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Something that really helps me is some religious songs that truly reminds me we are all struggling, but blessed. Most of them are joyful even if you don't really listen to the song. Some Gospel music really pushes me to stand up and keep going
Each night after I clean up the dishes and then my sink, I do my little “Diane in Denmark” routine of drying and polishing the sink, and I always wonder how many people AROUND THE WORLD are also thinking of you as they polish their sink dry every night.
Every morning after I put in my LOL I stop and get my water bottle filled with electrolytes. It’s a little self care and removes that low grade headache I wake up with. Then I am ready to tackle the rest of my AM routine before getting out the door! These routines were encouraged by Diane over the years and they help me so much! Thank you Diane!🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for the tips. My husband passed in January we were married 40 years some days I have found myself sitting all day! I’m going to try them next time I’m stuck in the chair. Hugs to you
I lost my Mom in October of 2017 and my Husband of 20 years in December of n2017. Then we had COVID. I gave myself permission to take my time to grieve. There was some many things that I needed to do. I took my time going through their things. When I felt overwhelmed I put aside the items that were so stressing and did something simple. I was living on automatic pilot. In 2023 I found that I had done a lot and now I was ready to tackle the hard stuff with a clearer understanding of what was important to keep. This is what worked for me. Give yourself time to process your loss, there is no set timetable.
I lost my beloved father a year ago and I’ve sunk into a black hole. So I completely understand you sitting in a chair all day. Grief can paralyse. Be very gentle with yourself.
I do a 20/20/20 pattern, set a timer for 20 minutes and do stuff, when 20 minutes is up set it for another 20 minutes and relax, either read or watch RU-vid, then when the timer goes off again do another 20 minutes of tidying.
This may seem like a crazy tip - but on days when I sink into too much RU-vid I have managed to end up with some super productive days despite. I press the play button, start to watch something and as soon as the video has caught my attention I immediately press pause and force myself to get up and do 2-3 tasks - big or small. The paused video becomes my incentive to move quickly! It is surprising how much you can accomplish on this "pause/work fast/play" mode repeated during the day!
I do get depressed for no good reason. Chatting with people really helps. I phone or go for a walk and say hello to people I pass, even a trip to the grocery store and chat with the clerks helps.
Diane, thank you so much for your beautiful content you share so consistently 🌸 I love the quick pupa 🧡 In the morning I felt slightly depleted, and what can I say ... in the afternoon I was doing my kitchen and had little dances to Creedence Clearwater Revival's greatest hits 💜👏
I got up and started a load of laundry. Then, I started checking my fall wardrobe. Seeing my tops all together gave me a shudder. Most were varying shades of gray. I will be donating most and adding more color to my tops. Have a lovely day. 😊
When I start cleaning after dinner I can be awake till 3 in the morning without effort. Because I don't get interrupted... But my family doesn't like the noise 😂
5-Second Rule is a Mel Robbins book. Monday, I started off so motivated, but my kitchen was a disaster and I was immediately defeated. After my morning walk with my friend, she was super motivated to declutter and organize in her home. I was super motivated too, but not to clean the kitchen. What I wanted to do was move furniture and style our hallway (we moved in to a new house in April). BUT, subconsciously I felt guilty and as if it would be a waste of time and energy that “should” be used to clean the kitchen. I wasn’t aware this is how I was feeling until I reflected on it yesterday. So instead of doing what I was motivated and longing to do, and instead of cleaning the kitchen, I sat on the couch all day - paralyzed. “Just one more video” and didn’t get up until late afternoon. 🤷🏻♀️
Get some Bluetooth headphones and pick a long video that you can listen to and clean the kitchen during the video. It helps me fold my laundry and get things done.
While I'm waiting for my tea water to get hot, I clean something in the kitchen, wipe off a counter or finger marks from the fridge. If nothing else gets done that day, at least I made my bed when I got up and did that bit of cleaning.👍
Thank you Diane. My youngest son lost his first baby with a second trimester miscarriage so I’ve found myself somewhat paralyzed lately. Slowly starting to get back at things so these tips are very timely.
Hi Diane! Thank you for making this video! We all have moments at different times. When im in this spot I try to do something of comfort a walk with my dog, lighting candles and just cleaning my space. Something that makes me focus on gratitude.
