Lol, I listed who could pop up at my house, half family members and half friends. Half the list has a key to my house so they can let themselves in but they still call or text beforehand. It’s called manners.
NOBODY! Not my momma, my friends, none dem! People have no boundaries or respect for you or your space. You not gon invade my space!! If ur not invited you WILL NOT be let in PERIODT! End of discussion. I need my space. THANK YOU!........
I had a friend pop up at my house and I TOTALLY IGNORED her. When she mentioned that she stopped by, I said, “Yeah, I saw you but I didn’t answer the door because you didn’t call first.” That NEVER happened again!😅😅😂
I did the same thing to friend. I had just gotten home from my 2nd job and not feeling well and she just popped up. I saw her and she knew I did but I ignored her. I went to urgent care the next day and emailed her when I got back to work and she didn't speak to me for a couple weeks but she got over it. She knew the rules.
My parents, ages 90 and 92. They drive over unannounced. My mother knows the code and gives no thought to opening the door (without knocking) then saying, “HELLO!”, like she hasn’t seen me since birth. But, I’ve been blessed to have them both for this long and I know the time ahead is very, very short--so they can interrupt and barge in anytime and always be welcomed!❤️
That’s gonna be my mom in law when she moves I. Lol. But i lost my momma when she was 59. Man I thought for sure she would’ve been here to 80-85…give anything for her to show up. But she was like me she always called first lol
Who can pop up at my house? My husband. And only because he lives here. You can ring the doorbell, you can knock, you can holler from the yard….the door will not be opened. I need a call, a text, an email, a messenger pigeon - something - at least an hour in advance. And I still might tell you “maybe another time”.
My kids are trained. If we hear the bell and we're not expecting someone, we go silent and do not move till we know for sure they're gone! Who just pops up?! It's sooooo rude!
My aunt did this one time and I just let her keep knocking! She knew I was at home cause I was on the phone talking loud af! So a few weeks later I was at a funeral and she walks up to me and says “Next time I come to your house, you better open the door!” And I said “Next time you come to my house, you better call first!” She looked at me like I had just put a voodoo curse on her! She was sooooo offended by my boundaries!
I'm that way about phone calls. I'll hit that 'text me' button in a minute. If you don't text me or leave a voice mail, then I'll know it wasn't important.
This is how you know we're all on the same page. I haven't heard that track in yeeeeeeears, but as soon as I read your post I started whining my waist (in bed), singing and clicking my fingers on that beat. whoooooo! If you're wondering why I'm in bed it's cos I'm in England. Nobaaaaadeh! And who's gonna love you like meeee? Nobaaaadeh! haha
I'm not even going to say my Momma because I was at work and my children were home and she popped up and they would not let her in. So when I called them to ask why they didn't let their grandmother in, they told me I told them don't let nobody in when I was not there, so I gave them permission and told my mother they were going to open the door. Now she was upset but I told her they were only doing what I told them, I just didn't think they but their grandmother in that category. However, it made me feel relieved that they were not opening the door for no one. And my children were old enough to be at home alone.
Good for your kids! They did exactly what you told them to! Grandma has no reason to be upset. Up to that point there hadn’t been an amendment to that statement. Now you can expand on it as needed.
Good for the kids…and as tough as it may seem I stand behind the “NO ONE” unless my kids have spoken to me..that includes my mother and anyone else… mine shouldn’t open the door regardless because no one would ever just pop up without me knowing or telling them ..not even my mom and if she did my son would tell her to come back later or “tell my mom to call me and tell me to open the door“ And that’s exactly how I want it
Well, just last week, I was on staycation and a friend from out of town surprised me. She did have to stay on the porch for a few minutes because I was at home free. But I missed her so she was welcomed. LOL I have an adult child and he has been warned NOT to pop up or use the spare key unless he wants an eyeful of empty nesters, empty nesting. LOL
This. First of all, I’m not letting you in. If by some miracle I did, I’m going back to the task at hand (probably RU-vid) and you will be entertaining yourself!
I’m definitely helping Olivia and Fin every Saturday. Although I have seen every episode since season 1 and these are re runs I watch them like I’ve never seen them before.
A certain relative who shall remain nameless loves to pop up on folk, but doesn't want anybody popping up on her and if they do, she has no problem telling them so. How does that work?!😮
Nobody is allowed to pop up at my house. Full stop. Like EJ said, we have technology; use it. For the sake of an example, if I'm out and near a friend's house they get a phone call or a text that reads something like this "Hey, I'm nearby. OK, if I stop by?" If they respond w/yes then I will pop up. If they don't answer or they do answer w/a NO. My response is something like I completely understand, hope you're doing well. Would love to see you when it works for you. Have a good day. Anything else is disrespectful. Full stop.
