Scrap booking is a great way to be able to keep ur photos in one place that's not social media AND be able to look back on it when ever u want🥰 I use to do it all the time as a kid no gotta get back into it!😊 And we love u too!
There's a specific feeling of peace and tranquility when you're off the social media. I remember how I always had a sense of urgency, but there was nothing urgent going on - I was just stuck in a constant loop of a need to be connected for some reason. I guess that it's a subconscious fear of missing out on something, but usually the paradox is that the more you are on social media, the more you miss out from real life.
i love this comment so much! it's so true, and you don't really notice how big of an impact it can have on you until you're off for some time. It definitely is a lovely feeling when you're not constantly on edge all the time:)
@@dzibrillsecerovic i do have WhatsApp to connect with my parents and a few close friends. And i use youtube too. But it depends on how you use it. I use it to play background music while i work and study, and watch videos like Michelle's and other educational videos like TedEd's. But really, if you open RU-vid and keep on scrolling down the shorts, now that's a problem. Must be mindful of what you're using social media for.
Yeah, but it also comes down to how you use it. You can use Reddit, instagram or Twitter like that as well, albeit I think it would be harder especially with the latter two because they focus on the short form content so much, while YT has long form content as well.
tiktok is great if you use it only as a search engine. i logged out of my account and just use the desktop version as a guest to search for specific things (like food recipes, places to see while traveling, etc.)
It’s an open forum for videos in long form format which is very different than how other social medias were. RU-vid will always be about long form videos because that’s what it was for. And the forum is rating a video and the comment section.
I once heard “Our minds are not prepared to receive all this amount of news” scene that time I knew that I’m not a social media person, the amount of peace I felt after deleting all my accounts is undescribed!!❤️
RU-vid is not the same as TikTok. RU-vid is way more like "TV" were videos are long and sincere, not just scroll content. I reflect all day of some videos I see on RU-vid. TikTok is just a digital drug.
And in a very curious way, youtube shorts seems to be somehow poorly made. Their algorithm is not as engaging and satisfying as instagram reels or tiktok's algorithm. This makes it, even having a scrolling section and fast content, boring and not as enjoyable to use as long videos and content that requires more attention.
I've deactivated my social media back in December of 2021 and the amount of peace, being more present, and not comparing myself to anyone anymore is very freeing!
I was an extremely online person until a year and a half ago when I quit social media cold turkey (other than RU-vid). It’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. It’s so freeing knowing that no one knows where you are or what you’re doing or who you’re with. You stop doing things to impress others and start doing things to impress yourself. And you have SO much time! I used to feel like I didn’t have enough time to do anything, but now I have hours every day where I can just do whatever I want because I’m not sucked into the internet. Highly recommend.
I feel the exact same. This whole year I have been obsessed with posting EVERYTHING to my story and over sharing and recently I just decided that it was too much and so I deleted everything except RU-vid. It’s so much nicer just being the only one knowing what’s going on with me, it’s soo much less stressful and I really love feeling more free.
I've been off social media besides RU-vid for 3+ months and won't look back. No point following peoples lives who I don't really know or care about. Less drama!
Honestly wish I could do this but it'll be so difficult. Everyone around me is constantly on their phone, and I go through phases of not wanting to watch movies or shows, also I find it difficult to read in public spaces at times so I constantly wonder what I'd do with myself (my hands to be more specific) if I couldn't use my phone when I'm out? I see myself getting addicted to mobile games which I know I'm prone to and it isn't any better so honestly don't know if it's sth realistic for me
I quit instagram way back in 2019. Like you said, it hasn't been easy to navigate life without social media especially in my 20s. But the mental clarity and the genuine love and support you receive from people who understand you for who you are is truly unmatched. All of this makes quitting social media totally worth it!!