Thank you for these tips, Diane! They’re good whether brought low by loss or illness. Thank you for all you do, Diane. Sending lots of hugs from Florida. 💙💕
I must admit it’s not often that I watch the Television but when I was going through a bad patch some years ago, I got into the habit of watching daytime shows and I made myself get up and do something productive every time a commercial came on. It sounds so small and insignificant but it did add up at the end of the morning.
A music teacher told the kids to practice their music homework and exercises just in the 4-5 min commercials and those kids all ended up playing in primary school and high school bands. Small things….compound and add up to big achievements.
I like the idea of starting a load of laundry or the dishwasher. Another tip is to make yourself a very nice drink and snack using a beautiful cup or glass and plate like you would for a visiting friend. Maybe that is more of a self-care tip but it always makes me feel a bit better and helps me get moving.
Great tips Diane. I find routines help me to move if I’m not feeling good. Mornings I tidy as I move through the house and afternoons I potter in the garden if it’s dry. Just simple tasks, nothing big. Having something to look forward to is also a great motivator……..even if it’s having a bubble bath or watching a favourite film at the end of the day 😊
Thanks so much! I was very recently diagnosed with ADHD, at 70 years old. My new therapist says she almost never meets a new client my age. For the first time in years, I have hope.
That colour of blue looks amazing on you Diane, it really brings out your eyes. I'm off to Edinburgh next week, I'll have a think about your mum when I'm walking along George Street x
You, more than anyone, have taught me the value of 5 minutes. 5 minutes of tidying or resetting a room lifts my spirits as does gardening which is my therapy.🦋🦋🦋
Great video and advice! Looking forward to next weeks event and also more decluttering videos! Am helping elderly parents declutter and myself ahead of downsizing in next few years! Great to be following along! It’s funny how you hold onto things for so long and then as you move into a different stage of life sometimes you are totally ready to let go and can’t even understand why you felt the need to hold onto the items! Different seasons bring different emotions and challenges etc. 😊
I can relate to the countdown - the days when you cannot get out of the chair, that's what they do when you bungee or Zipline! Huge leap.... It works. That To-do list I do in reverse: Write EVERYTHING down. Feeding dog, getting dressed, folding washing, everything... Then, in stead of scratching it out, take a highligher and highlight the stuff you DID do. I find that at the end of the day, even if you just manage a few items, you will know that you didn't end up doing nothing (the scratch outs make you feel you didn't get much done, while recognizing the highlights, you are aware of the positive).
Grief is just the hardest thing. I miss my Mum every day. We are doing ‘firsts’ of everything without her. There are days where I am stuck, but mostly I get through one step at a time and doing my routines.
Sometimes you can wake up in the morning and for no particular reason feel blah. For me some sort of exercise usually helps, if it's nice outside a long walk is great or if it the weather is nasty a lady on RU-vid from Australia has some great exercise videos, Fabulous Fifties Workout. She is very encouraging and the exercises are doable, unlike some of the other RU-vidrs. When I am over thinking things I like to listen to music, usually early rock n roll which is very upbeat and not something manufactured in a studio. I especially like Come Dancing by the Kinks and I Knew The Bride When She Used To Rock and Roll by Nick Lowe, their videos are also funny. If I am just brushing my teeth or getting a meal ready I will watch a video and it really does improve my mood. Of course Diane's videos are always uplifting. The blue dress is fabulous and it brings out the colour your eyes.
How to Keep House While Drowning has a similar note to that countdown tip. Just decide only to stand up. Once you are up you have WON. Then you can do a 1 min task or realize you need the restroom etc. but the key is you have to be serious that you just stand up. Because if you yell at yourself to go do the whole FlyLady home blessing or you failed, you won’t stand up the next time. It’s so helpful. I usually just walk to the kitchen and life goes on somehow while I’m up in a way that seems impossible before I stand!
I love all of these ideas! Some days it is hard to just get started because there seems to be so much to do. One quick task can break the ice and get me moving.
Thank you, Diane. When I’m in a slump I think to myself “just do the next right thing”. I think about what that is (if I could get one thing done, what would it be, and start there) then I tell myself that if I get that done it’s enough. Once that’s completed I assess. It’s usually enough to get me moving but if not, I do it again. What is the next right thing to do? It could be to have a cup of tea. It could be folding 5 items of laundry. It helps me every single time.
