When I was a six-year-old a long time ago, listening to this with my dad, I had no idea what this truly meant. He tried to explain it to me, and I understood that the girl had died and the man was grieving her, but I didn’t understand how someone could die of a broken heart, or how hitting the edge of her window had anything to do with the song. When I was young, and small, and naïve, my dad made me promise to never kill myself. I was flabbergasted. Why would anyone want to do that? I couldn’t wrap my little six-year-old head around why he was making me promise this. There was no way I’d ever do such a thing, right? Well, I obeyed his promise, for years and years, and then one day when he’d had too much to drink, he started talking about howmy mom and I could do better without him and that he should just die. My heart broke, and I frantically reminded him of the promise he made me keep and that he had to do it, too. He just looked at me with broken eyes before whispering, “ok.” I don’t know if he was actually going to do that or not, but I am so glad he made me promise that. Because of him making me promise to keep living, I was able to do that same for him.
@@forsakenprotector486 Hey dude, you may be a great textual analyst, but maybe work on your people skills a little. You may need them some day, even for yourself. You can see that what this person went through was not only deeply traumatic, it reflects the more abstract meaning of the song. Aside from that, the interpretation of lyrics or poetry can validly be a personal thing.
Oh god.... I was in a week long coma around the time of this song... from trying to.... and it put me in a 6 day 7 night coma. I turned 20 in the psych ward that summer.... My older brother cool calm collected got almost irate hugging me when released... you... YOU, LITTLE GIRL (he practically raised me) ARE NEVER EVER TO DO THAT TO ME AGAIN!!!!! He stayed the whole week reading to me. It was his voice I first recall climbing so heavy but climbing to his voice. I pinky swore with him and made him do it back that I never would. That promise... the month I turned 20 saved me again.... I am 43 and though we both have had health issues and just lost our mum and of course the Queens death is painful but.... my brother saved me by making that pact with me. But promising..... never to leave each other on purpose.. Lady Dinah Lumley Donovon-Eckman
It’s weird how many times I’ve heard this song throughout the 24 years it’s been out but a random movie trailer with Pete Davidson made me fall in love with it.
I've always loved it, but I will say I loved how in that trailer when they're singing the song they're just mumbling to the beat, because no matter how much you love this song that's how you do at a party when you're drunk, lol.
Always, always when I listened to this song memories of my brother who passed away in the 90's came to my mind. I didn't know English that time. Now, I can understand the song. It is incredible how just the music can touch the heart. Music is timeless, breaking barriers of countries and languages, just emotions and feelings at the end.
Definitely, I spoke English and I never got the true meaning of the song until I watched it with the lyrics. I recently lost my ex boyfriend to cancer so now when I hear it, it has a totally different meaning. Sadness 💔
One of the greatest songs ever written. And I’m a die hard Beatles fan. So mature. Jacob’s voice is true and real. I’m 47 now. Do it again Wallflowers!
@@marthah2170 It's about sui cide. He's saying don't give up, things will get better as time passes. For now, or when you have problems that seem unsurmountable, hang in there. Like driving with only one headlight. It's still possible to continue your journey in the darkness (of the moment) with only one headlight but the sun will come up soon. This song hits home for me and always makes me cry.
My sister made my Mom’s funeral invitation card and the lyrics in the back was from this song, I’ve waited 3 years to actually listen to the song… I’m crying… tears of memories often drop like raindrops during monsoon
@@paulineerwin7685 my mom passed, this year will be 4 years and I’ve come a long way. Wasn’t easy, I’ve broke so many times but to see where I am today, smiling & content with what I got. I’m appreciate of it all, daily miracles only solidify the thought that she’s watching over me & my relatives. I’ve never been happier ❤️
I just lost my fiancée and best friend, he was in an accident on his motorcycle. We were best friends from 13 years old. He was only 20. I’m completely broken but I just discovered this song and I can’t explain how much I resonate with it and the lyrics. Nothing is forever, except for love. Ride high baby
My eldest brother showed me this song as a young kid. Took me years to find it again based off the few lyrics I could remember from my childhood. Though the meaning has changed from my childhood to my adult life, this tune is still just as powerful and moving.
@ngutierrez840 girl friend was way low and drove a car off a bridge and broke his heart. .. at least was how I interpreted it, now I can't listen to more than half of it wiithout choking up :( beautiful isn't it?
Had a few drinks and tokes and was reading the lyrics to this song while playing it in my head. Been a while since I've been brought to tears by a song but for some reason it really hit the spot that night. Takes a lot to reach a hardened cynic but this is a song of deep courage beneath the bittersweet tone. Good shit.
No doubt. The second this started playing it immediately brought me back....way back to a simpler and sure time....when i knew what was gonna happen tomorrow, or at least the illusion of it. Now days, all i can think about is how everything is so uncertain and i have no idea what tomorrow will bring. Over time, one realizes the phrase "ignorance is bliss" rings true more times than not.
