All of which are extremely harmful to your kid and how they grow up. A good, calm, and graceful parent makes a child like so. It’s not wrong to inflict punishment but if grounding is ever an option it should be extremely sparse, maybe one or twice the kids whole life and when the grounding is done, it’s done. However it’s always better to raise kids who communicate with words rather than anger and emotions.
Yeah one day , one of my class mates he is a boy didn't did good on test so teacher gave him punishment sheet to write all the questions 3 times , he was writing but them bell rang he said I have to go Mam because my siblings will go with me and parents will get angry because they will think I go out in market or etc Then I was so sad that his parents are so strict bout him going anywhere but.... My teacher said so be good child and do things so they trust you not to be like this ugh go now
I couldn't agree more. Watching these make me grateful that my parents never did this to me.because half of these kids when they get older, are moving out and probably never visiting their parents!
I don't think they are afraid of us or don't trust us they just don't trust the people around us cause if anything were to happen to us those people will cry for a while and get through us but not our parents. The pain of losing a child or seeing them suffer will be ingraved to their souls. But I agree sometimes they take stuff too far😒
Yeah my parents are the nicest and they let me do everything. I've never done anything bad, my brother neiter. But the kids I know have strict parents do drugs, alcohol, cause trouble and even commit minor crimes.
you also need to allow your child to make some mistakes when they're still a child, so that when they're in these situations as adults they have prior experience and can handle things apropriately
When I turned 10 years old my parents made the decision to remove my bedroom door and put a security camera in the halls because they thought I would be the "difficult child" even though my older brother was the one literally doing drugs in the basement. Up until I moved out I had no door, no phone, friends couldn't come over, and food restrictions. (After 5pm they put locks and alarms on every door except the bathroom.) And if I was going outside I had to cover my entire body. Even in summer, long sleeve shirts, sweatpants, hoodie the whole lot because I was "provoking the poor neighborhood boys." I never noticed how much it effected me until my roommate pointed it out to me.
@Patchwork Crafts oh yeah same. It took me so long to eat anything at a normal pace because I had to constantly be monitored by my parents. If I ate too fast is be called a slob. If I ate too slowly I was wasting time. I can't eat at restaurants without finishing my food in eight minutes because that's all the time I had as a kid. As I got into the teen years I ate less but my sibling would eat everything and blame it on me because my body is bigger than theirs.
all fun and games until they block the ability to use incognito and clearing the search history on mobile. it’s the forced family sharing shit that apple has.
i also delete messages and don't go on my phone late bc itll show and they'll get mad at me for staying up, they haven't put parental controls on my new phone yet but its gonna happen soon:)
This is going past strict. This is something child services needs to know. Children have a right to privacy. If you take that away it makes the child feel they are not trustworthy which affects them mentally. Also, the relationship b/w a child and a parent. How can you ask your kid to talk to you when you don't even trust them? Trust goes both ways. They're a person too.
Yeah it just hurts to get said "I don't trust you" right infront of you by your own parents. The whole being strict and toxic thing revolves around the "You need privacy only if you got something bad to hide" and sometimes it's not even that, kids w/ strict parents just don't wanna displease their parents.
u literally have all of my respect, I agree with this so much, I live with with my great grandparents and they never once realized that i deserve to be treated with respect to, they won’t give me any privacy at all, and I’ve tried so much to let them realize that I am a person to, but they have never understood, thank u for standing up for all the people with parents like this, I hope u have a good day :)
I agree with most of your statement but some kids don't deserve full privacy b/c they get into God knows what. They don't earn complete and total privacy until adluthood.
Teenagers have proven to be irresposible on social media AND gullible...thus EASY targets for predators. Especially young girls. One teen boy committed suicide after nude photos he sent to a "friend" were used to blackmail him for money. He never told his parents...just took his own life. One girl who also shared nude photos was blackmailed by a man and trafficked for sexual favors while still living under her parents roof. She told no one because of the shame........THIS IS WHY......parents cut screen time and monitor cell phones. It's not the kid we dont trust..... it's PREDATORS who prey on a child's youth and naivity. The droves of young girls snatched up into sex trafficking by men posing as teens, they met on social media is STAGGERING.....when you realize your kidnapped.... you'll WISH you listened to your parents. And THEY will be the very ones looking for you until they die...... NOT your stupid friends!🤨 Most parents are just trying to protect you.
