flashback to the time i played this in the car and about halfway through my mom leaned over to me and asked me if i was doing alright with a really concerned face
That's one reason she's one of my favorites. Normally I pay more attention to the music and vocals and less to lyrics but Phoebe's are so straightforward and relatable that I can't help but actually pay attention to them.
@@maelyssjoubrel9709 the song starts with phoebe saying that she will sing at a funeral the next day, for somebody who died very young ("a kid a year older than me") and that she has been talking to the dad of this person and how sad and heartbreaking this horrible situation is. In a later verse she sings about how she got drunk, passed out and woke up in her childhood bed. She is embarassed about this and herself. She feels sorry for herself for not having her life together. But then she remembers that somebody's child has literally just died. The dad she has spoken to and that she sings about in the very first verse, tragically lost his son. And Phoebe feels sorry for herself for her drunk escapades. It is a moment of self reflection. It is basically Phoebe saying "Damn, here I am drowning in self-pity and this man has it so much worse than me." which probably makes her feel even more sad and even more depressed. Because of course feelings aren't rational and just because somebody else is also hurting, doesn't mean that Phoebe can't hurt for different, seemingly smaller reasons, too.
When people always be telling me her music is so sad, but there's such a beauty to the sadness. To me it's a beauty that takes you away. Maybe thats what sadness is in a way. A deep part of sadness is also beautiful.
Sadness is beautiful because the purest form of sadness is easier to reach and grasp than the purest form of love or joy or other feelings. And thats just how it is unfortunately or not sadness is one of the few things in life that reach a pure absolute form. And somehow we are wired to feel it this way.
I think it’s the depth of our feeling, our reminder of our humanity, and our collective experience on earth as beings who primarily feel which makes sadness beautiful. We are not born to be used to generate profit by capitalists, we are born to dance, essentially, to feel deeply, and strangely, and play and imagine.
To be able to sing something like this, knowing it is her own song, and not break down mid-way through or drop some tears is a triumph of the human spirit...Her songwriting is such a beautiful catharsis. Very important songwriter.
Someone asked this in the julien baker subreddit not long ago, and her drummer Matt answered that they have already lived through these things, now they are telling the story.
my son died 4/17/20 at age 40, and this song saved me. I was the DAD, and You'd think it would have depressed me even more , but it comforted me and still does. Danny played piano and sang so sweet and he would have loved this song too.
“and i have this dream that i’m screaming underwater, while my friends are waving from the shore” felt that. you’re just drowning in your own thoughts and no one notices anything’s wrong
"feeling sorry for myself when i remember someone's kid is dead." this part hits differently when you are at your lowest and you wanted to die but then you just heard from someone you knew recently died. immediately those thoughts goes away cus you felt sorry for them and realize you are grateful for still breathing while its their time already.
Maybe it is because I am 75 I like this song so much. But wait, it is not because I am nearer to death, no, it is because of Phoebes way to express this feeling. Despite the sorrow. We are all travelling with a companion, young or old, and we know the name of that companion. So I am rather happy listening to her words, understanding that young people have the same feelings about this. And we go on living the best we can.
i hope youre doing well, this comment really means something to me and it reminds me how art really can speak to everyone and emotions affect every human being on the planet
A friend of mine committed suicide a few years ago, this song makes me feel so vulnerable about it, but warm at the same time. I always think about his family, his dad died last year, so I started to think about it even more. I can't help crying every time I listen to this song, I feel understood in a very deep way I've always wanted to go back to my childhood, where things were so much easier, i think about the future, and he is not there, he just stayed eternally in his 15 years.
" i think about the future, and he is not there, he just stayed eternally in his 15 years" would make a great lyric if you were to ever write a song in honor of your friend.
"I have a friend I call when I've bored myself to tears. And we talk until we think we might just kill ourselves, then we laugh until it disappears." I'm lucky enough to have a friend like this. Our conversations are sometimes very serious, but we fuck around to the point where we are laughing by the end.
Reading the comments somehow makes me feel that I'm not alone. None of my friends understand how beautiful Phoebe's music is. Her music has become like therapy to me. I wish I could tell her what she means to me. I'll be forever grateful for these songs.
When you’re 52 years old, have listened to Phoebe Bridgers for about 5 months now - in all her forms, all her bands, studio tracks, live, acoustic, etc - and you know how she’s going to sing the words, no, plead the words, “Jesus Christ, I’m so blue all the time...”, but when she does it hurts your soul, nonetheless...every...single...time...
i used to sit on my rooftop at 3 am listening to this song on repeat. my best friend recently passed away due to an overdose and i found myself doing it again now that its taken on a different meaning to me. i cant wait to see phoebe in berkeley in october.
This song fucking hits something deep inside me that I am no where near articulate enough to express. Shit makes me cry everytime, and on one hand i don’t really like crying. But on the other hand that deep breathe I take after the songs over is like none other. Thanks for the song phoebe, it means a lot to sad saps like me.
Scrolling through the comments and seeing people who are more elderly commenting such nice things about Phoebe is heartwarming. I'm not sure exactly what it is about it, but it just gives me to much love for the world and sp much sorrow for how often it changes. Nothing stays the same, not even for a second; and I hate it and love it.
