Tamera opens up about how her family has been coping with the tragic loss of Alaina Housley, and she has an important message on healing the divided nation.
@Melanin Queen you are so right because when she said I'm okay and broke down that clearly showed she really isn't okay.. and it's okay not to be okay...people somehow feel like they have to have this strong strength when a devastation has happened and you don't.. it's okay, you don't have to and it's even okay if you don't want to right?
Was it the one that said, Me after losing that person I'd never thought I'd lose? If you did, I saw it too and I had to see why she was crying because I love tia and tamera so much.
“Tell me some more about Alaina :)” I lost my dad two years ago, and people never know what to say when I reminisce about him and get emotional. What Loni said is exactly the right thing to say. Just thought that was a cool moment of empathy :)
0:36 That "I'm okay" with that fake smile represents so many of us sadly lying through our teeth hiding our pain and sorrows. I've never seen Tam so broken since S1. It truly breaks my heart to see her like that. I really wish for her strength and I'm sending love to her and her family 💕 🌻
“I’m ok.” *immediately starts crying* This goes to show how desensitized we’ve become as a society. She’s clearly not ok, nor ready to be back at work, yet we’re happy to see her back. She needs time.
I lost my son almost 2 years ago suddenly. I went back to work a week later. Seems soon but i needed a schedule back. I needed to know i wake up at 6:15 am, i do yoga and work from a to b. I make dinner, etc. Yes i grieve still and recognized that not having simple goals was not helping me either. I still took the appropriate amount of time to plan necessary things. I cried everyday in my car for months. Two years later it isn't always tears but he he definitely at the fore front of my thoughts. The grief is forever unfortunately. I imagine Tamara maybe felt the same and needed to her schedule back and to have the focus of her day not entirely be grief.
@@_mya4glockss575 It's tradition to wear black after a death of the loved one. It's to show to the outer world you are in deep grieving so others around you may be respectful. Hope that helps.
I knew the moment she said "I'm okay" I knew it wasn't true. You can see the pain and heartache in her eyes. I like everyone else have never seen her so broken and it's heartbreaking to see her like this. I will continue to pray for her and her family, because losing someone you love is no joke.
she probably meant it in that moment but knowing that people weren't actually asking about her but about how what happened affects her - it's a reminder. your current state of being and what affects it are two different things. so she was ok for a moment and then everything came back and then she moved forward with that. and tears dont always mean someone isnt ok. just like laughing doesnt always mean someone is good/fine etc. emotions, mental health and the grieving process are so vast. best to never assume such things and let people be free to feel out how they feel inside for themselves. am i saying you're wrong in assuming she wasnt ok? no. i think that's a default response pending a person's tone, body language, facial expression, etc and knowing what has happened. but a healthy person does have moments of being "ok" in the midst of hard times which gives a relief to the stress of processing a situation. it's when you stay down and cant come up for air that you have a problem. i hope this doesnt offend anyone. i've just processed so much grief, trauma and loss and i hate when people assume how i feel instead of asking. i hope y'all have a pleasant holiday season and please stay safe out there.
I saw her cry on tic Tok and I had to find out why she was hurt I am such a huge fan every since sister sister . So I look up this story and just let me say when I herd her say I'm ok , I can feel the pain she was trying to hold in and cover up and I began to cry with her losing someone that you are so close to may it be family or a friend especially at a young age and the way she past it's something that is so hard to recover. Her niece not only was she beautiful she looks as if she brought so much joy to her families life as if when she walk in the room she brought nothing but love n sunshine . I know that this happen a year or so ago but I pray for her family and any one who has lost someone in that way like she said this world needs more love more supporting each other life is to short . So my love I share with all. All lives matter no matter who you are I love you for just being you
Time can't heal a loss so great. She explained why she came back. The best thing for her was to move forward. Plus, she has a story to share in this emotional time, this is the best way/time to share it.