@@markita.hardenhome I’m talking about the parents who complain their kids are always on social media yet they’re on social media just as much as them. I get what you’re saying but what about the parents don’t teach their children about online dangers? They don’t teach them about it and take it away, we live in an age where technology is the only way. No matter how hard you try technology will always be there? Teach them to be responsible, teach them the dangers of online predators ect.
@@markita.hardenhome the other half of parents aren’t trying to protect their children, they’re trying to control them. (That’s the type parents I’m talking about
I get this. I used to have strict parents as well. I was 8 when it all started. My parents had a favorite child. Amber, my little sis. I would always have to do what Amber wanted. Otherwise, I'd get abused and I would be locked in my room for 2 hours. Even for my birthday they never cared. They just said, "Happy Birthday, whatever." But for my little sister they would say, "HAPPY BIRTHDAY, AMBER! OHH MY SWEET LITTLE ANGEL!" It would ALWAYS be unbalanced. They even put cameras in my room. Cause they "didn't trust me." Amber got a phone WITH a sim card. When she was only like 6. But I had to wait til' I was like idk 10 to get a phone. But not even with a sim card. Just a phone. And when I was 12... I BEGGED if I could get a sim card, for once they said yes. When I turned 14, my days didn't change. It was the same abusive, strict, toxic parents. So, one day, when my family went out with my sister... I decided that was the day I would run away. First, I took off all the cameras and faced them in a position they couldn't see me. Next, I packed everything, all my needs. After that, I made sure everything was good and I also took my dog with me for protection. Since they said they were coming back at like 12:00 I decided to quickly get some food and dog food for us both. It was like 7:00. I left at 7:40 something. I made sure I had EVERYTHING! And once I took a VERY good look around the house. I left. I was scared because I didn't know where to live. But I remembered that there was a motel a few blocks away, so, I went there. Since I was a teenager, I didn't have to pay. The lady at the front desk was really nice, I told her about everything, she felt bad for me, so she gave me $35. I said, "Thank you!" Cause I was really happy! I am now 22. I lived in a motel for about 2 years, before I had enough money to move to an apartment. (Since I worked at a coffee shop.) I am now living in Switzerland! It is a beautiful place... especially in Christmas! (It was where I was born.) I felt happy to be back to my home again! I want to let people know that you can always beat something! One way or another! 💖 (P.S Lena (my dog) is now 24 years old! We did have breaks from time to time!) Love ya!
I know it wasen't like risistable but still you shouldn't have ran away if you did can you tell if you ever went back to apologize to your parents? look sis I know running away was your only chance but If you would have stayed you would have tought them they were wrong then they would have understood what they did to you and feel guilty if not all of that just come back to them and say sorry and make them realize there mistake Sister forgive everybody be as strong as metal never give up still I don't say your action was wrong it "Could have been better" If you know what I mean? On that note have a good day wish you and your parents best of luck.
@@hamzaansar4462 look, I know absolutely nothing other than what the person told me about their family, but I grew up in a household like hers, and all I know is that my parents didn’t care when I spent weeks at my friends houses. My sister was the one they cared about lol.
I think strict parents don't understand that the more strict they are, the more rebellious freedom-seeking their kids are gonna be in their teenage and adult years. I don't have VERY strict parents, but they are stricter than others' parents. Until not long ago I noticed it, thanks to videos of tik tok, and how my friends and cousin left my house traumatised...
Ikrr mine are strict but I have a lot of privacy bcz they both work and even though I'm a single child I got a separate room on a separate floor where no one EXISTS but my frnds say that I got all of this ( own phone, tab, data) bcz I don't use em or don't do anything actually I don't 😂🤣 But now I'm so used to being alone that I'm afraid to have a roommate when I go to university and stuff
@raspberry no surprise bc of my pfp, I’m obsessed with tbhk and it’s really hard for me to shut my mouth about it. it’s gotten to the point where today I was listening to Tiny Lights and my dad said “in the dictionary, next to the word obsessed, there’s a picture of you.” he was just teasing, but I wanted to cry on the spot. I dont talk about it much around my family anymore, they clearly aren’t interested in what I’m saying.