My Dad passed away 7 weeks ago now, and yes moving through the grief can be hard some days. Music for me is always something helpful to get me motivated while doing certain tasks 🥰🎵
I keep my daily 'to do' list, to a maximum of 3 items only - that way, its rare I don't complete those tasks each day. That gives me a boost to do a few more from my 'master rolling list', or simply to pat myself on the back and go off and do something enjoyable.
Sometimes when I'm stuck in my chair, I start seriously small - sometimes I have to start just wiggling my fingers, then my toes, then maybe gently move my head from side to side, then nod it up and down; then maybe stretch an arm, the other arm, a leg.... untill slowly my body is literally moving. Then I stand up. And when I do I congratulate myself for getting up!
Oh, dear Diane! I am so sorry for your loss! losing a mom is hard. Even when you know it is time and her body is all worn out. I am so thankful to you for sharing this hard time with us and allowing us to learn from you ways to handle grief. You are so open and generous. Also as always, thank you for sharing your declutterring process. I had to laugh as you explained why you were letting go of your 5 K bib. As I was listening to you, I was putting away things from a cruise we have just returned from. I had moments before tucked into our drawer to save my cruise key card. It has absolutely no use now and I have plenty of better ways to remember the cruise. So out it goes! Thank you!
On the days when I have the blahs and no energy I follow your advice about the top of the hour. Also I do a load of washing. Other days I set a time that I have to start a task.I find it works. 😀
I lost my sister on the 31st of July of cancer. There are times that I go into a frenzy of action tidying my house AND sorting out her house also, documents, clothes, books all the silly things that a person accumulates during hers-his life. But there are times that I can only sit and stare. I have my son to take care of and that helps but it's really difficult. I have an appointment with a psychologist on the 11th and with a lawyer on the 12th for the inheritance detail. Be strong people and my best regards. THANK YOU DIANE!!!
Water water water!!! So important. I heard once that fatigue and water intake are linked. Don’t get fatigued and THEN grab some water. Head off the fatigue by being proactive with your water intake.
3-2-1 🎉🎉 go go go!! Thanks for showing up Diane and everyone ❤ Mostly you showed up for yourself!! that’s the important thing. FLY stands for finally loving yourself (or first love yourself) That’s the key ❤
What a great point to just text and feel connection without that feeling of having to talk while grieving or stressed. I tend to isolate myself because conversations while I’m not myself is just exhausting. I will remember this! Thank you Diane ❤
Hi Diane! Happy Wednesday! Thank you for these tips. Very helpful! I find when I am having the blahs or stressed I tend to isolate myself. Next time I am going to try the texting to connect. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day! 🤗
Hi Diane, I also put a load of laundry in the machine and get the dishwasher loaded up and running. I usually find this enough to get me going, but if not at least I've done something constructive! The other evening I had unwisely gone to sit down in front of the TV, without clearing up in the kitchen and didn't want to get up again. Then I heard you saying 'You don't have to want to do it, you just have to do it.' I did it and I was so glad the following morning. Thank you.
Another idea you had given us in the past was to start doing something at the "Top of the Hour." I've done that in the past to get me started. Great video and great ideas! Thanks for all you motivation.
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Thank you, Diane, for these great tips. I had one of those days today. I slept later than I meant to and then just couldn't get moving. Doing something small helps. Also, making the bed wakes me up and makes me realise that, yes, the day has started!🎉
Thank you so much for this video. It actually brought me to tears - like tears of some kind of relief. I don't know how to explain it. I am thinking of you and your family - the grief from losing your mom I'm sure is so very very painful and hard to work through. I've not lost a loved one so I never thought about grief as why I"m struggling with feelings of blahs and just waves of sadness but as I listened to you and thought about it - I do feel grief. Like immense grief - and I haven't had anyone in my life pass away. A few years ago I discovered my husband's infidelity. It was so painful and so confusing and full of so much deception that I ended up very fearful and insecure. But I am a fighter and I fought through it all and now lately I just have these overwhelming moments of sadness and thought maybe I am struggling with something - and something clicked in me watching this - it's a kind of grief. Grief that my life didn't turn out the way I planned, envisioned, that my husband wasn't who I thought he was and that my family wasn't the perfect little family that i thought it was. It just never clicked with me before that it's grief. And I do need to lean into self care, I'm great at keeping up with the house and my job but my body is a mess - I've gained lots of weight, I eat tons of fast food, I go days without drinking water or connecting with someone outside of work (I am defintely in survival mode still). I am going to shoot a text to my friend today who I haven't spoke to in months whom I love her so much and miss her - and I'm going to put lotion on my hands and a little oil on my cuticles. It doesn't sound like much but I have to work a 9 hour shift today and I"m needing to start somewhere.
