Don't regret your decision. Your ex husband was a cheater. If u had stayed, your life would be just miserable and he would never stopped cheating on you. Jus focus on yourself and take it slow. One day you'll meet someone good. Don't go thru men after men bc u made yourself trashy and no man wants you.
Lessons learned. Love yourself and don’t let yourself be used by men for gratification. Respect yourself and your body. Peb ua neeg nyob yog ua kom sib khib ces kawg neej puas xwb os tus vivncaus. Thaum yus tus txiv ntxeev siab rau yus lawm yeej mob siab heev.
It’s really unfortunate, unfair, and sad how women are treated in society. It’s ok for the husband to cheat and she should just sit on the sidelines and allow it to happen. But the moment she does it, it’s leave or stay? I feel sorry for this niam tsev. May you find true love one day and if not, may you learn to be content and find love in other things. Best wishes ♥️
You should change your perspective when viewing yourself. You may be beautiful on the outside and people may be attracted to you but if you don't love yourself first, then don't expect others to love you. You married your husband when you were young. You loved him. You loved your children. Now you loved men that don't love you. Start living for yourself. Learn to meditate. Exercise. Breathe. Travel. Read books. Write a book. Find Nirvana. Learn yoga. Learn to how be happy within yourself. Stop looking for "love"... There is no true love within the same circle of people you hang out with.. don't you get tire of playing the same game? Eating the same food? Walking the same route? Try to live outside of your comfort zone. Try challenging YOU!
You will live a hard life if you seek approval or self-worth from others. Focus on yourself and your goals and stop letting ppl into your life to put you down.
@@dretsab959 Ppl are entitled to their own opinions, good or bad. If you based your self-worth on what ppl think of you then you will never have a clear direction/goal to reach. This is because, in reality, you will never live up the anyone's expectation of you. So, be kind to yourself and live life and value yourself the way you want it.
@@ntxoovntxoo8413 good answer, but in this case she cheat to get back at her husband or is she just a cheater herself..she made a mistake by revenge and now she just telling it from her experience.. but you are right about value and taking care of yourself first..hey maybe we can grab a cup of coffee one day..lol
@@dretsab959 She is regretting a past she cant change. To move forward she needs to let the past go and maybe this is her way of letting it go. Thanks for the invite but, I don't do coffee. :)
Sisters, Hmong women of the world. Please love yourself. Have confidence. You are more worthy than you think. Stop looking for the right guy. The right one will come along when you are not looking. Stop trying to marry these men that are passing by. They are not worthy of you and your love. Marry yourself first. For no one loves you more than you.
Nyob teb chaw no ces tsis muaj txiv lo yus nyob tau yus lawm os. Tsis need txiv neej hmoob lawm. Nrauj tag ces koj twb dim txoj kev lwm siab nyuaj siab.
Don’t regret your decision. Live your life with meaning. Stop looking for a man to share your life with. It is when you stop looking that he will find you. Involve yourself with activities that will enrich your life. Work hard, strive to better your career, take classes to learn new things, join organizations that serves a purpose in your life and sign up for safe travels and explore the world, plan activities with your children. There are so much you can do. Don’t stop living and bother your day day with finding a man. A man is like accessory, it adds to what you already have, but if you don’t have it, it’s okay too. A man does not define you so live with a purpose and do not settle for less.
To the owner of this story, thank you for sharing your lesson. Stories like this may be bad but it supposed to be a form of deterrence for those women who think that the divorce life is about fun and games. She is right for leaving her cheating ex, but stupid for regretting it.
Niam ntsuab teev koj so es mus pw kom txaus thiab os kuv saib koj hais neej neeg mas Koj qhov muag tawv2 hos koj twb yuav tsaug zog nas ua ntsuas khwv hwv thiab os hajhajhajhaj
Focus on yourself first and when the time is right try dating outside the Hmong race. I have a lot of friends who married White guys and their husband really love, respect, & cherish them. 😀
Dollii Lov3 You are right about that. Meka husband is more loving, caring and respectful to you. They treat you better and cherish your relationship better. And let’s face it, they are better provider, better husband and better life partner. I know, I have one.
Me niam laus aws .... hlub koj tus kheej ua ntej txiv neej thiaj saib koj muaj nqes. You have to respect your self and value your worth. Don’t regret your past.
Sister, don't think that you are and were born to be worthless because it is not your fault for being a daughter/girl, it is the men and Hmoob societies doing and mind wash us, females to think that we are worthless. We are not worthless because we are the ones that worked the hardest and doing everything around the house and in the marriage. Don't feel bad, you are not going to die without a stupid and dumb husband, sister. You are strong and worthy on this Earth. You and other women must love, respect and put yourself first!!!
Hmong women just need to expand their horizon! This is AMERICA! Many fishes in the sea. There are white, black, orange, green, red, all sorts of colors of the rainbow. You just gotta keep fishing!
