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We follow four eight-year-old girls as they adjust to a new life away from their parents and their home. Each of their parents has decided that their child will be better off boarding in a private school, in this instance Highfield, one of the best boarding schools in the UK. But how do they cope being separated from their families at such a young age? And how in particular do the mothers deal with the difficult decision of sending their offspring away to be educated?
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@GypsyRoseBlanchardisaliar
@GypsyRoseBlanchardisaliar 4 года назад
A child this young needs to be with their family
@rubysugly6143
@rubysugly6143 4 года назад
Exactly
@itzjustari9123
@itzjustari9123 4 года назад
Fr
@myroslav6873
@myroslav6873 3 года назад
Is it Americans who comment about how bad boarding schools are? In Europe, it's pretty normal.
@sofilasofi717
@sofilasofi717 3 года назад
I think the same
@sashaaa_9942
@sashaaa_9942 3 года назад
Just because it’s common does not mean it is normal. Living with your family as a child would be best for healthy psychological development.
@aziza9212
@aziza9212 4 года назад
Did anyone else notice April throwing herself at Lottie’s mum when she came on that first Wednesday? That was so sweet but so sad!
@ericab9384
@ericab9384 4 года назад
I felt like the mom was being bitchy by ignoring the other girl & then at the end she grabs her arms and like pulled the lil girl off of her. I know thats not her kid but still she is the adult here & should realize that the other lil girl obviously misses her mother too by the way she was hanging all over her. How would she like it if somebody did her daughter that way?
@doggytheanarchist7876
@doggytheanarchist7876 4 года назад
@@ericab9384 I felt that too. :-( It was heartbreaking to watch.
@SalmaBchr
@SalmaBchr 4 года назад
I noticed too. She was really begging for affection. Wonder where she is today
@Kthb80
@Kthb80 4 года назад
Heartbreaking
@sarahedington
@sarahedington 3 года назад
Yes that made meso sad
@3nina
@3nina 4 года назад
April’s dad has the emotional range of a teaspoon.
@Vampire_Girl2006
@Vampire_Girl2006 4 года назад
N i n a, I think I know where that reference came from.
@3nina
@3nina 4 года назад
Space Kiddo 👀
@meganbean1596
@meganbean1596 4 года назад
Just because he's got the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn't mean we all have!
@SalmaBchr
@SalmaBchr 4 года назад
The guy went to Afghanistan. Probably had PTSD
@jinxkitty3122
@jinxkitty3122 3 года назад
And her mom behaves in a disgusting manner..
@espressoanon3040
@espressoanon3040 4 года назад
"You close your eyes and think you're in your own bed and wake up say 'awe, this isn't my home" - April (8 yo) :((((
@BethCampbell-b9c
@BethCampbell-b9c 4 года назад
I don’t understand how turning your child over to complete strangers at the age of 8 is a good thing?? The goal to keep them “so busy they don’t think of home” is the main reason they are simply too young to be away from home. I know I’m American and I don’t “understand” the ways of England, but as a mother of grown daughters and currently having an 8 yr. old granddaughter, I just can’t imagine this as a way of life. Your child is a child for a limited amount of time, and then they leave. Why do you promote this while they are still little?
@BlueEyedRaven_
@BlueEyedRaven_ 4 года назад
I am extremely conflicted about this. I agree with you completely, but I also understand some of these parents have jobs that require them to move around a lot which doesn't provide a stable childhood for the child and these boarding schools do. But then you could also argue that if you persue such a carreer you shouldn't have children. So I'm still not sure what to think of this to be honest.
@appleunicorn2927
@appleunicorn2927 4 года назад
I was gonna say the same exact things. Maybe I could for high school but 8 years old is way too young imo
@wombat4583
@wombat4583 4 года назад
While family is extremely important to me so I agree with your mentality, it should be noted this is actually a modern concept of raising children. Traditionally there has been a lot of emphasis on doing and placing children where they will grow best including sending them off somewhere to grow in different environments for a period of time.
@nenussa
@nenussa 3 года назад
@@BlueEyedRaven_ I understand what you mean about stability but I still think that being away from your parents at that age is much worse. They still spent several months in one place anyway and the mum had time for them.
@uggggggghhhhh
@uggggggghhhhh 2 года назад
Its for stability. They move around a lot because they are military families.
@michiganmom857
@michiganmom857 4 года назад
You only have 18 years to be with them! If you can’t commit to raising them, why did you have them? My child went to public schools, and is exceptionally smart, and has earned her Doctorate degree. I would never give up a minute of my time raising her, not a minute!
@Multisturn
@Multisturn 4 года назад
michiganmom857 my sister is 22! you can live with your parents for how long as you want lol
@sakidgen
@sakidgen 4 года назад
Exactly even for the grades at least have more time with your kid, she’s only 8 and still needs to live her life as a child.
@nasa7950
@nasa7950 4 года назад
I feel like a child should have the choice to go or not but not at 8. You don't only have until they are 18 years old that's just stupid, you have all your life with them.
