Pakistan main 2sri Shadi Ek Masla Q? Sahil Adeem | Ask Sahil 

Why ex insisted the second husband. Why did he listen to him .

@@mobeenakhan3630 it is reality they cannot see the woman get prosperous or settled well . They divorce women as threat or punishment.

Jab aurtain esy tarha 2 ya 3 shaadian kary gi tub ja k en mardo ki aqal tikany lag jae gi.

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@@bismakhan5393 exactly

Phir vo he kahain ...hw can he b a Pakistani....respect ND gratitude r vry small words.....v need 2 listen ND think carefully what he saya

Dono nay zulm kia?

Mee too be strong

@@taym2720 no woman try her best to save relationship

Assalamu alaikum. Allah apko behtareen sathi dy jo akhirah mae b apka sathi ho ameeen ❤️❤️❤️

@@saniaaziz8134 i am searching for divorce women.who prayer 5 time

Exactly

true

Marriage is all about equality. Ye baat kahan se aa jati hai k pehli bivi se shadi piyar or mohabbat k jazbaat me ki jaye, or dusri bivi se SAHARA or REHM ki wajah se ki jaye? Dusri bivi ka kya kasoor hai k usay mohabbat dene ki bjaye ye feel krwaya jaye k usay sahara dia ja raha hai? Marriage isa relationship of care and love, not just finance and money. For a second, consider yourself a second wife, or apna hi comment dobara parhen.

اگر کوئی مرد صرف شہوت پوری کرنے کے لیے بھی کر رہا ہے تو بھی کوئی بری بات نہیں، کیونکہ جو مرد زنا کے بجائے کسی کی پوری ذمہداری اٹھاتا ہے وہ عدل ہی کرے گا۔ باقی یہ تاثر غلط ہے کہ مرد لوگ کم عمر حسین سے ہی شادی کرتے ہیں، ہاں ڈراموں اور ٹی وی پر دیکھایا جاتا ہے،اور یہی سوچ معاشرے میں عام ہو گئی ہے۔ میری دوسری مجھ سے بیس سال بڑی تھی، مجھے کہتی تھی جب تم پیدا ہوئے تھے میں یونیورسٹی میں تھی، خیر محبت کا تعلق ظاہری شکل وغیرہ سے نہیں ہوتا۔ بات وہی ہے نکاح آسان ہو اور طلاق بھی آسان، اور یہ معاملہ زندگی موت کا نہیں ہونا چاہیے، مگر جب مرد عورت سمجھ لیں کہ زندگی میں ایک بار ہی ہونا ہے بس پھر موت ہے چاہے جو الو کا پٹھہ یا پٹھی ٹکر جائے،

Usama aziz valid point..... Jawab do ab

Aik hi shadi krni ho tu kiya ye zrori nahi. Aik k liye b dekha jata hai ye sb.

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Kya baat kahi mohtarma MASHALLAH

کس کتاب میں لکھا ہے صلاحیت،، ،،؟ اللہ پاک کا حکم ہے اگر تمہیں زنا کا اندیشہ پڑ جائے تو نکاح کرو ایک ایک دو دو تین تین چار چار ،، تاکہ کنوارہ 80 غلام کو40 کوڑے شادی شدہ رجیم موت ان زنا کرنے والوں کو جمعہ کی نماز کے بعد سزا دینے کا حکم سرعام پتھر مارںے کا حکم ہے ،،سورہ نور ،،، پتھر مارنے والوں کو بھی حکم ہے پوری طاقت سے پتھر مارنا ترس ائے تو بس یہ سوچنا ،،، کیا تم اللہ سے زیادہ رحم کرنے والا ہے ،،

​@@islamabbas24471 se zyada shaadi tab kro jab sab ko saare haqooq de sako warna sirf 1 hi kro. Yeh quran mein likha h prh lo beshak.

پاکستانی آدمی انسان کم اور جنگلی زیادہ ہیں۔۔۔ اللہ بچائے ۔ آمین

Bt dear sis gals shadi krne se pahle ye q ni sochti k boys ki mentality hi aisi hoti h....

