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The part where you said you are still a kid stuck in an adult's body really hit close to home. I turned 18 just about three months ago and I've been told by therapists that I've always wanted to be a kid both physically and mentally, even when I was still 14! I guess growing up comes with a bundle of responsibilities and changes people are simply not willing to accept. I hope you can at least get better :) Btw the food looked absolutely delicious! Keep up the good work, Eri! And Merry Christmas, everyone!! 🎅
Oh man, I’ve been a silent viewer of yours, enjoying bits of your content and listening to your eating sounds because your videos are truly pleasant but hell, this is the first time I’ve actually followed a whole video and I wanna thank you for opening up like that. Not only you’ve made me learn about secondary narcissism, but I’m beyond impressed of how you’re able to open up to your subscribers that way and how it can actually help us. I wish you so many good things Eri, being able to go to a therapist and accepting the things you’re learning and knowing yourself is not simple yet you show me that it’s possible ♥️
I have to say I like your comment.one because a lot of people would have something rude to say about what she feels and thinks..we need more people like you.even though most of her comments are good but some people are just nasty with the way they talk to people.and I think she's able to open up about how she feels because of people like you that make her feel it's ok to
I understand your fears, but just want to say that creating a family is not a role/responsibility we must assume. Society should not look down on a woman or make her feel that she is less of a woman for not wanting a child, whatever her reason may be. One can be a mother without having to actually bear a child. You're already a mom to your cat! If that makes you happy and complete, that's all that matters.
Originally, I wanted to go to Italy mainly because of the food but because of you, Greece is now on top of my list. The foods you feature especially the desserts, oh my gooosh! It never fails to make me drool every single time I watch your videos. Love from the Philippines ♡
I'm from Greece and you should visit us in summer. It's a beautiful country , search pictures on the internet. And the food here girl, i used to be one step before obesity when I was a kid lmao 🤣
@@EvaggeliaZach yeah she went with her family they had different kind of foods they sent us a video in whatsaap Edit: I typed whatsapo in place if whatsapp
Thank you for sharing your journey, I've been in therapy for 4 years and reading this about you made me so happy to know you're unlocking new situations and opportunities for yourself in life. We love you Eri❤
@@values1111 I wasn’t expecting you to reply but your comment made my day, thank you for hoping that I was well too. It was also nice of you to comment back
I just wonder why we can't enjoy ourselves without it being labeled something?? I always thought it was a good thing to love yourself. I'd much rather love myself than not. I'm the same as you. I love my alone time! If the people around me can't deal with that than maybe they need to keep on walking. That's how I look at it. I'll make time for them when and if I feel like it. We have to remember, we have feelings too. It's all about balance.
Thank you for sharing your story Erin, I relate to it on many levels and I feel very alone at times with this trauma I carry around but knowing I’m not alone definitely helps. Your very brave to let us in on your personal situation. We all have a story to tell and admitting any struggles in life is the first step to recovery. Go you x
You don't necessarily have to leave your happy bubble behind...perhaps learn how to let others in...and yes, becoming a grown up version of yourself is important. A lot of us are just grown up children and learning how to adult sure sucks the life out of everything...but, Eri, don't have kids unless YOU **absolutely** want them. Like there is no need to have a child for any other reason other than you want to have a child. So yes, deal with the fear of having a baby and the root cause, and while I am happy that you are recognizing your own version of femininity, don't let anyone talk you into having a baby until YOU want to have a baby. In today's age there is absolutely NO THING wrong with remaining childless. As it stands it is enough to just learn what makes you happy and how to share that with other people while connecting, but there is no reason to have a kid unless you want them.
I had a client who got addicted to gaming because she loved it, and was missing out on life....but that's all it was, and she still loves her alone time as much as I do. I would love to interview this quack, because off the top of my head thus far, it sounds like he has a problem with women, and is spinning a wild tale to try to make women see womanhood his way rather than just letting us be ourselves. At least a third of women in my sphere of knowledge feel the same way, and he's wrong.
Please darling stay the way you are. You are happy, people spends lot of many to get happyness so... do not change anything if you are okey. Do not follow the society rules or standards.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us 💕 Personally I'm a lot like you but I don't plan on changing since I HATE socializing. I feel comfortable in my own little bubble, social relationships keep me from being myself and ruin my life. Strange when you consider that I grew up in a large family.