"Tell me some more about Alaina" I loved that moment, she could see Tamara needed to keep talking about her and gave her that space. Not just to talk about what happened but the person who was lost. That was really beautiful
A friend of mine once said at our mutual friends funeral . Grief is all the love you have for that person . With no place to go. That’s why it builds and builds… and finally explodes into tears
I remember going back to work after my mom died. And the moment they asked how I was doing I broke down. I cried everyday, I took bathroom breaks often. It was only God who got me through this. I cry less but I still cry and I still can't believe it. Time really is what it's going to take. Someday you think you are fine and the next thing you know you calling someone crying having a panic attack. My heart go out to Tamera and her whole family, I know how close they are to one another.
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It’s been over a year since my mom died and I wanna break down every time someone asks me if I’m okay 😩 the pain never goes away no matter how early you come back to work.. you will always feel that raw and emotional feeling of loss.
Love Tam and you can just feel how heartbroken she is. Those girls are just more then coworkers they are her family and you can feel that. I’m so glad Andrea was there for her❤️ that must have made Tam feel a little better
As she remembered the heart ache of grief, she began to tear up but she firmly reassured herself. Then, she closed her eyes and took a deep breathe before she began to speak. Ladies and gentlemen, that truly takes STRENGTH.
Andrea Regalado!!! I miss seeing her and Tam’s dynamic on camera !! That was sweet seeing her best friend in th the audience in support of her coming back on the show after such a hard time 🙏🏾
I was so excited for Tamera to be back but watching this I realized she needed more time. My heart and prayers go out to Tamara’s family and to all the other families who have lost someone.
That moment when you're hurting inside and for a moment you think you're fine, then someone asks you how are you, and immediately the tears begins to flow. I felt that in my heart. It is never easy losing someone you love and care about. I cried literally as soon s she started talking.
If you ever felt pain, that silence after saying “I’m okay.”, resonated with you the way it did with me. It’s okay Tamera, you’ll find the light out of this. 💞
First time seeing this video. Tamera said what I’ve been saying for years. You NEVER get over losing somebody you love, but rather God gives us grace to “move forward”. ❤️
The thing about grief is you have to find the balance of grieving and moving forward. That is the hardest thing I’ve had to do thus far, it is not easy. After losing my mom unexpectedly in August of this year, I can totally relate.
For her to come on after such a tragic loss is so strong. Using her platform and voice to try and make a change. If I went through this I’d be ugly crying. I’m so so sorry..
"And God shall wipe every tear from their eyes; and there shall be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. For the former things are passed away."....Revelation 12:4
I just came into this video because i saw a clip of this on social media. and I just want to say my family has been in pain last 2-3. My uncle passed away and he actually was always active at the borderline bar/restaurant and I definitely feel your pain. I came in here to show love to those who may be grieving because I am there with you. Giving a big hug to whoever needs it because sometimes during grieve we feel so alone… ❤
We my family and I lost my brother and I feel her it hurts sooo bad 👎 first months unbearable pain , I think you never get back to normal because you are missing that one close person but theres no other way than forward you just have to live with it the rest of your days until we are back together with that person someday ❤️
Man grief is a journey. My mom passed a few months ago, and the pain is real. I truly hope her family has the support that they need especially her parents ❤️
I’ve seen this video more then 10 times a day. It might sound weird but this interview or “girl chat” is just so raw and pure. You can hear the hurt in Tameras voice and see the pain on her face. Although she is hurting, you can see such strength and love in her.
Ugh this makes me cry and hurt for her. I have the same type of relationship with my niece from my husbands family. I’ve known her since she was 7, she just turned 21 and she really is one of my best friends. I love her so much so I know Tamera is broken by this as I would be too. I saw comments on another video saying “she wasn’t even her real niece.” It doesn’t matter that they didn’t share the same blood, they were family. My heart goes out to you Tamera, I can’t imagine what you must be going through.
