“I don’t care who started it” “Figure it out.” “Just ignore them.” These are the worst words I’ve heard teachers say when it comes to teachers “handling” bullying
"They're just teasing/joking/tough/hardcore." "You just don't understand their humor." "You need to grow a thick skin." "To be fair, you were..." "You need to stop taking things personally." "I think you have a victim mentality."
@@kingkrool1778 I remember we had an assembly to stop bullying, and at one point they needed kids to go up on stage and perform a little skit. The thing about that was the only kids who went up their to play the "victim bullied kids" were ironically the kids who did the bullying at school. I hate bully's, but what I hate more is when they act all "innocent" around adults. Fucking bastard's are going to hell, that all I'm saying.
The people held accountable should be the PARENTS and NOT THE SCHOOL !! You must teach your kids that messages online are JUST THAT !! MESSAGES !! It's NOT someone in person BULLYING you that way it was back in the day !! Senseless suicides like this will continue until we teach our soft kids to HARDEN THE FCK UP !!
This legit made me pissed. When someone tells the teacher about bullying, they do nothing. And then when the student stands up for herself, they get shit.
C Truth NOBODY deserves death no matter what they do! I know they did something terrible and I am upset at them but I just have to pray for me humanity and my family and thats it! So please don’t wish death on people!
Alex Mendoza I really don't condone violence however,... I can strongly understand and knowing how messed up the system is we as victim of bullies have no choice but the fight back and put these bullies in their place.
Alex Mendoza I don't really blame you for feeling this way. I know what it's like to be bullied and I have fantasized about bashing their faces in just to get respect or to be left alone and not be picked on. I went through that crap not just in elementary school, middle school and high school but also in the workplace and I seriously hated it. Being a victim of these fuckers made me think of violence and I know it's sometimes necessary because if you think about it what are the choice do you have?
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My daughter is 13, not attended school for a month and won't be going back due to self harm and suicidal tenancies . Bullies are evil despicable beings. I pray for the parents I really do feel their pain. Social media should be restricted to 18 and over. I hate this. What a sad sad state of affairs. God bless her xxxx
Agreed. The only people who should be on social media should be those above the age 15. Parents need to also to take accountability and monitor their child’s phone vigorously.
A combination of a close public, high-traffic area, such as the living room, trusted adult supervision and a set aside special time for social media use PLUS under business only (to complete homework assignments) policy should be established.
Why do people keep blaming 13 Reasons Why. People have been committing suicide before this show got out. There was even a sudden increase in suicides after the show was released. This show is supposed to prevent suicide.
people argue that it's the way it's being portrayed. It can easily be seen as a tactic to get back at someone who they claimed wronged them in their life.
I've never seen the show but, it sounds like you answered your own question :) "Why do people keep blaming 13 Reasons Why." --> "There was even a sudden increase in suicides after the show was released."... That sucks if the goal was to prevent suicide.
She was so beautiful and only 12 years old 😭. The people who are responsible for Mallory's death are the school staff and the bullies. The school should have dealt with the situation. Bullies are jealous period.
Stop your children from being assholes. Problems would be solved. My mom would smack me upside the head if I was rude to anyone or if I talked badly about a classmate or friend. Set my ass straight. RIP Mallory. My heart goes out to the family :(
D Lo THIS!!! Like yes I realize that there will always be bullies and we need to raise our kids to be tougher, but we also need to raise them to be KINDER. How come no one ever talks about this. It's like how ppl always talk about what girls should do to avoid being raped, instead of raising boys to not be fucking rapists.
Exactly! Also it drives me bananas when people say ignorant things like "she shouldn't have worn a skirt so short, she was asking for it" teach your children that no means no. Easy as fucking that lol It's also hard when assholes raise assholes. It can be a hard cycle to break but it's possible.
D Lo can't believe I had to scroll down this far to see a comment that blames the kids! This can happen in any school and without being in a school with bullies!
I was bullied in school by younger and older kids elementary through middle school mostly because my family moved to a different place & I had to ride the bus plus I am part Native American. My mom wouldn’t stop it (she was abusing me at home) so I started fighting back. After one particular morning bus ride to school, I was being called names, which had been going on for awhile, I snapped, turned around in my seat & punched her in the face bloodied her nose and made her cry. I got sent to the office, but I didn’t go! Lolz! I’m a grandmother now, decades later, one of the bullies has actually apologized to me for her bullying. Bullying is harassment and anyone going through it, my advice to you is stand up for yourself if no one else will.
anna _ I’m so sorry you were bullied. I still remember it all. Kids picking on other kids usually have problems at home and take it out on others. Some are just narcissistic and think they’re superior. No one is better than anyone else. And suicide is not the answer. Things can get better, I’m living proof. Have a very Merry Christmas. 🎄🎁
camille mcaloon Your stupid for not knowing that bullying isn't right they have the rights to do this, this isn't just happening to her it happens to a lot of people who are innocent and perfect even if people call them ugly.
