@@ddjsoyenby Be racist or homophobic or anything else but leave minors alone. /s (Edit: This is sarcasm. I do NOT condone any of these or anything similar to these.)
@@safala nah, I’m not with racism, homophobia, or pedophilia. But I’m a black woman in the LGBT community that works with children. There is so much more intellectually stimulating and creative content out there.
I always referred to Shane as my third parent, I had been watching him since I was 8 :/ and I found Destery through Shane... I also watched Onision for about a year and it makes me so embarrassed to say that out loud yikes
Me too, and I was right around that age during that time. I could have been one of those girls - makes you feel lucky but also creeped out and disturbed. Terrible.
See, when I first saw this was about him I wasn’t surprised bc he ran in the same circles as all these men who abused their tiny amount of power and treated minors as commodities...you never want to assume but it makes sense
so I was 16 and destery tried dating me, I think he was 23? convinced me to go to playlist live, we met and we kissed and he was actually such a shit human being after meeting him and him saying rude things about his fans after I got back I distanced myself, he kept begging me to date him and I was like no. so he moved onto my best friend who was 15 and they dated for a few months. BUT found out he was talking to 25+ girls we all found and that's when I realized ummm ew wait a second, we are MINORS? so we exposed him in like 2013 but nothing really came of it so I'm glad it's all coming to light now. nate also warned me at playlist live and I'm glad he said something bc that made me realize destery was being SUS.
@@chum5628 YES. we tried hard to get the word out but it was just me and my best friend. now it's so many people coming forward and I'm so glad he's getting what was coming to him
@S B yesss! it was my best friend who wrote it for my story and hers! I've known damon for a long time so I'm glad he has my back and is helping spread the word 🧡 make sure you block any 18+ person who tries to privately message you. we cant let any more of these guys keep trying to do this to minors.
I'm so sorry that this wasn't blown up then. I had not even heard of this happening. I am now a former fan, but I am sorry for having continued supporting him till all this. He really should have been cancelled a long time ago with all this past behavior coming up.
@@shonnieXsoho theres no need to apologize! a lot of people had absolutely no idea about any of this, I'm just so glad everyones stories are finally getting around to more people! hopefully this saves a bunch of young girls from him. or really from anyone.
I saw the comments saying "he worked with Shane" ect ect and I was like "PLS don't be Destery" But it was. The second I saw his photo on screen I felt my heart constrict from the shock. It hurts because I literally watched him yesterday. It hurts because I thought "he distanced himself from Shane, maybe to show he's better!" But then this comes out. I really hate seeing the people I loved watching get called out like this but I'm glad the victims have their voice to speak up. Hopefully 2021 will just be filled with non problematic creators
I stopped watching his content a few years ago simply because I grew out of it. This was painful to learn for me as well because I used to find him hilarious until I got older and realized how much older than me he was and how much older he was getting still making the same silly (not in a mean way) content. I know he knows his target audience but it just started to make me feel a certain way. I wanna be shocked and heartbroken that it’s Des but this is so embarrassingly and grossly common in the entertainment industry and community. So I can’t be completely mindblown...I just hope the victims, if there are more, feel comfortable coming forward.
When you said his name, I literally said "oh no." Listen, I was ONE of those emos that was totally in love with him. I never messaged him or anything. But something you said hit me hard. As a 30 year old woman, even if I was in my 20s again, what the HELL do I have in common with a 14 year old. "Oh? How was your day?" "You won't believe it, I got a D in social studies." Like, what? Another OG that I now am sickened by. Also, your nails stayed on while I retiled my living room. Yes queen. I'll be ordering more.
I’m 30 year old man and the idea of dating a teenager makes me legit want to puke up my organs. They are KIDS. Totally agree with you. “How was your day??” “I got detention.” “No way? Well I used to be in prison. Gotta feeling I’m gonna be back there...”