yes! i agree with you 100%, it's so nice finding people who understand and appreciate the choices you make for the betterment of yourself:) all the best to youu
i've started printing out my camera roll photos just for safe-keeping, like my parents did back in the day when i was growing up. also i recommend using film cameras, even if it is just a basic disposable one-- it makes choosing what I take a photo of more thoughtful
I’ve only been officially off social media (instagram and twitter) for 3 months, but I can tell you for a fact that I resonated w everything that you said in this video. I was definitely someone who would spend A LOT of time lurking and just being in other people’s business, and that’s the main reason why I left. I don’t want to be that person anymore. Once you delete social media, you definitely gain a new perspective in life, and I love that. So much more presence, meaningful connections and conversations, genuine friendships, and finding new passions and hobbies. Thank you for this update, Michelle!
of course girl🥰 congrats on your 3 months, i am so proud of you❤️ and im so happy to hear you're experiencing the positives already:) wishing you all the best on your journey!!
This is so true and that is why I’m deleting it off my phone for one whole year and never installing instagram ever again. Big time waster and the comparison thing is no joke, it’s like the main reason why people are leaving social media more than ever
I loved my four month break from socials and I was able to connect with my faith, I graduated with a degree, I started smiling to people and humble self down, I did everything I told myself I would while I was on socials 🙏🏻
Yup. Sometimes I want to share my life now on social media but I realize the only reason I have a life worth sharing is because I don’t spend time wasting away on social media
It’s been 18 months since I left social media. I have absolutely no regrets at all. I got sick of people gossiping, drama, negativity & people faking their lives & friendships and sharing everything that should be private. A number of things I realised: 1. People who added me as “Friends” didn’t really care about me. They were “So called Friends” 2. When I was going through my hardest times, including anxiety, trauma and stress, Nobody was there for me or reached out to me. 3. Certain posts or videos get blown out of proportion or completely taken out of context even if it’s nothing negative. 4. People lie about the amount of friends they REALLY have. 5. Communication was very one sided. The same person had to make the first move, as the other person doesn’t make an effort themselves. 6. People lie about their lives 7. It makes people fake and insecure. 8. People feel you have to compare yourself to others. 9. Social media has increased loneliness, isolation. Anxiety and depression which can be severe. 10. Having a proper conversation or being real is considered not normal and people think it’s creepy 11. It’s made people to be narcissists & self entitlement & ignorant. 12. Social media was supposed to bring people together, but it’s more negative than a positive and it’s destroying peoples lives I never had TikTok, Twitter or Instagram. Glad I didn’t sign up to any of them. I only use RU-vid as I can look at interesting things like cooking recipes and motivation videos and music videos of festivals & concerts and more fun stuff. I enjoy going out in nature, going for walks, bowling listening to music and learning new hobbies. Since leaving it’s been the best decision of my life. I enjoy life more, I enjoy doing the things I do without being judged. I feel more happier.
Trust me man you hit it on the head with this comment. Especially with the comparisons that people be making with each others lives which causes depression. Trust me you are not missing out and I’m deleting it off my phone for a year and never installing instagram ever again. People act like life never existed before social media and that’s the scary part to me
@@jaysouthmusic8230. It’s really sad. I think the scary part is that if social media carries on taking over our lives permanently in a negative way, then life is going to become artificial where nothing is real in person or anywhere else in reality. The other scary part of social media is that, there is no sense of a community, unity and love. It’s all hate and negativity. It’s so depressing. Good luck with quitting instagram, if you do have any other social media platforms, maybe consider getting rid of them. Stay strong and most importantly, focus on yourself. All the best.
@@dj_bubbs-TXQ you are so right with every point you just said. That is why I deleted instagram off my phone because of the exact reasons you just said. I'm getting more things done ever since i got it off my phone and I feel so much better mentally and physically but it is sad that as a society that it's heading in that direction
The fake friends part is so true! When I had a suicide attempt I told some friends to let them know what was going on and why I was so absent and they barley talked to me! But when one of the “friend’s” brother died, she was upset that people weren’t reaching out and checking up on her as much as she expected. Mind you her friend checked up on her way more than she herself checked up on me! Then a year later another “friend” wanted to talk to me about how she was suicidal like she expected me to be there for her. So selfish and fake!