Adolf Hitler Cyberbullying exists you know. Not every bully is the same, some take physical action, while others are pathetic cowards that hide behind their screens.
If a child suffer depression and commit suicide as a result, the parents should be blame. Most of us had to deal with some bullying, while in school and we cannot do anything about it, because if we do, we are the one that get in trouble. But, very rarely we would suffer depression, let along commit suicide. What that mean is, most of those who suffer depression and commit suicide as a result, are over emotional people. Most overly emotional people got one thing in common, spoil little princess type. Why people become spoil little princess type? Their parents spoiled them. Even if they don't suffer depression and commit suicide due to been bully, later when they grew up, they will still suffer depression and commit suicide over minor things e.g. their girlfriend (boyfriend) broke up with him and even if they don't suffer depression and commit suicide, little spoil princess type would be a menace to society, as an adult, these are type of people that become narcissist and narcissist are a burden to society, they are the type of people that can accidentally set a building on fire and think it is everybody elses' fault, because they didn't make sure, everything in the building is inflamable, before they enter (I should know, because my mum is a narcissist and I cannot stand her). Their parents should be blamed, because they are the one that spoil this kid and turn him (her) into an emotional fragile little spoil princess, should have send the kid to military school.
@Julya Flyer having a good heart doesn't mean you are intelligent there are people with low intelligence that have a big heart good lawyer doesn't need a good heart, they need a good brain, which mean they are only concerned about keeping their job and money, but they are professional at their jobs
I was bullied everyday in the 5th grade and my teachers just sat their and watched me cry I felt suicidal but I could never do it there was always something holding me back from doing it
This brings back memories of school and being bullied. There wasn't internet tell later on and no cyber bullying but I was tourmented in school and my parents had no idea. I was to ashamed. I attempted suicide after graduation and was put on antidepressants af 15, with a unknown cause of depression and drug addiction. I'm so glad schools done but 15 years later, that stuff stays with you.
"Just ignore it," the teachers would say, "your reaction is what escalates that problem." The reason bullies get away with it is because they say and do “little” things that, if spoken out about, would be deemed “not a big deal.” But those “little things” are used against them, and if everyone else goes along with it, then the victim is helpless.
Brittany It would be nice if all bulling stopped but it is and has always been a part of life. Perhaps parents should better prepare their children to handle bulling instead of wishing and hoping millions of other people will just change their behavior. Stories likes this are tragic and a lot of them could have been prevented if these children had better life skills to overcome adolescent bullying.
I'm not trying to blame the parents here but I just don't see how you can send your kid to school everyday knowing they are being treated like that. If that were my kid I would have pulled her out of there, taken away her phone and other social media devices. It may be extreme but it's just not worth risking your child's happiness
I didn't get a phone until I after i "promoted/graduated" 8th grade, it was an iPhone 5c, and my parents constantly checked it, i'm 16 now and still have not social media what-so-ever, because my parents won't allow it(besides RU-vid if this counts), and honestly i'm fine w/o it:)
strawhelyperfectx Oh they do trust me they just don't trust the other people on the internet. I have my license already and they let me go out to the mall with my friends whenever as long as my hw is done and I check in, that's reasonable.
That's fine. Im your age and my parents are very overprotective but they don't check my phone and let me have social medias so I just thought different.
Leslay Rodriguez that will grossly affect your interpersonal communication skills. it's sad. you're parents maybe subliminally doing more harm than good. all the bad humans in the world don't only lurk on social media. they exist in tangible spaces. so therefore, with that in mind, are your parents going to keep you in total isolation? forever?
i got subscribers without videos I actually don't think it is bad for me, what about before social media? Everyone was perfectly fine and if not better than now. I still know full well how to navigate technology. Also, my parents do not keep me in total isolation, i text whoever i want whenever,have my own phone without phone checks, and i can go out whenever i'd like as long as they know where....that is reasonable. I have plenty of friends, I don't need hundreds,my close group of best friends is enough.
Myles Epps Wrong. Social media like Facebook which is one of the most famous was done by a college student for their campus. So it was not. Kids shouldn't be allowed in social media because it is toxic. Us adults know better.