@Kthb80
@Kthb80 4 года назад
My Japanese roommate in boarding school was initially sent away at age 5 to South Africa from Japan!! She didn’t even know the language, I just can’t imagine
@Katie-bz4ls
@Katie-bz4ls 3 года назад
Thank you for saying that. What's the point of having children then? Status? Showing off how greatly you did not raise them and how amazing their diplomas are? There is no real relationship. No connection. It's sickening
@lindad1195
@lindad1195 4 года назад
I believe parents should raise their children, not schools and housemasters or house mistresses or whatever they’re called.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They do too, they wanted their kids to have stability tho
@vaishnavisharma1039
@vaishnavisharma1039 2 года назад
@@Kalani_Saiko mother should stay with child instead of following her adult military husband .... 8 yr old need mother and father ....hugs and kisses are human needs
@Realfacts-fm9ql
@Realfacts-fm9ql Год назад
Exactly
@raea3588
@raea3588 4 года назад
With boarding schools becoming more and more like a home away from home and large families, I don't think it would be a terrible idea for an older pre-teen or a teenager whose own family was constantly being moved by the military and needed a place of stability and friends to have this life for a few years. But for a child who is only 8 years old and is happy and content, there's no reason to uproot them from an already stable and loving home. Too many kids don't have that and it's important they develop a sense of family before it's lost in being shuffled from school to home and back again. All of the families in this documentary seemed to truly love their children and just want to do what was best for them. It's in regards to April that I'm not sure if boarding school was best for her.
@purpleswan_leo
@purpleswan_leo 4 года назад
I completely agree. I had to shift schools every 2 years and it was frustrating for me. When I went to college, it was nice to have academic stability. My sister started boarding in 9th grade and she was very happy. Both of us do wish that we had become boarders earlier so we didn't have to move so much.
@xen813
@xen813 2 года назад
In my opinion, it’s the same for pre-teens. They’re still children
@raea3588
@raea3588 2 года назад
@@xen813 Agreed. I should hope if at all possible, it could be the child's decision not just the parent's. They're the one's who will be away.
@michelleparadis7284
@michelleparadis7284 4 года назад
The Mom needs to take her babies n run away from that emonional stone...shes obviously hurting n misses her kids. Kids over a man especially one thats got no personality or heart.
@nasa7950
@nasa7950 4 года назад
PERIODT
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They made the decision together, idiot
@susanjones4904
@susanjones4904 4 года назад
Don't send children away. These are formative years, you want your influence to be there. Not some strangers. I don't care how nice they are, it's not a family environment. Too much like Scientology. No one will love them as you do. That's the unique role of the parent.
@laces1985
@laces1985 4 года назад
What completely unnecessary emotional distress for these young children. It would be far less emotional for them to move around with their family.
@ashleyallen6195
@ashleyallen6195 4 года назад
Being a military brat who grew up moving all around with my family, I can say that personally, I would have preferred the boarding school. My parents couldn't be with me all the time because both were in the army/navy, so I was babysat by (to me) strangers for days every now and then. It was emotional for me to be away from them every time, but it was even harder for me as I got older to not have that stability and I was wildly jealous of my fellow schoolmates and others that were "childhood friends". It messed with me having a sense of belonging for quite a while.
@wombat4583
@wombat4583 4 года назад
I agree with Ashley. Of course it also depends on the individual but I moved around a few times over a period of about 5-6 years and still rarely saw my parents anyway for the same circumstances that we moved. I tried not to grow attach to things as I understood the reasoning but in hindsight I've realized how much I've had to hold back on living and I view it as part of the reasons I have problems forming long term commitments and attachments. Even with the internet old friendships ended as no one wanted to put in the extra effort at that age.
@rensmurfetteisiconic5183
@rensmurfetteisiconic5183 4 года назад
Just like Ashley, I am a military brat but from my personal experiences, I love moving so much but my mom isnt in the army just my dad so its a bit different. Ive gotten to explore the world so much more than some other people but I agree that I do get jealous of my friends having their childhood friends and you always feel kind of excluded. I also have 6 siblings so I'm never along which is different too and has made it a more enjoyable experience. It depends on each kid and whats best for them so for me I like staying with my family and exploring the world but everyone is different. And I've been moving since I was born I was even born overseas.
@queenjayjay5828
@queenjayjay5828 3 года назад
my parents moved every year with my brother and boy did he suffer
@leeariana11
@leeariana11 3 года назад
Yeah no, I'd take this then moving every other year
@user-wq6wz3vp9k
@user-wq6wz3vp9k 3 года назад
I was sent to a boarding school at the age of 13, it was very traumatic. I was able to see my family only at the holidays (I was an international student) and also you are left to yourself to deal with things like bullying, it does happen and as you can imagine you end up eating, studying and sharing the same room with ppl who you do not get on with
@juttaspeaks
@juttaspeaks 2 года назад
Yes I went to boarding school at age 11. I still remember being chosen the ugliest girl and having to do extra chores. This was 60y ago.
@grandmastermario3695
@grandmastermario3695 2 года назад
Basically like taking kid away from there own parents basically for almost all the year and a kid being separated from their parents for long periods of time can have serious affects on a kid honestly it's like if a parent walking out on a child it's kind of sick
@nosleep7287
@nosleep7287 Год назад
I was sent at the age of 6
@chadbarteau9097
@chadbarteau9097 Год назад
I’m sorry, I found letters of my father, asking when they were coming over and over. Parents are just human,. Hope you can see the good stuff in memory.
