Paul and Morgan's Intimacy Advice is Painfully Bad | Therapist Reacts to Fundamentalists 

Paul scheduling sex every other day paired with Morgan saying she doesn’t feel comfortable expressing what she wants sexually for fear of hurting his feelings …. It’s a big yikes for me

frequent sex doesn't mean it's good sex. Having a lot of sex with your partner doesn't mean you have a healthy or good sex life. I literally can not with this couple.

I feel bad for Morgan. When she was describing just wanting her back scratched and needing to justify not wanting to be touched anywhere else during the time just made me sad.

Its interesting to me that Paul "studies" ways to touch and build anticipation with his wife instead of (drumroll) ASKING HER

My family: “you have to marry a good Christian man” The good Christian man:

5 years into marriage and this man just learned what foreplay is 😅 I want to laugh but the fact that this is reality for so many people is just so sad.

I know we **shouldnt** speculate abt their relationship, but as someone who has survived SA, hearing Morgan say she’s uncomfortable abt expressing her sexuality for fear of hurting his feelings made me really sad.

As an ex-Christian, the thing that really annoys me is how much sex IS talked about in church/Christian circles, & yet everyone wants to say how "taboo" it is or how it's never really talked about. As a teen/young adult we're told to not even think about sex or look into anything about it because it will lead to sin, & yet that's all married Christian couples want to talk about (especially newly married couples). Pastors always think they're doing something ground-breaking when they preach a sermon about sex, yet it's always the same, non-helpful information. And they always warn parents not to have their kids in the service on those days because they'll be talking about the "S-word". Sex is just some mystical, secretive thing to younger people in the church, & then when you get married, BAM you're supposed to know how to do everything and (from my perspective as a woman growing up in that culture) be ready & willing to give it up to your husband whenever he wants. For as much as they DO talk about sex, you think they could make some of it actually beneficial...

It’s not premarital sex if you don’t get married. Alternatively, I’ve been married and divorced, so technically any sex I have is after marriage 💅🏻

I get the vibe that Paul is the type to not take a simple 'no' with a lot of grace and I get not wanting to hurt your partner's feelings but Morgan seems so apprehensive to directly communicate what she's feeling.

The major vibe I’m getting here is that morgan has been being made very uncomfortable for years for pauls sexual gratification cuz he thinks it’s her duty to please him and he’s just now becoming interested in caring about how she feels during sex and now they’re experts and the model couple. Makes me sad honestly

Why is it like listening to high schoolers who have had sex like twice (& she didn't come either time) talking about sex?

Every time I watch these I feel like Morgan is a highly medicated hostage.

These two are always incredibly uncomfortable to watch, something about their relationship just comes off as wrong on camera.

They just did a video earlier this week "what I wish I had known about sex" and it is so bad. Paul apparently gets very "emotional" when he doesn't get the sex he's expecting.

And I felt so bad for her when she's like "we have a great sex life" and he says "I hesitate to use words like "great" " Like omg. As a woman, I died inside, for her

It was quite simple, when I was in a fundie cult in the early 70s. First, if your wife couldn’t have orgasms, it was because she’d had sex before marriage, so it was her fault, because of her impurity. My ex called me a whore, because I’d had sex once, with a man I wanted to marry, before i married him. He would tell people that, if he hadn’t married me, I’d be a whore. The other creepy aspect of this was that women were supposed to have sex with our husbands at least every 48 hours, so that they wouldn’t be attracted to other women, and also, to get pregnant sooner. It was sexual assault and character assassination as a way of life. I didn’t care for it much.

Paul and Morgan after 5 years of marriage: Guys, we just learned that foreplay is important :)

My parents got married within months of knowing each other and their relationship is toxic but will not get divorced because they are these kind of christians. When I opened up to my Mom about being ace (without labeling it because I am fearful of actually sharing 100 percent with her) she said "Oh you get that from me." My Mom is literally forcing herself to have sex because she thinks she has to in her marriage.. I don't know if she is actually ace too or she just never learned how to have healthy sex in a damaging controlling religious marriage.. It is horrifying to know that has been going on for 30 years and that other couples of similar religious backgrounds are stuck in abusive marriages.