This little girl's story reminds me of my own in middle school. I even wrote a suicide note blaming the school and 6 specific girls. Luckily my mother caught me before I did it. She saw the note and was furious. She got teachers and principals fired, she talked to the 6 girl's parents and showed them the note. The trauma will always haunt me but all 6 girls eventually apologized after growing up. I hope the school and parents of the bullies understand bullying can cause trauma and damage.
I’ve been bullied to the extent where I almost took my own life. And went to teachers for hell and no one would help! Schools today aren’t helping at all.
"I cencerly understand your pain!! I was 3 years old when I first set foot into a school building.i never went to preschool,or daycare.but elementary school.and from 3-17, I was bullied,and physically, abused by bullies!! There was a time or two, I tried to stand up for myself.it didn't end good.and @ 15, I wanted to kill myself.but I am 28 now,I am holding up...but I absolutely agree with you!!!
If that’s how the school treated you it probably wasn’t worth being there in the first place. Hopefully that punch was a wake-up call to whoever was picking on you.
I hope they can truly teach those bullies a very painful lesson for what they have done to an innocent young girl. The parents have every reason to sue the parents of the girls who bullied her.
If she saw her daughter changing. Attempted to talk to the school and didn't work 1. Why didn't she change her daughters phone number to block any harassing messages? 2. Why allow her daughter on social media at such young age? Restrict the quantity. 3. Why not change schools or homeschool her until she feels SAFE again? 4. Seek psychological help for her daughter before everything went down hill. SO Manyyyy things you could dooooo..... But they kept going to the school instead of taking action themselves.
Mileidy Vargas I agree with you . But the bullies would have just got away with it without suffering any consequences for their actions from the school or law enforcement and found a new victim I think that's why the parents seeked the schools help hoping they would do something about it. I do think schools need to take it a lot more seriously and the bully's should have to leave the school instead of the victim. It just very sad that this happened and is happening more regularly now to students.
Also what's to stop the bullies finding her on the street and starting in on her again, yes they could have done things differently, like gone to the school board, the newspapers, made complaints to police but hindsight is always 20/20 isn't it? I am not sure that parents are really aware of how pervasive cyber bullying is and just how much more damaging it is due to the relentless nature of it than it was in their day when social media didn't exist. I would suggest that social media companies become more robust in monotoring their sites after all they make billions and can't seem to understand that they are part of the problem
When I was 10 I was bullied by the teacher! And she encouraged my classmates to bully me as well. All because my dad got into an argument with the teacher about me broking a bone at school 😐
That poor young lady, 12 years old she took her life and her family and loved ones are left to forever think about the life she could have had. It’s just absolutely devastating. She had her whole life to live and those nasty little demons have taken it away with their cruel taunts. Everyone means something to somebody and suicide should never be the answer. ❤️
Her mom talked to our school today. It was an amazing presentation. I am going to wear her bracelet in her honor, but also to spread awareness about bullying because it is such an important topic that a lot of people ignore and avoid talking about.
I remember going though my 5th through 7th grade years being bullied and whenever I informed a teacher they did absolutely nothing even though the school promised to protect students from any type of bullying. I’m now in my twenties and just hoping that my old middle school has decided to do something about for others students instead of just turning a blind eye.
The police should be contacted right away...never mind the school . Next is take the parents to court. PERIOD ! I was bullied in sixth grade and my mother told the principal many times and nothing was done. The internet was not around at that time and now it’s even worse. I feel so sorry for the parents Bullying must be stopped.
My daughter always felt great about herself until the 3rd grade, where she met her bully! This girl tormented her all year, and made my beautiful baby girl feel lower then dirt. She constantly called her names told her how fat she looked and how ugly she was. I complained to the teacher, and school and only my daughter's desk was moved. The bullied continued still. The teachers and school don't do anything to students. I might have to step up this girl and her parents.
