ya and I would say its almost always a logical choice. Having a soft heart and being emotional is not the same as caring. Lots of people save bunnies and birds from foxes and hawks. is that kind to the bunny or cruel to the fox
To be truly kind you have to have a level of logic. You can save the bunny from the fox, but to not be cruel to the fox you can give it Some eggs. To be kind is to be logical. like the pomodoro technique. kindness is logical@@new0news
@@new0newsalmost every time the answer is not kindness it is just indifference. Kindness becomes the answer when dealing with people that speak the language of peace whom understand that nothing good comes from apathy unless it is the absolute necessity but when dealing with people who only speak the language of violence the answer is quite literally equal or greater force only.
And what if it's not? Many often it's inconvenient to be decent and do the right thing. You gain nothing other than clean conscience that you didn't hurt anyone. What if it's not a factor to you?
"I don't care if I make someone happy or sad, it doesn't affect me. But people always say that all they want in life is to be happy and if I have the choice, why would I make them sad?" One of the hardest lines a random person could ever say....
There's a fallacy in that statement. Questioning why he would make them sad is indicator of compassion, sociopath have very little or none. Why would it matter to him to not make them sad? The truth is that all comes down to what is more convenient at the time, so he can flip any time cause it's whatever for him.
@@GiltleyRagelack of emotional empathy is only one of the POSSIBLE symptoms of aspd. Not every diagnosed person will lack emotional empathy, and and even if they do, many still have cognitive empathy, meaning even if they do not feel others emotions, they can understand them and that can be enough to act sympathetically.
@@GiltleyRageI think more so what he meant, which I have heard other people with aspd say, is that if he doesn’t feel strongly either way, why would he go out of his way to hurt people? A lack of empathy doesn’t equate to sadism.
I had a diagnosed sociopath friend years ago, she's the one who taught me about not taking shit from my parents, that "being related is no excuse to treating people like trash" and she helped me begin to rebuilt my self esteem after the hell known as high school. She too was the kind of person who chose to make life better for others if she could, she saw it as the most logical thing to do.
It IS the most logical thing to do. By raising others up, improving the lives and wellbeing of others, we simultaneously increase the chance that we ourselves will prosper. It is logical to improve the whole society in order to improve things for the individual. Unfortunately there are plenty of people that don’t follow this logic, choosing instead to benefit themselves at the expense of others ☹️
There was a mass violence event. I found it weird that people were panicing aimlessly, so I gave loud and clear instructions. Being different does not mean worse.
@@jmdenisonshe doesn't feel emotion so she is a sociopath.. She does all the good thing cuz it's logically right and her good deeds r not driven by emotions.. She's a sociopath but she is a good person
This reminds me of the story of the psychopath mother with two kids. She said she viewed her kids kind of like puppies. She didn't love them the way other people love their kids, but she understood they had needs like food, shelter, education, and emotional support. She made sure they were happy and listened to. She said she didn't love them, but honestly, the way she was describing how she raised them made it sound like she put in 50 times more effort than the average, neurotypical parent. Just sounds like love in a different shape
Nah, it sounds like she’s going through the motions of being a parent. She’s not sadistic, so she’s not blatantly harming her children. But she is because children need emotional support. Imagine growing up with a nice house and nice food or whatever, but not having a mother who can understand and meet your emotional needs. It affects them. It’s the same old scenario where rich kids are envious of poor kids for having better relationships with their parents. For example, my mom escaped an abusive marriage, so we lived with my grandparents growing up. All of my friends were envious of me for my mom and would spend time talking to her, before & after we would go out to have fun, because they didn’t have that relationship with their mom.
It's not love in a different way - She just acknowledges what it is she'll have to do and will do. Indeed, this can make her a better parent than many others still. Unlike that other person here trying to argue against it, how many emotional parents get impatient with their child, annoyed because of emotional stress and then might let some out on the child or let it feel unwanted or worse? How many parents feel as though they must be more than their children, then push them down if they get enough attention because they're not in the spotlight as the supposed "good" mother. Emotions appear important and for most they surely are, but emotions are often also the root of reasons for the worst people out there - aswell as many with just sometimes being faulty. Once the accepted logic behind a person's thoughts is protecting and caring, they are easily capable to be good parents doing whatever is right, even when things might inconvenience them it will be something they likely saw coming already and not getting too annoyed anyway. Atleast I see it that way in regards to my own experiences, and by supposed similar ones. Not counting those that cannot rightly live with it, but those are often either imprisoned, watched or under heavy medication. They're when logic does not dominate the mind.