@bonitajohnson6341
@bonitajohnson6341 4 года назад
I cried like a baby sending 2 of mine off to college at 18. So I know I couldn’t of done this. At all.
@thetortoise4107
@thetortoise4107 4 года назад
"Do you want to know why I'm crying? Because I'm happy." Even the daughter isn't that naive lol
@andjelamarkoski2320
@andjelamarkoski2320 4 года назад
When I see this I fell sick... when I was 8 my parents would hardly let me spend 3 days at my granny's house... it's just so sad I am 14 now and have a pretty normal relationship with my parents. What kinda of a relationship will these kids have with there parents ???
@queenjayjay5828
@queenjayjay5828 3 года назад
i had seperation anxiety until a year ago and its getting a bit better now i can not imagine this being me
@cici2562
@cici2562 2 года назад
Interesting that they consider it to be a success when the children finally detach and no longer miss their mum.
@user-le8xi9xi2i
@user-le8xi9xi2i 3 года назад
I went to boarding school at 13 and I absolutely hated the first year. After that it was fine but 8 is far far too young. It does put distance between the relationships with your family. Your friends become your family. It depends on the personality of the child. It either makes them or breaks them. Really terrible to see
@juttaspeaks
@juttaspeaks 2 года назад
I went at 11j of age.I did not miss my mother.She was not able to show love,or hug any of us.
@blessedmweru2486
@blessedmweru2486 2 года назад
I was sent to boarding school at age 5 years. Result - no connection with my parents or siblings. We are all past 30 years and disconnected emotionally as a family.
@marihoneey
@marihoneey 4 года назад
Don't have children if you plan on sending them away! If you think you are doing them a favor, you're Absolutely incorrect! We become recently throughout the tears, to the point where we feel UNLOVED.
@jaxx8569
@jaxx8569 4 года назад
I understand what you’re saying but sometimes children want to go to boarding school, also some parents have to send them bc they have to move around too much , which will take a tole on the child’s mental health if they don’t have a stable home or dorm life
@berthanyamukusa7286
@berthanyamukusa7286 4 года назад
Personally i love boarding and i suggested to go there it was only meant for my brother to do his "O level". I like that i can do art on the weekends, play with my friends, go swimming, consult the teachers any time, do music, whatch TV and so ... Yes there downsides like i can't get away from people i don't like, but also you learn how to live without Mummy and Daddy and how the real world works the one beyond my phone and yah to me it's lovely
@nasa7950
@nasa7950 4 года назад
especially when the kids dont want to go.
@Katie-bz4ls
@Katie-bz4ls 3 года назад
@@berthanyamukusa7286 You know people who are close with their parents and don't go to boarding schools also know how the "real world works" and how live looks like "beyond the phone". They just do it without needless suffering and hardship. Support doesn't spoil you. Closeness with family makes you a better and well-adjusted human. As someone who is studying social work you would be surprised how many children have problems with empathy and connections (especially with their parents) because of the early separation. Your parents role should be to guide and influence you - They can't do that meaningfully if you're away
@Juju4Gaming
@Juju4Gaming 3 года назад
unless ur like me who’s living in america who’s also 13 and is going to hs. then u can go
@cjpv1972
@cjpv1972 4 года назад
I work for a boarding school but I didn't know that they have this schools in England for 8 years old our youngest are 11 . I am in shock...poor kids.
@juttaspeaks
@juttaspeaks 2 года назад
I went to boarding school at 11j old.8 is to young.I did not miss my mother.
@mountaingalhomemaker4179
@mountaingalhomemaker4179 2 года назад
My kids go at 12 I'm not surprised cause some the missionaries kids that my daughters go to school with know of schools that start at 5 or 6 years old
@allPodd
@allPodd 4 года назад
39:22 This woman feels like she's suddenly lost her purpose because she's not really a "mom" anymore. That's devastating. :(
@doreendiary
@doreendiary 2 года назад
As a parent who remembers what it felt like to be a child I believe the most stability a parent can provide is their daily presence. And Ms. King holding back her tears about her experience 🥺.
@Julie86Mac
@Julie86Mac Год назад
everyone remembers what it felt like to be a child. you're not special.🙄
@Konekoexe
@Konekoexe 3 года назад
At about 12 minutes when the little girl is crying and the other girl hugs her and pulls her out of sight from the camera. That was sweet. I think the cameras on her crying weren't helpful.
@nemamposao6126
@nemamposao6126 4 года назад
Don't send kids to boarding school that young. They will miss mass part of childhood. They still aren't old enough to cope with home-sickness.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
"send the beloved child on a journey"
@robbiesux3078
@robbiesux3078 4 года назад
Bruh the parents have the emotions of a glass of water
@AnthonyRockliffe
@AnthonyRockliffe 3 года назад
Mummy showing emotion, "Mummy is silly isnt she" - Child's thinking "Showing emotion is silly"....child as an adult - "Why do i feel so awful, I need to take prozac"
@lilakelly5684
@lilakelly5684 Год назад
Me and my sister have been at boarding school since we were 10 and it’s the best thing my parents could have done for me! It’s amazing and I love it.
