Planning a Wedding is harder than we thought... 

thanks for sharing your opinions & tips on the wedding, I really appreciate it! 🥰 I‘ll share some more details on my point of view in my next vlog, I feel like I didn‘t give you enough context so my point can be easily misunderstood 🙏🏻 on another note: I think we found the perfect solution for both of us with the help of your ideas 🌝❤️

Family and Friends plays a big part. Their energy is what makes it a even more memorable. So I agree with him 😊

As an Asian it’s really difficult to just choose close 10 people for the wedding. Like it’s important to invite from both the mother and father side close relatives ( like cousins aunt and uncle )

I think Dongin is right about the guests. I personally got married on 2/22/22 at the courthouse with just us two, then had a nice meal at an Italian restaurant with our close family (20 people) that night. A few months later we had a more traditional west African wedding that was relevant to my husband's culture when the weather was nicer in September. For that we had a buffet and about 65 people. It was nice to be intimate on the actual day, but we wrote vows and had more ceremony for the September wedding with everyone there and shared those special words with our community. I like that I got to wear a big white dress for the official marriage, then an African print dress at the ceremony. Both days were amazing in their own way because we were able to process our emotions on the small day with just us, then celebrate later once we got used to being married for a few months and wrote vows. Just my anecdote lol Congratulations to you two!

I love this, I love you guys! 😍😍 As a professional wedding planner (in the States) I would love to give you my favorite tips I give my close friends and family when they start the wedding planning process: - Don’t listen to anybody else’s opinions/ideas about your wedding besides your fiancé -Secure a venue FIRST. Because everything else is determined on the venue. Sometimes even the date of your wedding -Absolutely get a good wedding planner. Not only will they make your life way easier through this process but it’s essential for the rest of your vendors to have only one point of contact for your event - You don’t have to do “The Show” all at once. You can always get legally married this year, then do the ceremony and reception next year -Lastly don’t stress. You’re marring the love of your love. And this will be another happy moment to make in a lifetime of joy and love 🥰🥰 I hope this helps!!

I agree with Dongin that people being there is more important than the venue/food. I mean at the end of the day it’s about marrying the person you love and being with the people who love you. Like he said, you guys may find ways to cut costs so it can stay within your budget. It’s just my opinion though. As long as you’re both happy that’s all that matters.

With the whole event vs. people debate, while I do understand what Farina is saying about the beauty of the event for the people being married, I feel like the moment is even more beautiful when everyone you love is there. Being married is an important milestone that a lot of people wouldn't want to miss. Of course, it's your guys's choice! I'm just a random stranger putting my opinion out there hehe. I wish you luck in your wedding planning!

Well, it's important to be flexible because this wedding is for both of you. Take into consideration what each other wants. Also, in my opinion, the memories are created by a good atmosphere and the presence of friends and family, not solely by the food and venue.

My best tip is to make it SIMPLE and CHEAP so you can invite all the ppl you want. Dare to be unconventional! Don't be too attached to the venue or location. It may stress you out and cause conflicts. It's all about having a nice party with ppl you love. Remember that... 😅💖 Let your family and friends contribute to the wedding in stead of giving you unnecessary gifts. You don't need a wedding planner if you make it that simple. 😅

Aghhhh I wanna see you guys as a married couple the soonest 🥹❤

Farina, I understand that you have a vision for the wedding but please don't let Dongin not have all of his special people there even if it is 50. I mean, if he's saying he's close with them all, then he is. If he is willing to pay, then go through with it. A wedding is a life changing moment and definitely a familial included event. Your guy's cultures are different and the way weddings happen are different so please be open and flexible with that in mind. Maybe you guys can split tasks like he deals with the guest count and you deal with the aesthetic of the venue (decor)? Best of luck planning and congrats again on your engagement!

I believe some people are being a bit harsh bc farina thinks the venue is more important, but by the end they even saw a place that would fit the number of people dongin needs and also fullfils the event that farina dreams of. Guys, I'm here for you! I really love how you both can say whatever you want without arguing and then comencing from that point

family and friends are important in events like that .....dancing with them and having fun with the people you love is the thing that makes it memorable and a big event in your life .....

