OVERCOMING A MESSY HOME 

yes this book is wonderful. She says it is for neurodivergent people but its really for anyone who is struggling. Everyone with adhd is different so I dont think it is only helpful for them.

My in laws have such a hoarder home. Things haven’t been touched in 30 years… board game nobody plays, encyclopedias and books never touched, old trinkets and things nobody cares about or would even notice if they were gone. They come to my very minimalist house and call it “sterile and cold” 😂 I don’t have trinkets, books, board games. I can move every item in my home and clean under it every single day without over exerting myself.

@@jackielowrey3032 100% I love my parents dearly, but they tend to hoard and when they came over for Thanksgiving they couldn't believe my house set up! My mom was shocked I only had 1 potato peeler LOL. But totally clean up is a breeze with a highly simplified home!

@@jackielowrey3032 Good for you! However, before you criticize your in-laws too harshly, make sure your husband has not left anything of his own stuff behind, whatever it might be. I have two grown and married kids, both with homes bigger than ours, and I've had to put pressure on them to come and collect their own belongings that remain behind. Something else to consider, each generation comes with literally their own baggage- As boomers, we inherited quite a bit of stuff from my own parents and in-laws when they passed on. That generation came out of the Depression mind-set where absolutely nothing was ever thrown away. (Twist-ties, rubber bands, old car parts, boxes of old photographs, used gift wrap, chipped dishes, even ration cards from WWII... you name it.) That outlook was passed on to us to a lesser degree. My husband and I have been working hard in our retirement to purge, so our kids and grandkids aren't left with the chore of clearing it all out once we are out of the picture. We've now got a good handle on minimalism. You might want to encourage your husband to encourage and help his parents with decluttering now. Otherwise, there will come a day when you and he are left holding the bag.

Amber this means so much! Thank you so much for taking your time to comment. I am glad I'm not alone and we all could use the encouragement!

@@PhilandAlex, when I started commenting, I found myself in a similar situation, with my little ones, as you with your daughter in the background (when you were talking about the living room tips/tricks and then your train of thought got thrown off it's track because you got distracted for a millisecond haha). I almost decided to throw in the towel on commenting, so I'm doubly glad I decided to! I actually always felt alone with how our dynamic of both parents having add/adhd. I never knew any others with this dynamic until you two shared it. It's warming to know my comment actually had some kind of impact also, so thank you for taking the time to let me know that (: sorry for the rambles! I just felt like I needed to share this and respond (:

And we love that you're here!

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Goodness that’s probably my biggest flaw! I’ll leave the room to put something in the laundry, which is in my garage, then I’ll see a kitchen towel, so I’ll go to the kitchen and then I’ll load the dishwasher, then I’ll remember the room I was working on, oh but that sock on the floor belongs to my husband, so I walk to our room, then I make the bed, oh but the kids bed need made, so I pass the bathroom on the way to their room, well darn, I need to sweep the floor in there, so I go back to the garage to grab the broom and swiffer, but I might as well sweep the whole house and mop, oh but wait, what about that first room I was still working on. Etc etc etc etc 🥲🥲🥲 I need to work on staying put in ONE room at a time because it drives me nuts to go room to room to room room in a matter of 5 minutes.

I just wanted to say that I believe in you and I know you can do it! Please be forgiving of your body and your limitations ❤ It's okay to just not be able to "do it" 🫶 Even if it doesn't get done today you still get to go to bed a whole, valuable, accomplished person. You are still enough 🫂 You're allowed to only do so much as you can comfortably do. You're allowed to prioritize your mind, body and spirit. You have permission to exist in whatever capacity that you need to today ❤

You’ll be great and do a wonderful job! 🌺

@@kaelabelle4886 Thank you, truly. ❤

@@smithface8791 I have to be finished by Mon., 12/3, thankfully, my niece will be here tomorrow (11/30).. Once I get this organized, I can keep it that way.. I pray. Blessings to you, Merry Christmas.

@@kaelabelle4886 God Bless you, Merry Christmas, thank you....

YES! Timers are a GREAT tool! There is a lot of "time blindness" in our home.

Communicate directly and tell them you need this this and that. They cannot assume when complete looks like for you, but they can understand if you are direct. Absolutely do not be passive

I agree…appears to be more disorganization and some lack of interest….all these tips seem very overwhelming….

🤦‍♀️ pay attention. Also, let’s remember she’s a nurse.

@@heathermacdonald5986like you would know better than Alex. Get over yourself.

@@LeahFairfield …I think it is very easy for us all to self diagnose whether we have medical training or not…sometimes the more we know is not necessarily a good thing…..and you have a nice day as well!

@@heathermacdonald5986 Alex knows herself better than anyone. Better than a complete stranger on the internet, especially.