Real talk: That was INCREDIBLY brave of you both to have an open conversation like that (some couples require YEARS of couples' therapy to get to that level of openness and vulnerability!), let alone on the spot, LET ALONE x2 for doing it on a public forum! Super brave, super honest, super commendable! Everyone take note: That's couple goals.
@@cheesechurger-tq3nz yeah, sadly those relationships exist. I rather being alone than with someone I can't reach a deep bond and be myself. Also schools should have some kind of education of self awareness to avoid wasting a lifetime with the wrong person, my beautiful mum stayed with my dad for 20 years because until the end she tried to be the best wife and woman, and I would never marry someone like my dad so...
@@cheesechurger-tq3nz and I don't have daddy issues, I love him as a dad but I don't have him as a figure of a husband. He has become a better man after losing her
my golden rule for traveling with another person is: you don't have to do everything together. you can split up and meet again in the evening, share stories & plan the next activities together.
@@saschab.7154 I mean, even when married together, if you don't have time for individual needs, relaxation and freedom you're bound to strangle each other sooner or later...
Most of your conversation does not seem to be about being German or Vietnamese, but about being a normal couple with normal different personalities and taste. And coming from a place of love and compassion, you try and accept each other for who you are, while also getting your individual needs met. Best wishes and blessings on your relationship and travels.
@@rachellai815 Late to the party but eating a big breakfast at the hotel and then hold out until dinner is a really German thing if you're out and about during the day.
I would love to see Uyen and German Boyfriend say what they like about traveling together and what they like about each other in general, too. It's always helpful to reaffirm the good things after you've had time to air legitimate grievances.
I'm German, but while traveling I might be more like Uyen. Good food is one of the important things while traveling. I like to visit like at most one or two sights in one day. And relax the Rest. Perfect vacation for me is alternating one day of doing something planned and the next day just relax.
@@MrRobsn89 If she was doing it because she feels she HAS to put out content to make money, then yes. But the way she made it sound, she actually enjoys doing the videos. It sounds like being creative energizes and rejuvenates her, so that's a totally different story if it's not something tedious or mundane that has to be done.
@@bestbeloved2704 oh stop it. This is how it can feel for women sometimes. I’m sure men have their own things. It’s not sexism, it’s appreciating the differences between the binary, loving eachother for our faults, and choosing to move on as couple and love those drawbacks rather than get annoyed at them. May you, too, find this kind of love one day. ❤
Did they survive? 😭 I cannot imagine having different travel preferences. Like I don’t travel with some of my closest friends because we have such different expectations of what a vacation looks like and it’s too expensive to go to a diff country just to not have a good time.
You guys are so wholesome. This video feels like sitting with friends with a cup of coffee, sharing and listening to each other's frustrations in couple life.
African boyfriend will happily eat once a day. And he'll happily eat the exact same meal over and over. He tried to train me into the same habits on a 5 week trip and discovered that hangery me is not fun!
You’re dating a man and you don’t know where he is specifically from? Africa is literally the second largest continent with the most countries in the entire world and is very diverse…and y’all are still out here talking about it as if it’s some small village with only one ethnicity and race. It’s embarrassing.
I feel you about being ignored. I'm Asian married to an American. Sometimes I feel like I should wear a sign containing my salary so people know that I am more than capable of taking care of myself and I am not with him for financial reasons or visa purposes. I tried to just ignore it when we first got together but when it happens over and over again, it becomes annoying and sad.
@@ArgusStrav I've not been to the US. The sad part is this is mostly from my own countrymen. We get it from other Asian countries too but they're less...idk, obvious or aggressive, I guess.
I agree with Uyen that a big part of travel is the food! :D I also agree that lying around by the pool, relaxing and doing what you enjoy is important when on holiday if that’s what makes you feel content 😊
This. This is what relationships are. This is exactly what every relationship should be. Both able to not just compromise, but to fully understand and accept the things that annoy each other, and to talk about those things openly. You 2 are adorable, I really hope you have enjoyed your holiday ❤
I feel like this was one of the more real videos we’ve seen. You can tell these are genuinely things that get on each others nerves. And that’s okay. So much of social media makes it seem like these are not part of a healthy relationship and to be avoided at all costs, but these are things that are normal and healthy. Obviously they can get out of hand, but you shouldn’t give up on a relationship because of some friction. And you should talk about them. One thing to suggest, it is okay to do things separately. I like traveling and seeing places with other people, but I also like getting out on my own. It gives you some control over your own itinerary and gives you something to talk about later. This is obviously not as possible everywhere, but a good thing to keep in mind.
