honestly if any woman shames another woman for not having a huge baby bump, its due to jealousy. Jealousy that the woman has a neat bump and so she will snap back into shape more easily. If thedoc says shes ok, and the scans say she's ok, and shes not starving herself ... then the size of someone's bump has nothing to do with anyone else.
I keep having people tell me "I can't wait till you get huge" and "just wait you'll gain like 30lbs" or even "you're not eating enough" I haven't gained any weight (maybe 2lbs of boobs, water weight, and when I eat a bigger meal) and I am almost 5 months pregnant... I don't look pregnant unless I am bloated. I felt bad about it for a while cause I'm wondering if I'll ever look that pregnant. Anyways... people are always saying that I'll be HUGE in a few weeks. Weeks keep passing.... and it isn't happening. Some people just don't show for a while or much at all....
@@olivelasco5587 wow like damn "you really want me to be fat?!" I'm naturally skinny so the only thing that poke out is my bump. I didn't really start showing until 6months. I hear them comments all the time.( You're too small or You're too big! Are you feeding the baby!?") It's jealously because they gain so much weight during their time. It made me started having anxiety about my baby being too small. But she's prefect for my body.💕
The shaming directly comes from people who are jealous of the small size of the baby bump, and rarely from people who are actually concerned. This is the truth, no one can convince me otherwise!
Pregnancy is long and uncomfortable, who wouldn't want a smaller baby bump? Your body goes back to normal in no time, and you're not left with stubborn extra skin. A lot of people would "give a shit" about that.
I can agree on some level because close friends and strangers are happy for me when I tell them I'm 6 months pregnant. I'm a size 2 and have only gained 4 lbs but my baby is healthy at a normal weight. As for ppl who lost their bodies after pregnancy, I always get the "you're risking the health of your baby for your body routine." Please. After doctors telling me AND the father that neither of us could have kids, my weight was the least of either of our concerns.
I was the same, when I got pregnant I was size 4 and when I gave birth, I was still a size 4. I held my jeans together with just a rubber band, and people try to shame me cause I didn't gain but 10 pounds my entire pregnancy. My baby was healthy, full term.
Bailey That's not necessarily true. A lot of woman's pants are not really relative to height so if it overlapped her belly a bit then she is a size 4, it's just that she needed the rubberband once it passed her hips. Plus if she went from a size 4 to a 6 then the pants would be baggy even with a belt of she only needed a rubberband.
She was only at 22 weeks!!! I wasn’t very big at 22 weeks with either of my children! Anyone shaming clearly has never been pregnant or has huge insecurities with their own body and pregnancy.🙄
@@BernadetteLivingston1992 awe hun, I get it. Especially with your first it can all be pretty scary. Hang in there and don’t forget to talk to your doctor about your fears.
People said some really insensitive stuff. To me while I was pregnant cause I never looked as far along as I was. People were asking me if I had the baby already when I was 6 months. I didn't gain any weight when I was pregnant. I was actually lighter when I gave birth then when I got pregnant. I lost 15 lbs my first trimester, due to hyperemisis gravidarum, and people were hating on me for that too.
Im sorry you had to experience that, both the hate and having hyperemisis gravidarum. My grandmum had that when she was pregnant with my mum, she was in the hospital so much because she lost so much weight. Anyone who gives hate to pregnant women should just take a look at themself. But hey! thank god your baby is alive and healthy, nothing else should matter! just brush the haters off!:D
It’s ridiculous how rude people can be! If you don’t look how they think you should, you’re clearly a bad pregnant woman 🙄. I’m sorry you experienced that.
I have HG too. I'm in my first trimester and I have lost more than 10lbs. I am scared to eat and drink all I do is throw up constantly. My husband is looking forward bro my baby bump showing. But I'm losing weight
perhaps if people stop putting their business on social media, folks would mind their business. everyone one to be an internet "starlet" but no one wants to accept the criticism.
I have a tilted uterus and no endometriosis. At 9 months I looked like I was 6 months pregnant and never had an issue with the pregnancy and my baby was perfectly healthy. People just need to mind their own business.
I never had a bump until I was 8 months and I was so cool with that. ....proud mama and hoping it will always be the case for my other babie. No worries about stretch marks for me!
It the same if you're too big while pregnant. I was huge, and everyone kept telling me I was way to big for being only 5 months pregnant. I looked like I was at least 8 months. Everyone's uterus and babies grow differently!!
