Our Final IVF Update

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We share the final results of our IVF journey. To hear more about the entire process, start with this video: • Our First IVF Appointm...
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Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah Burcaw (she/her) graduated from Carleton College, where she studied Sociology and Anthropology. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog, which has over 1,000,000 subscribers on RU-vid. Hannah has spoken at prestigious universities and Fortune 500 companies alike about the realities of ableism. On her popular Instagram account, she advocates for acceptance of all people and works to improve the way society thinks about disability.
Shane and Hannah have been together for over seven years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.

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@nbesio 5 месяцев назад

C4/C5 spinal cord injury here. My wife and I tried IVF for 3 sessions, but my fishy swimmers just would not cooperate. After taking a little time and doing some soul-searching we decided to have a child through a frozen donor. My wife is perfectly healthy and able to get pregnant and it was mainly my pride causing the delay in deciding to go this route. We went to the donor company in Seattle and found a donor who looked somewhat like me and met some of my personality types. We now have a beautiful and crazy 3-year-old boy. The irony is that most people say he looks and acts more like me than my wife! The main thing is turning taught me is that you do not need to be the biological sperm source to be a child’s father. He is the total world to me and it melts my heart every time he screams “daddy” when he comes into a room and climbs my chair like a jungle gym. Whether you decide to have a child through IVF, donor or adoption, that child will be the pride of your life (until they become teenagers.) You both will be incredible parents no matter what you decide!

@kristenbalkenhol7884 5 месяцев назад

Maybe it’s my pregnancy hormones or maybe not but this was so sweet to read it almost made me emotional! I’m so happy you and your wife were able To have the family that you wanted. You are right, blood does not make you a parent but being a good father does. I’m very happy for you and your family 😊❤

@essexitagermeng5504 5 месяцев назад

Respectfully, what about the baby’s rights to know the biological father? Why not adoption instead?

@mommak8342 5 месяцев назад

There are 1-2 MILLION on the adoption waiting list.

@bonsaibaby8257 5 месяцев назад

@@mommak8342not everyone wants or can deal with a child with mental health issues due to being in foster care. I’m not saying these kids aren’t worthy but just that not all people that want kids are worthy to parent them. I hope you understand what I’m saying. Also, I’m not saying all foster kids have issues but a very high percentage of them do and if you don’t want to take that risk you shouldn’t be guilted into it.

@MarianneMedlin-dz4dz 5 месяцев назад

This is BEAUTIFUL! I got chills. Thank you for sharing ❤

@JaneRumes-xc3ns 5 месяцев назад

I too had three IVF procedures back in the early 90s. None of them took but looking back almost 40 years, I’m so happy because otherwise I would’ve never had been able to adopt two children that were meant to be mine. I adopted privately in my area from birth and kept a relationship with the birth mother for 36 years. The second fell into my lap as a friend had gone to Ukraine and visited the orphanage is there an arranged for me to adopt this little girl. She’s 33 now. My son unfortunately passed away. I am so blessed to have them and be their mom. I’ve always said to myself, whatever will be ,will be. God brings you the right children when the time is right. Keep shining and keep up your spirits although I know it is hard as I’ve been there like I said. From a 67-year-old mom❤

@toomuchiridium 5 месяцев назад

What a lovely story you’ve shared! Your family sounds really wonderful and lively. ❤️

@SJC49 5 месяцев назад

Me, too! My Chinese daughter is now 28 and gave me 2 beautiful grandsons who are my life! Take care, Jane. 😍🇨🇦

@laurajackson2429 5 месяцев назад

@JaneRumes- xc3ns Iam so very sorry for your deep loss of your precious son.

@AyeYoTay 5 месяцев назад

Wow you are my hero!! 💗 I want to adopt so bad 1 day!! I'm 40!!

@Wuv2000 5 месяцев назад

I absolutely agree. We always told our two adopted children that they were meant to be ours but had to come through another vessel. They are grown now but have never doubted our love for them and no difference was made between them and the one we finally were blessed with naturally. My adopted son has given us two wonderful grandchildren and the blessings just keep coming!

@maydaj1 5 месяцев назад

Infertility is so hard. We did 8 IVF's in 5 years and I'm finally holding our 2 month old miracle baby at 48. Wishing y'all the best and don't give up ❤️

@MrMo-bl5pq 4 месяца назад

Congrats!

@tomalex349 4 месяца назад

Is it because man can't get a woman pregnant?

