That second story. The sheer audacity of this woman to expect to repair anything after she voluntarily ruined their relationship. Broooo he was done the second you confesed.
I can never understand how she says she never stopped loving him but treated him like shit during the affair. If you love someone you will never do that to them. Good on the ex-husband tho, shed all the dead weight.
@@legiontepes3474 Yeah I agree... but the second story... yes but not as much. The husband should have left her THEN have another partner. On paper their still married (even though by this point it is dead now), while understandable he basically stooped to her level. Unless he is pretending to be in an affair to get back at her. Note: this comment is after i reached the part where OP hears a woman in the background of her call to Husband and i'll finish listening to it now. Edit: this is only my opinion.
i know right? is hilarious even. "how could you pick a total stranger over me, your wife of 5 years that totally picked a total stranger over you even when you are my husband of 5 years?"
Becoming less than a doctor would be a disgrace? Only low educated people do sales? Wouldn’t that mean that OPs parents are a disgrace to the family and low educated?
Imagine working yourself day in and day out in a thankless job just to be looked down upon by your own kids. Education seems to make people have a crappy world view on those who actually keep society both clean and running.
I get the feeling that much of that line of thought came from some form of insecurity or low self-esteem issue. Constantly thinking about appearances and never about what is actually happening is a recipe for disaster in any family. Honestly, they could have fostered the growth of his interests and made him become the best he could be, but instead, they tried to force him to become something he never was or was going to be. It was like they were demanding an apple tree produce oranges. They were completely unreasonable and foolish.
I love how cheaters “love” their SOs so much after they get caught and are “so devastated” when the SO finally leaves their ass. The gall she has though to keep tabs on him.
My mom was like that with my dad after confessing that she cheated on him, yet went to bed peacefully no stress there and went back to picking fights with him thinking she's superior, even though my dad makes more money than her and has a bigger connection of friends. cheaters just like to act like everything is normal and point blame when theyre upset, they never properly and genuinely own up to the shit they did.
On the scale of cheaters, she isn't the worst because she told him, but still a marriage breaker. For me, I feel that if it was a one night stand, maybe counciling could give a second chance, but still probably a divorce. She sucks, at least she didn't hide it and waste his time.
Story 2: OP get over yourself!! You're the one who nuked your own relationship. You can't be mad at your ex for doing to you what you did to him. Do not victim blame
I did the same shit to my ex (who acts like a fucking child but is a grown ass adult) and all he did was blame everything on me so anytime he tried pinning the blame on me id bring up something he did and hed always ask me to not bring it up like he never did anything wrong but did everything wrong and wanted to make me feel like the bad guy (btw we have a daughter together) and anytime we fight when my daughter was in the room id shut him out my mind and focus on my child who was only like 3/4 months at the time, and then wanted to go and complain to other girls about the fact we wasn't having any "fun" time when im still sore and healing and trying my best not to get pregnant again so I didn't have 2 children on my back to be taking care of. After 2 (and maybe a hlf maybe less) years i finally had enough of his shit and left him but now i gotta fight to get my daughter out of foster care cuz of his family doing bad things to her (not to sound like an attention seeker or anything but my daughter should have been dead cuz of everything they put her thru (but im glad she isnt cuz then id loose myself)). But thats all i want to say about my experience with toxic relationships (cuz he was toxic and manipulative thanks to his parents)
I am an American child and I can agree that having to go back whole year in school no matter what for you are is terrible and it’s not good at all. No phrase with no phrase of the book you did and also you did stupid stuff you got stupid punishments what were you expecting for them to give you candy, I thought Asians were supposed to be smart smart
Story 2 : I BEG YOUR EFFIN PARDON LADY ?! "It's not fair", riiight, 'cause YOU cheating on him was sooo fair to him ! You don't like the coming late, spending time with another woman, cold-treatment ? Well now you know how your ex felt ! Looks like somebody didn't like the taste of their own medicine.
