to close to home and they would have to put up with his dad and that’s not good

Joe and the square assed pizza....brought back memories bro 👍

I'm totally on the opposite side of these people. I think as I get older I have more pride in myself and my ethnicity, I can't see myself dating a non asian anymore more nor do I have the desire to fit in or assimilate like my parents or 1st gen asians do. Maybe it's because asians are "cool" now and we aren't seen as less than like we used to in the past that feeds into my pride. Guys it's 2023, most ppl watching this is probably 3rd or 4th gen asians, just be comfortable and have pride in yourself and ethnicity.

Dating other cultures in America is great. Cuz you get to learn what other cultures are like. And I love Hispanic food and Asian Foods

I am loving this insight into Asian culture. Lmao

I have a feelin Jessie never coming back to the show hahahahah

from a non-Asian America, I weirdly find it a bit hearbreaking that both the men & women in the culture seem to find each other unattractive. The "reminds me of my mom/brother" reason is common.

Stevo 😂 just already do it. 😂

As a non-asian I can assure you Nick is Singaporian.

This was such a good discussion. I didn’t realize it’s considered a interracial relationship to date within other countries of Asia.

10:03 AYOOOOO LMFAOOOOO AHAHAA

18:53 stats back that up. the same education level keeps a marriage more likely than different education levels

Never knew Asians didn't like dating each other. And I definitely did not know there was such thing as a "no Sabo kid" but in Asian format. Interesting 😂

I have a similar experience with Joe. I'm half Japanese/Filipino but grew up dominantly Japanese (my mom speaks Japanese in the house to us when growing up). When I was younger, I lived in Ohio. My school had maybe 1-2 other Japanese/Asian people in my school depending on their parents' contract for work otherwise it was predominantly white. I barely saw any Japanese girls except for when I went to Japanese school on Saturdays (which I hated so much) so I don't think I've ever looked at girls that way in school but I had female friends up to now from there. I did date one Japanese girl who grew up in the US like I did with a similar background (class) when I moved to Japan for work. We hit it off right from the start and dated for quite a while but it was difficult bc we were in a LDR. (She spent half her time in Japan with her mom , half her time in US with her dad). Eventually broke off but for sure I felt judged by her mom the most and it was the one relationship where I felt like I didn't feel accepted by one parent or the other. Every other relationship I've been in (Korean, Chinese, Australian, Filipino), they've all accepted me and I felt like I was part of their family for the duration of the relationship. Now I live in the Philippines, and I don't see many Japanese girls around my age. Mostly expat Japanese guys here. I know a lot of halfies like me here but majority of them don't speak a lick of Japanese or know much about the culture or their dad (who's usually the Japanese one) left the family and moved back to Japan or passed away. Living here, I seem to relate more to the Koreans or Filipino-Chinese families here even tho a lot of them have a "great wall" hahaha IFYKYK

This is a good topic

Episode should be named: Americans find out they're all pretty much Americans and not so different after all.

What’s important who ever you find. It’s family. Martinez Family ,Downey California ❤❤❤

That force field is the walking on egg shells part. Afraid to offend, human nature, but they’d be talking shit just the same behind the partner. Lol. Happened to me many times. My ex thought my family was so okay with his behavioral patterns and manners and stuff. Oh boy he was never ready for the reality.

Jessie probably thinking wtf she got herself into lol.

I think that fear of dating your dad and becoming your mom is a possible big red flag... hahahahaha...

Yay! Jessie!

I've seen this way too many times to just let it slide, but you have Viet girls in America that play the double standards whenever it suits them. When they're with a Viet guy, they want to be the culturally traditional housewife, but when they are with a white guy, they can be the western woman who goes to work and helps out with the bills.

Jessie’s been great but it’s disappointing to see her be another to fall to the trope of lumping everyone of their own ethnicity to being someone they would see as like a family member. What’s with so many Asian Americans and generalizing others of their own kind this way, ain’t no other race ever say this. Like no matter what we do, even Asians won’t stop consider Asians as “other”. Not saying at all that she should only date own ethnicity, but to so easily dismiss everyone just bc they’re the same as her without shame is kinda sad

This is the first time i zoned out Joes response and realized the crew also looked glossed over haha

Man, I remember when I used to live in Alhambra and saw this chineae girl screaming her ass off at her chinese BF at the AMC because he didn't buy the iMax tickets and instead only bought the regular ones, lol. She was going off in chinese and he just stood there all stoic.

Jessie’s omg…. 🤣🤣

She's beautiful.

