As a Funeral Director and an Embalmer, I've seen another side to domestic violence. I've seen what happens when the victim takes their abuser back. I've seen the aftermath, and it's horrible. Both men and women can be victims.
And if he kills her that night, who will be blamed? And after they explain to him, he's still arguing and drunk. It's a mandatory arrest regardless in the US with adult protective services called.
Alas the police don't have the time or resources to do that anymore, plus she may have lived outside of his beat or patrol area (they were heading for the train station). We don't actually know that police didn't attend her address later... they may well have. The proper and safer way to deal with that would have been to arrest him and call her an ambulance or take her to A&E for the head injury she complained of.
@@Ksknight100 Eh?! We don’t have the resources for the police to do a check up (according to you..), but we have the resources to call an ambulance to sit a disabled woman in A&E for hours unattended, potentially in her own mess (because I don’t know her toileting habits) because we don’t have enough staff to take care of her needs, making her feel completely undignified & distressed in the process… makes total sense to me! Police would’ve assessed head injury, headache was likely from that ridiculously loud music & too much grog. Who *really* should’ve been called was social services, but unfortunately she’d be waiting until Christmas 3030 for someone to help her, since it’s one of the most underfunded sectors, & that’s precisely why so many vulnerable & disabled people end up in volatile relationships; because they’d rather have help & company from a scum bag, than be left alone with nothing.
Those coppers are acting like they did a great job.... I actually think that is a crappy bit of policework. IF he is her "carer", then why is he punching her in the head? The law on DV is now no longer dependent on the victim giving police a statement or making the allegation; the police can arrest and proceed as long as there are other witnesses, which there were. As soon as he was released they started arguing again. They are both intoxicated. This is not a good mixture and I guarantee it didn't end peacefully that evening. Those officers may well not have been called back to them as they were going on a train and would then be another copper's problem; so I'm sure it never ended there. The police officers released a drunk (violent) male into the custody of his disabled, drunk female partner of whom he is also the carer of. Can either of those officers be 100% satisfied that they did the right thing there? It seems like they shifted their duty of care onto the victim and the aggressive drunk who assaulted her. NOT a good show lads, not at all.
They didn't claim to have done a good job. In fact, he explicitly said he wasn't comfortable with either approach they could've taken. If what she said was true, then he is her sole carer. As she said herself, she cant even dress herself without aid... so what about going to the toilet or cooking for herself? It's an impossible situation, they're damned if they do and damned if they don't.
The officers surely after dearesting him should not have the authority to make him go care for her yes he may be her full time carer if he doesn’t want to you have got to appreciate that he can go and quit I believe the police where abusing there power and over reacting