She did bring up a valid point in that he was dirty af for giving her false hope of reconciliation. Regardless it was in poor taste. However in hindsight of her last comments that there is no other woman he may of truthfully been considering it. We don't know. While I condeem the false hop he gave her I understand st least. Personally feel its wrong. But she did chest
As OP from the shinobi-ghosting story said, "the opposite of love is indifference." The second story feels almost like that story, only now OP is the cheater and is on the receiving end of the revenge. And she deserves every consequence.
2 story: He didn't use her. As she said, he was indifferent and polite. She did everything she could to stop the guilt, not for hi,. He didn't demand her anything
Op should file a charges against their abusive parents because they locked him up without food or anything that's an abuse and that's child and negligence. Just because you're a parent from a different culture does it mean you make your child successful sometimes you have to give love and respect not about image or anything
Asian are just that way and i finally realize that when i start taking a peek into what life is for other countries. Gotta say the US seems kinda messed up though.
I swear cheaters decide they love their spouse AFTER.... If you love your spouse so much, you will be SCARED AF to lose him so you should be scared to cheat. Not only did you cheat, you did it for months.
2 story Not her blaming her problems on her once husband soon ex because she cheated and apparently he doesn’t wanna work things out?? Like- even if he doesn’t wanna work things out then anyone can break up with anyone at any time for any reason so don’t go blaming ur shit on ur amazing ex
Starving your kid the night before an exam does the opposite of helping them get a good score. Your brain needs fuel. Sounds like the parents wanted him to fail so he wouldnt be competitive with their golden child. Sabotaged.
Story 1: Honestly a lot of hang-ups come from parents doing stuff like this. Its more common than people think and props for not blaming your sister. Story 2: You cheated and despite most people's views here its not always a relationship ender, but when your husband doesn't want to reconcile there is nothing you can do but move on, you can't buy your way back into a relationship.
It's a relationship ender for the majority of people simply because of the loss of trust. Not to mention who knows if the s3x was protected or not which means the cheater is now a potential STD factory or a baby trap of raising another man's kid. If their excuse is "I don't know why I did it" that's either a lie or they have zero impulse control. Which is why the phrase "once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater" exists.
Story 2: I hope Op never realized that she took him for granted. Why?? She is going to do some stupid shiz things due to her narcissism and it will bite her back HARD in the divorce. I feel the punishment that cheating husband did clearly is not fair enough and he knows this. If Op talks to the company (Or the company acknowledges this thanks to gossip) about what she did with her client, for sure she is going to get fired.
I underperformed at school as well and was told by some teachers I could be a genius if I stopped being lazy and applied myself whereas others said I was a waste of skin. Little did I know I had undiagnosed ASD and ADHD. I'm 50 now and only found out last year. Now i know about it I've been able to make changes and am doing much better.
my friends mother was told at 16 by one teacher that all she would be good for would be making babies, she retired as a vice chancellor of a major university and cowrote the main text book that is used to teach undergrads in her subject
@@princessmarlena1359 Things weren't looked for at that time. Maybe they could have gotten the hint when I was called Rain Man when the film came out. I wonder what I could have accomplished if I'd known earlier but you know what they say, live in regret, die in vain. I just know my workflow is unique to my needs.
I'm asian.. all i can say is this is normal from us Asian kids 🥲 the trauma and damage is bigger than a sink hole... im 30 and struggling on what i want to do in life have low self esteem...and depressed (from grandparents, relatives to parents they do what they know is right even hurting your own child)
Should be the best option but that kind of treatment is so normalized in some cultures that no one speaks against it, also without solid proof and with all the family treating the victim as dramatic, cops and CPS can't do much about it, unfortunately
If you have parents like this and live in the U.S. please call CPS when this kind of stuff happens. It might be accepted in other cultures/countries but here it's considered abuse. Don't let them take your childhood/life away and don't let them treat you like this.
2 story. bro imagine thinking a husband will forgive you when you're showing you're not loyal by cheating, and then being suprised when ur husband js cheating back... women are so cocky those days they think they can get away with everything just bcuz of their gender
lololol this is a spicy meatball of a video, I'm very entertained 💀 Also, for the 2nd story, anytime a person is upset and they're silent/calm, just know that it's over and they're mentally checked out
Maybe it wasn't as harsh, but as a middle schooler with a large asian population this isn't nuts. I knew kids who'd have a whole melt down because they got a low B in a class and their parents would lose their minds. Lots of angry Vietnamese, Korean, and Filipino parents on report card day, mine included.
