I love Paul merson I've not gambled for 2 years after 20 years of losing year after year after year,I've got 3 kids I'm a great dad and never had a day off work I'm not a bad person and neither is paul
Sounds as though he’s being honest. Just some constructive criticism to you Rob, when speaking with someone who’s expressing severe life difficulties, try not to respond with “shit” or “fuck” consistently.
@@BridgeStamford I started at 18, and gave up at 34. Honestly never thought I would ever be able to do it, but I did. My advice to YOU is give up today, now, and start to rack up that time between playing and not playing, that's the key. As someone who left it 8 years ago, I have zero thoughts of going back to it anymore. The only thoughts I have are of how stupid I was for getting myself into that vicious circle in the first. Today is your day mate, I promise you that the buzz in the pit of your stomach that makes you keep going back will die away if you let it...🤞
@@benrichards3991 year later and going well. Not sure I subscribe to your logic as logic doesn’t apply to a compulsive gambler. Been a tough road and still on it. I’ll never look back and think I was stupid as addiction deserves more respect than that
Funny how I can't think of a single thing I'd want to buy with all the money I just won from a bet but as soon as I lose it all I can think of millions of things I could've got with that money. It's a fucking sickness for sure.
So true that, you don’t think what you could have bought until it’s gone, then the awful reality kicks in. It’s responsible for a lot of suicides is gambling and i honestly believe some people are born addicts. Very sad really
Ex gambler myself and he is spot on with all of it, especially the part about being relived when you had lost all your money, yes a crushing low but you are now out of that awful cycle you can't control
Just watched this and I just want to say that as a gambling addict whose been clean I have so much respect for Paul and I totally agree when he said losing time is his biggest regret also as a lifelong Arsenal supporter you were my idol
Absolutely brilliant podcast and can totally relate to every single word Paul says,im just over a year gamble free now after 22 years gambling non stop losing everything time after time after time.
Well done that's a great achievement to stop after doing it continuously for 22 years. Can I ask what support mechanisms you have to be able to stop? GA meetings, a 'sponsor' to talk to in weak moments, etc?
This is one of the best interviews I've watched. Fantastic awareness! No matter what he's made, won or loss it's a horrible illness that I hope he overcomes. Love Merse
Rob, you did it again; brilliant interview with a wonderfully honest man and you led him to some painful places in his life. Just like you did with the amazing Paul Gascgoine. You make this old bloke teary often in your interviews! Thank you for your many interviews and giving these wonderful people all the time they need to answer questions. You have a skill there. After so many interviews you should be! There are many tragic stories among the past generations of football players and other sports stars. I bet you would have got a great interview with the likes of Alex Higgins and George Best (among others). I know you have some opinions about mental health (despite your own dad’s bipolar) that I don’t totally agree with, but when you ask leading questions and let the guest open up you do it without judgement and with the respect they deserve. Keep it up Rob. Love your interviews.
Everytime I want to learn something about recovery in helping me. I listen to Merse....the honesty and identifying I get is mind blowing. I've read his book and it got me in the rooms...love you Merse
I'm with le Tissier but i think merson was looking out for him , you can't go against the big corporate regime and expect to stay on their payroll but Matt put his principles first and that's courage
Absolutely agree,I love Merse but it's because so many people choose to look the other way and not speak out that people get cancelled and the censorship continues.
Paul Merson does not get the credit he deserves not only was he a great player of his era!he comes across as a great man and I love how open and honest he is about his illness as this is what's needed not only to help himself but by him doing these shows, interviews, podcasts etc he's helping many others who are like him. I know you probably won't see this comment Paul but I really wish all the best mate. Kind regards Gary 💙⚽️
@@RobMooreDisruptors As a fan of football and of paul I love listening to former player's be it STORIES from there playing career or about there own struggles as it makes us feel more connected to people we respect and look up to because at the end of all this they are human to and like us they go through things but the difference is when it's me the world doesn't care but if it's someone like paul its global news and that alone must be tough to deal with but by him also having a following people want to listen to him and although I'm not addicted to drugs alcohol gambling by paul speaking about what he has he's going to help so many people and that's why Paul is a bloody legend ⚽️💙
One of my favourite players growing up. Very brave to speak about his gambling addiction. It definitely got me looking at addiction in a different way.
Bookies offering him £10K free bets shows what predators they are, targeting the people who have a problem with gambling , it’s evil behaviour from them
Can’t wait for this. Absolutely amazing person. I’ve watched the James English podcast & only people that have been through this will truly understand. It’s so true in what he says. Top man Paul 👏
What an incredible and emotional journey Paul has had... Great to see you Rob let him talk away and get to those answers we want to know about this horrible illness. Best of luck to him and his incredible and understanding family! Well done Merse and keep the faith...
I totally understand what he means with the bookies targeting people. I don’t have a problem, but would have a little go on slots once a month. Got bored with it and have just left it for 4/5 months now and I get absolutely bombarded with “we miss you” emails, then you have all the responsible gambling messages at the bottom.
