Thank you for being the type of person who is understanding of people's struggles and offers advice on how to bounce back from certain mistakes instead of just judging people for making those types of mistakes. 🙏
But it's like no cap how dentists and orthodontists care about your mental health. I was severely depressed for 2 years and stopped taking care of myself, including brushing my teeth, and they were rotting, chipped and just horrible. I was so embarrassed but they were all so nice to me and never made me feel bad for the condition of my teeth.
This video has reassured me. Haven’t worn mine for 2 months almost because my mental health has been low. Just started wearing them again the other day. Painful, yet glad to know they should be back to normal soon
I've just came out of months long depression as I switched meds. Now I can't fit my retainer in as my gaps too big. End of the day I'd rather live happy with a gap then live depressed with straight teeth :)
My ortho doesn’t give a frick AHAH about my mental health or that my night time retainer gives me nausea and doesn’t allow my tongue to have enough room in my mouth and doesn’t allow me to sleep.... when I already have sleep issues due to mental health issues. Thanks Demarco and Tinkin.
I don't know why but oral health seems to be the first thing that suffers when your mental health does. I know me and one of my friends struggled to brush our teeth when we went through depression (separate times)
Mine helped me during one of my mental health issues. I had panic attacks from food and anything near my mouth that could suffocate me, he was so understandable and even after 2 years he still asks if I’m okay with the stuff they do. :) Couldn’t wish for a better one. Sadly due to my problems we couldn’t/can’t use rubber bands to correct the teeth in the back but honestly I don’t care, most of my teeth are straight now.
The understanding in his voice made me tear up. Personally, I've never worn a retainer, so I didn't have to go through anything like this but the downright acknowledgement hit
@left nut what the hell is your problem you probably are so insecure about yourself so you make others feel like shit so you feel “better” about your sad life. Shut up
@Joe Fr tho, I have a retainer now that’s basically like an Invisalign and braces were SO MUCH easier. I feel like the only downsides were having to take more time to brush your teeth or soreness after they get tightened
My orthodontist didn't care when the bottom retainer was made wrong from the beginning. He just kept telling me to make it fit. My mom wasn't with me for this fitting and he rushed me in and out so fast, he didn't even have me sit in a chair. 3 weeks later, my bottom teeth were getting out of line and he accused me of not wearing my retainer. Meanwhile, my mom had been calling almost every day about this retainer making my teeth crooked and it took them 3 weeks to get me in. My mom vouched for me that I wore both of them despite the bottom one not fitting until it finally fit, after making my teeth crooked. I came in with both retainers in and showed how easily I put them on. He snatched the bottom retainer from me, still blamed me, and said he would have to have the lab remake it. When mom and I both said "thank you" in a relieved voice, he responded with "well, I shouldn't have to do this. If you had done everything correctly from the beginning, you wouldn't have messed up your retainer." My mom and I were both just stunned but of course my smart ass said "well if you would've done what you were supposed to do then the retainer wouldn't have messed up my teeth" He began to argue with me, my mom won that argument. They never called back with the new retainer. My teeth started to hurt after 2 weeks because they were moving. My mom called his office non stop. Finally, after a month, she had to get me invisaline to fix my teeth... and sent him the bill. Later, we found out why he was such an asshole. My astranged dad was behind on payments. They never brought this up to me, my mom, no one. So he ruined 4 years of work because my deadbeat dad was $300 behind on payments and instead of telling my mom, he decided to take it out on a 14 year old. Yes.. he paid the invisaline bill. Moral of the story, retainers are very important and even adults can be dicks.
Damn I hope you are doing alright now. I know all to well how adults can be dicks too 🤦🏽♀️. I have had terrible experiences with adults throughout my whole childhood+teenhood. I’m glad he paid the invisiline bill although I’m sure that wouldn’t have been an easy battle.
As a mom and caring person in general, this pissed me OFF. What an asshole. I'm glad your mom had your back and that you are good now. Screw him. He should lose his dental license. No one deserves that level of petty.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that but I'm just imagining this grown ass adult being petty and then deciding to take it out on his own child's dental care...? Next level clownery right there. Hope you're doing well now boo!