@joeytribbianicore
@joeytribbianicore 4 года назад
I wish her mom would have admitted she was crying bc she’d miss her. Instead she tried to be, “strong” and positive and I feel like kids don’t need that 100% of the time. People don’t give them enough credit.
@crazyanimegirl4376
@crazyanimegirl4376 4 года назад
The whole contact with parents thing reminds me of all the hoops you'd have to go through if someone u loved was in prison
@nenussa
@nenussa 3 года назад
These young children are learning to become detached from their parents in order not to suffer. How is that good for their wellbeing and their emotional development?!
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They're also learning about stability and making friends, something they were not able to do when they were moving around so much
@AxisDens
@AxisDens 2 года назад
@@Kalani_Saiko how are you learning about stability when you have to detach yourself from a parental figure at such an early age? stability starts at home, it doesn't really matter if they "make friends" when they don't seem to have the most fundamental support
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 2 года назад
@@AxisDens They are clearly attached to their parents, but too much so, they don't have time to make friends or settle anywhere when they are constantly moving around.
@AxisDens
@AxisDens 2 года назад
@@Kalani_Saiko she is not "too much so" attached to her parents lol that's the normal amount of attachment for a kid this young. the unusual thing is for them not to miss them at all even when they are 11 years old
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 2 года назад
@@AxisDens That's not normal attachment, even for a kid that young
@ghents565
@ghents565 4 года назад
Watching this my heart breaks . These kids are to young! Parents please rethink what you are doing.
@lorriecasteel6083
@lorriecasteel6083 3 года назад
This is absolutely ridiculous! They are still young children who need their moms. I don't care how many times you have to move, they should be w the parents at this age. This is cruel and completely unnecessary to do this to these little girls.
@user-eh6tm5jv9p
@user-eh6tm5jv9p 3 года назад
i’m literally 17 in a month and cry every time i sleep over away from my mom. idk if it’s normal or what but april shattered my heart into pieces. what kind of parent does this to their 8 year old
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They did it in her best interest.
@mountaingalhomemaker4179
@mountaingalhomemaker4179 2 года назад
Fact you are practically a young adult can't spend one night away from your parents is worse than this
@uggggggghhhhh
@uggggggghhhhh 2 года назад
thats not normal...
@pixieanna2058
@pixieanna2058 4 года назад
Does anyone else find it creepy that they have a male overseer in their dorm?
@Cerissa2006
@Cerissa2006 4 года назад
I thought the same thing, glad I'm not the only one who thought this.
@cjpv1972
@cjpv1972 4 года назад
Totally...I work for a boarding school. Only female staff is allowed to supervise the girls.
@jebsmith323
@jebsmith323 4 года назад
I am quite disturbed by this. It's just wrong.
@nasa7950
@nasa7950 4 года назад
actually for the first time no, he seems so sweet
@mirmy_mitzi326
@mirmy_mitzi326 3 года назад
I don’t find it creepy
@MGyoutube307
@MGyoutube307 4 года назад
I’d be scared of child abuse, 8 year olds living with strangers. No thanks. Kids can learn from their parents and communities then go to boarding school at 14. Kids need to get to know their parents, this is discounting the ability for parents and the community to teach young children. Might negatively effect emotional bonding and families ties. Girls won’t have memories of parents or even know them. Parents could pass away young and child never knew anything about them. Wouldn’t parents want to instill certain values in their kids by being a role model and have them learn from you and not a houseman. I wouldn’t trust a house man with my kids...what experience does this man have that is superior to that of a father and mother. Not right in my opinion.
@Tatiana_Palii
@Tatiana_Palii 3 года назад
If the family is constantly relocating, there's NO community, obviously.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Everyone's a stranger when you first meet them
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
@@Tatiana_Palii exactly
@amealia634
@amealia634 4 года назад
I cried five time watching this. Like i just feel like this is like torture
@espressoanon3040
@espressoanon3040 4 года назад
Same I'm crying a lot
@Juju4Gaming
@Juju4Gaming 3 года назад
unless it’s for a teenager right
@beckywhitfield4813
@beckywhitfield4813 3 месяца назад
Same. I feel like this is very traumatic.
@71espn
@71espn 2 года назад
I went to a boarding school at 9 and everyone cried at night but no one talked about it. It was considered weak. I got to see my parents after 2 and a half months.
@prtdiva
@prtdiva 2 года назад
Do you think the experience was worth it or do you think you were too young?
@KCsFunHouse
@KCsFunHouse 4 года назад
An 8 year old that still sucks her thumb she be home. My heart hurts for her as a mom and you can tell her mom is questioning her choice too. I genuinely hope this works out best for all the girls.
@Nana-ob4xv
@Nana-ob4xv 3 года назад
Wow these kids get to see their parents once a week ,in my country Zambia Africa, I only got to see my mum once after 3 months👀😂😂😂I cried until I could cry no more.