Fariniii 💖💕 I wanna make you smile today, so I'll leave a compliment here. Your beautiful heart is truly outstanding. You value integrity, have so much love and compassion not only for fellow humans but also for animals, are protective of everything you love, and above all, you are so genuinely sweet. You makes so many people so infinitely happy. 💖💕 Also your outfit with the Louis V bandeau? Showstopping! (on another note, I agree about the wedding planner. There's just so much to think about, a professional would be really helpful I think)

Are we gonna get a video of you choosing your dress? I’m asking because I know some RU-vidrs and influencers like to keep it to themselves to have a special moment with their family and loved one. I love you farina 💜💜

ooooooo i agree with dongin, as an asian, your closest family can literally make up 20 people 😅 10 spaces for family is definitely not enough…. i think maybe a good compromise would be to have a super intimate wedding at the perfect venue with the perfect food, but then also have a second celebration with a bigger circle of family and friends!

Wedding planning is hard. I would keep in mind, you don’t want to have any regrets bc you will only get married onetime. Yes, you could have another one to renew your vows. But there’s 1 first wedding. So plan the wedding you both can work with. No matter what, it’s both your wedding day and you both should be happy with the venue and those attending. Can’t wait to see your journey ❤

i agree with dongin here, ofc the food and location is important but the people are more important. after many years you will remember the memories made with the guests and the fun you had not the food. u should get a wedding planner, doing everything yourself is stressful

This might be a great opportunity for everyone to understand the cultural differences that are causing the core issue here - the importance of family. For the Asian person, regardless of gender male or female, the significance of family cannot be understated, but for the western person, it may not be such an importance because individualism is valued to be of greater significance. Until there can be mutual compromise and understanding, this core cultural difference in perspective is going to creep in over and over again throughout the course of your lifetime together. It can either make your marriage, or break your marriage. I am Asian (Singaporean) but married to a white American, and we live in the United States, but we travel often (yearly) back to my home country for my family. Luckily for both of us, my husband and I met when we were older and more mature, we married in our mid 30s and now are in our 50s, and still happily married, maybe happier now than we've ever been. I wish you both good intentions.

Wow I'm Italian and I'm so happy to see that you guys are spending your time happily; by the way Farina your italian is so good, I've to congratulate you 🤩

We had a small wedding 40 guests, in a vintage style sunhouse and it was such a perfect day

But I am honestly so excited for your wedding guys! And it feels even more real with actually starting looking vanues and what are the things the you'll have to compromise, and the things that each absolutely won't compromise. I think this will be a beautiful journey, and, if you allows us, I'd love to see how things will go

As an italian I'm happy to see you love these places. Lake Como is just so beautiful, I' ve been there many times. Happy you had a good time. 😊

Nachdem mein Mann und ich unsere Hochzeit alleine geplant haben hier ein paar Tipps 😊 1. Es ist EURE Hochzeit und sie muss nur euch alleine gefallen! Wie haben una am Anfang etwas gezwungen gefühlt einige Leute einzuladen und wir waren so froh, es am Ende nicht getan zu haben. Vor allem haben wir Unruhestifter nicht eingeladen. Niemand möchte schlechte Stimmung an dem Tag. 2. Überlegt wer kommen soll und sucht dann direkt eine passende Location. Bei uns war es sogar so, dass die Veranstalter auch einen DJ, Blumenladen und Bäcker, sowie das Restaurant als Bundle hatten. Dadurch mussten wir nicht viel anderes suchen. Denkt auch dran, dass wenn die Leute da übernachten sollen das auch möglich ist (vllt. auch für Leute die ein kleines Gehalt haben). 3. Sobald ihr einen Tag habt geht direkt zum Standesamt dort. Bzw. Macht einen Termin. Wir waren etwas spät und dadurch war unsere Trauung statt 13 Uhr wie wir es gern wollten schon um 10.30 Uhr (das war super doof, weil man nicht ausschlafen konnte, zwecks Friseur und Stylistin...) Der Tag war dadurch viel zu lang und wir waren um 0 Uhr schon mehr als durch. 4. Lasst euch von Trauzeugen helfen, wenn ihr sowas möchtet. Unsere waren einfach top und haben so viele tolle Spiele (Schuhspiel) organisiert und dafür gesorgt, dass sich jeder ins Gästebuch einträgt. Wir sind ohne Hochzeitsplaner sehr sehr gut ausgekommen und noch jetzt bekommen wir immer wieder Komplimente:). Wenn man das Geld übrig hat dann klar, aber es geht auch so, wenn man z.b. nur die richtige Location hat. Bei uns gab es z.B. alles vor Ort. (Stühl, usw.)