I have a retroverted (backwards) uterus. However I do not have endometriosis or other gyno issues. It was found during scans for GI stuff, etc. I was told there was nothing to worry about that if I got pregnant to just be sure to let mt ob-gyn right away (i would think that for everyone tho lol)
Jessica Zimmerman hey I have a question about when your on your period do have cramps more towards your back cause all my cramps are towards my back and butt and I read online that can be because my uterus is closer to my back or butt I’m wondering if I’m the same as u I haven’t gotten x rays of my uterus yet but do U have similar issues on your period?
I had a retroverted uterus and absolutely period and labour pains were really mostly in my back. I had natural childbirth without as much as an aspirin but I really appreciate it when someone rubbed my back lol
Im pregnant right now and i understand what pregnant woman are saying with them getting criticized about their baby bump! But hey I dont listen to them people because Im growing a human being and just for that I feel like WONDER WOMAN! So keep criticizing people us girls should unite and RUN THE WORLD together because we have that power of growing a baby in us and no matter how big or small our bump is we should feel proud of what our body does and take for 9 months without no one helping us!! AMEN!
When I was just under 1 month pregnant I had lost weight but since I was really thin, I actually noticed my lower abdomen had changed, and so did my husband, just 2 days before we found we were jn fact expecting. For the first 3 months I gained 200 grams total. And I finally started "showing" by 4 months, and all of a sudden my belly started growing really fast. By the end I looked like a "normal" pregnant woman, but people who hadn't seen me in a while, thought I was mid pregnancy when I was already due. While I had an aunt that at I months pregnant liked booted and she was almost due, and my sister looked like she was due by month 5. All of us with single pregnancies. We're all different ladies and all, pregnancies are unique.
I also have a retroverted uterus. With both of my pregnancies, I did not start showing until around 20-22 weeks. As long as a pregnant woman keeps up with her OB appointments and leads a healthy lifestyle - it really doesn't matter how big or small her bump is. All that matters is a healthy baby and momma.
I think her followers might have just been concerned for her because she’s clearly not as big as what we are used to seeing at 6 months or 7 months. I don’t think it is considered shaming, but just having some people be concerned for her.
Marisa Voccio yeah some people be concerned other people just be plain rude. Everyone's body is different people expect mothers bumps to all look as big at 5 months or 6 months or 7 months
There is nothing to be concerned about. Her size is what a normal doctor would recommend, like they said you should only be gaining 25 to 30lbs not looking like you swollowed a horse.
Nobody should be concerned with anybody they don't know, especially since even peope you may know- doesn't mean you KNOW what their uterus is like. It is shaming, not concern. Saying too big, too small..that's mean, that's shaming. It's also ignorant as fuck!
I was shamed even by nurses when 37 weeks pregnant in the hospital saying I didn’t look pregnant let alone full term. I’m a tiny person to begin with so people expect me to get huge but everyone’s different
I had the same issue as the woman in this story. People who knew I was pregnant started telling me that I did not look pregnant when I reached the 4th, 5th and 6th month. When I was 5 months along I had a rude dude I barely knew tell me " you don't look pregnant, you just look fat" the damn nerve. Then my baby father's uncle would nag at me with concern every time he saw me. He would prescribe certain shakes and foods for me. What these clowns didn't take into consideration was my weight right before I got pregnant. I am 5 foot 7 and weighted 180 when I conceived, which for me explains why I didn't look as expected as the months past. But, by the time I was 7-8-9 months damn I started to show like a mofo. Even strangers started enquiring about my pregnancy during my last trimester.
I’m 5 month and weigh 102 and have a barely their bump and my baby is doing great. Not all women gain much weight. In my 3 pregnancy I only gain about 5 pounds and that’s it. If you eat healthy and do pregnancy workouts, you won’t get so big. It’s common since. You don’t have to eat for two , that’s a lie .
I was a fitness junkie my whole pregnancy and was wearing my street jeans while I drove to deliver. It sickens me how shameful these people are. She did a great job!
I'm not super shinny, and gained less than 15 lbs in 3 of my 5 pregnancies, but I was still big, and people knew I was pregnant...it's those who bounce back to flat bellies after baby making those who don't feel we are doing something wrong, gain too much weight, and after baby get fat shamed, a country singer comes to mind...why must we be so critical, why not be accepting that we are all different!!! Stop shaming and being bullies!!!!
