An addiction should never be viewed as a bad thing we are all born differently, we all look similar on the outside, what makes us different, is on the inside
I've read her book. She has overcome it, and not talking about guilty anymore she's not justifying what she did. It's just a way for recovery by loving herself and not loathing her every moment.
And food addicts can find their drug of choice anywhere i.e restaurants/grocery stores. Sadly, this addiction is not recognized and is killing people through obesity, health problems and anorexia/bulimia.
These segments are annoying because they never want to have a true conversation about what happened because they want you to buy the book. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
As a recovering Drug Addict, 31 years clean and still going to meetings, I believe all addictions are basically the same. Addictions affect us physically, mentally, and emotionally. There is the obsession the constant thought of reliving the highs, the good times, forgetting the downside, the bad times, and then there is the compulsion to use even when we know to do so will be to our eventual destruction we will do so anyway. After we use there is the downside, the guilt, the shame, and all the promises that we will never do that again until the cycle begins again with the obsession.
@@mariabenjamin8018 I now have 33 years Clean and I have been to SAA meetings - good program. Wife has 3 months more clean time than I do. She always was smarter than me. 53 years so far so good.
That's actually part of the marketing process. The writer has an agent and to promote the book the agent gets them to do an interview circuit much like A performer who has a new album coming out
You have to respect this person. So many are secretive in what they do, but now its much better to talk about our situations / differences, and share them.
I can relate to her story. Even though I never went as far into as she did (because the internet, etc didn't exist at the time), there certainly was a lot of shame & guilt attached to it. And I never thought of myself as being someone that anyone would find attractive enough to do that sort of thing with. I was messed up in the head all thru my 20s and early 30s. :-(
The Braman's - Don't include all men and women into this lol not everyone is that weird....😂 if you have to "get off" every second then yeah ur weird lol.
"What if I could *not* take back my sins, but take back my shame"? uhh... that's pretty dangerous... that's basically how demented psychopaths start... losing the conscience... somehow that doesn't seem like the "solution" to me
What a kind, beautiful and precious person. Erica, we all admire and respect you for being so brave to speak about an important topic so many of us struggle with, but feel to ashamed and rejected to openly talk about. Thank you xxx
There are some disgusting comments by men I saw. Shame on them. This woman is very brave and I admire her for her openness. She is becoming a mature human being, while so many men stay stuck in their unhealthy sexualized mindset.
Because majority of men literally have this addiction and if it were a MAN on stage he’d be looked at as a creep and not a victim of addiction. You’re pathetic
So many negative comments this is fake.. she is using this to rid her guilt...if a man did this its normal. No its not its an addiction like food like gambling like drugs. It was overtaking her and leading her to do things she wouldnt do normally. U guys with the nasty n immature comments. missed the whole pt of this interview
Kim’s Life accountability is a universal concept regardless of gender. The best way for her to deal with her guilt is to own her actions then apologize.
Buy the book buy the book buy the book. That’s what I got. I guess it could be simply raising awareness. I think it glorified her story and probably plenty of women bored with their life would be drawn towards the adventurous aspect of this story.
That women and men who experience this are not alone and that there is hope. She actually helped a lot of people from talking about her story. I haven’t read her book btw, but this alone can help people.
This video is total BS. Let this have been Email sending up telling the same story. We will be shaming him instead of glorifying him. OMG I can imagine the witch hunt
Read her book...maybe it will help you understand. It is not an addiction because she doesn't have to have it and doesn't feel like she has to hide it or feel shameful about it. There IS a difference.
of course making it public will remove the shame of hiding, but there is also a difference between 'dealing with addiction' and 'dealing with the shame'. It is about switching the social norm. There is a norm that believes a marriage bed is between 2 committed couples and there is another which is open to a stranger. It is the a choice of norm. You cant belong to both.
So sad that she didn't think about getting any type of therapy or help for herself. And not being able to trust anybody and tell them about what is happening to her. I just feel so sorry for her for God knows how long she's been hurting and sabotaging her life for this length of time.
Why is everyone in the comments section so judgmental, what’s wrong with a woman talking about a problem she has so that she can help others who are also affected? Way to go Erica
moralityjones Hard for any women to talk about it. These are the consequences after you lose the feelings and exitement. The interest is no longer there and you come down to earth really fast.
Her: "yes I'll marry you" Him: ok.. **goes to work** Her: **bangs every guy in the neighbourhood** Him: "am i a joke to you? “ Her: "i can explain. buy my book."
I was sexually abused for years as a small child. My addiction started at 10 or younger ... It became a huge problem for me for years... And it ruined many relationships.