If you try to fit in with the crowd you’ll only feel more lonely than you did when you wondered what it would be like. Trust me, being a rebellious lone wolf amongst a herd of mindless sheep is the way to live
Great video. I didn't quit social media myself, but I've managed to drop my screentime from a 6 hour daily average down to 1-2 hours per day. My attention span improved, my anxiety lessened, and my conversation skills got better because now I'm able to be more present. If you have the time I recommend you read the book Stolen Focus! It's what pushed me to be more mindful about how I spend my time online.
You’re not crazy for stalking your crush. If the information is out there, is it realllyyy stalking? Lmao. I hope that one day Gen Z backs off of social media. I feel like it could happen because we prioritize mental health more than previous generations. I also hope that we don’t let electronics raise our kids either. I recently deactivated my main ig and deleted tiktok. I still have my back up Instagram, but I treat that one like Pinterest, and only follow people I don’t know, but are inspiring. I am a RU-vid Cracky tho, my God 😭
LMAO thank you for validating me😭 And yes! Im hoping the same, im definitely seeing a movement amongst gen z's to cut down on their social media consumption though, and i love that for us
RU-vid was so much better without yt shorts like i came off most other social media’s like IG and Tiktok to escape those addictive shorts and reels only for it to spread into RU-vid 😭😭😭😭 I tell myself I’ll take a 5 minute break and I end up watching 58 shorts
*Social media* has shifted more toward an entertainment focus to keep people on their platforms, and I think that’s why people try to lump RU-vid in with them.
I've been of social media for almost 3 years now and I feel the exact same way as you. For me personally, it was after the 1 year mark when the cons really started to settle in. I think I am overall happier and a better person without it, but there were times I definitely suffered from feelings of loneliness/isolation. I also have some moments where I regret it all and have almost a "what have I done" mindset towards it, but then remember that I am much healthier without it. It just sucks because social media is so popular, so its hard to find people that understand us. I think if it weren't such a large part of peoples lives, it would be easier to transition off of it. Thank you for sharing :) hopefully it will inspire more people to delete
i'm going to start social media detox this week and this honestly gives me the push that i need. i've been sad these days and i wonder if social media plays the part of it.
im so sorry youve been feeling that way:( I hope you feel better soon! i definitely noticed a difference in my mood when i was off, but just be patient with yourself:) wishing you all the best!
Same! I am on my Instagram detox which is the only social media app I use except RU-vid and you know RU-vid is not addictive and it at least teaches you something if you use it right. Watching this video during my detox made me feel more motivated and confident about my decision!
hi, michelle! ive actually tried making a new acc with only my closest friends in it. at first it felt nice but then ive recently find out that it triggers my FOMO really bad to the point that it gives me anxiety. seeing posts from my friends of how genuinely happy they are, their achievements, and where they are at the moment makes me compare them to my life and how the only thing that is constant in mine is me being in spiral. i do feel genuinely happy for them tho but i cant keep myself from comparing. so I am taking a break again and instead of seeing their achievements through their posts, i reach out to catch up. and it feels a lot way nicer and more intentional. i get to hear stories and every bit of its details which lets me feel their trust. and especially, i feel the sincerity behind it. i appreciate it so much because i feel the intensity of how they want me involved in their lives as much as i want to be involved.
im recently having the same crisis right now. i think i care about my friends' life so much that i tend to get jealous with theirs, questioning myself why im not as happy as them, what am i doing wrong. and now im also off social media to get a hold of myself more. youre right, its great to catch up with them personally it really makes us feel involved.
The funny part about it is, everyone's in a spiral lol. Even your friends showing their highlights know that Instagram is like a photo album. And who frowns in photos? No one. Now your friends may actually have more highlights than you but I guarantee they accomplished them by staying off social media long enough to get it done. That's the other part they don't tell you. A lot of the most popular people online are online a lot less than you think.
I also did this and to solve this problem, I didn't add my friends on my new account but instead just add my own account to our group chat. That way I can still talk to them without seeing their posts. I don't think they actually care that way because they didn't really reach out to me or add me after I add my new account and remove my old account to our group chat.