As an Indonesian I agree with uyen about food. Sorry german fiance. Getting specialty food is my main reason to travel. Oh and also I need specialty snacks in between 😂😂😂😂
There are people who view food as just fuel. And then there are people who enjoy food. I definitely am with Uyen on this one, and I am German. I don’t understand German Boyfriend there.
I agree with them both there. It's nice to get fancy food sometimes, but usually I just want something plain and simple, like a ham and cheese sammich or a gas station hotdog. Yup, I have no class. 😋
Hello guys! I'm from Greece and I like u, but most Uyen, cause I come from a traditional family too! I also enjoy the fact that u, Uyen, respect ur introvert bf, but at the same time u show details of ur relationship, so that we can learn more about how relationships really work! We also learn about life and people in Germany! I wish u the best! 😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Especially to find out that she's not only shooting most of her videos the same day she posts them, but she's also coming up with the concept the same day, too!! 🤯
American here 🇺🇸. Married 48 years to another American who grew up in the same city. We have the same struggles, more personality traits than culture. ❤
Yes! I travel with a sibling and it’s the same story haha. I’m not spontaneous and want to prepare, they want to be spontaneous and do minimal planning.
...AND also, cultures do in fact have "personality traits" themselves, ie tendencies. Americans Tend to be more open than English people (particularly Southern England) Germans, for example, tend to be planful and punctual. And Italians run later than the specified time. It doesn't mean that every single person is because within the one culture people vary
I could see an aspect of it being cultural. In our countries if you make plans. Something can ruin it. Like a storm. Like traffic (not American traffics with "rush hours", just jams at complete random times) not to mention any public transport we have is at the whim of God. Then theres things like businesses and restaurants may close randomly and go on holiday? Basically making hard, definitive plans in our countries has often been impossible. So people are much more go with the flow. If someone turns up three hours late, no fuss no muss, just carry on the plans and theyll turn up when they do. And even if you may be an orderly person. How will you function when everyone arounds you turns up hours apart? Youll gradually become used to it and do it yourself. Of course I dont mean to say personality is irrelevant and no western person is like this. Its just the conditions where you are and where we are breeds different people generally.
My husband is 100% German but his family has been in America for 4 generations. They do Christmas on Christmas Eve. They glorify sausages which they obtain from the family's German butcher. They eat rabbit and strange parts of pigs. They are snooty about American beer. Bread must be crusty and hard. They name their dogs Shotzie.
The German man can never pack too many socks for his sandals. BTW: Speaking from personal experience, you also find these problems in couples from the same culture...
I (german)will travel with my girlfriend (vietnamese) to vietnam tomorrow. We will stay for 3-4 weeks. She already told me, that she is not planning anything and we just go with the flow. I am happy she told me that so i can mentally prepare myself for it. Luckily i like most of the seafood and i got an open tounge for new food. I think what is very important before traveling is to tell the partner what you expect for the trip.
Hahaha! I'm with German BF - planners have a hard time traveling with non-planning, spontaneous folks. I think compromise is important. When I travel with my non-planning friends, I give them options of things to do, but also only plan one 'big' thing per day. Then there are optional things we can do any time if we are feeling up to it. I think it helps strike a balance between those of us with the FOMO who think you can be lazy at home for free whenever and folks who want to go on vacation to relax AND do things. :)
Agreed. For me I just really need to have a place to sleep booked or I get anxious; the exact activities can be researched so we have ideas but decided on later if need be
The hotel part o agree I have to plan these things I need a place to stay and a way there and back! He is right it is left for reason 😅. Other than that I’m pretty chill.
This is a good compromise. I do it too. Like I will come with a travel document of which things you could do there, when they are open and different days you could do them, also I have a weather report. I feel prepared, but my friends can pick and choose daily.