When Paul said "our sex life is soooo great now!!!" and Morgan was like, "yeah,,,, well it's better than it was...." that hurt me

I am scared for Morgan, she seems so just exhausted. Talking about just wanting to be touched with affection rather than sexually (in reference to "back scratchies") but not being able to fully express herself. They do not express any affection between them, it's like every aspect of their relationship is for duty, for show.

I love that Mickey brought up the ownership over your partners body issue. When I was a young Christian (actively trying to ignore the fact that I'm a queer asexual) I was dating a guy who (sorta) agreed to wait until we got married. He pushed my boundaries a lot and forced me to do a lot of things I didn't want to do, but we were talking about being married and I casually asked how he would feel about not having sex on our wedding night (it's a long stressful day, and the closer we got to that day the more it scared me). His response was "you'll be lucky if we make it off the plane". I was horrified, scared, and felt like my autonomy was being ripped from me. It's a really scary world to be in, and Mickey is right it perpetuates trauma and consent issues

When Morgan was like “To each their own. Your sex life is your sex life.” I was half expecting her to say after “So long as sex is only one man, one woman like God intended.” Because for people that claim they don’t care about others having sex, they’re always so concerned about non heterosexual non reproductive sex

It sounded like they were saying Paul only started to learn how to slow down very recently because they started using an app that told him to slow down. After being married for five years. I knew they were bad, but not this bad. Wow.

These young people don't even seem like they like each other, it's so sad. The fact that they are giving "relationship/sex advice" is disturbing when they act like they dont want to touch each other at all. That first high five was soooo painful.

“There were times in our sex life where it was so frustrating and painful” what was happening there?? 😬

Please review their video "what we wish we knew about sex" it's very disturbing. Paul exposes himself as being a marital rapist and we watch in real time him emotionally manipulate/ abuse her just bc she didn't put out on their scheduled sex day bc they had just gotten into an argument. Disgusting and disturbing and so sad for Morgan.

I find it insane how Paul and Morgan, a currently childless couple, are prescribing a number of times per week a couple should have sex without taking into account how busy people’s lives are. Such frequent sex isn’t easy when the baby is screaming and the toddler is crying.

Is it just me or do they seem so uncomfortable to be around each other? It’s like they are trying really hard to seem like the perfect couple it comes off so cringe

The idea that it would be awkward to talk about sex with my husband is hilarious. These poor, poor people.

The massage question card should have read "If I plan to surprise you with a massage, would you prefer it lead to sex or not lead to sex?" Because I personally would rather not get a massage if it's one of those things that once you get bored, I'm going to have to perform. That doesn't allow me to truly relax. (N.B. I would probably be turned on & initiate sex after a good massage from my partner anyway. I just want to know that it is not an expectation. Too many bad experiences with pouty/angry/violent men.)

What's odd to me is how giggly they are talking about sex. Sounds like they are 12. They are so uncomfortable talking about sex. It might be embarrassing to talk specific body parts, but they are talking massages, etc. BTW, don't giggle about sex, but I giggle thru watching Mickey's face. :D

I'm not sure if this is my sexual trauma talking or if it's just a normal experience for some folks, but I definitely struggle for asking for what I want from my partner. As a teen, I absorbed that idea that I must please men and, as an adult, I was in an abusive relationship where my needs were only listened to if it was going to please my partner. My current partner is great and I've made a lot of progress, but I'll still see a tiger when there isn't one.

As someone who identifies as aro/ace, just... this makes me so glad that even growing up in Texas with two sets of parents taking me to church at one point- yes, divorced parents taking me to two different church services one after the other ON THE SAME DAY- I never felt connected to religion. Dodged a lot of shit. I can't imagine what it would have been like to marry a Paul and go from a happily celibate unacknowledged/unrealized ace to someone expecting intercourse from me every. Other. Day.