I remember as a kid how excited everyone was when company would just show up….nowadays if someone rings our bell unannounced we all hit the floor and go silent like we are wanted by the FBI lol
I know, right. Now everyone is into self (nothing wrong with it). Also, by the time most people work a full-time job, fight traffic for two hours to get home the last thing anyone wants to do is have to put on clothes and entertain. Back then phones were unheard of or limited access. By the time they wrote a letter and it arrived they would be there already 😂😂😂 I have one girlfriend who does this (not often) she lives on the West coast, so she gets a pass. I thinks it’s just considerate to call PRIOR to deciding to visit anyone. I was taught that you ALWAYS call before inviting yourself to anyone’s home.
My mom is the ONLY person who can get a pass by popping up at my house and even she has enough respect to contact me before coming over. Everyone else I watch through the blinds as they stand at my door 🤷🏾♀️
I always thought pop ups were kinda rude, especially if your not having the greatest day and a surprise visitor decides to shows up. If I want company I'll simply let you know. Otherwise let me enjoy the peace in my home.
Just to completely ruin the mood: My dad would pop up at my place. I used to hate it, and wanted him to call first, even though I missed him and wanted to see him (he lived far away) and I’d always let him in. I lost him 2 years ago and now I wish he had done it more often.
How did you know I needed this??? I had family JUST POP UP! My cousin's son is touring colleges and there is one he is interested in, in my city. So she, him AND HER HUSBAND decided to just stop by! I like to sit in my living room with the front door open, so there was no "can't open the door". When I tell you I was BIG MAD! So between the 2 1/2 hour drive it takes them to get from her city to mine... she couldn't call and say, "we're in town and thought we would stop by later this afternoon"? That's too much to ask???
Sorry you had to deal with that disrespect! 😢 I had a similar experience where my sister and two nieces asked if they could drop by after they were already on their way home back from (unbeknownst to me) spending the night with one of her friends in a nearby city that's almost 40 minutes away from mine. I was so upset about letting myself be used basically as a pit stop. 😪
LOVE IT!! Especially the Law and Order Theme Song!!!! All of the responses are me. NOBODY can pop up. If you call me and I don't answer my phone, I'm not answering my door. Since my family is already aware they can't just pop up, if they did, I know it's an emergency.
I was knocked out sleeping on a Saturday morning after a long work day the day before. A local politician was campaigning and banged on my door like the mf police. I got up and CURSED them tf out. They kept apologizing as they backed away from my door, down the stairs, and into the street.😂
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My son has this friend who lives down the street. He doesn't want to eat or drink anything, has mild anxiety, and only stays for about 30 min. His mom & me text each other if the boys are walking down to our house or his house. He can pop up because I know he won't stay long & the kids feel grown because they can walk down the street with out us moms :-) anyone who is coming for a short time is always welcome
Hey EJ, the funny thing about that question is that the 1 person who you wouldn't mind popping up is prolly the 1 person who actually would not lol. That's one of the reasons why we love them, cuz they're respectful of our boundaries 😊
i live in a very rural area in PR where all of the neighbors know and look out for each other. if a neighbor sees my car and wants to communicate with me theyll beep and or yell until i come outside to see what they want. i used to try to ignore them but now i know better than to resist. i had to excuse myself from a work conference call 2 weeks ago because Papo remembered i said i wanted sheep and he was leaning on the horn because he wanted to give me the number to someone who was selling some.
I had a friend who came by when she knew I was watching the series finale of my fav show. She said she was bringing something by and she knew I don't answer the door when I'm watching my show. I made her stand outside on the porch for the last 15 minutes of the show.
there's no way Ima turn up somewhere unannounced . No ma'am. By the same way, don't do that to me. I've actually outlived anybody that would have turned up at my house and the rest are so toxic I had to let them go awhile back , so Im bulletproof on that scenario I feel like manners and common sense are a 20th Century concept. I love your videos, always spot on , blessings.
I remember visiting my grandparents as a kid & 1 of my aunt's lived around the corner so a group of cousins walked over there. She met us at the door & asked where we were going. As a kid I was SOOOO offended. But baby at this big grown age I will sit at look at you looking at me before I open that door. You better call first!
My daughter, who calls constantly, + hubby popped up, when I was on the stool with my tatas out. April Fools? So only MY SON can pop up. And I LOVED your rendition of Deniece Wms! I heard you!