Greetings from Leipzig :) Being married to a Filipina I can absolutely relate to your struggles since they are nearly the same in our relationship. It kinda has to do something with cultural stereotypes. I like to plan after the motto "Be prepared for everything, but expect nothing", so I am able to help myself in any situation. My wife is way more spontanious and likes to live in the moment rather than in advance. "Five minutes before the time is the german puncuality" while being one hour late is stil concidered the filipino "on time" (You kinda get an idea how many mental outbreaks I had on this :D ) She likes to chill on vacation while I like to explore the places we see. She rather slurps cocktails at the beach while I am snorkeling. But if it comes to food I am with Uyen. Food is a fundamental part of the local culture an the one thing to explore which both can enjoy. Nevertheless, it is these opposites that attracted us int the first place, help our relationship to grow and made us the couple we are today. In fact we started doing things the way the other one usually does, like I have become more spontanious in my planing while appreciates to sometimes think things a bit through in advance and so on. You two guys have the most important thing ehich is your honesty towards each other and the ability to comrpomise. You look so happy in your videos and I hope this is not just an illusion. My wife and I love your content since it ha so many parallels to our relationship and brings us so much laughter. Keep going :)
I can confirm this. Being married to a Filipina for 17yrs now and it´s the same issues (food wise in particular) but we deal with them just as you and Uyen with her boyfriend do it. The difference is just that I´m the lazy one and my wife makes too much arrangements and puts too many schedules on my precious vacation time ...😂
Depends. I'm Indonesian but I like snorkeling and going on adventures looking for places that aren't crowded. Some of my friends are like me, while others prefer to what we called "pretty-travel". I always arrive 15 minutes before, but I admit that others are often late. Usually those who are used to coming on time are those who are used to working in large companies so that this carries over to everyday life (at least that's what I observe in my social circle).
I am a filipina married to a german man for 19 years. I guess I am not the typical filipina. I love the outdoors, traveling, discovering and I LOVE to be prepared. I am so prepared that my husband doesn't need to worry about anything. Whenever he tells me while on a trip, "too bad I didn't bring/I forgot...." then I just hand it to him and he's like - "I love you so much!" haha! I am a 100% girls scout. I saved him from pickpocketers, embarassment lol and would-be-accidents because I am THAT prepared. But I am not uptight mind you. I am fun like most filipinas ;-D
5:06 "I think that traveling is mostly about food, so I'm here for eating good food." -- YES, SISTER. I don't know if you have been to Italy yet, but OMG soooo much amazing food there! I married an Italian, not just for the food, but let's just say, such an amazing perk! 😋🍝🍷 (Edited to add, I am 25% German, but this holds true for 100% of my desired meals, haha! And you two are cute as heck!)
Best part of the video was when Uyen said she feared that the German boyfriend will abandon her during the trip 😂😂😂 Anyhow, not all couples are so open about such issues. It's great that you guys have fun talking about the challenges in your relationship. I can feel the love between you😍
Wow, great sharing. Mmmm holidays are amazing. Each are entitled to relax as they wish because you are looking forward to doing what things you like to do.....then when you go, it looks like this video😂 because you're clashing with different 'want to dos' and expectations/reality of the here and now, while on holiday. Good on you both, for giving this idea a go. I hope it helps The situation or makes it easier. You are two people after all who are trying to blend in together on a daily basis.👏🏾👏🏾 good luck! I would be like your German bf, up early, eaten and out before 9am at least. Love to walk too. Maybe each do daily things on your own. Some together. I probably would. ❤😇👍🏾💞💕
I feel like their vacations should be split into parts, like a few days for German Boyfriend to pack the itinerary (although let Uyen have a lunch), then a couple of days for Uyen to film (with perhaps preplanned suggestions from GB), and then sprinkle in an all-inclusive or something similar so that Uyen can sleep in get up slowly and they can both eat their preferred foods, and Uyen can have some time to edit (or film not on location), and then repeat for as many days and locations as are practicable.
Here is my German families vacation formula: (Protect the secret with your towel, k?) Cleaning and packing - just make sure to come back to a clean house. It will ensure your rested self does not panick when coming home. Clean up, check the fridge and change the sheets. Have a space to unload the suit cases out of the way. Arrival day - just orient yourself and unpack what needs unpacking. The next 3 days are a loop, do as often as wanted: Action day - Do something really cool and fun like camel riding, snorking or hikingh up a mountain. You are supposed to be aching a little tomorrow. Sight Seeing day - today you go to a city or a museum. Expect to walk 10k + km today and have your feet aching. Buy souveniers, take photoes and enjoy one or two restaurants. Relax day - lay at the pool and get drunk the whole day. Action day will wake you up enough. Rest yxour feet today. Feel luxorious and if possible book all inclusive for these days. Departure day - start packing in the evening and make sure the last day was a relax day. Depending on where you were to the onion look, so you won't be freezing at arrival. When home, put your suitcases into a corner and relax Unnpack - the next day and do the washing. Don't have the suit cases stand there for days and remind ou of your vacation with "work". Invite friends for drinks and show them the pictures.