My bump didnt start showing until about 25 weeks I remember when I was about 20 weeks I went to go get something to drink with one of my friends at Starbucks and my friend was talking about how we're so close to seeing the baby and some lad behind me made a comment about how I had to been faking my pregnancy because there is no way I'd be 20 weeks pregnant and not have a bump and that she wished teen age girls would stop lying about being pregnant. Needless to say i left crying.
When I was pregnant, I was flat as a pancake until 28 weeks. I only gained 17lbs during my pregnancy, almost 7lbs of that was the baby too. People just need to keep their rude thoughts to themselves!
Everyone is different. I dealt with same problem with my last baby. I didn't start showing to almost 7 mos..everyone was like you baby is gonna be small, your baby isn't gonna be healthy..he was born 7 lbs 6 oz. Not everyone gets huge.
I’m plus sizes. I’m almost 9 months. This is my first pregnancy. I didn’t start showing till my third trimester. I lost weight in my first two. And I have only gained about 7 pounds so far 5 of which being my baby. Pregnancy affects all women differently.
I was shamed for having a big Belly while pregnant.. They would ask how far i was and shame me because i was to big for so little months. It's horrible were bringing life to the world amd getting bash for it..
People always say I’m all baby and my arms and legs didn’t blow up , my nose didn’t spread , my hips spread a little bit people always point out that I didn’t put on extra fat ... I hate it ! Like it’s my 3rd pregnancy and each one was absolutely different in so many ways . People always say if your bump sits higher it’s this if your nose spreads it’s that ... like can I please just enjoy the beauty growing inside me 🙄🙄
Some people concerned on the website, some of them thought she was lying about being pregnant but she can't help it, its not like we can assign how we look before we're born, we are all born different but special, and that is no reason to shame someone.
I completely agree when she was saying that "oh your too small, your too big, you have stretch marks..." People just need to stop body shaming and let people just be themselves. I'm actually scared to post my first bump picture cause I look bigger than most girls at 4 months. I just know alot of people will say I'm over eating when I haven't even gained that much weight on the scale
It's the same concept as fat and skinny shaming. I wasn't even 3 months before they started telling me that I'm lying about my pregnancy because I'm not showing yet. And note this is my first pregnancy.
I did CrossFit, workouts two-three days a week before I got pregnant and I had abs and was 98lbs. It took four months for me to finally show. But I was so proud of how cute my little bump was and how beautiful my body transformed. Thank god I never god bump shamed... I did get rude comments when I was at the gym working out still at 8months (lifting, running, various CrossFit exercises) but at the end of the day it’s about your baby being healthy and if it is then by all means no one should be judging wether your big or small.
lol I had a retroverted uterus and endometritis and when I was preggers I kept going to doctors and asking why it's not showing.. but dayum when I hit 7 months I blew up like a balloon haha thank goodness it was mostly fluid retention and disappeared when my son arrived. When I was a child women hid pregnancy with special dresses, it's a great thing that women can show it and be proud and happy...
Thank God i saw this. Im 20weeks pregnant with retroverted uterus. So this is why my baby bump is barely showing huh. I got so worried because I keep getting comments from people that my baby bump doesnt look like im 5 months pregnant. my last ultrasound was at 16 weeks and everything was fine. My next appointment will be on my 21 weeks, cant wait! ☺️
I think people forget that every woman is different and evey woman 's vody is different and reacts differently to different thunys meaning that some might gain a lot of weight during pregnancy... some may not.... some have a prom8nent baby bump... some not so much..the body reacts differently to different things....
How about people stop posting all their business online! Some women look like they’re starving and have no baby bump. No one is shaming her....they are concerned that these women aren’t eating enough and don’t really want to gain weight while pregnant. I’m tired of seeing these snap back gimmicks from the social media celebrities knowing that they got lipo or something but act like they’ve been exercising.
That is ridiculous. My aunt and myself are both pregnant, she is about 2 weeks behind myself. I am due in less than 4 weeks. I look like im carrying twins and struggle with everything. My aunt however, barely looks pregnant, more or less just looks like she just put on 5 lbs. She struggles with almost nothing. Im huge now and she is small. Both our babies are healthy right now. Isnt that all that matters? No matter what changes happen to the mother, (weight gain or lack there of, stretch marks, symptoms,etc.) As long as the baby or babies are healthy, then wtf does it matter?! People are just unbelievable....
@@RoyalHoneyRopes Hang in there, I gave birth to a healthy 7lb 4oz baby boy Nov 2nd. My belly didnt pop until about 7 months and I still never looked that big.