@elizabethcarver9902
@elizabethcarver9902 4 года назад
In the United States my understanding is that many army or service families homeschool so that the moving around doesn’t take them in and out of schools
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
The downside of that tho is that the kid won't get the social aspect of learning
@AxisDens
@AxisDens 2 года назад
@@Kalani_Saiko yes they do lol homeschool groups are a thing, and they have meetings practically every week. if you actually care about your homeschooled kids, you can form networks with other families and the kids won't miss out on any social aspects. just like going to high school doesn't automatically make your social skills any better
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 2 года назад
@@AxisDens Homeschool groups aren't an option for everyone lol also that sort of learning doesn't work for every kid as many of us found out this year. I should also mention that learning as a group online is not the same as physically being with other kids in person.
@AxisDens
@AxisDens 2 года назад
@@Kalani_Saiko you could apply the exact same logic to boarding schools. it is a lot more of a psychological trauma for some kids than for other, some adjust very well while others don't, but they don't really get the chance of going back home. it came to the point that the UK had to reform their boarding school system back in 2015, so that it adjusted better to the kids and they didn't spend as much time away (this documentary is from 2010) I understand you went to boarding school and normalized all of this, so I don't really expect an objective opinion
@bryannasample1386
@bryannasample1386 4 года назад
i love how it cuts to aprils brother having the time of his life
@1musketeer311
@1musketeer311 4 года назад
I never knew how heart braking boarding school can be. I understand if the child is a teenager and they have been given a great opportunity to go to a school etc, but willingly sending your child away is a bit harsh
@ShizukaRose
@ShizukaRose 4 года назад
Seems like they don’t feel like raising their kids
@lanis57
@lanis57 4 года назад
Rt!
@itsshannah4354
@itsshannah4354 4 года назад
ShizukaRose IKR
@wildturkey3776
@wildturkey3776 4 года назад
Mom does Dad dont
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Bugger off, you do not know the full story
@prtdiva
@prtdiva 2 года назад
Facts.
@marag7184
@marag7184 4 года назад
As a girl that grew up in a dificult home this looks like a dream, I would have lived this
@Luvllyshe
@Luvllyshe 4 года назад
Omg no,its not even close to being a dream
@thequeen4140
@thequeen4140 4 года назад
Mariana Adame i had a great stable home and I loved the experience
@oodles_of_noodles.
@oodles_of_noodles. 3 года назад
Same Mariana. My friends would freak out if their parents threatened boarding school as punishment and I always thought it sounded like a dream life.
@uggggggghhhhh
@uggggggghhhhh 2 года назад
Same. We moved around so much and I went to so many different schools.
@itz_corbis1784
@itz_corbis1784 9 месяцев назад
I agree!
@mariapomeroy4569
@mariapomeroy4569 2 года назад
My son will going to college next year and I am already getting sad about it. I couldn't imagine at 8 or 10 years old sending him away. These parents are way stronger than me.
@northbay4619
@northbay4619 3 года назад
Boarding school is actually not a bad solution for children who come from dysfunctional families/parenting. They need stability and structure. Many students in the inner city would benefit from this, especially since it will help them develop good study habits and a strong work ethic. Such students need responsible adults in their lives who will give them consistency.
@yukoncornileus4
@yukoncornileus4 2 года назад
There is also horrible cases of abuse at boarding schools. WWASP, Elan, CEDU "schools" are infamous American examples. Provo Canyon School is still torturing kids to this day. Probably some British examples too.
@fubukifangirl
@fubukifangirl 2 года назад
Boarding schools are essentially slightly more comfortable prisons. I wouldn't be able to bear it.
@Nataliesolas
@Nataliesolas 8 месяцев назад
yeah personally i wish id taken the offer i had to go from my father now looking back
@333_char
@333_char 2 года назад
that lady helping April out is so kind
@mia-
@mia- 3 года назад
I understand sending your preteen or teen to boarding school for state ability, but a young child I believe needs to be with their parents. I think as soon as her parents heard they were moving only 3 hours always should have come and got her because then she’ll have a stable home with her parents.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They actually did consider that but she got used to the school and said she liked it there
@calli-marieneil1854
@calli-marieneil1854 3 года назад
Why didn’t Lottie’s mom take the twins? Just as she let Sarah come along, would it have been a burden to take the other girls as well?
@2boys1man4me
@2boys1man4me 3 года назад
She may not have been able to get permission from the parents to leave the grounds.
@alexandrarokana4782
@alexandrarokana4782 3 года назад
If you are gonna have kids at least raise them. Family is far more important than anything that boarding school promotes. I understand in cases of having to move away constantly or dysfunctional families, boarding school could be a solution but for some normal family to send their kids away? Why? You, as parents, are missing out on great memories and crucial years for their upbringing and you just distance yourselves from them. Let alone that kids can become perfectly successful and get a high level of education in regular schools too with their family and friend’s support and motivation.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
In this case, these four girls were moving constantly as their parents were in the military
@Gioli565
@Gioli565 3 года назад
I would divorce my husband before I ever dreamt of letting him “win” that. What a travesty. Intentionally harming your child. It’s a joy and a privilege to parent everyday, I’d never give up a moment.
@NJWAANAA
@NJWAANAA 4 года назад
I didn't stop CRYING WITH YOU MY PRINCESSE APRIL😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢She needs to be feeding with LOVE MORE AND MORE AND MORE AND MORE😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Smashed feelings School😲😲😲😲😲😲
@elizabethcarver9902
@elizabethcarver9902 4 года назад
This is me talking emotionally however what husband does this to his wife and what mother allows him to😡
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Do not go blaming it on the father, they made the decision together for their daughters best interests
@emmama5970
@emmama5970 4 года назад
8? Wayyyyyyy to young.