Reformed psychopath youtuber David Wood pointed out that while he feels like he doesn't love anyone, that in historical terms love was always a practical thing, not an emotional thing. Though he has no emotional backing for it, he logically deduces that he must love his family because he dedicates his time and effort to maintaining their survival and happiness.
"I dont understand the difference between happy and sad, but if people prefer to be happy, that's what i want them to be." Takes a solid person to be like that.
I'm very confused. So he doesn't care if he makes someone happy or sad, but he will make the choice to make people happy? Where's the logic? If he didn't care he wouldn't make the effort. Right? 🤔 Edit: It sounds robotic to me
@@nikolinakarparova2021 happy or sad still affects how people treat you. If all you do is affecting people negatively, they wont show up to affect your life in a positive way. So maybe in their heart they dont care. But they're smart enough to choose kindness.
Isn't it more that making someone happy/sad simply doesn't affect *their* emotional state? When I know I've made someone happy, it gives me a rush of pleasure myself. If I know I've made someone sad or angry, I personally feel horrible. This person doesn't experience those personal responses to someone else's emotional state. But they can still prefer to make the other person happy... Maybe because it makes their own life easier in some way but also because they know, morally, it's the better thing to do. If it doesn't affect you either way, why not choose to do the 'right' thing that increases good/joy in the world. In a way, it's a form of pure altruism. I'm not neurotypical myself but sometimes I do wonder how many people would do the kind/right thing if they didn't get that biochemical reward 🤷🏼♀️
@@RuthHerd It's the same way that because they don't feel that reward when making people happy, they also wouldn't feel anything if they made other people sad or angry. But if other people are sad or angry it negatively impacts them more than if other people are happy. Logically speaking, being kind is so much more worth it than being mean for no reason. Also there are many people who get the same euphoric feeling when making other people sad or mad and sociopaths wouldn't be able to feel that so they gain nothing from making other people feel negatively. That's how I interpret it at least.
I had a really good psychiatrist that once told me "your diagnosis doesn't automatically make you a bad person, you can still choose to be a good person". She helped me a lot, the psychiatrist before her beasiclly told me that im just a manipulative person and that i can only ever be a bad person. My dad is diagnosed too and he always thought me to treat other people the way i want to be treated and that its our job to protect the innocent since we both lack the ability to feel fear. I've been abused in every possible way and i NEVER want to make other people feel the shit that i have felt/ observe other people being treated the way i was without defending them, even if they are stranger's, nobody deserves that
the guy in the story is a psychopath. he cant mimic emotion. your psychiatrist probably dont understand the difference between psychopath and sociopath. while both dont feel emotion normally, sociopath understand emotion and can mimic them. while psychopath struggle to understand emotion.
Manipulation isn't inherently bad You can use it for good lol You're only a bad person if you hurt someone intentionally - so if you manipulate someone into doing something they DONT want to do purely for your own enjoyment you're a bad person BUT if you manipulate people into doing what they need (such as taking vitamins or getting a kid to eat vegetables) without hurting them that's fine Everyone is manipulative :) If you get someone to like you by giving gifts, impressing them, touching them - that's manipulative Even though it isn't bad ♡
I heard from someone that sociopaths can be the best surgeons or doctors. Like, they don't understand how to care about someone who suffers pain or who has a life treathening injury, the only thing they see is what shit can be done in order for them to feel better.
They also make the best CEOs and leaders, because they handle important decisions without emotion getting in the way. And even sociopaths can be guided by a good upbringing to learn how to be productive members of society. Read THE SOCIOPATH NEXT DOOR by Dr. Martha Strout.
@@daynechastant my sister, we had rough parents but I did my best, she’s a productive adult, she doesn’t get in trouble anymore, she has emotions but they’re definitely muted compared to me I’m autistic and overly empathetic.
Mhmm. I work in healthcare. It requires a certain amount of detachment. The workers who get emotionally attached to patients don't last long. It helps to be a bit of a sociopath. I focus on doing a good job. If I do my job well, then the doctors can do their job better, and ultimately it's a better outcome for the patient.
I think it takes a lot of detachment to be able to clean up patients, take care of wounds, or perform surgery on someone or an animal in order to save them. I admire these people, but could never do it.
