Parents Secretly Used My Credit Card to Book a $15,000 Europe Trip for My Golden Child Sister... 

Damn

Sorry to hear that. My friend’s stepbrother stole his credit card and charged his road trip on it from Los Angeles to Lake Havasu with his friends before my friend put a hold on it and had his stepbrother arrested. He then sued him in small claims for the $1,500 he had already racked up before he made it to state line.

Dang man, did he get any sort of punishment or pay you back at least?

👀👀👀👀 what happened? 😬

I hope you reported him to the police and sued him.

It's the absolute minimum expectation for a person.

Maybe Asian? its very common in Asian households.

Right? It's not an automatically assumed thing that they raise you then are entitled to your money forever after

bro... the first time I told my parents "My House, My Rules" WAS GOLDEN!!!! the look on their face! the only thing I regret is not dancing on the spot as they tried to argue why they were still right HAHAHAHAHAHAAH but i was taught better..... Being Right Means Nothing When Have All The Power..... and a lil bit of ... Justifications Only Matter To The Just

Boomer logic to the max.

That is true, but when you have parents like that, your perspective is skewed. She did come around eventually and that is good. She can change for the better, it just takes time.

Prolly have credit that is too schitty.

Exactly end if the other family members don't see it as a big deal because it's "family " why don't they pitch in a few bucks

They could have compromised and done a smaller one. Offered up collateral. Make a legal contract. Etc. But that's because it wasn't a Smokescreen. A justification. It's like how Blue Lives Matter, EXCEPT on Jan 6th. You support the Troops, EXCEPT when the Republican President or Former President shit talks Captured Vets. It's something you say to make yourself LOOK more moral.

Fr tho I would've said smt like "why didn't you pay it then"

@@potatos865they never have an answer for that question.

W pfp

BINGO

Absolutely, theft is theft regardless of who does it. That's a crucial lesson to remember: never give your credit card information to anyone, not even your parents. Have you had any experiences where this kind of caution would have helped? I'd love to hear your thoughts on how to protect ourselves from such situations.

Bravo

My guess is they were only going to give him 15k. Not the 20% interest every month. They are idiots.

Emma is the favorite child

It doesn't work that way. Favorite or not, the mental illness has a need to be fed like that.

@@alexbergkvist7214That will count for nothing since the parents don’t see anything wrong with taking money without permission. With people like that, it isn’t so much if they’d do it again, so much as how what circumstance will tempt them enough to steal from their favourite child.

​@alexbergkvist7214 that still doesn't change anything. If anything, they're more vulnerable because they are not usually the ones who are targeted and won't have a good protection against this type of abuse

​@@craddadyfishfries7147 I like ur pfp

It's because those kinds of people have no morals.

Entitlement

Theire the same kind of people as these parents

this is not real. It is made by AI. You can tell by the overuse of certain words and how most AI made stories use that "I've learned a bout the dynamics of..." whatever thing.

Theft is theft no matter who does it. However, having family do it makes it far worse.

Right when it came to him he had to earn everything.

Agreed. I hear that BS statement on reddit so much and wonder what the hell is wrong with the damn parents.

This has major "Do it for Dan" vibes.

Because it's all a lie and smokescreen. Justification and Moral Platitude. It's there to hide their TRUE feelings. "I am not Racist, I just think Blue Lives Matter too... EXCEPT on Jan 6th, then Criminal Lives Matter but NOT Blue Lives"

I'm lucky for a decent family. Who the fuck takes their kids money without asking. Id be so effing hurt, not because of money, but the disrespect of my time earning that cash.

Primitive mindset they’re just doing what instincts tell them but not thinking far ahead enough to care about the consequences. I mean the government has like 50 security nets for them so why not.

More often than you'd think, people choose to create life with the express purpose of treating their own flesh and blood horribly

It's heartbreaking how some parents can be so cruel to their own children.

Because some people have Favorites and just don't care. It can start out small and turn into a HUGE monster. There's various reasons like never wanting a boy so they don't even their daughter. Sometimes it's Enabling someone to act out because they have a Disability. An the more you feed it the worse it gets.

What's worse is the fact that some people have grown accustomed to saying, "Well, they're family. You HAVE to help them." Even worse than that, the fact that parents can sit there with a straight face and say "I gave you life. You owe me for raising you" is disturbing. As parents, they made the decision to have children. To quote a line from one of my favorite movies, "A son doesn't choose his father." As a parent, they are responsible for raising their child until legal age for whatever country they live in. Being proud of raising your child or holding the fact you gave them their life over their heads is a wild concept to me. No parent should ever be gloating over the fact that they raised their children. That's their responsibility as parents. It's why we have the term dead-beat dad/mom. Being a good parent is a requirement, not a bonus.

If they include the interest it would quickly become 20k

"eventually"

Forgive but don't forget. If they violate your boundaries again, then don't forgive or forget.

Mock*

because that would be their money, why would they want to use their money when they could just steal it from OP? /s

@@Finn_the_human94 Or they don't have the money or credit.

​@@Finn_the_human94or they have none

they wanted to use his points and stuff

They didn’t have the money

The other point these sorts of parents forget is When they are old their kids will be taking care of them - that is what pays it off You look after me at the start of my life - I look after you at the end of yours. My family has always operated like this

In alot of countries the woman don't have a choice in the matter

Congratulations on doing the bare minimum that you’re supposed to do!

​@@amandanightstar8012 there's really only one thing you can do that would lead to making a kid, so unless someone forced a women to do it, that's not really an argument.