It's a demon who catch you, the demon penetrate your biofield and mind and you feed him, because he can feel and FEED HIMSELF with these negatives only through human being
WTF is he talking about having money literally solves almost all of my problems..... Not having money but needing money means I have to work jobs that pay well vs. work jobs I like that don't!!!!
I bet about 20-30 quid a day granted I do come out with profit every week but I could of won a lot more but I put a lot back in but he’s right when your wining it’s so hard to stop because you want that wining feeling
"If you have a couple of warnings you pull it in". No way! Matt should be commended for prioritising the truth over his career. The level of ignorance amongst the general public is amazing. Please, please, please do some bloody research and In time you might realise 'your friend' was only trying to make you aware of evils at play.
I've just seen the Paul merson interview. Absolutely well done to you both. Has a massive Arsenal fan I used to watch Paul home and away. He was so talented but you could see the drink ect was affecting his game. My dad RIP loved Paul he used to get his name wrong by calling him mercer and used to shout you silly sod sort yourself out cos you have got so much talent. Again well done. John
As an Arsenal fan I have always loved Paul Merson the player, but after listening to this interview it proves that he is a great, grerat man. Thanks for everything you have done Paul and I hope everyone appreciates your attemps to help recovcering addicts.
Thanks for doing this, Paul and Rob. I’m so grateful for this, THIS WILL and has changed my life. I love Paul for this I’ve got a nut allergy from now on 😂
This is something that is completely relatable to any compulsive gambler. Of course I don't nor ever will earn anywhere near the amount Paul Merson does and has done. But the context is exactly the same. I was actually nodding my head all through this. It's an awful illness. Disease. Unfortunately I do still think that people are not being understanding towards this horrible way of life. The good news is, it can be stopped. You can stop.
How can you be bored hearing him when there's a choice to watch anything he does or not? I'm bored stiff of politics and government so guess what...I don't watch any of them talk
Enough respect to Paul Merson. Know so many addicts through life it is heartbreaking to watch it happen to people you care about. You feel so powerless they are hellbent on self destruction.
The most influential video i have watched. I am 54 and have certainly struggled with booze, drugs, women and gambling. but here we are. Well said, thank you x
Absolutely fantastic interview with Paul open and honest great awareness to people out there who struggling with addiction remember your not bad person it's illness
That was one of the best interviews ive listened to in years. Im not sure as a Spurs fan you could get me to listen to an hour of any other Arsenal player. Paul deserves massive credit for the work his is doing to help others with their recoveries. I wish him many more good days than bad.
Load of rubbish if one of them offered you money you would of played for anyone..remember you went from arsenal to the championship with middlesbrough for more money you prat.
This man has been enabled and he has no real remorse. He will 100% do this again and his family will forgive him, and he will feel righteous for talking about it.
Gambling addiction is a scary… family men playing so much they literally lose the house their family needs for shelter! That’s insane when you think about it! Taking out a loan from the house and betting it at the casino! I can’t imagine how that ride home felt, knowing it might be the last time you drive into this drive way/home. Telling your wife and kids to pack up because dad lost the house on blackjack! Wow just wowwww
Have to say I agree with the relief part when you spend time chasing and chasing and you realise you've nothing left to chase with there is definitely a sense of relief it's all over
Amen. As on the pitch he was a few steps ahead of the rest. The penny will final drop for the ignorant masses like Merse. Only then will he realise what a man his friend is.
Matt Le Tissier spoke an inconvenient truth. It's a pity to hear Paul Merson defend the sharing of opinions, only to advocate censorship if your views aren't shared by powers-that-be and mainstream media. But I still like Merse regardless. Nice bloke. Great player. Plus he has that insider knowledge of the game that he can clearly still utilise in-spite of his dyslexia. His stance on being prepared to reject vast (albeit hypothetical) sums for promoting gambling corporations was pretty refreshing to hear.
@@darrenlee9237 Yeah. A decent, genuine bloke who unfortunately has some demons. As a fellow gambling addict i can really relate to what he says but his views on Matt were very disappointing 😞
@@darrenlee9237 Yeah shame on people who toe the line to keep their job or whatever. Yeah it was refreshing to hear that, but still. He works for Sky who have Sky bet
He hasn't examined his beliefs around money, his worth and his value. Note the times he said he felt relieved that the money was gone. He probably had a terrible childhood, there is a huge amount of unresolved trauma in this guy. I think he has major guilt issues too.
@@RobMooreDisruptors It's always a pleasure watching you Rob, you ask great questions. I am seriously considering joining your community, I am a fellow creative and entrepreneur. As someone who has struggled with alcohol in the past, I am not of the school that it's a disease - the addictive behaviour masquerades as the cause but is usually the symptom. If you look at his lifestyle, he clearly has very low self-esteem, numerous children by many wives, he has an enormous need to be loved by many. If you look him up online, there is absolutely no mention of his family life, I think the real pain resides there. Keep up the great work, mate.