I am with Farina on this one, I got married a few years ago and at the end of the day, this is a day for you but it can so easily get over budget. It is about what is the most essential, especially when you have a clear budget. In some countries inviting lots of people is more common because families pay for it but when it is the two of you, it totally makes sense.

its so interesting to watch you planning wedding, because as an azerbaijanian i can say that in our wedding 100 guests are minimum. i was at wedding lately and there were 700 guests and its okay here. even if you dont have enough money, people do everything to invite everyone they love. i love you guys so much and hope to see you as a married couple soon!!

I didn't think you liked Italy so much, I'm Italian so I'm very happy to know it, you are very good at speaking it! I wish you a happy marriage ♡ vi amo♡

This is a gorgeous site for a wedding. Its beautiful. I can't wait to see which venue you choose & how the decor will be. Yall deserve the best

i'm italian and after seeing the title where is mention my country i'm feel really proud. i hope that you guys can see the big beauty of italy ( my english is not perfect, i know but please understand

Hi guys I'm italian and I'm really Happy that you are in my country and that you love It,💜💜💜 Farina, your pronunciation of italian is very beautiful,🥰💯 the Pan di stelle biscuits i and especially my little brother love them.

You both are made for each other, and you look great together.❤️❤️❤️❤️

A work around for the amount of guests is you invite your closest circle of family and friends to the ceremony and those are the people that you pay for accommodation at the reception (or wherever you have your wedding), these people will also be served the meal after the ceremony. You invite everyone else you want to invite to the after party where you serve drinks and snack type foods. Then it will be their responsibility to pay for their own accommodation, of course you help by recommending hotels nearby. Hope this helps!

You both are made for each other, and you look great together.

If I ever said I’m only inviting 10 people to my wedding, my parents will be furious, my entire family will be extremely offended and my bloodline will probably disown me 😂 (No offense tho. I know culture can be different. I understand the beauty of intimate time with the closest people. Sometimes, our reality takes over some matters)

This is so aesthetically pleasing. The place where you stay is beautifull you guys are super gorgeous and the doggie is the cutest. My best wishes for your wedding, may your life is filled with happiness, love and health!!!!!!!

I can see both sides, I wouldn't want a wedding day experience to be clouded by the stress of the money for any couple but also couldn't imagine not sharing it w as many people as I would love to have their. But there's options to have a beautiful venue that can fit more people, so definitely keep looking to find something that gives you both what you love.

Definitely get a wedding planner. Sister of mine and her husband decided to make the wedding happen by themselves only and they were so stressed even on the D-day that they weren’t able to enjoy it at all.

We just got back from our honeymoon in Italy and I would have got married there if we could have. I will be honest, I don't miss wedding planning. Our day was perfect but planning was so hard. Wishing you all the best.

Keep it nice and simple. Italy is beautiful

First of all: Congratulations on literally everything you've achieved together, I've been following you for years, you and Donging changed and matured a lot through the years, you're honestly one of my favorites couple ever, 100% relationship goals, I aspire to have a relationship as good as yours T-T. I'm so happy to hear you're getting married, it honestly brings me lots of joy, you deserve to be happy

I‘m with Farina on this one!

as an italian person i love this video so muchhh, hearing you trying to study italian make me feels emotional, i dont know why ahahah

Finally Have a happy days together ❤❤

having many guests and still keeping high quality of location, food, etc/ consider 2025--2026 that way you have time to plan and save for everyone who you want to share this moment with. Basically you are hosting a big party, so take the time you need to be able to do everything you both want.