@@over40lordylordy93 I'm not saying actually get the law involved, but threaten the school with the idea of it or they will not give af. Been in the same situation
"They need to know cyber bullying is not ok" They need to know that bullying in general, isn't okay? Like this if you have been bullied. If your a bully that's not okay I'm What if someone does take there life bc of YOU!? Think about that. that boy/girl you called fat, ugly ANYTHING what if that heard that from you so much that they take there life? then what. You will always blame yourself. DON'T BULLY!!🚫
They need to make arrests in teachers who do ignore bullying and full investigation must be taken in place! If teachers or staff do get arrested, I pray that they serve McDonald’s during Easter for they will stay there for a long time for their miserable lives. And if they aren’t arrested then they need to be stripped of all teaching certificates and be banned from working at schools for life. Their faces need to plastered in newspapers and tv to shame them for life.
well some of us need to call parents if something bad happens but I think that just buying a flip phone for a kid heck I'm a kid and I rather get a flip phone then a normal one just so I don't get bullied online
Why are 12 year not with a parent or guardian of some sort. I don't think a 12 year old would be out with friends. Since they can't drive. They would be with friends at a house and I'm sure the people that own the house have a phone. There for it wouldn't be needed. I honestly could go without a phone. Texting wise I use Snapchat much more than texting. And I barely ever call unless it's to tell my mom if I'm doing something. My point is a 12 year old will never be in a situation where they need a phone. They can't drive so they won't be away from their parent. By the way I didn't get a phone till I was almost 16 and I only needed it so I could call someone to pick me up from soccer. Or school
I hope those girls grow up to know they murdered someone. Actually pissed me off how no one tries hard enough to prevent this. The teachers in the class room should have witnessed this..
Oh no the d8uchebag teachers definitely see everything, but won’t f8cking say anything. In my own opinion the teachers and staff need to be punished pay hefty penalties and fines or get arrested or banned from teacher for life. Bully need to be thrown out of school and face criminal charges.
I don't want to be insensitive but, why didn't they move her to a new school? If the school won't listen and the girls are getting worse then they should have looked into switching schools.
“The teachers, staff and administrators... Are as they always been, and will continue to be, committed to protecting the rights and safety for all our students” Yeah right 😒
Zoe Bala she was. she was my best friends best friend. they would go for play dates. and Mallory, she would come to the cheer field where I cheered, she would dance her heart out. she would compete against my team and everything. She was just an angel
Amy Concepcion Well I just want her to respect that the girl passed away and not only focus on how good she looks. Like, if she was ugly, nobody would care??
Make sure you make friends doesn’t matter if it’s from another school. There’s always the good ones from those bad ones that bullies you. You won’t feel alone when you have backup. Tell an adult no matter who it is that your being bully. An adult whose been bully always have that soft spot that will defend you.
i was in a really bad place and my parents just said “okay, you’re not happy. let’s start over let’s move schools” and i moved and i’ve never been happier and i’m so glad i have parents that will actually HELP instead of ignoring it.
Are you kidding me, your daugther cannot stand criticism? If you really look closely, this is a parenting problem. How you raised your kids to become this weak? How your kids would surviving in society if she could not stand criticize?
I was one of the 'popular' girls in highschool and I shamefully admit I bullied alot of the other students. As a mother now I really regret my behaviour and now understand OT was all about my ego and self image to the outside world. I will make sure my kids will be brought up to stick up to those being bullied in school.
When your older you think that you don't get more positive, you figure out life ain't easy, and you go through problems but this is isn't the reason to end your life. Life is beautiful, so much to see,so much to learn,so much to care and so much to love. I hope this changed.Amen
I lost my friend two months ago due to suicide cause of bullying.All schools needs do something about this they need do their jobs.It’s been going on for too long now.It’s ridiculous 😡😡😡😤😤😤
I was bullied as a kid, but it stopped when I left school everyday. I can't imagine what it's like for kids these days, I'm so sorry and my heart breaks for those going through this.
I still get bullied I have been for awhile and let me tell you it is heart breaking I have anxiety issues because of it but I try to fight the best I can to tell the bullies don’t say that to me or anyone else that is hurtful inconsiderate and rude and to anyone who is struggling with bullies I wish you the best and show those bullies you’re not gonna take their rudeness anymore!
@@vedawerner8981 I'm really sorry you've had to go through that too. I'm here if you ever need someone to listen, lend an ear. Sending love and courage your way. You're very welcome.
WHY should she move school the school should of expelled the shit bags who bullied the poor girl i have 2 kids myself I couldn't imagine the pain her parents and family are going through my deepest sympathies and condolences to the family make sure that school board don't hear the end of it
Bullying is such a terrible thing and some schools don't understand what the hell is going on but most of the time they just ignore it and that is not okay..
it always gets to me when I come across stories like this. I was bullied for most of my life both in school and online, I had anxiety and agoraphobia so I was considered "weird" because I was quiet,sat by myself often and got nervous alot, I also was chubby and eventually began to dress differently from the mainstream so those were two other things that made me get made fun of, I also had photos taken of me without my permission to get mocked over social media like this girl was. I did get depression and suicidal thoughts, so sad when I see the ones who did not survive. I am in my 20s now and have not been bullied in years but the memories of those times still haunt me...
