pov : life of a oldest child  

As an oldest child who was also an only child for eight years I know how this shig feels

Honestly, this isn't a representation of an oldest child, it's a representation of bad parenting.

Nothing feels worse than getting As all throughout elementary, being exited to tell your parents and them being just as excited, then the reaction slowly fading into ‘well that’s just the expectation’ then the only response you get when you work your ass off in high school to have a 4.0 and they barely blink twice. Then you get another sibling, and the expectation for them is barely Cs because ‘they’re not like you, they’re like I was in high school.’

I am the oldest sibling and I can relate soo much. I also love how you make people understand what problems people around you feel, and what they have to deal with. I will definetly recomend your channel to my friends (even though I have only 1)

This is why the oldest child always hides their pain…

The high expectations one is so relatable especially because I am "smarter" than most people so my parents expect me to do really well even though I am bad at tests

My day has felt bad cause of my younger siblings I needed this thank

As an oldest child I'd like to say that this happens alot and it feels bad tbh it lead me into deep depression! SO ALWAYS KEEP UR HEAD HIGH AND NEVER LET SOMEONE MAKE U FEEL SMALL! ❤❤❤

The grades one especially hurts when your younger sibling(s) get a higher grade and your parents are all proud of them but say "Its ok. Just try harder next time" to u

As the oldest child I'm happy to see finally someone who values the oldest child but Yeah it's pretty accurate we always get blamed for things we didn't do (and the rest is also true

This is so true I’m the oldest of 2 and it gets hard sometimes it’s always so unfair 😭

I just started tearing up bc it’s sad how this is true- I’m a oldest child to three other kids 😔

As an oldest child i relate to this my parents have high expectations on me 😢

Story time: So I’m 11, and my older sister Megan is 19. She’s my everything, and I’m hers. We tell each other everything and have that strong sister bond. One day I was just watching RU-vid in my room and I heard her crying a little bit. I went into her room and I asked if she was okay, and she just pulled me into a hug. It turns out, she found this video and she started telling me how stressful it is being the oldest despite how much she loves me and just started venting her heart out to me, and I let her because I could tell she was hurting. The things she said she can’t relate to are babysitting, high expectations (she’s a really good student), and the blaming. She said she loves being my role model.

I'm the eldest sibling and I need advice. My sister isn't like how she portrayed hers at all. Mine has anger issues and gives me attitude 24/7. I clean, I cook, I take care of, even of my parents. Im burnt out and my patience is thin when im burnt out. She thinks she's older than me when she's 10! I've been trying to teach her to say please, thank you, excuse me, etc since she was little but she just refuses and gives me the stink eye. I tell her she can always come to me for anything I'll always be there for her and love her always but she's just so mean. She's always been mean, since she was born even my mom agrees. I feel like shit rn I was tryna straighten my freaking hair and she was doing that attitude shit again and I told her to watch her mouth and she opened it for soap she didn't think I'd do it. I put 2 squirts of soap at the tip of her mouth so she wouldn't get hurt or anything then I accidentally smacked her with the bottle (not hard at all) cuz she jerked her head in that direction and she started crying. I immediately got her water and told her to spit it out and out of spite she SWALLOWED IT. I don't know if it's me or her but I need to learn something idk. Any moms, older siblings, or even younger siblings with advice? Thanks for reading this far

I can relate to this a lot… Once I was chosen to compete because I got a high score and when I told my mom I was back up because my classmate did better then me she was so confused and questioned, “Someone did better then you?” It didn’t help when my dad heard too. Another was when I was the only one is my grade to get a 100 on a test but instead of congratulating I got, “That’s sad how no one else got a hundred.” Like what about me? I got a hundred? I was the only one with a hundred. And you want to complain how I wasn’t at the top…