Move out from the norm.The world is big.I have 3 all from different countries Alhamdulillah and all is well

How old are u

Totally true

My czn got married to a guy who was divorced but the guy and his family repeated the same attitude bcz of which his 1st wife took khula and my czn also took khula from him just after 3 months of marriage .so that is the reason bcz of it girls and their families are to reluctant to marry a divorced man

Bhai doosri shaadi k liye pehli biwi se ijaazat ki koi zaroorat nahi. Beshak hadees ya quran prh lo. Haan lekin dono ko same hakook dene prhe gy

Exactly

دوسرا شوہر پہلے شوہر کے بچوں کو نہیں رکھتا۔ کیا دوسرے کی ذمے داری ہے کہ وہ بیوہ یا طلاق شدہ عورت کے بچے بھی قبول کرے

Deen Wala musalman .

True i can say hes half pakistani because he is not educated by pakistani babay mulah in arabs marriage and devorce is not a big deal both for men n women

True words literally just speechless

Influence of social media that's all

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He asked a question that what a widow should you. According to Hadith "agar ek bewa aurat apny baccho ki khatir dosri shaadi na kary tu jannat me mery sath angasht shahadat jaisy ho gi" lihaza bewa aurat ko kisi dosri aurat ka ghr tabah karny ki bajae apny baccho ki khatir qurbani deni chahiye.

M ne in 1st wives ko b dekha jino ne2nd shadi chup k krne k bawjood husband ko maaf kia r kaha k dosri ko b Hal do r ghar m lao izzat se r ane wali phr sbse pehle usi 1st wife ko dhakke de k nklwati hai jisne usk lie jaga banai hoti is lie opposite behaviour hote kuch females to bardhsha krti dosri shadi or dosri biwi hi pehli ka ghar tba ah kra k ati

We are muslims but hum Pakistani hinduism mindset se bahir nahi aa rahy. mera triple divorce ka issue bana tab mujhe pata chala k har fiqh ki divorce bhi apni apni hai.

MAY Allah Shower HIS Mercy Upon you and your family Ameen !

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Me b yhi sochti hon sahil Sahab ko mene bchpn se suna HOTA to me apny life k decisions differently leti Pr Kash bolna hadees me mana qk wo shetan ka drwaza kholta ha

It is very simple.there is a clear cut hadith "agar ek bewa aurat apny bacchy ki khatir dosri shaadi na kary tu wo qiamat k din mery sath angasht shahadat jaisy ho gi " lihaza kisi bewa aurat ko kisi dosri aurat ka ghr tabah karny ki bajae apny baccho ki khatir qurbani deni chahiye. Lekin ye hadith molvi log chupaty han.

@@bismakhan5393 Can you please quote and give reference to the hadeeth?. I do not think there is any such hadith that encourages a widow not to remarry "because of kids"!! This goes totally against the core message of Islam where it promotes marriages and especially marriages of widows!!

Wardah I think its a systemic problem and our culture does not support remarriages of widows. So how do you re-establish yourself? Forget about the past, learn the lessons through introspection and move forward. Keep an open mind and actively keep looking for suitors and when there is a suitable proposal, be ready to take that leap forward without worrying too much about social or future consequences. In the interim a widow may keep herself busy, maybe pick up a career, work or business to keep herself busy and productive. Just my 2 cents.

@@farazraaz7857 problem starts a little earlier… get your girls educated and give them a skill before they are married…

@@wardahmajeed1622 I slightly disagree, a girl can keep learning even after marriage. Learning and skill improvement can be continuous. Because if one waits for the girl to finish education and skills training then she ends up in her mid to late 20's and way past her prime. But I agree with you that there is a problem in our society when it comes to marriages. Marriage contract and expectations from both sides should be clearly defined prior and continuing education for the woman can be part of it. And women should never compromise on mehr, it should be paid in full to the bride by the groom at the time of marriage so he has a significant financial stake and investment from the every beginning. Brides side should never feel less in front of the groom and should never sell themselves short. Always have something to fall back to financially because there is no guarantee of any marriage working out long term.

I fully support your thoughts.. You are on right track according to Islam.