What I realized over the years is, that "Asian Americans" are mostly wayyyyy less asian than other asian people who grew up outside of Asia. They take too much pride in "America" and mostly can't even speak their language. Even half asian kids growing up in Europe are mostly able to speak their asian language fluently and have been back to Asia almost yearly. Where "Asian Americans" go back to Asia almost never, maybe 1-3 times a lifetime. Asians growing up outside of America are mostly way much prouder and drawn to their asian culture and roots.

Idk who this Jessie is but she has a nice voice to listen to 😅

11:42 we going to completely ignore the random person walking through in the background 🤔

hello jkn, if you did what your nature (your home) did and they were there for you with roof, transportation, and support (do you feel it or see it). then the asians answered to our original reasons of the ivy leagues. then we started saying let's do a little music or sport or our own toys. the parents were all there right. no one will hurt the parents - 18 and over - you're an adult to have done ivy league or not. elle for be sanrio friendly

14:52 as a Salvi, from experience, there’s never any judgment or shit talking in English 😂😂

I understand where they are all coming from and their points are valid but it's just sad that because of their past trauma and how they were brought up, they can't even find people of their own ethnicity attractive. Both men and women now want to date outside their own race but it's definitely more easier for an Asian woman to do so. Case in point jessie can't even find Koreans attractive and shes dating a Colombian. I've met many Filipinas here in Canada who don't even want to consider dating a Filipino and to me that's just sad

Ive never dated anyone of my race either. I did have a crush on one which is rare 😂, and I can tell he liked me too but he was 2 years younger than me. I know age is just a number to some people, but to me personally I prefer someone older. Ive never dated anyone younger than me.

As an Asian dude it really depends on how you react or becomes someone who you really are and the cultures it really depends on families or depends how you act around with people, it really depends your personality and if you really think about another person that is like your parents than you guys are pretty gross in the mind not gonna lie though😅

jessie is SO pretty

I married my dad and became my mom... That's why I date foreigners now... Puk!!!

I understand what Bart is saying, but the Pocahontas/John Smith example is terrible. Pocahontas had no choice. She was forced into it. The Native/white example I get it. Two different cultures, but come on now

😂😂😅😅😅😂

I wonder since Gena is Italian American what are some cultural things her husband Bart had to learn from her side?

Cultures are a beautiful thing. Those without any or don't follow if you'd ask me are pretty basic

11:44 who tf was that

Hmong kids now days be dating each other for years then only to find out they are cousins. Hmong parents for some reason they just never introduce or re-introduce their kids to their aunts and uncles. This is one reason why I am afraid of asking out hmong girls, any of them could be a cousin of mine. What worst somehow you parents fill find some random hmong people at the super markets, they'll have a friendly chat and then boom they become your non-blood related aunts and uncles, then their sons and daughters become your non-blood related cousins. Then we also have this unspoken tier list that you're supposed to understand as you grow up but you have no fucken idea what its suppost to make sense. Then boom you find out that the girl that you're dating (that is the same age as you) is some how your niece, or she is your aunt. All of this comes out either by having him or her talk to each others parents or when they are engaged. ITS JUST A BUNCH "FUCK YOU'S" THAT OUR ANCESTOR'S HAVE BEEN PREPARING FOR US, AND TO ME IT'S A WHOLE BUNCH OF BULLSHIT! This is what I'm afraid of most and yet my parents still expect me to find a myself a hmong girlfriend. This is nearly impossible with 60% that they are family and 20% that they are not and 20% that they share the same last name as me. These numbers don't change no mater how far you look for a girl. Unless I get a girl that is not of my ethnicity then its a 10% chance that I get to marry her and a 90% chance that I won't get to marry her.

I was hoping Jessie would be single.

Did Bart's Mom catch birds in the park and cook them for dinner?

You guys need a Desi’s point of view on here. Totally different too. Asian but A S I A N. Lol. The perspective would be like a 12-hour flight away. 😂

I dunno why, but I kinda missing Anthony Lee. :)

6 Asians and all 6 don't find their own specific ethnicity attractive? That's a bit strange to me. To each his own tho I guess

17:34 caught staring in 4k

Why did the filipino guy didn't share anything 😢😢 I wanna know his thoughts abt marrying filipina women.

12:20

Yeah. She’s not gonna have issues when she has a son who’s half Korean.

Nick's girlfriend is Tiffany Del Real?

there are only two things that ties asians together. 1) rice, and 2) parents who are unconsciously toxic because of generational trauma

Dem diddies doh~~~

Asian American man here (specifically Chinese) and I agree with what these men say. That’s why I only dated Latina and white women 😂 and going to be marrying a beautiful one too

this seems to be and exclusive immigrant 1st generation child thing in america lol

Why Jessie ma keep posing as if she’s cute af