Ya Allah Alhamdulillah, I have a very good Indonesian Muslim husband. He supports me until I can continue my PhD. A very gentle man never raise his voice to me, loves Quran and never leaves his tahajud prays, always help with the house choirs and taking care of the children, and take the responsibility of providing us for all this years. May Allah gives him the the highest Jannah and happiness in this world, make me a better wife, and our children pious among the best generation .. Aamiiin.. Ramadan Mubarak to all of you.
@@smhashimnasser5619 Insha Allah. May Allah gives all of us a paradise in this world too, which mean a peaceful family and a marriage that makes our heart content. Alhamdulillah It's been 15 years now, I hope it'll last to Jannah. Aamiiin.
This is so so so serious. When the husband doesn't do what he must, the only result of that is an angry response from the wife. It is hard for the wife to be a source of peace and calm when the husband is not giving her her rights, and the opposite is true as well.
We are about to get divorced because my husband doesn't want to be responsible as a man of the house.he is pushing me to go to work and pay for everything and insults me and my parents and when I told him for the sake of Allah and the two kids we have together be a real man and treat me with respect and share responsibilities with me ,he just grabbed his own stuff and left so that he doesn't do his duty to care for his wife and kids.there is a saying :happy wife happy life.of the man takes care of his wife she will eventually be his Janna and happiness.
Yeah... And how you show your anger has to be well thought... Like talking to him first for like a week... And if he keeps repeating it, the wife has the right to talk to her family about it and let them talk to him... And even if he doesn't give her her rights, she can go to the court ... And if he has no intention of giving her rights she can even ask for divorce but if she wants to live with him despite all that, thats her choice and all she can do as long as she is married to him is to give him advice..
As you can see it is not that important to shout at or argue with the husband ... Islam gives all woman the right to get what they deserve... But in the right way ... And with patience...it's not wrong to get angry., But getting angry and not having any control or having arguments with the husband and even when an unexpected argument occur not stopping when you realise that it's going too far, that's what should not be done...
I have a problem with that. it's really difficult for women to break out of abusive situations. I'm sure it's difficult for men too. I won't go into details here, but victim blaming is just wrong in so many ways.
@@Ladycooks I agree with you. It takes self esteem and confidence to leave a relationship. But abusers generally take this away slowly and progressively, and it's usually not recognized until the self esteem is gone. There are so many psychological games played. The abuser is guilty and responsible. The victim needs help. May Allah give us guidance.🙏
@@Ladycooks I don't think he was victim blaming. To me it seemed more like he's trying to warn/advise you of the sufferings you and your children will keep facing and so that is why it's really important to find help somehow. Yes it's hard for victims of abuse to find help but it just seemed like a friend telling you that you need to get out for your own sake and your kids' sake.
Unfortunately i doubt there are any men in our “desi culture” who live by these explained principles. I happen to be married to one myself who inspite of being highly educated couldnt care less about being the provider, expecting me to work and pay for all my expenses. Naturally, who wants to stay in such marriages. And then the elders say that the institution of marriage is crumbling with our generation. I wish the mothers of the previous generation had taught their sons how to be real men, rather than concentrating on the daughters and raising them only to be ideal daughter in laws
I understand that sis Tell him ok I will work and provide for the family but he has to take ur place and take care of the children and cook and clean That is when he will understand ur feelings
it's not just Desi, or Muslims, or a nationality... there is a breakdown of society and much of it comes from the psychology of marketing and brainwashing of what is success here in the duniya.
Sister...all men are not the same.I belong to a well off family married to a middle class man.But my husband never considered meas a burden.He bear all my expenses.And Alhamdulillah I have a teenage son who says that we won't take any dowry from his future wife as he believes he will earn by himself and bear all the expenses of his future wife...This really makes me happy.
I hear you dear sister. The world at large need to raise better men. Most men just want slaves and are doing it in a little bit better way by marrying; but still with that marriage, they become so controlling, and demand the women to take care of them, bear children, raise the kids, clean the home, cook and on top of that be there for them whenever they need you! Who have time for that??? I have done most of the work I mentioned for my dear parents and I owed it to them and a whole lot more fpr I can never ever repay my parents! To conclude, I must say that there are some few good men out there but hard to find
Asallamu Alaikum Congratulations on becoming a muslim. All praise is due to ALLAH the almighty. Alhamdulilah you have found the truth, May Allah strengthen your Faith and bless you with all the good things in life.
Welcome to islam dear. You have no clue how happy I am to read you're new to islam. You guys are who Allah talks about in the quran. Those who conciously find the deen, you guys are resilient, brave and honest. Allah showed you the way and you were sincere enough to take it. I love for Allah 💛 BarakAllah feeeki.