It's okay not to change. Sometimes being in our own comfort zone is better than forcing ourself to do something that never makes us happy. Being a kid by heart is not a bad thing.😇
@@Crystal_Sky_ Being a kid by heart is not a bad thing. Being a little childish is good & that's not a problem. You have to understand what is abnormal. Even introverts also don't like to stay always at home. If you think you are doing excess then you have to take a step. I had that too. I was always into my phone & in my own world & it was ruining me cause life is not about just myself. Please consider any abnormal symptoms & take care of it. Maybe it's happening cause you are not confident enough to talk with others & it makes you uncomfortable. Comfort zone isn't always a good thing. I've learned it
@@prottasha9568 No no😅 I think you got the wrong idea, I'm an extrovert by nature,I'm outgoing and outspoken with everyone. The fact I was talking about was "Never letting the kid inside us die"
Χρόνια πολλά Eri, Your potatoes look divine!! Thank you for sharing your story. It's never easy to talk about difficult situations but when we do we shed light for others who may be experiencing the same thing. Thank you for adopting a cat. He/she will be happy now in a loving home. I think "his" name should be Marley 😊
You can call your cat " ah xu "..it prounces"a shu " It means a free spirit that loves to travel the world and enjoy the wind like a willow in the air.. Just like you 🤍
thank you so much for opening up about your therapy sessions. it makes me emotional to see people going further on their personal growth. and you are just amazing to share this with us! thank you
All I'm hearing is that you just need a little help balancing your alone time with the needs of the other people in your life, which really isn't difficult. Given your history, it's actually normal that right now, you're thoroughly enjoying being alone and doing things that make you happy. All that's needed is balance, not some male chauvinist who thinks he needs to teach us all how to grow up. I'm infuriated because over the course of my practice, I had a couple of clients who had been badly damaged by quacks, but decided to trust me; but I spoke to so many more who were so damaged and confused that they were terrified of ever speaking to a therapist again, and all I could do was empathise....and these were highly intelligent, professional women. All women. This quack is just trying to use clients for his own ends, and I sincerely hope that you don't get damaged by him when you're finally becoming happy. Balance is needed, not being told that you just don't want to start a family because you have created some paradise for yourself. Quacks just infuriate me. Has the man never heard of a little thing called postpartum depression, or is he just so stuck in his own utopia of women needing a man to define real womanhood for them that he's hopelessly stupid??
@@MaCome4631 Hello, perhaps you have a fragile masculinity which causes you to feel threatened by empowered females, for which you might consider therapy. I do not intend to sound intrusive. May you have a fulfilling day.
You can keep your happy bubble as a sacred space for your inner girl, you don't have to leave it behind forever! But you can learn to parent yourself and grow up some more! :) I wish you all the best on this journey!! You are not alone! Listen to your inner child not with fear but with openness. Love this child for all she or he has had to defend against. Know that feelings are to be listened to; they are cues and signals that indicate where you are and what you need. Mistakes are a sign of growing; remember, be gentle with yourself. Success is not relative to others. It is a feeling of love and accomplishment for yourself. Recovery is accepting yourself for who you are, no longer waiting for others to define you or approve of you. It is safe to take time to play today. Play fuels your creativity, tickles your Inner Child, and nurtures your soul. May you respond with the vulnerability of your child, but with the strength of your adult. Surround yourself with people who respect and treat you well. In faith one finds the strength to survive times of great fear and sadness.