@BeautyByDaisie5899 4 месяца назад

My mum had problems getting me here. She had 5 rounds of IVF and fifth time lucky I was conceived. Its difficult having kids but adoption is a great thing to do

@thisnaturalgirlislocd 3 месяца назад

Blessings!

@JeriHall-ll Месяц назад

Applause to your dedication and tenacity! Congratulations.

@katharine2435 2 месяца назад

I was adopted at 11 and so grateful! Adoption is a beautiful gift. Please consider!❤

@alexisreiter3214 2 месяца назад

Some people are really miserable and have long lasting trauma from adoption though, like myself. I wouldnt wish it on anyone even though i am happy that it works for some ppl like yourself. Just a thought that adoption is not always appreciated or happy, and it makes perfect sense for a couple to want biological or not at all

@katharine2435 2 месяца назад

@alexisreiter3214 well if the choice is death or adoption what do you choose? I choose life regardless of how hard.

@alexisreiter3214 2 месяца назад

@@katharine2435 i personally would prefer to have been aborted a million times over, but i am happy you found comfort and peace in adoption and hope that for more people. I just think it’s a very personal, intimate, and polarizing subject. I myself am about to go through ivf and when ppl suggest adoption it really hurts me bc i have to get rlly deep to explain why that will not be an option for me. So that is why i share my opinion, bc if someone wants to adopt they will. I dont think advocating it is a tactful thing to do, bc some adopted kids will NEVER be grateful for being adopted, bc their life is inherently miserable. Aka how i was until i worked through my problems

@aprilrichardson620 Месяц назад

Me too and very grateful!

@cometasporelcielo 27 дней назад

I'm an adoptive mom and it is terribly traumatic for most mothers. There are a lot of older kids who are desperate for families

@RebeccaOsterbergFamilyandMusic 5 месяцев назад

I only had one IVF attempt back in 1984 and it was truly one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. I had 17 eggs, 9 embryos and 7 implanted, but…none “stuck.” Back then it was our life savings…around $30g. I’ll be sending the energy of comfort your way. No matter what, if anything more, you decide on the journey, my heart and I’m sure many others, are with you.

@angelasmith3332 5 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry. I did a couple of rounds of IVF 20 years ago and none resulted in a live birth. My (now ex) went on to impregnate our neighbour, promptly kicked me out of my home, married her and now they have a child together. Life is pretty shitty sometimes.

@kellylogsdon 5 месяцев назад

@angelasmith3332, that's terrible. I am so sorry that happened to you.

@angelasmith3332 5 месяцев назад

@@kellylogsdon thanks x

@TropicalParadisebyLisaLisa 5 месяцев назад

Sending hugs n love your way

@WendyH10 5 месяцев назад

@@angelasmith3332f him Angela! ❤

@erikaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 5 месяцев назад

I have done IVF and had the heartbreak of a cycle with no fertilization and then another with no embryos making it. I know you all are putting on a cheery face for this video, but I know its an incredibly difficult and emotional process. Wishing you all the luck in the world on whatever you choose to do next!

@anitaallen4143 3 месяца назад

I’m proud of you guys.

@sandramendoza6297 5 месяцев назад

I have not watched you for awhile - but came across this video this morning- I was so sad to hear this and now I’m sitting on the sofa with a heavy heart for you. I hope an unexpected blessing comes your way today that lifts you up. Kindest regards

@landracriswell437 5 месяцев назад

I went through AIs and IVFs for several years! Many tests, bloodwork, surgeries, pills & injections! It was very emotional and stressful to go through, without much support 🥺. I did have good news January 14, 2002, I conceived my beautiful daughter. I wish everyone good luck be strong and patience.. Endocrinologist in Louisville, Ky were wonderful to work with!!

@perfectdisabledparent6949 5 месяцев назад

Shane - I've been there/done that only to have multiple blanks most of which I never shared w my wife bc it worsened her heartbreak. Just have to live life and something may change down the road - it did for us! Lead on, ride on, fly on in solidarity!

@lisatague305 5 месяцев назад

IVF is such a roller coaster of emotions and it’s so personal ! I will share that I was 41 did 3 cycles and have a beautiful 23 yr old son . So it can happen if you decide to try again . Love to you both .

@letigre5822 5 месяцев назад

I love this story ❤

@opera93 Месяц назад

Well, Thank you……

@user-ko2qt2md4z 5 месяцев назад

so well done for being so very open,i am disabled .married 25 years ,my wife is..not..disabled.we was told we could not have children,..we have 1,girl and 3 boys .so amazing .i am from,england.mark

@extremebrah 5 месяцев назад

I dont want to BE rude but are you sure you are the father?

