Pride Events as a “shy” Trans Guy | vlog 111 

You look so different with glasses!!! Im so jealous of your shirtlessness lol Oh hooo you dont like flies lol Daan... the Olympic opening was not about anything trans or lgbtq. It was a greek depiction of the original ancient Olympics. Pride = dont be ashamed of being gay. That's what it was all about originally. Trans, bi etc... also, dont be ashamed of who you are. That is pride.

I fully understand you, sometimes I just don’t want being trans and bi to be a big thing, it’s just a part of me not my whole identity. I am more than those parts. I’ll always support other people in the lgbtq+ community but going to prides and being loud about it, are not for me. I would rather live a quiet peaceful life in my little corner 😅

Hey Daan, bedankt voor het benoemen van dit topic! Ik sta er ook zo in als jij :). Fijn om op die manier mij daarin verbonden te voelen. Bedankt voor het maken van al je video's (dat waardeer ik). Blijf vooral zo doorgaan. Groetjes, een mede transman uit NL.

I am so happy to hear your feelings about “pride” events. I have for a long time felt mixed and confused about it, sometimes ashamed of myself! As a cis gay man myself I have never felt comfortable in gay spaces, usually night clubs which I hate anyway! I have been to two prides and also felt uncomfortable there. I am happy to be gay and look on it positively now after many difficult times in the early years. I often wondered if I should have been born female before I eventually realised I was content being in a male body. But I am not “proud” to be gay any more than I am proud of having brown hair or being left-handed. It’s just a part of who I am and actually a very small part compared to everything else! I’m a musician and interested in history and poetry and nature, culture and travelling etc etc so which sex or gender I am attracted to seems such a small and personal thing to be the main thing that someone labels themselves as!! So thank you for saying it out loud on video and helping me feel like I’m not the only one who feels this way! PS: I love Drenthe, one of my best friends is from Assen - now living in Utrecht - and he introduced me to the hunebedden which are so cool! I am very much looking forward to my next time to visit Nederland. Keep up the great work Daan. Best wishes from Engeland - Jim.

I resonate with not being connected to Pride or people within the Queer/LGBTQ+ community. I am a transman and I only like women, I dress masculine/traditional manly way and I pass. People from the Queer community don't welcome me with open arms since I pass as just a straight cis guy and I am not in the mood to tell people I am trans (that is my personal business). I don't fit the transman standard of the Queer community and I don't want to. So I put myself more with the cis heterosexual community, but also not fully feeling like I belong because of my shame for being trans.

I absolutely agree with you. Being trans is part of your identity, but it’s not the only part. I also sometimes feel like the loud ones in the community might make the stigma worse… I just want to disappear in the crowd, so attending Pride is also not something I’d wanna do. As a bisexual man, yeah, but not as a trans guy. Thank you for sharing your thoughts x

Hey Daan, thank you for sharing, its something that sat in the back of my mind as well. Im going to "break the rule" this year and attend my first pride with my friend who is way more comfortable with being vocal and visual about his sexuality. As a not-so-proud trans guy I think it's going to be difficult to blend into the crowd and I'll end up as an observer. Also, I loved the goofiness of this vlog, as well as you being so expressive about Celine Dion 😁

Hi Daan! Just stumbled upon your channel. I stopped attending pride events years ago - partially because of social anxiety - but mostly because if that is all, people are going to see of us once a year, that wouldn't sit right with me. Who wears high heels, wigs and glitter every day - or leather, harness and jockstraps? Not the rainbow school teachers, soldiers, police, intellectuals etc. While I understand the importance of pride in the earlier years, I think there's a point, where we are beginning to self-distance us and pride parades are a part of it and how we represent ourselves. Much

Hi. I think the thing about Pride is not that we think that being any of the letters in LGBTQIA+ is a reason to be proud per se. Being gay, trans, intersex, etc by itself is not an achievement. But the thing is that a big part of the society still sees it as something shameful when it's not and so we respond with "fuck that, we're not ashamed, we're proud to be what we are. Here! Look how proud we are. LOOK!". We see them going right and we go further left to compensate, you know what I mean? And even though I'm also introverted and don't identify necessarily with the "flamboyance" of pride events, I still think, at least for now, that the word Pride (and all the Pride events) are still very much a valid way to force them to face us and get used to us. And will continue to be until the majority of people finally don't see it as something shameful. If they finally get used to those very overstated Pride events and protests, then maybe an introverted, understated trans guy will finally be just another human amongst them.

Looking more masculine, the T is doing it's magic, also your face shape and beard is coming along. I also avoid the pride festival and here it's mainly for gay men in West Hollywood right down the hill from where I live.

Hey Daan, ik herken mezelf helemaal in wat je zegt en kan ook niet trots zijn op het trans zijn. Deels door weinig zelfacceptatie maar ook omdat ik meer ben dan dat en er vooral niet constant geconfronteerd mee wil worden, wat me erg gefrustreerd maakte afgelopen weken. Dat drama rond om het boksen maakte me vooral erg boos en ik denk juist door al die "positieve aandacht" zoals de openingsceremonie de haat alleen maar groeit. Ik kijk graag naar je videos en fijn om herkenning te vinden, ga zo door!

There are dozens of us... Dozens!

I think that some times less is more and opportunities were missed and some others enjoyed the controversy in what created by the actions of some.. Nations and sport should have remained centre stage for many.. The jagged edge is the point for some..Kindness your way ..Lochness Scottish Highlands..

I love your opening, just about the same kind of day here at my place too! Stupid flies! Also, it's good to take some time off for a bit from anything we do, balance with anything we do is a good thing. I never thought to tie my stretch bands to a frame for an upper workout! I know that wasn't the point of showing you working out, but I learned something I can do to help build my muscles up a bit, thank you! I like to say that it was better when being transgender wasn't a public controversial issue. I grew up in the 80's, and the aids epidemic. But even back then, it was more accepted than it is today to be LGBTQ. I didn't know this was going on because I don't watch the Olympics, but looking up some of the opinions and such made my head spin, so much hate! 💔😲😧 Yikes. Also I understand what you're saying about the "group mentality" aspect of this. I am trans-masc, live in a small town, and have a boyfriend. We have to be careful in public, no affection, no clues as to our relationship or anything. It's not fun at all, and we have to do it for our own safety. I wanted to transition to be "stealth" so I would just blend in (in a way, long story behind that choice) This seems like it will make things worse for anyone in the community. Thank you for making this video Daan 🫶 On a lighter note, wearing glasses in the beginning of the video kind of gives off a Clark Kent/Superman vibe 😁👍

I don't feel connected to the LGBTQIA+ community either. Especially right now with all the craziness being thrown around. I hope it all calms down soon. I seriously can't wait until all this is a in the past

I find this conflicting to watch, but interesting hearing your point of view. I would say that you can be proud of you and proud of being trans and bi simultaneously, and also just hold that pride in an internal and introverted way. It's like the metal band (which I like) but some people said why was there that loud band singing about revolution and death and then the spray of blood in the air at the end, people can like music but not like metal music because they see it as too aggressive. There are opposites in all things, LGBT and in this case drag queen, can be a loud expression of creativity, so it's not for everyone (it's the opposition to this that are the problem, not the expression of art itself) As a gay man, it took me years (probably nearly a decade after I can out) that I could eventually say I was proud to be gay. It's all a process and we all live different experiences, the most important thing (which I think you touched on briefly near the end) is just to accept the differences, you don't have to like or understand it all (this can still be comparable to music genres too) Just be kind and open. Do not judge, exclude or ridicule.

jooooooo this rocks

Why don't you ever make video about your sexuality?