I just had this conversation with a friend. Don't pop up at my house cause im not popping up at urs. I don't even pop up at my mammas house. U pop up on me im gonna be watching you walk back to ur car on my doorbell cam. 😂
I love when people pop up. That’s how I grew up. You don’t need an invitation. You just go over their house. I’m an empty nester and anyone can come over. It’s never been a problem for me☺️ I’m from NC and that’s just southern hospitality☺️
Same. That just means your circle is full of people that add value. My mom was the master of throwing together a dip and a pitcher of some type of cocktail.
Ice cream puff was raised to not have boundaries, to never put her feelings and what she needed and wanted above everybody else. But you keep doing your girl while the rest of us are free in our homes to do what we want when we want and how we want!
@@carlabossie1444 That is not what that means. Choosing to set healthy boundaries that work for you, in any capacity, is not detrimental to valuable relationships. I know people on all sides of this situation and we all love each other, but there are different things we do because we respect one another. Nothing wrong with being someone who enjoys company at any time and likes hosting but nothing wrong with preferring to keep your house for yourself and limit other's time there. Do what's best for you. No need to shame others by saying their circles don't have value. Take that negativity elsewhere.
My grandmother told us about how she popped up at my aunts. My aunt came to the door looked out her window seen her mother and went back and sat down as if nothing happened... my grandmother learned a valuable lesson that day!
My entire family and circle of friends know that they will be left on "seen and heard at the door knocking" if you pop up. You can tell me you're coming, but without my confirmation, you'll be outside. Rain, sleet, snow, or a beautiful sunny day. My home is my place of peace, and it "be still" in here.
I feel you Ej. Well just my mom, adult children, and Nana baby can, but even they are considerate enough to give me a heads up before visiting. However, an old acquaintance of mine who has a habit of resurfacing in my life every few years, showed up unannounced with her new partner. She literally texted me 20 mins before I even knew she was in town. I was not having it and promptly escorted them out of my garage and back to their car. One week later, I called her and ended our so-called friendship and decided to focus on my new journey of self-discovery and self-love. Good riddance!
Me and my hairstylist was just having a similar conversation. She said that’s how she grew up. People could just show up whenever. They don’t need to call 📱. She said it’s more fun 🤩 like that. Lol 😆
Gdeve.Hi @Renee M., 😲I was wonder'n if I was the Only 1 with family that I could Pop up & in on..🙂Espec. family G'parents, Parents born back South. It use to be like that wen All my older Fam. members were Liv'n. The older generation ❤️❤️wen Fam. came to town, Pop'd up & in. 👍🏾 Hwever, times have chang'd for most or some folks. Whether Fam. is from the deep South or Not. Most my Fam. that are Liv'n. We live in different States since older. So now dayz, since I'm not on Social media: Fbk, IG, etc. I don't know wats up with my Fam.
I have that ONE cousin that randomly “pops up” at my aunts house. THEN she’s like “oh by the way, I’m spending the night.” The looks on my auntie and her kid’s faces is meme worthy!🤣🤣🤣
I have a rottweiler that is friendly to anyone that is NOT afraid of him. My entire extended family seems to be afraid of him. So no one pops up because they know I'm not putting him out back. 🤭🤭
I had an ex and a sibling pop up before and they both weren't alone. The first time, I was still living at my mom's so I just grit my teeth and dealt. The second time, my sibling KNEW they were wrong and kept saying it. I didn't offer them nor their guest anything; sat right there on my chair in my bonnet, stayed very quiet, and blinked rapidly. They won't do it again so I'm not worried lol.
I feel like the only people that don’t mind in my experience is older people. My Big Mama and her sisters love when family pops up especially the out of town ones. 😂 plus I’m gonna pop up if they like it or not they always got a cake or pie ready on the counter
I’m good with my mom popping up. She only does when she’s on my side of town to see her granddaughter for a few. If I’m not home she moves on. And she isn’t judge mental or care if I’m wearing one of my husband’s t shirts as a dress and haven’t showered yet
I ALWAYS make it clear if I’m gonna be or in the neighborhood that I might stop by, but that’s all about the mood I’m in, because I don’t wanna step into any negativity once I do….. it doesn’t matter who I’m visiting
If you pop up at my house you will catch me w/o a bra 100% of the time, there is also a 50-75% chance I won't be wearing any pants. 🤭 Honestly, I don't want anybody popping up at my house unless they're about to give me some money.