@userily
@userily 4 года назад
Exactly. I think age 13 is a good age to go to boarding school. Teenagers can survive it better than little kids
@akigatoz
@akigatoz 4 года назад
Serena Hamlington my friend is 11 and goes to boarding school. it’s really bad.
@ts121084
@ts121084 4 года назад
It would have been traumatizing for me at that age, even as a boy. I was, however, dying to leave home by the time I was 15 ...
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They did it in the kids' best interest
@crazyanimegirl4376
@crazyanimegirl4376 4 года назад
If I had a child and the ability to send them to boarding school I still wouldn't do it I learnt independence from a young age but I still could turn to my mum whenever I needed to
@crazyanimegirl4376
@crazyanimegirl4376 4 года назад
I'm independent of my parents even though I still lived at there house so I can raise money for my own
@carlapatas8538
@carlapatas8538 3 года назад
I went to boarding school when I was 9. After month 2 or 3 almost no one ever got homesick(same for parents) and we were away from our parents for longer than these girls. So even though they seem sad this was all in the first month and it can be that they were just very overwhelmed at the same time. Also my boarding school had a more family approach . And you had more freedom in off hours (3pm-8am). And although my intelligence may not be extremely advanced, I would not be as independent, have gained many other skills or made tons of best friends.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Precisely, most of the people here don't seem to understand that.
@jukio02
@jukio02 2 года назад
I know a few people that have went to private school and ended up in ordinary universities. One didn't even go to college. One girl I knew who went to public schools her entire life, then to a public college. After two years there, she transferred to Stanford university.
@MRdoomPAY
@MRdoomPAY 3 года назад
I live in a boarding school and oh boy its like prison
@judysorenson7922
@judysorenson7922 4 года назад
She is also gonna miss you! You are a family for heaven sake.
@susanhowe163
@susanhowe163 4 года назад
WHY CAN'T MUM PUT CAREER ASIDE UNTIL APRIL IS 12- 14. YOU AREN'T A MUM FOR 8 YEARS. IT IS NOT REASONABLE OR FAIR TO EXPECT A LITTLE 8 YEAR OLD TO ADJUST BEING AWAY FROM PARENTS WHO JUST ABANDONED THEM.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They were not abandoned
@Gioli565
@Gioli565 3 года назад
@@Kalani_Saiko why do you defend it so vehemently? You are defensive because you went to boarding school I imagine.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
@@Gioli565 I just said they were not abandoned bro, that's not defending every case, just this one.
@angelmarie5609
@angelmarie5609 4 года назад
Why have kids just to send them away? Might as well as send them to an orphanage or foster home.
@Juju4Gaming
@Juju4Gaming 3 года назад
unless it’s a teenager right
@abbym9563
@abbym9563 3 года назад
They had the kids best interest at heart, wanting them to have a stable environment to grow up and learn and make friends. That being said 8 is really young and I think 11 is the youngest children should start boarding
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Jesus Christ! They wanted to give their kids stability and the ability to make and keep friends, stuff they couldn't do when they were moving around all the time
@forestkitsunerosa8514
@forestkitsunerosa8514 4 года назад
Didn’t we already see this episode?
@hollykeenan4011
@hollykeenan4011 4 года назад
I was thinking the same thing. They just keep posting the same older videos over and over.
@3nina
@3nina 4 года назад
Same
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
@@hollykeenan4011 under diff titles
@Stalaxian
@Stalaxian 4 года назад
It is like they abandoning them
@andjelamarkoski2320
@andjelamarkoski2320 4 года назад
I promise you it isn't as bad as they show it here.... they make it sound much worse...
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
@@andjelamarkoski2320 I think that's because this is the first couple of weeks when they are still getting used to the place, they should probably make a follow up about how they're doing now.
@malinachainey1564
@malinachainey1564 4 года назад
I mean I completely get why military families would send their children to a boarding school, im not sure i could do it with my daughters if I was in that situation though. My mom grew up with a dad in the Marines, and was forced to move so much she never once got to make a friend before her family was being shipped out again. It makes me so sad to think about my mom being made fun of and having no one to play with at recess cause she was constantly the "new girl". I think she would of benefitted from being enrolled in a boarding school, she also would of escaped being physicly abused by her father. I also grew up with a huge military base basically in my backyard, so many of my friends were military children. A lot of them had the same issues my mom did when it came to never feeling like they belonged anywhere, making friends, and getting to experience being a child and teen with friends. I mean some military kids you will get to be friends with if your lucky for a couple of yrs, others 6 months. Whats worse is they don't even get to say goodbye to any friends they had managed to make, one day they just aren't in class or on the bus cause their parent/guardian was reassigned. Its just not an easy way to grow up. My mom is in her early 50s a, raised 2 daughter's and many of our friends, has 4 grandchildren, a nurse and successful business owner and she still has issues with feeling like she has a place to call her own, or has really put "roots" down anywhere, and insecurities of being accepted. Even though she is loved by everyone that gets to know her. Its sad.