@MrMo-bl5pq 4 месяца назад

He is the father, as long as he shows the purest love to the kids..

@extremebrah 4 месяца назад

@@MrMo-bl5pq nah man...He needs to do a paternaty test unless he wants to keep being in doubt.

@samuraijosh1595 4 месяца назад

@@extremebrah I think he won't have the courage to ask for a paternity test since he already feels he's over compensated because his woman has stopped down to date a disabled man.

@donnamckinley9807 3 месяца назад

"stopped" down to date a disabled man. What does that even mean? They are husband and wife and she didnt stop down or step down to be with the man she fell in love with. The problem isnt with them, its with poor souls that cant imagine disabled people having so much more to offer than their disability.

@jordannnndable 5 месяцев назад

Love to y'all as I go through IVF I know how EXHAUSTING the process is and the fact that y'all did all you could I know was so tough and you're so tough

@tcconnection 5 месяцев назад

You guys have been through so much. Your sharing will help others. Glad you're at a point to just enjoy your life together now.

@razzygirl91 5 месяцев назад

Sending you both lots of love. I have definitely come across people who did several cycles of IVF and one embryo suddenly “stuck” and all was well, but obviously the whole process sounds extra exhausting for the two of you, and it’s not exactly a small amount of money I imagine! Keep doing you, enjoy this time to rest and reset and who knows what other avenues you might want to explore in future ❤

@sadiehelen 5 месяцев назад

I’ve followed you guys for awhile. My parents got pregnant at 36 after 2 years of trying via IVF. My mom had a bad pregnancy many years prior to me being born and lost the baby, had major complications, hence the IVF strategy because she couldn’t go another route due to the previous complications. I was in the last batch and they had basically no hope, but here I am. I was one of the first 30 babies in MN to be successfully conceived through IVF in MN (according to my parents). I’m 31. They went through a lot of heartbreak before their last attempt (me). I am sending you a lot of hugs because this is such a crazy journey that not many people understand. My parents have explained it to me, and I actually have issues conceiving myself, now that I’ve gotten to adulthood - so I have a lot of empathy surrounding this topic. I am considering adoption if I continue to have issues. It may not be for everyone but may be an option. Anyways, thank you for the update even though it was a tough one. I am sending yall the best. Don’t lose hope. Or if you do, make sure it’s on your own terms. I’m not there yet myself - still trying. Hugs.

@thompsoncindy42 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing your IVF journey with your audience. Your resilience in the face of disappointing results will no doubt be helpful to others experiencing issues. Much love to you both❣

@Koriikoh 5 месяцев назад

I have SMA too, and with my ex-girlfriend we tried to freeze some of my fishy-swimmers while I stopped my medication for several months. Unfortunately, there wasn't one to be found. I guess there are plenty of ways to become a parent. If my swimmers aren't here in the future, it's fine, I don't need them to become a loving parent. Thank you guys for keeping us updated, what you do is so important.

@WendyH10 5 месяцев назад

@Koriikoh you’ll be a great dad no matter how you get your children.

@Koriikoh 5 месяцев назад

@@WendyH10 Thank you so much, means a lot! Of course, growing up as a disabled person without any reference was hard, so I used to reject my parenting wishes. I'm 28 years old now, and I have not a single doubt in my mind: I'm going to be an incredible father one day.

@ThatTaRaGiRL 5 месяцев назад

Exactly. That's why I don't understand why they don't just use a donor's sperm... or maybe even his brothers if he was cool with it? Then at least there wouldn't be a risk of an innocent child brought into the world with the same disease as Shane 😕

@Jabroni2U 5 месяцев назад

@@WendyH10 great dad? how? can't even hug them or hold them. Kids need to be held and loved in the arms of both parents, not virtually held. A dad holds them, cleans them, hugs them, feeds them, takes them to school, carries them plays with them, protects them and more. A healthy person and a disabled person is not a good match. Too much work for the healthy person, especially if you start a marraige that way.

@Jabroni2U 5 месяцев назад

@@ThatTaRaGiRL why not the seed of a strapping black guy? Whats her name might enjoy it

@DesireeStiles 5 месяцев назад

I did IVF with my disabled hubby and they did a surgical retrieval including tissue as they weren’t optimistic about the quality due to him being in a chair 25 years. I only had 5 eggs retrieved. We did ICSI and had 4 successful day 5 blast. 2 which are now our girls (ages 10&7.5) I’m so sorry you went through this loss, it’s so hard to process it all. I did have to do 2 rounds before I could do retrieval too. I hope you try again in the future and that you find success in creating a family.