Sending love in your time of grief bc of your mother’s passing. I lost my mom over 20 years ago, so I can relate. Thanks for the good tips! The countdown is from Mel Robbins, a popular podcaster in the U.S. it definitely works! Cheers!
Hello, I suffer from depression and often find myself stuck but also thinking that I need to get going. Some hears ago I found a helpful tip and that is to visualize a task completed or visualize how you want your room to look. I find that a great motivation and also as you and others say, just do one small task to get yourself going. A number of years ago I could not see what was wrong with my living room, very tidy (ocd) but something amiss. I took pictures with my iPad and there it was, the open shelf at the bottom of the sideboard was tidy but cluttered. Since then I use this technique to get my visualization started. Doing this I find I often think of things I can do whilst nodding off to sleep. Thanks so much for this very helpful video.
Thank you for sharing your journey with grief. You help so many with the tools you give us. When I was paralyzed with grief after losing my daughter, Rachel, a tip that helped me was to engage the 5 senses to bring me back to the present and be able to function and take the next step forward for the day. Always appreciate you, Diane. I’m loving watching your subscriber numbers go up! 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for your wonderful helpful suggestions and tips Diane! To reach out and help others in your time of grief is 🙌. Another tip of mine is when you start a task and get some progress and momentum going. Put up your hand and then reach down with it and give yourself a big pat on the back. I used to use this as a teacher…..but it is good for everyone….particularly those who live alone.
When I lost my baby five years ago it felt like my world stopped moving. But I still had to keep going somehow behause I had two other kids. Some Friends suggested to cook for our family for two weeks. That was so helpful! It really meant a lot as I wasnt able to decide on what to cook/ i lost my appetite.
Hello Diane. I’ve listened to your request about asking us to leave a comment on your videos in return for you putting out three videos a week. I felt bad because I’ve been watching your videos previously and enjoying them so much but rarely commenting, sorry. So I am trying to comment on each of your videos that I watch now 🤗 I just wanted to say that I love your little white brooch. It really adds something special to the outfit. Thank you for motivating us. Looking forward to hearing your talk next Tuesday. Love from Hayley in the UK
Je me sens souvent très près de vous, Diane, quand vous décrivez ces journées où rien ne va et l'on arrive pas à commencer quoi que ce soit. Les petits trucs que vous utilisez sont les miens aussi. ça me fait toujours du bien de vous voir et de vous entendre. Je vous offre aussi mes plus sincères condoléances. J'ai perdu ma mère voilà 5 ans, j'avais 55 ans, ça été très dur parce qu'elle était si aimable. elle souffrait aussi d'une forme de démence.
🙋🇳🇱 I am at the other side of the voltmeter ⏲️ I feel like a pinball ball that gets launched over and over🚀 and has to score in each corner of life. All positive and exciting things that give loads of energy but maybe a bit too dazzling.Who is familiar to that feeling? Like you are in a rollercoaster🎢 that never stops🤸🤾🏋️🤹The good news: here the 5-minute-reset and the routines almost works out like self-care. I try to do stick to the little routines and pupa's and that gives me time to breathe and to slow down a bit. 🧘🧚🌻Thank you 🙏
Thanks Diane it really does work and is also productive decluttered the medicine cupboard go rid of all the out of date stuff made a list of what needs replacing👍
When I have a difficult day I dress extra fancy, put some lipstick and make up on and perfume. So I feel special and want to have also an elegant clean home 😊 Started already with christmas menu planning 😅 My husband was so happy last year that it worked so well so he started with his ideas 🎉❤