I lost a friend to suicide in our senior year of high school, from bullying. Parents need to start raising their kids to be kinder… good lord. Rest In Peace, Mallory. ❤️
This scared me.. This is the exact same thing in going through... Just that I'm 13 and far away from home in a boarding house... At least I'm strong, and even though suicidal thoughts have occurred, i won't do it. We have a life waiting for us, so live and enjoy it💖
Stories like this are why I brought my daughter home to be homeschooled when the school wouldn’t acknowledge the daily bullying. She’s doing really well.
I'm starting to think these so-called anti-bullying policies is more about either making victims just tolerate it ("gRoW a ThIcK sKiN") or dissuading them from believing it to be bullying ("tHeY'rE jUsT tEaSiNg"), rather than actually taking action against the ones doing the bullying in the first place.
I was bullied as well when I was 9-13. This is so sad, kids especially in middle school are rude. Glad I didn't had a phone back then. I'm pretty sure the teachers also knew what was happening but they never said anything. STAY STRONG TO ALL WHO'S GETTING BULLIED! You'll get through it and something great will come out from it! If I wasn't bullied I wouldn't have discovered my talent.
I was bullied in grade school by a teacher and classmates and it was brutal, yet my parents who could have pulled me out of that class didn't and it was a nightmare. I'm 73 and I still have bad memories. I blame more of the parents for this bullying. How are they raising their kids? They must be the same! Schools can only do so much. I think in this case though I'd have pulled her out and either put her in another school or better yet homeschooled her. And yes, why did these kids have these phones in the first place?
I am now mid-age, and I also have bad memories of being bullied. Even at workplaces, that happens more often than you could've imagined. Schools are doing less to punish bullies. A popular bully at high school was the teacher's pet! She saw how he bullied me, but she doesn't care.
She was a good friend of mine, we were in different towns, she was a rockaway rockets cheerleader and I was a football player for another team. Every few months we would play rockaway. She was friends with many of my friends through gymnastics. Mal, you will be missed 😢💙
negative Being a emotionless dick in order to get attention? WOW. Did your parents not give you that much attention? Just asking not trying to be an asshole or anything
I'm so sorry for your family. I had a target on my back from elementary school to high school until I dropped out at 16 years old. Nobody bothered asking me why I was dropping out. Teachers literally turned their backs while witnessing me being bullied. I was a white girl and I was a minority. All the bullying was race related. But it doesn't matter why what matters is I was bullied to the point of dropping out of high school. This was before social media I cant imagine how much worse it could've been. I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I'm so sorry for your pain
How, HOW does a 12yr old know how to do this? Can't even comprehend how bad these bullies must have tortured this poor child, God hold her close. She is at peace now but gone to soon. Hope those bullies are punished and their lives are so horrible and their families suffer because of what these awful girls did.
Do not keep it a secret. If you are being bullied tell someone that you know you can count on. That way you can get help. Do not let it fester inside you because that will do nothing. I know because I’ve been bullied and before I told anyone I thought about ending it all. But then I realized if I did that the bullies would win And I cannot let that happened so I decided to tail and they never bothered me again. So take my advice tell someone you know you can trust before it’s too late.
PARENTS always looking for someone else to blame. THEY kept throwing her back into the ring. Shut down her social media and monitor all internet access. And take her out of the school. Was any of that done?
How could they have supposed that she would commit suicide? Most of us have been bullied at school and never even thought about doing something like that. I was bullied. I ran, I fought back, I cried, I bullied others , but I never even imagined suicide.
@@ddinottia39 No. You somehow totally missed my point. The parents Are the living victims. Blame the Perps for crying out loud. And the kids who knew about it but did nothing, as well as the schools that tolerate bullying.
James Macullan I watched it thank you and did you watch it😕 cause u obviously didn't hear when the parents said that they KNEW something was wrong but didn't ask or solve it so therefore your the one who didn't watch.
When my son was in middle school he was telling me how he was being bullied at Walton Middle School near Charlottesville Va and i hit that school hard . The then principal was much more concerned about upsetting the parents of their ill raised child. It infuriated me and i took it straight to the Albemarle County superintendent and raised cain. I told them if this continues i will take it to the News station and any radio station that would be interested in explosing this tragedy of bullying. That was the only way it was dealt with. If it still continued i would have pulled him out of that place! It did improve but I sent him to a complely different school the following Fall. Do not tolerate your child being bullied for a second!