My boyfriend and I are both white Americans and he wants to exercise non-stop. Hiking or walking. I want to do things more slowly. I am pickier on food. He wants to eat the cheapest food. We both like exploring though.
You literally described my husband and I to a T. We're both American and he likes to create a detailed itinerary to see everything and I'm just like let's see when we get there LOL. I hope you had a nice time traveling and memorable experiences. Also, I understand Uyen's desire to experience the fresh and lovingly prepared seafood dishes of Asia.
Oh my god I feel this so hard😭 I’m American and traveling for me is like “let’s see EVERYTHING” and for my Japanese bf he wants to relax and do everything slow. I understand the idea but I just feel like I’m wasting money when it’s something I can do at home😫 this is why we do couple’s trips and I still do solo trips sometimes 😂
I'm American and my husband is Japanese and I was gonna say the exact opposite 😂 He has to have everything planned down to the minute while I like to be more spontaneous. Guess it just comes down to personal differences
I'm neither Vietnamese nor German but I'm definitely a mix of both of you when it comes to travelling! I overpack, don't like seafood and would definitely rather book where I'm staying early. But holidays are for relaxing and enjoying lots of yummy food (at least three times a day!). You two are so cute together though, it's really lovely to see.
I'm a spanish woman with a german boyfriend and we have the exact same discussions about what is normal to eat. It's so funny to see someone else having the same problems haha.
Why agrue? Just check out what health professionals say: you need at least 3/5 warm/nutritionals per day to have healthy guts. Eating just bread as your major food source isn't healthy.
Hehe, I want to show this video to my German husband. Your conversation is so relatable and yet the love you have for each other is also very palpable. May we never stop being able to laugh at these "little differences" while doing the work to overcome them together😉❤
I had this with a friend. She was a totally different type to spend her days. So we split up for a lot of days, and we were both very happy. Still doing things together
The issue you guys have in your relationship is veryyyyyyy normal and almost every couple have these small differences which are completely okay as far as you guys love and have respect for eachother which is very important lota of lovee ❤️❤️❤️
Definitely true, but food should be part of the experience. I would get FOMO about great food if I were to travel with somebody who views food as just fuel.
I have FOMO about missing out on a chill time relaxing. I run around and stress trying to do as much as possible at work. If I do that on holiday I feel like I should just have kept working and saved the money. Sometimes stopping and letting the experiences catch up to you is more relaxing than chasing around after something you might not even find.
I read something in a museum once about how there being too many lovely things to see and do actually results in more stress as people tend to view them as a checklist. So trying to adjust and remember you can never do everything and focus on the joy that the things you *do* get to do brings can be really helpful. The museum exhibit was about free time/hobbies but I think it def applies to holidays too!
I love this video for several reasons but the one I wanted to share was how healthy it feels to see another couple that has to compromise (and is willing to do so) on the internet instead of the perfect picture.
You *can* be overprepared. Uyen makes a good point: if you bring extra stuff that you never use, that you had no chance of using, that's inefficient, because you have to pay more for more luggage on the flight and carry it around with you everywhere. That, is being "overprepared."
Team 1 backpack carry for three weeks in Japan. I'm NOT checking luggage. Domestically, I'll FEDEX anything big I really need to the site. I'm not schlepping stuff around like a mule on vacation.
I am a Chinese that got adopted into a Belgian family. We're quite similar to Germans - I prepare very well too! My suitcase is already laying fully prepared on the floor for 2 weeks before I go on holiday. And I will look up reviews of the hotels and restaurants in the area AND pin them on my Google Maps. - I do like sleeping relatively long on vacation. I have 32 paid vacation days per year so I don't feel very guilty about it. If I go with my parents, I do get up early because otherwise they will say: "GET UP EARLY BECAUSE OTHERWISE YOUR DAY IS WAISTED??!!" - I love seafood and squid too! My Dutch boyfriend likes it too. We ate seafood ramen at Wagamama and he got an allergic reaction.. We don't know what actually made his throat swell up a little bit, but he doesn't eat seafood ramen anymore.