@ashleyallen6195
@ashleyallen6195 4 года назад
I just finished making a similar comment to someone else and I agree with you 100%. I was a military baby, too, and I can sympathize with how your mother feels. I would have loved the option of being in a boarding school growing up instead of constantly moving from place to place. I had both parents in the force growing up, so on top of moving constantly, I'd be living with babysitters at random moments. Not only that, but continually trying to keep up with ever-changing schools' curriculums was an absolute nightmare.
@appleunicorn2927
@appleunicorn2927 4 года назад
Has anyone heard any updates about the kids if they stayed or left?
@Elle-ke8uh
@Elle-ke8uh 3 года назад
Dis was made 9 years ago it was just posted year ago
@lydiacasagrande8437
@lydiacasagrande8437 4 года назад
I feel this is just legal child abuse
@JordysHokum
@JordysHokum 3 года назад
Usually boarding schools take care of the children quite well and they usually have a blast yes they will get homesick but they are only a phone all away from there parents
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Don't think so
@LG-pv9vg
@LG-pv9vg 4 года назад
I didn’t watch the whole thing.. the mom made me emotional.. 😰 Edit: scrap that, I am watching it. 😠
@bannisterjames2845
@bannisterjames2845 2 года назад
Having been to a boarding school myself at age 12, i am now 39 and a Dr. I would NEVER under any circumstance send or recommend anyone to do so. If an institution raises a child better than parents, its not a sign of how good the institution is, it is a sign instead of how inept the parents are. Boarding school is merely an artificial mode of orphanages. It is a legalised form of child abuse. Homesickness is not a simple cope with it thing. Children are NOT MINI ADULTS!!! The developing brain is very different from a fully developed adult brain. Homesickness is very similar to bereavement (as good as dealing with death). Pure cruelty! Even if they stop crying, its not that they have finally gotten used to it, its simply a normal phase of bereavement, at some point they will stop crying... BUT REST ASSURED, THE DAMAGE IS DONE AND IS LIFE LONG! DO NOT SEND YOUR CHILDREN TO BOARDING SCHOOL!!! Remember, children naturally trust parents. They will agree to whatever you say because they just trust you know best. Its when they grow oldr that you will see it...
@tinafanelli3382
@tinafanelli3382 4 года назад
We only have 18 years with our children! Why would ANY mother, regardless of constant moving, want to shorten that amount of time?? l
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Because making them move constantly is not going to help them in life AT ALL
@alenapumprova8606
@alenapumprova8606 3 года назад
It's weird in my country there is an effort to make even the orphanages to look like real homes because the people leaving them are not ready for a real life and have so many issues to coping with life. They found out it was a really bad idea to put kinds into this big facilities cause the young people living there usuually ended on drugs. They were not able to make healthy relationshops etc. These people just institutionalizate the kinds even if it's not necessary.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
When there were still big children's homes here, the homes used to get kids addicted to drugs by drugging them to keep them controlled, whether they needed it or not.
@NotSoWise23
@NotSoWise23 3 года назад
Dang! Reminds me of my boarding days. There were some tough days.
@cexeara6724
@cexeara6724 2 года назад
April was happy at first but the ending she was crying I felt so bad that I cried
@annabellewhitley1493
@annabellewhitley1493 4 года назад
Gosh I feel like I did not went to a boarding school after watching this video, I feel like I went to a military bootcamp. 😂🤦🏻‍♀️ But I still like boarding school because it keeps me away from home, *Yeah I end up not liking to be home after years of boarding school.
@stonedreviews1200
@stonedreviews1200 2 года назад
Due to boarding school my relationship with my parents was strained till I was in my late twenties. I hated my mother (the one who wanted me to go because she did) with a burning passion. This all left me with horrible abandonment and trust issues. If your kid wants to go to boarding school let them, but if they do not want to, then do not force them or it will come back to bite you.
@chardonnaydimarananrey2135
@chardonnaydimarananrey2135 3 года назад
April is too young for boarding school 🥺 she can't see her parents
@juttaspeaks
@juttaspeaks 2 года назад
I think 8 is to young to leave ur parents. I went to boarding school at 10 y. old. in Germany. It was much stricter. I was happy in boarding school. But my parents could not show affection,never told us : I love you or hug us .iMy education was excellent .I saw my parents every 6 weeks for a few hours and on holidays ,summer vacation .
@appleunicorn2927
@appleunicorn2927 4 года назад
Why couldn't they do homeschooling instead? I'm talking about the kids that are having a hard time there. I'm from Minnesota USA tho
@cjpv1972
@cjpv1972 4 года назад
I think this is like a STATUS thing in England, because the royal kids go to boarding schools too....so sad.
@anony7589
@anony7589 2 года назад
Boarding school is traumatic enough for me at 18…couldnt imagine any boarding school at 8
@kellywhobrey3575
@kellywhobrey3575 3 года назад
ok but off-topic, if i didn't have sleep anxiety this would literally be so fun
@debimorsette1685
@debimorsette1685 4 года назад
So sad that one of the 8 year old girls is sucking her thumb.
@michellewolfe193
@michellewolfe193 4 года назад
I sucked on my fingers until 10 or 11 years old and I have a slight overbite. Though I developed somewhat slower mentally and by eleven I was ready to finally stop.