I was lucky to have grown up with normal sex ed and healthy behaviors, but as soon as I married my evangelical ex-husband it was expected to act this way and have sex no matter what because he wanted it and was the "Head" etc.... It IS abusive and horribly toxic, from a personal perspective, and that abuse and toxicity is encouraged and supported by the churches and their leaders. Divorced him after 4 years, but it was awful living in that culture.

Not even 3min in but had a realisation. This kind of content (intimacy advice from "Christians") is exactly what I would have been interested in 10 years ago. Why? Because this stuff IS NOT TALKED ABOUT when growing up Christian. 15-20 year Olds were craving this kind of advice because no one wanted to talk about it. If you aren't having sex until you're married, why would we teach you anything extra other than the basic mechanics in the school curriculum and "don't do it!" The whole culture, fundamentalist or not (since it wasn't difficult for it to sneak it's way in), is set up for this exact content to be "relevant" or "relatable" in such a predatory way 😬

Person studying to be a sex educator here! My all-time favorite book on all things logistics in sex is “The Guide to Getting it On.” It has whole chapters about anatomy, hygiene, sex with disabilities, sex with yourself, someone(s) else, and really great ideas to change things up if you feel like your sex life isn’t fulfilling in the way you want it to be. It also has comic book style drawings to show exactly what the book is talking about for more visual learners. I can’t recommend it enough!

I think it’s so funny that Paul was like “we have a good sex life so we can tell people what to do” when the only way that Morgan was able to express that she was uncomfortable and wanted different things from him was literally to call him out on a video that’s on the internet. Like this feels like a conversation they should have in private and haven’t.

1:55 - Paul - “we’re experts!” Me: person who has been married for 13 years. “No you’re not.”

This may be unfair, but I get the impression that Paul is a selfish, insensitive lover, and Morgan is too subservient to try and coach him.

The fact that Morgan is more afraid of hurting a man’s feelings than she is of putting herself and her body through something that she doesn’t want or enjoy … fucking SENT me Thank you for making this content Mickey. I wasn’t even religious but growing up in the vaguely Christian culture I did, or maybe just the world we’ve lived in, I remember being taught or shown really troubling ideas about what sex is or isn’t or should or shouldn’t be or what my body was or wasn’t or what I can or can’t do with it. It scares me that people with vulvas think and feel the things I did, and much much worse. You’re doing The Good Work my dude. Also, your hair looks extra fuckin bangin’ today dude.

It's so upsetting to hear people talking about someone they've been having sex with routinely and they don't even know if the other person is enjoying it. Maybe it's the autism, but me and my spouse do a little Q&A after every time and we don't do things the other person isn't into.

Right off the bat Morgan seems veryyyy uncomfortable making this video...My assumption whenever someone makes content like this and positions themselves as "experts" on something that they are currently experiencing is that there might be some insecurity in that area and maybe they want to reassure themselves that their way is the "right" way. I used to be very religious, so I can definitely attest that I felt a lot of pressure from my community to do just that.

am i the only woman detecting how unhappy morgan's body language/energy is discussing this? like he keeps talking about every other day and im just sitting here like wow hes really working her like a horse huh and her energy is giving "it is what it is"

This is really validating, thank you. I grew up in Mormonism, where masterbation is a sin, and sex outside of marriage is a “sin next to murder.” Couched within a hyper-patriarchal culture, you’ve got a recipe for the worst forms of sexism. Im still fucked up and deconstructing all this.

My partner is ace we have sex every four to six months. When we had sex more often we were miserable becuse they didn't want be there and I felt gross for expecting it. Purity culture hurts every one

The thing about influencers like Paul and Morgan, regardless of religion, is that they believe that their own personal experiences are basically the same as everyone's. They think their advice will work for you because it's what worked for them. They really have trouble seeing the world outside of their own bubble, which is exactly why they shouldn't proclaim themselves as experts or tell people what to do.