This is the first video I have seen the dynamics of your relationship, you guys are such a perfect fit. The commonalities mesh, but your opposite character "flaws" complete the other person.
I'm Dutch and I identify completely with Uyen. I find planning things creates expectations which opens the door for disappointment! I never try to visit all the hot spots when I'm somewhere because then you're just busy completing a tickbox rather than living in the moment and enjoying yourself :) although I do struggle with spending hours trying to find the perfect place to eat as well!! 🙈
This made me smile so much. I can see how differences can lead to fighting but as long as you have respect and empathy for each other, it doesn’t have to be a big deal.
But if you eat too much and like insane three times a day you're too tired for some activities. It's much better to see things but most people just want to eat all the time
Well i travel alot and if i eat 3 times a day in a restaurant you could roll me after some weeks. I normaly go for the must haves, like special food the country is famous for but not 3 times a day. Next to this getting a food poisoning will ruin your trip super fast
@@vommNot necessarily going to a restaurant but more like trying to find something nice to eat instead of just something filling. It’s part of the cultural experience of the place you traveled to.
Talking about these things is also therapeutic. It's good to get things off your chests. It's not going to be sunshine and roses 24/7, but what these guys have is pretty dammed close. They make it work and if you put the work into something, you reap the benefits.Loving this journey😊
I'd love to travel with her. 💚 It's a vacation! Sleeping in, staying up late, eating all the good foods, chilling at the pool......PERFECT! I have a physical job and up early 6 days a week. If I'm on vacation I'm taking it easy. 😆 Edit: As another person posted, you don't have to do EVERYTHING together.
It happens to women in any nationality, whether they are a mixed couple or not, that people talk to the boyfriend or husband mostly when they are traveling together. When you travel by yourself, then you see that people actually talk to you and ask for your opinion. It’s not a bad thing that he likes to prepare everything or that she likes to wake up slowly during vacation. Wake up slowly on some days and go with the program in other days. It’s empathizing the other enough to not wanting to suffer so much that you compromise to make life not so hard for the other person.
i feel like you both brought up some constructive criticisms, but maybe your boyfriend has a point.. enjoy your holiday, and spend time just traveling and being there, instead of burdening yourself with work, even when you're away on vacation. you deserve it, and it obviously is impacting your relationship to a degree
Based on what she said, she enjoys the work, so it's not a burden. If you're creative, sometimes the energy flows into you and you have to get it done while it's still hot. If it was tedious for her, then it's a different story. It's something that appears to energize her, though.
I understand how she feels because I also can’t turn off my brain during vacation. When I have an idea, I need to write it down and immediately execute it before I lose the inspiration. And when you’re in the flow, it’s hard to stop until it’s done.
@@Angelus9015 Yep. And I think those whom are creative recognize this. You have to jump on it while you feel it because if you put it off, then it will disappear and there goes the creative inspiration and zest/desire to do it. Creative energy cannot really be controlled and harnessed to be used at a later time like that for some of us.
I think a lot is different personalities as much as cultural differences. Both of your ways of travelling are great. As you say, it’s about compromise so both get to do their thing. ❤
I agree, it's more about personality, not everything is abou him being german. Not all the germans are the same. I identify myself rather with him, and I'm not german. On the other hand, I have a german friend which is more similar to her.
Thanks for being vulnerable and letting us know of your FOMO, German boyfriend. ❤ Now it makes more sense to me. I think FOMO is a thing people of all cultures have, not a German thing at all. (But being punctual and over planning probably is. 😅)
One thing though, in European and American guides for traveling to S.E. Asia, they are going to tell you to bring things like first aid supplies and medications. Someone who is From S.E Asia may not stress over that. It looks like he does really overplan, but also Uyen may feel typical Westerner-traveling-in-non-Western-country planning would be too much.
One thing I had to learn is that “here is an efficient way to do everything” is often a bad plan. A good plan includes gauging the abilities of everyone in the party, and planning accordingly. I bet German boyfriend has some backpacking experience, but this is a VERY important thing in backpacking because you must be at the pace of the slowest person, and improper planning will result in accidents or running out of food. Maximizing group utility is my usual goal for plans, and I feel like things one misses out on is always replaced with other things. You might have to sacrifice an hour of sleep to catch an extra event, and end up with a more tired and grouchy partner. Likewise, some events you miss out on make way for comforting moments or relaxation that might make you even happier. FOMO sounds very tough to deal with, but it’s definitely bad for effective plan building.