This is one of my favorite song. The mid tempo makes the song even more sad. it feels like ‘life goes on’ no matter what goes in my mind. Even after my only friend’s funeral.
What a great track. I remember the first girl I ever went out with had this single and let me borrow it. She let me borrow the cassette. Ahhhh 90’s music will forever have an indelible imprint on my soul.
When my daughter got married, and we danced at her wedding, this is the song she chose. Yes, you can dance to Jakob Dylan! This was our "code word" for years. I cried. I cried like a baby.
This was another song at my cousins funeral. She was 20 I think. This is a beautiful song but it makes me appreciate the earth and my place in it. I love my cuz and I never knew her very well and she never really noticed I was there. God has so much in store for me. I'm not making the same mistakes that she did.😌. I love you mal mal! 😩
+Lariah Swiftie Andrade Losing someone, even someone you weren't close with can be hard- but it's beneficial. Makes you consider your time spent on this earth, the things you do, the people you love. Nobody is perfect, and everything can be a lesson in the grand scheme of things. You're right to use someone elses experience to better yourself, your cousin would be happy you did- I guarantee it. Whether they knew you well or not. Legacy is a lesson.
Strigent Odin I know heaven is a better place especially in the place she was at but I love this world. And I know she is. I cry every once in a while.
I used to listen to this song when i was a kid, not realizing the meaning behind it until this morning. I played it in the car because i had a headlight out and was alone so was really tuned into the lyrics, and realized how much i relate to this song after losing my mother to suicide. The grief is truly unbearable and it haunts me every day.. this song makes it so i can feel understood now and i just really love it now..
Every time I hear this song it reminds me of my brother whom introduced me to it: Chris Ericson U.S.M.C. I now drum along to it and it fills my heart with love for my fallen brother. May the Lord Almighty allow him in his heaven. Amen
Recently, I lost my best friend to suicide. She was the first true love of my life, a soldier, a mother, and an goddamn awesome person. This song brings me to tears every time. Rock on.
I get it now. He's the one headlight. The other headlight is the girl who died. So in his mind the car would symbolize their relationship, thus connecting the two lights. He can't move on without her. So he feels that the only way to move on is if part of her stays with him. It's almost as if he's talking to the part of himself that he desperately wants to believe contains her spirit. Very sad
My mom used to listen to this when I was growing up, so I learned of it and grew to enjoy this song and the band. Any time I hear this song though sort of brings me back to chilling in my moms convertible as she drove down the road. Makes me miss her and just being little. Probably gonna go call her now honestly lawl.
Please make sure to call her. Then call her again and again. This was one of my moms favorite songs. I used to tease her for it, actually. I lost her suddenly a couple of years ago. She called and texted me several times that day, but I didn't feel like talking. The next day I no longer had a mom. I'll regret that for the rest of my life. My mom and I had a complicated relationship, but you only get one mom. Please cherish yours 💞
I recently met a stranger who told mw stories of how she came to get a broken heart attack. Incredible story. She and her son are left alive, praise God. Then I remembered this song. Thanks for posting and with lyrics!
This song is about grief, guilt, depession, anger. Ty, I went through it all when I lost my husband. Helped a lot! Got to be something better than this!
90s are the best baby! Then the 70s come in at a close second. I wont deny the 80s had SOME good stuff, but there was so much trash in the 80s as a whole, not just musically but the trends, fashion styles, cars, economy, movies, crack, aids, reagan(lol), etc etc. The 80s was by far the worst decade between the 50s til the mid 2000s. Everything about the 80s was just hideous. Sorry Gen X'ers (im also a gen x'er, on the cusp of beginning millenial ages)
***** I lost my sister, Beverly, on her birthday in 2005. I think of her when I hear this song. She was 49 and I was 44 then and we spoke every day. I was numb at the cemetary. It still hurts.
I'm 22 bur my sisters are about 10 years older than me so their music is at my deepest subconscious memory. This one resonates with me. I remember this from being a kindergartner watching my sisters go through high school having no idea what was happening.
I was 12 in 2000, I feel like I was way too young to appreciate how great 90s music was. I get it now, and WOW. Oh, 90s. you gave us Boy Meets World and so much great music. You're the best.
Thanks I agree. Funny but I put this list together just to hear in the car and now I'm on my pc and I see all these views! Really nice to know so many like similar sounds.
Music is getting me through my drug detox-I cannot imagine life without music. I didn’t really pay attention to this song until I started going through withdrawals, now I’m blasting it in my headphones!
And think, this shit was already close to a decade old when myspace first came out and especially when it first came on the scene hard in 05....this was released in like 96
I remember driving home with my parents and hearing this at night watching the street lights go past. Literally, there is nothing that give me a more intense feeling of nostalgia.