@erikshappywife 5 месяцев назад

I am so, so very sorry. Please consider adoption. My youngest son is adopted. His birth mother was one of our foster children and she came back and gave us her son because, she said, living with us was the only time she ever felt like a part of a family and she wanted that for her son. He was only 3 weeks old and weighed just 5 pounds when we got him. He is now 26 😊❤

@youthecat 5 месяцев назад

That is a TRULY special story! Very happy for you. :)

@amberhall1288 5 месяцев назад

Beautiful!!! ❤

@user-ij1ts9fe2o 5 месяцев назад

Love this. Thanks for sharing.

@marljusweety 5 месяцев назад

Sounds like she made a really good decision. ❤ You did good, in many ways.

@brightpurpleviking 5 месяцев назад

Your youngest son WAS adopted 😉 it’s a one time event, not a permanent state of being🥰. My kids were adopted at birth and I’ve always told them it was how they came into our lives, but it didn’t change their dna ❤ adoption is pretty cool, isn’t it? Just another way to build a family 😊 Someone told me that adoption is like…some people take a plane to Australia…others take a boat!

@awoken9151 5 месяцев назад

Quite the rollercoaster life has been for you these past few months. I'm so sorry the IVF did not work out for you. It is so nice to see your strong support for each other. Much love to you both.

@Suprachiasmatic 5 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry this didn’t turn out how you’d hoped. 💙 thank you for being vulnerable enough to talk about it though!

@justinfernandes2506 5 месяцев назад

Thank you both for being so honest. Do not give up hope. I appreciate you both sharing your lives.

@NipoteZia 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry things haven't worked out SO FAR, but I have great hope for you. I know it couldn't have been easy to make this video, and I also understand that there's nothing cavalier or easy about the message you delivered. So appreciate you sharing your lives, and I'm glad you're here in the city of LA. We love you.

@tammysantana7200 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for the update but I’m glad you took the time to yourselves. I love you guys I’m so sorry I didn’t work out as you’d hoped.

@maryrentscher2316 5 месяцев назад

That entire process can be exhausting and full of very high highs and very low lows. Lean on each other. The Serenity Prayer helped us a lot to keep on going. Wishing you both all the best

@sylvynwye 5 месяцев назад

I have watched you both since before you were married. I have never communicated. Thanks for sharing your lives together with us. You are both beautiful human beings.❤

@bernice4599 5 месяцев назад

❤🙂❤️

@DavesRange 5 месяцев назад

Sheep

@jakebiomask 5 месяцев назад

They are a fake couple.

@sylvynwye 5 месяцев назад

@@jakebiomask I don't believe they are a fake couple.

@sylvynwye 5 месяцев назад

@@DavesRange Sheep?

@CelticRover42 5 месяцев назад

Love and solidarity to you both. Appreciate you continuing to share your story and ways to help and encourage others.

@annavallentin4662 5 месяцев назад

You 2 are so generous and brave to share your challenging journey and difficult results. Sending you very best wishes for peace and ultimate happiness.

@lysa64 5 месяцев назад

my husband never had any fishy swimmers! But we have kids from Peru, Guatemala and Korea! Wishing you the best in the future!

@glindagoodwitchofnorthview8287 5 месяцев назад

Congratulations on your family.

@CATNAPREAL1188 5 месяцев назад

Oh Thank Both of YOU ! To give a child a home, a mom and dad, siblings, a family and LOVE is what honest to GOD parents do. The skin color doesn't matter, the country doesn't matter they are helpless little humans that NEED A LOVE AND A FAMILY ! So SINCERELY THANK YOU for being Those People!!!

@SJC49 5 месяцев назад

You are blessed. My Chinese daughter is now 28 and has given me two beautiful grandsons who are my life. 😍🇨🇦

@dancer20617 5 месяцев назад

❤❤❤❤

@ravenc4912 5 месяцев назад

Why couldn't they adopt from America? MANY kids in America need homes and to be adopted.