introducing the legends(indian parents).should be home by max 6,cant close the door, cant have boy friends or boys as friends,cant hangout with friends,cant wear what we want ......these all are normal things here
Well then I’m way more lucky in all matters here with my Indian parents I’ve my own room I can close it too coz I’ve ac and I don’t sleep without it Ok with returning after 9pm Ok with boy best friends Ok with bfs too (focus on career and don’t get distracted) Ok with spending time with girl Bestiee’s Going to their place them visiting me No getting phone checked No getting location on exceptions when I’m travelling back home from city I RN study in only than I’ve to turn on location coz I travel through state transport (just informing before hand at what time I’ll return) Even when I moved to another city for my undergrad program only in initial year my mom was lil strict about me texting her when I left for uni and got back after class also coz being a single child I’d never lived away from my parents leaving summer breaks where I went for trips so I understood her concern there so I did as she said… but now I’m in my final year of undergrad uni soon to move out of country and now my mom is lesser worried about me coz she knows I can handle myself well off (so no texting when I leave for classes & get back) also asking me to spend more time with my Cllg Bestiee damn she even tells me to visit her home more frequently it did take her some time to have trust on my now Cllg Bestiee but now she treats her like her own daughter lol😂😂 Also she’s the one who keeps asking me if I’ve a bf or not she was also the one to ask me to have break up with both of my exes coz she already knew they weren’t one for me coz being single child I’ve never been stubborn coz I’ve got what I wanted without asking, Also she was right with both of them coz my 1st ex never had a promising job he kept changing firm for better opportunities and never settled with good ones she knew there that he isn’t the one for me coz he won’t be able to treat me as my dad has treated me for 22 years like a princess and 2nd one was way too toxic for my mental health and she knew it right away and damn I’m so happy I trusted my guts and listened to her I’m happy with both of my decisions she doesn’t know I’m in relationship rn it’s been like 2 months but I’m happy and maybe this time I’ll find right time before letting her or both of them to know about him… But I must say I’m definitely lucky in matter of my Indian parents coz they’re way to supportive loving, caring & maybe a lil bit strict sometimes when needed but for my own good.. But I do feel blessed coz I’ve best parents in world✌🏻😫😭🥺🥹💜
Just a normal 16 year old girl that barely goes out and hasn't touched grass since 2018 , no social media , only baggy clothes , does all the house work , takes care and raise the younger kids , gets beaten if shit isn't prefect, fetches the item I'm being beaten with, gets beaten more if I cry, move , flinch,ect and isn't allowed to move out till 21-25 😁😁
Just runaway at that point. being homeless looks and sounds a lot better than that. that is basically abuse. report it to the police and they will help you or something. Find a gas station near you and stay there and get someone to help you there.
@@echo-td9hg True, but also isn't that just child abuse if they have so much to do and if they don't do it right as they are expected to they get beatings and are basically told to suck it up?
My parents are very strict. And I’m the only one in my group of friends who has a strict family. So I often feel left out especially when they go out and I’m not included. And they always talk about it in our group chat and I couldn’t relate to it. I just wish my parents would trust me because I’m not a little kid anymore and I already know what’s wrong and what’s right. It’s not like I would smoke with some bad influence friends or go out in the middle of the night at some club or whatsover. I am not like that. And I will never be like that. I couldn’t even join a video chat at home without them listening and eavesdropping about our conversation. My privacy and childhood is completely washed up. Sometimes I just feel like I deserve better.
It's funny how we completely relate. It's also funny how we rely completely on strangers to share our problems with instead of our parents. These comments are the proof of that.