"people don't care about you" this is so true, we get anxious when it doesn't matter in the end, I don't leave social media, but I haven't used it often in years, on the one hand it's bad, after all when everything is connected, being out of the news used to generate a feeling of "I'm out of it, I don't feel included", but, in time, the good people and the important things will come to you, comparing yourself to someone can be good in some level, like, to improve, to be better, but, when overtaking becomes a big problem, people in twitter spend hours fighting, and I just think "bro, it is worth it?" In some moment, it starts to get to you, even if you think not, affect your mindset, privacy, everything in excess is bad, and lately measuring this dosage is very difficult, dealing with innovation is a tough journey, but for your own good, it's worth it, I think I still have issues, but understanding and focusing on improving this now is something that will help you tomorrow, next week, and 5 years from now, learn to deal with, your way, and don't become a hostage to something that can help you, I don't watch these conversation videos a lot, you are very nice and kind, your channel appear in my recommendations, I'm happy, I liked your style, thank you for the video!!:))
Two things: 1. RU-vid is social media, but getting rid of any major social media is an amazing thing and your first video actually helped me so much. After I watched it, everything finally just clicked for me and I got rid of Instagram for good. A lot of it was through prayer too. 2. I actually became so much more free, authentic, and built deeper friendships after getting rid of social media. A lot of it was due to my faith journey, but social media was a chain holding me down for sure. So I’m surprised you said you’re more closed off.
Oh my goodness🥹 I feel the same way as well!! I am currently on my faith journey as well and quite frankly.. I don’t think social media will make my journey any better
The akward silence when a guy ask for your socials and you tell them you don’t have any. 😅 I find it weird when a guy rather stalk your socials to get to know you instead of just asking for your number to get to know you. How times have changed…
Not having an outlet for photos is a big one for me. Now that I don't have social media, I just print my favorites for wall decor or sending them in certain group chats.
@@saa___br I would by a safe for your phone and have someone u trust lock it up for u , but trust me you’ll be able to find yourself and block out the negativity of the world you won’t regret it🙏🏽
i quit social media 3-4 years ago and it’s the best decision I ever made. I used to feel so hyper aware of everything I was doing and like I couldn’t ever have a moment of my own because I had a compulsive urge to document it into bite size pieces for everyone to consume. And I overthought relationships and experienced major FOMO, which never allowed me to see the bright sides of my own life. I will never go back! Everyone always tells me they’re jealous and they wish they could do the same, but anyone can do it! You just have to commit.
26.9.23 I feel like commenting, but about a week ago I deleted tik tok, I have used it since 2018-19 and spent a lot of my teenage years on it ext. Anyways I did keep snapchat since thats the only way i can socialise with friends but other than that, the rest are gone. Maybe if somebody likes this comment in a year, ill edit this and update people on my 'journey' . Anyway Hey future me !
i wish i could do the same. no matter how much one tries to use socials positively, they end up comparing themselves with strangers, friends and family. at least i do. despite knowing how irrational that is. there's this constant urge to share the slightest bit of happy moments to show others. i kinda hate how it is impossible sometimes to be off social media when you have based your living on it (coming from someone who wants to be an illustrator and a full-time artist, i gotta build an audience but it's draining my mental and creative energy)
Even tho all of the cmnts here r soo relatable urs was the most becoz that is exactly what i m struggling with. I wanna start an insta acc for art/writing but the constant presence of one on there to ensure u r posting enough nd all that is just sooo tiring ( i m just thinking it nd feeling drained). Nd then the fear of being judged also lurks. Anyways i do hope we find a way round it esp like u said being an artist it has double toll on us by draining our creative energy 🥲😫
I deactivated my tiktok and Instagram nearly a month ago. I know it’s such a short time but now that I have a better understanding on what to do with my time I feel so much happier. I find myself reading some more, I’m picking up some hobbies, I’ve been running on my treadmill, and I notice I’m more focused and social at my work too!