@chocostashchick Месяц назад

I came here and found you after seeing your SBSK video. Your combined energy and chemistry is infectious. I was winding down getting ready for bed and all of a sudden it's 1.30 in the morning and I'm sucked into your journey. I'm so sorry it's rocky but I'm so grateful you have each other. You're survivors

@lacyshoenfelt1620 5 месяцев назад

Infertility is just this side of emotional hell. Making the decision to discontinue treatment is so hard but the best one we ever made. Sending you love and peace in this chapter.

@brittanyt33f 5 месяцев назад

Sending you both so much love from the Carolinas. Thank you for feeling safe to share that and for being vulnerable. I’m certain this video will help others who may be currently or have been down a similar path. I love seeing you two and admire your fairytale together. ❤

@pamcakes1 5 месяцев назад

You gave it a good shot. My heart goes out to you. IVF is so emotionally and physically taxing. I didn't read any comments and hoped for a happy ending (sans fishy swimmers), but I'm glad you two took some time and are feeling a bit recovered. Maybe one day you'll feel up to trying again, but if not, that's OK too.

@dearestdrew 5 месяцев назад

So sorry to hear the emotional rollercoaster you guys have been through. We were all rooting for the “fishy-swimmers” along with you. 💔 Whatever path leads you two to parenthood will be well worth these trials. It’s easy to see how much love you have to give your future child(ren), and each other. Thank you for being so open & honest - I’m sure your transparency is comforting to many. 🫂❤️

@TheCassierra908 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry for all the IVF struggles. It is so difficult. In 2005, my husband and i went through an unsuccessful IVF attempt. It was so extremely hard. For us the next year, we were blessed with our daughter amazingly naturally after 6 years of infertility. Thinking of you both. Wishing you all the best.

@mrsoph28 5 месяцев назад

Aw man, I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you. Glad you took time to yourselves to “get over it” as you say, who knows what the future holds for you two!

@jessicasmith307 5 месяцев назад

So sorry to hear about how your IVF journey ended this time. Thank you for sharing with us. Heartbreaking how hard it can be to conceive sometimes and how IVF is definitely not a guarantee of a baby 😢 I cried listening to this. It’s clear you both have been healing and getting through the heartache together. I had to do IVF too and it is incredibly emotional and overwhelming with so much pressure. Prayers for you both 💛

@kellylogsdon 5 месяцев назад

Hannah and Shane, thank you for sharing your journey with this. So many people need to hear this. I am sure it's very very hard to share.

@toesinthesea1829 5 месяцев назад

IVF can be all consuming, it gives hope to so many but the void can be devastating & long lasting if unsuccessful. To remain focused on each other is so important & like many couples, this journey can take you to those unexpected chapters in your story. Thank you for sharing, your honesty and courage will help others in so many ways.

@Sketcher93 5 месяцев назад

I just love your relationship with each other. I'm 65 and happily single since I never found anything close to what u 2 have. I wouldn't settle for less so I fell in love with my independence. Cheers 🥂. Your admirer and lover of happiness, no matter how we get there ❣️.

@thefilipinojoe 5 месяцев назад

I agree 🎉 that single life is way UNDERRATED. I’ve enjoyed a GREAT life and am very happy. Part of the reason I am single is because I love my freedom, independence, and ability to do WTF I wanna do! Life is good and I plan to keep it that way. ❤

@kortneykennedy7303 5 месяцев назад

Do you want to be friends with me on tex I'm a girl I'm 38 old I'm in a wheel chair my body hurts me every day so if I ask you too play with your body on tex

@kortneykennedy7303 5 месяцев назад

Take a shower 🚿 for me then I will tell you what to do to your body on tex

@JulieIreland 5 месяцев назад

Saaame! Just turned 43. I live for my 3 daughters (ages 20, 18, and 14) and MYSELF. I'm 1000000% content!

@jennifernewell2530 5 месяцев назад

I'm sorry for what you've gone through and the unfortunate result. I'm glad you're relaxing, enjoying each other...and you'll figure out what's next when you do. Love from St. Louis.

@susaninpgh 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for the update! You two are so brave to share your journey.

@oliviar.4416 5 месяцев назад

Oh wow, sooo emotionally intense! Thanks for sharing your journey with us. Wishing you happiness in whatever form it takes.

@kelliedaeges555 5 месяцев назад

All support in your journey, it will come 🙏 ❤

@heathergosse 5 месяцев назад

I'm an embryologist, from Minnesota but currently live/work in Houston, TX, and omg I'm so sorry to hear about your journey! Working in the IVF lab, it's so heartbreaking when embryos die or a pregnancy doesn't "stick". Wishing you guys all the positive energy presently and in the future if you try IVF again.