Actually my husband is like her, snacking is a lifestyle. I compromised. We’re now Food Adventurers when we travel 🌸 lounging will help you combat the 40C heat, avoid dehydration 😊
I really like this video! Online dating can make it very easy to dismiss people over small differences. It's great to be reminded that they really aren't make or break you as a couple! 💜
I relate with German boyfriend. I struggle with anxiety and sensory processing sensitivity, and a lot of things you mention about his habits, food choices, password vigilance and not wanting to be filmed all ring a bell with me. But I also struggle with executive dysfunction, so I can relate to a portion of Uyen as well (because I forget to pack things or forget details about the trip that would help me be prepared). Even when I think I am planning and being so prepared, there are usually gaps that I didn’t realize would be there.
My partner and I also have different takes on how to 'relax;. I'm very much the person who wants to see everything, eat everything and do everything. My vacations are literally planned by the hour. I do NOT like to sit around because I feel like it is a waste of time (If I was going to sit, I'd sit at home). But I've learned to compromise also. This is what helps build a healthy relationship. To share a life with someone means you are not longer just doing everything for yourself.
I can relate to you. However, it confuses me because I changed between both depending on my mental state. Sometimes I was really FOMO and wanted to do everything and felt that clock was ticking, so we had to MOVE. However some other time, when I don't have the motivation, I was really happy enough with staying at the hotel or cafe nearby with people who are dear to me. Not even talking or doing anything, just chilling together. ... I sound like a nightmare travel buddy 😂 fortunately my SO was even more flexible and can accommodate me
Right. I'm in the middle. I get FOMO and understand "If I want to sit, I'd sit at home". At the same time, I"m on my precious vacation and if I'm doing so much I can't relax,I can't feel like I"m on vacation. I think the latter feeling is what drives some of us who can't plan every hour/minute. Me, I"d plan a few things to do every day and definitely something special for the nights. And I can plan what I will definitely want to see but don't' have to plan the day till we get there.
I’m Canadian and absolutely a cross between the two of you! I love planning flights and hotels well in advance and walking a lot, but I also like to keep activities spontaneous, pack light, and spend lots of time and money on local food.
This provides an amazing example of how it's okay to disagree or to be in conflict in a relationship, and that all that matters is how you deal with it. That's a very sweet video, thank you ❤❤
Thanks for sharing, it’s really refreshing to hear you guys speak honestly. Even though there are things you don’t see eye to eye on, maybe sounds like not completely ready to compromise, I can still feel there’s still respect for each other and understanding the other. I hope you will find happy middle ground! ❤
I had a German brother in law and I lived in Germany study German for one year so I can relate to lots of things you said in the video, now I am in US and have a US boyfriend so there’s another cultural thing too. I wish you two happy and enjoy the differences cause that makes the life so much fun too!
Don't be too hard on yourself! This is an awesome video and I'm so glad that you both share these things with us and with one another. We all go through these things, they just don't get talked about enough ❤
If you can afford it, visit Greece. Off season and the less touristy places. You will be able to find compromises on all topics. Especially food and what time to walk. In local taverns you can order both fish and steak for example, also we have some dishes that maybe you will both like. As for the weather, it isn't too extreme. Think about it. As a Greek, watching your videos, I can relate to both of you.
I'm Mexican-American and I'm right in between both of you. I plan everything and like to immerse myself with the local stuff. But I do travel light and search for food to try I hope you enjoy the rest of your vacation !