I'm italian and I think you have a nice accent in my language. love youuuuu

watching my fav yt couple getting married in my country makes me so happy! ♡

ahh havent watched it yet but cant wait for this one!!! farina's vlogs are just so comforting

Found your channel in the spring of 2021 (i think it was March) but never let a comment there. Now its about time. I like all of your videos so much being a huge fan of asian colture. Any time i want to see videos from South Korea, your channel is my first choice. Wish you both a great time! Cheers from Germany :) PS: I know its only secondary, but being a Soccer fan i like it that Jürgen Klinsmann is the current coach of South Korea. And there is an other very nice german-south korean couple in Germany, our former Chancellor Gerhard Schröder and Soyeon Schröder-Kim, but its vica verca, a german man with a south korean woman. Wish you two all the best and i am always excited to see your new videos.

You are a beautiful couple, and I wish you all the best and a long, happy, healthy life and marriage 🥰☺️ My absolute faves!!

Mein Cousin hat auch in Italien geheiratet. Das Hotel für die Gäste war zu Fuß erreichbar. Gäbe es also ein bezahlbares Hotel in der Nähe von der Hochzeitslocation, wäre das auch eine Option. :) Außerdem hat sich die Familie in Deutschland zusammengetan und einen Bus/Busfahrer gemietet! Dann sind alle zusammen, ca. 20 Leute, mit dem Bus angereist. Gefahren sind wir von Freitag Abend bis Samstag morgen. Am Sonntag war dann die Hochzeit, und am Montag ging es zurück mit einem kurzen Halt am Gardasee! Das ganze war über Pfingsten, sodass alle am Montag sowieso frei hatten und sich lediglich den Dienstag freinehmen mussten ^^ Hotel und den Anteil am Bus hat dann jeder Gast selber bezahlt. Vielleicht wäre das für euch ja auch eine Option :)

My fiance and I are similar on the guest list thing lol I have 10 people (immediate family and 2 best friends) that I need to have at my wedding, he has a huge family and I had to reign in his list from like 45 family members down to 17.

You two waiting in the rain and running in it to go home is kind of romantic. Even though, you two got wet. Hope you two do not catch a cold. And, got to stay warm.

Omg I'm still in shock about you guys getting married but I hope everything goes well and you guys have an amazing wedding❤

Love the video 💕 . I would love if you guys make a video journey of how do you plan your wedding it would be so nice to be part of it even if is just from a screen. 🙌💜

Como ist wunderschön... als Star Wars fan absolute Traumlocation hihi🩷 Viel Erfolg euch noch bei der Planung🥰

I’m a fan of yours, following you from Italy, Tuscany. I am very happy that you liked it. You are very nice and beautiful together and Farina speaks good Italian, she has a beautiful pronunciation. In addition to cookies Pan di Stelle I recommend you to taste the Gocciole, here there is a "battle" between those who prefer Gocciole and those who prefer the Pan di Stelle xD. Thanks for all the content, great video and keep it up!🥰

Lake Como is where they shot Anakin and Padames wedding scenes in Starwars too! I went to Italy last year but wasn't able to make it up there unfortunately but hoping to make a trip up there eventually! 💜

And I'm so happy that you appreciated Italy and Italian food and learn Italian language. It makes me feel proud. I hope that you will enjoy😘🥰

Even tho both have pros and cons i think at the end of the day friend & family > food and venue, but you do you! Thanks for sharing

I love how your vlogs/videos feel like we are on a video call and you're my friend who is telling me what's up in your life!! It's so nice!!

Thanks for showing us beautiful lake como, nice music choice on your video. I hope you get a good planner so you can relax and enjoy ❤

Could you have a very small ceremony at the Como venue? And then have a second ceremony at a much less expensive & bigger place after?

Rosetta stone that's so cool!

I agree with Dongin.