@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access Seriously. These are children. I never understood when these youtubers say "we had a lot in common." Like what? Your favorite color? Absolutely ridiculous
I always think about this, like how creepy must they be acting to hold a conversation with a 14 year old. Do you remember how fucking weird and awkward everyone was and the shit they thought was important?? It’s not like they’re talking about their job or their finances or traveling or going out to these kids, cause minors literally can’t relate to any of that. And also like HOW do they even find these kids?!?!? I get that social media makes it easier, but they still have to really scour for them. I knew a girl in high school who habitually had boyfriends that were ages 19-24 and I always wondered WHERE would you guys even meet? Where are these dudes possibly hanging out that you’d even run into them without a parent around (and her parents were involved, so it’s not like they were letting her lone-wolf it or anything. Somehow she kept those dudes a secret). And man she LOOKED like she was a kid. Even now, she’s 24 and she looks like she’s 15, so imagine ten years ago.
Agreed, especially with "why do you need to privately message them" like EXACTLY, publicly responding to tweets, comments etc is one thing but what are you possibly talking about to a child/teenager that can't be seen by the public 🤢
I’m actually fucking upset over this. I never stop getting disappointed by creators I’ve look up too 😔 I pray that these victims are okay and get better ;;
I am too. I was one of those dumb kids who liked onision and shane and destrey. Sadly I also listened to blood on the dance floor . I’m not a good judge of character if you can’t tell .
@@fleasmcgee2216 you were young and vulnerable!!! that’s their target audience. i used to watch onision too bc he degraded people like me. ik it might sound weird to some, but i felt like it was making me a better person by him shaming my harmful coping skills. but turns out he was just being a terrible person and doesn’t even understand ppl like me. my teenage brain tried really hard to prove his behaviors weren’t harmful and that they were “helpful” instead, because i was easily infatuated by people’s appearance and was rushing to have a sense of belonging. i’m just glad he didn’t end up shaping my ideas.
i think that it’s probably a matter of access. there’s probably a lot of creeps who would like to talk to/meet up with minors, but they just don’t have easy access to them, either by location or by inability to gain trust. but with people like this, who have a massive online platform and an audience of mostly minors, it’s very easy to find young fans who only see their idol rather than a grown person exploiting them. that’s why it seems so unfortunateky common among youtubers, it’s the people who are most easy to catch
Blows my mind. Monsters among us. So many pedos. Pedophilic agenda everywhere I look. I see it now. It’s everywhere and it terrifies me. What the hell has happened?
When I was young, like 14/15, i would talk to a lot of older men who knew I was underage and were fine with it. Now as a 19 year old it creeps me out, not only because it’s disgusting, but because of how unbelievably common it is. Many men you meet will in fact talk to and try to have sexual relations with a minor. It’s not uncommon!!!!!!!! It’s absolutely terrifying because I don’t remember there being a single man who said I was too young and stopped talking to me. Please let this be a warning!!!!!!!!
@fly furby 1000% agree. it took me years later to realize “hey, that 40 y/o guy who was trying to meet up and be in a relationship with 15 y/o me was probably a fuckin pedophile??” and just so many interactions then and when i was younger and i want to puke knowing so many adults online are actively looking for underage children to groom and manipulate 😖🤢 ngl kind of makes me wish someone could just ctrl+alt+delete the internet
Just realised I used to watch Destery all the time, along with Shane and Onision. Makes me feel super icky. It’s such a shame that RU-vid ever gave these creeps a platform
I grew up watching Shane since I was 8, and followed Destery bc of WTF news on Shane’s channel. Does it also embarrass you to have to say we watched Onision at one point? It makes me cringe just admitting that I actually subbed to these people back in my earlier teens
Its the same reason predators flock to the goth/alt scene. Ppl in those scenes can be more susceptible to abuse and coercion bc of how common PTSD and other meantal health issues are among members of the scene.
I think it has to do with sick people flocking to whatever seems to have easy prey. People who like the goth and emo Aesthetics tend to be struggling with the social norms and potentially are bullied for have a mental illness.(speaking from my own personal experiences here) Young impressionable girls and boys who already have issues making friends will latch onto whatever gives them attention and feelings of belonging. Grown ass men realize that and take advantage of it. Whether that be people like drake, Destry, or Dhavie. It’s not just emo or scene girls. People in the pop industry do it too. They make themselves seems so cool and young in order to make the children feel safe. It’s a disgusting behavior but it’s not limited to one scene. It’s just a bunch of predatory people preying on what they deem as easy targets.