Paul: we only use Christian resources me: see that's why it took you 5 years to realize that your partner might not be aroused at the same time

I'm ace & I really appreciate that you didn't brush over those of us who aren't interested in sex (for whatever reason). It's very rare that people don't just forget we exist & that tiny gesture is really huge for younger aces (or anyone else that just doesn't want sex) especially, who get the message that the way they feel is not 'normal'. Love to see it!

It honestly makes me sad that a couple married for five years would still be scared to express their wants, needs, preferences with sex. Such odd views/ideas about sex. Truly bizarre.

Oh wow. Poor Morgan. She had a bad first experience with seggs and now is married to someone who doesn't know how to please a women in bed and took 5 years to come to the point that he might want to learn how to do better..... Can you imagine. 😅 That's really sad.

Paul absolutely just outed himself as a shitty lay and that is endlessly amusing to me lmao.

“So frustrating and painful” sheesh that makes me feel so weird like.. describing your sex life as painful? 😬

Paul comes off as such a petulant child in such an intimate, mature area! Its all "if you don't have sex with me every other day I'll take it personally, if you don't want sex when I want it I'll take it personally, if I fail to please you I'll take it personally,and when I take it personally it's YOUR fault because YOU made ME feel bad". This is so selfish, so manipulative, so controlling. And you can see that Morgan feels awful for"""hurting""" him, and his refusal to hear her hurts her deeply, but she just swallows it most of the time to protect his fragile ego. Disgusting, poor Morgan. I hope this treatment of her won't result in a lasting sexual trauma.

That whole circular talk by saying "we're not judging you," then the next second calling people lazy who don't have enough sex in his opinion, is literally the way evangelicals talk. It's a way to control what you do without taking responsibility for what happens to a person when they do it.

Can you do a video talking about Jennette McCurdy’s book? I would love to hear you analyze the experiences she had as a child.

I’ve never seen married people so awkward with each other - with the exception of that Warren Jeffs documentary.

Perhaps you mentioned it and I just missed it, but imo the most problematic part was when Paul started talking about how emotional he gets when Morgan does not want to have sex after an argument and how women should be more mindful and not deprive their husbands for such reasons DESPITE MORGAN SAYING THAT SHE ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT WANT TO BE TOUCHED WHEN SHE IS ANGRY. It was just a big nope and for them to go on about how one has to be kind about these things, get out of here, that is not kind at all.

The immaturity is unbelievable. You can tell she has never been able to voice her feelings…. And now Paul is encouraging her to do this video to talk about how great their intimate life is and inside she’s like “it’s still not great”

Your comment that “sex is morally neutral” was so freeing to me. I’m an ex-fundie and just now starting to feel comfortable enjoying sex. It was so incredibly taboo to my family and community that I felt overwhelming guilt until my thirties. So glad I’m deconstructing this part of my trauma now. And so happy to have a supportive partner. ❤️

HOOOOWWW is having a conversation about sex, with a TRUSTED, and very much LOVED partner, uncomfortable??

Yeah talking sex advice from a couple where the partners aren't equal? How could that possibly go wrong?

Profiting off “fixing” a problem (lack of knowledge about sex among Christians) that they helped create and perpetuate (with purity culture) is like someone starting a fire then trying to make a living putting it out. Classy, P&M! /s

I’d love for you to do a video on asexual mental health issues, especially in the context of a culture where we are pressured to enjoy sex and it can make you feel shameful or broken when you don’t.