Having known a couple sociopaths, they can be some of the most awesome friends. Their advice is often practical and unbiased. The bad ones are the manipulative ones. But then again, you don’t have to be a sociopath to be manipulative. 😅
I have heavy sociopathic/narcissistic traits because of my autism, and the fact people still like to be with me is such a specific experience i cant describe it, but i like it
This just proved that not all sociopaths are evil and cruel. It's a mental disorder and anti-social condition that creates difficulty within relationships and the public. Just like many other mental health issues that get a bad rep.
Personality disorders have a bad reputation cuz people having them can't do much to get better, even mentally healthy peoppe can only choose what aspects of their personalities they wanna express more and what traits they wanna suppress but cant truly change who they are
@@Leah-nq1mfThat's- not true. BPD, ASPD and NPD and all the cluster B personality disorders are demonized. We are seen as evil manipulaters. Though our disorders come from trauma. We can't control it or change it. It's called a personality disorder cause it's ingrained in our person we can never get treated nor is it like a mental illness like depression and does away after a little therapy. Infact most of us avoid therapy due to getting demonized by the people that are supposed to care about the mentally ill.
My best guy friend is a diagnosed sociopath and he is one of the most straightforward people I know. He is incredibly kind and thoughtful and we both come to each other for advice. I’ve known him since I was three years old and now both 20. He understands my depression and I understand how he feels about many different things. He is someone I can call at any time of the day and he’ll answer even if fully asleep and will say “I’m here what do you need”. He was there for me like that while I was at the hospital loosing my dad. I can’t describe how much of a brother he is to me.
@@AnnA-jd4xm it is not obligation. being kind is a choice. the man pointedly went out of his way to understand, because he would rather choose to do good unto people.
There’s a saying, all psychopaths are sociopaths but not all sociopaths are psychopaths. And neither make you necessarily a bad person or a danger, one man who studies psychopaths by brain scans realized he is also a psychopath but he devoted his life to protecting people from them. Psychopaths often served great purposes when life was far more violent (and it’ll easily become so again) because they could protect the village from the horde
For someone who can show no emotion, he’s a lot nicer than half of the people in the universe Edit: For everyone coming after me about the “can’t show emotion” comment, it literally says in the short that he showed no emotion when the cat got run over. So please, stop blowing up my phone. It was just a mistake I don’t want people commenting relentlessly that I need to be educated before I comment something I didn’t even know was wrong. So thanks for correcting me but please stop
Exactly. People who understand and show emotions literally call cops on homeless people sleeping on benches but this dude volunteers to help him. What a great guy.
@@whos.chiakiit's a sad world we live in where people with no emotions have more humanity as someone with emotions that's very sad and ironic when we think about it when people with no emotions are overall better humans than some people with emotions and I'm not generalizing I'm just talking for some people (the makers of standing benches it's more of a metallic wall than a bench but they called it like that a bench the concept is to lay in it they removed the part where you sit so homeless people can't sleep in the benches and yes this project where made by people like you and me humans with no diagnosed mental health issues 😮💨like who thought its a good idea🫤 ) "like if you don't have a home just buy one" ahh project
A mental disorder does not define a person's character. Rather, how they respond to it. As a sociopath myself, I'm glad to see people acknowledging that ASPD doesn't always mean "horrible, abusive monster."
I am a diagnosed sociopath, i have 5 friends, they keep me around because i am a man of my word, whether youre deep in shit or just need to talk, im here, i dont feel anything in regards to these actions, i simply built a code for myself that i live by.
Have a diagnosed sociopath sibling and a sociopath friend. Sociopath friend is direct, honest has had a fantastic upbringing and subscribes to a strict model of propriety and morality as a result. They hate it when people are rude, inconsiderate or otherwise in the wrong. They know how to spot a manipulator. They are also reckless enough to have fun without overdoing it. We have shared interests and methods of fun so there is a benefit in us spending time together. They can also drop the mask without being harshly judged. Sociopath sibling is still coming to terms with the diagnosis after denying it for years but is trying. Plenty of people out there are sociopaths and very few of them are serial killers and evil masterminds.