this is so true if my younger brother or cousins ever curse or do something wrong i always get the blame. if my younger brother hit someone its because i 'taught him' my dad and mom always give their attention to him and never to me but when i confronted them about it they said that im overreacting and that i should go spend time with them instead of staying in my room all day, and why don't i go to spend time with them its because every time i do i get in trouble for some reason and who's fault is that? my brother i might be dramatic for blaming my brother for everything but once he was born eveyone started hating me for no reason and say that he's a little angel and so kind, once he's around others he acts like a cute innocent child but once he's with me he's the most annoying person in my life. im the most hated person in my family and i always get blamed because im the oldest and i taught everyone how to do this and that (curse, hit people, act inpolite) its just messed up, the other bad things about every older sibling is that they are like a second parent for their younger sibling and take care of themselves the worse part is that the parents start overstressing them and since no one will ever care about them anymore once they get a brother or sister the attention will all go to them the older sibling always do chores and are forced to do them meanwhile the younger siblings never do anything- i don't get it our parents always talk to us about things in their lives they need to fix like im not your therapist they only come to you once they need help nothing else this is fucked up i hate it- the part i most hated about this is that everyone wishes to be the oldest in their family because they will be the favorite etc.. but instead its the complete opposite the you gest will always be the favorite for some damn reason im sick of it the oldes goes through so much more trauma then the other siblings i just dont get it why cant siblings be loved equally?

Finally someone understands being a role model is a lot of pressure to be perfect and you feel like you have to hide your emotions 😢

As an oldest child, I understand it. Something u have to remember, is that u can't do it alone. In middle school, I never hugged, talked to, or spent time with my little sister; bc I was afraid. She used to say she wanted to grow up and be like me, but I was anxious and depressed, and was afraid that she'd have to go through that hell too, if it rubbed off on her. I'm going into hs now, and I spend time with her now. I cry everytime I think about the amazing little person I forgot to watch grow up. I still feel the constant pressure for perfection, but I no longer am depressed. Remember, life is so much better if u choose not to do it alone. Pls don't do what I did. 💚

This is exactly how it is for me it's perfect tysm for making this

The being blamed hits hard.

Y’know, being the youngest, i really want to know what my sister thought and felt when we were at a young age and growing up, although she treated me like shit most the time, she cared for me and i loved those times where she did actually care for me… after i found out she wasn’t leaving for college i bawled my eyes out right in front of her, i was so happy that she wasn’t gonna leave me, we see each other almost regularly now… although she’s probably the reason for my childhood trauma, i still love her.. it’s confusing but i think people with siblings will get it.. ❤

Me as an Oldest child got into trouble for stupid things, high achiever, introvert, craziest, playful, blamed for not having the highest grades and also family expects to be the best of the best, suffered the most when protecting my brother from older guys bullying him, meanwhile my younger (since it’s only me and my brother) doesn’t get blamed, has more time to go out, extrovert, has more friends, parents don’t mind if he has bad grades, less responsibility, makes a lot mess around the house, homebody

As the oldest child I can relate so much… an especially on the being blamed 24/7…

Im the oldest out of my siblings and this is accurate.. this is just my life

Oldest sibling have problems Youngest sibling have problems too Everyone maybe have problems

Can u make one for the youngest List maybe Perents being strick bc they want to "protect you" sence your their last one Getting yelled at constantly and perents letting anger out on you Getting blamed for EVERYRHING Not being able to have as much fun as the older ones with perents Not being able to understand anything as you wernt born yet in the times theyr talking abt/being left out Perents having higher expectations for you to be as sucsesfull as older siblings Perents presurring you to not be a "dissaponintment" like your older siblings Getting spoild but not being able to se perents as much as your older siblings did Getting teamed up on or being hates by older siblings Getting bossed around all the time I would rlly apriciate it if you could to this so more people relise that bwing the youngest isint the best one. ❤❤ Tysm if you acctually do it!!

Yep this is all true along with getting gaslit for having “attitude” when you’ve been helping all day and you just can’t anymore and you end up not having a cheerful tone and it’s considered “snippy” and being told you’re out of control for having strong emotions about everything and not even being able to stand up to your parents.