You’d think with all those doctors they’re meant to be that they’d understand why those behaviors are bad, but nope because *YOU STUPID, YOU NEED TO BECOME DOCTOR BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS ARE ALSO STUPID*
As an Asian, I can totally relate to the Story #1 though my parents weren't cruel as the OP's parents. I crack jokes about the Asian parents' grade scale to other people to make fun of their overly high expectations. Here's an example of Asian parents' grade ratings: A+ =..... (Keep up the good work) A or A- = Average B, B+, B- = Better Try Harder C. C+. C- = Can't eat dinner D, D+. D- = Disgrace to your family, Dishonor to your ancestors F= Find another family
The second story just made me roll my eyes the whole time. She cheated on him, told him he could cheat on her, and then, when he actually couldn't deal anymore and said he was done, she acted like SHE was the victim. GOD! The poor man couldn't even pretend to cheat back. He deserves so much better than this sad excuse of a woman. Nah, she ain't even a woman. She's a snake that finally showed her true colors.
The woman from the second story is so hypocritical. Saying he doesn’t know this woman when she cheated on him with someone she barely knew. Also, if she loves him so much, why did he cheat.
"You're choosing a stranger you just met over your wife of 5 years" His wife of 5 years chose a stranger she met as a client over her loving, caring husband.
I have to admit op had a good point at the end grades at the end of the day don't matter if you don't develop the skills outside of school. I mean his sister literally has the best grades out of the two of them but has no confidence and all because she never kept the develop that. at the end of the day their parents insistence on good grades and high paying jobs only destroyed their children's future. also if they wanted to have a good image for the community then they should have been good parents from the start and not Force all of those unnecessary expectations onto their children. because what you do to your children can and welcome back to bite you in the ass One Way or Another. and also I think this is the greatest revenge you could do to your parents. not take away their money not take away their livelihoods or even their homes. take away their reputation and expose them for the people that they really are. because at the end of the day that's will be there end.
"Anything less than a doctor, or engineer is disgraceful", and yet here are their parents not being doctors, or engineers, and just running a grocery store... Such shameful people, disgracing their families by being lowley store owners.
Story 1 : serves right on there faces😂 Story 2 : she did a bad thing and not forgivable at any cost, but it was over, and she should be easy with herself, accepting her mistakes and becoming a better person..the husband seems very genuine and she sure lost gold! But she herself is a diamond in some kind of way! Be brave and improve yourself ❤
I'm glad that story 1 had a good ending for the sister. Neither of them had it good, and even though the sister never stood up for OP, I think helping her succeed will have long lasting positive effects for both of them in the future. At least my naive hopeful self believes.
They need to show love and respect because all they care about is their image and their grades so it's okay to lock them up and force them without food that's called an abuse
As someone with family working on health (Nurses, doctors) yeah even then experience and social skills are a must, you can know everything and still drop the bag because you are nervous or have no social skills at all or experience as you are dealing with sick people in pain and frustrated. Is not just "study and money." That's a outdated mentality of the past.
Kudos for the guy in the first story not to abandon his sister no matter how much their parents "preferred" her. Whatever happened was because of the parents, she was a victim of them too, although at first she didn't positively suffer from the strict lifestyle imposed by the parents.
This is actually truth about our Asian countries. I still didn't get it why my parents so much in good marks from 1-9 standard when no one even ask for them at any place, I mean no job interview or test has I been asked of my school marks not even college entrances exams of different asian countires just my college grades and coding knowledge and aptitude was asked. And what the obession with doctor and engineering what about commerce and arts. That part is true as well our parents do threw us out for bad grades and even beat us, I still remember how for not making some idiotic copy of english(My teacher ususally only made us copy entire book and i was generally not the type of person who you say even read his copies , I just read my school books for exams), my mom literally threw me out for of house with I set of clothes for nearly half a day. But I don't agree on his point of not treating guest properly in our culture thier is a term called 'Atithi Devo Bhava' this means that every guest is like a god and should be treated like a god.