@@deefizzy i remember meeting you at Playlist Live in 2012 or 2013 and I was around 16-17 years old. You were so kind and I was even on your livestream taken at the convention. You gave me a "younow" shirt, signed it and even said hi to me later that day as you walked by. You never acted like you were in a position of power. You acted human. I will forever respect you. There's too much evil in this world and I just wanted to thank you personally for being a positive role model to your viewers. I felt so comfortable and safe meeting you. Damon, you are truly a great human and I really hope you're doing well. Your friend/old viewer, Christa.
@@blindgamer7330 Where have you been for the last several months lol? I'd watch D'Angelo Wallace's video on him. It's a LOT though, it may cause distress.
as someone who was in a "romantic relationship" with a man that was in his 30s when I was 16, the people coming out about him are the bravest. even today i'm afraid that he'll see my comment and say that i was at fault for him coming after me. the media needs to stop normalizing the 'Lana Del Rey' 'Lolita' stories because they are an overt way in which society normalizes pedophilia and the sexualization of young girls like I and these other young women were. It's creating situations that scar and follow women for the rest of their lives. edit: I don't know if you've already made a video on this specific lana del rey/ lolita topic, but i think it would really hold artists accountable. if you already made it, then im sorry.
@@ethicalibra The way she presents it is tho. It's perfectly ok to share your experience but the way she uses her aesthetic presents it as desirable. There is a whole generation who look at someone like Lana and her beautiful aesthetic and think that wow I want that! Not saying you can showcase trauma in a way that pretty and meaningful to you but you must be aware of the negative effects presenting trauma that way can have on others.
I’ve been saying this since I was a teen myself! I’ve had so many friend falls victim to grown men because it was the “cool” thing to do. It’s absolutely not a narrative that should be thrust upon young girls (or any young person). I’m glad people are finding their voices and standing up against these sick pervs.
@@JayRMW lana doesn’t present it in any sort of way except for a sad way. like her whole vibe is being sad in the summer because of abuse. i think she’s more than aware; & i think she should be able to tell her story in whatever way she feels is the most honest for her. also i don’t like that you guys put so much of the criticism on the artist when it’s clearly the fans who are making it into something it’s really not. remember the fans have to educate themselves too LOL.
He needs to take a page out of his own book when he called out Austin Jones and Drake. I recall him saying, “You can’t pre-order women,” about Drake texting Millie Bobby Brown. Pot. Kettle.
@@misz3 its a idiom "the pot calling the kettle black" they are both black. It means calling out someone else for the same thing they are doing themselves. They ignore or think people won't know they are just as shitty a person.
Exactly. Great point. I didn't expect to see all these allegations about Destery after he made vids about Austin Jones because he seemed to know grooming is wrong. But nope!
He was Shanes bestie and defended Shane to the end during every scandal... i think thats very telling now. And having his best friend speak out against him too... i honestly didnt expect this from him, with the austin jones thing he was very outspoken on how wrong it was, turns out it was a bit hypocritical, so disgusting
I remember when Shane uploaded this guy's videos onto his own channel before he rebranded. I am not surprised in the least about this guy at all. It's True what they say... You're only as good as the company you keep.
The issue is that emo culture made it ok. 1st boyfriend 20 i was 13. 2nd 18 I was 14. 3rd 24 I was 16. Emo scene was full of pedos my sister and I went to concerts and many famous guys hit on us one guy in a band tried to give me beer and weed my sister stopped him I was 12
Felt this one. I dated a 17 year old when I was 13.. broke up with me before he turned 18 because he knew it was bad but didn’t want legal issues. My family was against it and I insisted I would sneak around even if they didn’t let me. I wish I listened to them tbh
It's because as others have said, emo culture attracted a bunch of young, mentally ill people. Many of whom had a history of trauma or abuse, and were looking for someone to "understand" them. Older men would use this to their advantage. They're older, cooler, and already have something in common (being emo). They use this as leverage to manipulate the kids' insecurities and abuse them. Emo culture didn't make it okay, but it allowed this to happen. Similarly with kids in Hollywood and music, the execs tell them "I can make your dreams come true!", get them to sign their life away and then... It's really unfortunate that something that had such a positive impact on so many people's lives and aided in the destigmatizing of mental illness had such disgusting side effects.