I feel so bad for not brushing my teeth due to my lack of energy and my dentist always would say “taking care of your health will make you feel ten times better.” When I couldn’t physically get out of bed. Hearing that some dentists/orthodontists care makes me want to look for a good dentist like you.
Honestly that's me I can go a few days without brushing my teeth because of my lack of energy and how tired but the soon I feel something off about them I brush the living crap out of them 😭
I’m glad to find ppl that have the same feeling I have. I thought it was disgusting of me to walk around nd not do it for a few days but I’ve been so drained out , sad, lost . I just skip my hygiene routine nd think about irrelevant things that maybe don’t need to be thought about
its not really the same though, not brushing your teeth can lead to so many problems. not wearing a retainer for a while wont be detrimental to your health in most situations.
How do i find a dentist like you 😭 my dad never made me brush my teeth as a kid and as an adult with ADHD i find it extremely difficult to get into the habit, and because of my anxiety I'm deathly terrified of dentists because of the possible judgement 🥺 every time i even think about calling to set an appointment i burst into tears
i have the same issue, it took me so long to get into a routine of brushing my teeth and i’m still not perfect, i always set a reminder on my phone every night and even put post it notes on my mirror telling me to put my retainer in. stick to a routine, and carry on the search for a dentist you will find the perfect one that matches you in the end! well done for trying 💓💓
Random as fuck. But worth mentioning, cause I have seen it works for a lot of friends of mine. If you have a game task that you do daily, link that up to brushing. Or, for many if can be even better, favorite youtuber or tiktoker that posts daily'ish, and can keep you "company" when you brush.
I also have ADHD and the habit never sticked to brush twice a day. So now I try to at least brush my teeth before bed now but I went a while only doing it once a month. I first moved to fluoride mouthwash every day and then brushing once a day with occasional mouthwash. I do need to go to the dentist but haven’t had the time or mental ability to do it yet. I have a feeling that I have a cavity that needs taken care of but I do not like the pressure and sound of the dentist.
Fellow ADHDer here! I have the same problem! I just put my toothbrush on my sink (in an easily visible spot) and when i go to the bathroom before I remember to brush my teeth and wash my face! I still struggle to do it every night but I do it at least 5 times a week which is better than nothing! My toothbrush also connects to an app on my phone so it will remind me at a certain time each night and you can play games while brushing to ensure proper coverage!
My dentist has a health form to review every checkup and there's a section that mentions mental health. I checked off "depression" and she asks how I'm doing knowing that during an episode dental hygiene isn't always a priority.
This made me sad :/ I remember being like that. I wouldn’t brush my teeth. I could barely shower. Just stepping outside felt like walking through molasses. It gets better.
I don’t mean to sound insensitive by asking this, but why does something like depression affect something like retainer wearing? Does it have to do with willingness?
100% when people have depressive episodes they feel as though they are not worth looking nice it can also be that they don’t have the motivation to do anything so this can effect things like basic hygiene and medical treatments
@@Ryan-in6ls Interesting. Fortunately I haven’t had to go through that, but it’s helpful to know that it can impact almost every part of someone’s life 😔 Thank you for the response
Something people forget too is that depression can cause major brain fog. Imagine only remembering occasionally "oh yeah, I need to wear that retainer", but after a while you know it won't fit, and you surely don't have the emotional energy to fix this, or have hope that it can be fixed at all :(
Then there’s my mom who cares more about me having straight teeth. Like ma’am-? I’m your kid and you’re worried about my teeth more than me wanting to be happy and not like I wanna die everyday??
I've lost 2 molars and may loose a front tooth because of a severe depressive disorder. My ortho pretty much made fun of me for it and said "well you walk by the bathroom sink everyday how do you just not brush?" Which only makes me want to avoid the dentist more..
Just wondering as someone who wears retainers, when you say wear them full time for two weeks, does that include while you eat drink etc? Or take them out to eat and put back in? Thanks!!
So you would have to take them out when you eat and drink, brush your teeth and put them back in 😅 I never do that though aha I just wear mine at night even tho I’m suppose to wear them 24 hours
@@nanaosa thank you for the clarification, honestly that’s so long tho I eat so much during the day with snacks in between imagine having to take them out brush and put them back in🥲 I usually wear them when I sleep too, but sometimes I genuinely forget
Oh I feel you there. The minimum you’re supposed to wear it full time is ~20 hours. So I try to split my free time into 2 sections that are 2 hours each. So I can eat a proper meal and then snack for the next hour.