This video was perfect! I would totally eat all of this! You cook so well! Eri, your therapy session makes absolutely the most sense. I loveeee being alone too so I understand. I understand not wanting to grow up and totally being fine at home doing what we like. You are a smart person and I’m glad you are happy! I hope you have a great weekend and please do a donut or cake video next for New Years!!! Will you stay home New Year’s Eve? I might… see you soon. Love you girl!❤️❄️🎄
My suggestion for the cat’s name: Pluto. 💛 first because even though it’s a Disney character DOG name for a BOY, you said your cat doesn’t feel like a girl anyway so I think all gender and other limits should be off. Second, because it used to be a planet and then it was not, so it goes to show that everyone and everything can change, even Pluto the planet! No limits. ✨🥰
After being subscribed to your channel for over a year now, I find out if I had my caption on I would see you chatting with us?? I had no idea! 🥺😢 you should maybe include that in the description bar because I love your channel and especially now since we get to know you from your captioned chats❤️ I know your subscribers would love to know this too! I’ve been missing out! I’m going to have to go back to the beginning now and binge all of your videos with the caption on 😆
Awee you have adopted a cat ! I’m so happy for you ! I remember when you said once that you would love to adopt a cat but you aren’t responsible enough to have one. I think you should call her nami (she’s one of my fave character of all time alongside sakura and shinobu) I’m also glad you’re trying to « challenge » yourself and get out of your comfort zone. I wish you only the best and merry late Christmas and happy early new year lol.
Oj, there's no such thing as secondary narccism, and yes, I am qualified. You sound like someone who can connect with people, but who also needs a bit of alone time for yourself. So far, quite normal. This "therapist", however, is concerning 😟
It's really nice of you that u share ur personal life with ur viewers that's a good sign..by the way "joy"is a good name to ur cat..keep it up girl 😘😘😘
Damn! Eri, we are so relatable in some ways. I think I need to go to a therapist in the near future. I am a 26 year old woman but I feel like a teenage kid who don't know how to behave confidently like an adult. I feel like i don't know things an adult should know to be treated as one by others with respect. It's been so long since I created my own bubble of happiness that I don't wanna come out of my cocoon and as a result; I'm antisocial, introverted, awkward and someone with very low self confidence. I am happy when I'm on my phone watching vids. I love my bed and too lazy to make an effort to come out of it once I lay down and relax my body on it. I'm a huge foodie and all I think about is food. I don't like going out and mingling with others and making new friends. But I'm never satisfied with myself for this lifestyle I live. I envy others and their achievements but I'm also too lazy to make any move. I have a serious addiction to my phone and bed. I used to be good in studies but now I can't even process what I'm reading and that sucks. I have been told by my godmother that I shouldn't stay alone but that is dangerous for me and hampering my relationships with my loved ones. I have once thought of going to a therapist to help with my bad addiction but I haven't time or money for that. But soon I am getting my own salary (I got a job) and hopefully that help me pay my bills. Thanku for sharing this with us. I am happy that I can relate to someone else regarding the problems I struggle with.
Merry Christmas beautiful. Thank you for sharing your struggles and know youre not alone. 💕Fysallida would be a great name for your cat. (Thats bubble in Greek right ? 🤞) Gender friendly and meaningful for you right now🤷♀️
I'm a keen advocate of doing research into what someone is telling you, and getting a second opinion. If someone wants your money badly enough, they can be quite skilled at telling you what will make you want to keep going back.
This video is four months already and I just want to say I am proud of you and I'm thinking of you as of the moment. You are definitely doing well and I can't help to tear up reading your journey. Continue moving forward and remember to take care of yourself always!
I'm so glad that you finished the chicken! I don't care about potatoes, but I had my eye on that chicken, eating vicariously through mukbang because of my liquids only diet. I love the foods you eat 😋😍
What you said resonated with me. All that stuff about being scared of growing up, feeling like a genderless child, "woman" being a role and not what you are... Aaah, I relate so hard! Also, OMG, a cat? I bet it's really cute!! 😭 Please show us!! 🙏 I hope therapy continues to help you! Love your videos ❤️
We adopted a stray dog thought it was a he and named him Rocky.... but now it turns out he is a she and we are finding it hard to think of him as her 😅...Luv luv luv ur videos...
Thank you for the update! I certainly can relate to being content alone. I too struggle with wanting to leave my comfort happy zone, but want to make meaningful connections with people too. Merry Christmas 💕
There are quite a few women out there who don't want to get pregnant, including me when I was in that age group, we're highly intelligent and mature women, not inner children. Go tell the chief curator of palaces, who refuses to have children, that she just needs therapy to grow up. She likes spending time on her own, as well as I do. This quack is not only off his nut, he is looking for a lifelong client. Aren't these people regulated in Greece??