In my history of dealing with mental illness and people with various forms of it, psychopaths and narcissists are the most 'dangerous'. Many serial killers are diagnosed as ASPD psychopaths, not sociopaths (exceptions exist of course and murderers/serial killers don't have to be either of the 'paths' or ASPD at all). EVEN THEN though, lots of psychopaths and narcissists can live lives that don't destroy others, ESPECIALLY with treatment. I think the words sociopath and psychopath have been used casually often enough that it's muddied the waters and people who already were underinformed on these disorders have grown to be even more afraid of them.
i have severe schizoid personality disorder and autism, and as a result of that i feel almost 0 emotions towards other people. my emotional spectrum is a bit stunted and different than most people’s, and the concept of empathy is very foreign to me. that being said, im a lot like the friend you mentioned, it’s a) easier, and b) makes more logical sense to have a very strict moral code and hold myself to a standard of kindness and respect for others, even if i dont quite fully grasp the concept of caring for other people.
He chose kindness. This is proof that some people can choose. He didn't choose not feeling emotions, but he understands what they are and that other people have them and which actions of his make people feel happy. 10/10 dude
So he does care? You do realize that sociopathy falls under antisocial personality disorder which by the book means "persistent disregard for the rights of others".
I can feel emotions and I choose kindness. There are many, many times where I have been filled to the brim with rage or disgust and I still had to make the active choice to act in kindness and not hostility. At any point we can choose to do differently, provided our minds have not degraded beyond the point of any self control at all.
I think you meant to say they're not all serial killers and monsters. Just like anything in life it comes down to a choice. You are not a murderer until you are, it's the same for so-called normal people!
@@dallerwilliamand the opposite side of this you don’t have to be either of these to be a serial killer, although you’re far more likely to have some agenda or motive which serial killers don’t typically need
the love of my life was a diagnosed sociopath. He had some really rough times when he was younger, things I’ve never been through and could never imagine going through. Especially as a child, with no one to really rely on or support him. He had a lot of shame about his behavior as a kid, and asked if I was scared of him. I told him I never could be. He was a kid with no one to help him. And blaming him for that would make me nearly as bad as the people who witnessed his suffering and did nothing. He was the kindest and most loving partner I’d ever had. He always made me feel safe and cared for and loved, and he understood me better than anyone else. Sometimes he’d practice his smile in the mirror, and admittedly it was a little freaky to see but I thought it was sweet. That he wanted to be able to show people he was happy, or as happy as he could be, and he wanted others to know and share in that. Later in life he suffered through a lot of issues mentally, and eventually found drugs as a form of escape from his own mind. He died about two years ago, almost. He was my best friend and one of the best people I’ve ever known. I miss him every day and I really wish other people had gotten to know him the way I did.
i think the fact that he can’t experience emotions makes him an even better person because he’s working overtime to connect with the people around him 🥺
It's not that he is working overtime, it's that he just sees the logic of doing good. Most of us Sociopaths are not bad people, it's just that with our lack of emotion, we just replace that with logic and understanding.
i am similar, i actually don’t care but there is so no point in going out of your way to be rude to people. ruins your reputation and its lots of effort
Thing is, Unable to feel emotion ≠ Unable to understand them He knows what those feelings are, he knows how they're received, hes a sociopath, not a psychopath
someone with high levels of empathy can be incredibly cruel as well! the two qualities are different and one can come without the other, compassion matters the most! you don’t need to understand how others feel to be kind to them, and you can feel everything someone else is feeling and still be malicious towards them
@@babyjeebies9871 Compassion literary comes from empathy or sympathy. As empathy is limited or non-existent with ASPD people you can argue that they can be somewhat sympathetic to someone and therefore develop some level of compassion but I don't think it goes that far for sociopaths, so no, they can't be incredibly compassionate.
@@GiltleyRage sociopath's and psychopath's aren't seperate from people with aspd those are just the old outdated terms for aspd and while they aren't empathetic much or at all the can still be very compassionate individuals because compassion doesn't require empathy. Empathy is being able to feel what others feel while compassion is a feeling of your own that drives you to want to help someone. You don't need to feel another person's pain to feel like you want to help them
There's a difference between Sociopath and Psycopath. Someone who can't feel emotions is one thing. Someone who actively enjoys in causing pain is different
@@mx.netherlands6588just a logical game with sociopath nothing is truly personal if its good advice but anger you can still feel so yeah don't go that route
The media likes to depict sociopaths (and lots of other psychiatric diagnoses as well) as monsters. If someone in a movie is a psychopath or a sociopath, they are always a serial killer. If someone has "multiple personalities" (dissociative identity disorder), at least one personality is always aggressive and violent. It's so frustrating because those cases are actually very rare but because that's what people see in movies, they assume that that is what it looks like, and that stigma makes people not want to get help. So I'm always glad to hear stories like this that show more of what the reality is like. "If I have the choice, why would I make them sad?" Love it.