Lovely thought may Allah help u brother

Very good brother.. actually u should do 2 and then later why not 2 more.. we have to be honest and stay away from zina..and if that means we need 2 or 4 then be it.. Women just are interested in being taken care of.. all else is just what society tells them. They are happy when they are home with kids watching their soap operas and gossip.. just give them that life style and that's it.. Be stern and put Ur foot down with what what u want and be honest with yourself and Ur needs .. because no one else will...

Do you think that your divorce happened because you had a single wife? And if you have 2 wives at a time so it will work good?

I am willing to marry a person who has two wives I mean I can live in a separate house not in the same with the other wife....But I am afraid of marrying a divorced man again !

جی آپ نے بجا فرمایا ۔۔۔معاشرے میں بیوہ اور طلاق یافتہ سے زیادہ حق دار عمر رسیدہ کنواریاں ہیں ۔۔ اور دعا کرتا ہوں کہ ہماری نسل کے جوان انشاء اللہ نکاح کے لیے عمر رسیدہ کنواری لڑکیوں کو ترجیح دیں آمین

@@fasihulhassnainniazi8217 اس مسئلے پر مذہبی سکالرز بھی خاموش رہتے ہیں کبھی کسی کو اس پر بات کرتے نہیں سننا جبکہ یہ ایسا عذاب ہے جس پر گزر رہی ہو وہ ہی جان سکتا ہے ان خواتین کے لیے تو اور جو چپ چاپ جھیلتی ہیں ۔

@@salamsadia5016 پاکستانی مزہبی سکالرز کے نظریات پر خود بھی ہندوانہ جھلک ہے۔ پاکستان میں اسلام کو انتہائی انوکھا سا پیش کیا گیا۔ ہے جیسے کہ یہ کوئی ایسی خلاف فطرت چیز ہے جس پر عمل کرنے کے لیے خود کو لازم ہے کہ تکلیف میں ڈالا جائے ۔۔تب ہی ہر جمعہ میں نصیحت کے خطبے ہونے کے باوجود عوام الناس دین سے دور بھاگتی ہے ۔۔۔ اور ویسے بھی سکالرز کچھ نہیں کریں گے ۔۔معاشرے کے نوجوانوں کو قدم اٹھانا پڑے گا ۔اور یہ قدم سب سے پہلے اپنے ہی گھر کے خلاف اٹھانا پڑے گا ۔۔ ایسی ہمت کاش کہ ہر ایک کر پائے ۔۔ویسے ہر ایک کہ بس کی بات نہیں

@@fasihulhassnainniazi8217 آجکل کے نوجوانوں سے کیا امید وہ خود تاریخ کی کم ترین سطح پر ہیں اگر انکے اپنے گھر میں بہن بیٹھی ہوئی ہو تو بھی احساس نہیں ہوتا افسوس تو والدین پر ہوتا ہے بیٹے کے لیے سر دھڑ کی بازی لگا دیتے ہیں اس کی پسند کی ہزاروں لڑکیاں تلاش کرتے ہیں لیکن بیٹی ایک کو بھی انکار کر دے تو کہتے ہیں یہ خود شادی کرنا نہیں چاہتی ۔ خیر یہ موضوع بہت تکلیف دہ ہے ۔ جزاک اللّــہ خیراً کـــثیراَ وَ اَحــــسن الجــزاء فی الـــدنیاوالآخرۃ دعاگو ہوں ۔

@@salamsadia5016 Ahh kia kurb ki baat kardi, Khushi ka intixar kitni bar I azyut bunjata hy ,koi nahi janta. Kia kohoon, yaha sub andhy bahray hyn.Bayhis hyn

Tariq masood ne toh 3 shadiyan ki h wo bade maze se zindagi k maze le re h r unki family b bhut stablished h.....