@@michaelmcmillan1425 thank you for asking me no one asks me this question. To be sincere the trauma isn’t or will ever be gone. for example I have a beautiful body shape I just simply don’t feel as “confident” because men only look at my body? Or sexualize me. Basically i’m just fightin’ my battles. Chosin celibacy over random hookups . Although my ex and are separate still I'm longing for that cuddle. :(
The photos of her as a little girl reveal a very different story. She looks extremely sad and lonely in the photo. What is regarded as normal childhood because it happens to most humans does not mean that it is ideal. Most people don't question their lives at all and their sad circumstances and the detachment between people. Meditation and becoming aware of the problems is the very first step towards mental freedom and wellbeing.
“I sabotaged my relationships.... 🤣.....AKA... once a cheater... ALWAYS A CHEATER 😂....” ... in other news, I am sabotaging my body with McNuggets... buy my book!
It seems to be easier to recover from it with a religious approach. I would guess that she had a stressful home to grow up in which triggered her acting out. Nobody is beyond recovery, redemption and forgiveness for their sins. When Jesus Christ died on the cross did he: 1. Die for some of our sins? 2. Die for most of our sins? 3. Die for all of our sins? Answer is #3.
Its all peachy and creamy with a girl, but a guy would be walked out with armed security and told NOT to come back again until your psy results come in and you have seen Dr. Phill
Erica, I am so proud of your strength and bravery. Thank you for being open about your lifelong addiction. The goodness of your confession is that it applies to any other addiction.
@freetrailer4poor the doctor also said that loaners are usually abused as children. Watch the movie "Kindergarten Cop". The kid actor "Zack" portrays this this role. He most likely would have turned into a drug addict if he was real
Look up what's called, the "three whites" (of the eyes) in English term, but I think there is a Japanese or Chinese name for it, they have a special word. It refers to three sides of the eye as showing the white of the eye ball (usually only two sides show). If it is the lower white eye area showing white, then emotional instability might be at play. If the white space is above the the eyeball, it might be more psychological /a mental instability. But if it's upper and lower, they say that indicates a total instability. Think of Charles Manson and the Colorado Theater shooter. But who knows. This poor dear woman sounds like she is still struggling.
I am so so proud of the lady to speak about this ♥️🙏 it takes so much nerve to be open about this. She's only done this to help others. And I'm so grateful that she's spoken. God bless you ✨
This is why it’s so important to watch what your kids are watching. I had the same thing happen to me but with shock/gore websites. At age 12 i accidentally came across a gore sight and couldn’t stop looking at disturbing pictures since then. She def has ptsd from it, your mind is too young to process what you’re looking at
I don't believe on the part where she said just do it in the rest room. Those thing need to be taught. That's the crucial part she left out. Who taught her to do it?
Grew up with nothing but older brothers. So, you are in a position to look up to them. We did not talk much about it (sexual desire). My brother explained it to me this way, he said, " if you do not get rid of it then it backs up into your brain and causes permanent and irreversible brain damage"
I listened to the whole story...And at the end it basically said being with many people and having threesomes isn't something to be ashamed of it's not wrong...And it should be accepted..That a woman should rather be accepted than shamed for this...
🙏🙏🙏 Im 37 yr old man and i can relate to her in my own experience. I too was exposed at a young age but didn't really have computers or any of that much during my upbringing definitely true what she said started off softly at first and then it leads you on to Harder and HARDER things until theres a set BOUNDARY! For myself it was more books Vhs tapes and dvds that I got a hold of through people and friends during the early stages but it wasnt until the Digital age that we are currently in where the resources are just off the charts 😶 So BRAVE and GENUINE of her opening up about some of her struggles and inspiring others letting them know that they are not alone and everything is Ok because even til now i still currently struggle with some of the same things as her and feel that even though i feel im not affected by it as much but it affects those who worry and care and sees so much potential 💪💪💪 seems so beautiful person Inside and out regardless of any problems whatsoever
so basically in a nutshell she hasn't changed her behavior, she's just stopped feeling guilty about it. Denial is one of the signs of addiction so how does this make her in recovery?????
I've read her book. She has overcome it, and not talking about guilty anymore she's not justifying what she did. It's just a way for recovery by loving herself and not loathing her every moment.
What she's describing is what every young and adult male feels and thinks every moment of every day. Probably one of the few women who can understand the drive of the common male. It's so unfortunate that she felt shame for such a normal and organic feeling.
Addiction is like your gear slipping into neutral and all you hear are howls but you remain where you are, untill you realize your fuel is getting over .
I think the correct term for what drove her to this behavior is "Taboo" not "Shame" If you do something that causes shame, typically you don't keep repeating it over and over.