I name my cat's based on what they look like. I have like almost 10 cats, and I named them each based on how they look like. For example, one of my fav cat has white and black fur. so I named him Oreo. and another cat has a golden fur, so I named her Goldy. I personally love the name "calico" for a cat. idk why I just love it! 💕
I'm glad you're making progress with your therapy, Eri!! Maybe you should name your cat Gratin after the meal? IDK haha just an idea. Hope your holidays are going great!!
I find you very fascinating and I enjoy all your videos. I think you're very brave to share your life with us; bravo! Willy Wonka said to Charlie, "don't forget what happened to the man who suddenly got everything he always wanted. .....He lived happily ever after". You can still be your own best friend, but let others in and then you will have "Everything" - and live happily ever after. So, I suggest "Charlie" for your new kitty's name. It can be a girl or boys name!
Name your cat bubble 🐈💓 The potatoes au gratin looks super yummy 🤤 Btw i do have the same thing as you and I never thought it’s a problem, because why? I’m living in my own world enjoying the things I love so I don’t need no one… but you’re absolutely correct I need to get away from my comfort zone, and just thinking about it, it’s scary as hell 😔 Good luck with your sessions and happy new year to you and your cat 🥰
*Merry christmas ASMeRi!* 🎅 😈 *I hope you have some wonderful days with your family! Your today's gratin looked great, I am already looking forward to your next vid!* 😍
Ngl I was so focused on reading text that I missed all the food and more you said the more it looked like you're describing my whole life 🤣at the end it looked like I just re-watched my whole life again and to make it even more funny 😂I'm 30 too 💀😂
I am so happy that you adopted a cat I know that that is going to add so much to your life the unconditional love of a pet is the best kind of love in my opinion I am so happy for you and your new fur baby. What is the kitty cats name? I have two cats they are siblings they are going to be four years old in April I always had pets but my last pet died in 2016 and I never wanted to go through that pain again but it is so lonely once you’ve had pets and then you don’t anymore so I adopted two baby brothers and the best part of my day is coming home to see their sweet little faces and getting kisses and snuggles with them. Congratulations on your new kitty.
I'm so happy for u girl. And so excited u adopted the kitty. She needed u. And u needed her. She knew u needed companion and a friend. She will be good therapy for u. I have two tabby kitties. And will soon be getting another one. I think u should call your new kitty angel. I love u girl. And your meal looked awesome. I'd love to have recipe for both. I think this is kne of my favorite meals u have done so far. Although I have several favorites.
Χρόνια πολλά και καλά Χριστούγεννα✨ έχεις γίνει το αγαπημένο μου κανάλι. 2 μήνες τώρα έχω τηρήσει την διατροφή μ χάρης εσενα😂 και έχω χάσει 10 κιλά :) keep up the great work ❣️
I was reading your desire to be alone and how your therapist cannot isolate a trauma that caused you to feel that way. I was wondering if it was the lack of experiences or trauma's that have made you feel that way. Perhaps to avoid the inevitable pain that comes with relationships, or just from the world itself. It's easy to be crushed by the insanity that we humans (apparently) require. I too self isolate. So the Covid thing, was no biggie to me.
So Happy you're getting better!!! We have a cat and we named her Reese, like the chocolate haha because our son says she has the same colorings as the chocolate. Have a very Merry Christmas 🎄🎅❤️
Misgendering the cat? 😅 Eri..... ! As a greek girl that watches your videos since you started uploading i'm so proud of you i almost teared up w the huge steps you take. Eri go girl. I may also need information about your great doctor if i ever come to live in Ath. 😅
The gender you're into doesn't define your energy tho... I mean being heterosexual does not mean that you need to have feminine energy, those two are completely different things
Wow i have never heard of secondary narcissism; I'll have to do some research on that. How interesting. Couldn't that just be part of being introverted though? I have an introverted personality and I don't like being around people and I am most happy when I'm alone by myself.
Proud of you dear. Merry Christmas to you. I would love to see your kitty... if only just a pic. As for the name you can name 'him' Victor or Victoria if you decide to accept that he is a she... because he was victorious in getting you to adopt him which is a huge step. All the best dear.
Growing up is sooo dificult, i hate adult life. I cant believe that i said on my school days that i wanted to growing up... nice video, love your channel. you should try "Tortilla de patatas", delicious☺