I agree with you

AP ka matlb k admi ki phli bv se ml Mulaqat kr k pocha jae k AP husb AP k hero Hain? Agr wo kahe han to phr shdi kr li jae Qk admin to kbi apni burai ni kryga dosri lrki talash krty wqt wo yhi kahyga k me to buht acha shohr hon meiri bv ko MRI qdr ni is lie dosri krna Chahta hon Or pak ki aurt b dosri krny ni degi mery parents k drmyan ye situation ho Chuka h

@@tubaquraishi5154 آپ شاید میری بات سمجھی نہیں۔ پھر کہتا ہوں جو مرد بیوی سے خوش ہے اور بیوی اس سے، وہ دوسری کے لیے بھی اچھا ثابت ہونے کا قوی امکان رکھتا ہے، جس سے پہلی خوش نہیں وہ دوسری کو خوش نہیں رکھ سکتا، کم از کم دونوں کو تو مینیج کر ہی نہیں سکتا۔ رہی بات پوچھنے کی تو ضرورت نہیں اچھے شوہر کا چرچا خود بیوی کرتی ہے۔ اکثر اوقات ہمیں بات اس لیے سمجھ نہیں آتی کہ ہم دوسرے کی کہانی یا کمنٹ کے کیریکٹر میں اپنے اداکار فٹ کر کے دیکھ رہیے ہوتے ہیں، اس سے بات کا مقصد منیوپولیٹ ہوجاتا ہے۔ اللہ ہم اور آپ سے راضی ہو۔ اسلام علیکم

Hazoor SWA ne kabi b apni kisi beti ka nikkah b shaadi shuda mard se nahi kiya.even Hazrat Abubakar aur Hazrat umer Farooq RA k rishty b reject ker diya.

@@bismakhan5393 آپ کا مطلب زمجھا نہیں، کیا نبی نے کنواری ، بیوہ، ۔۔۔ وغیرہ سے نکاح نہیں کیا۔ کیا آپ یہ دلیل دینا چا رہی ہیں کہ کنوری سے دوسری شادی مناسب نہیں یا جائز نہیں؟ معزرت اگر وضاحت ہوجائے، خیر بنی صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کی دو بیٹیوں کی شادی تو جن سے ہوئی وہ تب مسلم بھی نہیں تھے۔ احکامِ شرعیہ اندازے پر نہیں بنتے، قرآن و حدیث کی روشنی میں احکام ہوتے ہیں اپنی سمجھ یا اپنی پسند کے مطابق نہیں۔ اسلام علیکم

Koi bm mard ya aurat allah k sath kahan h dear...sb nafs k ghulam h....mard ne sirf shadiyon k liye shariyat k hukm ko maana h baqi moamlat chahe loan pr ghar lena ho ya car..ac lagana ho ya furniture ....sara kuch loan pr...rishwat lete h,bapanah jhoot bolte hue,dhoka dete hue unhe shariyat kabi yaad ni aati....4 aurton k sath aiyashi krna kitna Suhana lgta h kisi ki height achchi lagi dil aagaya shadi kr lo kisi k hathon ka khana achcha laga shadi kr lo....unhe kam se kam 4 aurton se aisa pyar toh hona hi tha na k ysk sath soya ja sake toh bs wo 4 arton pr ektofa kr te h yahi bhut h wrna toh list bhut lambi ho jayegi akhir shariyat ka hukm 4 pr hi h na toh unhe ye sochte hi shariyat ka hukm ,shariyat ki ijazat unhe badi achchi lgti h.....bt problem ye h k aurten b kahan allah k sath h....wo b toh duniya k liye hi jaan dene pr tuli h so aaj moashre ka ye haal toh hona h....

@@sadiaomair1731 totally agreed or 4 4 hone k bad bhi kc or k sath haram rishta banane k liye ready hoty. And plus jannat mei hurein tu ultimate goal hai in ka wo tu milni he hai.

Marriage isn't just about getting financial help. Divorced, widows and orphans have emotional and sexual needs just like any normal married women. How those needs should be fulfilled?? Why a 25 years old girl who is at a peak of her sexual desires and emotional needs being a virgin is acceptable to have a husband. But another 25 years old divorced with 2 kids having no other proposal but of already married man having same sexual desires and emotional needs isn't acceptable to be 2nd wife of a Muslim man which religion allows her. Put yourself in such a girl's position . How would you survive till 60 years of age despite having financial needs fulfilled. Can you survive for next 40 to 30 years without any relationship. Why does a divorcee or widow with kids deserves this fate and why you deserve to have husband and blissful life with all needs met

@@dr.areeshababar1339 🤔🤔 Hmm...The Sex Part Never Crossed My Mind... I think this also makes sense some people need Emotional Support also. Haa A Different Angle From a Different Person👍👍 Thank You For Updating My Perspective...Love You Girl🥰😍🥰

@@dr.areeshababar1339 Chlain Lets Suppose Insaan 2nd Marriage Kar Bhi Leta Hai...To Woh Insaaf kese kar Sakta hai?...it is Almost Impossible woh Donoon k darmayan Absolute Justice Kaaim kar sake Ga..to phir kiya uss se sawaal nahi kiya jaaye ga na insaafi ka?