As a female who grew up in trauma an has felt alone forever.. im relating to this song now at 33 staring out my window at the snow, that this to me is about the death of a piece of myself. But i dont need to be stuck in the middle forever... yes life is better.. but its not great. Its not where i know i can bring it... i dont need to keep dragging on my dead self with my now self an think ill reach my destination with one headlight. Im capable of making it with 1 headlight that can get me where the fuck i need to be. Whats so amazing about this song is everyone can relate to it in a negative way but apply it in a positive way. It wild. Music today in 2023 is fuckin nothing like older music.. im so grateful for music its helped me grow internally my entire life ❤
I've heard this song a million times since Mid 90's and this is the Very first time I've decided to paid attn to the lyrics...it's a very sorrowful but deeply moving song. As much I jam to hip-hop music, rock always teaches me something brand new
I used to wonder back then if I had a connection to this, now I know I do. I am honored! 4th Dimension in full swing... gotta love the non-linear timing. Thank you!
This song, it just hits a different part of my brain. Wanting something u can never have. It brings back memories that if i had the chance to, id live my life there
Me and my boyfriend listened to this when he came back on military leave to visit me. our head light was out and we held hands listening to this song. How I long to be with him… this song makes me miss him so much 😭
I can see this song as being about suffering from depression. Losing a friend, which could be interpreted as normal feelings, to a "broken heart disease." They mention being unable to break away from the parade, or the disease, and that there has to be an opening, a way out of the maze of ugliness and greed. The "sun up ahead" of the county line, and there's a bridge to it, to a healthy mind. The person sees this as a sign that "all is good" and nothingness, which depression always feels like, will die when they reach it. Unfortunately they try and fail, hitting the window ledge, which can be seen as the barriers we put up around us with depression, never leaving our homes. The "engine doesn't turn" and the mess is something they could watch burn, and go away. When you're depressed you lose yourself and don't feel yourself (feel like somebody else). Then they mention the city walls of "dying dreams," the feeling of hopelessness. "Her death" is not somebody else, it's the speaker talking about their own inner death. But the positive comes from the main verse, claiming there's got to be something better than "in the middle," which is a way to view depression. It isn't sadness or happiness, it's the middle. It's nothingness. And they claim to "try a little" to make it through, to drive "home." And to do it is not easy because one headlight represents not being 100%, but still having just enough power to push through and keep on living.
Ashlee Anno my thought on, It became to late and he and she missed out on the love she or he should of had, letting things get in the way they couldn't fix it when they had a chance and kept pushing on with the issue still she snaps and leaves instead of trying and same with him he grew old without her, and well nothing last forever one light went out, she went to her grave without being with the one she loved or should of loved? And well some can live with the issues and make it home, when many can't finish. If they would of tried they would of finished also, they wouldn't of got stuck in the middle. And just like a burned out headlight, the other is its mate. But really just saying some cam make it work if they would of just tried. IDK coming from a depressed guy who lost his love
My Dad showed me this music video recently and I tell you it has opened my eyes to a lot of things. Especially 6th street by the wallflowers. When you are stuck in middle and can’t find your way open your ears and listen and talk to anybody you can learn to cope with the world we live in today. Nothing is forever except life in heaven 4:18
My sister law Carla C. Passed away Dec.2020 being 5months carrying my nephew both went home with the Lord this was her song I oaten to it now and really feel next to us smiling she made home
This song has just as much meaning to me now than it did 30 years ago. I don't miss my youth. I miss the freedom and ignorance that came with it. There is the obvious "meaning" but if you go layers deeper you can get so much more out of it.
Thank the good Lord more & more people are finally acknowledging these older but; all-time classics they've been missing out on, trully & really do rock! Kind of gives new perspective on things ; doesn't it?!
Thank you so much for making this. I was a twin and this brings comfort to me and the life we had. Limited as it was. Thank You. Stumbling across this song brings me closer to her.
I love this song I hear ALL the time at Walmart when I’m working & I must’ve ask 20 people who sings or the name of it but apparently no1 knew then I found some1 who did & now I can’t get it out my head ❤️ it!
Omg I'm so fucking happy right noooowww! I've been looking for this song forever!! It was my favorite when I was little kid! My day officially made. :'D
This song hurts a lot, yesterday my friend just passed away and upon hearing this reminded me of everything we did together, her smile and her way of being
Strigent Odin I know, right? I didn't start listening to radio until 6th grade, and I don't really at all now. But before then, the only music I knew about was the stuff my parents listened to. 80s, 90s, and yeah 70s stuff. Different types of rock and country. People though I was really messed up when I said I didn't know who Taylor Swift was.
While this song wants my foot to stomp, I am so saddened by it. I did lose my only friend. Not by a broken heart, but by driving with only one headlight. She was over center line on curve when a semi struck her. I listen to the minister as through cemetery trees...peace and love to all who have lost loved ones!!