Yus tus txiv twb hloov siab muaj lwm tus es cas yus tseem vam rau lwm tus txiv neej sab nrauv yuav tsum hlub yus tus kheej xwb os txawm nrauj lawm Los txob ntshaw2 txiv neej es yus nyob yus hlub yus tus kheej xwb yog yus yog neeg zoo lawm vajtswv yeej xa tus zoo txiv rau yus
Tsis txhob tu siab os Koj tus txiv yeej tsis hlub Koj thiab. Lawv txhob txwm ua kom Koj khib thiab khuv xim xwb os. Maj mam nhriav yeej yuav muaj tus zoo.
Leej twg ua poj nrauj los yeej yog lub neej mus tsis taus lawm .thiaj nrauj vwb os viv ncaus aw .. tsis muaj ib tug es yuav pom Luag nrauj es yus 'nrauj thiab no . . tsis yog li ntawd os ..
Every decision has consequences. Live with the decision you made and focus on what you want to gain. Stop chasing after men, if you focus on yourself and better yourself you will find quality men who will meet your need. Stop living in a life full of regrets and stop crying over spilled milk. Let it be a lesson learned and move on with your life.
@@MissPeachie Yes indeed. I don't understand some Hmong sister, running away from a bad relationship to another bad relationship than having regrets. There are so many opportunities here so I don't want to hear any excuses. Her ex-husband is probably really proud he got rid of her. Stop making poor choices and grow up. Lastly my kids are my life, I would fight to the death to keep them with me.
Zoo heev li thaum peb nyob nplog teb peb pom dev sib txeeb pob txha tsis muaj nqaij lo pob txha li lawm los dev yeej tseem sib tog kawg lo. Hnub no peb pom nej cov poj nrauj yawg nrauj sib txeeb cov pog qab choj yawg qab choj cav zoo saib kawg, tab sis kuj nrog nej tu siab tias dev tsis muaj nqaij noj, nej cov tib neeg los kuj tsis muaj zoo poj niam thiab zoo txiv yuav lawm.
Twb pauj tau kev chim lawm ces nyob twj ywm xwb es tseem khiav abtsi os tus viv ncaus. Menyuam loj tag yus twb pib laus lawm ces nyob twj ywm xwb yog koj twb pauj tau txojkev chim lawm na
All yall hmong women stop thinking about divorcing your good husbands. One day you'll regret like this woman. Remember everyone doesn't have the same path.
1 tsoom me viv ncaus aw!!! 3 yeej ua tau li cov txiv neej ua thiab os, tab sis 3 txhob ua os mog, vim 3 tseem yog hmoob os, lwm tiam 3 yug ua lwm haiv neeg es 3 mam ua os.
It is not okay for your husband to cheat. Good for you for divorcing him. It is your poor taste in men. You don't need a husband. Remember to Love and respect yourself.
Do not regret your hmoob wife lifestyle. Txhob ntsaw ua ib tug niam tsev hmoob vim tau cov og es tseem tsis tau hloov txoj kev teev tiam vaj huam tsis sib luag. Zoo saib xwb tsis muaj kev yeej pheej.
Tos lawv tia haiv neeg muaj haiv neeg tsim...los yeej muaj tseeb nawb. Koj tus txiv tau thov koj lawm ces koj lub neej tom ntej yeej tsi zoo Ho yog tus txiv tsim22 tus niam nw mus nw lub neej ysi muaj hnub tau zoo thiab.
Cov poj niam khiav tso me nyuam rau leej txi ces yeej phem tiag2 thiab tsuas yog ntshaw ua neej nrog tog nrav xwb vim thaum ua hluas noj tsis tau txaus tej me nyuam los thiaj muab tso tau tseg siab nyoos tiag2 poj niam na
Of course it's those group of guys who loves going out partying womanizing. If you're man/spouse keeps hanging out with these group of people most likely to cheat. Focus on what you do have and what you can control. Learn to like yourself. Niam tsev no NEED to try to get your ex back. Plan on moving forward.
Phooj ywg aw kev hlub saum txaj saum chaw es puas noj tau na yom yuav ua kom lub neej nchuav tag koj xav li cas lawm xwb yog xav qhov ko xwb es yuav txog qhov twg os pom xeeb ua npaum ko mas mus yuav txiv los ua neej xeem koj tus txiv .mas nws thiaj nco koj pob
Mus ua poj nrauj liam li koj es tseem yuav mus ua2 dab tsi thiab os pam xeeb mus ua mas yuav tsum ua ib tug neeg khov kho muaj laj kam khov kho tsis yog niaj hnub deev hluas nraug li koj xwb os.
3 cov me poj niam hmoob cas yus tus txiv twb cheated yus es yog yus tawm lawm tau lub zoo neej mam coj tuaj nthuav hos yog yus mus g tau zoo neej txhob muab tuaj qhia kom 1 tsoom txiv neej muaj2 plus mas lod thiab lawv haj yam muaj siab tsim 3 1 tsoom poj niam continuely ov
Ib tug poj niam twg nyob hauv world no coj tus cwj pwm kev ua hluas li ib tug txiv neej ces nws yeej tsis lam tau ib tug zoo txiv thiab lub zoo neej ua ib zaug hlo li.