As an older child myself thank you for doing this now people can feel what we feel

This is so relatable 😢

The “I’m gonna make you proud” hot so hard I’m the youngest child, I have one older brother I want to be just like and I’m crying rn, that quote hit so hard.

Being blamed all the time is so relatable

I feel like the oldest child. All the responsibilities are put on me. But I'm the youngest.

This is kind of accurate. I experienced some of these thing but lest severe. Especially the high expectations, if I get bellow a 90 I’m screwed. I’m the oldest btw. Edit: I also do swim 6 times a week for 1.5 or 2 hours and I get expected to do well in swim while getting good grades and to get into good high schools and being a role model for my two younger sisters.

As a oldest child I can confirm half (none) of this stuff isn't what happens in my family

As someone who is an oldest child,I relate to some of these: 1. High expectations. I had a B+(89.23) and on my birthday my parents said I couldn’t take half of the day off because I had a B in my last period. Then my so called bsf got mad at me bc I didn’t let the whole goddamn class sing happy birthday,because my anxiety she said “wasn’t real because it wasn’t diagnosed by a doctor” even tho I went to therapy. 2. Being blamed. My sister has anger issues. She would start throwing stuff at me for no reason,then start yelling at me making me mad. My parents say:”OMG YOU JUST ALWAYS HAVE TO FIGHT.” When it’s her starting it.

As the oldest child, I find this really relatable, parents just think "Oh yeah! You should have good grades and take care of your younger siblings" but sometimes we are just to over worked and tired but you still have that younger sister to take care of, especially if you have a toxic family, the younger siblings are gonna need you..

It’s so sad because this is so true. 😢

I am oldest and I love my sister but sometimes it’s very annoying😢❤

The first one being the babysitter is so relatable as the 2nd child

Could you do one on being a younger sibling? We also share some pain…

I love how you made one for youngest and oldest.

*sigh* The oldest doesn't get blamed EVER. It's always the youngest, and it's so unfair

I'm Youngest, I Don't know that Being Oldest Child is very Tough, My Sister is always cares about me, I'm feeling very Guilty to her!, I Hurt her so many times 😔, But She Cares for me always!, Thank you My Sis❤

As the oldest child here... I just cooked my family dinner😅

All of her videos are telling whatever u are boy or a girl, oldest or youngest it will always be hard no matter what u are so thats why i love ur videos 😊

im a youngest sister and i feel very bad for my older sister and i want to comfort her

don’t forget we have to do all the chores

Being the role model makes you feel good though

at least the sister cares about the older sibling. I asked my little sister, “how happy would you be if I died right here right now?” her response was “60% happy, 40% sad”

The fact that I’m the youngest but go through all these things except being a role model and babysitting

I'm the middle child and this is me.. I honestly hate it. I'm always told to clean and look after my 7 y/o sister. I've had enough since I am always being pressured. I'm only ten and human too! Treat everybody correctly!!

as a young child,I feel horrible.I love my older brother and my older fav cousin

This is really true im an oldest child exept the babysitting one im still too young to babysit😢

Why is this so true to my life as the eldest 😢 except babysitting a child But being the eldest may not be so fun, but its the best for us. I mostly get blamed by my younger sister and it was the worst thing that happened to me, but i am a very patient person and had to accept my fate 😔

As the oldest child this is completely relatable

I’m the youngest but I ALWAYS get blamed for everything just cuz I’m young

This is the most relatable video ever. I don’t want to say too much but my step mom is really mean to me sometimes but to my younger brother she acts like he is an angel and does nothing wrong when he always cause’s everything bad and I try my best to be my best but apparently it’s not enough for her

That’s why I’m happy as an only child:)

That being blamed thing happens to me and my brother, but he’s the youngest and I’m the 2nd middle child.

Yep babysitter of 8 siblings... Being the role model, helping them in homework,

I don’t get blamed 24/7 bc I take on so much responsibility, I’m more mature than my siblings - even at their age I was more mature than them so my parents know when I’ve done something wrong and when my siblings have.