Same with ptsd it’s always depicted as a giant boogeyman that you’ll lash out at any moment out of the blue and kill people or that it was only related to soldiers and war vets so when I was diagnosed I straight up told em I’m not a army vet cause that’s all I’d seen they need to depict this shit better
@@larissa-je8dc it would be really nice if people in media could not only depict them in a more realistic and sensitive way, but also show what it looks like to help them. Like...a friend of mine is diagnosed with PTSD, but she doesn't lash out or try to hurt people when she gets triggered. She goes non-verbal and has a hard time communicating. So when I start to see that happening her, I'll pull her aside and walk her through some grounding exercises to help her get oriented to the here and now. The 5 senses exercise works really well for her. Let us see some of that so we can teach people how to actually help and not just be afraid
@@thequeenoftheabsolsI'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Narcissistic PD can be a really rough diagnosis to have, and when people start throwing the word around to describe any vaguely selfish behavior without actually knowing what it means, it has to be really painful. I hope you're able to get treatment from empathetic people who see you As a person and not a diagnosis.
@@kateiannacone2698 I've been doing pretty good in terms of treatment. I've reached a point where I can recognize harmful patterns in my behavior, and right now we're working on redirecting the behaviors into something more positive ^^
Just because you have a mental health condition doesn't mean it gives you an excuse to act without responsibility. We won't always get things right, but this person is a great example of not letting his limitations control his life.
You speak about him like he's disabled that's the problem with you people. You judge and try and critique others from a misguided sense of human morality and it makes you sound unwise and judgemental.
@@overlyfixated21bipolar does not “literally make people irresponsible.” Bipolar can affect your judgment, but so can depression, anxiety, stress, anything really. Your actions are still a choice. Individuals with bipolar disorder are fully capable of taking responsibility for their actions and accepting the consequences.
@@angelkat333 I mean, you just said it affects your judgement...That's the same thing. Bipolar does make you irresponsible and sometimes make very bad judgement calls. That's literally mania. My point was that while yes everyone is responsible for their own actions, mental health issues do impact your judgement.
Sociopaths are just people who don't understand emotions Edit:im sorry if I made it misleading and I don't mean it for everyone who is diagnosed I'm just trying to say some are. I've never had so many likes❤
Saying 'just' is very misleading, actually its not even true its more a lack of empathy than a lack of understanding. There are many traits that make up sociopathy and most of them ARE very socially disruptive.
Not understanding emotions doesn't affect your ability to understand what is and is not acceptable behavior. Even if you don't understand what exactly sadness is, it doesn't take a genius to figure out that it's distressing and painful and not something you want to cause to others that you see as valuable. What people DON'T know is that sociopaths and psychopaths aren't real. Those are Hollywood terms mostly used to describe the same disorder but at two different (usually extreme) sides of its spectrum. This is your sign to go research about something called ASPD, or Antisocial Personality Disorder. Learn something new about a real disorder that affects good people, and learn to destigmatize mental health just a little bit more today. 😊
This!!! I’m a sociopath with dp/dr so it makes it really hard to connect to emotions at time (I often have to remind myself to do so in public setting)- and when ever I get into arguments it’s always “well you don’t care about other emotions!”. Well, I don’t care about yours simply because (if you were someone I could feel for) I/id hate you. It’s more of a close thing, like a lover and certain family/really close friends. And even then it’s mainly only sorrow/empathy, low levels of joy (only with my s/o for higher) and pride. One of the emotions I’ve always had a hard time understanding is love (even with my s/o, and they know it), that’s really it.
@@ZeroTheOtterno psychopaths understand emotion and they themselves feel emotions like a average person, it's that psychopaths have a lack of or tend to feel guilt and empathy very low. Hope that helps.