I accidentally listened to this song for the first time about 2 years ago, just hours before one of my friends passed away unexpectedly (he was 17), and this describes just exactly how i felt and still feel about it, everytime I walk by his house it breaks my heart and everytime i listen to this song i can't help but cry
I'm singing at a funeral tomorrow For a kid a year older than me And I've been talking to his dad, it makes me so sad When I think too much about it I can't breathe And I have this dream where I'm screaming underwater While my friends are all waving from the shore And I don't need you to tell me what that means I don't believe in that stuff anymore Jesus Christ, I'm so blue all the time And that's just how I feel Always have and I always will I always have and always will I have a friend I call When I've bored myself to tears And we talk until we think we might just kill ourselves But then we laugh until it disappears And last night I blacked out in my car And I woke up in my childhood bed Wishing I was someone else, feeling sorry for myself When I remembered someone's kid is dead Jesus Christ, I'm so blue all the time And that's just how I feel Always have and I always will I always have and always will And it's 4 A.M., again And I'm doing nothing Again
Delivered to youall by the Facebook generation (Mom and Dad in the background): "I'm walking. I'm sad. I'm eating. I'm sad. I'm going to rest. I'm sad.. I'm brushing my teeth. I'm sad. I'm thinking about lots of things. I'm..." [...fallen asleep.]
i just discovered this song and didn’t know how much i needed it. my dad passed unexpectedly 6 months ago. so hard to believe it’s already been that long. experiencing grief during the pandemic has been unbelievably tough, really hoping for better days soon
I first heard this song afew weeks ago. A friend of mine, who i would consider one of my closest friends ever. We dont see each other all the time but we live in the came city. He came round, we spent afew hours hanging out, it was lovely to see him. We went for a walk, had a tea, talked the shit about life. At the end of the night he played me song, i just broke down crying. Too much for me. Feeling similar now, she is incredible
One of my friends just died last month and the first time I heard this song was the week after his funeral and it truly describes everything I’ve been feeling all year long. Thank you for putting this into words for me. 🤍
This released exactly 7 days after my bestie passed away -- a huge fan of you and your work. The lyrics are so painfully accurate and it aches so deeply I still haven't been able to find the words nearly 2yrs later. :'( I just had to come back and finally put it into the air.
Im a new phoebe fan and I just cried my eyes out in the car to this song. My favorite song I've heard in a very long time. I truly love this artist. We are so lucky to get to see her music happen.
That’s Harrison Whitford in the back there. Very talented guy. Released an album last year called Afraid of Everything which is fantastic. Got some more of those beautiful guitar tones you’re hearing here. Great live too, give it a try.
I adore this song. Resonates with me so strongly. Rarely do I stop and just listen, absolutely captivated, like I did the first time I heard this. Absolutely gorgeous and so real. :')
hearing this song as a drug addict who got sober hurts. so many people i knew never got the chance to sit in the chairs i can now and sometimes i’m so selfish and i get wrapped up in the stupidest things but i am here and i’m alive to be able to complain about these stupid things. and they’re not. i love that she wrote this song. so many people need it
October of 2018, I was watching the Lethal Weapon series one day after returning from a long week search looking for an 11 year old boy that drowned in a boating accident on September 1. As soon I heard the first 48 seconds the powerful lyrics knocked me to my knees and I started to cry uncontrollably.
I prefer this over the studio version and I think the main reason why is because of the excellent addition of the lap steel guitar in this rendition. It matches the song so perfectly, why is nobody else mentioning how good it is?
Something about this song hits me so deep. I normally don't cry because of songs, but something about this one... I've never made it through the whole thing without sobbing. The lyrics hit me so deep and I find it so beautiful. Phoebe Bridgers is one of the most unbelievably talented songwriters to ever exist in my opinion; the way she creates music is so unique and heartfelt. You can feel her emotion in every pluck of a string, vibrato in her voice, word she sings. It's amazing to me that someone could put so much heart and soul into a single piece of music.
My best friend eventually stopped talking to me about the feelings we shared, and then went through with it. It’s gonna be a year in July and I miss her so so much. It doesn’t feel real, and now I don’t have anyone to talk to about the feeling.
he died a week before my freshman orientation in college. overdose on fentanyl, i think. he was held back a year, so he was older than everyone else, but he was smart, kind, and funny. learning about his death wrecked me. it’s still really hard, almost two and a half years later. i miss you, d.
Hello, I am Roman from Prague. And I came here to read all your beautiful comments. They are a wonderful creations, exactly like Phoebe's songs. Thank you :)
yesterday one of my favorites persons in the world that i love him so so much passed away, today is his funeral, and cant stop to lestening that song, so sad, so pretty, so cool, so phoebe
I had an Epiphone gjuitar similar to this one . Mine was a 1963 Epiphone frontier serial number 336398. My father bought it used from a neighbor in 1965 for my 10th birthday. Someone else liked it better than me and it's been missing for 5 years but I did get to enjoy it for 50 years. Chills set in as I viewed this video remembering that guitar and the song was appropriate.
this is the first video i ever watched of phoebe back in october and since then, she's become one of my musical idols and her music means so much to me.
I first heard Phoebe's music on Soundlcoud. Alongggg time ago it feels like lol. Her voice is so soothing and beautiful! Thank You Phoebe for your music!