Friends are the only people I can tell a bit of my problem to I Don share everything with my friends cuz im kinda afraid to like what if they tell my parents or siblings about that though I never trust them on any situation I mean I trust no one except for myself
this is exactly how i feel like i dont even have a phone im in high school already (im using my sisters laptop) and i often feel excluded from my friends and im not allowed to hang out with my friends without one of my family members going with me and its embarrassing
- footstep recognition - constant phone checking - door cant lock - looking good outside prohibited - beware of friends dads and brothers - no hanging out with male friends (no having male friends) - playlist check to make sure all songs censored - no going out without 24h notice - no sleepovers - no buying anything without permission (food/drinks included) - lack of trust - secret social media accs - be home before 5:30 - no vcs with male friends - busting into room at random moments add what ive missed but this is my experience so far
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I'm a Muslim and usually Muslim/Asian kids are considered to have strict parents which is also true but my mom is not at all as strict like what I'm seeing in the comments or video. I'm allowed to talk to my friends privately and I don't have a phone but do have a tab on which I can install anything. And my mom never checks my chats or apps. I think privacy is really important especially for teenagers. Most of these parents are not even strict but straight up abusive.
True my sister MashAllah strictness means they care for you and don't want you to participate in anything bad but these parents are abusive theres a defference between strictness or abusive
Some of these are a little ridiculous ngl. Why would you not want your child to hang out with friends and/or have them over? Do you expect them to be lonely and depressed their whole teen years? Makes me wonder what it was like for some of the strict parents growing up, it's as if they forgot what it was like being young (unless if that's how they were raised as well and were taught that was the way of parenting but still smh)
And my parents had a completely different life too. They were allowed to have friends over and they had a good wholesome childhood. It's just not fair.
It's because the parents don't trust the kids because 'Older people know more than kids' bla bla bla. They think we're going to make bad friends who force us to do evil things, then end up in jail, then become homeless, then our relatives will be disappointed in us and think "oh her child is so bad like her" or "oh why does he have such a nasty behaving child"🤓
i literally get to have social interaction for like 8 hours a week lol. I'm lucky if i get to hand out with my friends and get more than that. i go to church and youth group thats it.
I can totally relate to the last guy. All of those things happen to me. Right now I only have 2 downloaded apps of my choice and all of my social media is blocked. I have timers set on everything for 2 hours. Love strict parents😐
When in doubt factory reset phone. Everything you need goes into a Google drive then factory reset it using either the reset button and a pin or volume + power button and hold (idk anything about iPhones tho this is depending on the android phone). If you have an older phone with this stuff on it and they done check it you can redo all settings and now with your own password so that they think it's still there but now you have the password. It may work for awhile if your parents are a little less observant. Make sure you hide all accounts from them and turn timestamps off if you do this, if you are just trying to watch videos or play some games or talk to friends this can be a good alternative (make sure they don't see you)
Ok here’s my story: So I’m in a friend group of 5 friends. All of them have strict families (so do I) My first friend is Mexican. Her family has the stereotypical Mexican way of disipline (belt) and she gets bad test scores so she usually comes to school with welts on her wrists (I honestly feel like this is Child abuse but she says it’s normal and I’m quite worried for her) My 2nd friend is the one with phone limits. Her screentime is 8PM and her bedtime is 8:30PM. She’s in 7th grade btw My 3rd friend has parents that fight. She always grew up with parents that have different viewpoints so when one says to do something, the other disapproves and gets mad at my friend. My 4th friend has a parent who literally body shames her and strictly controls her diet so everyday at lunchtime my friend has no lunch money and no lunch from home (No lunch) For me, I have no privacy. I’m not allowed to shut my door and my dad checks my phone every single day. Just saying, There’s a difference between strict and abusive relationships with your parents. Mine are strict but idk about my other friends. If your in a situation like any of the ones listed above then your allowed to ask for help :)
same here one of my friends is Muslim ( i am not disrespecting any religion so pls don't get offended) and she is also weak in studies she has a lot of family problems and her family is very strict about her grades too. One day she got really bad grades in maths and her mother literally burned her hand. She tells me that it's normal in her family. But she literally has skars all over her body.
my mom was definitely strict but she was always able to be reasoned with, there were hundreds of things I couldn't talk to her about but at the same time I never had to sneak around, never had my bedroom door taken away, and things that were given to me were mine to keep unless specified otherwise
You know the sound of everyone's footsteps in the house. You check if they're asleep by straining your hearing to detect snoring and no other sounds, which means they're not on their phone and they've gone to sleep. You've developed whole ass techniques of hiding your phone asap when you hear them approaching your room at night. You have passwords on your socials, a private folder with a difficult pincode and your ultimate hiding spot for things you don't want to be found, is the pencil case.