@@anzalzahid8848 barabri or insaaf km se km judges to kr hi skty hain to your phir km se km un ki to 4 honi chahyen wo to insaaf or barabri krne ka certification rakhty hain. Un ko 4 biwian kr leni chahyen

@@shakeelramzan3629 Especially Pakistan K Judges 😁

Yes it shouldn't be like this

Harjaga hota hai, not just Pakistan.

Han yahan aik bachi ki shadi pr 15 se 20 lakh or larky ki shadi pr 2 se 5 lakh ka kharch hota hai jo bachon wali aurat se shadi krne wala hai wo pehly thora to soochy ga k wo future main ye kr le ga? Jb usy apni hesiyat se ziyada kharach lagta hai to wo bachon wali ka option choor deta hai. Or ho b skta hai wo bachy us baap ko acha b na smjen. Jb tb society islamic soch or culture nahi apna leti. Bewa or talaqyafta ki arrage marriage to nahi ho skti, love marriage main shaid koi himat kr le.

Is k ilawa hai sari zindgi ka kharch wo tu shaid mard pora kr b le ya is k liye koshish kr b le. Magr shauk or ayashi nahi krwa skta.

This is very common in our culture

Only care about, how you're Infront of God....

Gar wale theak kehty hain divorse k bad shadi mushkil ho jati hai, larkon ko b aik hi shadi ki ijazat hai society ua family ki aurton ki trf se to larka divorced or bachun wali aurat ki bjye kanvari ko trji de ga. Aik shadi pr hi bohat paisa jama krty bohat time lg jata hai aik se ziyada shadian sirf molvi hazrat hi afford kr skty hain jo sadgi se or sunnat treeqa se nikkah krty hain. Duniyavi dikhawy walon ko 2 se 10 lakh chahye shadi k liye.

This happens with me too jinko hud unki fmly r village kehta k nai ache unko Meri pori fmly kehti k boht ache MA tm nai theek

The very first thing you need to do is be mentally strong Whatever is happening. Is happening with the will of Allah Then try to do something look for some work Be financially strong before you go for divorce Focus on your health And pray :) good luck

@@glamourbywajeeha8082 thnx Yes I am working on these things

According to my experience jus mard ki 1st divorce hoi hoti uski 2nd marriage b nakam hoti ya biwi hi zulm bardashat kr ri hoti bcz agr wo is kabil hota to pehli hi shadi chla leta

@@aroojasghar6 mri b yhi opinion h qk mery relatives or surroundings me 10 cases asy mri age group ki girls k Sath hoy Hain k unk husband ki dosri br b divorce hoi or ksi ksi ki teesri br b bv zulm brdasht kri hai

You aren't making sense. You said these women moved to the west and married non muslim men, then you say Pakistani men will marry them for green card.

How they can move?

I too want to know sir please batay itni himmat ati Kahan sy hai

Exactly isi liye kehte k agar sab ko same haqooq de sako tab shaadi kro

RIP Medical science 😂😂

what if an only kid of a mum gets up and say "mum i cant share ur love, attention, justice,... with another brother or sister. i dont allow u to divide love between us". No! mum is made to handle more kids, give equal love, attention, .. she can love 3, 4 kids exactly the same way she loves one because is created like that husband is created to love & care more than one wife.