@cazburnetttheatre
@cazburnetttheatre Месяц назад
Boarding can be an amazing experience for lots of children. Army families etc have a very unsettled life. Going to one school is usually much better than changing schools and friends very often.
@insertnamehere302
@insertnamehere302 3 года назад
I think the Ross’s is actually better for be kids, at the boarding school they will be able to keep their friends rather than moving all over the country
@ghents565
@ghents565 4 года назад
I could not do this ? 8 wow sorry I would move them with me. I guess its different over there. Kinda feel sad for the kids. I have 7 kids all lived at home till collage and some stayed here for collage. I guess i just dont understand?
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They did it in the kids' best interest because the kids didn't get a chance to just settle down and be able to make and keep friends when they were constantly moving.
@evangelineannabel
@evangelineannabel 3 года назад
"Do boarding schools provide a better education?" We might know if you had bothered to actually talk about the education they're getting
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
They get regular tutor sessions as well as normal classes.
@victoriamcleod399
@victoriamcleod399 4 года назад
I know this was filmed a while ago so does anybody know if there are any updates on these kids and how they are doing mentally?
@Kiahboudreaufanning
@Kiahboudreaufanning 4 года назад
Victoria McLeod ya I was trying to find something like that to
@ellieoliver-browning5346
@ellieoliver-browning5346 4 года назад
But for the army family I agree that the children may have been better off with stability. I mean new houses, schools, friends, teachers, places every few years? That’s not a good environment for them. I would do it with my children if it meant that they didn’t have to go through all of that continuously.
@evelyndagnilli9441
@evelyndagnilli9441 4 года назад
I agree
@amberwatson7101
@amberwatson7101 3 года назад
Family is (in best circumstances) the stabilty you need - no matter how often you move
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
All four of these girls were from military families
@user-jb8vn7vf1y
@user-jb8vn7vf1y 2 года назад
And I don't know if it's a cultural difference, but if there's a high-end private boarding school like Eton College in Korea, I don't think I'll defend the dormitory even after spending 12 years apart from my children. I think helicopter parents are better for that part. Before that, you may be asked to close the school due to controversy over fairness. Because in fairness, elementary, middle, and high schools are standardized except for universities, and CSAT and regular admissions are very sensitive reasons.
@SkipRoche31
@SkipRoche31 6 месяцев назад
Wish they would do a follow up on this show
@Bella-ug9uu
@Bella-ug9uu 3 года назад
This is so wrong- nothing is more important than being with your family
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Depends, these kids were moving incredibly often, they needed the stability too
@jasminenixon9979
@jasminenixon9979 Год назад
Its sad. The children that really need this will never have the opportunity. Yet, others are dumped there unnecessarily.
@lindad1195
@lindad1195 4 года назад
I think this is an older video.
@xylondacollins
@xylondacollins 4 года назад
It not, they keep reupload old ones.
@kyleighparker2743
@kyleighparker2743 3 года назад
Yea this is very old they are like 18-19 now found Lottie insta she’s an artist now ❤️
@hoodlumjones9943
@hoodlumjones9943 2 года назад
Children should not have to learn to cope without their parents
@Sassy_Alaskan
@Sassy_Alaskan 3 года назад
So you birth these children and then send them away for 3/4 of the year. They’re literally being raised by strangers. What’s the point of having children if you’re just going to send them away. I find the entire concept incredibly selfish.
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
Everyone's a stranger until you get to know them, they're not strangers to the girls if they live there
@Gioli565
@Gioli565 3 года назад
@@Kalani_Saiko stranger or teacher, nobody should be raising children except parents or guardians
@Kalani_Saiko
@Kalani_Saiko 3 года назад
@@Gioli565 Depends on the situation really :P
@afsheensoni4915
@afsheensoni4915 3 года назад
By the way this was recorded February 2010... . Passed 10 years back ! I wonder if she continued or enjoyed the family life ! I wish she didn't go through this
@janynnaworld2209
@janynnaworld2209 3 года назад
She is probably 17-19 years old so she probably done with school or something
@mummybear4915
@mummybear4915 2 года назад
I don't understand the decision made sending kids off such a young age. Kids at such tender age need constant emotional bonding and support from parents/ family.
@snappiepappie9899
@snappiepappie9899 3 года назад
When I watched Harry Potter I always thought it could be awesome, but then I remembered Harry hates his home and magic isn’t real. Boarding school looks like a nightmare tbh
@cassiewinters4910
@cassiewinters4910 4 года назад
at 10: 40 ish she was touching the bow hairs YOU DON'T TOUCH THE BOW HAIRS it made me cringe I play the cello and it one of the first thing you learn is to not touch the bow hair the oil from your fingers can ruin the hairs.
@Saimone008
@Saimone008 3 года назад
i actually feel like going to a bording school but at a age like that...
@arlenemartinez9207
@arlenemartinez9207 2 года назад
Without mom and dad , they’re exposed to anything , and I mean anything . The guy saying goodnight gave me the creeps . Poor kids .
@fubukifangirl
@fubukifangirl 2 года назад
I would detest being in a boarding school because I hate being around too many people for too long. And I definitely could not share a room with someone else. I cannot share my personal space.
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