It just feels like a couple who just tried it for the first time and dont know what theyre doing and it’s awkward, but theyve been trying it for 5 years. Man.

i can so relate to everything you say. i was raised evangelical, independent fundamental baptist light and my first husband very much held to the "we need to have sex at least 3x a week". including the day after my breast lumpectomy and continually through chemo and radiation. i never felt like i could say no, because it's a wife's job to make sure her husband doesn't wander, right? (blergh) after 16 yrs of marriage i finally realized how bad all the abuse was a got away from that hell

I'm always skeptical of couples who feel the need to "schedule" sex. I can understand scheduling if you are trying for a child (but then you're more working with a window of fertility rather than a strict "we will have sex every other day" kind of thing), but otherwise it feels like setting an expectation that sex WILL happen on Saturday even if one of the partners is not feeling in the mood. There are ways to make scheduling sex work, but there are also SOOOO many ways it can go wrong and become abusive. Please just talk to your partner!!! If you don't feel satisfied, talk to your partner first. And if you can't have an open discussion about sex with your partner, scheduling sex is NOT the best solution.

I feel like I need to ask Morgan to blink twice if she needs help...

Having grown up and gotten married in this culture (I was 19 and he was 28!!) I was raised as if this approach to intimacy was this ancient monolith and that that’s how all of the elders in the church did it. Now that I’m older and divorced, I’ve talked to my mom about it and her and my dad didn’t actually know that there would be rules for how I dated. When they were dating, in the same church, they were allowed to kiss and have pda, basically they just couldn’t have sex. Not to say that that was a good approach either, but it helped me to realize that I wasn’t a failure within this long standing tradition that worked for everyone else, I was the result of decades of radicalization.

As a Catholic I was taught by the priest of our church that if i don’t want to get pregnant while in marriage, I’m not allowed to use contraception, so I’m only allowed to have sex with my husband during my non-ovulation days. According to Paul and Morgan, they struggled with infertility all the years of their marriage, so it’s SO EASY to just tell the rest of us fertile Myrtles out here to go ahead and have sex every other day. Are you kidding me?? I’d have 7 kids by now!

Oh wow, they really just told all of us that they have bad sex. Even after five years! I feel bad for Morgan, yikes 😬

Scheduling sex just turns it into a chore. I was having a casual relationship with someone and they began wanting to schedule sex and that honestly killed it for me because I like spontaneity with things like that. And also as someone with ADHD, sex can quickly become something taxing for me.

i think their attitude towards needing sex really says a lot about how their type of religiosity LOVES sex, despite the marriage paywall. As an ace person, one of the things I heard most often from other queer ppl in an attempt to invalidate my sexuality was that since the church was against sex before marriage, then it meant that it was impossible for me to face discrimination by them since being ace meant I “inherently adhered to their value of abstinence.” That my asexuality would be “praised” and welcomed for that reason. Firstly, asexual =/= inherently, 100% non-sexual. Secondly, the idea that these types of Christians would even BEGIN to WANT to comprehend what asexuality meant, much less accept it, is laughable. These are the types of ppl who literally act allergic to any word under the queer umbrella. They’re so willfully ignorant that they don’t even understand that “cis” or “heterosexual” is something that they want to apply to them. The type of people who swear-off all pronouns to the extent that they clearly think it’s a queer-only concept. The idea that those kinds of people would understand and embrace my sexuality, or that there’s an inherent ally-ship between us just because I may or may not /technically/ abstain from sex in a way they value, is so completely absurd. There’s no way they wouldn’t refuse to understand me or think that I was broken for my lack of attraction. Because thirdly? even if they DID embrace me for my abstinence, that acceptance would only span up until I got married, because as is clearly outlined in their video and the countless other content ppl like them put out about it, they *fucking love sex.* Sex is a gift from god. A right given to men as a “prize” for their marriage with a woman, and the only way you can truly honor god in your relationship. If you deny sex, you deny your duty to your husband, and you deny god his worship, and his ability to bless you with children. They refuse to believe that a sex life any different than theirs goes against god and invalidates both your right to call yourself Christian, and the health of your marriage. You’re a sinful disgrace for having sex before marriage, and for refusing to have it *after* marriage as well. And idk about you, but them going on and on about how unhealthy my relationship is for the lack of sex it includes, doesn’t really feel like ally-ship to me. I don’t think asexuality is exempt from discrimination by these people.