Thank you for feeling happy for me. Yes Allah showed me the way and without questions I followed because I know it is God's will for me. I feel humble and thankful to Allah (fake).
I have been taking care of our responsibilities for 8 years of marriage with 5 children. Subhanallah. I make 6 figures but it’s still a struggle, very little time at home. I want my wife to work as well so we can have double. I now see that I I’m wrong for that and it should be voluntary on her part. Inshallah I continue to pray 5 times a day and love my lord, I will make 200k and increase my good deeds.
kingofthe hill 123 this is satan try to make conflicts between spouses subhanallah im glad you realized it ... keep reading surat albaqarah or run it at the house or car ( we do me and husband always to keep the house and ourselves out of shyateen) alhamdulilah... may allah bless you
I’m not married, I pray to Allah that may Allah make my future wife a source of peace for me and make me a provider and protecter for her, in sha Allah. Please pray for me :)
Subhan Allah. If only men these days took this advice seriously. (Most men don’t) just because their wives are financially independent they leave the woman to take care of responsibilities both inside and outside the house. Financial abuse is rampant these days. May Allah guide us all
And about the mahr? Mahr is being neglected in Brazil by so manu muslim brothers, specially when they end up marrying women who are not muslimahs. It is a real shame!
Ninevah Barreiros alot of people from the sub-continent are either not islamically educated enough or purposely do not give mahr right after. Like Ustadh says here they might talk about giving it 20 years down the line. It so important for people to first educate themselves about marriage within the islamic realm before getting married.
@Gray Kin You can make it work if you're responsible, not wanting to marry just because the mahr is too expensive just means that you don't want the responsibility.
first of all islam never asked women to work. Some women want to get into workplaces then complain their husband don't help at home. like wait, who said you should work and still depending on the husband to finance you? normally most women who work has in mind to balance the financial situation of the family. you get yourself into something islam never asked you to do, then complain about husbands lol!!!
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Please people pray for my mother she was single mother raised 4 daughters alone she passed away May Allah forgive her and bless her soul in Jannah Ameen
Same here!! I m praying since years now!! May Allah accept our duas and grant us spouse that will be coolness of eyes!! Aameen! May Allah make it easy for us!! Aameen
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This khutbah really changed me from inside.Now I am more patient with my husband.. Alhamdulillah I appreciate him for whatever he does for me.May Allah guide us and may he give jazaa to bro nouman for changing people from inside by the will of Allah..
I wished there's more muslimahs like you sis, who look in themselves within first before pointing fingers May Allah Ar Rahman bless you with your doas, Ameen ya Rabb'al alameen
I’m learning so much by watching these. I was raised Christian but you don’t find these values and foundations in the Christian faith especially these days. Thank you, for these beautiful messages. 😊
Broken things should not be just left around, same goes for relationships. They should either be fixed, or gotten rid of, otherwise people get hurt, especially the children :(
I’m a Pakistani born Christian. Somewhere back with my great grand parents they were converted. I feel like I am discovering my stolen heritage listening to videos on Islam. It’s like opening Pandora’s box. This was a beautiful video, I am married and this helps my mindset a lot.
What a beautiful balance Allah has made between men and women. Jazakallah Ustadh for putting it so simply and honestly. Everything is very clear to understand for men and women.
I believe that real love is as our God clarified to us ...tranquillity,affection and mercy .that how we can find peace...you have to feel secure with your partner The best gift to give to some one is making him feel contentment , helping him to love himself which will eventually come back to you as a lot of love and appreciation. May Allah give tranquillity to those who asking him for.
There must be fights in any family...but Don't fight in front of your children this will affect them badly.. i happen to come from a totally non stable family ...🌷🌷
Take care of your family especially your wife, if you make her happy she will make your life happy, I am talking as a woman and from the way we usually think. Only treat her the right Islamic way, no magic, but not the way most of our generation brought by. May Allah bless your family
I am not married yet, but inshaallah when I will, I hope my husband and me can both live up to the expectations of Allah. And honestly though, you always hit the nail on the head with each of your words. I instantly recognized so many things you mentioned in my parents. Its just so typical to blame each other, to quote and shove ahadith and kuthbas into each other's faces. And everyone is so insistent on proclaiming their rights.
Assalamualaikum Believers of Allah and His Messenger, I've been going through a difficult time in my marriage, I want to blame my wife, but being a struggling Muslim I know that I need to seek Allah's help and guidance to save my marriage, or to move on. It's not hard not is it easy, can you please make Dua for me to get better as a believer. May The Creator raise our prophet to the Most highest level of jannah and increase his entire ummah in faith and belief, ameen
Aameen ya Rabb, and may Allah ya kareem bless your marriage, keep it safe and guide us all in the right path and help you make the right decisions, akh. Verily with every hardship, Allah ya Rahman will bless us with ease. Stay strong, akh.. wasalam..
always duas and love for bro NAK , i wish if in our country(Bangladesh) , there will be such a person like him who will make the religion easy for people and make people feel what la ilaha illallah really means!!!!!!