Girl is complaining that her parents need a 24 hour notice for a sleepover... meanwhile my parents have never let me even GO to a sleepover or even stay at someone's house for an extended amount of time and only on certain occasions with them there
The other videos hit me hard but that one was kinda funny, I don’t know if this makes sense but it kinda wholesome. My parents got divorced in highschool and since I am adopted it was kinda hard my dad would be very strict and maybe a little toxic same thing with my mom but it kinda brought back funny memories of my family with the way she talked to her parents and the parents talked to her. Along with the fact she accidentally caught the shoe she instantly knew oh no. I didn’t realize how much I would miss that.
i feel like this might be worse in japan cus many rebels in other countries but in my country we just don’t cus we are taught that they’re always right. we basically aren’t taught the definition of human rights and we don’t even *know* that it’s unjust. we always respect the elderly, and there are no exceptions, so we only learn to cope with it and never even think about changing it
Honestly, I feel like having strict parents backfires. Cuz if u have a rly early curfew, you’re gonna sneak out. If ur not not allowed to have friends over, ur gonna sneak them in. I have rly chill parents so I don’t feel the need to break any rules bc we don’t have any rules in the first place. Like once I asked my mom when I had to be home, and she told me any time I think is reasonable. Since we have no rules, I kinda make my own rules and I feel like that rly helped me grow and mature. Like a rule I made for myself is to not spend more than 3 hrs on my phone a day. Since I gave myself this rule, I’m most likely to obey it, bc I don’t feel like anyone is forcing me to. So yea, the chiller ur parents are the better the kids behave. (Obviously it’s also about the communication and respect in ur relationships and it’s not always like this. This is just my opinion.)
i sometimes wish i wasn't born into my family of abusive parents i wish i had parents like my friend's whoa re extremely kind and caring i just dont like how life is so unfair, ill neevr be able to experience a golden childhood and that fact makes me upset
Bro these speak to me on a spiritual level 😥😥I have daily bag checks, weekly phone checks and my room is looked through whenever people feel like it. Even our bathroom has no lock. Even if I'm going out with friends to a park I live half a mile away from I have to be back within an hour, so I only get to see them for half an hour anyway. Strict parents suck. The only reason I'm a good liar and the reason I'm terrified of stepping a toe out of line at school is because of them, they don't hit me or anything but my privacy is practically non-existent 😪
There’s also a difference between having fun as teenagers & training parents to be paranoid. 😂 like if you’re hiding vodka in your room, how are you already an alcoholic? 24h notice for sleep overs seems legit though, I had to give 1-2 weeks notice minimum for friends over 🙄
@@blinkeuisaswiftie8397 Agreed, unfortunately if she's manipulative and persistent (not that she is, just saying IF) there's always a way to get alcohol. life finds a way.
1. I memorised the entire layout of my house and memorised the sound of my parents footsteps 2. Im not allowed to go out. Thats it literally not allowed to go out. 3. Im not allowed to have friends over unless ive been friends woh them for over a year and they can only stay for 2 hours. 4. Im not allowed to slam doors 5. Im not allowed to have social media 6. And this ones recent; not allowed to do anything without my parents knowing. This includes eating, leaving the house for school and sometimes sleeping.
I'm sorry if this sounds disrespectful, but that last one is dumb imo. You should be allowed to eat, sleep or leave the house to go to school whenever you want
Here's my rules as a 16 year old (also just things i can/can't have) *PHONE RULES*: (I don't have a phone anymore but when I did) -only allowed 1 hour of "recreational use" -no social media -youtube was on child lock -no private mode tab -have to ask to get friends phone numbers -couldn't text friends unless it was for school or during my 1 hour -phone gets taken at 8pm every night (they go thru it in front of me and ask me all sorts of questions about when and why i was doing something) -NOT ALLOWED TO USE MY CALCULATOR (i'm in pre-cal) *Other Electronics Rules*: -only 1 hour/episode of tv OR 1 movie PER DAY -must have household chores done before -must ask permission -must tell which show/movie im watching so my mom can approve *Household Rules*: -chores must be done by 3:30pm every day (I clean the whole house -homework must be done by 4:30pm every day (unless there's a reason i can't) -no eating after 8pm -no food anywhere but kitchen (unless i have permission) -no friends allowed over (special occasions are an exception) -not allowed to stay the night at friends house (i get picked up at 11pm) -do not speak unless spoken to -if mom is sleeping, i can't make any noise -not allowed outside the house without permission -no locked doors (i dont have a bedroom door, so this only applies to the bathroom for me) -have to ask which foods i can eat for all meals -mom has to check my outfit before i leave the house with them to see if it's "appropriate" And yea thats pretty much it. There's probably more and I just can't think of it off the top of my head, or it's not that strict.