These people that are saying they don't understand why so many christian couples have boring and unfulfilling sex are the same ones that will shame premarital sex or exploring sexuallity at all. I grew up evangelical. I was taught that kissing was a sin, porn was a sin, masturbation was a sin, having boyfriends without the idea of getting married was a sin, any homosexual thought was a sin, virginity and purity was a form of respect to god and your future husband... openly talking about sex itself was such a taboo at home, at my christistian school and at church. Now I'm 23 and even when I'm no longer evangelical (in fact I despise religion) I can't help but have so many issues regarding my sexuality and intimacy. I am so behind the rest of my friends to the point I haven't even kissed anyone yet and I distance myself from any potential relationship because deep down I still feel fear and shame. Now imagine a young christian couple that was shamed to not think about sexuality and then BAM suddenly you expect them to get married and be sex experts with a risqué and rich sexual lifestyle?? That's delusional. They make sex such a big deal, they fill our minds with denial and supression of our own natural needs... don't expect us to have healthy and knowledgeable sex lifestyle.

Thanks for this work, Mickey! Grew up in a conservative catholic household, been with my boyfriend for 6.5 years. The older I get the more I realize I still have a lot of unpacking to do about how my sexuality got fucked up by religion. There's something so comforting about you looking at the camera and telling us we're not broken. It's simple, but it's helpful. Thank you.

I feel so sad for Morgan. Wow. She looks so deeply uncomfortable

I find it concerning that Paul gets emotionally hurt whenever Morgan doesn’t want sex. Not only is it unhealthy for him to take sex personally, but it’s emotionally abusive and coercive for Morgan to feel like she HAS to give Paul her body or he will feel emotionally hurt.

The cognitive dissonance of growing up in evangelicalism and hearing "we need to talk about sex more in the church!" right alongside "never have premarital sex, never think about sex before you're married, never mast*rebate, etc" is SO FUCKING CONFUSING. I just sent this to my husband lol. We got married when he was 24 and I was 26, both of us homeschooled and raised in extreme purity culture. We've struggled so hard to figure out how even to communicate effectively about sex because the shame is so WILD. I love this content so much and I just think it's life changing. Dropping purity culture saved my life and probably my marriage (14 years! I think I know a bit more than Paul and Morgan by now lol). Thank you so much for your content, I know I'm not alone in being an ex-evangelical who finds your content so. fucking. healing. 💜💜💜

It seems like Paul is equating frequency with quality.

Mickey, I LOVE you! I spent my 20s, 30s and early 40s in Christian fundamentalism and I relate so much to this! I'm now 48 and still single because of all the sex / relationship- related trauma and baggage, and these videos are SSSOOO cathartic and helpful as I deconstruct!!! ❤

The candy analogy feels very extensible to spending power when a kid is told "don't spend" and suddenly they're financially independent

We can’t know how Morgan feels since she is the second class citizen in the relationship, and Paul strikes me as a stern “head of house”

In a more recent video they were talking about when they have arguments and end up not having sex. Paul started off saying that he felt hurt when that happened, and it led into him saying he was angry when that happened (which is what I thought he was getting at). Huge red flag

Every other day!? Buahahaha!! 💀 Wait until they have kids. Also, as someone who does not enjoy menstrual sex, I'm curious what they do during the days she has her period. Do they still have sex? Is she required to please him even if they aren't having intercourse? What if someone's sick with the flu? Because they've opened this door I'm just so curious about their semantics lol.

As a recovering fundie, I can honestly say this is the best deconstruction I have heard explaining why making everything about not having sex makes you lack impukse control, can send you down dark paths and if you like I, own female parts down there, it is a nightmare.

I just want to sit down and have a chat with Morgan without Paul. I feel like she is fighting a lot of internal battles by herself, and Paul is only making it worse by pushing her buttons and demanding things from her that she’s obviously uncomfortable doing. She shouldn’t have to go through all this stuff alone!