People like Destery are not going away any time soon. Young people need to educate themselves. On Vampirefreaks there were tons and tons of girls relentlessly hitting on way older men. That's like playing with fire. Young women need to be aware of the consequences, it's not safe and harmless to be sliding into grown men's DMs when you're a minor. Society can try to "cancel" as much Desterys as they can, but that's a losing battle. We need to teach these girls boundaries, so that they can protect themselves.
@@princesspeach7496 I agree with all of that except that “young people need to educate themselves.” No. The adults here need to be responsible. The blame can’t be shifted onto the minor because that takes the heat/responsibility off of the mature adults who damn well know better than to interact with minors in such a way. I agree more with your last statement that *we* (the adults) need to teach boundaries- in the same way that these other adults (aka pedophiles) need to uphold those boundaries.
@@thedestroyasystem I like your username! But yes, I agree that emo culture didn’t make pedophilia and grooming okay, but rather offered a space for predators to prey on vulnerable people.
In high school I was friends with a girl who was obsessed with all these people who are now being exposed as predators...this destery guy, onision, dahvie vanity, you name it she loved it. She must be catatonic right now.
my GF liked these youtubers and I am honestly dreading her finding out because a lot of her favorite youtubers have been outed as terrible people one way or another lately
@@skellbo the only advice i can give is assume the worst and never idolize people that arent you. I just learned to idolize myself instead of all of these people. Im tryna be the example id look up to
At this point youtubers like Markiplier had the right idea. Remove yourself from community access the minute you start getting creepy parasocial fanmail and only interact at events like Vidcon. removes all temptation to engage with vulnerable people who are desperate to gain the attention of their senpai. The only person Mark has had issues with was an emotionally disturbed kid who kept pushing the parasocial boundary after being told off repeatedly.
@@WhoTookMyMirr ohmwrecker/maskedgamer called Mark a pedo and he got chastised and banned. Hence why there's videos of him and marks friends playing together then ohm disappears. Ohm didn't trust Mark and still doesn't. He lost a following for a bit because of it.
@@kaii6216 you need proof to make that sort of accusation. But I was talking about DillontheHacker, which I was incorrect about the background of. He's a deliberate instigator and generally an awful person along the lines of the people who go out of their way to provoke Boogie, and it's still not entirely clear if Mark really did have to issue a cease and desist.
the BOTDF style emo girls deserved better men and roll models than what we got. [i specify because we all know botdf fans are very different from BVB and AA fans.]
That's exactly what I was thinking. These people have such large platforms and could easily find someone their own age to talk to but again and again another youtuber gets caught being creepy towards minors. I wonder why so many youtubers are predators.
Really just shows we need to stop idolizing people we don’t even really know. Sure if they seem like good people you can like them and enjoy their content but just always remember: you really have no idea who they are and they don’t know you. It’s all parasocial. You’re not friends. They could be awful or they could be a good person. If you don’t idolize people you’ll be less upset if you find out they’re awful, it hurts less. It’s not healthy to be so attached to someone you don’t even really know.
What really sucks is how many emo icons I've noticed getting arrested or caught up in allegations especially involving children, I was really not expecting this particular person I thought itd be shane and I'm so sad
It's because as others have said, emo culture attracted a bunch of young, mentally ill people. Many of whom had a history of trauma or abuse, and were looking for someone to "understand" them. Older men would use this to their advantage. They're older, cooler, and already have something in common (being emo). They use this as leverage to manipulate the kids' insecurities and abuse them. Emo culture didn't make it okay, but it allowed this to happen. Similarly with kids in Hollywood and music, the execs tell them "I can make your dreams come true!", get them to sign their life away and then... It's really unfortunate that something that had such a positive impact on so many people's lives and aided in the destigmatizing of mental illness had such disgusting side effects.
Situations like this really solidify the fact the we have no clue what kinds of people we are really supporting by watching and liking their content... that’s uncomfortable as hell to think about
Idk.., does seem to follow the trend of it being people who's content was very obviously not aimed at 12 year olds, but was primarily enjoyed by 12 year olds, due to how obnoxious, juvenile and annoying it was.