I was pregnant with my twins and baby bump was small and people shamed me where I couldn't say I was pregnant with twins. However, I know it was all jelaousy too, all of them are fat .
Wow I’m so happy I came across this comment 😮💨 Im 28 weeks and I don’t even tell people it’s twins , they move like crazy and I eat a lot of nutritional food so as long as I know they’re healthy, I’m happy ! So many people are use to huge bumps & everyone does not carry big 😮💨
Not only in social media. If you have a pregnant neighbour, you're about to experience constant baby bump comparison. "Oh,she has that symptoms, don't you have that?" Or " She's doing everything normal,why can't you?" Or "why aren't you putting on weight,she became healthier." These kind of comments are really stressful. I've a very tiny baby bump eventhough I'm chubby. But my baby is normal.these people only care about the size of baby bump 😑
I gained about 20lbs during my pregnancy. My daughter is now 6. I was so skinny all around except for my belly, it was like a ball attacked to my stomach.. Every pregnancy is different even for the same woman.
This is comforting for me because I'm 5ft7 and naturally not skinny. I'm 4 and half months now and thought would be more obvious but nothing. My hips are bigger however my stomach looks the same lol. I'm so anxious and can't wait for my 20 weeks check up. I haven't even confirmed I'm feeling the baby move or what. But pregnancy is a different journey for every type of woman. I think they're just jealous...!
Am almost 5 months and my tummy is completely flat. I havent gained any pound till now and am just fine with it. no one at my work place knows pregnant. I love everything about my belly. its only the jealous ones who would be negative....
I agree! I started showing real early and people thought I was like 7 months pregnant at 4months pregnant. People thought I was may be overating, but I had only gained 3lbs up to that point and the Dr said everything looked perfect. So, everyone is different and I feel happy for those that dont have to deal with a huge tummy because is hard to bend over, get up from the bed and even shower.
Happened to me! My first pregnancy I gained only 20lbs. My second I gained 35lbs. And right now in my 3rd pregnancy and I actually have gained about 35lbs. as well. It's just hurtful when I'm trying to enjoy my LAST pregnancy miracle when I have people in the background going,"She's just fat. She's not really pregnant." After having 2 miscarriages before this I was hopeful and happy to have this moment happen in earnest.
I’m four months pregnant and I’m still not showing, I haven’t been shamed, my mom said it’s a good thing, that I’ll be able to get back to my normal body shape a lot easier. I feel bad, cause I want to have a typical baby bump, I just look bloated 😟
@@deborahajisafe1400 I actually didn’t start showing till 6 1/2 months! I had a c/section a month early, I had a healthy baby girl. She spent some time in the nicu, and the my c section was amazing! Felt normal a couple weeks later, and didn’t need any pain meds after day two! I got really lucky ♥️🙏
The truth is those people are jealous, they know that those women who have small bumps won’t have to work so hard to get their pre-baby bodies back. Meanwhile, the food obsessed woman use her pregnancy as an excuse to overeat.
This is what happening to me right now I don’t want to meet people cause they make comments oh you don’t look pregnant I have a bump but I m wearing large sizes of clothes and I hate it when people telling me you don’t look pregnant idiots
When my mom was pregnant with me this was before social media was invented people would say mean and nasty things to her! How about those people who said those things to her back than look at me know
I have a normal uterus. But my uterus doesn't tell me I have cramps..but I know I get small cramps that I can't feel since the stuff in it gets in my butt. Yeah.
Tbh the women that have that are lucky.. they don’t have to wear different clothes meaning no extra money on clothes.. plus if she has a gigantic bump it will never truly go away..
People feel that they have to explain their selves to strangers...go ahead and ask questions...I don't have to answer. You should explain too if you are sleeping around or smoking or eating too much shoot. Stay out of my pockets and life is the attitude people need to adopt.
No people shame animals on social media my mom posted a pic of my cat and people kept fat shaming him saying he needed a Diet and needed to be on weight watchers I’m like come on people he is a cat leave him alone
I’m almost 20 weeks and I think I’m still tiny but my baby is measuring ahead but my belly is still small, Stop shaming !!! Us preggo lady’s get insecure enough as it is without having other people that have no idea what their talking about commenting on us
It's so sad taht people are shaming someone because of there baby belly ...when my mom was pregnant with me she showed me pictures and she didnt even have a belly because I was an emergency birth and was 5 pounds so very skinny she was so skinny with me unlike my brother.