My ortho didn’t care about my mental health. He also didn’t care that one of my teeth was misaligned from the beginning after my braces were taken out (like a tiny tiny amount that doesn’t effect my eating). Thankfully I managed to get the tooth to move for the last checkup (even after reshaping them using a hot shower by accident) and since my teeth were otherwise fine they ended my treatment
I had an extreme depressive episode about a year ago and my dentist said if I can’t brush or care for my teeth to at least keep those travel tooth brush things next to my bed and chew on it if I can’t get up to brush my teeth. I’m always grateful when my dentist is understanding about that stuff
I’ve always had bad experiences with dental stuff in general because I’ve always found they don’t take the time to ask WHY you’re not taking care of your teeth and all that. I still think hygienists and dentists should have to take some sort of mental health related classes to understand people genuinely are trying to keep their head above water. Thank you for this ❤
You care, not all dentists care. I have to threaten my dentist to not hurt me because he doesn’t understand tmj pain. Like seriously, feels like my jaw muscles are ripping in half/I’m breaking my jaw. I can’t hold it open longer than 1 minute, and it’s really sad to see my dentist and his assistant fight on me with it forcing me to open my mouth or threaten that they won’t work on my teeth. Both told me “well if you won’t open your mouth we can’t get work done and if that’s the case you need to leave” like the hell im the one paying you guys, so I said “I already told you guys I can’t hold it longer than a minute, what do you expect from me” they literally told me “to keep it open” I ended up threatening them and saying “if I do what you want my fucking jaw will be locked for weeks straight and I won’t be able to eat, I already have a eating disorder and if I lose anymore weight I’ll be hospitalized, I swear to god I will sue the shit out of you for not giving a fuck about my health at the end of the day” he shut the fuck up immediately and actually worked with my issue. A month later finally was able to get to my tmj appt and get a mouth guard. I know good dentists are out there but god damn all of mine are horrible.
Why not just wait until the tmj appointment then go to the dentist smh. Like I get it but I wouldn’t even tread in a dentist with a jaw issue like that it’s hard enough going at times when your mouth is ok…
I went back in to see about shaving down the sides or get a new retainer and all everyone could do in the office was scold me for not wearing my old one enough. Like we were in COVID, my senior year, and this thin piece of plastic cracks
My uncle is my dentist. I had multiple cavities and he ask if I was depressed which I was at the time why I wasn’t flossing my teeth but I lied to him I felt weird and awkward
I literally apologized to my dentist a few weeks ago because I knew my teeth weren’t the greatest because I’ve been really depressed lately and it’s hard for me to get up and brush and floss my teeth every single day and she actually said to me “a lot of people have a hard time getting up everyday but you should be able to at least take care of your teeth better” I started tearing up because I already beat myself up everyday for the things I can’t do better and she just looked over gave me a little “tsk” and handed me a tissue. I don’t even really get out of bed to eat everyday and it just really hurt me and I can’t stop thinking about what she said. Not all dentists care about their patients.
Can you possibly get another dentist? She sounds like an real inconsiderate uncaring bitch! I know I should take my own advice when I say this, but please try not to be to hard on yourself. . People just do not get it or even care to try, but I feel you I understand. I have found that people with depression or other disorders and such are the most beautiful people with the most beautiful hearts even when others call us crazy or other horrible things people are so wrong and so ignorant.. I have kids and I push myself to get out of bed to work for them. I have to, in my head i have no other choice. Someone has to take care of them if I don't than who will? if it was not for them I would let myself just sleep and sleep hoping and waiting to just die. Funny thing is because I am able push myself to get up even when I am struggling so badly they say I am too functional for any help or tharapy. as I sit and die inside and torture myself constantly in my head in my dreams etc. I have depression anxiety and PTSD,, but I digress this is about you not me I'm so sorry about my tangent.. I have had this inside and guess I really needed to get it out back to you though, you are an amazing and beautiful person. you are a good person worthy of love and respect. You are wonderful and you are needed and wanted in this world . You are perfectly perfect as you are. You are not the fucked up one that dentist is .. a big hug and love sent your way.