Welcome to another episode of "Everyone that is Currently in Shane's Life is Either Getting Married to Him or a Piece of Shit" and that is very telling.
I was just gunna ask is this the same guy that Shane had on his channel? I dont even remember what he was on there for because I never watched those vids.
@@fayemcarthur4609 I’m pretty sure they were, I was a big fan of then both and they met a bunch of times. Since Destery lived in Portland and Shane didn’t they predominantly talked online.
I was NOT expecting to see Destery on here... this actually pains me. I’ve watched him for years and still do. I loved him. I cared about him. I feel like this is grief, or a loss of some kind. I just... wow
@@victoriaofthevictoriavicto7270 I am questioning everything, and I’m keeping an open mind. I’m waiting to hear his side as well. But that doesn’t change that these allegations are awful, and there’s a chance they are true.
I heard “Destery” and it hurt. This is not okay. I didn’t exactly love him, but I knew him and still remained subscribed. I’m not excited to be disappointed
I was dating somebody within his VERY close circle and I can tell you right now, he is the most narcissistic, manipulative individual i've ever met. I could not say one positive thing about him.
This makes me incredibly upset; was a huge fan of Des&Nate/"CapnDesDes" back in the Tumblr/scene kid/emo days, but in retrospect there were definitely a bunch of red flags. It's honestly discouraging how it feels like there're no "good" people left on this platform anymore (or on this planet)...
Honestly though. Dan and Phil are the only people I can think of from the emo days who didn’t turn out to be a clown. Dan doesn’t make videos so i guess they’re not on this platform as a duo anymore
there are lots and lots of good people left but they dont get the same attention as those who do bad. dont lkoose faith in people due to only the people doing terrible things get shown to you, think of those that dont get shown to you. theres lots of good people on this earth x
There still good people on here like Jarvis for example seems like an ok guy from what it looks and James rolfe seems nice enough but it definitely seems like there more bad than good people but I think there are still good people
I was one of the victims from 2014-2016. I’m so glad there are others finally speaking out about this so I feel less like it was my fault. I’m so glad I changed my number otherwise I know he wouldn’t have gone away
@Amber Lee thank you. It’s taken a long time to even remotely feel that way. He’s so manipulative that everything he does, he makes you feel like you deserve it. The good and the bad. I’m just happy it’s out there and he can’t do this to anyone else
@ChySyringe I appreciate it. I’m working on it. It was easy to ignore before and now it’s everywhere and stories are coming out so it’s been overwhelming. But we’ll get through it 💕 thank you
@Shelby Celine I’m glad you know now that none of what happened to you was your fault, but it breaks my heart that you were ever made to feel like that in the first place. But that’s what these predators do and they’re _very_ good at it. They lie and manipulate and gaslight you into thinking _you_ came on to them, or _you_ wanted it, or you deserved it, when that is the furthest thing from the truth. They use the fact that you were young and looked up to them and _took full advantage._ NOTHING that happened was EVER your fault. Good for you for changing your number though, that was smart! I hope you’re living your best life and thriving now. 💕
Honestly, it’s extremely concerning that Shane platformed him on his channel. Knowing what we know now about Shane’s gross behavior towards children, then this, is really worrying
Shout out to Nate for handling this so professionally and actually supporting the victims. He is a big voice and is using this for good and honestly, it feels rare these days. And a MASSIVE shout out to all the victims for coming forward. I'm so happy they know that this is not their fault. You are so strong. Thank you! And to victims that just don't feel ready or comfortable to come forward and share their story: it is okay. You don't have to. Look after yourselves and please please PLEASE remember that this is not your fault. You are so strong and if you need help you can always reach out❤
I started to hate Onision after the video he did on Autism. Idk if that was for a joke but, he basically said "AUTISTIC ARE HATED BECAUSE, THEY'RE RETARDED". I was so angry i forgot what the motive was behind that video.
Good job on Nate. Exposing someone you’ve been friends with for so long is hard and he’s honestly acting as a shield for all the victims who want to come out
As an adult I cannot comprehend talking to a teen in a sexual way in any circumstance. I’m trying to imagine how someone my age would want to do that, but I physically cannot come up with a reason why.