You are right GIRL. I got the social dilemma documentary and watched it a month ago. All issues mentioned in the documentary are how social media is ruining our lives, and how the platforms are designed to be addictive and disturbing us. Literally, social media made us unsocial instead of connecting us. Watching that movie was the turning point for me to start digital minimalism and in some cases complete social media detox. So many things happened after my decision to quit Facebook, TikTok, and the like. I got more time to spend on something really important, reading books, focusing on only truly matter kinds of stuff and no more comparison of myself with the filtered lives of people on social media. Before, I used to spend tremendous hours of my life on TikTok and Facebook daily and missing important activities in my life. Then procrastination brought in and it was so annoying and I ask myself, what the heck I was doing? Then, after a little relief, I was doing the same thing and it was just unhealthy use of the platforms and costed me a lot. Now, the story is quite different, I started to focus on only important things and got rid of these addictive and destructive platforms. For everybody reading my comment, I am not good at English if you may find it a bit sloppy I apologize for that. Love you all!!!!
today marks 1 month off of instagram! Time has gone INCREDIBLY slowly ever since I’ve been off. It’s honestly astounding. I was going through it mentally more than ever when I first deleted it, but now I’m really at peace
Going into 2024 with no social media. I was tired of being in the loop and finding my self miserable comparing myself with others. I’m currently 1 week with out social media and I’m looking forward to not being on social media for months and hopefully years!
Hey girl I’m so glad I found your channel I’m a 26 year old female & I have been off social media for 5 years now & everything you are saying is so relatable & by the way your really pretty 🥰
It is my 3rd day of social media and I already feel refreshed. Social media was just negative, especially Insta. I would see random videos that had such negative comments, and they were so addicting to read. I hated all of my “friends” constantly bashing and posting negative things. I feel much better and I am definitely gonna try staying out as long as possible
I'm 19, I no longer have insta, I've never had tiktok and I don't have snap either. It's been this way for almost a year now and I don't plan on having any social media anytime soon. It's been great. It is difficult at first but it's so worth it. So many benefits and once you're offline, you realize and notice all if the toxicity that came with those apps and whatnot.
I honestly rarely even post on social media anymore. For me it's the waste of time just consuming everything, the random videos, and so much negativity.
I used to take long breaks, then I started taking short breaks, then that helped the transition into finally gaining the ability to truly moderate myself, my emotions, and what i let my senses consume
honestly, seeing every aspect of someone's life on instagram lowering my respect for them. thats the actual reason why i stopped using it. you meet someone cool irl, but when you start digging on their social media account, all the magic is gone. now they're like anyone else.
I appreciate your content so much and i feel very safe here. As a 14yr old i feel like im too hooked up on social medias. Like i dont even enjoy instagram but i just stay there for thr dopamine. Sacrificing everything is hard as well since,besides my mind my friends or classmates literally shame me for not being caught up on this trend,this anime or being "too outdated". That is also one of the reasons why i stay or else id feel like i dont fit in. But at this point with increasing addiction and negative emotions,i just seek peace and ill make all necessarry sacrifices for it. Long term effects is what ill achieve,trends will be forgotten anyway. RU-vid is also a problem being a major consumer but im trying to replace it with reading but that is not working lol :'). But in anyway,ill try my best to get rid of distractions of such sort. And once again,thank you for creating a community like this 💗
OH MY GOODNESS. The one about romantic relationships? I agree completely. After deleting social media my desire for a romantic relationship didn't necessarily go down per se. But the feeling that I was incomplete without someone or this empty feeling I had because I didn't have someone DID go away. I was so so so close to dating one of my guy friends, I basically had myself in a situationship, and then three months after deleting social media I realized that I didn't want to have that type of relationship with him and that I wasn't mature enough for it anyway. It's crazy how much social media can affect how we think and feel and we don't even notice it. Deleting social media was one of the greatest decisions I've made in the past year. If you're worried about being bored or not having friends so you won't know what to do at school or maybe even just looking weird because you're not always on your phone. Just don't worry about it. I worried about that too. But I can tell you that you find ways and you get over it. I didn't even have a phone in grade nine and I was fine. Not having social media? That will be a piece of cake for you. You can do it, I believe in you and it is totally worth it. Trust me.