My experience: - Kumon is an everyday thing. If my parents are in a good mood, only 2 hrs. If my parents are pissed, weekday: 5.75 hrs (4:00~10:00) (15 min for dinner) weekends: 12.5 hrs (9:00~10:00) (30 min for lunch + dinner) - Grades: B = light beating (e.g. shoes or random objects flying your way) C = an actual beating D = intense beating F = **death** (I've never gotten and F) - phones are for communication, nothing else (only messages and the phone app is usable)
its truly amazing to me how so many adults dont understand that they are destroying their kids. all the kids i know who had strict parents, are a total mess as adults. meanwhile those kids who had happy and chill parents, are doing great in life. my advice to anyone in a situation like this is - when you hit 18, just pack your bags and move out before your parents can totally destroy you.
how can my parents manage to be the "fun parents" who let me go places with my friends and go to parties and sleepovers but at the same time they won't let me go outside by myself or have a phone at 15?
@@cappycafe idk, i'm a homeschooled church kid so i only have like 3 people i hang out with, all church kids as well. it gets pretty lonely when you can't text anybody and only see your friends once a week haha
So, let me tell you a little story. For context, I am 16. SIX-FRIGGEN-TEEN. I was homeschooled for most of my formative years because I have autism so I never really learned how social stuff was meant to work. My parents fought a lot so I grew up with VERY mixed messages. For about a year when I was 13 I was the only kid in class who didn't have a phone. This wouldn't have been a problem but that was around the time my school started using Google Classroom and shit like that and there was some parts of lessons (mainly Kahoot quizzes, nothing too important) that I just couldn't do or had to write them out on paper instead. Then when I was 14 I was allowed to have a phone but I couldn't like download stuff onto it at all. Thankfully the phone I have now is better... BUT HERE'S THE PART I DO NOT FUCKING GET. I am able to call and text but I don't have a data plan. And we don't have broadband. This means I am one hundred percent reliant on my dad's mobile hotspot (which is the shittiest wifi I have ever experienced) for ANYTHING. This includes online schoolwork. As far as my parents are concerned, I don't have a RU-vid account, I don't have a Wattpad account, or a Tumblr. And I don't plan on them finding out at least until I do the sane thing and move the fuck out. Meanwhile my brother who is NINE YEARS OLD gets to play Roblox with his friends and gets basically unlimited screen time on my dad's phone. As well as this I'm genderqueer (she/they) and thinking about getting a chest binder but my mom isn't supportive so one of my friends is going to order it for me So yeahhh How's your day going?
oof very relatable, my parents are super homophobic and Christian so the closest i can get to getting a binder is putting on multiple sports bras at once
In my household I can’t leave the house. Can’t go out with anyone. I not allowed socials or any communication. I use socials secretly and hide them and do calls when my mums not home. When I used to walk home I’d spend time with friends before going straight home.
Relate to all of these- I think kids in the mormon cult just do. They’re all brainwashed and none of those kids have phones in the first place. But thank God that my gf came in my life, showing me God and giving me a will to live. These kids are raised to count down how many days until they can move out and then they move across the nation.
6:15 so relatable ever since I was 11 I've had everyone in my houses sound of foot steps, movement patterns and sleeping schedules memorised cause literally not allowed to do anything
I learned footsteps, which car was which, who was driving the car based on how hard th e door was closed, and (less important) all phone numbers, a lot of passwords, and all license plates.