@galaxymel18 5 месяцев назад

Thank goodness for embryologists! We go to NY for treatment and they are amazing. Which clinic are you with in Houston?

@Bronskibeatfan 5 месяцев назад

It’s great that you have time to comment you should call them maybe.

@TechP 5 месяцев назад

@heathergosse can 7 million per mL successfully fertilise egg without any complications?

@irishlydia 5 месяцев назад

I would not have had my children without embyrologists or ivf. I suffered with recurrent miscarriages for over 10 years until I had my little miracle and currently pregnant with my 2nd after few more losses.

@WrenPadget 5 месяцев назад

It is equally heartbreaking they are destroyed if not used . Your logic makes no sense. Be happy only when the embryo is wanted. I am a lab tech also, 30 years

@kenbales9837 5 месяцев назад

You guys are the best, you can see the love between you two. Don't give up.

@sarahwilliams5376 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing this rough news guys. So glad you can support one another through this tough time. Be kind to yourselves xxx

@AnnaBaas 5 месяцев назад

Seeing my friends go through IVF, I’m pretty sure this is about the most you can ask of people. So hard. Glad to see you’re in a good place now and whatever will happen in the kids department, you will leave a beautiful mark on the world.

@InsaneAng 5 месяцев назад

This was similar to my story. We only tried once. Too many people will say things to you that hurt but are intended to help! I don’t know how many times someone told me, “You’ll see, it’ll happen when you’re not expecting it!” “Just relax, it will happen eventually.” We had our kids through foster adoption and I am at a place where I am happy in many ways that it happened that way.

@ericherman5413 5 месяцев назад

God bless you both. We're all rooting for you. Keep your chins up and maybe you will see better luck with it in the future. ❤

@jeffreycormier5754 5 месяцев назад

My heart just sunk for you 2. You have been on this for quite some time now. You both so deserve each other right now and always. Sending big hugs.

@Karissa.Bendel 5 месяцев назад

The journey of infertility is so difficult! my husband and I have been on it for over a year now! We are starting our first IVF cycle in the next few months! Sending you both love in this challenging season🫶🏻

@bobbyt2012 5 месяцев назад

Y'all are champs for putting this out there. It's such a tough thing that lots of people go through, but not that many people hear about. So happy you have a strong relationship and can get through the hardship. Much love to you both.

@keidwyn 5 месяцев назад

So new to the lives of Squirmy and Grubs ,sounds like an exhausting rollercoaster ,Im sure you both had some pretty tough days but I love how you are both still able to smile and kid around ,laughter can be the best balm ,sending good vibes from Melbourne Australia .PS you guys give me hope regarding having a relationship I've kissed sooooo many toads that I lost hope ,but your love is beautiful and yeah I get it nothing is perfect ect but it feels to me so healthy and respectful ,guess what Im trying to say is ... I'd love to have what you guys have

@user-mf6qx1hn2r 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for telling your story! I can't imagine how that felt! Praying things work out for you in whatever way that may be!🙏🏻💞

@mrs.k6169 5 месяцев назад

You two are awesome. Take all the time you need... it was but a stepping stone for future blessing. You're still young, and you never know what the future holds. ❤

@Zeldagirl64 5 месяцев назад

I just started watching you both, hugs and enjoy each-other ❤️❤️

@user-ff2wk6hf7m 5 месяцев назад

I love you both. Sending big hugs & just knowing you have each other is amazing. ❤

@TaylorHaselton 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Thank you for sharing with us all.

@karinjohnson6649 5 месяцев назад

Thank you both for sharing your journeys. We are honored to be a part of your lives!

@chelseahealingtoheal 5 месяцев назад

Love your intro song!!! You guys are loved and supported ❤ thank you for being so open and brave going through this! I am so glad you have each other

@Bexar2204 5 месяцев назад

Talk about an emotional rollercoaster, I´m so sorry for you that it didn´t happen. Hope you´re doing well in LA.

@fadumohussein9519 5 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry! I pray you’re blessed with many babies together sooner than later .. healthy and happy!!

@jaycole2109 5 месяцев назад

Praying for you, and everyone going through such troubles. It’s hard!