I remember there were accusations about him like 10 years ago on Tumblr and all his dumb fan girls defended him and bashed the victim. Pretty sure she deleted the post and everyone forgot about it. Seeing this now is so disturbing.
One thing I’ve always said is .. if you’re out of high school and past the age of 18, you have no business being friends with minors. I always find it so weird when people can’t find a friend / relationship with people their own age and go after people younger
The only minors I’m friends with are coworkers.. And even then it feels a little weird, because I see them as little kids. For someone to abuse these children and then call them “friends” makes my heart ache
@Shitlord Diabettus idk man I personally think it’s weird to be friends with minors but I get it, it doesn’t apply to everyone. I myself have had younger friends but find it extremely hard to keep those friendships going due to age difference, nothing I had in common tbh.. I grew out of stuff they were still into. We all have different growth patterns in life but I do think overall it’s generally weird when an adult only has friends for minors or seems to only single out minors when they COULD make friends their own age easily, ya feel ?
@Shitlord Diabettus and this applies to relationships as well, I generally think it’s weird and look out for those kind of behaviors when it comes to predatory people.
I just want to take a moment to recognize how brave the friend it. It’s incredibly difficult to do the right thing sometimes and speak against your friend like that
Nathan has actually been a huge support system for those of us who were victims of D. He became my best friend after I realized I was being taken advantage of and I’m so grateful. He’s being so brave with this. We’re all very grateful for him right now.
@@ShelbyCelineMusic I’m so sorry this depraved man took advantage of you. You’re so strong and so loved!! I’m glad to hear you have support from Nathan 💖
This is disappointing. Growing up I thought all creeps looked like the lurker in the bushes you see on television. Now I know they can look like anyone, even the people you've enjoyed watching on RU-vid.
the only of Shane's friends I can even think about any more are Garrett and Andrew. If it turns out they're gross too, I swear I will lose all faith in humanity at this point.
@@bumblebeeproductions1673 I mean I like Trisha but she is far from unproblematic. Drew from what I've seen seems like being in the public eye affects his mental health in a really negative way so I'm more inclined to leave him alone and just hope he's doing well.
As a 25 year old, I look at college students and they seem so young and just at such a different phase of life that I could never see them romantically or sexually. I can’t even imagine thinking/feeling this way about a minor, it just doesn’t compute
Yes because young girls don't seek the attention of older men happily. Why is a 13 yr old sending nudes to anybody of any age? Where are the parents? All the teenage girls in my highschool wanted an older man with a car and his own place. Yes, the men are gross for it. But the "victims" aren't blameless either. How about we teach young girls to respect and protect themselves better.
@@lisettes.9598 Ehhhh I sorta agree with your point. I was a victim to an older man at the age of 15 and I definitely could have made better decisions on my part. Although the main focus should be on these men. This is their faults for luring in young girls, they make it seem like the life they can give you is desirable until they got you trapped. They know who to go after, they know who is vulnerable and easier to manipulate. They go after kids for a reason dude, kids are BOUND to make dumb ass decisions. And whenever I was in the relationship at the time I wasn’t thinking that I was doing it because I didn’t respect myself, I was thinking the exact opposite actually. The relationship seemed desirable because it was different than what the highschool boys can offer. There are a number of reasons why younger people get into relationships with adults. We should be teaching them why these relationships are toxic instead.
@@wubalubadubdub4940 men, people in general, take advantage of weak gullible people with low self esteem of any age. That will never stop until we teach people to value and respect themselves. We will never teach people to do better if we keep babying "victims" and never pointing out that they also did things to contribute to their own situation. Today that is called victim shaming. So instead of helping people become stronger, we're just perpetuating their victim status.