It just gets sad when ur friends don't invite u to stuff bc u have to plan months ahead to make up a whole slideshow just to explain why u can be able to go to the movies with just one friend. Also the other 3 friends and some boys 'coincidentally' show up...😏
my mom doesn't let me to untie my hair, lock my door, chat with my friends online, eat snacks, and she freakingly come into my room once per 10 minutes
3:09 my mom is exactly like this. i get it, you wanna keep your child safe, but it’s so fucking stressful and irritating when parents do this to you. my mom isn’t necessarily abusive by most standards, but she can definitely be a little verbally abusive, because she’s berated me with swear words constantly since i was in late elementary school. she always thinks she’s right just because she’s the adult and i’m the child, and while she may SOMETIMES be right, not everyone knows everything, and sometimes a child knows more than an adult. she never used to listen to me and used to treat me like a literal infant who always needs to be guided, and yet she never guided me the right way. sure she’s provided for me, but when you constantly berate me with swear words, shout at me for not getting work in in time when i’ve already told you plenty of reasons as to why it’s hard for me to stay on top of my work and yet you still won’t check to see if i have adhd, whip me for having D’s that i’ve tried my best to get help with, and give me half assed praise like “good job but you can do better, these need to be these and these needs to be these”-it doesn’t feel like love. it feels like i’m constantly being pushed down. i might not be in as much of a dire situation as other people with stricter, harsher, more abusive parents, but it’s still so mentally taxing on me that i’ve started developing really bad anger issues, and in 9th grade i went through HORRIBLE burnout and depression, to the point where i didn’t wanna get up to eat even tho i was starving (mostly as a way to punish myself), take showers, go anywhere, talk to people-nothing. i just wanted to sink into my bed and wake up in a void of nothingness, make it like i never existed. i always got upset when my mom used to compare me to other kids and say that she doesn’t abuse me or anything, and that there are kids with worse lives/parents who don’t even care, blah blah, but that never means that your words and actions can’t affect me, especially when i’m such a sensitive person and you’re over here comparing me to other people. because i learned how to do my own hair later than most, because i’m socially anxious, because EXTREMELY forgetful, because i have no motivation to do things, because i’m lazy in nature, etc. regardless of if your parents are strict, toxic or abusive, if it heavily affects your mental health negatively, it’s bad either way.
When parents think that they are doing this for the welfare of thier child... it's merely true.. I think it is for the self satisfaction of them.. to think that they raised their child in the best way.. but they must think about the child's happiness too. A child is born in another Era and not in the time in which they grew up in.. they can't lock thier child in the cages of their own insecurities and rules.I really do belive that every child has the right to basic happiness of freedom
3:11 actually made me relate so much that tears welled up in my eyes, istg when they prevent you from having fun with your friends and set these rules, you have the fear of missing out and the fear that your friends might stop inviting you due to you being the only one who can't adjust.
For some reason I never realized how concerning it was that felt that I had to learn how to detect the sound of the garage door opening and how to differentiate it from the sound of the air conditioner, the sound of who was coming to my room and when they were, and a lot of other signifiers of when my parents were coming near me
I am so proud of my parents not being so strict, like I have my privacy, my mom and dad don't check my device, I have my own room and mom only checks on me during my study hours making sure I am studying, yeah my dad gets a bit protective on the side of the boys, that's the only thing they are strict about, they send me to birthdays, they pick me up at the time I want to get picked up and never try to change the time, never checked my chats this video made me realise my parents are not so strict, they do whatever I want and give me whatever I want and love me and my elder sister equal love, I feel really grateful for my parents as they only want good grades from me and a stable future for myself.. We have family time whenever we order food or whenever we watch a movie..
My parents are like some of these parents in this video. And they may be worse then I realize. I can't talk otp without permission (when I do ask they still don't let me) I have to ask for certain foods, I can't go anywhere without my parents ( tbh I can't go anywhere at all), they took the knob from off of my door, my mother emotionally abuses me (she even said she would unalive me one time). Talking to other people's parents is literally TERRIFYING for me ( like it's to the point I'd run away from them or hang up the phone if my friend wanted me to talk to their parent) not exactly sure why but I know it has everything to do with my parents.