i know how you feel,i beat myself up because sometimes i don’t do proper care of myself and a lot of people at my school point it out. i haven’t been to the dentist in about 3 years and i try to atleast brush but don’t listen to her like it’s okay to not want to do anything because again making sure your okay and well is more important. sending lots of love
@Miranda Brue As someone in the medical field, she should know better...since most people who aren't even in the field acknowledge that mental health can be the biggest health issue since it impacts every single thing we do and if you're someone with an anxiety or depressive issue the self blaming is a major thing about the smallest stuff even like why am i doing this this way and not another and then at the smallest bump in the road its very hard to realize all that we have accomplished until then and instead we see one big failure...so yeah please acknowledge that youve accomplished a whole lot and that teeth hygiene was probably far on the list of priorities since it's usually : 1. wake up 2. stay up and not ignore basic human needs 3. try to do something, anything and the smallest action takes the biggest effort. So yeah...you're not alone. Keep it up. And trust me...hygiene is important but not the biggest issue when you feel like life is too hard, you're allowed to not care about that sometimes. :) Wish you the best
For a year and a half I self harmed during high school but I always took care of my teeth. As someone who has experienced my fair share of mental troubles I don’t understand how it is so hard to take care of your teeth. Even when I was at my lowest I remembered that my parents had spent a lot of money to get my teeth to where they are now, brushing your teeth is the least you can do stop making up excuses depression doesn’t hinder you from taking 2 minutes of your day to help yourself smh.
@@slowcookedrice2775 I think self harming is different than depression, and I didn’t have a rich family to fix my teeth. I left my bed maybe once or twice a day and showered once every few weeks but at the time it was the best effort I had, you don’t know what depression is like for different people so stfu. I don’t know why I’m wasting my time explaining anything to a rude person like you but your ignorance was unnecessary and pitiful.
I’ve heard so many conflicting statements about this. Some people say not to wear it after a few months because it’ll damage your teeth or it will be useless as it doesn’t shift teeth back in to place.
We care more about your mental health than perfect teeth but we're also going to to make the entire population feel horrible about not having straight teeth your entire life and set a standard that cosmetic surgery for teens is absolutely necessary if you want to accepted in decent society. But we care mlre about your mental health than your teeth
The stress of schoolcand my mental health i feel like such a failure my teeth have shifted and my retainers have warped I can't buy a new one (I'm in the UK it's supposed to be free) I can't afford to pay for braces. I wasn't able to do something as simple as wear retainers because of my mental health. Is it worth waiting until I'm an adult and opting for invisalign I really don't know what to do
I wish my orthodontist cared that much, I literally went to two funerals that week and I was super stressed out cuz my dog just died and they said that there was no excuse and I was stupid, no joke!
Ye my ortho berated me after I stopped wearing it for like a month bc I was in the dumps after my grandpa passed. Just cause you care about your patients doesn’t mean everyone does
They harassed the hell out of me for not wearing my rubber bands while I was sick and depressed. Told me it takes seconds and depression shouldn't interfere.
My teeth shifted again :( I had braces and lost the retainer and couldn’t afford another one, now two years later I’m paying the price and they’re crooked :((
I'm trying to get back to feeling like myself again and one of the first things I thought was "when was the last time I wore my retainer?!" Probably the last time I used whitening strips, because my retainer is my hack to keep them in place. Fingers crossed. I feel better knowing I'm not alone. If you think 15+ years after braces you don't need the retainer, trust me, you do. I know from experience that it isn't necessary every night but try not to go too long without checking the fit if you can. Mental health is always #1 but if you happen to glance at them, give the retainer a "might as well" try. We got this 💪
I lost my job of 6 and a half years this summer, in a pretty dark spot for a while and barely wore my elastics after that, my orthodontist was super understanding though and we are back on track.
First, thank you for your kind words, not everyone is as understanding as you. Also, I was wondering, I got my wisdom teeth removed some time after getting my retainer. Recently...circumstances have caused me to be...less than faithful with wearing my retainer, so now my retainer is popping up in the back when I bite down in the middle and popping up in the middle when I bite down on my back teeth. Anyway, to the point...should I be concerned? Are my teeth moving after getting my wisdom teeth removed? Can this be fixed by doing the bite down on one of those things and wearing my retainer more often? Or am I just screwed?