I didn’t even hear anything about this. I Googled why she was crying on the show after someone clipped it and put it on Twitter. I’m so sorry for her and her family. How awful. 😔
I love how the girls at the table have such a bond when tamera said I’m okay they all were silence because they no she is not okay are not ok so much love for them 💜
people who impact our lives in positive ways .. and light up our world dont last in this world .. i lost my aunt ..she was a free spirit ..loved everyone and was so kind hearted .. she was also young ..just 29years old
Its one thing to be grieving over the loss of a loved one but to then go online and see hateful comments from people because of statements made by her husband has got to be killing her!! EVERY VICTIM AND THEIR FAMILIES OF THIS TRAGEDY HAS MY HEART AND PRAYERS!!! May the blessings of the Lord keep them at peace!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Some are hateful some are speaking from anger regarding Trayvon. She deserves her moment to grieve her kins loss, but you shoildnt have to lose a loved one in this manner to access the pain it would feel. Trayvons mother lost her child, to hear Adams comments muat have hurt too. We must be careful what we say, none of us our exempt from the potential of this pain.
@ I had time off work to go support my husband at his uncles funeral, I know numerous people that have time off to support their in laws as when you get married you become a family
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@@FUNKYGIRL9 LMAO WTF are you even talking about? Why are you telling me this?
I've watched this video many times since it was released and I am comfortable now talking about it. I am from the town where this shooting took place. At the time I was frantic thinking about if I knew anyone that was there. Thankfully I didn't but my heart goes out to those directly affected by it. I was home that weekend and the fire broke out. I was so torn up about what was happening to our town I was lost for a while. Tamera's words explain it all. I don't think I will even get over the fear and suffering myself and people around me felt but I will move forward. Sister Sister was one of my favorite shows growing up, I never had a sister but watching that show made me feel as if I did have one through them. Thank you Tamera for everything back then and now. Love shall over come grief, always.
I felt all of her pain and sadness when she said I’m ok really had me crying it’s to okay not be okay it’s hard to hide emotions I felt all of this when I lost my dad, so I know how Tamera feels. I felt all oof pain
Having a niece now myself, I can feel her pain. The idea that something could happen to my niece makes me sick to my stomach. I respect tam so much for coming back so soon and having such a positive attitude. I would want to set everything on fire and someone go pay for what they did.
That “I’m okay” & stare between the four of them instantly had tears running down my face. We love you tam tam 💛 your fans & 3 sisters at that table are here for you 💛
Although this was 2yrs ago , i would like to tell Tamera and family and friends of Alana how sorry i am to hear of your loss 😥 I pray time has lessened your grief . God Bless all 💙
This broke me down, because I lost my aunt the Friday after valentines in a house fire. And I haven’t been able to grieve but this helped me start that process!
I just lost My Dad in June and I felt this. When you are genuinely trying so hard to be okay but you're not and someone asks you. That heavy deep breath and then the tears come. It hurts every time.
You can feel her pain radiating through the screen. I am so sorry for you, your family, your niece and every victim of gun violence and their families. It’s not fair you’re being put through this pain when the people with the ability to change the gun laws seem the safest from their harm. I hope you guys are doing better. She will always be with you
Have faith and know that god doesn’t put too much on you that you can’t bear and that with every tear you cry that god is with you every step of the way
That "I'm okay" I felt that deep in my soul because as a man we don't like to show our emotions and we think it makes us look feminine or a punk and that's absolutely not true we can't keep hiding our pain and thinking it's okay it's okay to cry
Powerful. Touching. Impactful. Her words and the way she handles herself is so heartwarming. The hurt and grief is real she may have the strength the go back to work but she also has the strength to express and show how she feels. empowering.
I just wanna day in behalf of the girls and the fans! Tam we missed you so much ! And second of all I can tell it was hard for her to get through those 13 minutes of speaking about Alaina yet alone 43 minutes of the whole show
I know how you feeling right now. I went through the same thing. Exactly.. My niece choked to death an my daughter an her were super close. An seeing pictures with Alana holding her best bud an that same bond. It's a pain hard to contain. Luv to your family from mine
Tamera, Love is truly what we need in this world, now more than ever. I wish you and your family the very best during these critical times. My heart goes out to the families affected by gun violence. Alaina and all the victims of gun violence will not die in vain, as you stated. We need to do better! This has to stop! XOXOXOXOXOX Thalia T.