Ragazzi siete stupendi non ascoltate nessuno fate con il vostro cuore ❤️ il matrimonio è bello come volete importante vivi amate x tutta la vita siete braviiiii

I've never been here this early😀So happy to see y'all having a great trip in Italy!!Happy travels and good luck with the wedding venue hunting❤️

All Italy is a great place for a wedding! Pan di stelle are my favourite biscuits! ❤❤

I mean, I can see where all the comments come from, but the wedding its more about them and not their family it's not a family gathering, y'know? it's a event for them to celebrate their relationship and how far they are now, in my opinion the focus shouldn't really be in the guests that much :b Sure, having the people you love there make it lots more special, but the point is: When you have to make your "dream" wedding cheaper just so you can make it better for other people to fit it, is it really a event for you and your fiancée? Maybe it is because I'm a foreigner, but i can actually understand Farina's side much better :D You guys are forgetting its her wedding too, it should be as special for her too! So I suggest finding a mid-term, rather than making EVERYTHING cheaper to fit more people or getting an amount of guests that will make one of the sides feel bad In the end, Respect whatever they come in terms with, it being one way or another, it's their event not yours

"We don't need to feed them, they just have to be there">>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Such a fun video! Beautiful surroundings. Don't wait 2 years though! That's too long to wait for your beautiful wedding! :)

the cutest thing in the video is the little white doggy 😂❤ im so sorry

Why not elope and then have a dinner reception when you get back to your country. Luv your vlogs💛you 2 are beautiful together🙂

I'm Italian and seeing you in italy it's making me freaking out. Love you guys, hope you'll be able to marry here ❤

Following u guys for a long time feels like we r family 😂 ❤ I wish u to find best venue, have memorable wedding and be happy!!!! ❤

Lol ich hab grad 3 tüten Pan di Stelle bei Lidl geholt und nun sind sie in eurem video 😂... meine Lieblingskekse 😊. Es ist wunderschön, wo ihr seid!

🎉 I'm so glad you 2 are getting maerin you're the perfect couple. How many children are you're having I can't wait you are having beautiful children?😂😂❤❤❤

your Italian pronunciation is so good!!!

I really believe you guys will find a solution that fits both a venue that farina likes and dongin's loved ones

you went by your sandwich so fast I had to rewind it 3 times and pause it to actually see what you were having...they looked so delicious...what is the dark sauces on the pasta that you are eating.?

Ahh this place is soo pretty also your home it's hella pretty wow 💝

I am happy to see you in my country! Welcome to Italy! Being "Comasca", I recommend other beautiful areas to visit, near Lake Como: Argegno, Menaggio and all the Valle d'Intelvi (where I live)! In Lanzo Intelvi, towards Switzerland, there is a place called Balcony of Italy: it is a beautiful place to visit! If you will have your wedding here please invite me! :)

We are a Singaporean+Spanish AMWF couple and we RECENTLY just uploaded our engagement video. The thought of planning our marriage is already scaring us!! 😂

I'm so happy that you come here to Italy😆🥰

Sono italiana e mi fa piacere che ami il mio paese

In Arab weddings, we invite about 100 people or more, and some weddings reach 300 people.😂😂😂That's just women and men 50 or 100. What is 11 or 10 omg😭😭😭

Ihr seid sehr toll, zusammen! Ich folge euch seit über einem Jahr und ich liebe euch sehr ♥ ENDLICH WERDET IHR HEIRATEN! Dogin, das hat lange gedauert Σ(-᷅_-᷄๑)

Wow my relatives had a wedding of 200 or 300 people

I want one of his cousins 😂😂😂😂love you a lot ❤❤

You guys should just ball out on a honeymoon,weddings are so expensive and stressful

Yea you have to pay for them Farina, lets not pretend that you guys are broke...! Wedding is a one in a life time thing. I cant imagine to only invite 10 people

I love your videos farina ❤️❤️❤️ And I love you too❤️especially bingsu 🐶🐾🐾🐾💜💜💜

OMG amooo, no puedo esperar para verlos casados.

Have you worked with a wedding planner? that can take alotof the pressure off.

it's My dream to see you guys getting married aahh love you guys I support you❤❤❤

In our country we all have 500+ guests 🤣

ODDIO VI AMO!!

Introducing you'll to the future most cutest married couple ❤

Gäste sind definitiv wichtiger als das äußere von der Location. Bringt euch ja nichts wenn die Location bombe ist aber die Hochzeit langweilig, weil zu wenig leute da sind, die die Stimmung machen😊

Ahh congrats!

Why don't you guys do the wedding at the beach♥️