This is exactly my experience quitting social media. I quit it in 2021. for 6 months and then went back just to realize what I had missed which was nothing. But I got kinda addicted again and now I've been off Instagram for 2 months, and greatly reduced the use of Facebook and Twitter to a point where I almost don't use them anymore. I still go on Reddit sometimes and on Tumblr, and RU-vid is my weakness of course except I also agree with you that it's not really social media. Everything you said I relate to 100% and I do believe social media is just a normalized addiction like alcohol or like smoking cigarettes used to be. The best thing you can do for your mental health and generally your life is to avoid it or limit it greatly. Amazing video!!
i've been off of social media for a long time too but i've started using it recently again i totally agree with every point that you share . the only best way to use social media is to have self control knowing when to stop and controlling yourself from being active 24/7 . this way you can express your self too , take inspiration too, share your good things too but at the same time you'll know when to take a break and maintain your peace of mind !!!
14:54 i've been out of social media just for like three weeks and i came back to instagram cause i had something important to check, and just like she said, literally the moment i went back, something triggered me, so i'm not going back for a long time i hope yeah, sometimes i feel like im invisible now and i'm missing out EVERYTHING but in the first place, why did we made social media our social life (or at least me) i'm happy i'm not there anymore, sometimes i'm super calmed and not anxious at all like i used to be
2:56 this is why I still use snapchat. 1. so I can share pictures with my sister (which I could do over text, but snapchat is more of a look at it once thingy and I prefer that cuz I know she won't look at it twice so why waste her phone storage) 2. snapchat is like a photo gallery but from years. like, if i get a new phone i loose all my pics in my photo gallery but not the ones saved on snap cuz they are bound to the account.
Apenas desculpas, suas fotos podem ser salvas na nuvem e colocar os anos, compartilhar por mensagem é mais prático e reservado, no caso você só quer ter o aplicativo e usa esses argumentos como desculpas.
@@apenasIza I apologise, I do not speak Spanish and google translate is doing a bad job at making logical sentences. So I don't really know what you're saying, sorry :)
i agree with everything you said in this video. I'm still in high school but my summer break is coming up and I'm definitely going to delete instagram and tiktok for the whole 2 months and pick up a book and try out new things and see what I'm interested in. I'm ready to be confident in myself and actually able to answer the infamous "so tell me something about your self" lol.
Two weeks ago i felt like quitting social media would allow me to focus on my life and my relationship with God, because I've continously deleted the app and went on hiatus for a couple of weeks only to go back into the loop when i come back. But today i realized thats its downright a serious problem for me that i would regard it as an addiction. So instead of deleting the app, I've deleted my account. And, im not even joking, i go on RU-vid shortly after and this is the first video that popped up. I asked God for help and he led me to this small community, and im glad 🙏.
I feel like taking long breaks from social media is amazing for mental and emotional health. When I did a cleanse I started to see just how much social media negatively affected me esp my perception of myself and where I was in life. I can agree that in the beginning it’s not easy though 😭
Impressive 1 year milestone Michelle :D I think I’m fine when it comes to consuming social media, I’m sooo thankful I never got into TikTok 😆😆 I use Snapchat but mostly for myself, I like to take pictures on a daily basis. Also I really like memories function, I love being reminded what exactly I did on a certain day 😄 plus I can always share those pictures with my close friends if I want to ^^
I’ve deleted my socials too but having an outlet for pictures is really important for me. So the only “social media” i post my scenery photos is on Pinterest because it really doesn’t even feel like social media to me and its like a digital form of scrapbooking
I quit in 2019 , but recently got back into it but barely even open the app. because I truly felt you on the part like yes I miss missing out on trending topics and etc. also getting support from people you don’t even know in person but built a relationship with online for years means a lot more than some of the relationships in person. social media has it good sides because in my opinion it’s way easier to find people with the same interest in stuff as you and then you can just create this friend group who all relate.