Mashahallah!!! What a talent of delivering speech the right way. Every word you talk holds a lot of meaning, tons of doubts or questions wat ppl think they must question post your speech gets answered during the speech itself. May Allah guide all the men and women.
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@@chummychimchim walaikum assalam, I wonder y your comment is soo negetive I understand am not wearing scarf in the pic, but since you could sense something bad I may happen to change inshahallah. But I do not understand other than my face wat else is posted n seen. M being told as something is too revealing.
Me too, it has gotten to the stage now, I would be happy if he ask for a divorce. When a woman is fed up that's it. Mines is emotionally and financially abuse and to top it off his got an anger problem. I hope it get better for both you ladies.
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Beautiful Khutbah. Always, always first look at the person in the mirror before lifting a finger towards the other party, whether in a marriage or any other form of interpersonal relationship. May Allah make us among those who always turn to HIM for guidance to correct ourselves first before others and may HE help us to be the coolness of the eyes of our spouses. Ameen.
Benefited from it really.May Allah (sw) make us of those who pay heed and act accordingly .May Allah (sw) help all those having difficulties in their marriages.Fiamanillah 👋
I'm still unmarried so this is one of the best useful kutbah that helps me understand what I should look forward in marriage and finding a good husband. Jazakallah khair sir. May Allah bless you. Aameen.
Alhamdullilah, may Allah protect you and cause you to grow in this Ummah, but Allah has given you a beautiful way to give the message. It’s given with ease and love. We need this brother.
What a barakah ummah has these kind of reminders of deen of Allah. Thank you Nouman Ali Khan, brother Omar Suleiman, Dr Yaseer Qadhi and all the others.. may Allah increase your status and keep you safe for us...
There is not enough appreciation to all his advices all his videos are a jewel of knowledge may Allah grant you long life and health to continue teaching us Islam there is so much to learn.
JazakAllah khair brother Nouman Ali Khan.. can't thank you enough but will only pray for you.. may Allah taala reward u immensely in this world and the hereafter.. I just loveeeeed this.. and esp the part where u mention how a wife should be. Please do more lectures for what wives should do. Allah gave me very good reminders through your lectures alhamdolillah summa alhamdolillah.. may Allah taala give you happiness in this world and even more in the hereafter Ameen summa Ameen
Allah has placed a huge responsibility on a man and if a man is following the command of Allah and fulfilling his dudies towards his wife then such a man deserves the highest of respect. He deserves to be taken well care of by a loving and supportive wife who knows his value Great lecture Br Nouman Ali Khan. May Allah continuously bless you in the great work you are doing. Ameen
Masha Allah... A very informative video... May Allah bless us all in our marriages and help us sort out our differences and start afresh forgiving all the past mistakes. Insha Allah
Assalam aleikum, brother Nouman, This is a khutbah that would transform my life forever. Being a human being, I have weaknesses, yet with Allah's mercy and wisdom that Quran endows on us, we can easily carry out our life with ease and happiness. I will definitely implement these valuable suggestions right from today onward. Alhamdulliah! In fact, the catchy title of the video got me hooked a few weeks ago, but as I had to depart for office, I saved the video in Nouman Ali Khan folder; today after watching this video, peace & harmony overwhelmed me entirely. May peace, blessing and mercy on Nouman Ali bhai.
With every single khutbah Ustadh becomes an even bigger spiritual mountain or giant that Allah subhana wa ta'ala has blessed us with to stand upon in our reach for Him.. In our worship, subservience and absolute submission to Him through the gift of Islam that keeps on giving!!!!! Alhamdoulillahhhhhhh.. Ustadh Nouman may the Lord of the Throne who sees in secret reward you openly in abundance for the GOODNESS you Impart. Allahuma'meen
Alhamdulillah this is an amazing relevant and absolutely necessary advice for spouses. May Allah bless Br Nouman Ali Khan with success in this world and in the hereafter Ameen
Great khutbah! Jzk will keep the advice In mind may allah accept ustaads and the teams effort for bring this video and every other reminder forward! آمين يارب العالمين
Allah aap ki baseerat main mazeed izafa kre.very use ful 4 me thx 4 clear my confliction. please also give ur khutba in urdu.or also copy ur eng khutba in urdu. this will help millions of people. jzak Allah