@@Rill_1 it's the case in many states now but take Texas as an example since they are the strictes case if a 12 year old girl is r*ped by her father and becomes pregnant from it she is forced to carry to term no exception to said case. Per Texas law abortion is illegal from the moment of fertilization and no exception for r*pe and inc*est. And because it is so strict alot of doctors won't do it now even if it is a medical emergency so unless that kid has a mom that can take her out of state that 12 year old is now dead. Your opinion is invalid at this point because you are not aware of all the states and counties that have banned abortion, ignorance is not bliss my friend. USA keeps moving back in time that's just the reality of it.

Right? That's a new car or down payment on a house in my area 😂😂

Could I borrow a couple of bucks from those people? Then I can buy a nice villa.

My house back in 2020 costed $12k to buy. More than I paid for my house...

You can live more than a year in the southeast asia 😂

Damn has everyone hear the Do It For Dan story😂😂

Yes

"DO IT FOR EMMA!"

Do IT For Dan was straight up the first one of these that I listened to 😂

On the other hand, Emma wised up a lot sooner than Dan.

And watch how fast they shut that down or go "Oh I don't have it" or variations of "Are you out of your mind?" "I would love to but it's just not in my budget right now" or even "What do you mean donate money for this?"

Or “you could pay it off….eventually”

Except you know their credit is no good so that will never work

That would also be wrong.

@@chinaking918no he couldn’t they stole from him so why should he be forced to pay for something he wouldn’t get any benefits or joy out of that . Family or not

Well I would, but it's not my family so I shouldn't get involved 🙄

That’s the part that kills me. That ANYONE would side with his parents and spoiled sister.

No completely agree. While we're on the subject can I get your card details and all the security details as well? Because we really shouldn't be insistent on fraud 🤷🏻‍♂️😂😂

If it all possible, they have less than zero credit.

Actually the solution he brought led to way better future events, essentially doing what you said here shows that your no better and even if they did it first, by doing it to them your also being a thief and can be charged for it too...

Retaliation of the EXACT SAME illegal felony? My guy.

@@cameronmiyao2673 Talion's law

I thought the same thing. I think it was a bad choice trying to reconnect with them and waste his time going back to that crap.

And to make matters worse, it's only 15k if he could afford to pay all that at the end of the month, otherwise it's even more money due to the interest buildup

what is OP?

@@Shanti-qr3ky original poster

If "eventually" means in less than a month, then sure, but otherwise, cancel the damn trip and refund all money. Because let's be honest, cancelling a trip probably incurs a penalty fee.

“Eventually” not necessarily means “using money”. In the minds of such people it can be “we paid for the food you ate last week”, or something retrospective as “we grown you”.

I met someone who would borrow me money and said he will pay it back Thursday, or Monday. But he wouldn't say which Thursday or Monday. So might be the Thursday 100 years from now or the Thursday from another universe.

​@@vDungeon my sister once said she hate people with such excuses. I used to not really understand. But now i do. They be borrowing you money and said "remember the party i held last Friday? You drink and ate a lot don't you?" 😑 They're treating it like it's coupons

For the sister to probably become a barista like a liberal arts major

Communications is now a top field.

@@Wednesdaywoe1975 maybe oversaturated but everything I see didn't have it in the top 5 let alone 10 yet.

@@Wednesdaywoe1975 no it's not lmao, but it is a top field for NFL players who want an easy major to breeze through college

Hahahaha...

Yup completely useless

​@@dcg590honestly what can that translate to in the job field... Marketing perhaps?

@@dcg590 @HeliosX28 you can get multiple jobs related to technical writing, copywriting, SEO, etc and they ask for degrees in English, communications, or related fields. Including many, many that offer remote positions and pay $60k per year at bare minimum (higher than $100k at the really prestigious/senior level positions) but I guess shitting on liberal arts and making statements about things you don't know makes you feel real superior huh

@@HeliosX28 Diplomacy, advertisement, negotiating, writing (news/books/reports), teaching, translating

The thing is, when you grow up in a household where being used seems like it's normal, resisting that feels like you're being a bad person. Whether the parents intended to foster unhealthy boundaries in their son or not, they did, and the internal conflict he had was a result of that. The fact that you and I know it's not okay for anyone (family or otherwise) to make fraudulent charges on our credit means that we have good boundaries in that regard. But not everyone was raised to have those. It's hard to break free of your abusers, and it takes a big wake up call for people to even consider it, a lot of the time. All the outside perspectives OP got on Reddit was the wake-up call he needed. That being said, there's no telling if this story is even real, but if it is, that's what I think about the matter. :) Real or not, the fact is that parents all over the US do this to their kids all the time, and many is the time I see a young adult trying to apply for a loan, only to find that his or her parents ruined their credit without telling them. It's a sad realization to have to hand someone.

And the world is done with grown ups watching Videos Just to cry about them Like little karens😂

The phrase "what goes around comes around" is true? Unacceptable!

You have shit friends if you don't trust them to cheer for you

@@damienchall8297 The human heart is desperately wicked and above all deceitful, who can know it?! There are things people should not know in your business. Be they siblings, or friends. A lot of people have lost their blessings and their lives because they told people their business! A wise man keeps his mouth shut!

And knowing Americans, her "European" trip would most likely be limited to UK and France. Not the cheapest places to visit, but that's still an insane amount of money.

I was sure if I hear one more 'boundaries' I'll jump out from the 2nd floor window