I went through a Serious depressive episode and wasn’t wearing my retainer and lost it and my mom is gonna yell at me if I tell her ,she doesn’t believe that I’m seriously suicidal and thinks I’m faking it for attention and she would always get really really mad anytime I told her I’d lost it whenever I’d misplaced it and she’d make me look for it everywhere and threatened me if I couldn’t find it I always was able to find it but I think I lost it when I stayed with a friends family for a week and she’s looked for it all over her house and she can’t find it and she thinks her parents threw it away not realizing what it was
It is tough sometimes to do these things. I have bipolar disorder bad, I have gone through it bad. To anyone going thru it now, especially young people: 1) it will get better even if it feels impossible. 10 years ago I was a lonely homeless addict. Now I have 2 degrees, live on the other side of the earth and have a loving partner. Life is good. Don't underestimate the power of time and don't underestimate yourself. 2) if you can, pick like one or two very small tasks like eating something nutritional or brushing you teeth once a day or every other day. I know it's easier said than done but please trust me that the tiniest acts of self-service matter and can help you begin to heal. Now... Don't beat yourself up if you fail to complete a daily goal - shit happens. Just don't let it get in the way of tomorrow either. It's never too late to start. You got this.
My ortho and parents didn’t care enough ig 🤷♀️ There always just saying Them: “Are you wearing you bands and retainer” Me: “no” Them: “you have to wear them or your mouth will be messed up forever, until your older then you’ll have to wear this again”
the care you have for patients mental health is amazing. wish my previous dentists were like you. going to one who was nice to me before out of insurance, cause my last dentist fucked me up-
I’m pregnant and my gums and stuff gets irritated I haven’t wore mine for a good two months. They still fit for some reason but I can not wear them as long as i’m suppose to because they’re annoying with everything else going on 🤦🏽♀️
Nobody told me this lol. I would randomly remember to wear mine every so often and it’d hurt so bad. I just shoved em on and but down rly hard till it stopped hurting. I didn’t know you were supposed to chew something squishy.
I quit wearing mine at the beginning of Covid. It was hard mentally. I’m not putting that thing back in though! I need to just get braces long enough to fix the two teeth that slightly shifted and get a permanent retainer cause I’ve already got one on the bottom.
@thebracesguyofficial that’s kind of you to say that to some one you probably don’t even know. Btw I love your channel! Can you do the best braces combo? I’m getting braces soon! You dropped this📌 can I pls have it??
My retainer is very stained. How can I make it clear again? I tried the fizz, baking soda, peroxide and nothing works. Can I safely past it with something?
I chipped my tooth And My bottom one doesnt fit because my tooth is in a different angel and if I push it more, it would get WORSE . BRUH I HATE WHEN THIS HAPPENS.
Can you please answer this, I went to my closet Dental Clinic right? I had asked to see if they could fix my teeth since I had one of my brackets come off, and the wire was going into my gum. The lady said, “Sorry, I have a appointment you can come back at 2:30 though?” It was 10am.. YOU ARE DOING A APPOINTMENT FOR 4 HOURS? She wasn’t even a orthodontist, I don’t know why she was saying that. I called another Dental Clinic, and they just said to cut the wire off with like nail clippers. I went back Home, and now I can finally survive without my gum getting infected. :) I WANT TO KNOW WHY SHE WANTED MONEY FROM ME, FOR JUST CUTTING OFF A WIRE- Please tell me. I just broke another bracket- my brackets aren’t stuck on property, I think.
Hey I have a question. So I had really great teeth I’m 29, I’ve had three kids and while pregnant with all three I’ve had extremely low iron. My last pregnancy it was the worst and I actually ended up losing my daughter. But after I lost her at full term and towards the end of my pregnancy my teeth just started chipping off. It was just on the corners and ends of my top front teeth. I haven’t even been to the doctor or dentist since the beginning of that pregnancy because it just gives me too much anxiety. I was wondering if maybe you knew why that happened and also if it’s fixable.
It’s deff fixable! Lots of people chip their teeth for many different reasons :) my boyfriend chipped his in high school and when we was an adult he was able to get filler for the part of the tooth that was chipped (doesn’t replace your whole tooth just filling in the hole)