Parents restricting screen time thinking I won’t use it and coming into my room to see if I’m doing anything bad: 10yo me being able to make a lie on my feet, know who it is outside of my doo by their breathing and footsteps, knows how to hack my moms phone to give me more screen time:
The worst about my parents is that they're extremely strict and overprotective, but love me like hell. They simply don't realize how much it kills me, and yet act like nothing is going on. My dad is the best father ever. He takes me out, almost everytime gets home with snacks and is always showing affection towards me. Until he gets mad. 5 days ago, I got very sick: I had cold sores, herpes, unbearable sore throat and body and I barely had the strength to get up. On the 3rd day, I had washed my hair, and I came back so tired that I lay down on one of the chairs at the dining table and put my feet on the opposite chair, and fell asleep right there, for about 10 minutes. Then my parents woke me up and told me to go dry my hair, and my father was already annoyed. I went to my bathroom to put the towel away, and I was about to brush my teeth beforehand. When my mother saw it, she was instantly angry, and told my father. That moment, I was genuinely scared of him. He came running towards me with his slipper (a heavy one, because his foot is very big), and he tried to hit me, but I closed the bathroom door beforehand and the slipper hit the door. When he opened it, he was holding the slipper and was threatening me saying in a frightening way "okay, good, now get the dryer, plug it in, turn it on, good..." and I dried my hair crying non-stop. My mom called me dramatic right after I came out of the bathroom. My dad already spanked me last year because I was writing a letter to my friend at fucking 23pm, since my parents were already asleep. I was writing that letter because my dad just wouldn't let me go to her 13th birthday party for a really stupid thing I did at the time. Worst of all, my father is an expert at distorting reality, and he always blames my mother for everything that happens. Like remembering little things that, his head, she did wrong, and rubbing them all in her face. In mine too. And, my mother knowing this, defends him when he's scolding me. She only shows me that she doesn't like his actions when I comfort her after they fight (which was everyday, since I was 8, and they almost broke up 4 times). For a long time, I didn't have social medias, and I had a 1-hour timer to stay on my cellphone in the morning, afternoon and night, which gradually increased to 2 hours, and then none. But they're so strict they won't even let me go out alone, like, the mall or hang out after school. They call me irresponsible, but they don't trust me. The farthest I've gone is coming home from school by myself twice, and I only go to the bakery around the corner. For godness sake, this month, the 29th, I'll be 14 years old. I want to have a better life. And they don't realize it. I just feel like running and running away from here, for at least a few hours. This is reaching the limit. Sorry for the text.
Months ago I remember telling my mom I wanna go to art school abroad, she went on and on about how I should stay close to family saying it was the better choice, now I can’t look at schools abroad without stressing about being close to family
during the summer my mom had a list of chores we had to complete before we got phones(or any electronic device), and when we were little if we completed the extensive list we were only allowed to have 30 to play on phones etc. Also, until this year, my bedtime my entire life had been 7:00(I am a senior in high school now, my bedtime is currently 9:00).The strictness has gone down so much recently, but I still get the fear that it'll swiped out from under me
My parents are strict,but the only thing their super strict about is my grades. And I dont hate it,but I dont like it when they overreact about me getting a B. They let me go with friends,and they are the ones trying to get me to wear more open clothing lol,I usually wear tshirts and about knee length skirts cause thats what im comfortable with,but they say'you should try some jeans and pants, and wear this cute top too' So thats what Im trying out rn🤣
I find these so relatable bc my mum is like this all the time... she reads my texts with my friends, keeps my laptop hidden from me when I'm not using it, and then says how she can't trust me bc I'm not 'responsible enough'. She doesn't let me hang out with my friends whenever I want UNLESS she is there to supervise me, and she knows that friend and their parents. When I got into high school, she became a LOT more restricting that we ended up fighting almost every day. Although I'm 15, I'm still told that I'm not mature even tho I get good grades, look after my younger sisters, and help out around the house literally every day. I've learnt how to keep secrets from her, I'm constantly hiding anything I get from my friends with the fear that my mum would find out, and I even keep an alt acc on my social media's in case if she ever decides to go through them again. Whenever I get into an argument with my mum, she always ends up victimising herself and then doesn't talk to me for days unless I go up to her and apologise. I pray everyday that I won't become like her, that if I ever have kids I will trust them bc I want to be someone who they can trust and talk to whenever they need.