@@lisettes.9598 I’m sorry, but you have a really warped view dude. Like I said, there are numerous reasons why someone gets into a relationship with these people. Not just because they don’t respect themselves, and even though I don’t completely blame your view because you obviously don’t have much perspective, you really should consider that people are diverse and complex creatures. Not every single person is going to fit into your narrative of being a poor wittle victim that doesn’t take any blame. And once again, these people go after children for a reason. It is easier to hide, my parents still don’t know about my relationship with that guy because I was so scared to tell them. I felt like shit, do you seriously think that we look back at those moments in our lives and think “ ah yes, this will give me sympathy from people.” You really think that every single person who has gone through this just wants a pat on the back for being, as you said, “victims.” No. Most of us fucking don’t. And it’s people like you that like to make the people who ARE victims seem like pussies, and is the reason why so many of these people don’t face consequences for their actions. That man that fucked with me should be in jail now, but because I had that same bullshit narrative you’re spewing I didn’t speak up. It is these disgusting people’s faults, and you are contributing to the problem by writing it off as “ oh they should’ve known better than to do that.” If we didn’t victim blame as a society, and talked about these issues more openly these sick ass people would actually get consequences. And scare the disgusting predators back into the shadows, because guess what most of them do it because they feel invincible. They know that they can scare their victims into not telling anyone. You, with your weird wrapped narrative are contributing to this issue. And I hope you realize that not all “victims” are little pussies like you act like. I am a strong ass person that learned from my mistakes, and you should reflect and do the same.
SCREAMS IN *MY CHILDHOOD I used to binge him and Nate’s videos all the time when I was in highschool 😭😭 I stand with the victims, but I’m just so disappointed wow what the actual FUCK LEAVE CHILDREN ALONE ITS NOT HARD
I keep reading" DYSENTERY". What an unfortunate name to have while being the exact embodiment of it. We all know what happens to the character with dysentery back on the ol' wagon trail. RIP Dysentery Smuf.
I haven't thought about des and nate in over a decade how strange, I applaud nate for not compromising his morals and integrity even for a 14 yr friendship 👏
Hey I wanted to ask you, have you looked into the creepy shit Dan Schneider (ex producer at nickelodeon) has done? Id love to see you cover it if you're looking for future video ideas
Heartbroken... Absolutely heartbroken..... I was in genuine shock when you said his name.... I basically grew up with him and got a lot of my sense of humor from him.... I haven’t watched his videos in a long time but those videos got me through middle and high school..... I hope the victims get the justice they need, no one deserves this treatment
dude same, I heard her talk at the beginning and I was thinking “please not destery” :,) how hard is it to not be a creep??? I’m so sad that so many people have been exposed for doing gross shit like this lately
When I think back to when I was 13-15, the amount of grown ass men who would message me on Facebook & hit on me is ALARMING. You never realize at the time but looking back, wtf???
Literally the only decent person who was related to Shane at some point is Trisha Paytas, since she cut ties with him and helped exposed him and the others
@@bumblebeeproductions1673 Trisha is far from a decent person. She has plenty of her own controversies and initially defended Shane. I don’t think we should lose sight of that now that she’s cut him off.
I would like to come on here and say that there are "rumors" about Destery in Portland. I moved to Portland in October 2019 and I had made a tinder account to meet people (I knew absolutely no one besides my 4 room mates) and within a couple weeks of swiping I saw Destery on there and we matched! I was so stoked because this was someone I had been watching for almost 10 years online. I was 22 at the time and went to my roommates daughter and talked to her about it. She said "WHO?" immediately and I was like "what??" and she then told me that her close friend (I won't say her name) was in a relationship with Destery's room mate in Vancouver, WA (15 min from Portland) and that this girl said that Destery is definitely a pedophile and that its basically common knowlegde in his friend group. She said she was put off by Destery, said that he didnt treat his roommates well, he made Nathan live in the living room or something crazy, and that he also had a shit ton of pictures from underage girls on his laptop that him and his friends would look at together and alone. Its absolutely disgusting and trust me... this girl has no reason to lie! Destery ended up contacting me on tinder and followed me on IG (still does + for proof my IG is @leeb0t_) and hit me up there as well. I wanted a chance to be friends with him online still (I wanted to think it was just rumors) so we'd have little chats here and there (where he would mostly ignore me unless he was hitting on me) and that was basically it. He's vented to me about his depression but then when I try to actually talk to him he'll just leave me on read with no regard. People are just dispensable to him and he has so many girls he's talking to at once. He even was hitting on me while he definitely had a girlfriend recently. Suprisingly enough though, he actually wanted to meet up with me once and I was actually going to go, which is insane after hearing rumor like that that I would still be willing to give this person a chance, but then he flaked on me the day of. I unfollowed him and he will still hit me up from time to time but dear god, I'm SO over it. Just talking to him feels like I'm losing any and every kind of self respect. I mentioned him to a friend I talk to online who' a super cute "e-girl" and she told me that she use to sext him back in 2014. So yeah, I guess this is is not new news!! Destery, if you're seeing this--- thank you for flaking!! You did me a huge favor!