@DoctorJoanieTool 5 месяцев назад

Sending you all love and peace. You are a beautiful couple and I hope there is a way - any kind of way - adoption or IVF or surprise - for you to be parents. Only because I know you’d like to be parents and you’d be wonderful ones! But your life is already filled with love and respect and adventure. I am glad you have each other and your beautiful family together. ☮️

@barbaraoertli5947 5 месяцев назад

So sorry, hugs from Minnesota ❤

@courtneyrichwine9235 4 месяца назад

You both share so much, I hope people appreciate your willingness to share such personal experiences. I’m incredibly sorry for the difficulties. With how hard I’m sure things have been, you both seem so strong! Praying for the best in your future journey 💕🙏🏻

@alysonteal9705 5 месяцев назад

Well we are excited to see where life takes y’all. A new road isn’t always easy but we know you’ll find adventure along the way

@lexipace6928 5 месяцев назад

Been a watched for years! Love you guys so much!

@heatherbrien5250 5 месяцев назад

So much empathy for you both. 💕

@lisa-marie4938 5 месяцев назад

My husband and I did two IVF's and it was so exhausting. I am thinking of you guys as it doesn't end as soon as the results are given. The process from beginning to end is a roller coaster and even after. I kept it all in, until years later (5ish) and now I allow myself to express the hurt. You two are so optimistic from all the videos I have seen, please make sure to take care of yourselves. I am glad you took the holidays for yourselves. If anyone has something to say - omg, what world are we living in? oh, a weird one.Maybe not the best choice of word, but I can't even think of one that fits. It's a sad time where there is no respect and I just hope people are not selfish and give you hate because they didn't get a video, or question your channel legitimacy. I adore both of you and followed from the start and now my mom watches 63yr old :) Positive thoughts your way for a future with a little one or with the family you have now, like my husband and I. Maybe adoption or big sister for me, but who knows :)

@scherre 5 месяцев назад

I've seen you guys a couple of times on instagram but this is the first time I came across your RU-vid channel. I'm sorry to hear it has been so challenging for you. I have known other people who also didn't have a straightforward path to parenthood and know how very personal and intense the process can be. I wish you all the best luck, whether you decide to pursue other options or not.

@dianedavidson5283 5 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry, honeys. That's a super, super rough thing. Thank you for being willing to share this very deep low. Best to you both.

@davidgiancoli2106 5 месяцев назад

Best of luck to both of you. I and your many viewers care!

@Mosiebaby 4 месяца назад

You are such beautiful people. Thank you for sharing your story and journey. It can be such a process and we are sending you all hugs!

@lesliemeadows6980 5 месяцев назад

Sending you lots of love 💕. Thank you for sharing your story!

@Wuv2000 5 месяцев назад

My husband had very low sperm and we did several rounds of ivf. Finally we went the adoption route and had a beautiful baby girl and boy. Totally happy but after 10 years I suddenly got pregnant all on our own! A precious son was born. They are all grown now but we have been blessed with 3 children who are all ours. Keep doing what you can for a child but there are precious babies out there that need good parents!

@SJC49 5 месяцев назад

My 28 year old Chinese daughter has given me two beautiful grandsons who are my life. Aren’t we lucky?😍🇨🇦

@JeffMcDuffie72MeridianGate 5 месяцев назад

You're husband needs enclomiphene. His testosterone is probably flat lined

@Wuv2000 5 месяцев назад

@@SJC49 we absolutely are!

@FreeMare1042 5 месяцев назад

Such precious blessings.

@Koreleine 5 месяцев назад

I hear this so often, that people are told they will not get pregnant naturally and when they give up, suddenly the miracle happen. Nature goes weird ways sometimes.

@jdaasa2011 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing your story. Hugs to you both.

@lourdessdarveniza3207 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing - you did your best and you should be proud of it .... what is inspirational about you two is that you love each other .... enjoy your freedom and continued opportunities to expand your professional creativity. You are so young and smart - rest for a while enjoy basking in the sun so to speak until you decide to tackle the next challenge ..... God bless you

@donnalaughlinhogan3819 5 месяцев назад

Aw so sorry to hear your news ……glad you took time to adsorb this ….its so difficult to go through …take care both of you .enjoy your videos ♥️🇨🇦

@RianShafer 5 месяцев назад

I'm sorry it didn't work out this time. It's good that you've given yourself time to be able to talk about it. You didn't have to. Hugzzzz to you both.