As a oldest child this is very relatable

As an oldest child this is so accurate and my parents say that my little brother doesn’t lie and I lie 24/7 even thought everything my brother tell my parents is a lie they always blame me for anything he does and they say oh he can’t do that he’s to little

Although I’m the youngest, this is sooo relatable

I’m the youngest child but I can already feel the pain of being the oldest, especially since seeing all of the pain my three older sisters go through, and I sometimes feel like the oldest because I have like, hundreds of cousins and nephews and nieces, but yeah I could feel this but except a little different

Bruh, It's crazy how us oldest children always get the SHORTER end of the stick.

I know how it feels and I'm like a ghost and I'm the middle child

Girl described my whole life😭

"IM GOING TO MAKE YOU PROUD"had me crying cause the eldest daughter always has bad mental health no one wants that I want them ro be happy

The babysitter and role model one are for real, like I had plans for 3 weeks, now gotta babysit. I always tell my sister to not be like me

As the oldest. I can confirm.

I’m the oldest child and the middle child get the most blame most of the time but I do get blamed more than her

I releate to this sm especially the being blamed one time my sister had my mom's phone and she chucked it and smashed it and my mom was right there and watched her do it and She started screaming my name and shouting at me it's not just the oldest aswell it's the middle and youngest they all have problems I'm so happy that you understand it tho ❤❤❤

Honestly this is more of me than my eldest brother and I’m middle child 😢

For me, I always get blamed for everything, Im the youngest, my sister, the oldest, is praised

Yeah iam the oldest daughter and sometimes this happens😢

This is so right I am oldest so I can relate

As the oldest of 6 siblings this is kinda true😭

I’m youngest and most of this happens to me, most people say “oh youngest gets whatever they want cuz they’re the baby” no I get blamed for everything, my parents don’t buy stuff for me they tell me “pay for it urself” but they don’t give me an allowance I have no way to make money and then I say that and they’re like “get a job” when I’m literally 12 and no one in there right mind is gonna hire a 12 yo

Im oldest but haven't experienced this. This is for people who have parents that arent able to create equality between siblings.

Exactly it’s hard if ur youngest or middle child then be grateful ok but with my middle sibling is very noticeable but if u ever come to my house I’ll be on my tablet bc I don’t want drama

I hate being the older sibling- you always have to be careful but no matter what you do they would be dissapointed at you,

As the oldest I relate to this too much, I get ask “ HoW iS It BeInG tHe OlDest” Personally It’s great cause your siblings look up to you but besides that I hate it

As the oldest child I can confirm this is true

ok but the eyeliner 🤌🏻

Being the oldest for me means when mom is angry I bring both of them downstairs to my room so my mom won’t get angry at them.

My aunt tells me that I’m the oldest daughter and responsible and I should look after my siblings which I agree, but sometimes it hurts

This is pretty much the youngest child in the family (me) especially with the being blamed part😢

why is this so relatable

Parents have high expectations on their elder child because they study in higher class so their marks matters a lot.

As the oldest I can only relate to the last one and I hate it

So true and hard to go through

Somehow describing me as a middle child.

I'm the oldest child of two kids and this is 100% true

As the oldest child ik how this feels

I'm not the oldest by age but I relate because my parents want me to be the best 😭

I can relate SO much. The difference is my parents is a lot nicer. But yk oldest children usually mature fast. Like I just told my siblings to do the chores with me but my parents said they’re too young. My mind was like, “What about me? I did the chores almost same date and same age”.

As the oldest child that has very strict parents when I get like a A- my mum would ground me all summer but when my little sister gets a B/C- she only gets grounded for like 1 day and I’m ( not telling my age ) and my sister is 8 ( I was 4 when I got chores) and I have to do all chores/ clean mine/HER rooms so this is very relatable

As an oldest sibling I can confirm this is true