@@GiltleyRagewell obviously you shouldn't trust everyone but with a sociopath it's a logic game. if you were dangling on a bridge they would save cause there isn't a reason not to and rewards are caused by smile not frown. if their is a good reason to ignore you will be falling they wont pry your fingers off the bridge but no help coming your way and I'm sleeping like a baby that night
I 100% agree with that. I hate when people simply forget that its called "a mental illness" ILLNESS!! With this case these people are often seen as emotionless/heartless people, this is not a thing that they can control! Same goes with every other mental disorder/illness. We're all people, and it hurts when society forgets that and doesn't stop to think how that persons affected by it, and instead only thinks about themselves, people am I right.. Sigh.
Personality disorder is different than mental illness. The illness we can treat, at least try, there's nothing we can do at the moment about sociopathy, psychopathy, narcissism. Sociopathy is on the level that prevents people from living in sociaty because they think and act in a way that challange our sense of morality or straight falls into our definition of evil, as sociopaths have no regard to people's well being, life, or basic human rights. They really don't care if someone suffers, or even dies, until it's inconvienient to them. They're hard to control, very often can't control themselves, are prone to violence. It's really hard stuff, and while not their fault and it sucks, it also makes them dangerous in most cases. This comment section is filled with people who would think sociopathy is like authism and we need too see those people as human beings with compassion and it will make the world better for everyone. It's not remotely the same, and not that simple.
@@GiltleyRagethis is just factually and medically wrong to anyone with medical knowledge,Personality disorders are illnesses, just uncureable ones, that’s like saying a chronic illness isn’t a disease cause it can’t be cured, AND they can be treated! There’s medication for these issues.also demonizing mental health patients. That’s messed up. And also the exact reason mental hospitals used to perform lobotomies . That type of talk is harmful and dangerous.don’t talk about something you don’t understand. PTSD, certain forms of depresssion, trauma , can only be treated not cured, so, are those people demons to? Your logic is “it can’t be cured so it’s a demon” PLEASE put that in perspective
Just because someone is different or cant feel empathy doesnt make them a monster...i know plenty of people totally right in the head by all official accounts that are absolute monsters... its choices that make monsters not brain chemistry
Thank you the first nice story I’ve ever heard about a sociopath. I am very happy that the condition doesn’t have to end in crime and/or permanent hospitalisation/jail.
Oh Sociopathy 100% DOES NOT have to end in that. People with mental disorders are less likely to be arrested for a crime than mentally healthy people, in fact. I am low empathy, not a sociopath but I do not really care if I make someone happy or sad. I like helping people because making people happy is something I SEE AS POSITIVE. I could tell someone to go fuck themself just as easily as I could help.
This is probably the first time I’m seeing sociopaths in a positive light. It makes sense. They can’t understand emotions but that doesn’t mean their mind is wired to do bad things or hurt people.
I have some minor sociopathic and narcissistic tendencies, but I've always thought the people like that who end up on the news as serial killers or whatever are the dumb ones. The best way to get what you want is to be nice. I'm a bit condescending sometimes, but I'll never take it further than that, because I know it'll catch up to me one day, and the best way to get what I want is to just act like a decent human being, even if I'm not one.
I used to talk to someone who was a diagnosed sociopath. Nicest guy you'll ever meet. He actually really helped me through the loss of my BIL because of how he was able to look at things, as well as some of my deep depressive episodes. For someone who doesn't understand emotion, he sure as heck knew how to make you feel better and just what to say.
That is a person to admire. They chose to be a good person. I know narcissists, bullying others to feel better themselves. And they deny any reason or criticism, because they can't do anything bad, everything else is to blame.
This is the first video I've seen that gives ACTUAL insight into sociopathic interaction and understanding...WE NEED TO BE MORE OF THIS, instead of social media psychologists who make posts because their feelings got hurt. GOOD JOB!
A mental illness is the same as any physical ailment. Sometimes it's treatable. Sometimes it's not, and you either just have to hope for the best and find ways to mitigate it... or, in cases like this, you learn to live with it. He learned to live with it, and so did his wife and his friend (OP). That... is a truly beautiful thing.
Not a sociopath, but I'm a diagnosed psychopath I don't know why my friends like me I feel so self centered , and empty I over exaggerate my emotions, cause if I don't I look lifeless. I feel like I have ruined my friends, made them violent and sick like me I guess some people just see the good in people, that's why there friends with psychopaths
He literally cant understand empathy from first hand experience, but he does by principle and logic. If all others want is to be happy, then I won't do anything that could goes against that. Thats so emotionally intelligent
As someone that was diagnosed as sociopathic at a young age the second most people find out or suspect that you are they usually avoid you. Great friend for staying
Being a good person isn't about feeling the "right feelings", it's about doing the right thing, I guess. Just because someone is diagnosed with a condition like this doesn't mean they don't try to be good people (and they can succeed in it). This is a beautiful example of that.