On one hand, I feel like Paul and Morgan’s hearts are in the right place. For a very conservative Christian audience, Paul and Morgan might sound downright sex-positive and progressive because they even sort of talk about foreplay(!), sex(!), games(!), pleasure(!). But on the other hand, the problem is that their foundational beliefs about sex (That have been ingrained into them for decades) have some issues. You can’t really dismantle the negative repercussions of purity culture if you don’t dismantle the basis of purity culture. They don’t see that purity culture is the WHOLE THING. Like, I’m happy they’re talking about sex. But I’m sad that there’s still fear and caveats to talking about sex. Talking and learning about sex isn’t shameful or a “slippery slope.” Heck, even if you are committed to no sex before marriage, it is SO important to learn about sexuality, have frank talks about your bodies, and express excitement about sexual behavior in the future. Many parents, mentors, and church leaders are afraid to speak frankly about sex because 1) they have their own hang ups 2) they are afraid of making “sinful sexuality” look enticing. Theres a lot of fear not only of causing people to “stumble” physically but also MENTALLY. And that’s the real difficulty. If you’re taught that thinking about sex, fantasizing, or reading sexy things is a thought crime against God, it’s hard to flip the switch just because you’re married and suddenly everyone says it’s okay to acknowledge your sex drive now.

It's been five hours and I can't stop thinking about the idea of a "bad sex boogeyman." Would... would it be called the Bad-a-fook?

They way Morgan constantly looks away and leans away from Paul... I just feel like at any second she's going to look in the camera and yell Help Me! This entire interview makes my skin crawl because I heard these things constantly growing up, from parents , preachers,teachers and the books I was given to read on the topic. Just icks me out.

I have never seen an interaction between Paul and Morgan where I don’t feel compelled to rescue Morgan.

"I didn't learn what the clit was until a month ago, I'm so knowledgeable about sex and my advice will definitely be helpful!"

I have been married 28 years and my husband and I just started getting ourselves out of these mindsets in the last 6 or so years. I so often feel like we lost so much time. It's also why I started talking to my kids (in an age appropriate way) about sex and being "normal" and answered every question that has ever popped into their heads about such things. The mindset from this stuff is so hard to break out of, even a decade or more after leaving Christianity.

Your critiques on Paul and Morgan are the same reasons I love the kink community. They do a lot to teach people how to communicate wants and needs in a healthy way and as someone who is ace, it certainly helped me be honest with myself and with others about who I am. Edit: As far as resources Secular Sexuality: ACA youtube show led by a secular mental health professional covering topics from sex, how religion influences sex, all the way to gender and sexual identities. Every Thursday night at 7 central Watts The Safe Word: A kink/ sex education channel on RU-vid. Super funny and a really safe spot. Secular Therapy Project: an organization that helps people find therapists in their area that have been vetted to provide a secular option in therapists. Recovering from Religion foundation: made from the same psychologist who made the Secular Therapy Project, it's a pretty great support group and community for people recovering from religion or religious trauma. Not sure if they have sex-related resources but because Dr. Darrel Ray does work in secular sexuality I bet they at the very least have more resources on these topics and they might even have a community specifically for this topic in a discord somewhere.

26:14 - oh, how nice for you Paul and Morgan. You’re not exhausted by raising two young kids and working full time and growing a business. Yeah, Paul and Morgan can take their “advice” and shove it

“It’s such an AWKWARD conversation, though…” No it’s not 😂 That is not a good or healthy thing to feel about someone you’re married to. I cannot imagine finding something this basic “awkward” with my partner.

they seem uncomfortable together. they make me feel uncomfortable. I do not feel they should be giving advice

Ahhh when he said, “I’ll use resources sometimes that I feel ok about in my conscious” I made the same face as you and laughed along w you. That was funny!

Every one of your videos seems to find a new place to heal in my core

Morgan's reaction when he said you need to "build the anticipation"! She looks so sad and disappointed and defeated 😭

“where to touch morgan” SIR JUST ASK??? SHE WILL TELL YOU IF ITS GOOD OR NOT, COMMUNICATION CMON