@taraschmidheini4674 5 месяцев назад

I lLOVE the various stories & support shared here!!!! I see firure children indeed, theyre going to be awesome swimmers too! Gods clearly got you two, stay encouraged. I love & appreciate tou both 😘😘

@kristenkaz3080 5 месяцев назад

This is an emotionally exhausting journey & I’m so sorry this path took you on a detour. But detours lead us on winding paths that become a new journey. When you’re ready, you guys will unroll a new map, & new journey will be before you. Hang in there. Whatever you decide is your decision. We love you guys & we’re here for you. ❤❤❤❤

@DirlingSwervish 5 месяцев назад

I'm glad you didn't talk about this until you were ready. ❤It's such a difficult rollercoaster. Thinking of you and just wanted you to know I understand.

@catwmn14 5 месяцев назад

Embryo adoption might be an option for you! We struggled with infertility and loss for the past five years before we moved onto embryo adoption. I got pregnant on the first try and it has been such a blessing for us! We love this little boy so much even though he’s not genetically related to us. Being pregnant with him makes me just as much his mom and it’s created a special bond. You can even adopt whole batches of embryos so that you can have genetic siblings! I know it’s not everyone’s first choice but it’s a beautiful option to consider.

@mekol3627 5 месяцев назад

What the... Playing with life. This is not natural at all

@phantasma616 5 месяцев назад

@@mekol3627 so rude. IVF and IUI aren't natural either but MANY people are here because their parents did them. how children are brought into this world is none of your business.

@Katee_and_Lincoln 5 месяцев назад

Genes make people, but People make families 🥰🥰🥰

@catwmn14 5 месяцев назад

@@mekol3627 the embryos are already created when another couple goes through IVF, whether you agree with it or not. People often have remaining embryos that they’re not able to carry or they made so many that they are done growing their family and can’t possibly use them all. I think it’s amazing that we’re able to give those babies life that they wouldn’t otherwise have.

@mekol3627 5 месяцев назад

@@catwmn14 so. Adress the cause of these "remaining embryos". Sounds like you talk about shoes or something. What is the limit in this playing with lives topic?

@r.w.856 5 месяцев назад

Good to know y’all are well, though the news was sad. But I’m very thankful both of you are content to wait to see what happens. All the best and prayers that a door will open for you to enjoy a little one.

@kristinewilson8712 5 месяцев назад

I"m happy you are in a place to post a video about it but I'm sure it's still hard. You both are in my thoughts, and I wish you the best.

@esmemendez3391 5 месяцев назад

The way I clicked on this video so quick! Aha love you guys!!

@llshamp1424 5 месяцев назад

Sending you both SO much love...❤

@colsewell1512 5 месяцев назад

Totally there with you both. We are only just starting our IVF journey but everything in the UK takes SO long. Not sure how it is in the US, but here in England the communication is awful especially when it comes to giving bad news/bad results. I think it's really sensible to pause and reflect and give yourselves time to heal. At the end of the day, children are a blessing but they aren't the be all and end all of happiness. True happiness can be found all around us as long as we look for it. Sending you both lots of positive vibes ❤

@almaritagaleone8130 5 месяцев назад

So sorry, wishing the VERY best for you !! Keeping good thoughts for you!!

@amberaboushahba1576 5 месяцев назад

IVF is hard emotionally, I did 3 cycles and with the hormones and everything it does take its tole. Sorry for your troubles but nice that u guys have positive attitude, even if you didn't I feel for you guys.

@dagmar9230 5 месяцев назад

Wishing you both the very best❤❤❤

@Diegos_Mansion 5 месяцев назад

Lot’s of love for you guys. You’re helping others so much. Thanks for sharing your story.

@woundedwarriorartist6315 5 месяцев назад

Sending prayers for you guys. May God bless you two. ❤

@sgough83 5 месяцев назад

As an adoptive mom to 2, don't give up. Take your time to process. Sending love and peace ❤

@debbiehunt5940 5 месяцев назад

I hope you guys don’t give up in the long run, you guys would make great parents.

@amylouwilliams83 5 месяцев назад

U 2 are so cute 🥰 I can’t imagine how hard this has been for you both & sharing it with everyone. Praying for u both & hoping parenthood will come to u both soon ❤❤❤

@caroncheatwood2566 5 месяцев назад

Y'all are such great people, I'm so sorry it hasn't worked for you... yet. Sending prayers and good vibes your way❤❤❤❤

@annanz2 5 месяцев назад

My hub & I stopped trying for baby after 13 years- I'm 43 now, so it was more that than anything. IVF sucks, infertility sucks and all that comes with it- lifestyle changes, invasive procedures, stupid questions & suggestions from those that have no idea , periods & turning sex into a chore. I wish nothing but the best for you both & take care of yourselves. X