NAH cause this almost made me cry 😭 he's so sweet, so often people are sorted into the category of bad just because of a label that's misunderstood, I am not a sociopath and haven't gone through what he has but I 100% get the feeling of people making assumptions about you because of a label. For anyone going through similar rn, you can do this, I believe in you! And never, EVER, stop being yourself ♥️
BRO OMG a post like this that isnt ableist?? This is so heartwarming:( i hope this guy is living the life and that this story helps to show others and destigmatize this
I feel for this person, who can't understand the entire spectrum of emotions, but yet still chooses to be empathetic from a logical point. That shows humanity in his heart than many non-sociopathic people out there.
I have been married to a sociopath for 33 years and I have 2 kids who are also ones. My husband told me that it's not that he has no emotion, its that all except anger are turned waaaaaay down like a the sound on a radio. He has been good to me and I know where I stand with him. If something bugs him, he does not pretend and lie about it. He tells me. That works for me.
I’ve always said that to be someone who can feel nothing when doing horrible things to get what they want to still choose to do the right and good thing shows more about their character than someone who can feel to choose to do the good being. It shows that they have far more restraint and willpower than anyone with empathy could know.
My little brother is a diagnosed sociopath,but he is the reason I didn’t commit suicide,he is my half brother,my father died of a drug overdose when I was 5..that caused my depression,ADHD and my PTSD,one year later,he was born,he saved me from killing myself..he made life bearable and also my step father is a alcoholic asshole who can’t control his anger,he hit my little brother once and I made damn sure when I moved out I will take him with me :),so,Cole,if your out there,I love you so much lil bro
I had an internet friend who told me he was a sociopath. He was always very kind to me and fun to talk to. He told me he originally friended me bc he thought I was cute, but once he realized I was in a relationship he immediately cut that option out of his mind. And when I ended up in an abusive long distance relationship, he was the first person to warn me he didn't trust the guy. He also had a nefew who meant the worl to him, and he would talk about him all the time. He was a great guy from what I can tell :)
I grew up with a diagnosed psychopath. His parents were both older than the rest of our parents and they were psychologists. He had been diagnosed as a small child and been receiving help and meds his whole life....he was and grew up to be an amazing human being and one of the most kind and genuine people I've ever known. 💖🙌 with the right help and support these people can live full, functional and amazing lives!
I had a friend who was a diagnosed sociopath -- they were the most wonderful, talented, profound poet. They were bright and bubbly and stuck up for me regularly back in the day.
My best friend is almost exactly like this. Most of his immediate family has passed and he felt nothing, but is still intensly loyal and kind to those who are his friends.
He sounds so sweet. He might not "get it" but he cares on some level, even if it's just him trying to be "normal". That's more than a lot of people care to do.
My boyfriend has no empathy but I still think he is one of the sweetest people because he understands that making people unhappy is bad. He likes entertaining and talking to people. He said that he always wants to be a person that anyone can talk to.
This is a good person. Kind person…. He could use what he has in bad ways like a lot do. But he understand doing those things hurt people and it’s not good. Kudos buddy.
This is fuckin beautiful, people often think of sociopaths as fuckin war criminals or something, but I love the notion that there can be sociopaths like this as well.
He sounds better than most people i know. I had a sociopathic commander in the military, which used to mentally abuse the soliders. I misjudged the disorder for years now. Thanks for the video. I'm sure it helps spread awareness with sociopaths who just want to be a helpful part of society.
I was diagnosed with ASPD at 14 years old, and this is really cool to see! It's a spectrum. Some people have it worse than others and its great to see people spread the awareness
High functioning sociopaths can be very interesting gateways into perspectives we rarely ever consider. The kind machine, helping folks simply because it makes sense. Vulcans would be proud
Got diagnosed a few years ago. It explained a lot. I've got a daughter and we have a great relationship. Ive gotten really good at masking with false emotions. Its Farrrrr Easier to get on in life when people like you. So I read books on how to be likeable and just followed along!
Thank you for sharing this because it's so unfair for people to associate anti-social personality disorder as crazed monsters out to pray upon the public.