Wow this makes him seem so much more worse than displayed in the video but it goes to show just how disgusting he is. I appreciate you coming out with this story. We all need to be more cautious who we take an interest in
He made Nathan live in a CLOSET which was atrocious. He ruined my life from 2014-2016. I’m so glad I changed my number and got away from him and I’m glad you didn’t get fully roped in. I look forward to seeing so many of us come forward that the validity won’t be doubted.
Thank you so much for sharing you're experience. You're worthy of being treated well, and I'm really glad you've unfollowed him. I hope your comment gets as many views and likes as possible, so that more people can become aware of the type of person Destery is, and what he's done. Wishing all those who have been harmed by him all the very best
This is honestly the least surprised I've ever been by a RU-vidr being exposed as a creep. Anyone who was involved in alternative fashion and stuff in the late 2000s and early 2010s knows that internet scene guys were some of the sketchiest people you could ever come across. Predators would intentionally go after these kids because they knew that a lot of the young girls involved in alternative subcultures felt like outsiders which made them vulnerable and "easy targets" to take advantage of. It's sick
I made a video response to this, regarding living with Destery, grooming and to help validate the victims. Much love and thank you for bringing light to this
As soon as you said his name and showed him I felt my heart drop. I was obsessed with him, and still love to see hiss stuff sometimes. It really sucks that even our favorites are being shown as their true colors, and that they have such awful things in them
Tbh same. As a teen I used to like him as he was pretty funny (to the humor taste buds of 12-14yo me) but as I grew up and moved on to other phases of my life (and other age groups) he seemed a bit too keen to stay in the teen emo phase. The ties to Shane Dawson didn’t help.
the way that that’s true is so depressing. i started watching destery when i was probably 10 or 11? but i’m 18 now and the older i got with him he lowkey gave me creeper vibes just by the jokes he would make
The only time it's acceptable for a grown adult to message with minors is if the minor is asking for tips on how to become a content creator or as you said a request from a guardian for a quick happy birthday. You walk a very fine line if it goes beyond that.
I disagree a lot but I don't think what youre saying is wrong. Platonic friendships beyond age do exist thats pretty normal, these people should just not be wanting sexual shit from kids. Platonic conversations are entirely fine like chit chat
damn watching this pulled a very old memory out, Destry had DM’d me on twitter when I was in middle school and i was too nervous to respond, so hearing this is just so scary and i’m disgusted dude 😞
honestly, this one reallly hurt, I loved destrey and nate when I was a teen, I stopped watching after highschool as I grew out of his content, but would occasionally check out what he's doing now and keeping up with him on twitter, it's so hard looking back now, like Nates statement on the matter broke my heart
I think I'm gonna cry, I love his content he was one of the only og RU-vidrs I still watched and the only one I thought would be fine, I hoped he wouldn't do anything bad
Thank you for covering this, I never would’ve thought of this person to be like this if it wasn’t brought to light by important channels like yours. I’m sorely disappointed in this person. I thought he was a good safe person I could sort of trust.
@@iamV10010 That story is crazy and like no one on social media is talking about it... And it was actually an entire county's water supply so several towns would've been affected and thousands of people could've been poisoned/killed.
I'm getting more and more convinced that 'most' - but not all - humans are inherently horrible. So proud of the people who are coming out against him. Edit: It's just my subjective opinion not meant to cause offense lol. Peoples opinions can also marred by how society or their own illnesses had affected them, so before calling people names like 'doom scroller' maybe take a minute to consider what others might have gone through.
@@daisyg819 I agree, I'm starting to think it's because discipline is not being instilled into people as much anymore whether by being taught or circumstance. We've had it too cushy for too long.
@@peaches8864 the thing is I used to as well but it's getting increasingly difficult when I see the news, watching people endangering each other, it's so saddening