Girl, RU-vid is fine. You wouldn’t ever find edifying content such as this on Instagram or Tiktok. The only downside is perhaps RU-vid Shorts, but it’s not nearly as bad as other social media. I get what you mean by the triggers, I’ve been off social media for 4 months now and on some instances I’ve had to use Facebook mainly to look up some things on the marketplace. But just seeing a few posts made me sick to my stomach, which made me remember why I quit in the first place. I can totally relate to the downsides, but overall I think the pros are far better and preferable over the cons. Of course 1 year off is a much broader experience than 4 months, but I can already relate to so much of what you are saying. Keep going strong, I wish you the best, this kind of videos make my day. Cheers :)
The friends-only account didn’t work for me because I was still bombarded with advertisements and suggested posts! Which is really my biggest issue with social media. I don’t really get fomo from seeing friends’ posts, but the ads and suggested posts are really agitating and a time suck. So for me, that type of set up didn’t work out.
i wanted to delete social media too (i only used whatsapp n insta) after graduation bc i knew id only compare myself to the others who were off to uni while i wasnt. thats when i first saw your vid, thou i didnt end up deleting them. instead i stopped posting entirely and removed everybody except my close friends. must say its been great like that, and i use social media significantly less now (only to chat w friends). its just like you said "out of sight out of mind". since i removed everybody i dont knw what theyre up to n vice verse, theres no comparison nor is there an urge to "perform" just pure peace. that said, i use tiktok a lot lol, thou mainly to keep up w interests like books, anime n kpop so ig it isnt tht bad. p.s if you find a balance pls do share bc i also get urges so share pretty pictures/outfits from time to time but dont want to trigger myself w posting.
i deleted my ‘public’ social accounts for about a year but i kept an account to my own!! i was posting stories and like creating myself a profile but i was the only one watching it; it fueled my creativity a lot. also i could follow the news of my favorite celebrity and artists that inspired me. it felt really freeing. nobody could reach me, it was these convo like splitting up everywhere from all different social media (if that makes sense) also i want to say, i’m back on social media with an account that my friends follow where i post casually BUT THIS IS NOT A FAIL !! like if you do this challenge and in the end decide to comeback on social media, it’s totally okay and good! the aim is to find what works for you
Honestly I’ve been off social media for about 2-ish years and honestly it’s a good feeling, it’s like the people who I want to have a connection with will reach out, the ones who don’t, won’t and it shows who really is there for you. I only use RU-vid and Pinterest really 😂😂
i haven’t been necessarily off social media like instagram i would say, but i rarely post & my account is private with my very very close friends and people i talk to almost everyday + family which is under 50. & i only follow a few artists i listen to so i only consume things i want. I think having that balance for me has been super life changing and deleting everyone that were mutuals from other followers or people i rarely knew. I feel more at peace with the fact only people i want know what i’m up to in life because i still want to have that connection with them since we’re all growing up but we still have those memories from high school to share. & i only consume what i choose to see on my feed and instagram stories by choosing who i follow and not following people just cuz this person does. sometimes it can get unhealthy from scrolling too long but that’s when i have to realize to snap back into reality and that social media is “ fake”. and i say fake as in people choose what they want you to see
One thing I really hate about social media is that how it became a way of communicating to everybody like there’s no more other options but these platforms these days and of course, especially those people you don't actually really know in real life and never had hang-out with them. I just missed the old days that we’re just asking and keep the phone numbers of people who we truly love and value and be able to call and text with them and already contented. (Yk what i mean..?) But overall, I think the best part of our lives is to treasure those people who are really important to us and to stay connected with them without needing of using social media. ❤
Yesterday I logged out of Instagram and later the evening also out of TikTok. I feel like constantly looking at other peoples lives doesn’t make me happy, so for now I will try to only use it if I really have to :) and also using this time to focus more on myself and doing the things that are important to me 💗
i deleted instagram and twitter for 2+ months late last year, got them back and set a 25 minute/day limit for them to stay connected, and felt the weight in my chest every time i opened the apps. plus i still had tiktok (but i used the not interested button a LOT so my fyp was largely synonymous with cats, activism, inspiration, and poetry). i decided to delete all three for good about a month ago and its been nice. i still use tumblr and pinterest because to me theyre no where near as fast and overstimulating as insta, twt, and tiktok, and i still get inspired. so i think thats advice i want to lend to you because of what you said about needing inspiration! use pinterest and tumblr because although they are social media, i feel like they operate really differently and its really easy to find lovely people to follow!
i've deactivated my main and essentially made a new account to follow traditional artist, close friends and siblings that I want to keep up with. Like you said you dont want to miss the tiny milestones happening in family or friends lives. I found it way easier to manage my time this way. Theres no endless scrolling when you minimize the ppl you follow. Give it a try.