Feem coob mas nej hais yog nej lus mog. Nej in txhia mas cem tus muam no heev thiab pab nws kawg. Kuv xav pom koj nej ua kom tau ib qho kom kuv qhuas kiag. Ntees ploj ntees tuag nej take care tshoob nej take care. Thanks. Vim nej tsis fwm peb nas.
Sim tseem tshuav thiab twb tsis xav yuav txiv lawm thiaj muab yus niag rauj pov tseg tsis txhob nriav txiv yuav lawm kav tsij nriav qau yuav xwb tshuav yog rab qau ntawv kam them nyiaj ces nrab lo rau xwb tuag ces qa nyiaj yus mus yus nws mus nws tab si tsoob tsawg tes tshuav yog them nyiaj tsawg zaum xwb kav tsij ua li no xwb nej thiaj tau noj tau haus mog cov mi poj rauj es txhob coj nej lub neej liam tuaj tham zaum youtube lawm tham tsis tham los yeej pab tsis tau nej mog
Know your worth and love yourself. You don’t need a man to be respected. Work on yourself. You made the right decision by leaving your unfaithful husband.
Poj nrauj pes tsis tau tias nej yog neeg phem. Tabsis thaum nej tsis hlub nej tus kheej, tsis muaj leej twg yuav hlub nej mog. Kaw nej ob txhais ceg thiab lub hnab nyiaj tej zaum tseem yuav muaj neeg yuav nej thiab. Qhib nej lub cev pub rau txhua tus ces zoo li ntsaub so taw lawm xwb tiag.
Tus sister koj hais tau tseeb tiag2 yom Tsi zais hlo li, cov poj nrauj Lam tias Tsi xav yuav txiv xwb yeej nrhiav heev li os vim tus zoo yog luag tus lawm xwb ne
Tsoom viv ncaus hmoob, ua phem pauj phem xwb ces yeej tsis tau koob hmoov li os mog. Ua zoo pauj phem mas lub neej thiaj muaj chaw xaus rau qhov zoo nawb.
Sim neej no kuv poj Niam li nej mas kuv sau tuag cov poj rauj los nyob ua 1 tsev es hu cov txiv neej nyiam nyiam tsoob pim koj tuaj tsoob pim yuav nyiaj xwb es yus tau nyiaj tau qau nyob dawb noj nyob dawb haus mus vavation txhua qhov chaw xwb cas ruam ua luaj os cov poj rauj ruam qhov yuav tau noj tsis ua hos ua qhov kev nyuam siab xwb ruam tiag tiag thiaj ua poj rauj os
Yes, that's truly why you couldn't get a good guy to marry you because you've passed many guys. Nowadays, you just be with someone who is the good man as friend lover and 4ever!.
Never tried to cheat for revenge. You should've divorced him first before cheating and focus on yourself then love will find you but you do it the wrong way. Luag yuav poj nrauj los yeej yuav cov zoo thiab xwb hos, koj twb deev hluas nraug lawm ma nrauj ces koj twb yog neeg liam lawm es leej twg tseem yuav nawb.
Thank u for sharing your story and telling it like it is. You have courage. Some words of advice to u my Hmong sister: love your self and make peace with yourself. You cannot get back what you have lose. A man is not the answer and make new friends who will empower u in a positive way. When I hear your story, i hear desperation and regrets. Please find things that will heal you and make you a better person.
Ua phem ua qia tiag tsam ntuj kawg ces yuav raug txim os lawv aws kuv xav mas nyob twj ywm yus tus kheej xwb. Txhob ua li kos tsam tau mob nawb txawm tsi tau mob los yuav tsi zoo rau yus tus kheej os.
Dear my hmong sisters please love and respect yourself. First of all you don’t need a husband to define you, a husband only compliment you. Be your own woman, be independent and stop stop chasing your illusion of what a man/husband should be. Live your life with respect/dignity and the right person will come along. Be a 2020 woman and not your mother’s 1975 daughter. Good luck
Koj ua poj nrauj koj siab tsi tawv txau koj ua poj nrauj ua dab g os viv ncau. Thiab koj g ntse koj thiaj li dhau ntau tu txiv neej ua siv koj xwb os. Koj yuav tsum hlub koj ua ntej luag tus sab nrauv thiaj yuav saib tau koj ho. You are too needy. That's why you are trash to men.
Xiam hlwb, koj pheem ua thaj tseem khib2 nws es nws thiaj muaj2 plhu rau koj xwb los mas, yog koj xav kom koj tus ex husband khuv xim koj mas koj yuav tsum ua neej kom zoo tshaj plaws mas thiaj li ob, es tsis txhob pheej xav txog txiv neej xwb