I don't know how things are now, but back in the 90's in the US (Possibly not the whole country, just the part I was in), your early to mid grade school grades didn't matter at all so long as you weren't held back. The closest they came to mattering was in final year of middle school, if you wanted to start high school in advanced placement classes, which supposedly gave you an extra advantage to getting into the better colleges. Considering what happened to the way colleges admitted people in the early 2000's, how school loans worked, and the employment prospects later on, the whole thing kind of feels like a scam, looking back on it.
Right?? My grandparents, while not as judgemental and punishing as my parents, comment on my grades and saying that it is important if i want a good job later on. It didn't even click with me on how it was supposed to help me get a job. The only time when I'd see them be at least useful was when i was looking for scholarship. And that, also is taken care of with an ielts score of 7.5+. So every tad bit of usefulness from my school's grade completely vanished out of my mind. To be fair, i haven't taken an ielts exam yet but planning on taking next year at around the same time as my high school's exam. University do be costing a lot and i do not want to be a burden. I want to do coding as a mean to make a living(BUT I WANT TO BE AN ARTIST SO BAD AAAAAAAGH). Sorry that's turned into a bit of a rant but whatever. In no universe should school grade be what your children see as the only way to success as it would, quite ironically, mess them up quite a lot and might take away their chance of success.
@@playonlinegames6418 I truly understand your from bottom of my heart still remember in my 7th grade, I didn't received 9+ cgpa got something like 8.6 but in my school children were given a metallic junk of a trophy for such achivement. What happen I was at my maternal grandparents house with my mother celebrating my holidays and result come in of previous year, they nearly get to commit suicide after saying a lot of hurtful things to me yeah no propes for getting that shit pile of junk for 1 to 6 grade one year they cannot brage about you made you some kind of criminal in eyes of asian parents and grandparents. Since I am first grandson from my maternal side everyone always keep telling me that it is my duty to perform well to all my younger siblings get encourage from it, what kind of bullsh*t is this what about my dream. Love to play basketball till 5th standard suddenly got to sixth standard and playing basketball is like a crime.
@@MacClay8 man you are from US check education system of south Asian countries will nearly got you to say what kind of bullsh*t is this system. I mean what kind of system have marks for making copies in beautiful handwriting, summer holidays project, files but not of theory exams to full extent.
@@challengeentertainment6008 Oh I believe it man. We have crap like that here too, but it's all fringe stuff that everyone but the most strict parents go for. And not just regular strict parents. People like in the story with destructive societal expectations, or the odd student that is trying to get into some ridiculously niche program. It's so rare that I could never figure out why it existed in the first place. Programs don't exist if enough students don't go for them, you know? A 0.5% engagement rate shouldn't survive more than a couple years. I can only imagine what hell that would be if it was a normal expectation for the average student.
Story 2: I swear I heard this story before from the other side. In the other story, OP found out and decided to get revenge and carefully moved all his stuff out without her knowing and entirely faked the affair just to get back at her.
"I love him so much" Says every cheater ever. If you loved him like you claim then you wouldn't have spread your legs for someone else. Its that simple.
Second story: Stop. You need to take responsibility for your actions, saying you suck and throwing a pity party is not taking responsibility. It’s time to accept the damage and move on.
The second story of woman exclaiming "How could you pick a stranger over of your wife of x years?" Made me burst out laughing at this sheer audacity. The hypocrisy of this entitled woman! Even going as far as minimizing her actions and still trying to blame her ex-husband for not being the one to trying to fix their relationship. I am glad that that man got out of the relationship and hope he is in a better one or has found something to turn his life from downhill to uphill and live happy without his ex.
Story 2: one of the take aways here is: the opposite of love isnt hate its indifference. Also OP is a prime example of WHY the red pill community exists. She cheats, but somehow spins it to being his fault.