@@asadmehmoodkhan you cant compare mother's love with husband's love.. mother relation is by blood.. she gives birth ther children fron her own body so love is natural that never fade away.. and children also bring up together in same environment so their love is natural too.. but husband & wife relation is very sensitive they are connected with emotions and are partners.. if there love is as same as mother's love then Allah would never introduce "talaq" into them.. this is fact that no one can love 2 or more people same.. Even our beloved Prophet (s.a.w) loved hazrat Ayesha more than other that was unconditional thing.. He (s.a.w) was prophet of Allah and His wives were the most righteous womans ever so he could manage and give equality in matters...lets come to current situation of Pakistani men & womans.. today's man can not even manage 1 woman emotional need how can he manage love and other things? And its totally natural that no one can share his most beloved thing.. so its not very easy to share love of your life for a woman (as same as man can't share his wife) woman's are not angles they have emotions too.. its a sacrifice that is not very easy as you say.. so its her choice whether she will ready for his sacrifice or not because where 2nd maraige is halal where halaq is also halal.. today in our society womans are already giving many sacrifices in name of islam.. point is this:- no body is angle every body have emotions at least take care of her emotions woman's are humans too and have same emotions as man has.. So widow or divorcee as 2nd marriage partner is not a good option both for husband wife beacuse emotions are real.. i wish someone teach an unmarried man to give sacrifice in name islam by marrying a widow/divorce as his 1st wife and to give her all his love, loyalty & commitment like an real man.. then it would be a great act rather by taking sacrifice from his 1st wife (jis ma admi ka apna koi kamal nai ha).. but i know society will only want sacrifice from woman in name of islam as usuall & no man will ever willing to do this sunnat.. what a Hippocracy🙃

Ik e tw culture bacha ha Pakistan ma orat k haq ma wo b cheen lo.. than Men will use their so called rights to only fulfill their desires and will use woman as an object.. they will only use their rights as a license idr odr mu marny k lia.. or orat ko chup krwaien gy k islam ma haq ha tum kuch nai bol skti.. yakeen maniye agr mrdon k lia divorcee woman's ya widow ki zra b ehmiyat hoti tw wo islam k lia on sy phla nikah krty or loyal rehty.. fact is that they are just using them to fulfill their need because on sy koi qurbani nai li ja rae so they will just use this as an opportunity.. yahan na tw kisi ko islam follow krny ka shoq ha or na e kisi orat sy humdardi ha.. agr aysa hota tw actions sy dikh jata they still consider divorcee as an 2nd and disliked option.. mostly only consider 4 maraige option to fulfill their lust.. that a woman can't bear.. womans ko aysa admi chahye hota jo osky sath loyal rhy committed rhy or oski trf sy osko koi insecurity na ho.. i hope you will get it.. ab apny life partner ki qualities decide krny ka tw haq ha na osko? Agr osko aysa shakhs chahye jo srf oska ban k rhy tw kya ye ghalat demand ha? Kmazkm itna tw haq dyn osy

I am 40 years old married woman..think for a second if u r widowed or divorced...what will u think ...I allowed my husband go head I think what if same thing to happen my sister....why not do it for Allah then rather then telling people ...woman who knows husband is following islam and God-fearing allow ur husband to get married twice ..I know many woman who knwo husband doing zina and okay as he didn't marry..so imagine bringing haram or accept hram over halal.. ..

Plus sex and finiciall this is the issue...Allah knows best .he knows better ..love is not always the main issue..divorce man are not available as adeem sir said woman will tolerate everything even zina ..so go check ratio..

Kuch gold diggers aurten zewar plots waghera mar leti haen aur agar bahir ki nationality mil jae to adhi jaedad pe bhi qabza kar keti haen as a business. Aulad ko baap se milne nahein deti aur brainwashing kar ke nafrat bhar deti haen zehen mae, phir aurat card khel ke mazloom ban jati haen. Faraq itna hae mardon ke zulm pe baat hoti hae, aurton ke zulm pe nahein

Bilkul.... Sahee kaha aurat jb tk mahbooba h thik h jaise hi biwi bani dusri mahbooba ki talash shuru...fir 1 ya 2 saal tk mauj masti kr k dusri shadi kr li ...ab wo 2 wali mahbooba mil gayi....

Allah SWT make it easy for you Ameen.

Aap Kya Krti hn. Meri age 25 ha. Mai kr lu but financially strong nhi hu.

Don't say no one will marry you, there will always be some good men out there. May Allah give you pious, compatible spouse, Ameen

@@bilalbhutta6881 Jazak Allah Khair.

I am in uk since 10 years.living with Bro and his family.I know its test from Allah but sometime I feel very low.🤲