@@RobMooreDisruptors well not to be to disrespectful he has been going on for years about his problems books, tv, radio, newspapers fair play, but he is a sky pundit has been for years so talks about them as if they invented the game, so he obviously want to continue with them fair enough, might point is mental health addiction of various kinds is what the mainstream TV media government, and agenda is about and that's ok to talk about this .and tell the world about people's problems fine, I respect that but but as you know the other stuff which people have a right to discuss covid , Monarchy , big farmer, wars, the media, banks, child abuse you got to be careful what ya say coz the corporate elite world is involved with all this , I'm sure the main love Merson going on about Le tiss like he is outcast to the mainstream narrative that we have seen involving so much
Myself being a gambling addict for 28 years even if you recover which is rare, living with the shame of it and the normality of life is a huge challenge. But it's better than the highs and lows of being addicted. Time eventually will heal gradually over time if you stay the course of recovery. Just don't quit quitting and refuse to die what ever happens. Keep trying folks til you suceed.
Sorry Mr Dee but I think you've got that wrong. Paul was just saying Matt is willing to talk about public issues that he doesn't feel qualified to. Worth watching Robs Interview with Matt as well.
It's very interesting what he says about gambling being different, how with drinking or smoking, you just have to NOT put that thing in your body. I have been a smoker and a boozer, but never a gambler, and I can see that's an interesting way to look at it - with drinking for example, you know that you just have to get through today without drinking alcohol. It's that simple, just don't put that thing in your body. But gambling..........where does it start? Where does it stop? You're not doing anything to yourself physically. If you're addicted, the only thing that could get you to stop, is if you have no money left. Not a good system for a successful life, that you're only free if you're permanently penniless.
he was warned naughty naughty , no more job with nasty murdoch sky , with dirty corrupt premirer league, well done paul, of course the main stream want somene to talk about addiction, but not the other stuff, oh no, he was warned dont do it again
My dad had a gambling problem and I was 12 never hated him love him more cos he told me everything at 21 and wish he was here everyday but wouldn't want him to still be struggling with life so I'm glad he is at peace now
I think it's something people are born with....the addictive personality, if it's not drink or drugs or gambling they will find something else....could be food or whatever.....my dad was an alcoholic and it ruined our childhood, I personally see it as an illness as it should be treated as such....
Unpopular opinion, I don’t think gambling in itself is a “disease”. I do however think people who suffers with a “gambling addition” are arrogant people who think they can beat the odds, not only that they are selfish, entitled borderline narcissists who only care about themselves never mind their families. Also for most gamblers they never really face any consequences their families and friends are always there to bail them out which enables their gambling further with no real consequences. They never stop, they either run out or money or have less money to burn. I would understand someone that was addicted to drugs or alcohol I’d think okay at least they get something out of this. but gambling naaa it’s literally throwing money away.
Gosh I can relate to him so much. He just feels so honest and raw, I can’t but help myself feel sorry for him and hope he gets better. A really great guy.
Geuinely one of the best interviews I’ve ever seen! Rob keep it up! Merse- absolutely top bloke and as a compulsive gambler myself a lot of what merse says hit home!
What a Great interview, I've read his book fantastic. So honest and speaking out Top Fellor. Great to see him working for Sky and to be honest love listening to him. Good Luck Paul 👍
Great interview and I have a lot of time for Paul and his troubles. It's obviously harder than we all think to jack it in, and the sums of money being taken about are eye watering. I'd like to say get well and beat it but like he says it's with you and the steps he and his wife have taken to avert it is always a step forward. Good Luck Paul, and once a gain a great interview
I know a lot of people will disagree with me, but I struggle to accept a gambling addiction as an illness. You could easily describe any abnormal behaviour as an 'illness' if you accepted that premise.
First time watching your channel, excellent interview, Merson has grown on me and I really enjoy listening to him, his football opinions are subjective but his life stories are fascinating and scary 👍🏻
I am a gambler. I have lost my five years of my salary. I have lost around $300,000 in gambling going to casinos every now and then for the past five years until today. I am struggling, and I need help. I have a good job, but I don't have any savings or anything because I have gambled all my money. I feel ashamed, and I feel fucking miserable. I lie to my girl friend about my addiction.
Very interesting and honest interview. I’ve always admired Merse for wearing his heart on his sleeve. That said advising Matt Le Tissier that it’s “not clever to be clever” re: speaking out, was cowardly. Not the best move there
I'm not surprised he's lost so much, his football predictions are 💩 You can bank on the opposite team that he goes for. He just did it again going on about how great 🇭🇷 are 😂
Even being a Palace fan, I can only wish Paul all the best for the future. He always comes across as a nice fellow who's not out for self-pity but rather to help others who may be facing the same issues.