Uyen is right about the food. Whenever I go to another country, yes I want the cultural experiences and that's top of the list, but part of that is also food because I might get an approximation back home but I know it is not the same. I also have to eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner as well or snack throughout the day if I cannot. What I did do for my quick mornings was pack my own oatmeal and grits as something to fill up on first thing before leaving. On the other hand I have also traveled with people who are late risers and if I am not up and out by 9am I feel like I have wasted half of the day especially when you go to countries where things close early. There is so little time and so much to do, I finally told my late risers "later losers, I'll meet you at x." As for packing that is the tricky part because finding a happy medium is so hard, If I am staying somewhere for an extended period of time I pack versatile clothing that I can mix and match and I pack at least a weeks worth of clothing. I had a friend pack this giant canvas suitcase because she is overprepared and I can appreciate that, but her giant canvas suitcase was so heavy and cumbersome that the wheel fell off and she had to drag it around and it ripped. In being overprepared she was underprepared. For me prepared is one medium sized sturdy suitcase, compression packing cubes, and researching what is essential for me to bring and what can stay behind, having one carry on suit case that is empty for souvenirs, and an anti-theft bag with all of my documents and important things. I am also a planner, I have traveled with people who didn't plan and the result was I feel like we did not do anything aside from walk around, shop, and eat which is fine but there was so much to see and do and we had the time, but not the itinerary so most days we were just floundering. I had to get comfortable with leaving them behind so that I could have the experience I came for, now I create boundaries with traveling with others and I make those boundaries clear so I can have the experiences I plan for while not rushing others. I don't like to pack my day with stuff, but I will plan months and months in advance to have a well balanced day like on this day we will do one or two activities and then chill, window shop, explore, and hunt for food. I get frustrated if I am not achieving experiences.
You two are so cute! Even though you have differences, it sounds like you keep your humor and find a way to make it all work And that is the key to a happy, long-lasting marriage!
I agree that it’s a personality thing more than cultural thing. If one doesn’t have the energy-whether to walk or look for places to eat three times in a day-it can be pretty exhausting on a month-long trip. Find ways to energize yourself separately for sometime (for German BF, it could be something that he wants to see that Uyen is not so interested in; and for Uyen, it could be eating at a restaurant that German BF doesn’t want to be at) so that when you are together, you have abundance of good energy and are happy to spend that time together.
I'm not German but I feel like I should be an honorary German from this video :) Except with the obsession with finding good food; there maybe I can be an honorary Vietnamese. Travel is all about walking and eating!
I love how yin and yang these two are. I am definitely on German Boyfriend's side when it comes to planning and being prepared, and the food - I'm not a fan of seafood, but I also wish I could be more chill and spontaneous like Uyen. I hope you two continue to compromise and enjoy your lives.
This is my FAVORITE video of yours!! I really enjoyed hearing you two openly share and bounce ideas around. I think we need more videos like this from all creators who are healthy enough to create a safe space for honesty. Many people don’t see this balanced and respectful dynamic when people share about differences. Wishing you fun, rest, good food, lucky lodging, and pleasant socialization! ❤️💫❤️
It's almost like couples therapy! You each see each other's strengths and weaknesses. You see in each other parts of yourself that you feel lacking. As long as you both work on that through life, you'll both be very happy!
None of the qualities you mentioned about each other were bad, you both are just different people finding balance as one. My husband and I have some of the same problems when traveling. I use to be so frustrated that he wanted to sleep in and lay around and I wanted to get up early to go see everything. Now I don't get frustrated, I bring a book or a knitting project and relax until he is ready to go out. We have so much more fun. Definitely book trips early though, my husband is last minute at booking and when we flew to Alaska 3 weeks ago there were no affordable hotels avaliable anymore and we had to drive 4 hours more to a place to stay after landing at midight.
Well put. I find a big issue these days is so often people act like those who do/view things differently to them must be “wrong” and they are right or know best as if things are either right or wrong and are not willing to change their point of view. Whilst Uyen and German bf are “complaining” about each other’s habits they are also aware that they each simply have different ways of doing things and priorities (in relation to day to day things) and while it may frustrate them at times it isn’t necessarily right or wrong plus they can also acknowledge how their own idiosyncrasies could be equally frustrating. This is honest, respectful communication where each person genuinely listens to the other. You can see that as the years go on they will likely change to meet in the middle more whilst still hanging onto some of their intrinsic habits - compromise, empathy and respect.
Communication and Compromise are the key :) It's good that you guys are talking about it and both are you are aware of your own shortcomings but knowing is just the first part, acting and actually doing something about it is another :D Also, I also agree with some comments that it's totally ok for you to do your own things separately, that's already a compromise. Being a couple doesn't mean that you have to be like one and the same person. It's totally fine and healthy to do your own thing. Anyways, I know you'll figure out what's best for the two of you. Have fun and safe travels! :D