I can agree with this and RU-vid is better as far as you don’t have to worry about comparing your life to someone else’s because RU-vid is more so for entertainment than anything else
I dont use facebook much, other than to find competirons and events to add to extracuricculars, or to create private albums to store photos (started that cuz my phone was hacked and i lost everything 🙃)
Honestly I don’t feel like RU-vid is social media. The other apps are completely different, you scroll aimlessly for hours consuming pointless content that only over stimulates you and gives you little dopamine hits as well as constant comparison 😅 RU-vid on the other hand has loads of valuable content and also doesn’t mess up our attention spans like the other apps. It’s not like seeing never ending stories of every moment of peoples lives throughout the day and gaining nothing from it?
I am someone who regularly takes extended breaks from social media and i won’t lie it’s hard but the peace you feel when you’re not trying to satisfy someone else idea of your life … Social media is poisonous i dont like it but im also 17 and feel left out without it
Omg I relate to the part where you talked about being an artists on/ off socials. Before I got so addicted to social media I found it pretty easy to create art and come up with ideas myself, but since being on social media for so long, specifically on TikTok in more recent years, I find that I depend a lot on finding inspiration from artists online, probably because there is just so much content being produced online and I've consumed sm atp that in a way I rely on it and now I struggle a little with creating more of my own unique work. So I'm trying to stay off social media at the moment (for the most part), so that I come up with my own ideas etc without relying on social media and also to stop comparing myself to people online, it's tough but it feels refreshing being off social media/ finding a healthy balance !
As a photographer, I completely get the not being able to share your photos that you have taken thing. It’s hard because you want to show the world but you don’t want to get sucked back into this app. Maybe for now, I’ll just upload them from the desktop that I rarely use or just download the app and post the photo then delete it again. Idk. Struggles lol Edit: you know what crazy is that is what Instagram used to be before they changed up the app and made it super addictive. Second edit: I love not referring to a social media profile when a girl asks for it from me. Like you said in the video, you would cyber stalk them. I swear every time I would give a girl my Instagram profile, they would ghost me. Idk if it’s because the didn’t like who I portrayed myself to be but honestly it felt like the mystery of meeting people is just gone. They knew exactly who I was and everything about me in an instant, so why would they waste their time meeting me? It was almost like they skipped the entire process of getting to know me and just said “next” on me. It was so frustrating. Now, sometimes they think I’m weird for not having one and I just see that as a red flag so I can avoid them as well lol
For the photo outlet Day One is a good alternative! I use it as a means of documenting both small and eventful days, kind of like a visual journal. It’s nice to look back on moments I enjoyed without feeling like it’s a performance for the benefit of other people. Another option could be to create a dedicated folder to save selected photos. Anyways great video! Good luck to everyone exploring their relationship with social media!!
Your point about being less anxious about Romantic Relationships is so true!! I have quit most of social media platforms and I too notice that I was never really interested in them….I JUST HAD A LOADS OF INFORMATION ABOUT THEM!
I do think that RU-vid is different for most people in a sense that it’s not meant to be social but relatively more information and entertainment based? I dunno, i can only speak for myself but I have a very different relationship with RU-vid than with Instagram, for example. I feel like I have more agency in what I see and not a lot of people I know personally are on RU-vid. I appreciated this very detailed video of your experience! I just started the same journey myself ❤
Just deleted everything even WhatsApp I kept RU-vid and phone calls . Social media is taking our life’s we are not achieving or living because of it . I hate it
I got off Fb 2 years ago Ig 6 months ago Never did Twitter and Snapchat Tiktok stupid I got RU-vid I do miss talking to some ppl and showing my life at times But no one really gives a shit anyways And the cons outweighs the pros
